How To Go About Attracting Women: The BIG Picture AND The Details

Man, do I have a TON of important insights I want to share with you for how to go about attracting women. 

First, I want to address a big question:

1. “WHY NOT JUST GET PHYSICAL?”

If you know my work over the years, it

has never just been about “how to get

women in bed with you” EVER.

This was not some religious crusade.

This was not some marketing angle.

It stems from my sincere belief that sex

desire is the absolute STRONGEST

motivating force aside from the desire for

survival itself.

And because that desire is SO STRONG,

SO POWERFUL, it is important that YOU

are the one in the “driver’s seat” so to speak,

rather than your desires controlling YOU.

You can’t just get into a JET FIGHTER and

fly the aircraft without TRAINING.  It moves

too fast, the g-forces are too powerful, the

gauges too complex. 

But with proper training, insight, and experience,

a pilot can fly the aircraft so smoothly that

he BECOMES one with the machine. 

He RESPECTS the power, he UNDERSTANDS it,

and he CONTROLS it.

When it comes to entering the world of attracting

women, and all the details regarding dating,

attraction, and relationships, you are actually

entering a world that is far more complex than

even the most sophisticated fighter jets. 

   

Attraction to a woman, and getting that woman,

can be a BEAUTIFUL thing.  It gives you ZEST,

it gives you energy, it gives you MOTIVATION,

it ADDS PASSION to EVERYTHING that you do. 

However, if this desire, if this need, if this

super-powerful force is handled in the WRONG

WAY, then it can create an INFINITE LIST of

problems, from WEAKENING your focus on

EVERYTHING ELSE that is important in your

life, to causing you to get addicted to the WRONG

woman, which can lead you to ABSOLUTE MISERY.

It can make you depressed; it can make you angry.

It can make you weak; it can DESTROY you.

A HUGE part of success is finding the kind of

woman who UNDERSTANDS all this as well.

We are living in a time where VERY FEW

men OR women understand the things I

am talking about.

So many people today think that as SOON as

you don’t CHOOSE to have wild orgies, or

a life of promiscuity, or a “heheheh let’s all

be male and female sluts” that you must be

some religious extremist.

There is a pervading mentality that the more

SUPERFICIAL you can make sex, the BETTER

your life will be, and the more DEVOTED you

make yourself to your partner, the LESS enjoyable

your life will be.

The problem with this, and you can easily prove

this by simple observation or experience, is that

if you take the “superficial” approach, there is

actually NO POINT at which you will find

“NIRVANNA” or any kind of lasting positive

feeling.

This is because the animal-drive part of us is

HARD-WIRED to NEVER GET ENOUGH.

We EVOLVED to be this way, or we would

never have been MOTIVATED enough to mate

in an ancient world where life was short, full

of just about every type of danger imaginable,

and attracting mates was insanely competitive

as well as dangerous.

So ONLY THOSE MEN who had this trait of

“I FEEL THE CRAZY HOTS FOR WOMEN”

would ever reproduce and have progeny. 

And, to be honest, in ancient times, women ALSO

had to be pretty motivated to go through with all the

hassle involved with mating, including bearing

children, and also involved with trying to find

a NEW man to help raise the children if the previous

man DUMPED her to go find NEW WOMEN TO

MATE WITH.

So we have these crazy powerful drives to mate

with the opposite sex.  And NOTHING is going

to change that.  In fact, trying to “SATISFY”

that drive by giving it EXACTLY WHAT IT

WANTS only makes that drive even STRONGER,

since it awakens that very part of the brain that

says “IT’S TIME TO GO INTO ANIMAL MODE”.

Now, none of this makes someone evil or bad

if they DO adopt the strategy of just trying

to get endless women. 

However, USUALLY, that strategy ends up

just turning a man’s life into CHAOS, and

ends up costing him just about everything

he holds precious, from his career, to his

health, to his personal goals, to his energy,

to his creativity, etc, etc, etc.

So all THIS is my real reason for creating

GET A GREAT GIRL.

It has nothing to do with religion, extremism, or with somehow not appreciating why so many men do indeed pursue endless women.

