Saturday, February 15, 2014

How To Go About Attracting Women: The BIG Picture AND The Details

Man, do I have a TON of important insights I want to share with you for how to go about attracting women. 

First, I want to address a big question:

1. “WHY NOT JUST GET PHYSICAL?”

If you know my work over the years, it
has never just been about “how to get
women in bed with you” EVER.

This was not some religious crusade.
This was not some marketing angle.

It stems from my sincere belief that sex
desire is the absolute STRONGEST
motivating force aside from the desire for
survival itself.

And because that desire is SO STRONG,
SO POWERFUL, it is important that YOU
are the one in the “driver’s seat” so to speak,
rather than your desires controlling YOU.

You can’t just get into a JET FIGHTER and
fly the aircraft without TRAINING.  It moves
too fast, the g-forces are too powerful, the
gauges too complex. 

But with proper training, insight, and experience,
a pilot can fly the aircraft so smoothly that
he BECOMES one with the machine. 

He RESPECTS the power, he UNDERSTANDS it,
and he CONTROLS it.

When it comes to entering the world of attracting
women, and all the details regarding dating,
attraction, and relationships, you are actually
entering a world that is far more complex than
even the most sophisticated fighter jets. 
   
Attraction to a woman, and getting that woman,
can be a BEAUTIFUL thing.  It gives you ZEST,
it gives you energy, it gives you MOTIVATION,
it ADDS PASSION to EVERYTHING that you do. 

However, if this desire, if this need, if this
super-powerful force is handled in the WRONG
WAY, then it can create an INFINITE LIST of
problems, from WEAKENING your focus on
EVERYTHING ELSE that is important in your
life, to causing you to get addicted to the WRONG
woman, which can lead you to ABSOLUTE MISERY.

It can make you depressed; it can make you angry.
It can make you weak; it can DESTROY you.

A HUGE part of success is finding the kind of
woman who UNDERSTANDS all this as well.

We are living in a time where VERY FEW
men OR women understand the things I
am talking about.

So many people today think that as SOON as
you don’t CHOOSE to have wild orgies, or
a life of promiscuity, or a “heheheh let’s all
be male and female sluts” that you must be
some religious extremist.

There is a pervading mentality that the more
SUPERFICIAL you can make sex, the BETTER
your life will be, and the more DEVOTED you
make yourself to your partner, the LESS enjoyable
your life will be.

The problem with this, and you can easily prove
this by simple observation or experience, is that
if you take the “superficial” approach, there is
actually NO POINT at which you will find
“NIRVANNA” or any kind of lasting positive
feeling.

This is because the animal-drive part of us is
HARD-WIRED to NEVER GET ENOUGH.

We EVOLVED to be this way, or we would
never have been MOTIVATED enough to mate
in an ancient world where life was short, full
of just about every type of danger imaginable,
and attracting mates was insanely competitive
as well as dangerous.

So ONLY THOSE MEN who had this trait of
“I FEEL THE CRAZY HOTS FOR WOMEN”
would ever reproduce and have progeny. 

And, to be honest, in ancient times, women ALSO
had to be pretty motivated to go through with all the
hassle involved with mating, including bearing
children, and also involved with trying to find
a NEW man to help raise the children if the previous
man DUMPED her to go find NEW WOMEN TO
MATE WITH.

So we have these crazy powerful drives to mate
with the opposite sex.  And NOTHING is going
to change that.  In fact, trying to “SATISFY”
that drive by giving it EXACTLY WHAT IT
WANTS only makes that drive even STRONGER,
since it awakens that very part of the brain that
says “IT’S TIME TO GO INTO ANIMAL MODE”.

Now, none of this makes someone evil or bad
if they DO adopt the strategy of just trying
to get endless women. 

However, USUALLY, that strategy ends up
just turning a man’s life into CHAOS, and
ends up costing him just about everything
he holds precious, from his career, to his
health, to his personal goals, to his energy,
to his creativity, etc, etc, etc.

So all THIS is my real reason for creating
GET A GREAT GIRL.

It has nothing to do with religion, extremism, or with somehow not appreciating why so many men do indeed pursue endless women.
It has to do with INTELLIGENCE and the BIG PICTURE.

And there are awfully few men and women
around today who understand the big picture.

