Thursday, January 24, 2013
How To Beat The Odds And GET The Woman You Want, or: Hot Women Wear Headphones For A REASON!
I would be incorrect if I said that
online dating is always a mistake. If
you MUST be 24 hours a day, 7 days
a week, in locations where there are
no women, then online dating makes
sense.
If you are very shy and would like to
start with talking to women online
instead of in person, this might be
a good idea for some guys as well.
HOWEVER, otherwise, the EFFORT and TIME
that must be spent to find the right woman
ONLINE over weeks and possibly MONTHS if
not YEARS is actually FAR, FAR GREATER
than what it takes to just go for a stroll
and meet a TON of incredible women in
just one AFTERNOON.
This is another reason why taking BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful: It is because you
learn how to waltz right up to women
and attract them on the SPOT. And it is not
some kind of THEORY; you actually get to
PROVE IT in front of your own EYES.
Any by "PROVE IT" I mean the following
kinds of things happen:
1. The woman gives you her email.
2. She gives you her number.
3. She buys you a drink.
4. She gets girly and giggly with you
even though you are not super funny.
5. She kisses you.
6. She makes out with you.
Number 6 tends to happen more in clubs,
but in general, the bottom line is that
you can TELL the women are actually
INTERESTED instead of just saying
things such as, "I have to go".
Focusing your energy on meeting women online
tends to also make you needy as when you finally
meet a woman you are interested in online, you
start to get insecure if she does not respond
right away, and it does not help to know that
if she is attractive or even not so attractive
she probably has a thousand messages in her
inbox from other guys because it is SO EASY
for any guy to just click SEND and send a
message to her INBOX.
Meeting women and approaching women in person
takes a lot more SKILL and hence you get rid
of most of the so called "competition".
PLUS, by getting lots of women from meeting
them in person from cold approaches, you
also become SUPER EMPOWERED AND CONFIDENT
AND SECURE and if you DO decide to go back
to online dating, you actually COMMUNICATE
in a way that SHOWS you are not needy
and in a way that shows you are fun.
It will then show even in your messages
back and forth with women on the online
dating site.
It will also show in your profiles online,
because it is EASIER to put up a playful,
confident, or intriguing profile when you
are feeling EMPOWERED with women as
opposed to feeling NEEDY.
However, what you are at your best online
is NOTHING compared to what you are at your
best IN PERSON. You have MUCH MORE POWER
to attract in PERSON.
And when you see how many women you have
choices from when you master the skill of
approaching in cold approaches, you will
not feel the desire to go back to online
dating.
Online, a woman does not get to feel your
personality since she does not get to see
your body language, your expressions, your
tonality, etc.
You lose some of the HUMAN TOUCH online.
But in REAL LIFE, you get to reveal WAY MORE
PERSONALITY, way more of the HUMAN TOUCH.
NUMBER TWO: HOT WOMEN, HEADPHONES, MOVING
If you look around at hot women, you will notice
a LOT of them have headphones on, and you will
notice they do not often stay STATIONARY in
one place for long in places like malls or
stores, etc.
Some guys complain about this, saying it
makes it harder to approach women.
I used to be one of those guys.
But guess what?
Women being hot and being harder to STOP
and to get them into chat mode compared
to getting other women to stop and chat
is NOT a coincidence.
Hotties NEED to make themselves harder to stop
or they will never get to move through the world
without spending ALL DAY talking to EVERY GUY
that sees them.
The HEADPHONES is PART of that.
The headphones are SAYING, "I'm in my own world,
please leave me alone".
So if you DECIDE TO GIVE INTO THAT, you have
just made yourself part of the MAJORITY of
men who DO NOT GET ANYWHERE with her.
Similarly, these hotties MOVE around more, they
KNOW if they stop for long enough, FOR SURE
they will get a LOT of men who have no clue
about how to behave, and ALSO that these men
will get upset if she has to leave without
giving them the number, etc.
So hotties PREVENT a lot of problems this way.
DO NOT GIVE INTO THESE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS.
JUST OPEN UP THE CONVERSATION ANYWAY, and
do it RIGHT.
Women know you are approaching them, just make
sure you approach them in a way that makes them
GLAD you did.
THREE: CONGRUENCY
There's one more thing I want to mention today:
It is all about something known as CONGRUENCY.
When opening up a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger, you can SCREW IT ALL
UP even if you do EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT but
you fail to show CONGRUENCY.
Congruency simply means that your WORDS are
CONSISTENT with your BODY LANGUAGE and tonality.