It has to do with INTELLIGENCE and the BIG PICTURE.

And there are awfully few men and women

around today who understand the big picture.

This is why you get the typical modern woman

today who has tons of male partners, who

experiments with women, who just can’t seem

to ever feel good enough about any one man

to really commit to him without also having

so-called male “friends” on the side, and who

also needs to have her career take priority

over everything else until the last drops of

hope of having children are still in her, 

and who needs to “party”. 

Of course, most men are in on this insanity

as well, because if more men would not

accept the b.s. that women dish out, women

would think twice about how they behaved.

It’s a SOCIETAL issue.  Most men and most

women don’t have a clue that they are all

taking the wrong path.

By the way, if women and men WERE so happy

with the new way things have gone since the

so called sexual revolution, then why is it

that almost NO ONE today seems to be able

to speak of the great love of their lives?  All

they can speak of are their most recent last 4

partners and barely remember their names.

And yet, which are the some of the highest

grossing movies, year after year? Romance

movies about great love, and I’m not just

talking typical chick flicks.  I’m talking even

JERRY MAGUIRE. And even this past year,

Silver Linings Playbook. People DO know,

in their gut, what the IDEAL love is, and

they WANT it, they FANTASIZE about it.

Now, on the OTHER HAND, if you COMBINE

that animalistic LUST with certain OTHER

FORCES, you get a very different creation.

What I mean is that if you combine LUST

with a good heaping serving of LOVE,

DEDICATION, and OTHER POSITIVE

GOALS in life, you then TEMPER the

animalistic drive in a very NATURAL

way, because these OTHER forces

such as LOVE and DEDICATION and

positive AMBITIONS and ASPIRATIONS

are ALSO very HARD-WIRED forces

that put everything into BALANCE

in your mind.

The thing is, these OTHER forces are

relatively NEWER developments in your

brain, they came along LATER in the

evolutionary process, and so they aren’t

as EASY to tap into as ISOLATED LUST is.

By the way, when I say “isolated lust”,

this INCLUDES the bullshit version of

love that comes from the HALO EFFECT

where guys find an attractive woman

and then “backwards rationalize” why

they feel so strongly about the woman,

and they come up with REASONS

for why they “really love” the woman,

and they really BELIEVE their own

reasons, because they don’t want to

believe that they REALLY are only

into her because of LUST.

So that’s not genuine “love”, although

I do understand that on a “feeling”

level, it might trick you into believing

that it is love that you feel.   

But getting back to the main point, which

is that when you COMBINE the lust with

OTHER positive forces, like love, dedication,

and having OTHER positive aspirations in

your life, you then ALIGN all the elements

in your mind for HARMONY and success

in your life, because you are now ABLE

to focus and USE that energy, that zest,

that passion, in a consistent and long-term

way. 

This means you not only make a great relationship,

but you also succeed in the rest of your life,

which also allows you to bring a lot of positive

energy BACK into the relationship as well,

as no woman wants a man who ONLY wants

to be around her all day, no matter how in

love she is, as it’s simply not healthy or natural

to have nothing else one does in their life but

be around their partner romantically.

So, for these reasons, you must not only

be disciplined yourself, but you must also

choose a woman who UNDERSTANDS

these things and lives by the same code

for her OWN life as well.

A woman that does not “hang out” with platonic

male friends for “drinks”, because this is b.s.

and any woman who is honest and attractive

knows that straight men who find women

attractive don’t want to stop at being friends,

and straight men have other things to do with

their PRECIOUS free time than spend it hanging

around attractive women who will ONLY be friends.

A woman that does not need to sleep with half

the planet before she comes to the conclusion

that it’s not working to satisfy her.

Bottom line is, you need to see the signs about

a woman’s values, personality, character, and

lifestyle as soon as possible, so you don’t waste

precious months and years on the wrong women.

This leads me to point number 2, which is:

2. JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN LIKES YOU DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS RIGHT FOR YOU

This was a HUGE lesson for me to learn.

I used to tell women right up front about what

things were important to me, what my values

were, what kind of person and relationship I

was seeking, so that this way she could KNOW

whether we had a chance of actually getting

ALONG long-term.

