There is a lot I can say to you about
dating, relationships, and how to meet
and attract women, but for today I am
going to focus on what I think is the
NUMERO UNO problem, and the
solution, as well.
The bottom line is that there has been
a cheapening of society’s ideals when
it comes to the whole man-woman thing.
You might be asking how does knowing this this help you MEET and attract a woman, but if you stick around to the end of this article, you'll see exactly how.
The bond between a man and a woman has become something that society in general does not CHERISH anymore.
It’s no longer SACRED.
It’s no longer PRECIOUS.
It’s no longer REVERED.
Rather, it’s more about convenience,
novelty, and the moment rather than the
long term.
Let me repeat the last part:
It’s about the MOMENT rather than the
LONG-TERM.
I could write volumes on all the reasons for
why this has happened, but the bottom line is
various complex forces combined over about
100 years, (it's not a simple "good guys versus
bad guys" here) slowly ERODING the sense
of the sacred regarding the bond between man
and woman.
One of the reasons a solution is so hard to
put into play is because all the previous forces
and institutions that used to promote the sacred
bond between men and women have themselves
been tainted with corruption.
So it’s very, very hard to find LEADERS
in this area. As soon as you promote the
sacred bond between men and women, you
risk being viewed as someone who is so
old-fashioned that he probably hasn’t even
heard of the wheelbarrow.
And yet, when it comes to every OTHER
part of people’s lives, for some reason
people can at least agree in PRINCIPLE
that it’s more important to think about the
LONG-TERM than the moment.
So, for example, one’s health. Most
people would agree it’s worth thinking
about the long-term and so it’s not a good
idea to ONLY eat junk food, or to never
exercise, even though it would be more
“convenient” in the SHORT TERM to
just do whatever was easier or felt more
convenient.
Similarly, when it comes to one’s education
or one’s vocational training or one’s work,
people will agree, at least in principle if
not in action, that they SHOULD make some
sacrifice, make the commitment, and not
just be thinking about the short term.
And yet, when it comes to thinking LONG-TERM
regarding something that will affect your life in
the most INTENSE way, and if done properly
can bring INTENSE JOY AND MEANING,
and if done improperly can bring INTENSE
HEARTACHE AND PAIN, people completely
IGNORE the importance of treating a relationship
as SACRED.
The partner you have in your life will affect you
in EVERY way, and sex is, ironically, NOT the
most important way, although obviously this can
be a powerful and pleasurable part of it.
The fact is, your partner will affect your state of
MIND, your EMOTIONS, your HEALTH, your
FINANCES, and will have a huge impact on whether
you achieve your full potential or not as a human being.
But no, rather than think this way, people tend to
think of relationships in a very limited way.
Are there people who should not be in relationships?
Probably. But for most people, men and women,
being with the RIGHT partner improves their lives
immensely.
So, what do I mean by “sacred” when it comes
to relationships?
I mean that the commitment is not taken lightly.
I mean that the sexual connection between the
man and woman is viewed as so precious and
important, that it is not splashed around for the
whole planet to partake of in so called “platonic
friendships”.
I mean that, if the man and woman plan to raise
a family, the children really DO come first, and
yet, if the children really do come first, then it’s
important for the man and woman to deeply cherish
each other as well or what good is it for the kids
if they see constant conflict. (Which is also why
there are situations where it really is better for
the kids if the parents don't stay married.)
It also means finding a way to spend enough TIME
with your partner so that the relationship isn’t just
an idea but an actual reality.
Now, if you were one of the guys asking himself what the heck this has to do with meeting women, the answer is EVERYTHING.
You see, sometimes the most obvious thing
is also the most HIDDEN.
Most men and women know there is something
very screwed up in our society today, but they
just feel things are HOPELESS, and so what
happens is that people give up, which only
REINFORCES the CORRUPTION of our
society in the ways I have described.
But if you could just approach a woman and
be REAL, you would notice that women are
MORE RECEPTIVE than you previously thought.
When I say REAL, I don’t mean to kiss up
or to go on forever about her superficial beauty.
I mean to behave in a way that shows you
are NOT AFRAID to be a man with desire
for a woman, and yet also you are a man of
RESPECT for the SACRED bond as well.
And although MANY women still aren't
courageous enough to adopt this attitude
in their ACTIONS, some women indeed
do, and these "great girls" DO exist.