So, let's say a guy is at a bookstore and starts
chatting to a woman about a book she is reading
and he PRETENDS to be interested in the book
but he is not really interested in it.
Most likely, his FACIAL expressions will reveal
some discomfort or disdain or boredom with it,
from the way his eyebrows furl or the crinkles
in his forehead or the way his glance moves
around unsteadily, or the way his voice shows
a lack of genuine interest, etc.
On the other hand, if a guy actually SAYS
that he knows NOTHING about that topic but
is curious what she finds interesting about
it, he will sound CONGRUENT if this is the
truth about the situation.
A woman sensing CONGRUENCY in a man is a BIG thing.
One of the BIGGEST problems in "pick ups" or
'cold approaches' on women who are total strangers
is coming across as "sketchy" - as UNTRUSTWORTHY.
Women WANT to meet men, but they also want
to be SAFE.
So a guy who is the most innocent guy in the
world, and who just wants a woman and just
wants to impress her, but who is not being
CONGRUENT with her, will trigger her ALARMS.
She does not KNOW the reason he is not being
congruent is rather innocent, i.e. that he
likes her. All she knows is something is NOT
true about the situation.
This is a bit similar to how dogs sense a
person's fear, and it often agitates the
dog, even if the REASON the person feels
fear is BECAUSE of the dog, and not because
the person wants to attack the dog!
All the dog knows is that something is WRONG.
The flip side is also true.
If you are being CONGRUENT, you can use almost
ANYTHING to get a woman into you.
Here's an example from bootcamp:
At a store, the song "Fields of Gold" by Sting
was playing softly over the loudspeakers.
In the moment, I just felt MAN, THIS SONG IS
REALLY CLASSIC STUFF, IT'S CALMING, IT'S
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD STUFF.
So I just turned to the woman, who was in middle
of her own thing, reading a book, and I said,
"Isn't this song beautiful?"
And I MEANT it.
I said it SLOW, and said the word "beautiful"
as if the word beautiful was ITSELF sacred.
I was truly totally congruent with it.
I've loved that song since it first came out.
And now she FEELS it.
She is soaking it in.
And she goes "Yes, it really is".
This woman was YOUNG, so I said the next totally
TRUE and congruent thought I had, which was:
"That's pretty cool you know this song,
because you seem pretty young".
So then she tells me that she has her parents
to thank for that, they brought her up with
great music. We chat a bit about how Lady Gaga
was actually influenced by her parents who
played their music around the house, including
music by Bruce Springsteen, etc.
At that point, I introduce myself and
extend my hand. She smiles and introduces
herself as well as we shake hands. We
continue chatting about things that
RESONATE such as having classic values,
timeless music, and inspiration.
I use this example because it was NOT
genius, it WAS however very CONGRUENT.
Being totally congruent also means you
do not use pick-up lines, because pick-up
lines run the risk of a guy feeling he
is "doing an act", which means not being
congruent to his real identity.
After a while, I had to end it, because
the point was illustrated and my client was
ready to do some more approaches of his own.
(He got the number of a sexy, slim but shapely
woman who wanted him so badly that she was
not afraid to reveal she had NO PLAN for
SATURDAY NIGHT and wanted to know what HE
was doing! And to prove it was a real number,
he actually called her right away, and her
phone rang on her right then and there!)
And if you are reading this right now, I
promise you that what you have just read,
as powerful as it is, is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG.
My "Real World BOOTCAMP" is going to equip you with the skills to attract more women in one WEEK than most men attract in a LIFETIME.
Bootcamp is a bit like THE MATRIX.
You will see that YOU create the
results that YOU want with women, and
that there are NO limits.
You get to benefit from over TEN YEARS
of my dedication to these skills and to
teaching these skills.
Email me with possible weekends that work for
you and I will let you know if any of them are
still available.
Bootcamp is at:
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And if you don't already have the following
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"The Dating Wizard" E-Book:
This book is the FIRST thing to read.
It is an ABSOLUTE MUST.
It's at:
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This program shares my LATEST strategies
for succeeding at the art and skill of
approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers.
It's at:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Urgent Tips On Attracting Women, Approaching Women, and "Pick-Up"
If you are SERIOUS about attracting women,
then this email is URGENT.
I have so much freaking AWESOME stuff
to share with you about attracting women
that I myself am going nuts because I cannot
believe how guys are living their lives and
NOT using this stuff simply because they
do not KNOW about it!!!!!!!!!!
