One of the challenges for a lot of
men and women today is that they
feel a pressure to act a certain
type of way, a way that is arrogant
and rude.
Now, maybe when one is 15 this might
seem cool to some. But by the time
you're an adult, there's no place for
it.
The problem is that a lot of the culture
today celebrates insane values, just
take a look at the popular culture
and music. It often preaches violence,
lust, and a total absence of real
love.
Yet, when someone contributes REAL
entertainment with quality values,
something like Titanic or The Notebook,
it almost always becomes a super
best-seller. That's because people,
young and old, men and women,
are STARVING for the real stuff.
And so, in honor of GOOD VALUES,
I am putting up a song by John Denver,
(Calypso, that honors Jacques Cousteau)
and the great news is that there
are awesome women out there who
totally love this kind of thing
too!
They key though is to not act
APOLOGETIC for having great values-
your PRIDE in these great values
liberates women from having to
feel a need to pretend they are
part of the insane culture--
they would love to know that
you are a quality man.
Don't even PRETEND to be a guy who
is into the screwed up values, all
that would achieve is attract the
WRONG kind of woman. On the other
hand, when you are super congruent
and proud of your great values,
you not only show greater confidence
in yourself, but you also show
a great woman that she can trust
you to stand up for these things
no matter what, no matter
WHAT pressure you are under.
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
What Makes You SuperMAN
A super strong sense of positive
and unselfish PURPOSE is the key
to infinite inner game.
The movie "Superman Returns" is
an excellent example of this.
A great man is validated on his own
and does the right thing no matter
what. He does not need approval from
a woman, even if he would love it,
he doesn't become needy for it.
All this internal power comes from
a sense of PURPOSE, and that purpose
is one that CONTRIBUTES to humanity
in the maximum way.
And a great man chooses the right
woman very carefully, being
METICULOUS about her character.
In the movie "Superman Returns",
this was shown brilliantly:
One of the key points is Superman's
CHOICE of woman - Superman is no longer
in love with the kind of woman we used
to know as Lois Lane. The old Lois Lane
was a bi****tchy, selfish woman who is
abusive to those who lack self-esteem.
All she used to care about were her
fascination with Superman for all
the wrong reasons and she was obsessed
with getting awards for her journalism.
But with the new Lois Lane, Superman is
in love with a woman who is a great woman-
a strong woman who is willing to carry a
massive secret with her all her life, a
secret even from Superman, just to protect
her child, and all at the same time
she is assertive and yet kind, never
becoming a beee-yotch and clearly
not a product of Spice Girl's
frivolous meaningless "Girl Power"
hypocrisy and hogwash.
The new Lois Lane is a far more
admirable character.
She shows that a woman is not admirable
just because she is attractive, but
because of her ACTIONS.
Lois in this movie risks HER life to
rescue Superman just as Superman has
risked his own survival to rescue her
as well as their family and friends.
She also thinks of what's best for
her child, rather than being obsessed
with Superman for her own sake or
for superficial glory.
Also, when Superman thinks (mistakenly)
that Lois doesn't love him, he manages
to HANDLE it emotionally, he's clearly
challenged by it at first, but he is a
MAN and can still find his purpose in the
world that is greater than anything else.
And that purpose is a positive one, a
giving one.
Also, the way he GAINS POWER not just
from the sun, but also from the very
fact he is being the man he was BORN
to be, gives him a REBIRTH- a sense
of purpose, of energy, and drive.
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
and unselfish PURPOSE is the key
to infinite inner game.
The movie "Superman Returns" is
an excellent example of this.
A great man is validated on his own
and does the right thing no matter
what. He does not need approval from
a woman, even if he would love it,
he doesn't become needy for it.
All this internal power comes from
a sense of PURPOSE, and that purpose
is one that CONTRIBUTES to humanity
in the maximum way.
And a great man chooses the right
woman very carefully, being
METICULOUS about her character.
In the movie "Superman Returns",
this was shown brilliantly:
One of the key points is Superman's
CHOICE of woman - Superman is no longer
in love with the kind of woman we used
to know as Lois Lane. The old Lois Lane
was a bi****tchy, selfish woman who is
abusive to those who lack self-esteem.
All she used to care about were her
fascination with Superman for all
the wrong reasons and she was obsessed
with getting awards for her journalism.
