Wednesday, February 4, 2009

7 Lies "The Dating Gurus" Told You

Let me share with you SEVEN LIES the
pick-up artists and dating gurus tell you.

LIE NUMBER 1:
"If a woman sees you as relationship
or marriage material, then you will
be considered a "BETA MALE", a provider,
an "INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" that is only
good for providing money for her.

Much better to be seen as the male who would
NEVER settle down, who is "hard to get",
who is a slick and COCKY "player" type-
THAT is what triggers ATTRACTION."

And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE.
A lie that has DESTROYED the future that
millions of men could have had with the
women they have met so far.

The truth is that you will only be considered
a "BETA" male if you SEE YOURSELF
AS A "BETA" MALE.

If your self-concept is BETA, then I assure
you that you will be taken as a BETA male
even if you have a huge SIGN on your
forehead that says "WILL NEVER MARRY"
or says "WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".

If YOU think that you are SETTLING for
someone, if YOU think that you are only
in a relationship because you can't get
better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc etc,
THEN you are a beta male.

But when you LOVE someone and they
LOVE you back and you both WANT
to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some
moronic "dating guru" or "pick up artist"
told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you
be a "beta" male.

Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN
EXTERNAL source is what makes
one WEAK and BETA. And THAT
is what makes a woman feel REPULSED
from a man and feel ZERO attraction
for him and not want to spend the
NIGHT or even one MINUTE with
him, never mind her LIFE.

The irony again is that it's the pick up artist
advice that makes you weak and THAT
is the kind of thing that attracts the very
WORST kind of women, who will like
to TAKE ADVANTAGE of that weakness
and see what they can take out of you.

And then we wonder why the pick up artists
tell you to WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!
And "Watch out for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts
the vulture type women rather than the VIRTUOUS
ones. A great woman will simply leave you alone
and not be interested, but a horrific woman will
GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick
up artist advice actually makes you WEAK.

LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN,
YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE TO LEARN
X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"

This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must
first respect YOURSELF.

Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath
your dignity, and you will get RESPECT from
a woman.

The IRONY is that the things the pick up artists
tell you to do actually strip you of your dignity
because THEY worship women simply for
a woman's looks- the OBSESSION with having
to get QUANTITY rather than quality, the
obsession with having to FAKE YOUR IDENTITY
with all kinds of absurd tactics actually makes
you ASHAMED of who you are, rather than
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE IN
WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's INSANE!
And I will STOP this insanity.

Women want a man who has DIGNITY and
will not SELL his dignity for ANYTHING.

LIE NUMBER 3:

"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO
THE FRIENDS ZONE, YOU BETTER
MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!"

The reality is that this is NONSENSE.

A great woman is not NEEDY to get into bed
with anyone, no matter WHO you are.

And if she DETECTS that you are trying
to get her into bed QUICK, she will only
feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.

Now, of course, if you are with a woman who
sleeps around with tons of guys, it might be
another issue.

I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.

Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pick
up artists NEVER give you a serious talk
about things like STD's.

NO, of course not.
It's just like the movies, and it's NOT REAL LIFE.

But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about
this stuff. The REAL WORLD is not the
DISNEY world of NO STDs that the pick up
artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.

They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE.

Why would you want to RUSH sleeping with
a woman?

There are BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.

Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH
spending time with.

The IRONY again is that you can't lose this
way, as even if you WERE the type of guy
that didn't care about quality, you could
always get to know a lot of women this
way and not rush, and THEN have a
HUNDRED women at your fingertips
if you so wanted. AND those women
would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and
not feeling needy to get them into bed-
it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!!!!!!

LIE NUMBER 4:

"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS
FOR LOSERS WHILE ALL WOMEN
SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT
BEING WITH AN ARROGANT AND
COCKY PLAYER"

This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY
UNTRUE, and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties
of the entire dating guru and pick up CULTURE
that I would need to devote an entire BOOK
to explain how HORRIFIC THIS ADVICE
IS, and how totally false it is.