What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real
LIFE. A LOT of it comes from seeing it
happen in the "pick-ups" that happen during
the BOOTCAMPS which pretty much run
all year long.
You will find that I absolutely STRIP everything
down to the FACTS. Zero superstition, zero
fluff feel good talk. JUST THE FACTS.
So here we go:
1. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT SEX
Does this mean there is no such thing as LOVE?
Does this mean that women are not interested
in your sense of humor?
Does this mean that women do not care about
things like spirituality?
NO, it does not mean that, what it DOES mean is
that THE MAIN FORCE that WORKS for getting
a woman interested in you, is SEX.
This does not mean that you should EXPLICITLY
talk about sex when you approach a woman.
Talking explicitly about sex at the wrong
time, especially in a non night-club approach,
comes across as implying she is 'cheap' or 'easy.'
What "IT IS ALL ABOUT SEX" really means is
that you should STOP trying to look for some
super-complex EXCUSE to approach a woman,
in some massive effort to hide the fact
that you are interested in her BODY, FACE,
and her FEMININITY.
So much energy gets WASTED into this effort to
MASK what you are really doing, that what ends
up happening is that you will come across as
awkward, insincere, insecure, and uncool.
Women are not stupid. They have a pretty good
idea that if a guy is talking to them,
that it MIGHT all be about sex intentions.
So if you really ARE interested in a woman in a
physical way, do NOT waste precious time and
energy on coming up with some super clever
DISGUISE or excuse for approaching her.
Women LOVE sex just as much as MEN.
A lot of women cannot get ENOUGH of it.
The human race would not EXIST without
this mutual DRIVE to replicate.
It is really the most PRIMAL drive of all.
Although food and shelter are required for
SURVIVAL, most people would make
GREAT sacrifices in these areas if it meant
BEING with the one they were truly ATTRACTED
to more than any other.
This is GOOD news, not bad news.
And in case you are thinking that all the
women who are attractive already HAVE
someone, guess what?
THEY DO NOT ALL HAVE SOMEONE.
Relationships take a lot of WISDOM and intelligence,
which is why so few men and women are actually
IN long-term relationships.
I do not promote cheating. I am talking about the
women who are single.
2. Make it FLIRTY.
Flirting usually boils down to playfully expressing
your OWN desirability. Think of how in the
animal kingdom, a peacock struts its feathers.
In the human world, a lot of guys try to TALK
about how much money they have or how much
value they have, but the problem with that is that
this money stuff is really a recent invention as far
as EVOLUTION is concerned.
This route does not ATTRACT WOMEN in a
SEXUAL way, it just attracts them in a logical
way. A man would be better off paying a
seasoned expert prostitute.
Instead, FLIRTING means PLAYFULLY
showing signs of how DESIRED you are,
using words and body language and tonality.
So, for example, if a woman bumps into you,
and you accuse her of trying to feel you up,
THAT is playfully showing that you are
DESIRED.
That is FLIRTING.
Flirting is part of your ARSENAL for turning
a woman ON to YOU.
3. MAKE IT FUN
Related to the above, but not necessarily ONLY
in a sexual way, is the idea of making sure to
keep the interaction something POSITIVE
and FUN.
By fun, I do not mean she has to be laughing out
loud, although that is a good thing if you do it,
but what I mean is that you are not talking about
DEPRESSING THINGS.
Instead, focus on things that are either fun,
Inspiring, or intriguing, or a COMBO of
ALL of them!
4. MAKE IT CONFIDENT
What I mean by this is that you should take
the opportunity to display confidence.
If you are approaching her and she is at a
table in a food court, and you stop by her
table and open her up with a comment on
the massive amount of ketchup she has put
on her fries, and she LAUGHS and then you SIT
DOWN before she even ASKS you to, THAT
is showing confidence.
Since she was laughing, you had a pretty good
indication she would not get PISSED if you sat
down, but THERE WAS NOT A PERFECT
ASSURANCE OF THAT.
A lot of guys would feel the need to ASK
if it would okay to sit down beside her.
You took a TINY risk, but BELIEVED it would
be successful.
You are thus showing a degree of CONFIDENCE.
I could give you a TRILLION examples, but that
is ONE.
So you take the above steps, and you INCORPORATE
all of them, you make your interaction FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Rather than worrying about how to pretend
you are NOT interested in her physically, just
make your conversation with her FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Notice also by the way, how EVERYTHING I have
told you so far all FITS PERFECTLY into each other.