But with the new Lois Lane, Superman is
in love with a woman who is a great woman-
a strong woman who is willing to carry a
massive secret with her all her life, a
secret even from Superman, just to protect
her child, and all at the same time
she is assertive and yet kind, never
becoming a beee-yotch and clearly
not a product of Spice Girl's
frivolous meaningless "Girl Power"
hypocrisy and hogwash.
The new Lois Lane is a far more
admirable character.
She shows that a woman is not admirable
just because she is attractive, but
because of her ACTIONS.
Lois in this movie risks HER life to
rescue Superman just as Superman has
risked his own survival to rescue her
as well as their family and friends.
She also thinks of what's best for
her child, rather than being obsessed
with Superman for her own sake or
for superficial glory.
Also, when Superman thinks (mistakenly)
that Lois doesn't love him, he manages
to HANDLE it emotionally, he's clearly
challenged by it at first, but he is a
MAN and can still find his purpose in the
world that is greater than anything else.
And that purpose is a positive one, a
giving one.
Also, the way he GAINS POWER not just
from the sun, but also from the very
fact he is being the man he was BORN
to be, gives him a REBIRTH- a sense
of purpose, of energy, and drive.
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
Monday, February 23, 2009
What Is "Minimum Game"?
Sometimes people ask what I mean by "minimum game" when it comes to approaching a woman who is a stranger.
A big part of this is "minimum game" is keeping the energy level to the minimum that is needed to do the job. This is in direct contrast to 99% of the advice out there which supposedly is designed to GET a reaction out of a woman.
The irony is that trying so hard to GET a reaction ends up getting you the worst reaction.
Notice how the first impulse in the mind (when one is new at this) most of the time is try to want to ensure a massively positive response- but the problem is this very attitude stems from insecurity. This insecurity creates overcompensation in all kinds of forms, from weird extra smiley behavior to weird creepy behavior to mean behavior.
The idea is to land the plane smoothly, not to bring the plane in at 1200 miles per hour. This takes nice smooth calibration, keeping the vibe of the conversation stable over a longer course of time, rather than the typical clown style approach which tries to get some big reaction out of a woman right away.
At first, it might seem that it's harder to keep the vibe stable and still interesting for a long period of time than it is to go in there with the "clown jokester" approach, but after a while you will see that it's far more natural and it's actually EASIER to do it the "stable and still interesting" because it's far closer to you, in fact it IS the real you!
So why is it so hard to be ourselves? Because we get brainwashed with bad programming, and learning to "unlearn" all that stuff is the real art, it's where the real work needs to be done.
And I show you EXACTLY how to do that in my WARRIOR WITHIN program, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
If you're serious about being the best you can be with women,
I suggest you check this program out immediately.
For now, for tommorow, and for always, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
A big part of this is "minimum game" is keeping the energy level to the minimum that is needed to do the job. This is in direct contrast to 99% of the advice out there which supposedly is designed to GET a reaction out of a woman.
The irony is that trying so hard to GET a reaction ends up getting you the worst reaction.
Notice how the first impulse in the mind (when one is new at this) most of the time is try to want to ensure a massively positive response- but the problem is this very attitude stems from insecurity. This insecurity creates overcompensation in all kinds of forms, from weird extra smiley behavior to weird creepy behavior to mean behavior.
The idea is to land the plane smoothly, not to bring the plane in at 1200 miles per hour. This takes nice smooth calibration, keeping the vibe of the conversation stable over a longer course of time, rather than the typical clown style approach which tries to get some big reaction out of a woman right away.
At first, it might seem that it's harder to keep the vibe stable and still interesting for a long period of time than it is to go in there with the "clown jokester" approach, but after a while you will see that it's far more natural and it's actually EASIER to do it the "stable and still interesting" because it's far closer to you, in fact it IS the real you!
So why is it so hard to be ourselves? Because we get brainwashed with bad programming, and learning to "unlearn" all that stuff is the real art, it's where the real work needs to be done.
And I show you EXACTLY how to do that in my WARRIOR WITHIN program, at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
If you're serious about being the best you can be with women,
I suggest you check this program out immediately.
For now, for tommorow, and for always, BE THE MAN.
Michael Marks
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
THE "WARRIOR WITHIN" LIVE SEMINAR
Getting a great woman attracted
to you has nothing to do with pick-up
lines or methods of attacking a woman's
self-esteem, and it has nothing to do
with becoming a performer,
entertainer, or clown who tries
to make women laugh
When all is said and done, and
the smoke clears and the TRUTH
is revealed, the best kind of
women don't want a "player" or
pick up artist.
