The Attraction Martini

A lot of guys think that attraction is all about
“looks”. Some guys think it’s all about money.

HOGWASH!!!!!!!

Yes, looks HELP, for sure, especially the part
about taking care of the things that are within
one's control, like proper diet, exercise, grooming,
and hygiene. 

These things show self-esteem.
But unless you are talking about ABSOLUTELY
INSANELY EXTREME differences between the
man and the woman, (and even THEN, I’ve
seen plenty of examples of beautiful women
with these guys, and it had nothing to do with
money) what is FAR MORE VITAL is you
being in a CERTAIN EMOTIONAL STATE.

And before you think “oh no way”, let me tell
you something: BEING IN THE RIGHT MOOD
IS RARER THAN “LOOKS” OR MONEY.

It’s especially rare to be a guy that can be in the
right mood withOUT the assistance of things like
alcohol or addictive, illegal drugs.

The right mood is like a special cocktail, a mix
of very specific emotional states I will describe
below. Since James Bond is cool, we'll call this
the "Attraction Martini."

Without this mix, without being able to produce
these states of mind in yourself, no amount of
good looks or money will make a woman feel
attracted to you.

Have you ever thought about the guys that DO
seem to have EVERYTHING going for them,
but yet STILL aren’t doing that great in attracting
the women that they want?

And trust me, there are many of these guys.

I was watching a talk show late last night where
this woman who was an escort (and not even
that hot) was paid tons of cash (supposedly,
2000 bucks an hour) to go on dates with some
SUPER successful guys, many of them ALSO
good looking! Can you imagine how pathetic
she must have felt these guys are?

And when I say “dates” I MEAN dates,
like spending time together NOT having sex!!!!

Most of these guys wanted the feeling of it
being a girlfriend, i.e. a date, etc, etc. If these
guys just wanted sex, they could have easily
just ordered a normal hooker. They actually
wanted the simulated feeling of a woman being
ATTRACTED to them, not just a woman who
was being paid for sex, although in essence she
was being paid for the date, and of course often
eventually she would have sex with the guy.

The same night, earlier on, was a dating
show, where some woman was basically
having the upper hand with some dude
the entire date, and she really intimidated
the guy, and she wasn’t even that hot,
honestly. She wasn’t BAD, but not HOT.

And the guy was honestly just as “good looking”
on a typical scale of looks, as she was, if not
better. But as the date went on, you could
see his body language and how he was
almost squirming as she was intimidating him.

There was one scene where she was asking him
to photograph her with just her lingerie on, and
it was freaking him out. Then she got HIM to be
the photo subject and it was even WORSE.

Personally I think the woman was a bi^% who he
should have dumped anyway, but still it was
PAINFUL to watch the abuse he was taking.

So what gives??????

These are not the kind of guys you tend to
picture as being the kind that women like
to “prey on”.

But yet that’s EXACTLY what was happening.
The “looks” argument goes out the window here.

These guys HAD the looks, they HAD the
success, so why were they so easily being
TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF and ABUSED?

When it comes to a guy, looks can help him
a lot, for sure, but there truly is something that
is even MORE important, and I honestly believe
this, and what’s more, you can SEE it for yourself
and TEST it and OBSERVE it for yourself, is
is YOUR STATE OF MIND.

Your mood has to be a COMBINATION
of PLAYFUL/FUN, DOMINANT, GENUINE,
SEXUAL, with a sprinkling of INTELLIGENCE.

And you have to know WHEN to EMPHASIZE
each SPECIFIC element.

This is where so many guys go wrong.

They get caught up on ONE of these moods only,
and for a while they think that THAT is the “secret”.

For example, the guy becomes too nice and
then learns not to be so nice, but then he goes
ALL THE WAY to ONLY being dominant and
not at all playful or fun, so he kills the “vibe”
that way. Sure, he protects himself from abuse,
but his interactions with women go nowhere either.

Women don’t want a TRULY arrogant guy, they want
the PLAYFUL yet HEROIC confident man who is not
REALLY a “bastard”, he’s just so confident that women
ENJOY CALLING HIM a “devil” or “bastard”.

This is a similar thing to how when a woman likes
you, and you playfully tease her, she will give you
a punch in the arm BECAUSE she is attracted to you.

And yes, there are times when as a MAN, you need
to not be playful at all and just LAY DOWN THE LAW
with PURE DOMINANCE, but most of the time you
don’t want to have to go there- if you DO, then the
woman you are with is NOT a great woman.

