Sunday, October 30, 2011

The ONE Thing She's Looking For In You

The most important thing in attracting
a woman who is truly the “total package”
of being not only beautiful, but also a
great person inside as well, is conveying
to her the following VIBE:

That with you, no matter how crazy life
gets, she can depend on you to be her
ROCK. That you will be calm, strong,
and steadfast in the storms of life.


The goal is SIMPLE.

ACHIEVING this goal, and being able
to convey this in SECONDS to a woman
you just met, takes some insight into 
psychology, culture, and evolution.

And not the “dime store psychology” or
“pseudo-science” or other gimmicks that
unfortunately are so prevalent in our society.

Please allow me to make one thing clear:
I never started out with the goal of TEACHING
any of the things I learned about getting a
quality woman who would be a fantastic
girlfriend.

I honestly did it all because I needed to
learn all this for MYSELF.

One of the most DISASTROUS steps I took
on my path to learning how to attract a truly
quality woman was that I tried to learn from
the “pick up artist” community.

I had to spend YEARS actually UNLEARNING
all the things they taught me, because those
things actually REPELLED the very BEST
kinds of women.

In case you don’t know about the pick up
artist community, there is a book called
“The Game” that really sums up the entire
“seduction community”, in fact, its author
was practically worshipped by the majority
of pick up artists and their followers.

In the book, it’s clear that the main strategies
for getting a woman involved just about
anything BESIDES being honest and up-front.

For example, “negging” a woman is a
strategy where the main goal is to LOWER
a woman’s self-esteem so that she feels
LESS about herself and now supposedly
she will feel the guy has more value than
her. These ‘experts’ vow that the solution
to attracting a ‘hard to get’ woman is to
‘slam’ her self-esteem.

So this involves the use of thinly veiled
insults, the “nice” name for this is
“backhanded compliments” but really
it’s just an insult. i.e. Telling a woman
she looks just like some celebrity named
x.y, or z, but the thing is that the named
celebrity is clearly NOT the most attractive.

Now, as you may know from my programs,
since day ONE I have been against these
kinds of things for about a MILLION
reasons, including the fact that this kind
of strategy not only is not NECESSARY
but in fact will BACKFIRE because it
makes a man think lower of himself,
because it reinforces in a man the feeling
that he does NOT have the value to get the
woman so he must resort to these kinds of
sleazy tactics.

And when your “INNER GAME” i.e.
the way you feel about yourself, is this
weak, it always ends up showing in tiny
little subtleties through your tonality,
expression, body language, etc. So a
woman ends up detecting a weak inner
game, and the more a guy uses these
“negging” strategies, the more a guy
will weaken his inner game.

It ALSO backfires because a woman who
is truly the total package is both emotionally
strong enough, plus intelligent enough to
not only sense that this guy has a weak
inner game but she will ALSO detect that
this guy is DOING THIS nasty stuff to
her INTENTIONALLY, that he is knowingly
trying to lower her self-esteem!!!!

So she will reject the guy faster than he
can say “negging”.

Now, I believe in EVIDENCE before
coming to conclusions.

So let’s look at the EVIDENCE for
what I’m saying.

Since I’ve been teaching my programs,
the entire FIELD of “dating strategies”
and “pick up artists” has been MASSIVELY
IMPACTED by what I teach.

These days, the “neg” is hardly ever HEARD
of anymore even amongst the “die hard” pick
up artists.

These days, there is suddenly a lot more talk
about getting a “quality girlfriend”.

There’s a lot more talk about “Becoming
Mr. Right for Getting A Great Girl.”

In fact, the vast majority of the things that
supposedly were "GOD'S TRUTH" about
attracting a woman as written by the
“popular” dating coaches and pick up
artists is actually now considered
IMMATURE and SILLY.

And not just by some people, but by
the actual pick up artists themselves!!!

After it became painfully obvious, they
mostly AGREE now that those things
don't work!!! (What they do now is
try to create NEW gimmicks, that will
take a little while till everyone finds out
that TOO is just a gimmick.)

Now, I am going to venture forth here
and say it, because obviously none of
these guys will, that it was ME who
brought dating strategies for getting
a great girl into the MODERN AGE
and out of the STONE AGE of pick
up artist advice that they themselves
agree was just about ALL WRONG
before!