The best kind of women want a MAN.
And by a MAN, I mean the kind of
man that flourishes when the going
gets rough.
The kind of man that sees the truth
when everyone else falls for the lie.
The kind of man that is calm when
others are freaking out.
The kind of man that knows how to
add LIFE to any situation.
Women want the man who has the
WARRIOR heart.
Life throws just about everything
your way when you least expect it,
and there's nothing better to a
woman than knowing she has a
real man in her life that is
strong enough, wise enough,
secure enough, and mature
enough to handle whatever
is going on around him.
Women FANTASIZE about
finding such a man.
And now, for the first time EVER,
you can MASTER this part of your
life in my "Warrior Within" LIVE
Seminar.
In the same way that even the most
powerful computer becomes frozen,
sluggish, and ineffective if a virus is
planted into the central processing
unit, so too your infinite, natural
charisma which can charm any woman
will become sluggish, frozen-up, and
ineffective if "bad programming" has
been allowed to seep in over the years.
This "bad programming" is toxic to your
masculinity, to your natural charisma, and
to your emotions and thoughts. And yet,
just as fast as your computer suddenly
starts working at light-speed efficiency
and power the moment the virus is
removed, so too your full "warrior"
state kicks RIGHT BACK IN the
moment this toxic internal
programming is removed.
The "Warrior Within" Live Seminar will be
held in Toronto, April 25th-26th.
This event will change your life, and I suggest
you check out the full details now at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Best,
Michael
to you has nothing to do with pick-up
lines or methods of attacking a woman's
self-esteem, and it has nothing to do
with becoming a performer,
entertainer, or clown who tries
to make women laugh
When all is said and done, and
the smoke clears and the TRUTH
is revealed, the best kind of
women don't want a "player" or
pick up artist.
The best kind of women want a MAN.
And by a MAN, I mean the kind of
man that flourishes when the going
gets rough.
The kind of man that sees the truth
when everyone else falls for the lie.
The kind of man that is calm when
others are freaking out.
The kind of man that knows how to
add LIFE to any situation.
Women want the man who has the
WARRIOR heart.
Life throws just about everything
your way when you least expect it,
and there's nothing better to a
woman than knowing she has a
real man in her life that is
strong enough, wise enough,
secure enough, and mature
enough to handle whatever
is going on around him.
Women FANTASIZE about
finding such a man.
And now, for the first time EVER,
you can MASTER this part of your
life in my "Warrior Within" LIVE
Seminar.
In the same way that even the most
powerful computer becomes frozen,
sluggish, and ineffective if a virus is
planted into the central processing
unit, so too your infinite, natural
charisma which can charm any woman
will become sluggish, frozen-up, and
ineffective if "bad programming" has
been allowed to seep in over the years.
This "bad programming" is toxic to your
masculinity, to your natural charisma, and
to your emotions and thoughts. And yet,
just as fast as your computer suddenly
starts working at light-speed efficiency
and power the moment the virus is
removed, so too your full "warrior"
state kicks RIGHT BACK IN the
moment this toxic internal
programming is removed.
The "Warrior Within" Live Seminar will be
held in Toronto, April 25th-26th.
This event will change your life, and I suggest
you check out the full details now at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Best,
Michael
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
"Canada AM" Interview
Quick news! The crew at "Canada AM"
did a great job with this interview,
which gets into the power of your
"vibe", as well as the importance
of learning powerful listening skills
so that you can have a great conversation
with a woman, all without faking your
personality or memorizing "routines"!
It's at: http://tinyurl.com/cf2ab2
Best,
Michael
did a great job with this interview,
which gets into the power of your
"vibe", as well as the importance
of learning powerful listening skills
so that you can have a great conversation
with a woman, all without faking your
personality or memorizing "routines"!
It's at: http://tinyurl.com/cf2ab2
Best,
Michael
Sunday, February 8, 2009
How To Succeed & Why Most Guys FAIL
A quick important note on the process
of CHANGING yourself to become
STRONGER INTERNALLY:
At first, the learning actually HURTS,
(i.e. NOT giving in to your fears
or insecurities) the change feels
MORE uncomfortable than not changing
and just continuing what you
were doing before (i.e. giving in
to your insecurities or catering
to them) but if you just
STICK with the NEW PATTERN of
behavior, (i.e. NOT giving into
your insecurities) it, it gets BETTER,
WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY better, you
start to actually EMOTIONALLY
change and become stronger and
see how the insecurity was
HOGWASH.
