How To Be The Winner Women Want

Women want winners.

It’s as simple as that.

Women are HARDWIRED to

be ATTRACTED to winners.

Winners will ensure their own

survival, the survival of their

children, and will continue the

GENES that create the INTELLIGENCE

and other essential traits that

ENSURE survival in the children.

This is all HARDWIRED into a

woman's brain.  She is not

even consciously THINKING about

this stuff unless she happens

to be a PhD in this area.

The bottom line is, women can

SENSE winners, and size up a

man QUICKLY to see if he indeed

IS a winner.

And they feel OVERWHELMING

ATTRACTION to men who are

WINNERS.

So today, I want to share with you

some KEY points about being a winner.

A winner is not necessarily someone

with lots of money, but it is ALWAYS

someone who shares the following traits: 

ONE: ACTION VERSUS TALKING

The real truth is that most people would all

LOVE to get certain things or achieve certain

things, but they are NOT prepared to actually

put in the EFFORT.   

So they don’t want success THAT BADLY.

They just want success, they just want to win,

if it doesn’t have to really require MASSIVE

EFFORT.

So instead of putting in EFFORT, they instead

TALK A LOT.  They talk, and talk, and friggen

TALK some MORE!

They TALK about everything that is “kind of,

sort of, in a way, maybe, possibly RELATED

to” what they want to do or achieve or get,

but they don’t actually TAKE DIRECT ACTION.

And it’s not even that TALKING is all that bad,

per se, the PROBLEM WITH TALKING is that

it takes up all your FRIGGEN' PRECIOUS TIME!!!!!

This is the reason that successful people actually

don’t do a lot of “hanging out to party with other

successful people” UNLESS THAT IS PART OF

THE JOB, they instead are busy WORKING

and TAKING ACTION.

People also TALK a lot about success because

it makes them FEEL that they are making progress

toward success, since they FEEL they put in a

TALKING effort.

It’s all BULL, though.

It’s funny, because sometimes COMEDIANS

are the only ones NOT SCARED TO TELL

THE TRUTH.  

And Sarah Silverman once said as soon as

we say “I’m thinking about”, then that means

we actually are NEVER going to do it.

So, if you say “I’m thinking about doing

x, y, or z”, you are NOT taking ACTION,

and ACTION is the only way to GET there.

DON’T JUST THINK ABOUT IT.

Instead, take up NIKE’S slogan:

JUST DO IT.

This doesn’t mean you don’t need to THINK.

Thinking is actually the MOST IMPORTANT

THING, but TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU

ARE POSSIBLY GOING TO THINK ABOUT,

AND TALKING ABOUT THINKING is not

the same as actually THINKING AND PLANNING,

and then TAKING ACTION to carry out that thinking

and planning.

If you want to be successful, take ACTION,

STOP THE TALKING, and also stop letting

your time get wasted by people who prefer

to TALK rather than take ACTION.

Keep the talking part to about 10%, and the

ACTION PART to about 90%. And that

talking part is only to communicate the

ACTIONS REQUIRED FOR SUCCESS,

and those actions are the result of THINKING,

which is the HARDEST ACTION OF ALL.

 Every second is PRECIOUS, and TALKING

is so often just THROWING OUT TIME FROM

the DOING.

See how different your life is when you stop talking

for ONE WEEK, and instead start DOING.

TWO: BE CONGRUENT: STOP CHASING CONTRADICTORY GOALS

You can’t get anywhere if you want to be in

two OPPOSITE places at the same time, or

even if you want TOO MANY THINGS at ONCE.

Let's say you want a great relationship

with a faithful woman, but you also want

to date dozens of other women.

You have to make up your mind.

You have to make sure your actions

are all CONGRUENT, or consistent,

with your goal.

Let's say you want to start a company,

but you also want to have lots of time

with your relationship.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to be healthy, but you also want to

eat junk food, or work in a place where everyone

smokes, etc.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to make LOTS of money, quickly, but you

also want to have a job you LOVE that gives you

creative freedom.

You have to make up your mind.

In order to WIN, you have to be FOCUSED.

You can’t split your energy and focus into

too many directions, and the more you

can focus it all in ONE direction, the

better.

This is why it’s so important to know what

you REALLY WANT. 

This leads to the next super-important point:

THREE: FIND THE TORTURE YOU LOVE

Again, another comedian, Jerry Seinfeld, recently

mentioned yet another crucial truth on success.

Anyone who thinks success is going to be EASY

is out of their MIND.

Even if you LOVE something, whether it is art,
music, business, math, engineering, medicine,
writing, sports, the fact is THEY ALL STILL
TAKE A HUMONGOUS AMOUNT OF EFFORT

to be SUCCESSFUL in.  

BUT IF YOU LOVE IT ENOUGH, the truth

is that even the TORTURE is something you

love as well.

A person who REALLY LOVES BODYBUILDING

actually ENJOYS THE TORTURE of the burn

of each rep and each set.

It’s not MASOCHISM, it’s an APPRECIATION

OF THE BEAUTY OF THE PROCESS.

A person who TRULY LOVES performing stand up

comedy is ALWAYS working on new material, and

NEVER STOPS THINKING about it, but LOVES

the process, LOVES the beauty of that process, and

is in a way ADDICTED to the EFFORT as well.

