One of the greatest TORTURES to me is seeing
a guy who is a good guy RUINING it for himself
with a woman. It's torture because I remember
how it felt, and I also know how absolutely
DOES NOT have to be this way!!!
There is a BETTER way, a way that actually
ATTRACTS a woman, and all without ever
having to lie or play games.
So let's get straight down to some hard-core
ACTION STEPS that you can use right now:
1. BE A MILLION-DOLLAR ATTORNEY
FOR YOURSELF INSTEAD OF AGAINST
When you meet a woman who does not know
you, all she has to go on is the information
and the vibes that YOU are giving her.
And yet, when guys meet women, men often
CUT THEMSELVES DOWN incessantly.
They cut themselves down in a number of
ways- from the way they describe their
life, their lifestyle, their choices in life,
their hobbies, and most importantly,
their own opinions of themselves.
Sometimes also, men cut themselves
down by making self-deprecating
jokes in the hopes that by
making fun of their selves
first, the woman won't do it
This does not mean to act arrogant,
as arrogance grows out of insecurity,
but so too does constant self-deprecation
grow out of insecurity.
It's one thing to make jokes
when you are clearly SECURE,
it's something else when these
jokes are coming out of insecurity.
Here's the difference- when the
Karate champ of the world says
he's scared of the dark, that's
ok. When the smartest man on
the planet says he's bad at
math, that's ok too.
When a guy feels he really IS
those things, however, and
the woman has a strong reason
to believe it, then it's not
cool at all.
Listen, you only live once, so
you might as well give yourself
the BEST chance each time you
meet a woman.
And this should be coming from
withIN, the way you feel about
Stop living as if you are going
to live forever.
You have every RIGHT to be your own best
friend and be as supportive and positive
about yourself as possible.
Be your own best friend, and I mean
that in the deepest sense of the word-
you should support yourself emotionally
as much as possible, give yourself credit,
and you will ultimately end up giving
more to others as well as a result.
In our culture, it's perfectly fine for
women's products to say messages like
"because I'm worth it", and yet for men,
so many good guys end up saying through
their body language and through their
tonality and through the way they dress
and groom, so many men end up saying the
message "I am NOT worth a woman's time."
All this comes from your own self-perception
about your social status- in fact this is proven
by psychologists. This past weekend at the
Warrior Within Seminar, one of the cool
guys at the event brought the entire
dissertation on this fact that backs it
all up with evidence.
So, if you don't BELIEVE that you HAVE
the social status, you will simply NOT
wear COOL clothing. You will simply
NOT behave in the way of a man who
feels he IS worth it. You will think
that this stuff is simply NOT for
you. You will think that you will
be "found out" to be a "fake", as if
you have no right to be a man who
gets the woman he wants and other
things in life as well.
This stuff is crazy powerful, and I promise
you it all starts with belief.
As sexy and beautiful that so many women
are, the GREATER rewards of developing
yourself in this area called "attracting the
women of your choice" is that you will
learn the TRUTH of who YOU can be
and who you really are- you are so much
different and so much more than you
think "you" are. In fact, right now,
you have no idea of who you really
are, I can make a billion dollar bet on
So the next time a woman asks you
ANYTHING about yourself, I want
you to answer that question as if you
were the most fantastic attorney on
earth for yourself, an attorney who
was getting paid millions of dollars
to ensure that his client was going
to get the very BEST outcome.
The key is to do this without telling a lie.
You do not have to lie, you simply have
to give the damn BEST portrayal of
yourself as possible, ALL the time.
No more "well, I kinda suck at this and
that, and I'm so-so at that, and I'm not
really that great at anything" and no
more "well, my plan for life is kinda
this and that, and maybe so er well"
FORGET THAT STUFF, FOREVER.
This brings me to point number two:
2. START DRESSING THE WAY YOU
WOULD IF YOU KNEW YOU WERE
So you think you're just Joe Average?
Then you will always BE Joe Average.
In fact, one of the invisible forces that keeps
men imprisoned in the social status of
"not cool to a woman" is the BELIEF
that you don't belong higher up.