HUGE difference between THIS and being arrogant,
or being one-dimensionally dominant.

When a guy becomes OVERLY “tough”,
he becomes an asshole, and trust me, MOST women,
ESPECIALLY THE SEXIEST ONES,
the ones with FUN personalities, do
NOT want an asshole. Only the low
self esteem miserable women want
to be treated badly. And low self esteem
women are not fun to be with, as they
hate themselves and will think lowly
of you for treating them decently.

The idea with dominance is to be MASCULINE
and take leadership, it’s NOT about being obsessed
with bossing her around.

The idea with being “hard to get” is to make yourself
MORE ATTRACTIVE through being challenging,
but only to the point that it’s still FUN for her to pursue
you because she wants you and she enjoys the excitement,
as opposed to the guys that give it all up so damn easy
and seem so pathetic and inferior because of it.

You could REALLY SCREW THINGS UP
by going too far, by not having BALANCE
in these emotions. I remember when I used
to think I had to ALWAYS be challenging
even when a woman was giving me MASSIVE
SIGNALS OF INTEREST. I can laugh now,
but I was KICKING myself when I first
realized this for all the awesome women
I had basically “challenged” out of my life, lol.

For example, I was at a bar once casually
ordering a club soda because I don’t drink,
especially when playing game, and this
beautiful girl who was chatting with the bartender
basically was flirting with me, making
teasing comments on my drink, to which
I ignored her as if not interested in, so she
UPPED THE ANTE and turns to me and
starts playing with my pendant, giving
my flirty eye contact and an excuse to
make physical contact by saying my
pendant needed to be adjusted, as
she smiles, and so I tell her, trying to be
“challenging” and “funny”, to “slow
down” and “not to be so forward”,
thinking all of this was funny and
challenging.

But she looked very uneasy all of a sudden, and
uncomfortable, and she turned away.

Well, you live and learn, and the lesson
is if a woman is INITIATING contact
with you, and she is SERIOUSLY giving
you interest and touching you and approaching
you, and conversing with you, and trying
to find a classy non slutty way to do it,
you MUST NOT be “challenging”
IN THAT MOMENT. Save that
till you are already going out!

POINT IS: You need to balance all these
aspects to yourself. If a girl is ALREADY
seriously INTO YOU, and has gone through
the work of trying to get you, and you make
yourself “challenging” at THAT moment,
it’s like a slap in the face to her.

It’s being “IMPOSSIBLE to get”.

Remember, for a beautiful WOMAN to
approach you is a MUCH bigger step than
for a man to approach a woman.

Another mistake is when the guy acts
TOO DORKY and like a CLOWN,
and then when he finally learns this
is a mistake, he then becomes TOO SERIOUS,
and even TOO FOCUSED ON BEING
INTELLIGENT, and though he is not being
a dork anymore, he is not exactly making
the atmosphere conducive to sexual vibrations
either, which is no good.

It’s about having FUN, which stems from
being in a TRULY good mood. Dorkiness
tends to come from actually being INSECURE
and acting over the top because the guy
is too nervous to accurately and emotionally
DETECT WHAT IS TOO MUCH. His
emotional barometer is OFF, (hey, we were
ALL this way, so I’m not on an ego trip here)
so he just goes OVER THE TOP even though
he knows this is too much deep down.

But he figures it’s better than being serious.
Well, it’s not any better.

I can go on forever trying to describe
what the perfect description of a “playful”
action is, but the truth is that it all DEPENDS
on the situation, so the REAL answer is
for the guy to GET INTO THE RIGHT
STATE of mind so that it all comes
naturally. And the way to do that
comes from taking THE PRINCIPLES
that you learn here in my materials and
services, and then PUTTING THEM
INTO ACTION!

State of mind is HUGE, and it means MORE
than confidence, although confidence is a
necessary FUEL for all the OTHER states
of mind you need to be in.

Before worrying about what state SHE
must be in and what state you want to get
HER in, YOU must YOURSELF get YOURSELF
into the RIGHT EMOTIONAL STATE.

Now, the better and more experienced
you get, the more you’ll be able to
kind of fake the right state and do
everything with your eyes closed, but
don’t worry about that for now.

(Also, even if you are at that level, it’s more fun
to actually BE ENJOYING the process anyway,
it’s more enjoyable to actually FEEL those states.)

State of mind is SOOOOOOOOO important.

Think about how much EFFORT a club
or lounge, for example, puts into creating
its “ambience”: They want to create
EMOTIONS in you through the INVITING
environment, through the IMAGE, through
their choice of décor furniture, and design,
and through the choice of their club name
as well as through their choice of music
and lighting.