So what I’m saying is, I have ALWAYS
been about getting a QUALITY woman.

I have NEVER been about gimmicks.

In fact, when you finish my programs,
you actually can be very UPFRONT
AND HONEST with women, because
you have become such a strong person
that you convey to her all the right things
from your tonality, expression, warmth,
and inner strength so that EVERYTHING
you do with her becomes attractive.

There are no gimmicks to use, because it's
YOU who has now become attractive,
not some "gimmick" to use on her.
I have ALWAYS been against GIMMICKS
and immature trends that come and go.

I could have easily jumped on the bandwagon
of trends if all I cared about was money.

I could have easily been a part of the
book “The Game” as I was actually
contacted about it, but I wanted nothing
to do with it then, even when the pick
up artist industry was at it’s ZENITH of
popularity.

That should give you an idea of just how
important the TRUTH is to me, and how
important it is to me to give you TRUTH
on how to get a quality woman.

My concepts have literally changed the
entire FIELD of dating.

To me, getting a great girl who is the total
package isn’t just a “nice thing” to do. It’s
the ONLY thing I do, it’s what I have
DEVOTED myself to teaching since day
ONE. And I do this because I know just
how IMPORTANT it is to have a quality
woman at your side, and how this improves
your entire LIFE.

A great woman isn’t looking to see if
you are a look-a-like of George Clooney,
Brad Pitt, or any of the guys from
“Twilight”. And she isn’t looking for
GOLD or money from you either.

She’s looking to see if you have the
INNER strength.

The bottom line is this:

If you're interested in getting dates with
typical women, that's fine. It's not my
preference, but I don't judge others.

But if you're looking for the kind of
woman that ADDS to your life, doesn't
give you "drama", and makes life a
DREAM, then you need an EDGE over
other guys, you need the kind of
training from someone who SPECIALIZES
in getting the kinds of women who would
truly make for GREAT girlfriends.

One of the crazy things about attracting a woman
is that you probably already KNOW in your gut
what IS attractive- for examples, things like
CONFIDENCE, things like being more SEXUAL,
and things like being INTERESTING in general.

The REAL question is, how do you SHOW these
things to a woman? Sometimes a guy CAN be
confident in many OTHER areas of his life, but
not feel confident in approaching a woman who
is a total stranger. Sometimes a guy can be an
interesting person, but when he’s talking to
a woman, he doesn’t know how to show it.

And, how do you show more SEXUALITY to a
woman who is a total stranger???

So let me get into answering ALL this right
here, right now. Please keep in mind that I
swear to it that everything I write here is
based on REAL INTERACTIONS WITH
WOMEN FROM YEARS OF BOOTCAMPS
WITH CLIENTS AND MY OWN
EXPERIENCES AS WELL.

In other words, this is not just made up or
something I came up with off the top of
my head, it’s all based in REALITY, and
you can apply it all IMMEDIATELY and
see for yourself how quickly it works.

First off, I totally understand that most
guys are NOT Bill Gates, not models, and
not necessarily living an “Indiana Jones”
lifestyle.

And guess what? THAT’S NOT A PROBLEM.
Because the TRUTH is that, WHEREVER you
are in life, whatever your situation is, you can
STILL apply everything I’m talking about to
demonstrate all the cool things about yourself.

Let me give you an example: Let’s say you
have a really CRAPPY job, okay?

And you’re at that part of the conversation
where she’s talking about her stressful job or
whatever, and you know that if you don’t mention
what you do, it’s going to sound like you’re hiding
something.

The reality is, you’re FAR BETTER OFF
literally telling a woman “my job is crap”
than trying to DISGUISE it in any way.

I mean LITERALLY telling her those words.

The key though, is to say those words without
trying to be CUTE when you say it.

If you say it trying to be “cute” or smiling,
it almost seems as if you’re smiling out of
HOPE that she will “forgive” it.

But if you are totally OWNING it, and not
seeking to try to get her FORGIVENESS
for it, it makes a FREAKING HUMONGOUS
DIFFERENCE.

You can even be a bit PISSED OFF in your
tonality about the crappy job.

The reasons for all this are subconscious:

By NOT hiding it, you show the following
things, and I’ll explain why:

1. INTEGRITY

Most guys will sacrifice truth and anything else
if they think it will get them ahead, but here you
are clearly showing you are not affected by what
other people think, including HER.

You show that you stick to your principles.

2. CONFIDENCE

You are also demonstrating confidence because
you clearly think that you STILL have a chance
with this girl ANYWAY otherwise why would
you be talking to her, especially in this non-apologetic
and non-deceptive way?????

The other thing is that by OWNING up to your
reality, and not DENYING it, you are far more
likely to be the kind of guy who is going to
MAKE THE CHANGES IN HIS LIFE TO
IMPROVE HIS SITUATION.

So in a way you’re also showing AMBITION.
If you’re not SATISFIED with where you
are, and you want to move UP in the world.

And when a man of confidence puts his mind
to work and his body into action, he can achieve
a HECK of a lot, and he won’t be down in the
gutter for long.

Now, if you have INTEGRITY and you also
have CONFIDENCE, she realizes that you
probably ALSO have integrity in your other
connections with people, including relationships.

This translates into SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
AND POWER WITH PEOPLE.

She also subconsciously realizes that if you
can handle THIS kind of awkward uncomfortable
situation, you can probably also handle the part
about you LEADING the interaction smoothly
to the SEXUAL with her.

After all, you don’t seem to be bogged down
by the OTHER things that most guys would be
bogged down by psychologically.

So that’s just ONE example of how you can
convey confidence as well as many other
attractive traits, even if your situation isn’t
that GREAT, and you might have previously
THOUGHT you don’t have anything to be
confident ABOUT.

And you can use this same principle to show
confidence in ANY situation where you think
you are LACKING or not doing so great compared
to other people.

In fact, that “lack” is your opportunity to show
that you WILL NOT BE CRUSHED by it,
that you will not lose integrity by it, and that
you will not lose confidence by it.

Remember, MOST of the guys she is going
to meet are going to do the OPPOSITE of
this, including even guys who you might think
on the surface HAVE SO MUCH GOING
FOR THEM!!

Yup, the vast majority of guys ALL end up
QUALIFYING themselves to a woman they
are attracted to. The guys, out of a desire to
impress the woman, quickly end up telling
her about their fancy job, their car, their
fancy trip, etc, etc, etc.

And the irony of all this is that this “impressive”
stuff, by being used as a crutch, shows INSECURITY
to a woman and is REPULSIVE.

So, now it’s almost as if the guy would be
better off NOT having the fancy stuff, since
he ends up just using it to convey insecurity.

A woman figures that such a guy actually
thinks that he should be with her because
of his CAR or JOB, and that’s not only
uncool, it’s the trademark of a real a-hole,
and trust me, THAT’S NOT the cool kind
of “jerk” at all.

So you can ALWAYS be showing confidence,
NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS.

SEXUALITY

How about something like sexuality?

Well, here too, you can ALWAYS be more
sexual with a woman, it doesn’t have to JUST
be at a nightclub, where it’s easy to do this
because the women are there to meet guys.

I prefer to meet women in places OTHER than
nightclubs, simply because the most attractive
women at nightclubs definitely DON’T need
to go there to meet guys, so if they are there,
chances are they are just party girls.

Of course, there ARE great girl at nightclubs,
but FINDING them is like finding a needle
in a haystack, and the noise makes it hard
to truly dig deeper into conversation to
determine character.

However, all women need to do the everyday
things like shopping, grocery shopping, going
to the bank, etc, and so these “regular” places
are far better for actually meeting women with
more “long term girlfriend” potential.

How can you show more sexuality with a
woman you happen to see at the coffee
shop or supermarket?

Simple: Through using TOUCH AND TONALITY.

Words have been around for only a smidgeon
of human evolution, while TOUCH has been
around since the very first days that
man and woman have walked the Earth.

Human communication has been using
TOUCH since day one.

And it’s STILL AROUND, we just tend to
REPRESS this primal force. (Another primal
chord is triggered through MUSIC, which
is another element you can incorporate later,
when lovemaking is in the air :) )........

So, stop worrying about being called a pervert and
look for PLAYFUL ways to make HUMAN CONTACT.

And I’m talking FAST.

The reality is that women are FAR more
comfortable with this than you think.

When I was in university the first time, I
got BRAINWASHED by all these political
science courses including on feminism, where
I was taught how just about EVERYTHING
was a form of male harassment against women.

So I did everything I could when interacting
with women to NOT touch them, and to
NOT show dominance, and to just wait
for THEM to take all the action and to
get sexual.

Of course, that all led to ZERO results with women.

Then, I finally found out the TRUTH of
what was going on, on campus, and how
RAMPANT the sexuality was, and how
there were TWO realities, the one that
existed in the lecture hall, to which of
course NO ONE WOULD ARGUE lest
they be labeled EVIL CAVE-MEN, and
then there was the reality of what ACTUALLY
HAPPENED on a regular basis within just
METERS of these lectures halls, things that
would make Sodom and Gomorah BLUSH.

That made me FAR MORE COMFORTABLE
not only getting more “physical” with women,
but also being more PLAYFUL in general
with women, because I realized that women
were MOSTLY NOT like the stereotype
portrayed in my political science course
descriptions, in reality women LOVED TO
BE PLAYFUL AND ENJOYED GETTING
PHYSICAL, probably even MORE SO than men.

Have FUN with women, from the moment
you first see a woman you’d like to talk to.

Forget being serious, instead LIVE IT UP
and take “chances” with your sense of humor,
it’s BETTER than being too serious, FOR SURE.

It’s GOOD for a woman to think you
really want to get PHYSICAL with her
and that you have NO SHAME about it,
and that you LOVE the idea of physical
and you love having fun with women-
it’s just that socially, you can’t literally
SAY THIS as you’re first words to her,
but you CAN and SHOULD CONVEY
it through your MANNERISMS!

If you’re not having a good time doing this
with women, you’re doing it wrong.

I used to do it all WRONG, I was so pissed
off inside, that it was all coming from a
place of ANGER.  An anger that stemmed
from feeling that somehow, things should
not be this way.

I was pissed off that my preconceived notions
of how things ARE was totally OFF! I was
upset that things were NOT the way I had
previously thought they were my whole
life, as this meant I had to change my
very PICTURE of reality!

My old beliefs were that women wanted and
appreciated a really SERIOUS approach to
dating, sexuality, and relationships.

This does NOT mean that women think relationships
are a JOKE, it just means that you can't START out
with a woman if you are operating on a very serious
level, as that overly serious vibe DESTROYS the
sexual, flirty VIBES that are so important for
sparking SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

In fact, being playful actually delivers the message
that you are MORE of A MAN who is "the rock",
than a man who seems all serious right away when
talking to her, because that "SERIOUSNESS" is
interpreted by her as NEEDINESS or some other
negative issue, which is understandable once you
adopt the frame of ABUNDANCE and the perspective
of having many CHOICES of who to date---just like
these attractive women do! :)

Playfulness shows STRENGTH, that you find all
this stuff so easy, that it's FUN.

So, once I finally ACCEPTED the way things
really ARE, I came to peace with it, and
THAT'S when I could stop PRETENDING
to be playful and actually BE playful.

And the reality is, that this is healthier way
to go about the whole dating process anyway!!!

It allows you to enjoy the process, and to NOT
fall into the needy and insecure zone, which
is where all the problems start, both in terms
of destroying attraction and also in terms of
destroying your own confidence. 

You are as you think and do, so if you switch
the way you think, and if you take the ACTIONS
of a secure, playful, flirty person, you BECOME
that incredible man who really IS her "rock".

And when I say a “good time” I don’t mean
to act “cutesy” with women – a lot of times
“cutesy” is this kind of toothy smile that
is really a form of seeking rapport.

Instead, your “having a good time” while
interacting and approaching women should
be coming from a place of STRENGTH
internally, the best example I can think of
that resembles the REAL LIFE way of
doing it, is “Captain Kirk”, it’s a pretty
accurate of what I mean by playful
but strong and not needing a woman’s
approval, while still liking her nonetheless.

So let me tell you, you should go for playful
hugs, high-fives, taps on the shoulder, etc,
and if a woman has a problem with this, you
are NOT harming your chances, you are only
finding out that she is a waste of your time.

