Get ready, because this time, I've gone
ALL OUT! A new video on the most effective
strategies for successfully approaching women-
it’s CRAMMED with awesome tips that you can
IMMEDIATELY put to use in the real world!
Over the years, the Real World Bootcamp has
constantly evolved, and lately it’s really been
mind-blowing watching the progress that men
have been making. In this newsletter, I’d like
to share some of the important insights that
make a massive difference in skyrocketing your
success in approaching women in ‘real world’
places like public transit, bookstores, coffee
shops, supermarkets, post offices, and tons
of other places!
1: ADOPT A ZEN-LIKE STATE OF MIND
One of the most powerful foundations for your
success in approaching women who are total
strangers is to do something that CONTRADICTS
most of the popular advice out there, which just
goes to prove that just because something is
trendy or popular does not necessarily make it
EFFECTIVE.
A lot of guys try to get ‘PUMPED-UP’ psychologically
before approaching a woman. The problem with this,
though, is that it puts you into an overly excited state,
and it puts too much PRESSURE on you.
Not only this, but this pressure is also SENSED by
the woman herself- she senses that you are on
adrenaline, and she doesn’t understand why.
To her, she doesn’t see any emergency going on,
so she starts to wonder “Why are you so pumped/
nervous/excited?”
This pressure is now not only on yourself, but now
you are indirectly exerting a pressure on HER.
Human states of mind are CATCHY, and this
anxiety/adrenaline/nerves starts to make HER
feel nervous as well.
This is the LAST thing you want a woman who
is a TOTAL STRANGER to feel around you
before she even knows you at all!
This is why, I have seen over and over again,
how it is much better to do the OPPOSITE:
I want you to take on the perspective that
NOTHING MATTERS.
Not even the woman herself!
Success means nothing. Failure means nothing.
Everything is nothing.
It’s not bad, it’s not good. It’s all NOTHING.
You may find it helpful to picture in your mind
BLANK WHITE PAPER, or ENDLESS WHITE SAND,
or an infinite BLUE SKY.
Just chillllllllllllllllllll.
I want you to COMPLETELY ABANDON all
ATTACHMENT to ANY outcome from this
interaction with the woman.
Outcomes can only happen in the FUTURE, and
I want you to be there in the PRESENT.
What’s great about this is that it also makes the
most SENSE because you have no idea who this
woman even IS and if she is worth your time,
and vice versa as well, - so it makes no sense
to be thinking, “How can I get her to be my
girlfriend” or “How to get into bed”- never
mind that thinking about the future like that
will just create too much pressure and ruin
the interaction anyway.
I find that a lot of the human tendency to get nervous
comes from thinking about things that don’t even
exist. In the approach to a woman, for example, the
OUTCOME hasn’t even occurred yet, in fact the
START hasn’t even occurred, and most guys are
already thinking about all kinds of negative possible
futures or outcomes, or even POSITIVE outcomes,
which then raise the stakes too high as well, as
WANTING something so badly can also harm
your state of mind.
If you focus on the MOMENT, the PRESENT, there
is nothing to be gained or lost, there are just words
and emotions that you can INFUSE into the situation.
2. SLOW DOWN THOUGHTS/WORDS/MOVEMENTS
Remember that awesome scene in The Matrix where
Neo is dodging bullets and it’s all happening in slow
motion? Neo is in total control even as chaos engulfs
all around him.
I want you to take that mentality to your approaches
with women.
I’ve noticed that very intelligent guys often speak
and think so fast, because they often think in pictures,
and it’s hard for their words to keep up with the
mental pictures in their minds, as a picture is worth
a thousand words, and those words must be said
damn fast to keep up with the pictures.
SLOW IT ALL DOWN, slow down your thoughts,
your pace of speech, your movements, and you will
notice that not only do you come across as cooler
and in more control, and with more integrity as
opposed to someone trying hard to sell ‘snake oil’,
but you will ALSO notice that slowing down
makes YOU YOURSELF feel a lot more
in control and empowered.
So, the combination of the Zen-Like state of
mind, and the SLOWING down, helps remove
a feeling of PRESSURE on the woman.
By removing the PRESSURE on a woman, there
is nothing for her to RESIST. If you put pressure
on a woman, the first instinct of hers will be to
RESIST it- after all, she is a total stranger and
she has no idea who you are.
3. THE PLAYFUL OPENER DOES NOT
BREAK RAPPORT OR SEEK RAPPORT
It’s important to understand that before the deeepest
ATTRACTION can be formed, you have to first
get the CONVERSATION with a woman who is
a total stranger.
To be able to cross the divide between being a
total stranger and being a guy she wants to get
to know a lot MORE, takes SKILL.
THIS is one of the biggest things that I focus on
in bootcamp.
