This is one of the most important
newsletters I have ever written on
the topic of getting a truly great
girlfriend who is the total package
inside and out.
In order to get a great woman, it is
imperative that a man become the
greatest version of himself as well.
The CHALLENGE, however, is that
almost the exact INSTANT that you
make the commitment to improving
yourself, you will be faced with a
barrage of situations that TEST your
COMMITMENT to truly improving
yourself.
And the single GREATEST source of these
tests will usually come from SOCIAL PRESSURE.
So, for example, let’s say you decide to spend your
time NOT gossiping, and you happen to be having
dinner with friends one evening and one of them
or all of them are really going HEAVY on the
juicy gossip stuff.
Now, by the way, I am not judging people, as
people in general are only trying to do what
they think makes sense, and not everyone is
fortunate to have the right leadership and
guidance.
Back to our example above, in this situation
you will feel the pressure to JOIN IN and
be gossipy and to start focusing on other
people’s lives rather than how to improve
your own.
Or, let’s say, you decide to start exercising,
and the current group of friends you have
never exercise, they will for example invite
you out to watch TV, eat junk food, or something
during the time you wanted to go exercise.
And the above examples are not even where
people INTENTIONALLY are trying to
screw you up because they are jealous
of you or they are feeling insecure because
they are too lazy to change and they want
you to be on the same “level” as them.
Then, of course, there is the general social
pressure to just “fit in” with society rather
than EXCEED the “average”, because
in general, people only like the average
person, since the person above average
raises jealousies and the person below
is someone people either feel sorry for
or sometimes mocked.
The SECOND you want to actually IMPROVE
yourself, you will be BOMBARDED with
these situations, and MOST PEOPLE will
then FAIL, because it is so damn HARD
to CHANGE one’s path because of the
power of MOMENTUM.
As humans, we just don’t like to CHANGE.
And if we decide to change, it doesn’t take
MUCH for most people’s commitment to
be SHATTERED.
And, as I said above, the greatest CULPRIT
is the power of SOCIAL PROOF to make
sure you don’t rise much above or below
the SOCIAL or societal average.
We are affected by SOCIAL PROOF because
of our HARD-WIRING. This is BIOLOGY
and EVOLUTION in FULL EFFECT.
It is important to understand that social proof
DOES have its uses. For example, very often
in life, and in human history, making decisions
based on what the GROUP believed helped
individuals save TIME.
So if for example, in ancient times, there was
a PATHWAY through the jungle that was
considered efficient or safe by the majority
of people, then it might very well save an
individual time to take that path rather than
search out every path or try to create a new
one.
So over the course of human history, feeling
INFLUENCED by social proof usually was
a GOOD thing.
However, social proof can BACKFIRE, as
if the social group is WRONG about something,
an individual will still feel very INFLUENCED
and sometimes emotionally compelled to follow
the suggestion of the GROUP.
This is ONE of the reasons that taking a bootcamp
with me is SO powerful. It is because you are
truly being taken into a completely different
SOCIAL FORCE than the ones you tend to
meet in regular life.
Since I have dedicated YEARS of my life
toward the training of men in how to attract
and keep quality women, I am EXTREMELY
CONGRUENT to this in every way.
When someone else is truly CONGRUENT to something,
you FEEL the social pressure effect of that trait on a
DEEP level and you can more easily INTERNALIZE
that trait for yourself.
It’s not just a cerebral event; it is EMOTIONALLY
COMPELLING AND OVERWHELMING in a
POSITIVE WAY.
It sinks in DEEP and becomes INTERNALIZED.
You become CONFIDENT about the new behaviors.
Make no mistake about it, CONGRUENCY is
EVERYTHING.
Congruency is so powerful, that you can go up
to a woman and tell her something like
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and actually have
it WORK if you are truly FEELING her
beauty in a way that is EMPOWERING
and ENERGIZING for you.
So the woman feels that you are not FAKING.
The woman can tell you mean BUSINESS.
Similarly, when you are in my Bootcamp, the
things I am telling you and teaching you
suddenly take on a whole new level of
MEANING and of EMOTIONAL IMPACT.
That means that you are now being influenced
in a POSITIVE way through the POSITIVE
“social pressure” that you feel from me.
I myself experienced this a few times in my life,
when I met some rare individuals who were
true EXCEPTIONS in a POSITIVE way to the
GENERAL NORMS of society.
