If you are looking to meet and attract a truly
great woman who is not only beautiful
but who would also be the kind of woman
who would make for a fantastic girlfriend,
wife, mother, and life-long supporter, this
is a particularly important newsletter for you.
ONE: POPULARITY DOES NOT EQUAL GOOD
The first thing I need to make absolutely
clear is that the POPULARITY of something
is not always a great indicator of that thing’s
value.
TWO:
WHEN DEEP DOWN, YOU REALLY ARE PUTTING THE
WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL, YOU END UP SHOWING IT
So, the POPULAR ADVICE for men when it
comes to dating usually boils down to do
ANYTHING to try to get the woman, especially
to get her into bed.
There are many problems with this approach.
First of all, it puts your MIND in the WRONG
place psychologically. It puts ALL the value
on HER and none of it on your SELF.
So, even if the tactic involves PRETENDING
that you are high value, the fact is, that underneath
this charade, this game, this tactic, you would
actually feel INFERIOR worth to the woman
you are trying to attract, because, after all,
your mindset is all about how to get the woman
at all costs.
Ironically, this type of approach often ends up
REPELLING women, because women can
SENSE that lack of confidence even if the
guy is VERBALLY saying cocky remarks
or acting “hard to get” on the surface.
THREE: WOMEN ARE USUALLY BETTER AT
READING BODY LANGUAGE THAN MEN
Women are better than men at reading body
language, and this may be because they have
more practice socializing in complex ways
at an earlier age than men, whereas boys
don’t tend to engage as much in those types
of behaviors as they do in things like sports
or other stereotypically “male” actions.
So, if a guy is FAKING his emotions, women
can SENSE it.
FOUR:
SCREENING IS ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A WOMAN WITH
GREAT VALUES.
Also, if a guy is trying to get a QUALITY
woman, then it becomes even MORE important
to SCREEN a woman for the right values and
behaviors.
Now, there are some pick up artists that try to
PRETEND they are screening a woman, in order
to SEEM as if they are NOT desperate for the
woman, but the TRUTH is, this is just a tactic,
they don’t REALLY care about screening, they
just want to get her into bed.
And again, the irony is that FAKING does not
work that well anyway EVEN FOR GUYS THAT
ARE ONLY CONCERNED WITH THE SUPERFICIAL.
It is for THIS reason that guys who are only
concerned with the superficial would do much
better to be a lot more DIRECT while still showing
some class, as there are some women out there who
are looking for similar promiscuous adventures and
those women will be happy to meet a guy who is
honest and still showing some class.
But if you are looking for something a lot deeper
and a lot more long-term, if you are looking for
the kind of woman to be a true partner in the
deepest sense of the word, SCREENING becomes
INSANELY IMPORTANT.
It is important, first of all, so that you don’t waste
PRECIOUS TIME on the wrong women.
You can EASILY screen out women in just a
brief conversation. You can be on the lookout
for how she spends her time, including her free
time, you can be on the lookout for what kinds
of things she likes to talk about.
FIVE: GET HER COMFORTABLE TO REVEAL HERSELF,
BY NOT COMING ACROSS AS JUDGMENTAL.
What is on a person’s MIND will often come
out in their CHATTING, if you just let them
feel COMFORTABLE with you.
This is why it is so important that you do NOT
tell a woman right away exactly what you are
looking for OR what you value or hate.
Instead, just have a casual but interesting chat
that gets her emotionally pumped. When people
are emotional they tend to talk more because
they are FEELING the DESIRE to express themselves.
SIX: GET HER EMOTIONAL IN A POSITIVE WAY
So don’t bore a woman to sleep. Talk about
things that are INTRIGUING or INSPIRING.
Or find something about her so that you can
give her a truly HONEST compliment on
besides her looks.
SEVEN:
STOP COMPROMISING YOUR INSISTENCE ON GREAT VALUES
There’s ANOTHER really important step to
getting a quality woman, and that is to stop
COMPROMISING with yourself on what
you define as GREAT VALUES in a woman.
I swear to it, I personally think that good guys
are living in the WORST TIME IN HISTORY
for finding quality women who are STELLAR
in the traits that are important for relationships,
for marriage, and for raising a family.
I also think that it’s probably pretty hard for
the few quality women who DO exist to find
the RIGHT men who have great values as well,
but since I’m not a woman, I can’t tell you for
sure what it’s like to be a woman who is truly
loyal and faithful and who is looking for a man
who is loyal and faithful.