You start to finally SEE the truth
that this stuff WORKS.
Most people QUIT because they think
the initial pain is a sign they are
doing it all wrong or that it doesn't
work- but this is the most important
time to STICK with it, because THIS
is where a MASSIVE change happens,
if you just STICK with it.
Many people make the mistake of making
a bit of a change, then feeling
uncomfortable they QUIT AFTER A COUPLE
OF DAYS, etc, then they go back and do
it again a few weeks later, then
QUIT after a couple of days, they
never stick with it for enough
CONSECUTIVE days so that they experience
the real CHANGE, all they experience is
the pain, so they figure it doesn't
work.
But if you just stick with it, through
the initial pain, THAT'S where the
REAL CHANGE happens.
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
of CHANGING yourself to become
STRONGER INTERNALLY:
At first, the learning actually HURTS,
(i.e. NOT giving in to your fears
or insecurities) the change feels
MORE uncomfortable than not changing
and just continuing what you
were doing before (i.e. giving in
to your insecurities or catering
to them) but if you just
STICK with the NEW PATTERN of
behavior, (i.e. NOT giving into
your insecurities) it, it gets BETTER,
WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY better, you
start to actually EMOTIONALLY
change and become stronger and
see how the insecurity was
HOGWASH.
You start to finally SEE the truth
that this stuff WORKS.
Most people QUIT because they think
the initial pain is a sign they are
doing it all wrong or that it doesn't
work- but this is the most important
time to STICK with it, because THIS
is where a MASSIVE change happens,
if you just STICK with it.
Many people make the mistake of making
a bit of a change, then feeling
uncomfortable they QUIT AFTER A COUPLE
OF DAYS, etc, then they go back and do
it again a few weeks later, then
QUIT after a couple of days, they
never stick with it for enough
CONSECUTIVE days so that they experience
the real CHANGE, all they experience is
the pain, so they figure it doesn't
work.
But if you just stick with it, through
the initial pain, THAT'S where the
REAL CHANGE happens.
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
7 Lies "The Dating Gurus" Told You
Let me share with you SEVEN LIES the
pick-up artists and dating gurus tell you.
LIE NUMBER 1:
"If a woman sees you as relationship
or marriage material, then you will
be considered a "BETA MALE", a provider,
an "INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" that is only
good for providing money for her.
Much better to be seen as the male who would
NEVER settle down, who is "hard to get",
who is a slick and COCKY "player" type-
THAT is what triggers ATTRACTION."
And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE.
A lie that has DESTROYED the future that
millions of men could have had with the
women they have met so far.
The truth is that you will only be considered
a "BETA" male if you SEE YOURSELF
AS A "BETA" MALE.
If your self-concept is BETA, then I assure
you that you will be taken as a BETA male
even if you have a huge SIGN on your
forehead that says "WILL NEVER MARRY"
or says "WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".
If YOU think that you are SETTLING for
someone, if YOU think that you are only
in a relationship because you can't get
better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc etc,
THEN you are a beta male.
But when you LOVE someone and they
LOVE you back and you both WANT
to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some
moronic "dating guru" or "pick up artist"
told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you
be a "beta" male.
Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN
EXTERNAL source is what makes
one WEAK and BETA. And THAT
is what makes a woman feel REPULSED
from a man and feel ZERO attraction
for him and not want to spend the
NIGHT or even one MINUTE with
him, never mind her LIFE.
The irony again is that it's the pick up artist
advice that makes you weak and THAT
is the kind of thing that attracts the very
WORST kind of women, who will like
to TAKE ADVANTAGE of that weakness
and see what they can take out of you.
And then we wonder why the pick up artists
tell you to WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!
And "Watch out for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts
the vulture type women rather than the VIRTUOUS
ones. A great woman will simply leave you alone
and not be interested, but a horrific woman will
GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick
up artist advice actually makes you WEAK.
LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN,
YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE TO LEARN
X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"
This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must
first respect YOURSELF.
Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath
your dignity, and you will get RESPECT from
a woman.
The IRONY is that the things the pick up artists
tell you to do actually strip you of your dignity
because THEY worship women simply for
a woman's looks- the OBSESSION with having
to get QUANTITY rather than quality, the
obsession with having to FAKE YOUR IDENTITY
with all kinds of absurd tactics actually makes
you ASHAMED of who you are, rather than
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE IN
WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's INSANE!