Sex drive, flirtatiousness, fun, confidence, all go
HAND IN HAND, even though they are not the
exact same things. They work TOGETHER.
5. HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING,
also known as: DO NOT EJECT, NO MATTER WHAT.
A lot of times, when guys START conversations with
women, the guys run out of things to say, and what is
the NORMAL reaction?
To EJECT.
I used to do the same thing. I ran out of things to say,
and felt so WEIRD just standing there, that I felt
every SECOND I continue standing there would
REVEAL the HORRIFYING TRUTH:
That I was NOT COOL!!
That I had nothing else to say!
OH NO!
Then I finally realized something which I have been
teaching to my clients for YEARS:
Usually, women are NOT thinking you are
a loser or not cool for not being able to
CONTINUE the conversation!
In fact, very often the WOMEN THEMSELVES wish
that THEY knew how to continue the conversation!
It is important to remember that women have not
STUDIED the skills of how to approach like we have!
They do not particularly KNOW how to go about
the process since they are not the ones to
do the approaching. This is not something
to blame women for; it is not their fault.
This is part of our culture that says women
are allowed to give SIGNALS off to men, but
that women are not supposed to be nearly as
aggressive and proactive about the actual
approach.
For a woman this means she has to be in the
right places where she can be giving off
signals to the right guys, but as a guy
you can go anywhere and just go right
up to women.
So because of all this, women typically are
on the RECEIVING end of the approaches, and
they have not perfected their own skills
at how to keep the conversation going.
So most guys LEAVE BEFORE the women can even
get a CHANCE to figure out what to say, even
when the women really DO want to continue
to chat!
So it is not just MEN who are having a problem,
it is the women too, but most guys do not realize this,
and they end up EJECTING themselves out of the
interaction in order to save face, when in reality so
often the women were the ones who were EQUALLY
frustrated in not knowing what to say!
They are so often NOT JUDGING you at all, they are
just TRYING to figure out what to do, just like the guys
are!
So the POINT of all this is that you must give
YOURSELF the following COMMAND:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
I just cannot emphasize ENOUGH how
PASSIONATELY I feel about this one.
DO NOT EJECT!
There is ANOTHER reason for not ejecting:
Not only does STAYING in the interaction allow
you more TIME to figure out what to say, and not
only does it also allow HER more time to figure
out what to say, and not only are women so often
NOT judging the guys in a negative way just
because it is taking a while to figure out what
to say, but ALSO there is another reason,
a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGELY important
reason, which is:
FORCING YOURSELF TO STAY IN THE
INTERACTION ACTUALLY FORCES YOU
TO GROW MORE CONFIDENT ABOUT THESE
SITUATIONS IN THE FUTURE!
This means that the NEXT time you approach a
woman, you will be MORE confident, MORE
relaxed, MORE cool.
And when you are in these positive states, guess
what HAPPENS?
You are better able to ACCESS all the creative
parts of your MIND so you can indeed say
things that are interesting, confident, flirty,
etc.
PLUS, by staying in the interaction, you start to
become FASTER at seeing how you can CONNECT
something that is said in the conversation to something
ELSE that is also fun, interesting, flirty, confident,
or intriguing.
Your RESPONSE time gets better and better, as
your mind comes up with more things to say that
actually help the conversation FLOW SMOOTHLY.
And remember, by having this conversation, the point
is not to demonstrate that you are a GENIUS who
knows everything, but rather to simply create a
GOOD ATMOSPHERE for her to feel good about
getting to know you and to get over the "hump"
of you being a stranger.
So you can go from being a stranger to someone
she feels she wants to get to know more, and
especially someone she wants to get "physical with"
in an intimate way.
PLUS, when you are in a more CONFIDENT
state of mind, it is easier to get into a more
HORNY state of mind, which will allow you
to exude the right degree of masculinity without
doing anything TOO OVERT, or too explicit.
It will show in subtleties in your VOICE tonality,
in your facial expressions, in your pace of movement,
etc, etc.
But you will not get ANY of these benefits if you
EJECT!
So, the next time you chat up a woman:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
6. SEX, INTERNAL GAME, AND NO SHAME
This is SUPER important. Internal Game
refers to the way you feel and think, and even
to the inner dialogue you may have with yourself.
One of those elements of internal game revolves
around your thoughts about sex.
Women can detect your internal game very quickly
from all kinds of subtleties in your communication.
So, if you want to have a strong internal game, one
of the BIG THINGS to do is to have NO SHAME
about being a sexual person.