Have you noticed a pattern to those things?

A décor that is sensual, vibrant, often playful
and even erotic (take a closer look next
time at everything from the lights to
the sofas next time you are in a club), a name
that is sensual or erotic, or even a name that
is just plain FUN. If you’ve noticed, some
clubs have a “mature”, more INTELLIGENT
angle to go along with their sensuality or
their image of fun or party. A touch of
sophistication.

These clubs know that THEY have to be
sending out the right vibes if they are going
to get YOU or others that they desire into
the right state of mind to WANT to come in.

It’s not that different with YOU.

YOU yourself must be conveying the right
“inner décor” i.e. EMOTIONAL STATE,
to get a woman into a similar state and to
want to get closer to you.

When I think back to the women whose
company I personally most enjoyed, it
was their EMOTIONAL STATE that
separated them from other women and
made me more attracted to them. Women
that were playful, fun, who knew how and
when to be intelligent and when to just let loose.

I can even think of one example of a woman
who would naturally just do a kind of dance
IN THE CAR when the radio played.

Her INCREDIBLE INNER STATE was
TOTALLY SHOWING.

Of course, women are encouraged to show
their emotions, negative and positive, but
when it’s positive, it’s an attractive thing.
THAT’S WHY WOMEN ARE OFTEN
MORE COMFORTABLE AT DANCING.

Dancing is just conveying emotion in
physical form. So it could be fun, playful,
sexual, you just NAME it. Notice the
effect it has on men.

But dancing is just ONE form of showing
your inner attractive emotions, because
when you are really in the right state of
mind, you show it through EVERYTHING
you do.

POSITIVE EMOTIONS, when COMBINED
with a sexual state of mind, only ENHANCE
the vibes you give off, and the sexually
attractive vibes you give off.

That’s a GOOD THING.
That’s ATTRACTIVE.

I personally find myself FAR more
sexually attracted to a girl who is FUN
and playful, and who knows WHEN
to be serious and when not to.

And it doesn’t have to be over the top,
in fact over the top is often fake,
it can be subtle as well.

YOU have to learn to be in the right states
as well, and SHOW it.

Of course, if you are a miserable person,
you probably want a miserable woman,
and vice versa, but miserable people in
general just prefer to stay away from
all people. SO, if you are reading this,
you probably are NOT a miserable
person, so you probably want a woman
who is fun to be with, a woman who
is or at least most of time is high
self esteem.

And that means YOU have to be the
name, YOU have to be high self esteem,
YOU have to be in a state of mind that
is playful/fun, sexual, intelligent, dominant,
and genuine. Unless you are going for drunk
girls who are out of their mind.

By the way, when I use the word “intelligent”
to describe a certain state of mind, what
I mean is witty/astute/deep, etc.

So if you are GENUINE but DOMINANT
and FUN, then you could actually go up to a woman
and strike up a conversation that consists
of WORDS that are POSITIVE to her, such as:

“You seem to have a good vibe to you”
(if you really felt this) but your TONALITY
makes it clear that you are NOT saying this
in an ass-kissing way. You can say this in
a way that it’s a compliment, but the
compliment is because it’s YOU that said it,
because YOU have standards and YOU have
intelligence to see these things.

It’s a compliment to her because it comes
from YOU.

See what I mean?

In addition, there is a sexual spin
on this as well, by the mere fact you
are confident in saying this and going
right up to her and saying this so
calmly. Also, the look on your face
can be sexual as well, the tone of
your voice, the way you walk.

Then if you add OTHER POSITIVE
emotions to this sexuality, the sexual
vibes she will feel from you will
be EXPONENTIALLY MORE
ATTRACTIVE.

The problem is when guys HIDE their sexuality
and act all apologetic and ANTISEPTIC about it.

The WARRIOR has PRIDE in his IDENTITY.
He is not apologetic or ashamed of his sexuality.

i.e. if you were to then go on for five minutes
about energy patterns you read in a science textbook,
obviously you would KILL the sexual energy there-
ESPECIALLY since the reason for talking about
it was not your interest in it, but rather as a way
of AVOIDING sexuality.

That’s the WRONG kind of intelligence
to be using.

On the subject of intelligence, a good
example might be where you are
already talking to a woman for
a few minutes, and she is obviously
into you so far, and she brings up
some situation or story that happened
to her, and you are able to RELATE
to the situation by drawing from YOUR
understandings of things, and you
are able to articulate this, which makes
her feel that you are able to understand
HER, thus INCREASING the connection
with her.