But you must have conviction in your
attitudes about these things, otherwise
you will give up too soon, and also
when you DO meet a woman who
DOES share these values, you don't
want HER to think you are WEAK
on these issues.
You want to stand out CLEARLY for being the kind of man that genuinely believes that the bond between a man and a woman must be viewed as something sacred, otherwise the bond ERODES.
I really do believe in what I am saying here
regarding these things.
This is yet ANOTHER reason why I have
never been a fan of filming women that
are being approached. I don’t like the idea
of finding a woman who is possibly a truly
GOOD WOMAN, a GREAT GIRL so to
speak, and “using” her just for the purpose
of a FILM, when she has NO IDEA she is
being filmed with a hidden camera.
I also believe the PHYSICAL CONTACT
between a man and woman is so powerful,
that it should not be treated as a COMMERCIAL
product, and so I would never engage in
physical make-outs with a woman who
does not even know what is going on
and that she is being filmed, etc, etc.
In fact, if someone needs to resort to THAT
level of physical contact to get a woman to
LIKE HIM, then he truly does not know a
thing about ANY human, never mind how
to truly attract a woman and how to connect
with her.
The MIND is the most powerful resource,
not the body, and the MIND should be the
first level you interact with, which is not
only RESPECTFUL, but also the very fact
you show RESPECT is one of the things
a QUALITY WOMAN is looking for in a man.
So it’s not some kind of SACRIFICE to
not cheapen yourself in the approach you
make to a woman, it’s actually the ONLY
way to go if you are trying to attract the
kind of woman that will treat the bond she
has with you as sacred as well.
Also, can you IMAGINE how powerful
the PHYSICAL connection is going to
be if you can get her MELTING for you
without you going into "make-out" mode?
Now, there are VERY few men or women
around with the fortitude to be open and honest
about all these things in a society that will brandish
them as backward for having wisdom.
And yet, this makes to women all the
more special the few men who behave
in a way that shows they DO understand
the need for a sacred bond between men
and women,
This is one more reason why you really
shouldn’t be too concerned about how
your approach is going to go when you
see a woman you’d like to meet.
You have no clue what she is really like.
The real truth is, there is NO pressure, since
until you determine what level of wisdom
SHE is on, there is no POINT in even THINKING
of dating her.
In a way, by adopting this approach, you
are “stealing the frame” that women USED
to use with men a long time ago, before
sky-high levels of female promiscuity
kicked in.
What I am referring to is a time when women
were actually really CAREFUL about who they
dated and were really looking to see the character
of the men they dated.
Women HAD to be careful, since at that
time, women weren’t dating for fun only,
they were mostly dating for the purpose
of marriage, so they needed to know
the LONG TERM consequences of
being with a man before they got too
involved with him.
Of course, this made MEN try harder to
live up to women’s expectations, and
without playing a game, YOU can now
do the same thing with WOMEN, as
you can now be the one who has no
pressure, for YOU are the one SCREENING
her.
This is not a game, it should be authentic,
but it does have the added impact of
actually making you come across as more
attractive and selective.
I really have to get going now but I wanted
to leave you with the important message
above, and let me close by saying one last
thing:
I think you can tell that I’m not out to
take your money. Time and again, I’ve
done things that make no commercial
sense, such as NOT jumping on the pickup
artist bandwagon when I could have easily
done that and made a lot of money from it.
I care about the TRUTH.
This means that what you read here is
not motivated by a desire to make SALES,
but a desire to help men and women live
together in HARMONY.
What it also means though is that since most
people are too weak to handle the truth, and
prefer to live in illusion until the illusion cracks
and they are forced to learn the hard way,
I actually only have a small but very educated,
very wise, very cool group of people that follow
my blog, programs, etc.
That means there isn’t MASS PRODUCTION
going on here, and so I must charge considerably
more than others in this field for my time when I
am giving you a personal consultation.
In exchange, though, you are getting the very
best, most accurate, most powerful advice on the
planet for improving your life when it comes to
success with the opposite sex.
I can assure you that one hour with me WILL
change your life, if you just FOLLOW my
advice.
For a personal consultation, just send me an
email letting me know you are interested
and I will get back to you with full details.
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http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Mchael Marks
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