I used to try like CRAZY to treat women in the
most NON-SEXUAL way. I tried to show how
NICE I could be. I was super-passive and tried
to show that I would NEVER do anything unless
a woman made it TOTALLY CLEAR TO ME THAT
SHE WANTED SEX. It was all up to them, I would
make sure to not "make them feel uncomfortable"
by even going anywhere NEAR the possibility
of sex.
Meanwhile, the TRUTH is that women tend to give
HINTS, they almost NEVER, EVER, EVER tell
a guy the following:
***Hey, you know, I like you, would you please
&*^% me tonight?***
The VERY thought of it is ABSURD and COMICAL!
This does not mean that women want to ONLY be
treated as sexual beings, but they sure DO WANT
to be viewed as sexual beings in ADDITION to
other things. If women did not get turned on by
being viewed as sexual beings, there would be
no procreation, humans would never have made
it till today, and humans would not EXIST.
So I am here to tell you something:
The NEXT TIME you see a woman you want to
approach, and you start to fear that maybe your
desires are somehow WRONG, I want you to
realize that women LOVE all kinds of sex.
I am not saying that EVERY woman LOVES
every kind of sex, but that in general
the fantasies and lustful desires of women
are every bit as nuanced and intense and
wild as are those of men.
The fantasies of men and women are not ALWAYS
on the same page, but the basic NAUGHTY
and TABOO factor is EQUALLY as intense
for women as it is for men.
That nice girl who likes to read poetry may very
well have the most steaming sexual fantasies.
This is SOOOOOOOO important to not only read,
but to EMBRACE INTO THE VERY CORE OF
YOUR SOUL.
7. TAKING ACTION
I used to think that if a situation SEEMED tough to change,
that this was a SIGN that it was part of FATE.
So I used to think that attracting women is so hard, that
it must be something that we as men should just become
passive about, especially since I had been taught by
so many people that "your soul-mate is destined to
meet you" etc., etc.
For this reason, I believe, a LOT of men end up becoming
very PASSIVE regarding meeting and attracting women,
and the result is they NEVER meet the woman or women
they wanted to meet and attract.
When it comes to FOOD, no one ever says the following:
***You know what? I believe in FATE, so therefore, I will
prove my belief in FATE by sitting here knowing that
FOOD will fall into my LAP.***
For some reason, when it is something people NEED,
we all stop talking about FATE.
So there may very well be such a thing as fate, but even
if there is, CERTAINLY as humans we are supposed to
do OUR PART to do our best to make the things happen
that we want to happen.
In the same way that earning a living is something
people must ACTIVELY do rather than just sitting
around passively hoping for it to happen, I believe
that a man should do EVERYTHING in his power,
without hurting anyone else, to get the woman or
women that he wants.
In fact, not doing enough to take action to
get the woman you want is a CRIME against
yourself, because you are hurting yourself,
you are depriving yourself, and if you believe
humans have any dignity or any rights at all,
then certainly you yourself have these rights.
I also know that things only changed for me
once I learned that in fact not only COULD I
take more effective actions for meeting and
attracting women, but that unless I did so,
I would most likely NEVER meet and
attract the women I wanted. I would just
go for the rest of my life in misery.
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Till next time,
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Michael Marks
then this email is URGENT.
I have so much freaking AWESOME stuff
to share with you about attracting women
that I myself am going nuts because I cannot
believe how guys are living their lives and
NOT using this stuff simply because they
do not KNOW about it!!!!!!!!!!
What you are about to read is all ABSOLUTELY
AND COMPLETELY taken ALL from real
LIFE. A LOT of it comes from seeing it
happen in the "pick-ups" that happen during
the BOOTCAMPS which pretty much run
all year long.
You will find that I absolutely STRIP everything
down to the FACTS. Zero superstition, zero
fluff feel good talk. JUST THE FACTS.
So here we go:
1. IT REALLY IS ALL ABOUT SEX
Does this mean there is no such thing as LOVE?
Does this mean that women are not interested
in your sense of humor?
Does this mean that women do not care about
things like spirituality?
NO, it does not mean that, what it DOES mean is
that THE MAIN FORCE that WORKS for getting
a woman interested in you, is SEX.
This does not mean that you should EXPLICITLY
talk about sex when you approach a woman.
Talking explicitly about sex at the wrong
time, especially in a non night-club approach,
comes across as implying she is 'cheap' or 'easy.'