I figured this would SAVE HER as well, from

wasting her time if she knew that she was very

DIFFERENT from me.

It made NO SENSE TO ME AT ALL that

an attractive woman could POSSIBLY waste

her time on a guy who was NOT compatible,

when there were SO MANY OTHER MEN

OUT THERE who she could date, who would

be MORE compatible.

But then I realized something very BIG, and

it took me YEARS to learn this lesson.

UNLIKE THE DISNEY CARTOONS, and

UNLIKE ALL THE WOMEN ON DAYTIME

TALK SHOWS WHO SAY THEY JUST WANT

A GOOD MAN, the TRUTH is that A LOT OF

WOMEN want a GOOD MAN, but don’t want

to RETURN THE FAVOUR by being a

GOOD WOMAN too.

In other words, YES, women WOULD LOVE

to have a man of integrity, a man who will

not cheat, a man who is hard-working, a man

with principles, a man who is passionate, etc.

But not all women are PREPARED to be the

SAME KIND OF WOMAN in return!

Yup, plenty, plenty, PLEEEEEENTY of women

will LIE THROUGH THEIR TEETH and tell you

“YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

YOU ARE EXACTLY what I am looking for,

and I am EXACTLY what you are looking for. I

am TOTALLY FAITHFUL, and totally appreciative

of a good man, and I am NOT into partying,

NOT into being promiscuous, NOT into the

superficial only”.

They will tell you all this in order to GET YOU

if you ARE a good man with great principles.

In other words, GOOD MEN and GOOD

WOMEN of fidelity and pure intention are

ALWAYS in demand, the problem is that

they are in demand even by people who have

NO INTENTIONS of giving back this devotion

and purity.

So, if you are a good guy reading this,

remember that just because YOU WOULD

NOT LIE to a woman, does not mean a

WOMAN WOULD NOT LIE to you.

Take it as a bit of a compliment that indeed

you HAVE great value.

So although a lot of women WANT a good

man, they don’t want a good man ENOUGH

to actually be GOOD WOMEN themselves,

and they figure that somehow YOU will be

so HAPPY to have sex with them that you

will not mind the fact that the very FOUNDATION

of the whole relationship is a LIE.

A LIE THAT IS READY TO IMPLODE AT

ANY SECOND.

Specifically, the second you REALIZE what is

ACTUALLY GOING ON.

So, if you SENSE that a woman is NOT who

she keeps on TRYING TO CONVINCE you

she is, you should RUN AT TOP SPEED

in the other direction. Preferably, you should

take a ROCKET out of there to get out as fast

as possible. Get OUT of there, whatever it takes:

Grab a car, a plane, and if need be, SWIM.

Again, this is why I created GET A GREAT GIRL.

Most women are NOT great women.

If you are a GOOD GUY, then you ESPECIALLY

have to make sure you get a great girl, or you will

never be happy, because to you, VALUES mean

EVERYTHING.

Okay, so NOW, with that out of the way, allow

me to get to the FUN stuff, the stuff  that is

all about HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN:.

3. KEEPING IT MASCULINE and PRESERVINGthe MASCULINE/FEMININE POLARITY

Since day one, I have been emphasizing how

important it is to “Be the MAN” if you want

to attract women.

That means if you are trying to ATTRACT

a woman, don’t try to do it by becoming her

GIRLFRIEND, THERAPIST, or emotional

sounding board.

Once a woman is ALREADY attracted to you

and you are physically intimate with her,

YES, you should be supportive, etc., but EVEN

then, be supportive in a MASCULINE way.

So, for example, it’s almost a cliché that married

women say the NUMBER ONE THING that men

can do to increase the attraction feelings that women

will have for their men is to HELP WITH

HOUSEWORK. 

But it turns out, the TRUTH is that men who

HELP with THE PARTICULAR HOUSEHOLD

ACTIVITIES ASSOCIATED WITH WOMEN

ended up getting LESS sex than the men who

helped around the house by doing more

MASCULINE-associated activities like

FIXING THINGS, SHOVELING SNOW,

ETC.