This is why you get the typical modern woman
today who has tons of male partners, who
experiments with women, who just can’t seem
to ever feel good enough about any one man
to really commit to him without also having
so-called male “friends” on the side, and who
also needs to have her career take priority
over everything else until the last drops of
hope of having children are still in her, 
and who needs to “party”. 

Of course, most men are in on this insanity
as well, because if more men would not
accept the b.s. that women dish out, women
would think twice about how they behaved.

It’s a SOCIETAL issue.  Most men and most
women don’t have a clue that they are all
taking the wrong path.

By the way, if women and men WERE so happy
with the new way things have gone since the
so called sexual revolution, then why is it
that almost NO ONE today seems to be able
to speak of the great love of their lives?  All
they can speak of are their most recent last 4
partners and barely remember their names.

And yet, which are the some of the highest
grossing movies, year after year? Romance
movies about great love, and I’m not just
talking typical chick flicks.  I’m talking even
JERRY MAGUIRE. And even this past year,
Silver Linings Playbook. People DO know,
in their gut, what the IDEAL love is, and
they WANT it, they FANTASIZE about it.

Now, on the OTHER HAND, if you COMBINE
that animalistic LUST with certain OTHER
FORCES, you get a very different creation.

What I mean is that if you combine LUST
with a good heaping serving of LOVE,
DEDICATION, and OTHER POSITIVE
GOALS in life, you then TEMPER the
animalistic drive in a very NATURAL
way, because these OTHER forces
such as LOVE and DEDICATION and
positive AMBITIONS and ASPIRATIONS
are ALSO very HARD-WIRED forces
that put everything into BALANCE
in your mind.

The thing is, these OTHER forces are
relatively NEWER developments in your
brain, they came along LATER in the
evolutionary process, and so they aren’t
as EASY to tap into as ISOLATED LUST is.

By the way, when I say “isolated lust”,
this INCLUDES the bullshit version of
love that comes from the HALO EFFECT
where guys find an attractive woman
and then “backwards rationalize” why
they feel so strongly about the woman,
and they come up with REASONS
for why they “really love” the woman,
and they really BELIEVE their own
reasons, because they don’t want to
believe that they REALLY are only
into her because of LUST.

So that’s not genuine “love”, although
I do understand that on a “feeling”
level, it might trick you into believing
that it is love that you feel.   

But getting back to the main point, which
is that when you COMBINE the lust with
OTHER positive forces, like love, dedication,
and having OTHER positive aspirations in
your life, you then ALIGN all the elements
in your mind for HARMONY and success
in your life, because you are now ABLE
to focus and USE that energy, that zest,
that passion, in a consistent and long-term
way. 

This means you not only make a great relationship,
but you also succeed in the rest of your life,
which also allows you to bring a lot of positive
energy BACK into the relationship as well,
as no woman wants a man who ONLY wants
to be around her all day, no matter how in
love she is, as it’s simply not healthy or natural
to have nothing else one does in their life but
be around their partner romantically.

So, for these reasons, you must not only
be disciplined yourself, but you must also
choose a woman who UNDERSTANDS
these things and lives by the same code
for her OWN life as well.

A woman that does not “hang out” with platonic
male friends for “drinks”, because this is b.s.
and any woman who is honest and attractive
knows that straight men who find women
attractive don’t want to stop at being friends,
and straight men have other things to do with
their PRECIOUS free time than spend it hanging
around attractive women who will ONLY be friends.

A woman that does not need to sleep with half
the planet before she comes to the conclusion
that it’s not working to satisfy her.

Bottom line is, you need to see the signs about
a woman’s values, personality, character, and
lifestyle as soon as possible, so you don’t waste
precious months and years on the wrong women.

This leads me to point number 2, which is:

2. JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN LIKES YOU DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS RIGHT FOR YOU

This was a HUGE lesson for me to learn.

I used to tell women right up front about what
things were important to me, what my values
were, what kind of person and relationship I
was seeking, so that this way she could KNOW
whether we had a chance of actually getting
ALONG long-term.

I figured this would SAVE HER as well, from
wasting her time if she knew that she was very
DIFFERENT from me.