What "IT IS ALL ABOUT SEX" really means is
that you should STOP trying to look for some
super-complex EXCUSE to approach a woman,
in some massive effort to hide the fact
that you are interested in her BODY, FACE,
and her FEMININITY.
So much energy gets WASTED into this effort to
MASK what you are really doing, that what ends
up happening is that you will come across as
awkward, insincere, insecure, and uncool.
Women are not stupid. They have a pretty good
idea that if a guy is talking to them,
that it MIGHT all be about sex intentions.
So if you really ARE interested in a woman in a
physical way, do NOT waste precious time and
energy on coming up with some super clever
DISGUISE or excuse for approaching her.
Women LOVE sex just as much as MEN.
A lot of women cannot get ENOUGH of it.
The human race would not EXIST without
this mutual DRIVE to replicate.
It is really the most PRIMAL drive of all.
Although food and shelter are required for
SURVIVAL, most people would make
GREAT sacrifices in these areas if it meant
BEING with the one they were truly ATTRACTED
to more than any other.
This is GOOD news, not bad news.
And in case you are thinking that all the
women who are attractive already HAVE
someone, guess what?
THEY DO NOT ALL HAVE SOMEONE.
Relationships take a lot of WISDOM and intelligence,
which is why so few men and women are actually
IN long-term relationships.
I do not promote cheating. I am talking about the
women who are single.
2. Make it FLIRTY.
Flirting usually boils down to playfully expressing
your OWN desirability. Think of how in the
animal kingdom, a peacock struts its feathers.
In the human world, a lot of guys try to TALK
about how much money they have or how much
value they have, but the problem with that is that
this money stuff is really a recent invention as far
as EVOLUTION is concerned.
This route does not ATTRACT WOMEN in a
SEXUAL way, it just attracts them in a logical
way. A man would be better off paying a
seasoned expert prostitute.
Instead, FLIRTING means PLAYFULLY
showing signs of how DESIRED you are,
using words and body language and tonality.
So, for example, if a woman bumps into you,
and you accuse her of trying to feel you up,
THAT is playfully showing that you are
DESIRED.
That is FLIRTING.
Flirting is part of your ARSENAL for turning
a woman ON to YOU.
3. MAKE IT FUN
Related to the above, but not necessarily ONLY
in a sexual way, is the idea of making sure to
keep the interaction something POSITIVE
and FUN.
By fun, I do not mean she has to be laughing out
loud, although that is a good thing if you do it,
but what I mean is that you are not talking about
DEPRESSING THINGS.
Instead, focus on things that are either fun,
Inspiring, or intriguing, or a COMBO of
ALL of them!
4. MAKE IT CONFIDENT
What I mean by this is that you should take
the opportunity to display confidence.
If you are approaching her and she is at a
table in a food court, and you stop by her
table and open her up with a comment on
the massive amount of ketchup she has put
on her fries, and she LAUGHS and then you SIT
DOWN before she even ASKS you to, THAT
is showing confidence.
Since she was laughing, you had a pretty good
indication she would not get PISSED if you sat
down, but THERE WAS NOT A PERFECT
ASSURANCE OF THAT.
A lot of guys would feel the need to ASK
if it would okay to sit down beside her.
You took a TINY risk, but BELIEVED it would
be successful.
You are thus showing a degree of CONFIDENCE.
I could give you a TRILLION examples, but that
is ONE.
So you take the above steps, and you INCORPORATE
all of them, you make your interaction FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Rather than worrying about how to pretend
you are NOT interested in her physically, just
make your conversation with her FLIRTY, FUN,
and CONFIDENT.
Notice also by the way, how EVERYTHING I have
told you so far all FITS PERFECTLY into each other.
Sex drive, flirtatiousness, fun, confidence, all go
HAND IN HAND, even though they are not the
exact same things. They work TOGETHER.
5. HOW TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING,
also known as: DO NOT EJECT, NO MATTER WHAT.
A lot of times, when guys START conversations with
women, the guys run out of things to say, and what is
the NORMAL reaction?
To EJECT.
I used to do the same thing. I ran out of things to say,
and felt so WEIRD just standing there, that I felt
every SECOND I continue standing there would
REVEAL the HORRIFYING TRUTH:
That I was NOT COOL!!
That I had nothing else to say!
OH NO!
Then I finally realized something which I have been
teaching to my clients for YEARS:
Usually, women are NOT thinking you are
a loser or not cool for not being able to
CONTINUE the conversation!