It’s easy to just say “be a cool guy”, but to actually
GET A WOMAN TO BE OPEN TO CHATTING
TO A TOTAL STRANGER IN A PLACE THAT
IS NOT A CLUB OR A PARTY takes a certain
set of SKILLS.
It also takes SKILL to not only get her chatting but
to also convey to a woman the REAL ESSENCE
of who you ARE, quickly.
In order to get her to be OPEN to chatting, you
don’t want to kiss up to her, (seeking rapport)
which is pathetic and suspicious as well, and you
don’t want to play the jerk “I am so hard to get”
routine either, which is abrasive and arrogant
(breaking rapport).
Instead, you want to go for a more IMPARTIAL
rapport in opening the conversation, or you want
to go for PLAYFUL “breaking rapport” which is
a very effective form of actually CREATING rapport.
It says that you are cool with the situation as it is,
that you are not needing to get anything from her,
but that you are having fun and she is welcome
to join the fun vibe.
Here’s an example:
Let’s say you’re at the supermarket, and she’s
grabbing a big bag of chips and a big bag
of pretzels and putting them in her cart,
and you say “Whoah, I hope that’s not all
for you”, you are, in one respect, “breaking
rapport’, but in REALITY, especially if
she is attractive and in shape, it’s OBVIOUS
that you are JOKING, and so this is an
effective form of CREATING RAPPORT.
It’s effective, ironically, because the comment
clearly is not SEEKING approval, in fact it’s
ASSUMING that you already HAVE rapport.
Since you are being informal, it allows HER to
break away from being FORMAL and reserved,
and from following boring social conventions,
and to JOIN YOU in being more FUN and social.
This style of opening up a conversation allows
you MAXIMUM opportunity without being
shut down before you start.
Similarly, your style of clothing should have
flair and style, but not be EXTREME unless
you know in advance that you are into a
very specific kind of girl, i.e. Goth, etc.
Coming in IMPARTIAL, neither seeking her
rapport nor trying to break it, allows you the
greatest possible amount of opportunity.
And similarly as well, stay away from extreme
colognes, scents, etc. Old fashioned clean and
fresh is always the best bet.
4. CONVICTION AND SINCERITY
Although what you say DOES count, HOW
you say it counts even MORE.
You need to have the sound of conviction in
every syllable of every word you say, and this
is just as important as being "neutral' in your
.
This is why I try to steer guys away from relying
on pick-up lines, because if you don’t feel that
the words FIT you, then you will say them in
a way that does not do justice to the words.
And the effect of that will be that you come
across as either nervous, sketchy, or shady,
or guilty, all of which are bad news for your
chances with that woman.
Here’s the thing you need to remember:
YOU might be the GREATEST GUY ON EARTH.
But she has NO IDEA who you are!!!!!
The whole goal here is to get to the point
where you HAVE conveyed who you
are to a woman- no faking, and no games
are required with this approach to attraction!
But if you seem to be acting guilty of something,
nervous about something, or FAKING something,
a woman who is a total stranger would of COURSE
try to avoid problems and just politely decline the
interaction.
She doesn’t know that the REAL reasons
for your behaviors are all GOOD reasons,
she can’t take that risk! After all, you are
a TOTAL STRANGER to her, and she
can been conditioned to deal with those
situations by shutting them DOWN.
This, again, is why the SKILLSET of approaching
women is so important, because in order to get
attraction, you have to first get the CONVERSATION,
and GET HER TO KNOW YOU, and there is
NO WAY to do that if you trip her alarms first.
Now, the good news is that, with practice, you
CAN become amazing at being playful, at
being intriguing, etc.
But, if for whatever reason, you aren’t able to
be playful, for example, then don’t FORCE it.
Instead, just be SINCERE.
Now, there is a warning that comes with this:
The BEST time to be sincere is when you’ve
ALREADY done the work on yourself, and
have mastered the skills and development.
So, for example, when you really ARE
feeling empowered, feeling abundance,
sexuality, feeling calm, sexual, and
totally not-needy, well then OF COURSE
you can’t go wrong with being sincere,
since whatever you say will manifest
itself in a way that REFLECTS all those
awesome things about you.
But even if you HAVEN’T developed to
that stage get, it’s STILL better to be
SINCERE and HONEST than to just
force yourself to put on an ACT.
Women are really weary and fed up with
guys putting on acts, pretending to be
all kinds of things they aren’t, guys who
are shady, etc, etc.
So, for example, even if you went up to
a woman who genuinely captured your eye,
and you approached her saying “I saw you
from back there, and you were so beautiful,
so I wanted to say hello” even though this
is NOT the kind of thing I suggest to do, and
is FAR from the best thing to do, is still
WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
better than putting on an ACT that you FEEL
is FAKE.