It made NO SENSE TO ME AT ALL that
an attractive woman could POSSIBLY waste
her time on a guy who was NOT compatible,
when there were SO MANY OTHER MEN
OUT THERE who she could date, who would
be MORE compatible.

But then I realized something very BIG, and
it took me YEARS to learn this lesson.

UNLIKE THE DISNEY CARTOONS, and
UNLIKE ALL THE WOMEN ON DAYTIME
TALK SHOWS WHO SAY THEY JUST WANT
A GOOD MAN, the TRUTH is that A LOT OF
WOMEN want a GOOD MAN, but don’t want
to RETURN THE FAVOUR by being a
GOOD WOMAN too.

In other words, YES, women WOULD LOVE
to have a man of integrity, a man who will
not cheat, a man who is hard-working, a man
with principles, a man who is passionate, etc.

But not all women are PREPARED to be the
SAME KIND OF WOMAN in return!

Yup, plenty, plenty, PLEEEEEENTY of women
will LIE THROUGH THEIR TEETH and tell you
“YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
YOU ARE EXACTLY what I am looking for,
and I am EXACTLY what you are looking for. I
am TOTALLY FAITHFUL, and totally appreciative
of a good man, and I am NOT into partying,
NOT into being promiscuous, NOT into the
superficial only”.

They will tell you all this in order to GET YOU
if you ARE a good man with great principles.

In other words, GOOD MEN and GOOD
WOMEN of fidelity and pure intention are
ALWAYS in demand, the problem is that
they are in demand even by people who have
NO INTENTIONS of giving back this devotion
and purity.

So, if you are a good guy reading this,
remember that just because YOU WOULD
NOT LIE to a woman, does not mean a
WOMAN WOULD NOT LIE to you.

Take it as a bit of a compliment that indeed
you HAVE great value.

So although a lot of women WANT a good
man, they don’t want a good man ENOUGH
to actually be GOOD WOMEN themselves,
and they figure that somehow YOU will be
so HAPPY to have sex with them that you
will not mind the fact that the very FOUNDATION
of the whole relationship is a LIE.

A LIE THAT IS READY TO IMPLODE AT
ANY SECOND.

Specifically, the second you REALIZE what is
ACTUALLY GOING ON.

So, if you SENSE that a woman is NOT who
she keeps on TRYING TO CONVINCE you
she is, you should RUN AT TOP SPEED
in the other direction. Preferably, you should
take a ROCKET out of there to get out as fast
as possible. Get OUT of there, whatever it takes:
Grab a car, a plane, and if need be, SWIM.

Again, this is why I created GET A GREAT GIRL.

Most women are NOT great women.
If you are a GOOD GUY, then you ESPECIALLY
have to make sure you get a great girl, or you will
never be happy, because to you, VALUES mean
EVERYTHING.

Okay, so NOW, with that out of the way, allow
me to get to the FUN stuff, the stuff  that is
all about HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN:.

3. KEEPING IT MASCULINE and PRESERVINGthe MASCULINE/FEMININE POLARITY

Since day one, I have been emphasizing how
important it is to “Be the MAN” if you want
to attract women.

That means if you are trying to ATTRACT
a woman, don’t try to do it by becoming her
GIRLFRIEND, THERAPIST, or emotional
sounding board.

Once a woman is ALREADY attracted to you
and you are physically intimate with her,
YES, you should be supportive, etc., but EVEN
then, be supportive in a MASCULINE way.

So, for example, it’s almost a cliché that married
women say the NUMBER ONE THING that men
can do to increase the attraction feelings that women
will have for their men is to HELP WITH
HOUSEWORK. 

But it turns out, the TRUTH is that men who
HELP with THE PARTICULAR HOUSEHOLD
ACTIVITIES ASSOCIATED WITH WOMEN
ended up getting LESS sex than the men who
helped around the house by doing more
MASCULINE-associated activities like
FIXING THINGS, SHOVELING SNOW,
ETC.

Now, it has not been proven that this is for
sure a CAUSAL connection, but it makes
SENSE if indeed it IS a causal connection.

Women and men are turned on by the DIFFERENCES between men and women.

The masculine/feminine POLARITY is the ESSENCE of ATTRACTION.

It doesn’t even MATTER if an activity is
INHERENTLY MASCULINE OR
INHERENTLY FEMININE.