In fact, very often the WOMEN THEMSELVES wish
that THEY knew how to continue the conversation!
It is important to remember that women have not
STUDIED the skills of how to approach like we have!
They do not particularly KNOW how to go about
the process since they are not the ones to
do the approaching. This is not something
to blame women for; it is not their fault.
This is part of our culture that says women
are allowed to give SIGNALS off to men, but
that women are not supposed to be nearly as
aggressive and proactive about the actual
approach.
For a woman this means she has to be in the
right places where she can be giving off
signals to the right guys, but as a guy
you can go anywhere and just go right
up to women.
So because of all this, women typically are
on the RECEIVING end of the approaches, and
they have not perfected their own skills
at how to keep the conversation going.
So most guys LEAVE BEFORE the women can even
get a CHANCE to figure out what to say, even
when the women really DO want to continue
to chat!
So it is not just MEN who are having a problem,
it is the women too, but most guys do not realize this,
and they end up EJECTING themselves out of the
interaction in order to save face, when in reality so
often the women were the ones who were EQUALLY
frustrated in not knowing what to say!
They are so often NOT JUDGING you at all, they are
just TRYING to figure out what to do, just like the guys
are!
So the POINT of all this is that you must give
YOURSELF the following COMMAND:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
I just cannot emphasize ENOUGH how
PASSIONATELY I feel about this one.
DO NOT EJECT!
There is ANOTHER reason for not ejecting:
Not only does STAYING in the interaction allow
you more TIME to figure out what to say, and not
only does it also allow HER more time to figure
out what to say, and not only are women so often
NOT judging the guys in a negative way just
because it is taking a while to figure out what
to say, but ALSO there is another reason,
a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGELY important
reason, which is:
FORCING YOURSELF TO STAY IN THE
INTERACTION ACTUALLY FORCES YOU
TO GROW MORE CONFIDENT ABOUT THESE
SITUATIONS IN THE FUTURE!
This means that the NEXT time you approach a
woman, you will be MORE confident, MORE
relaxed, MORE cool.
And when you are in these positive states, guess
what HAPPENS?
You are better able to ACCESS all the creative
parts of your MIND so you can indeed say
things that are interesting, confident, flirty,
etc.
PLUS, by staying in the interaction, you start to
become FASTER at seeing how you can CONNECT
something that is said in the conversation to something
ELSE that is also fun, interesting, flirty, confident,
or intriguing.
Your RESPONSE time gets better and better, as
your mind comes up with more things to say that
actually help the conversation FLOW SMOOTHLY.
And remember, by having this conversation, the point
is not to demonstrate that you are a GENIUS who
knows everything, but rather to simply create a
GOOD ATMOSPHERE for her to feel good about
getting to know you and to get over the "hump"
of you being a stranger.
So you can go from being a stranger to someone
she feels she wants to get to know more, and
especially someone she wants to get "physical with"
in an intimate way.
PLUS, when you are in a more CONFIDENT
state of mind, it is easier to get into a more
HORNY state of mind, which will allow you
to exude the right degree of masculinity without
doing anything TOO OVERT, or too explicit.
It will show in subtleties in your VOICE tonality,
in your facial expressions, in your pace of movement,
etc, etc.
But you will not get ANY of these benefits if you
EJECT!
So, the next time you chat up a woman:
DO NOT EJECT, AT ALL COSTS, NO MATTER WHAT.
6. SEX, INTERNAL GAME, AND NO SHAME
This is SUPER important. Internal Game
refers to the way you feel and think, and even
to the inner dialogue you may have with yourself.
One of those elements of internal game revolves
around your thoughts about sex.
Women can detect your internal game very quickly
from all kinds of subtleties in your communication.
So, if you want to have a strong internal game, one
of the BIG THINGS to do is to have NO SHAME
about being a sexual person.
I used to try like CRAZY to treat women in the
most NON-SEXUAL way. I tried to show how
NICE I could be. I was super-passive and tried
to show that I would NEVER do anything unless
a woman made it TOTALLY CLEAR TO ME THAT
SHE WANTED SEX. It was all up to them, I would
make sure to not "make them feel uncomfortable"
by even going anywhere NEAR the possibility
of sex.
Meanwhile, the TRUTH is that women tend to give
HINTS, they almost NEVER, EVER, EVER tell
a guy the following:
***Hey, you know, I like you, would you please
&*^% me tonight?***
The VERY thought of it is ABSURD and COMICAL!