And I will STOP this insanity.
Women want a man who has DIGNITY and
will not SELL his dignity for ANYTHING.
LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO
THE FRIENDS ZONE, YOU BETTER
MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!"
The reality is that this is NONSENSE.
A great woman is not NEEDY to get into bed
with anyone, no matter WHO you are.
And if she DETECTS that you are trying
to get her into bed QUICK, she will only
feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.
Now, of course, if you are with a woman who
sleeps around with tons of guys, it might be
another issue.
I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pick
up artists NEVER give you a serious talk
about things like STD's.
NO, of course not.
It's just like the movies, and it's NOT REAL LIFE.
But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about
this stuff. The REAL WORLD is not the
DISNEY world of NO STDs that the pick up
artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.
They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE.
Why would you want to RUSH sleeping with
a woman?
There are BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH
spending time with.
The IRONY again is that you can't lose this
way, as even if you WERE the type of guy
that didn't care about quality, you could
always get to know a lot of women this
way and not rush, and THEN have a
HUNDRED women at your fingertips
if you so wanted. AND those women
would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and
not feeling needy to get them into bed-
it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!!!!!!
LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS
FOR LOSERS WHILE ALL WOMEN
SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT
BEING WITH AN ARROGANT AND
COCKY PLAYER"
This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY
UNTRUE, and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties
of the entire dating guru and pick up CULTURE
that I would need to devote an entire BOOK
to explain how HORRIFIC THIS ADVICE
IS, and how totally false it is.
It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not
attractive, it's when you are being EXTRA
NICE to a woman who has done NOTHING
to earn that treatment from you.
Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?
OF COURSE YOU DO.
And there's nothing wrong with it, it's
COOL actually.
Same thing with a woman- if she's good to
you, then if you are NOT good to her, THEN
you will be considered an INSECURE LOSER.
And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about
players that are so scared to really be good to
a woman and so scared to DROP the "masks"
they wear in the form of fake memorized lines,
and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to
NEGATE her self-esteem. (notice the word
ATTEMP in capitals, because it's doesn't work,
A great woman will just ignore it or CHEW
the guy up and spit him out for even trying)
LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT ANYTHING
EMOTIONAL REGARDING HER OR
YOU OR YOU WILL BE ABUSED
OR SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"
The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her
about her things, stuff that she is going through,
you will DUMPED fast and rightly so for not
giving a rat's ass about her.
The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a
woman is always talking about her problems to
you and is not BALANCING that with also having
FUN with you and is not willing and happy to listen
to YOUR stuff too.
The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you
should not be a cry-baby but you DEFINITELY
are not considered weak for having emotions
and for expressing them- this kind of bullshit
lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating
gurus probably gives more men heart attacks
from stress than anything else. If you can't
confide at all in the woman you are with,
what the HELL is the point of being with her?
And if a woman feels she can't ever confide
in you about emotional stuff, she will simply
GET THAT CONNECTION from someone
ELSE.
And again, THIS is why these "experts" are
always talking about cheating and unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken
party girls and they put Playboy and Hugh Hefner
on a pedestal, and THEN they wonder why they
are getting less than CREAM OF THE CROP
qualities in the women they meet!!!!
INSANE.
The truth is that the stuff that these guys
"teach" you will PUSH AWAY the BEST
kind of women and will attract the very
WORST type of woman.
LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN MEASURE YOUR REAL
SKILL IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK
UP A WOMAN IN A CLUB"
ANOTHER LIE.
The reality is that meeting a woman in a club
is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached. I
can get any guy results in a club in 1 HOUR
of training.
The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a
great woman with high standards who is not
drunk and who is not looking to just play
around, who is looking for something meaningful,
and CONNECT with such a woman on a
DEEP level, and then to KEEP THIS UP
so that three weeks later she is just as into
you and three months later as well, etc etc.
So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if
you want to, and if you want practice TALKING
to women, you'll find a LOT of women in clubs,
but if you are looking to meet a GREAT woman
where you will have to also form a great connection,
clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.
LIE NUMBER 7:
"ONLY TALK ABOUT POP CULTURE
AND NOTHING ELSE DEEP. MAKE SURE
TO NOT GET INTO ANYTHING DEEP
WITH A WOMAN, ESPECIALLY IN A
PICK-UP"
Another MASSIVE LIE.
The truth is, if you are looking to attract a
SUPERFICIAL woman who is only interested
in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.
But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's
CRUCIAL to connect on a greater level!
She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see
if you can do this. So for all you guys out
there who have a lot of GREAT INTERESTS
and who are intelligent, this is GREAT NEWS.
The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes
AS WELL, so that a woman can see that
you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be
about one channel!
To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being
able to meet, attract, and keep a great woman,
I am reminded of something YODA told
Luke Skywalker: "Unlearn, young one, unlearn".
You see, the greatest masters have realized
that the REAL key is not to learn HYPNOSIS
or to learn LINES, or to learn TACTICS, but
rather to UNLEARN. To get DE-hypnotized
as opposed to hypnotized.
Underneath all the layers and layers of BAD
PROGRAMMING you have received from
all kinds of external sources, including the
HORRIFIC advice from the supposed "experts"
you have something PERFECTLY POWERFUL,
something magnificently CHARISMATIC,
something UNSTOPPABLE that will PULL
IN A GREAT WOMAN with INFINITE
EASE.
There will be NO EFFORT required
once you learn this.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
pick-up artists and dating gurus tell you.
LIE NUMBER 1:
"If a woman sees you as relationship
or marriage material, then you will
be considered a "BETA MALE", a provider,
an "INFERIOR TYPE OF MALE" that is only
good for providing money for her.
Much better to be seen as the male who would
NEVER settle down, who is "hard to get",
who is a slick and COCKY "player" type-
THAT is what triggers ATTRACTION."
And this my friends is a TOTAL LIE.
A lie that has DESTROYED the future that
millions of men could have had with the
women they have met so far.
The truth is that you will only be considered
a "BETA" male if you SEE YOURSELF
AS A "BETA" MALE.
If your self-concept is BETA, then I assure
you that you will be taken as a BETA male
even if you have a huge SIGN on your
forehead that says "WILL NEVER MARRY"
or says "WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN".
If YOU think that you are SETTLING for
someone, if YOU think that you are only
in a relationship because you can't get
better, if YOU think that you are marrying
someone because YOU have to, etc etc,
THEN you are a beta male.
But when you LOVE someone and they
LOVE you back and you both WANT
to take something to a HIGHER level,
then if you DON'T do it because some
moronic "dating guru" or "pick up artist"
told you not to, and you listen to THAT
advice, then and only THEN would you
be a "beta" male.
Giving in to PRESSURE FROM AN
EXTERNAL source is what makes
one WEAK and BETA. And THAT
is what makes a woman feel REPULSED
from a man and feel ZERO attraction
for him and not want to spend the
NIGHT or even one MINUTE with
him, never mind her LIFE.
The irony again is that it's the pick up artist
advice that makes you weak and THAT
is the kind of thing that attracts the very
WORST kind of women, who will like
to TAKE ADVANTAGE of that weakness
and see what they can take out of you.
And then we wonder why the pick up artists
tell you to WATCH OUT FOR GOLDDIGGERS!!!
And "Watch out for women - they are UNFAITHFUL!"
Their advice creates weakness, which attracts
the vulture type women rather than the VIRTUOUS
ones. A great woman will simply leave you alone
and not be interested, but a horrific woman will
GRAVITATE toward the weak men- and pick
up artist advice actually makes you WEAK.
LIE NUMBER 2:
"TO GET RESPECT FROM A WOMAN,
YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE TO LEARN
X, Y, OR Z TACTIC"
This is another MASSIVE lie.
To get RESPECT from a woman, you must
first respect YOURSELF.
Don't EVER do anything that you feel is beneath
your dignity, and you will get RESPECT from
a woman.
The IRONY is that the things the pick up artists
tell you to do actually strip you of your dignity
because THEY worship women simply for
a woman's looks- the OBSESSION with having
to get QUANTITY rather than quality, the
obsession with having to FAKE YOUR IDENTITY
with all kinds of absurd tactics actually makes
you ASHAMED of who you are, rather than
LEARNING HOW TO TAKE PRIDE IN
WHO YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's INSANE!
And I will STOP this insanity.
Women want a man who has DIGNITY and
will not SELL his dignity for ANYTHING.
LIE NUMBER 3:
"IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GET INTO
THE FRIENDS ZONE, YOU BETTER
MAKE SURE TO GET HER INTO BED
REALLY FAST!"
The reality is that this is NONSENSE.
A great woman is not NEEDY to get into bed
with anyone, no matter WHO you are.
And if she DETECTS that you are trying
to get her into bed QUICK, she will only
feel LESS trust for you, and she will
BACK OFF faster than you can blink.
Now, of course, if you are with a woman who
sleeps around with tons of guys, it might be
another issue.
I'm talking about a great girl, not the trash.
Oh by the way, I forgot to mention, the pick
up artists NEVER give you a serious talk
about things like STD's.
NO, of course not.
It's just like the movies, and it's NOT REAL LIFE.
But in REAL life, you need to KNOW about
this stuff. The REAL WORLD is not the
DISNEY world of NO STDs that the pick up
artists and "get all the girls" like you to
BELIEVE it is.
They are BANKING on your IGNORANCE.
Why would you want to RUSH sleeping with
a woman?
There are BILLIONS of women on this earth.
More than you could ever sleep with.
Chill out and get to KNOW IF SHE IS WORTH
spending time with.
The IRONY again is that you can't lose this
way, as even if you WERE the type of guy
that didn't care about quality, you could
always get to know a lot of women this
way and not rush, and THEN have a
HUNDRED women at your fingertips
if you so wanted. AND those women
would be FAR MORE interested in you
BECAUSE you truly were relaxed and
not feeling needy to get them into bed-
it makes THEM feel more relaxed and
thus sexual with you as well!!!!!!!!!
LIE NUMBER 4:
"BEING GOOD TO A WOMAN IS
FOR LOSERS WHILE ALL WOMEN
SECRETLY FANTASIZE ABOUT
BEING WITH AN ARROGANT AND
COCKY PLAYER"
This lie really gets me, it's so MASSIVELY
UNTRUE, and yet it's everywhere in the subtleties
of the entire dating guru and pick up CULTURE
that I would need to devote an entire BOOK
to explain how HORRIFIC THIS ADVICE
IS, and how totally false it is.
It's not being GOOD to a woman that is not
attractive, it's when you are being EXTRA
NICE to a woman who has done NOTHING
to earn that treatment from you.
Do you do good things for your friends?
Do your friends to good things for you?
OF COURSE YOU DO.
And there's nothing wrong with it, it's
COOL actually.
Same thing with a woman- if she's good to
you, then if you are NOT good to her, THEN
you will be considered an INSECURE LOSER.
And guess what?
This is how quality women REALLY feel about
players that are so scared to really be good to
a woman and so scared to DROP the "masks"
they wear in the form of fake memorized lines,
and manipulative techniques to ATTEMPT to
NEGATE her self-esteem. (notice the word
ATTEMP in capitals, because it's doesn't work,
A great woman will just ignore it or CHEW
the guy up and spit him out for even trying)
LIE NUMBER 5:
"DON'T TALK ABOUT ANYTHING
EMOTIONAL REGARDING HER OR
YOU OR YOU WILL BE ABUSED
OR SEEN AS A GIRLY-MAN"
The TRUTH is that if you NEVER talk to her
about her things, stuff that she is going through,
you will DUMPED fast and rightly so for not
giving a rat's ass about her.
The TRUTH is that this is only a problem if a
woman is always talking about her problems to
you and is not BALANCING that with also having
FUN with you and is not willing and happy to listen
to YOUR stuff too.
The key is BALANCE, and as a MAN, you
should not be a cry-baby but you DEFINITELY
are not considered weak for having emotions
and for expressing them- this kind of bullshit
lie that is expressed by "pick up" and dating
gurus probably gives more men heart attacks
from stress than anything else. If you can't
confide at all in the woman you are with,
what the HELL is the point of being with her?
And if a woman feels she can't ever confide
in you about emotional stuff, she will simply
GET THAT CONNECTION from someone
ELSE.
And again, THIS is why these "experts" are
always talking about cheating and unfaithful
women--they surround themselves with drunken
party girls and they put Playboy and Hugh Hefner
on a pedestal, and THEN they wonder why they
are getting less than CREAM OF THE CROP
qualities in the women they meet!!!!
INSANE.
The truth is that the stuff that these guys
"teach" you will PUSH AWAY the BEST
kind of women and will attract the very
WORST type of woman.
LIE NUMBER 6:
"YOU CAN MEASURE YOUR REAL
SKILL IF YOU CAN MEET AND PICK
UP A WOMAN IN A CLUB"
ANOTHER LIE.
The reality is that meeting a woman in a club
is EASIER. Women in clubs tend to be slightly
tipsy, and are READY to be approached. I
can get any guy results in a club in 1 HOUR
of training.