I don’t think that anyone should be FORCED to
live a lifestyle in which they don’t believe.
Family life is not for everyone. Marriage is not
for everyone. Relationships are not for everyone.
And in today’s current society, this is DOUBLY
true.
However, when in the RIGHT relationship, MOST
people tend to report being happier than when they
were single, and most single people are also still
trying to find someone.
EIGHT: THE BIG PICTURE
On a larger scale, a strong RELATIONSHIP is the
bedrock of a strong marriage. A strong marriage
is a great FOUNDATION for bringing up children
in the right atmosphere. Well-adjusted CHILDREN
grow up into well-adjusted ADULTS. Well adjusted
ADULTS create a HEALTHY SOCIETY. A healthy
SOCIETY means a healthy COUNTRY. A healthy
country can POSITIVELY affect the WORLD as
well.
And the OPPOSITE is true as well. A screwed-up
perception of how men and women should behave
will screw up EVERYTHING else.
NINE: SOME ELEMENTS OF THE PAST WERE WISER THAN THE PRESENT
Now, there were many things WRONG with society
back in 1950. I won’t get into them here, as I’m sure
you can figure them out on your own. But there were
SOME things that were definitely RIGHT.
And one of those things was the GENERAL VIEW
toward relationships. When a man courted a woman,
it MEANT something greater than just how to get
her into bed. It reflected his desire to COMMIT to
her, to start a FAMILY with her. It was not just
about the short-term physical.
And women, in general, were looking at men from
a more MATURE perspective. Just like men, they
were also thinking about the long-term potential,
whether a man would be hard-working or lazy,
and whether he would be a good father, etc.
Not only this, but women were doing this when
they turned 18! Women were not waiting till they
were twice that age to start thinking about the
important traits in a man. (And many women
today NEVER seem to think about it.)
FAST FORWARD TO 2013, and you have the
following scenario that takes place amongst
SOME women who are SUPPOSED to be
ready for a life-long mature COMMITTMENT
and deep-seated love and RESPECT for their
man:
BACHELORETTE PARTIES WITH MEN
STRIPPING AND SHAKING THEIR
YOU-KNOW-WHATS
And I'm not a hypocrite, I don't think that men
who are seriously in love with their future
wives, men who view marriage as sacred,
would think it is appropriate to be holding
stripper bachelor parties either.
Part of the problem is that many women have
abandoned their once PROUD role in society
as protectors of family values. It used to be that
most women would SHUN the kinds of values that
degrade the deepest levels of connection between
men and women.
Today, however, some misguided women feel they have
made "progress" and gained "equality" by trying to
duplicate the behaviors of the most promiscuous men.
In 1950, you had women in their PRIME
thinking CAREFULLY about how to find and get
a man who would be a great husband and father,
and you had women who VALUED their chastity,
who felt it was something SACRED to give to
a man...
But TODAY you have many women who are WAY PAST
THEIR PRIME, who STILL can’t put it together in
their heads that a man who is the kind of man who
has good values, who would be a good father, who
would be loyal, and a man who is STRONG enough
and SMART enough to be a great leader, would never
be STUPID enough to marry such a woman.
TEN: THIS IS WHERE I COME IN
Again, THIS is the reason GET A GREAT GIRL
was born. GET A GREAT GIRL would not be
NEEDED in 1950. Everything I write about was
OBVIOUS back then.
So let me bring this full circle:
If you want a GREAT QUALITY WOMAN, you
better FORGET the popular advice.
If you want to get that RARE kind of woman, you
HAVE to stand APART from the masses.
And again, I do not believe in violence, and I
do not believe in preaching. Do not try to
CONVINCE any woman who is messed up
on how to be a better woman.
There are some wise women around. These women
have a lot of courage to stand up for good values.
And these women standing up for good values aren't
just 90 year-old grannies. These women standing up
for eternal values include women who are intelligent
and attractive university students who are right in the
THICK of this social pressure, and yet they are
RESISTING it COMPLETELY.
ELEVEN: YOU MUST BE THE MAN AND STAY ON COURSE
I PROMISE YOU that there ARE still some
decent women around. But man oh MAN are
you going to have to be the MAN if you
are going to go after a quality woman.
You are going to meet a lot of the WRONG women
along the way.
What is even CRAZIER, is that with the CERTAINTY
and CONFIDENCE in the eternal and powerful values
that you possess, you will find a lot of these WRONG
women actually PURSUING you.
Resisting the urge to give in to the SHORT TERM
pleasure is part of the SEPARATING the men from
the boys, so to speak. The weak men will give into
these wrong women because the desire for the physical
with them while STILL not having found the RIGHT
woman will be very strong.
But giving in may very well make you LOSE some
of your CERTAINTY, some of your sense of DIRECTION,
some of your CONFIDENCE in your own values.
You are what you THINK AND DO.
So if you give into the wrong women, you will start to
RATIONALIZE and JUSTIFY to yourself all kinds of
nonsense, such as why you need to stay with this wrong
woman.
Meanwhile, the RIGHT WOMAN is out there waiting
as you spend all that time and energy and waste it
on the WRONG woman. Wasting that time and
energy is something you should not do, because
meeting the RIGHT WOMAN may take a lot of energy
and time, but it is probably the MOST IMPORTANT
THINK YOU CAN DO IN YOUR LIFE besides taking
care of your health and in fact the wrong woman will
harm your health and the right woman will improve it.
TWELVE: TAKING ACTION
Now, let me get down to the NITTY-GRITTY.
I HATE b.s.
I LOVE truth.
And the TRUTH is, that unless you have some special
connection to all the right women, you are going to have
to APPROACH WOMEN and chat with them and get
a sense of who they are.
I repeat:
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN.
You cannot expect miracles in the sense of you just
sitting at home or expecting women to just appear
out of thin air. Also, women don’t tend to do the
approaching. This is because most women are
culturally conditioned to be less "pro-active" than
men when it comes to the INITIAL approach.
Women are told that being too assertive in the
initial approach will make them seem less
feminine.
If a woman is interested in a man who is a total
stranger, usually the most she feels she can do
is INDIRECTLY make herself more available,
i.e. hanging around a certain area for longer than
usual, etc.
And you can’t give yourself excuses, as excuses
won’t help. If there are no women in one place,
go to another place where there are women.
Keep trying new places till you find places
where you can meet plenty of women.
You must SOLDIER on, approaching woman
after woman even in situations that feel awkward.
You have no idea how strong this makes you,
because what happens is that when an EASIER
approach situation comes later, you will JUMP
on it because you will have already had experience
doing so many approaches that were harder from
before.
THIRTEEN: THE INSTANT-DATE
ANOTHER super-important point is this:
GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE IF POSSIBLE
Getting a phone number is all good and fine, but
if you can, GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE.
What I mean by this is to actually take the
approach as far as possible. If the chat is
going well, then after a few minutes suggest
that you go for a coffee right then and there,
especially if there is a coffee house nearby.
You have to remember that the woman is a
total stranger, and the more you get a chance
to connect with her, the LESS CHANCE that
later she will wonder just what the heck happened
earlier that day that made her give her number
to a total stranger.
Sometimes a guy will have a great interaction with
a woman, and the woman will happily give him
her real number, but then later on she will forget
some of the details and she will wonder how on
earth she gave her number to a total stranger.
However, if she has a really LONG chat with you,
she gets a much better perspective of who you are,
and this makes her feel that it is not weird for her
to meet up with you again.
This does NOT mean that getting a woman’s
phone number is not enough. Many times, it
IS enough, because you can chat on the phone.
I’m just saying that it is even BETTER to try to
get the INSTANT DATE with her in that very
FIRST interaction you have with her.
The right woman IS out there, she is hoping to meet you.
She is NOT a typical woman from today’s society.
She is NOT impressed by the screwed up morals.
She has the ability to THINK CRITICALLY.
If you want to attract a woman who is able to
RISE ABOVE THE CRAPOLA VALUES, you
must show that you are the kind of MAN who is
RARE and who is ABOVE the stupidity that is
unfortunately so often POPULAR.
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skills on how to approach women MOST EFFECTIVELY
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If you are looking for a woman for a serious relationship
who will treat you RIGHT and be LOYAL to you long-term,
you MUST BE PREPARED on how to go about doing all this.
If you JUST want the physical, this is the EASY part.
There are tons of promiscuous women who are not looking
to commit, every weekend at the clubs, bars, lounges, etc.
But if you want a quality woman who would make for
a great wife, mother, and partner for life, you
NEED TO BE INFORMED.
I seriously suggest you take a MASSIVE action for yourself
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
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