And the people who are already there
will NOT have the time or the energy
to stop their lives and try to FIND you
and help you get up there. They don't
even know you exist. And let's face it,
they also know that if someone doesn't
want to change, they never will anyway,
so they don't see why they should be
trying to change people when it's a free
So you have to push your envelope to
reach out of your "comfort zone" - you
have gotten comfortable with seeing
yourself as lower than others only because
you have done it for so long- but FROM
THIS MOMENT ON, THIS ENDS-
I'm serious about this, go out today and
FORCE yourself to put on cooler clothing
than you think "fits" right for you. I'm not
saying that if you are 75 that you should
go and get a skateboard and dye your
hair purple, what I am saying is that you
know very well that you can be dressing
and grooming far cooler than you are
right now, and the only reason you are
not doing it is because you think that
you are not "supposed" to- and the
only reason you think THAT is because
you've had a lifetime of PRACTICE
thinking the wrong thoughts.
So let's start CHANGING those thoughts
by also changing your ACTIONS.
3. BEWARE OF YOUR RISING VOICE PITCH
Notice how when you are talking to a woman
you are attracted to, your voice will often
rise up- this happens because you feel too
much energy and that too much is at stake.
It's as if a billion volts of electricity is surging
through your system.
So for now, you have to CONSCIOUSLY
bring your vocal pitch back to normal.
This will not only get you better results, but
it will change your state of mind as well and
get you into the proper perspective that is
far more empowering as well.
4. BEWARE OF THE FEAR-INDUCED SMILE
Very often, when a woman is talking to you,
you will be smiling in a way that is OVERDOING
Yes, a natural smile is great, but when you are
smiling as if the GREATEST THING ON EARTH
has happened to you, when all that has happened
is a stranger has agreed to chat with you, then
it's actually too much.
Yes, a woman liking you is a great thing, but
it's even more important for YOU to feel pretty
awesome already, and if you felt that way, a
woman who was a stranger would not be able
to pump your smile up THAT much.
See, it's not that women are attracted to jerks, it's
that jerks happen to be doing one thing right-
even if they are only acting, and that is that they
are not behaving as if a woman is the source
of their own self-esteem.
Nothing jerky about having your own self-esteem.
That's just good stuff for all guys to have.
So if you are smiling like the smile is plastered on
your face like the Joker, then stop it.
Of course, I know all this stuff from personal
experience, so it's not like I'm on some high
horse here, I just want to make sure you benefit
from what I learned the hard way.
5. TAKE THE LEAD
Man, if more men only realized how much women
APPRECIATE the fact that YOU are a man and
that YOU have a plan on where to go for the date,
on what to do with your life, and if you had a
strong perspective on how to make your life
meaningful, and on how to handle issues and
stress and challenges, rather than just hope
for things to go right, - or even worse, to hope
that SHE will have the answers to all this
In life, whoever has the stronger frame will
win, and that's not a bad or good thing, it's
just the truth. It simply means whoever has
the greater discipline to persevere and to live
with passion and not give in to laziness or
negativity, will WIN.
This is why some bizarre CULT leaders can
get women even though the cult leader is
preaching absolute lies and absolute hogwash
and total crap. Yet, he has managed to get
HIMSELF to believe in his own lies, and
he has generated enough passion in himself
from within and he is his own best friend
and never cuts himself down.
So if TOTAL INSANE CRAZY PEOPLE
can attract women, then I can assure you
that ANY MAN can do this, without telling
a single lie, if he is SERIOUS about learning
how attraction really works.
So, now that you know this is the truth,
can you imagine how badly a guy will
do on a date if he seems like he is LOST
in life, and lost regarding what to do with
her, what to say, etc?
Women do not want a man that is lost in
any way, whether it is lost on how to
deal with her, or lost on how to deal with
his own life.
And if you are reading this right now
and would like to have the kind of
woman you dream about in your
arms, and even more importantly,
know that you have triumphed and
defeated all the internal blocks that
have been holding you back with
women and with so much else in life,
then I suggest you speak to me about my
Real World Bootcamp.
In Bootcamp, I will take you on the
most important journey of your life
as you defeat the INTERNAL obstacles
that have been holding you back and
you ALSO learn the most powerful
"EXTERNAL" strategies for approaching
women successfully and for getting dates
that actually lead to getting physical and
getting a fantastic relationship.
You will learn "hands on" as I coach you
in real venues where you will actually be
putting what you learn into practice on
women. You will be guided by me as
I keep you on course the entire time.
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immediately, by clicking here.
Till next time,