The mere experience of BEING IN THAT
ENVIRONMENT had an even GREATER
effect on me than ALL the specific strategies
that they taught me, put all together! And
they taught me some GREAT strategies,
it is just that the EFFECT of INTERACTING
with these people was even GREATER than
the actual awesome strategies that they taught.
The power of SOCIAL PRESSURE is so great,
that every powerful group, company, or organization
on EARTH uses it to MASSIVE extremes.
If you want to CHANGE yourself for the BETTER,
be prepared to BATTLE against the social forces
that want to INFLUENCE you to NOT improve
yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.
Most people give UP and give IN.
Will you?
And here’s where it all comes full circle.
Most men want a woman who will treat them
RIGHT.
A woman who is INTELLIGENT but who is
not arrogant or spoiled.
A woman who works HARD but who is not
selfish.
A woman who is FAITHFUL but is not insecure.
A woman who is health conscious but not
addicted to the gym.
A woman who is fun in bed but who is not
promiscuous.
A woman who is friendly but not naïve.
If a woman is all these things, she is DAMN RARE.
She has REBELLED, so to speak, against the
social norms.
She can RESIST social proof, and probably in
fact has formed a POSITIVE social group of her
OWN, where the groups fuels each other with
POSITIVE social pressure, where they socially
proof healthy ideals and values.
And LIKE attracts LIKE.
The right kind of quality woman can DETECT
the INCONSISTENCIES in a man who is just
PRETENDING to be similar to her in order
to get her into bed.
She knows what the right values LOOK like
because she HAS them in HERSELF.
The first thing you can do to change yourself
into the kind of man that quality women want
is to start choosing the RIGHT way to spend
your time, the RIGHT way to behave, the
RIGHT goals in your life.
I am not a preacher so I cannot tell you
what these RIGHT goals are for you, but
I can tell you that usually LAZINESS
make most people actually THINK that
the goals that take LESS work, the values
that take LESS discipline are the RIGHT
ones, when in fact they are usually the
WRONG ones.
Develop an attitude that does NOT look
for the easy way out. Learn to see the
POSITIVE side of INTELLIGENT
and HARD work. Learn to appreciate
the result of SWEATING it out to
IMPROVE yourself. Learn to enjoy
the PROCESS of self-improvement.
Be HAPPY to learn from good people
who are KIND when they want to teach
you something rather than just being
arrogant.
Learn to try to UNDERSTAND people
rather than dismiss them right away.
You will notice that even though I have
standards that are higher than the average
in society, I do not BLAME people so fast,
because blaming is very easy and it ignores
the reality that most people aren’t TRYING
to do the wrong thing.
However, UNDERSTANDING people does
not mean LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS.
It does not mean accepting a woman who
mistreats you.
When you INTERNALIZE these IMPROVED
attitudes, when you SHOW on the EXTERNAL
side as well that you are LIVING these ideals,
you will notice a MASSIVE improvement in
your ability to detect the RIGHT kinds of
women QUICKLY as well as how to detect
and avoid the wrong types of women, AND
you will also start to attract the right kinds
of women with far greater ease than before.
This is because you will be CONVEYING
all these things through all the subtle
nuances in your tonality, your body language,
your vocabulary, the expressions on your
face, the way you are able to listen and
understand and connect and inspire, etc.
Now, this newsletter has drawn some of the
BROAD STROKES that are ESSENTIAL
for your success.
It’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty and
put it all into ACTION.
The FASTEST way to get it all into action
is through BOOTCAMP, where I will
instruct you live as you approach women
EVERYWHERE.
Keep in mind BOOTCAMP is not only about
gaining CONFIDENCE, it is also about
MASTERING the TECHNICAL skills and
gaining the know-how regarding how to
take action and approach women even in
all those "hard to approach" situations.
Learn more about what Bootcamp is and
when the next sessions are being held by
going HERE immediately:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
You will LOVE what you GAIN from Bootcamp.
The experience is PRICELESS and it is
something most men will NEVER do, because
it requires the internal MOTIVATION to
get success BEYOND what is the average
social NORM for a man when it comes to
his success with women.
Most men GIVE IN to the desire to just
FIT IN and be AVERAGE.
You can REBEL against the FORCE of that
social pressure and EXCEED what is
the AVERAGE for most men.
And if you are still not SERIOUSLY
approaching women yet, you MUST download
my “Acing the Approach” program now at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
And to learn the FULL PICTURE on how to
get yourself a FANTASTIC quality woman
for a great relationship, go HERE:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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