It is enough that there is the PERCEPTION that an activity is masculine or feminine.

This is probably the REASON why for
THOUSANDS of years, it was even
considered IMMORAL for men to
behave or dress like women and vice
versa. 

This was likely done to PRESERVE the ATTRACTION between the sexes.

In fact, what is SO fascinating here, is
that DIFFERENCES are so important,
that even GAY MEN AND GAY WOMEN
illustrate this point as well.

So for example, gay women tend to choose
partners based on similarities.  Guess what?
Gay women statistically have less sex than
straight men and women.

Guess what else? Gay men tend to choose
partners based on DIFFERENCES.
They tend to have the MOST sex.

And straight couples tend to fall in the middle,
where it seems there is an emphasis on both
differences (the OBVIOUS masculine-feminine polarity)
AND similarities (the “We have stuff in common”
rapport element of relationships).

My point is, if you want to INCREASE the
ATTRACTION that a woman feels for you,
then UP THE MASCULINE elements of your
dynamic with her.

You can display chivalry.
You can be protective.
You can be dominant and assertive in bed.
You can be dominant and take the initiative
in choosing where to go for a date/dinner.
(She can always suggest her ideas if she wants).

DIFFERENT IS GOOD.

By the way, this works in reverse as well, too.
If you want to increase the attraction YOU
feel for a woman, perhaps open yourself
up to dating women that are different from
you, not in terms of CORE VALUES but
in terms of EVERYTHING ELSE.

This will SKYROCKET your own enjoyment as well.

4. ESTABLISH YOU ARE SEXUAL, RIGHT AWAY

It is fitting that after starting this newsletter
talking all about tempering lust with other
things, I want to ALSO remind you that
you should establish yourself in her mind
VERY EARLY ON as a man who is very
comfortable being sexual.

The reason for this, is that if you DON’T
do this right away, you will end  up
TALKING AND TALKING AND
TALKING and building this MASSIVE
and almost INDESTRUCTIBLE impression
of yourself as a NON-SEXUAL person.

This is HORRIBLE for attraction and
for your future together with her.   

The reason is that it’s very HARD for most
men or women to make the PSYCHOLOGICAL
transition to the sexual with a person they have
really EMBLAZONED into their own mind
as NOT sexual.

The LAST thing you want is a woman to feel
GUILTY or IMMORAL about getting physical
with you.

So, by incorporating the sexual into even your
EARLIEST conversation with her, in a playful
way, you make a first impression that is SEXUAL.

And FIRST IMPRESSIONS LAST.

The more she can feel GOOD about getting
EXTREMELY NAUGHTY with you, the BETTER.

And so it’s important that YOU convey that you
have no issues with sex, that you enjoy it, and that
you see her in a sexual dimension.

You should not OVERDO this, as you don’t
want to come across as INSANE.   

But a few playful comments, and one or two
well-chosen, well timed compliments about the
way she looks and how that makes you feel, 
go a LONG WAY toward making her start
to fantasize about being with you.

There is nothing to be ashamed of. After all,
the fact she is a woman and you are a man IS the
whole reason you are there together in the first place.

And if you are reading this right now, I think
you can tell that I care about a lot more than
JUST getting guys into bed with women.

I care about the BIG PICTURE of your success
with women.  And right now, I am making a
HISTORIC OFFER that is ONCE IN A LIFETIME
ONLY:

For ONE WEEK ONLY, I will open up my CONSULTATION SERVICE to ANY MAN who GENUINELY wants it. 

The cost of a phone consultation with me is normally $800 for one hour, and in person is $1000 for one hour. These are not inflated rates, they have been steady at this rate on my site for quite a while now.

However, I have been getting a LOT of emails lately,
asking for advice, and I would like to take care of
these emails, but if I do, I have to turn myself away
for a while from an important project I’m working on.

So this means I can ONLY do this for ONE week. For ONE week, I will ONLY be charging $99 for one hour of personal phone-coaching with me.

I have been coaching men in this area called
dating, attracting women, and relationships, for
over TEN YEARS.  I have seen just about
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seen YOUR situation or dilemma before as well,
and I can SOLVE it for you QUICKLY.

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If you have questions about how the phone coaching
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This special offer, however, is not listed on the website.
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Saturday, February 22, 2014.
   
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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