Now, you should ALSO be conveying
sexuality, by speaking to a woman in
the same kind of tonality that you would
have right after making passionate love
to a woman. Your voice would be calm,
comfortable, no more pretenses of
sounding like CLARK KENT instead
of the real SUPERMAN inside of you.

There’s also nothing wrong with a dirty
joke or two if they are actually FUNNY
and not GROSS. This helps establish
the right mentality that this is a male
female interaction and not just some
cerebral conversation between two men.

Here’s ANOTHER important strategy:

GET HER TALKING ABOUT HERSELF

Most guys are so caught up in trying to
impress a woman, that this very act of
trying to impress ends up causing the
OPPOSITE and repels her.

Instead, what I do and have clients do is
to focus on learning more about HER.

After a playful comment or two to get the
conversation started, I get into wanting to
know what HER STORY IS.

In fact, I might even say these actual words:

“What’s YOUR Story?”

This has TONS of benefits for you:

It shows her that you aren’t all arrogant
and don’t need to talk all about YOURSELF.

It allows her a chance to actually BOND with
you by talking to you about herself.

It teaches you more about her, so that you can
have the right things to say to her that are
actually RELEVANT.

It’s easier anyway, because instead of having
to be this big talker, you can chill out and
listen.

The less you talk, the more cool you seem,
as you might remember from my discussions on
“Minimum Game” and how less is more, the sign
of a true master. A true master uses only what
is required for each situation, and never more.

PLUS, after she has spoken to you about herself,
SHE HERSELF will ask you about yourself, so
NOW when you talk to her, even about yourself,
you will NOT seem like you are qualifying
yourself!!!! You really WILL impress her.

As you can see, without me being arrogant,
the reality is I know what the heck I’m
talking about.

And what you’ve just read is the TIP of the
ICEBERG of TONS of EASY-TO-APPLY
strategies for ATTRACTING A WOMAN
the moment you see her, all without being
hurtful or manipulative.

In my 'WARRIOR WITHIN' program, I show you
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from the MOMENT you SEE a woman anywhere,
including “normal” places like a supermarket or mall,
all the way to getting her back to your place, with her
eagerly anticipating getting physical with you.

And this is not just about how to get
some kind of promiscuous woman- NOPE,
I’m talking about the kind of woman
that is the full package, which means
that I also show you how to make a
powerful CONNECTION with her
as WELL as igniting sexual attraction
in her.

Here are just SOME of what you’ll learn
in this incredible program:

*The BEST ways of approaching women in
“regular” places like supermarkets.

*The FULL PICTURE on how to “OWN” any
“undesirable” part of your reality and transform
it into an ATTRACTIVE part of your identity.

*TEN powerful ways to SIMULTANEOUSLY
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This will ACCELERATE your results, which
is crucial especially in those situations where
you don’t have much TIME to speak to a woman!

*Powerful ways to increase the EROTIC nature
of your interaction with a woman so that you
can SMOOTHLY escalate to getting PHYSICAL later.

There’s nothing worse than having a series
of dates with a woman where NOTHING
physical happened, as this makes it even
MORE awkward and less likely for anything
physical to occur. You’ll never have this
problem, by using THESE strategies revealed
in this program.

*I’ll show you the best ways to get a woman
talking about herself so that you can learn the
best way to connect with her!

*How to come across as far more INTERESTING,
without the use of ANY lies- in fact, you
will hardly have to even SPEAK at all!

*You’ll even discover a great way to use
any environment you meet a woman in,
to make her feel as if you two have known
each other a long time.

*And of course, as the name of the program
implies, you will also get all my most powerful
strategies and tools for SKYROCKETING your
"Inner Game", so that your NATURAL confidence
with women rises to INFINITELY high levels.

Women, especially the quality women who are
careful about who they date, can ALWAYS tell
if a guy is just FAKING confidence, or if he is
THE REAL DEAL- and this program will show
you how to BECOME the kind of man who can
be her "rock" for REAL.
 
*And much, MUCH more!

I can promise you one thing: These strategies
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I wish I knew the things that I now teach,
long ago. I could have been enjoying life
rather than being in misery and being
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I look forward to hearing your success story.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

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