At least by being SINCERE and you really
honestly feeling the truth of the words you
are saying, you are coming across as more
TRUSTWORTHY, which now allows you
the chance to FOLLOW UP what you said
with something ELSE, or gives you a chance
to respond to HER reply to you, etc.
The WORST thing you can do at the very
outset of the conversation is do something
that sets off her alarms and destroys TRUST.
5. “THE ‘STOP AND GO’ STYLE”
I call this the “Stop and Go” style. What you
do is start the conversation with a brief comment,
(not a question, but rather an interesting or
playful or intriguing comment that is ripe
for a response) and then ALLOW HER TO
REPLY.
This is in contrast to starting the conversation
with a whole big speech, hoping to get a
big reaction out of it.
By starting with less, you seem less needy
and less out of place. You also seem cooler
because you weren’t trying so hard. Plus
you don’t sound like you are arrogant-
you don’t sound like you need to hear
the sound of your own voice all the time.
EVEN if she does NOT give you a big
response, that’s FINE. You can then
follow up with yet ANOTHER interesting
playful or intriguing comment, which
yet again gives her another chance to respond.
You can repeat this process several times,
PAUSING between each time.
The point is that this style ELIMINATES
the pressure on her, gives her a chance to
think of things to say, and also allows
you to do the minimum, which is much
cooler than sounding like a salesman
who needs to go on and on and on
talking.
Also, the real point is to get HER talking,
so that you can learn more about HER
and develop a better connection, and
if you do this, you can be sure she will
want to do the same with you.
6. RELEVANT CONVERSATION OPENER
Another important tip to keep in mind is
to make your opener as RELEVANT as
possible. This way, you don’t sound like
a guy who walks around approaching women
with a bunch of memorized pick up lines.
You’ll find that there is ALWAYS a way to
make your conversation opener relevant and
often not only relevant but also playful,
intriguing, etc.
So, for example, in a supermarket, approaching
a woman with a great conversation about FOOD
makes sense. Perhaps something exotic you once
enjoyed while travelling or maybe a great dessert
you had at a party, or maybe even a great story
about a dessert you were trying to cook up that
turned into a disaster, etc, etc.
This, in turn, could lead to her replies about
her skills in the kitchen, to which you could
playfully misinterpret to mean that she was
referring to her skills being naughty in the
kitchen, etc, etc, and you can playfully
scold her and tell her to keep her mind out
of the gutter while talking to a total stranger,
etc, etc.
This can all be a LOT of fun, and then you can
transition into getting into a more meaningful
conversation on a deeper level.
And if you’re reading this right now, and would
like to get the skills to approach and attract women
anywhere you see them, I can tell you right now
that the FASTEST way to learn is in BOOTCAMP.
In my “Real World Bootcamp”, everything happens
for REAL. It’s zero theory, and ALL about what is
BEST for YOU to get results FAST. I will train
you in the real world, on real women, and equip
you with the skill set so that you can be empowered
to be ANYWHERE ON THE PLANET and attract
women whenever you want.
That’s the great thing about having these skills,
that no matter where you are, you can apply
these skills- any city, and any place, from the
supermarket to the bookstore to the coffee shop
to the bus to the train to the mall and anywhere
else.
It’s all at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
Here’s another thing to keep in mind: If you’ve
been trying online dating without much success,
then DEFINITELY take the bootcamp NOW.
One of the screwed up things about online dating
is that not too many of the really INCREDIBLE
women are online. Also, it’s IMPOSSIBLE
to deliver the FULL POWER OF YOUR
REAL SELF online. So, even in the rare case
that there IS a fantastic woman online, she may
reject you for all kinds of reasons that would be
VAPORIZED if she had met you IN PERSON,
especially after getting the skills you will master
in BOOTCAMP.
Bootcamp will CHANGE YOUR LIFE with
women, PERMANENTLY, and it will do it
FAST.
In the two days of my Real World Bootcamp, you
will receive the most effective training in the world,
the result of my over TEN YEARS of dedication
to teaching these skills to other men- and the
bottom line is that you will have access to,
and the attraction of, INFINITE WOMEN of
the HIGHEST QUALITY- women that are
physically stunning and even have the
incredible PERSONALITIES as well.
Those are HUGE statements, but I can actually
BACK THEM UP. It’s not uncommon in fact
for guys to be dating FANTASTIC WOMEN
within DAYS of completing the bootcamp.
To find out more, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
It really is quite simple:
Come to bootcamp. Learn the skills to approach
and attract women anywhere. Then, enjoy life
with as many fantastic women as you want, or
even with one amazing woman who really does
it ALL for you.
It’s all YOUR choice, and Bootcamp will give
you that choice with women.
You can email me at:
michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com
For a catalog of ALL my programs, including
my home-study programs, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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