Now, it has not been proven that this is for

sure a CAUSAL connection, but it makes

SENSE if indeed it IS a causal connection.

Women and men are turned on by the DIFFERENCES between men and women.

The masculine/feminine POLARITY is the ESSENCE of ATTRACTION.

It doesn’t even MATTER if an activity is

INHERENTLY MASCULINE OR

INHERENTLY FEMININE.

It is enough that there is the PERCEPTION that an activity is masculine or feminine.

This is probably the REASON why for

THOUSANDS of years, it was even

considered IMMORAL for men to

behave or dress like women and vice

versa. 

This was likely done to PRESERVE the ATTRACTION between the sexes.

In fact, what is SO fascinating here, is

that DIFFERENCES are so important,

that even GAY MEN AND GAY WOMEN

illustrate this point as well.

So for example, gay women tend to choose

partners based on similarities.  Guess what?

Gay women statistically have less sex than

straight men and women.

Guess what else? Gay men tend to choose

partners based on DIFFERENCES.

They tend to have the MOST sex.

And straight couples tend to fall in the middle,

where it seems there is an emphasis on both

differences (the OBVIOUS masculine-feminine polarity)

AND similarities (the “We have stuff in common”

rapport element of relationships).

My point is, if you want to INCREASE the

ATTRACTION that a woman feels for you,

then UP THE MASCULINE elements of your

dynamic with her.

You can display chivalry.

You can be protective.

You can be dominant and assertive in bed.

You can be dominant and take the initiative

in choosing where to go for a date/dinner.

(She can always suggest her ideas if she wants).

DIFFERENT IS GOOD.

By the way, this works in reverse as well, too.

If you want to increase the attraction YOU

feel for a woman, perhaps open yourself

up to dating women that are different from

you, not in terms of CORE VALUES but

in terms of EVERYTHING ELSE.

This will SKYROCKET your own enjoyment as well.

4. ESTABLISH YOU ARE SEXUAL, RIGHT AWAY

It is fitting that after starting this newsletter

talking all about tempering lust with other

things, I want to ALSO remind you that

you should establish yourself in her mind

VERY EARLY ON as a man who is very

comfortable being sexual.

The reason for this, is that if you DON’T

do this right away, you will end  up

TALKING AND TALKING AND

TALKING and building this MASSIVE

and almost INDESTRUCTIBLE impression

of yourself as a NON-SEXUAL person.

This is HORRIBLE for attraction and

for your future together with her.   

The reason is that it’s very HARD for most

men or women to make the PSYCHOLOGICAL

transition to the sexual with a person they have

really EMBLAZONED into their own mind

as NOT sexual.

The LAST thing you want is a woman to feel

GUILTY or IMMORAL about getting physical

with you.

So, by incorporating the sexual into even your

EARLIEST conversation with her, in a playful

way, you make a first impression that is SEXUAL.

And FIRST IMPRESSIONS LAST.

The more she can feel GOOD about getting

EXTREMELY NAUGHTY with you, the BETTER.

And so it’s important that YOU convey that you

have no issues with sex, that you enjoy it, and that

you see her in a sexual dimension.

You should not OVERDO this, as you don’t

want to come across as INSANE.   

But a few playful comments, and one or two

well-chosen, well timed compliments about the

way she looks and how that makes you feel, 

go a LONG WAY toward making her start

to fantasize about being with you.

There is nothing to be ashamed of. After all,

the fact she is a woman and you are a man IS the

whole reason you are there together in the first place.

And if you are reading this right now, I think

you can tell that I care about a lot more than

JUST getting guys into bed with women.

I care about the BIG PICTURE of your success

with women.  And right now, I am making a

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ONLY:

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The cost of a phone consultation with me is normally $800 for one hour, and in person is $1000 for one hour. These are not inflated rates, they have been steady at this rate on my site for quite a while now.

However, I have been getting a LOT of emails lately,

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So this means I can ONLY do this for ONE week. For ONE week, I will ONLY be charging $99 for one hour of personal phone-coaching with me.

I have been coaching men in this area called

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Till next time,

Michael Marks