The REAL test of "skill" is approaching a
great woman with high standards who is not
drunk and who is not looking to just play
around, who is looking for something meaningful,
and CONNECT with such a woman on a
DEEP level, and then to KEEP THIS UP
so that three weeks later she is just as into
you and three months later as well, etc etc.
So take it from me, you can enjoy clubs if
you want to, and if you want practice TALKING
to women, you'll find a LOT of women in clubs,
but if you are looking to meet a GREAT woman
where you will have to also form a great connection,
clubs are NOT THE PLACE to do it.
LIE NUMBER 7:
"ONLY TALK ABOUT POP CULTURE
AND NOTHING ELSE DEEP. MAKE SURE
TO NOT GET INTO ANYTHING DEEP
WITH A WOMAN, ESPECIALLY IN A
PICK-UP"
Another MASSIVE LIE.
The truth is, if you are looking to attract a
SUPERFICIAL woman who is only interested
in her nails and her own EGO, then YUP,
make sure to NOT get into anything deep.
But if you want a GREAT woman, then it's
CRUCIAL to connect on a greater level!
She is in fact going to be LOOKING to see
if you can do this. So for all you guys out
there who have a lot of GREAT INTERESTS
and who are intelligent, this is GREAT NEWS.
The key is to LAYER IN the playful vibes
AS WELL, so that a woman can see that
you have a RANGE of emotions that you
can engage in with her, and not just be
about one channel!
To achieve the MASTERY LEVEL with being
able to meet, attract, and keep a great woman,
I am reminded of something YODA told
Luke Skywalker: "Unlearn, young one, unlearn".
You see, the greatest masters have realized
that the REAL key is not to learn HYPNOSIS
or to learn LINES, or to learn TACTICS, but
rather to UNLEARN. To get DE-hypnotized
as opposed to hypnotized.
Underneath all the layers and layers of BAD
PROGRAMMING you have received from
all kinds of external sources, including the
HORRIFIC advice from the supposed "experts"
you have something PERFECTLY POWERFUL,
something magnificently CHARISMATIC,
something UNSTOPPABLE that will PULL
IN A GREAT WOMAN with INFINITE
EASE.
There will be NO EFFORT required
once you learn this.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
http://www.getagreatgirl.com
Sunday, February 1, 2009
What A Great Woman Teaches You About You
The most amazing thing about getting
a great woman is not that you end up
having to do nothing, no work on
yourself. In fact, it's the opposite-
when you are with someone who is
clearly selfish and ignorant, it's
easy to blame all the issues on
the other person.
But when you know you are with someone
who you respect, then you don't have
the psychological convenience of being
able to deny the issues that you need
to work on the most.
That's why a great woman actually helps
you become an even greater man, and this
is truly the hardest work you will ever
do, and is also by far the most rewarding.
You will learn about your own insecurities,
and you will have two choices- either EVOLVE
and get stronger from within and see things
for what they really are, see the "paper tigers"
for what they really are, or you will
FALL and lose everything you wanted.
Ultimately, as ironic as this sounds,
the greater your relationship with
a woman, the greater your relationship
with yourself- you learn about yourself,
and you become far wiser, and stronger,
unless you give in to the insecurities
and take the easy way out to blame
everything on someone else.
Anyone can have a casual relationship,
but it takes a real man to develop
something deeper where you're forced
to do the internal work required to
BANISH your own illusions and paper
tigers.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com
a great woman is not that you end up
having to do nothing, no work on
yourself. In fact, it's the opposite-
when you are with someone who is
clearly selfish and ignorant, it's
easy to blame all the issues on
the other person.
But when you know you are with someone
who you respect, then you don't have
the psychological convenience of being
able to deny the issues that you need
to work on the most.
That's why a great woman actually helps
you become an even greater man, and this
is truly the hardest work you will ever
do, and is also by far the most rewarding.
You will learn about your own insecurities,
and you will have two choices- either EVOLVE
and get stronger from within and see things
for what they really are, see the "paper tigers"
for what they really are, or you will
FALL and lose everything you wanted.
Ultimately, as ironic as this sounds,
the greater your relationship with
a woman, the greater your relationship
with yourself- you learn about yourself,
and you become far wiser, and stronger,
unless you give in to the insecurities
and take the easy way out to blame
everything on someone else.
Anyone can have a casual relationship,
but it takes a real man to develop
something deeper where you're forced
to do the internal work required to
BANISH your own illusions and paper
tigers.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com
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