A great writer is TORTURED to find NEW IDEAS,

ideas that INSPIRE him or her, and will search to

the ends of the earth for something that really

SPARKS his or her soul.  But there is a JOY

even in that endless work, because again, there

is an appreciation for the process and of course

there is so much motivation for the FRUIT

of all this work, which is the art that gets

created, that inspires.

You have to love something enough to

KEEP AT IT THROUGH THE ENDLESS

TORTURE AND WORK THAT IS

INVOLVED.

But, again, when you choose a goal that

INSPIRES YOU, it is no longer something

you HATE,  rather it is something you LOVE,

including the ‘torture’ part.

FOUR: EMOTIONAL HEALTH

We are, in many ways, still living in the

STONE AGE when it comes to our

appreciation of emotional and mental

health issues.

Just like the BODY can get a millions

things that affect it, from a cold, to

a flu, to a broken bone, etc, etc, so

too the MIND and the EMOTIONS

are JUST as susceptible to “injury”

and illnesses, that require HEALING

or RECOVERY.

If you are constantly feeling depressed,

angry, or any other destructive emotion,

it’s IMPERATIVE that you get the

proper help so that you are in control

of your emotions again.

It’s damn hard to find qualified professionals

who truly CARE and who truly KNOW

what is best for you.

I suggest you start by reading a TON of

books by QUALIFIED PROFESSIONALS

in the fields of psychology and medicine,

because once you are armed with the

right information from the books, you

can then tell whether any human professionals

you meet are actually measuring up to

what they are supposed to be doing for you,

based on what you read in the books.

  

One great book out there, by the way,

is called “Feeling Good” by David Burns.

FIVE: DON’T HATE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

It is INSANE how people who claim to

want to be successful will then spend

a HUUUUUUUUUGE AMOUNT OF

TIME talking about how successful people

out there only got there because they are lucky,

are connected, etc, etc, etc.

YES, INDEED THERE IS A LOT OF

NEPOTISM, LUCK, ETC, GOING ON

IN A LOT OF SUCCESS OUT THERE

WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE.

However, USUALLY the great successes

also WORKED THEIR BRAINS AND

BUNS OFF, in order to GET successful.

Bill Gates used to SLEEP at his desk from

working such long  hours while building

the company.  Today, he gives the money

away to make the world a better place.

THAT is man driven by a lot more than

MONEY, it is a man DRIVEN to

CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE

BETTER.  But he may very well have

been driven just by money  in the

beginning, and that’s totally cool too,

because he was willing to go through

the WORK, the TORTURE.

Steve Jobs (Apple) was so PASSIONATE

about his work instead of just the money,

that even once he was SUCCESSFUL, it

took SOMEONE ELSE to remind him that

he could hire a COOK instead of having

a fridge and freezer full of TV DINNERS.

James Cameron, the director of Titanic,

Avatar, Terminator, and Aliens, was so

poor and so driven when he started that

instead of film school, he learned about

filming by PHOTOCOPYING books from

the LIBRARY on film techniques, while

working as a truck driver, and he DISASSEMBLED

cameras to learn how they worked by reverse

engineering them.

So, when people HATE on successful people,

they are subconsciously ENSURING their

OWN failures, because they are telling themselves

that success is this IMPOSSIBLE thing unless

there is something FISHY going on.

Also, it implies that each individual has NO LUCK.

The truth is, most people are FAR MORE LUCKY

than they friggen REALIZE.

They are too lazy to even REALIZE how much

POTENTIAL they have if they just GOT OFF

their BUTTS and stopped TALKING and started

taking ACTION based on REAL THINKING. 

SIX: THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX

In his book “David and Goliath”,

Malcolm Gladwell explains how so

often, people with various EXTREME

CHALLENGES end up becoming

MORE SUCCESSFUL than people

who seem to have it all.

And the reason is, because these people

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX, they

KNEW that they COULD NEVER WIN

if they looked at things THE SAME WAY

as everyone else. 

It was ONLY because they were already

in such a TOUGH, “impossible to succeed”

situation because of their challenges, that

they FORCED THEMSELVES to HAVE

to think OUTSIDE THE BOX.

They KNEW that success would be

IMPOSSIBLE ACCORDING TO ALL

NORMAL WAYS OF GETTING THERE.

So they had to start thinking of COMPLETELY

DIFFERENT WAYS than ALL “NORMAL”

APPROACHES would suggest.

In other words, just being a little challenged

was not ENOUGH to convince most people

that they had to start thinking OUTSIDE

THE BOX, in a fresh, innovative way.

But having a MAJOR challenge is what

forces many people to HAVE to think

outside the box.

Hence, the example of David and Goliath,

which is that David KNEW there was

absolutely NO WAY he could defeath

GOLIATH according to NORMAL ways,

i.e. WRESTLING WITH GOLIATH.

GOLIATH WAS HUGE, BIG, AND STRONG.

But GOLIATH, huge, bulky and slow, was not

prepared for an expert with a SLING-SHOT.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX.

And if you are reading this right now, and you

find yourself nodding your head in AGREEMENT,

then download my book on success called

WAY TO WIN.

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must ABSOLUTELY stick to in order to WIN.

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tonight if you want to arrange that consultation.

Till next time,

Michael Marks