It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not
attractive, it's when you are being EXTRA
NICE to a woman who has done NOTHING
to earn that treatment from you.

Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?

OF COURSE YOU DO.
And there's nothing wrong with it, it's
COOL actually.

Same thing with a woman- if she's good to
you, then if you are NOT good to her, THEN
you will be considered an INSECURE LOSER.

And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about
players that are so scared to really be good to
a woman and so scared to DROP the "masks"
they wear in the form of fake memorized lines,
and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to
NEGATE her self-esteem. (notice the word
ATTEMP in capitals, because it's doesn't work,
A great woman will just ignore it or CHEW
the guy up and spit him out for even trying)


LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT ANYTHING
EMOTIONAL REGARDING HER OR
YOU OR YOU WILL BE ABUSED
OR SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"

The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her
about her things, stuff that she is going through,
you will DUMPED fast and rightly so for not
giving a rat's ass about her.

The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a
woman is always talking about her problems to
you and is not BALANCING that with also having
FUN with you and is not willing and happy to listen
to YOUR stuff too.

The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you
should not be a cry-baby but you DEFINITELY
are not considered weak for having emotions
and for expressing them- this kind of bullshit
lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating
gurus probably gives more men heart attacks
from stress than anything else. If you can't
confide at all in the woman you are with,
what the HELL is the point of being with her?

And if a woman feels she can't ever confide
in you about emotional stuff, she will simply
GET THAT CONNECTION from someone
ELSE.

And again, THIS is why these "experts" are
always talking about cheating and unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken
party girls and they put Playboy and Hugh Hefner
on a pedestal, and THEN they wonder why they
are getting less than CREAM OF THE CROP
qualities in the women they meet!!!!

INSANE.

The truth is that the stuff that these guys
"teach" you will PUSH AWAY the BEST
kind of women and will attract the very
WORST type of woman.


LIE NUMBER 6:

"YOU CAN MEASURE YOUR REAL
SKILL IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK
UP A WOMAN IN A CLUB"


ANOTHER LIE.

The reality is that meeting a woman in a club
is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached. I
can get any guy results in a club in 1 HOUR
of training.

The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a
great woman with high standards who is not
drunk and who is not looking to just play
around, who is looking for something meaningful,
and CONNECT with such a woman on a
DEEP level, and then to KEEP THIS UP
so that three weeks later she is just as into
you and three months later as well, etc etc.

So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if
you want to, and if you want practice TALKING
to women, you'll find a LOT of women in clubs,
but if you are looking to meet a GREAT woman
where you will have to also form a great connection,
clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.

LIE NUMBER 7:

"ONLY TALK ABOUT POP CULTURE
AND NOTHING ELSE DEEP. MAKE SURE
TO NOT GET INTO ANYTHING DEEP
WITH A WOMAN, ESPECIALLY IN A
PICK-UP"

Another MASSIVE LIE.
The truth is, if you are looking to attract a
SUPERFICIAL woman who is only interested
in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.

But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's
CRUCIAL to connect on a greater level!

She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see
if you can do this. So for all you guys out
there who have a lot of GREAT INTERESTS
and who are intelligent, this is GREAT NEWS.

The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes
AS WELL, so that a woman can see that
you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be
about one channel!

To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being
able to meet, attract, and keep a great woman,
I am reminded of something YODA told
Luke Skywalker: "Unlearn, young one, unlearn".

You see, the greatest masters have realized
that the REAL key is not to learn HYPNOSIS
or to learn LINES, or to learn TACTICS, but
rather to UNLEARN. To get DE-hypnotized
as opposed to hypnotized.

Underneath all the layers and layers of BAD
PROGRAMMING you have received from
all kinds of external sources, including the
HORRIFIC advice from the supposed "experts"
you have something PERFECTLY POWERFUL,
something magnificently CHARISMATIC,
something UNSTOPPABLE that will PULL
IN A GREAT WOMAN with INFINITE
EASE.

 There will be NO EFFORT required
once you learn this.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

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