This does not mean that women want to ONLY be
treated as sexual beings, but they sure DO WANT
to be viewed as sexual beings in ADDITION to
other things. If women did not get turned on by
being viewed as sexual beings, there would be
no procreation, humans would never have made
it till today, and humans would not EXIST.
So I am here to tell you something:
The NEXT TIME you see a woman you want to
approach, and you start to fear that maybe your
desires are somehow WRONG, I want you to
realize that women LOVE all kinds of sex.
I am not saying that EVERY woman LOVES
every kind of sex, but that in general
the fantasies and lustful desires of women
are every bit as nuanced and intense and
wild as are those of men.
The fantasies of men and women are not ALWAYS
on the same page, but the basic NAUGHTY
and TABOO factor is EQUALLY as intense
for women as it is for men.
That nice girl who likes to read poetry may very
well have the most steaming sexual fantasies.
This is SOOOOOOOO important to not only read,
but to EMBRACE INTO THE VERY CORE OF
YOUR SOUL.
7. TAKING ACTION
I used to think that if a situation SEEMED tough to change,
that this was a SIGN that it was part of FATE.
So I used to think that attracting women is so hard, that
it must be something that we as men should just become
passive about, especially since I had been taught by
so many people that "your soul-mate is destined to
meet you" etc., etc.
For this reason, I believe, a LOT of men end up becoming
very PASSIVE regarding meeting and attracting women,
and the result is they NEVER meet the woman or women
they wanted to meet and attract.
When it comes to FOOD, no one ever says the following:
***You know what? I believe in FATE, so therefore, I will
prove my belief in FATE by sitting here knowing that
FOOD will fall into my LAP.***
For some reason, when it is something people NEED,
we all stop talking about FATE.
So there may very well be such a thing as fate, but even
if there is, CERTAINLY as humans we are supposed to
do OUR PART to do our best to make the things happen
that we want to happen.
In the same way that earning a living is something
people must ACTIVELY do rather than just sitting
around passively hoping for it to happen, I believe
that a man should do EVERYTHING in his power,
without hurting anyone else, to get the woman or
women that he wants.
In fact, not doing enough to take action to
get the woman you want is a CRIME against
yourself, because you are hurting yourself,
you are depriving yourself, and if you believe
humans have any dignity or any rights at all,
then certainly you yourself have these rights.
I also know that things only changed for me
once I learned that in fact not only COULD I
take more effective actions for meeting and
attracting women, but that unless I did so,
I would most likely NEVER meet and
attract the women I wanted. I would just
go for the rest of my life in misery.
And if you are reading this right now, I suggest
that YOU take my Real World Bootcamp
program which will give you the SKILLS to attract
women so that you can choose the type of woman
you WANT.
You will LEARN how to trigger the urge in
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I will teach you these skills and provide live
demos on real women in just about ANY
place you want, and you will also PROVE
to yourself that it all WORKS for you
as well, as you actually approach women
who are total strangers and you attract
them ON THE SPOT, right in front of your
very eyes.
The Real World Bootcamp IS the REAL THING.
I have been doing this for over ten YEARS,
and I have taught just about every kind of guy
that you can imagine.
In fact, I have been teaching bootcamps since 2003,
which is long before this stuff became trendy to do.
That means that I am one of the few guys who is really HARD-CORE about these skills. I did not come to this field because I thought it was trendy, I came to this field because I have a BURNING PASSION for it.
My success in helping men has also been documented
in the press, including a major report in the Toronto Star,
where I helped not just one or two guys, but an entire
GROUP of men to attract the women they wanted.
This was not just some interview with me, this
was an IN-DEPTH event that spanned over several
weeks, where the progress the men made was independently
reported by them not to me, but to the newspaper itself.
Bootcamp provides you with the skills to attract almost LIMITLESS women immediately, with zero effort, because there are tons of women all around you already. All you have to do is spot them and
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The reason is because it's damn hard to find
a good instructor out there, and the right
instructor can teach you in ONE bootcamp what
would take another instructor TEN BOOTCAMPS
to teach you.
These newsletters are just the TIP of the ICEBERG of what you learn in my programs, and what you learn in my LIVE Bootcamp program goes BEYOND what you can even IMAGINE.
Now, if you can't make it to bootcamp immediately, then you really need to download my
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The more you learn before bootcamp, the FARTHER I can take you when you come to bootcamp.
I would not promote the Attraction Mastery Program unless I KNEW it was of MASSIVE VALUE and massive EFFECTIVENESS when it comes to attracting women.
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Michael Marks
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