Again, I have higher personal standards
than most guys and most gurus who simply
promote the idea of mass lays. I’m not
impressed with low self esteem women
that need to get drunk or high to sleep with
a guy and then say how they regret it so
that they can excuse themselves. With
those kind of women, really, honestly,
you don’t need much “game” or much
intelligence.

What you DO NEED in those situations
is to be CONGRUENT to those values,
because if you are NOT into that lifestyle,
she will sense it and you will make her feel
like a slut by your most subtle micro-behaviours
that her subconscious will tell her that you
are judging her. And she will run away.

That’s when I realized that the guys who do
BEST with these kind of women are the guys
who themselves have similar personal values
and LIKE these kind of women.

CONGRUENCY is key.

You have to go for the kind of women that
you REALLY want, not the kind that
deep down you despise, or it will show.

If you are going to be in the RIGHT state of
mind, it DEFINITELY is crucial that you
pursue the kind of women you ARE interested in.

Otherwise, how motivated of a state can you
be in about a woman who really repulses you?

Ok, back to this magical combination of
dominant, sexual, playful, genuine,
and intelligent.

The reality is that during the interaction
you have with a woman, there are
TIMES when you need to focus
more on CERTAIN states of mind
than others.

For example, in the FIRST moments
of your interaction, being PLAYFUL
helps ENHANCE the chances of her
being MORE RECEPTIVE. The truth
is, that this “playfulness” is really
nothing more than typical NORMAL
COMMUNICATION of a CONFIDENT GUY.

Because if you are NOT playful, if you are
TOO SERIOUS, if you don’t seem in
a GOOD STATE of mind, why are
you STARTING a conversation with
a complete stranger? That’s just
plain ridiculous. At the very least,
your CONFIDENCE in your own
VALUE should put you in an UPBEAT
if not PLAYFUL state.

Think about it from her point of view,
why would she want to get DEPRESSED
by talking to a guy who is a loser with no
confidence or no value and who is in
a bad mood?????????

Would YOU want that?

Also, let’s say she just had a rough day,
and she is NOT in the best frame of
mind that second. By making her
LAUGH with your playfulness,
you have put her in a state that
is far more likely to make her RECEPTIVE
to whatever ELSE you do after that
moment, as long as you don’t do anything
stupid and continue to be a cool guy.

The time when you want to emphasize
a BIT MORE SEXUALITY is once you
are already “IN”, i.e. you are talking
for a few minutes and she has given
you a sign that she is being receptive
to you, (i.e. smiling, being really
friendly, etc) so it’s fine to flirt a bit,
i.e. yes it’s OKAY and even GOOD
that she sees you “checked her out”,
(i.e. gave her a look up and down) as
long as you don’t do it like a stalker.

In fact, you’ll see with practice that
you’ll begin to do this very naturally,
other versions include making TASTEFUL
sexual innuendo or even saying a dirty
joke that is not going to make her puke
but make her LAUGH.

In your interaction with a woman and attracting
her and building up a connection and getting
physical, there is a TIME for each state of mind
that you need to be in.

So before you worry about HER state
of mind, start focusing on your OWN.

And if you would like to know MORE
about the states of mind you need to
be in, and HOW to get into those states,
as well as EXACTLY WHEN to EMPHASIZE the
RIGHT emotional state, then I recommend
you take advantage of my programs IMMEDIATELY.

Here is a brief description of my programs:

The Dating Wizard E-Book:

This is the place to start, so that women
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The Get A Great Girl E-Book:

This is the next step, because eventually you
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The Attraction Mastery Program:

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it’s like the ENCYLOPEDIA of attraction
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the rest of your life.

It’s at:

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The Warrior Within Program:

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the kind of man that attracts those exceptional
women who are beautiful inside AND out, and
who would make for a fantastic girlfriend or
future wife.

If you want to meet a great woman, and you
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It's at:

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The Actions For Attraction Monthly Series:

This is a monthly CD program designed to give
you IMMEDIATELY-APPLICABLE tips so that you
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This kind of program is immensely helpful
because it gives you results right away,
which of course gives you even more
confidence, which makes you apply the tips
even better, and this starts a never-ending
cycle of improvement.

The Monthly Series is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/actions.html

A Supreme Collection Of 10 'Actions For Attraction'
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Way To Win:

This is an E-Book that has taken the collective
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Private Coaching:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks