Abundance And Attracting A Knock-Out

Have you ever wondered why so many
women who are stunning and absolute
“knockouts” are with guys that don’t
seem “nice” to women?

It’s not because these women sit up at
night praying to meet a jerk.

And it’s not because these women enjoy
being mistreated.

It’s because, ironically enough, so called
“jerks” are actually GIVING HER a lot more
than most guys.

In fact, what these so called “jerk” guys
are giving is so powerful, and so rare, that
NOTHING else most other guys give can
EVER compare.

So what is this powerful thing these “jerks”
are giving these women?

It is a feeling of ABUNDANCE.

And the crazy thing is, there is NO WAY
to GIVE this feeling to a woman unless
it’s OOZING out of your OWN pores to the
point that you can’t HELP but give it away!

You have INFINITE AMOUNTS of it and so
you don’t even THINK of it as “giving” and
you don’t CARE about “getting back” this
feeling from her because you are already
BURSTING with it!

What do I mean by “abundance?”

What I mean is this:

YOUR SENSE OF EMPOWERMENT AND FUN
IS INDEPENDENT OF WOMEN’S APPROVAL

This means you don’t NEED her or any
woman to VALIDATE you in order for
you to feel COMPLETE and POWERFUL.

And yet, what do MOST guys feel,
ESPECIALLY when they approach a
woman that the really like?

All of a sudden, the guys are depending
for dear life that the woman should LIKE
them.

It’s not because of these guys “care” so
much about her, it’s because THEY WANT
TO BE WANTED BY HER.

And on TOP of this, suddenly there is
this feeling of being DRAINED of their
SENSE OF BEING EMPOWERED AND
DESIRABLE.

Most guys suddenly then feel even LESS
confident, LESS empowered, and they
WANT AND NEED her validation in order
to feel good and satisfied, or even to
just feel the way they felt BEFORE
they came in contact with her!

It’s the complete OPPOSITE of abundance.
It’s a feeling of LACKING.

To a woman, she ends up feeling DRAINED
by these “vibes of weakness”, as if SHE
must GIVE herself in order for these guys
to feel worth.

So all the free dinners offered to her, and
all the favors, and all the compliments,
all this does not come CLOSE to GIVING
when the OVERALL vibes being given
off are:

“I’M NOT WORTHY OF YOU, IN FACT
I NEED YOU TO LIKE ME IN ORDER
SO THAT I MAY FEEL WORTHY MYSELF!”

This then makes all the “nice” behavior
just seem like a TRICK to disguise what
is a BAD offer:

“Take me, because even though I’m not
of value, I give you nice behavior to
make you forget that I’m not of value”.

The reality is that it’s not that you can’t
be nice to a woman, that’s not the problem,
it’s that this NICE BEHAVIOR usually comes
from the WRONG PLACE internally.

Meanwhile, the “jerk” has done his homework
in life, or he’s just learned the lesson in life,
to work on HIMSELF internally to create the
most POWERFUL sense of SELF,
BEFORE LOOKING TO ANYONE ELSE
TO GIVE THIS FEELING TO HIM.

There is no “leak” in his steel safe
of self-esteem, there is no way
any woman can DRAIN this reservoir
of empowerment and emotional
independence.

Also, she is not required in order
for him to keep the reservoir
of his power at ‘full tank’. 

And that’s why he has no need to
‘kiss up’.  In fact, he actually has
no DESIRE to kiss up. 

He just has a desire to PLAY.

When you’re feeling playful, you
don’t feel like being aloof or cold,
or trying to trick a woman. 

Guys who REALLY understand this
are extremely rare.

And of course, you can imagine
just how POWERFUL it is for
a woman when a guy like THIS
decides to actually be WARM
with her:

It's CLEAR to a woman that it's
coming from a place of infinite
abundance, and not from a place
of needing to control her or
take from her. 

THAT'S why she melts for such
a man.

Remember, a woman “in demand” has
zero need for free dinners or favors,
and even if she DID, these wouldn’t
result in ATTRACTION.

And she's not "scared into submission"
by the malicious teasing or "hard to get"
obnoxious games/behavior of many men.

She's WAY too confident to be fooled
by that kind of behavior, and she
doesn't see the obnoxious behavior
as a sign of value or of guts, but
rather as a sign of over-compensation
and insecurity. 

What DOES ignite attraction is this
deep-rooted sense of ABUNDANCE.

The feeling of inner abundance has a very
PRIMAL effect on women.

On the deepest level, it says “I am
THE MAN who will SURVIVE AND
THRIVE and will help you REPRODUCE
THE SAME KIND OF WINNERS.”

In the same way that we as men are
affected by her first on a primal
ATTRACTION level, so too she is
affected by what appeals to HER
primal emotions.

This sense of abundance is the
KEY to appealing to all her primal
emotions.

Let me give you an example:

If you are ALREADY feeling COMPLETE
and empowered and feeling UPBEAT
and feeling that in fact you have TOO
MUCH of these great emotions in you,
well then you feel that you need to
EXPRESS IT AND GET IT OUT!

That means when you see a woman that
strikes your fancy, the first impulse
is not “How do I make sure that I WIN?”
but rather “LET’S HAVE ADULT FUN!”

By adult fun, I mean the entire joy
of flirting, building a connection, and
getting physical and intimate with
a woman.  ALL OF THIS IS VIEWED
AS PART OF THE PROCESS AND FUN.

This is because you actually ENJOY
the process of the INTERACTION
itself, and you are not so focused
on how to make sure you don't 'lose'.

Rather, you are approaching her to
SHARE the vibes you already have
within you that are SCREAMING
to get out anyway.

These vibes are a combination of
feeling playful, feeling aroused,
feeling empowered, masculine,
and dominant.

Now, a lot of guys try to FAKE these
vibes by acting “hard to get” and
playing games on women.

However, this ends up coming across
as insecure, bitter, and jaded.

It chases the best kind of women away,
the kind that are not only attractive
but also have heart and soul as well.

I remember when I originally used to
see certain guys being so CAVALIER
and CASUAL with women, joking around
with women, even in high school:

I remember how this one guy who looked
like Pee-Wee Herman and spoke in the
same voice as well.

His pitch was Pee Wee Herman, but not
his TONALITY- his pitch was high but
his tone revealed empowerment.

He was smiling as he told this girl who
was one of the most attractive of
all the girls in the school, “Hey, how come
you don’t have the grouchy face today
like usual?”

I remember thinking that she was going
to chew him up and spit him out, but
instead, she MELTED and became warm
and was all over him.

Then I found out later that he ALREADY
had a pretty damn attractive girlfriend!

This was one of my first lessons that
only became clear to me years LATER.

His comments weren’t coming from being
BITTER, they were coming from ABUNDANCE.

He was GENUINELY being playful and didn’t
NEED her to be “into him”, he just was
being a MAN.

He felt the natural attraction for her
beauty, he wasn’t trying to get her
to be his girlfriend, he was NATURALLY
exuding his masculinity more than a lot
of the JOCKS in school ever could!

On the surface, he may have looked like
the LAST thing who’d have more choice
with girls than the school jocks.

However, once any woman INTERACTED with
him, they got sucked into the vortex of
his infinite and deeply ingrained sense
of ABUNDANCE and the fact that he was
ASLO a genuinely GOOD GUY, who actually
CARED about people.

THIS combo of 'abundance', mixed with being
genuinely caring, is a CRUCIAL KEY to unlocking
all the OTHER awesome behaviors that attract
the most incredible women.

It's because when you know that you can
do NO WRONG, it’s EASY to be funny, to
be playful, to be DARING, to be sexual,
to be dominant, AND to be GENIUNELY
giving from an emotional place.

There is NO DOWN SIDE, so there
is NO EMOTONAL RISK, since you are
ALREADY having TOO MUCH good stuff
going on internally – you are doing
this interaction for the JOY of it.

It's NOT for NEEDING her “reciprocation”.

In bootcamps, one of the amazing things
is that guys come in expecting it to be all
PAIN, but end up having a GREAT TIME.

Of course this leads to even BETTER
results with the girls they meet in
bootcamp. 
 
Allow me to go one step FURTHER and
make it even CLEARER how important
it is to be this way:

Recent studies have actually PROVEN that
women, and not JUST the attractive ones,
are VERY confident.

Imagine how much MORE confident the
really ATTRACTIVE ones are!

It is true that women have “issues”
in some areas of their lives, such
as their perception of their own bodies.

And even though in the corporate world,
men outnumber women when it comes to top
positions, it is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE TO
THINK THIS MEANS THAT WOMEN ARE SOMEHOW
LESS CONFIDENT.

Men tend to think that because of those
issues, that women have LESS confidence
than men, and this results in men being
NAMBY PAMBY AND WEAK AROUND WOMEN.

Meanwhile, today’s generation of women
are VERY confident, including SEXUALLY
very confident.

They just sometimes put on a SHOW that
they aren’t, in public, to prevent being
labeled as being “cheap”.

Now, imagine the DISASTER of coming
across as UNSURE, as WEAK, or as NEEDY,
with a woman who is even MORE confident
than your average woman because she
already GETS so much attention!

You MUST change your view of women,
AND you must CHANGE your internal
sense of what you NEED in order to
feel EMPOWERED. 

You must DESTROY the parts of you
that think you need a woman’s APPROVAL
in order to be  EMPOWERED, UPBEAT,
AND COMPLETE.

I know, it’s ironic, because when you
become THAT, you suddenly have all
the CHOICE in the world with women.

But it makes sense, because only THEN
do you become a true GIVER in the most
powerful sense of the word- GIVING THE
EMOTION OF ABUNDANCE.

When you interact with a woman from
THIS place internally, she knows you
don’t NEED her, and that you are only
interacting with her because you ENJOY
it. 

She knows you won’t be CONTROLLING
or JEALOUS because you can only feel
those negative emotions when you
NEED her too much.

The irony is, that she will usually then
suddenly become jealous around YOU,
and start to feel insecure if other women
are giving YOU attention.

I think you can probably see how getting
these areas of your “game” developed to
the MAX is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL for getting
the kind of women that most men will NEVER
have.  

And if you want to meet and attract a
FANTASTIC woman, and have more choice than
most men will EVER have in getting the
kind of woman YOU want, then I suggest you
go HERE immediately:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This program is ESPECIALLY for men who are looking
to find and keep a fantastic woman to be their
girlfriend for a long term relationship.

Now, if you're just getting 'back into the scene'
of dating, or if you are just STARTING out when it
comes to dating, then you should get experience
dating several DIFFERENT women BEFORE getting
into a long term relationship- and for the best
program on getting this experience with women,
I suggest you get my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

This program is all about mastering ATTRACTION
so that you have CHOICE with women.

To find out about ALL my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time, BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

What Superior Means When Attracting Women

Just wanted to share an important email that came in
that I think has a lot of relevance for your dating success
both IMMEDIATELY as well as LONG-TERM.

LETTER:

Hi Michael,

First I would like to thank you for sharing your knowledge
about dating, relationships and that stuff with the rest of
the world. After I broke up with my ex girlfriend, my
friend who read your book advised me to buy it and
read it. So I did so.

It was great! I just could not believe how "stupid" of a
nice guy I was. Being THE MAN is the most powerful
thing that could have happened to me.

And it is only because of you. I broke up with my ex
girlfriend with whom I was almost two years because
I was a nice guy.

I used to buy her things, dinners... everything that nice
guys do. How stupid :)

7 days after we broke up I found a new girl. During those 7
days I read your book, of course.

First I decided to act as THE MAN, as you said, and then it
sank in finally, I actually become THE MAN.

I just can't explain how she is crazy about me. How much I
am desirable to her... sexy... and so on.

And not just that about her... there is so much good about me.
I became stronger! And it is so wonderful.

However... during this time, almost 3 months in this new
relationship, I talked to my new girlfriend about her
relationships, but discreetly. And she told me everything
about that. I also asked her if she ever had a f*&k friend...
and her answer was NO. At least she said so.

But I clearly let her now that if she ever lied to me, it is over.
She is just nothing to me.

Also, indirectly I explained to her that she should be happy
because I am with her....

And what happened now...
Last night some of my friends told me that before
me she had a f**k friend. WTF?
Of course, I didn't believe him because I KNOW her and
we talked about everything, and especially because I know
the girl who told that to my friend and that girl is a b*(ch.

But anyway a small seed of doubt is right now in me.
So I need your advice! Of course even if there was a
f(*k friend, it is just a part of her history. But what is
s(*t about that is that potential f*&k friend is my friend
who didn't tell me anything about that. It even doesn't
look like as my girlfriend and he were ever together...

I am just thinking to ask her to tell me the truth while
I am just totally cool and calm...

Suggest my what to do, please.

Thank you for your time!

Sincerely,
Len K.

MY ANSWER:

Thanks for the props on my book and my materials.
I'm going to get right to the point here:

First of all, you have to watch out what other people say,
because they could just be jealous and trying to ruin what
you have.

Second, you yourself mention that the girl who said this
stuff is a b**ch.

The MOST important thing to understand though is that
even if she DID, it is just a part of her history, exactly as
you said.

You have to understand that for girls, it's REALLY hard in

our society for them to be honest because society judges

them for this stuff like "f**k friend". 

ALSO, it may very well have been that she considered 

it MORE than a f**k friend but it ended up BECOMING 

a "ff" situation.

This is what often happens in real life. Most girls
are not exactly into ffs, because sex is far too
easy for them and therefore it becomes all about
find a guy who is really cool, and THEN they want
him for a relationship. So if you're a cool guy,
you can get a relationship no problem, and the
irony is that the cooler you are, the less needy
you are for one.

But anyway, my point is that what happens is if
the girl feels that her relationship is sinking,
she feels mixed emotions, i.e. bonding emotions
are still there, chemistry might be there but it's
way lower due to things such as lack of trust or
other issues, i.e. the guy NOT being the MAN.

The part of what you say about the potential
"f**k friend" being your friend who didn't tell
you anything about it might be because he feels
weird about talking about it, and like you say it
might not even be true.

I suggest you don't worry about it as long as
your chick is treating you right, and you will find
out ALL the truth anyway in time, ESPECIALLY if
you DO NOT MAKE HER EVER FEEL JUDGED IN
ANY WAY. That way, she can feel that even if
she DID have the guy as a FF, it's cool to tell you
about it. Then, with a smile one day, you can ask
about it in a way that shows you will not get
upset if it is true.

Because in fact, if you are the man, then you
REALLY DON'T CARE, because you KNOW that
YOU are all that she cares about anyway!!!

Remember, what counts is that she is into YOU.
And THIS is the way to KEEP her into YOU.

GETTING a great girl is PART of the challenge,
but then KEEPING her is ALSO part of the skill
as well, and you must not LET anything or
ANYONE screw with your MIND to make you WEAK
or INSECURE.

I'm not saying that you should walk around
with rose-colored glasses, but you should
definitely not walk around with INSECURITY
glasses that end up ruining your LIFE with
women.

And by the way, it's not like people are
always INTENTIONALLY trying to hurt you
or to screw with your mind.

Sometimes, they are just projecting their own
thoughts, and sometimes may GENUINELY
be TRYING to HELP you.

But in the end, YOU have to be the judge,
and it's important to be coming from a place
of STRONG belief in your value and in the
fact that OTHERS see this value, rather than
the REVERSE.

The more you feel your own value, the more you
see how a woman actually feels your value as well.

The more you experience this, the more cool
and more fun you are around women. The more
attracted they get, the better they treat you,
and then you get even MORE secure, and this
starts a never-ending cycle that makes you
infinitely powerful with women.

But alas, if you take the OTHER path,
you start an infinitely NEGATIVE cycle.

So you have to be careful about which
emotional path you want to take.

She got attracted to you because you are
THE MAN, you don't give into insecurities.

VERY few men are like this, ESPECIALLY when
it comes to women, that it really makes
a woman feel LUCKY to be with such a man.

It makes her feel you are super attractive,
because that can be the only explanation
for why you are so secure.

And this is what I mean by being the SUPERIOR one.

The cold hard truth is that we all want someone
BETTER than we feel we 'deserve', and we certainly
don't want LESS than we feel we deserve.

A woman wants the man who is a SUPERIOR 'deal'
than she feels that SHE is worth.

So if a woman feels she is worthy of "x" type
of guy, she wants MORE than she feels she is
worthy of. And she CERTAINLY doesn't want
a guy who is INFERIOR to her.

If you want a woman to be NUTS about you,
you must ensure she feels you are SUPERIOR
to her.

All this is GOOD, not bad or mean and it doesn't
have ANYTHING to do with acting abusive.

In fact, the best couples on earth are the ones
where BOTH the man and the woman are super high
self-esteem and they STILL feel that they somehow
got LUCKY. 

They BOTH feel that somehow even though they are
so awesome, they somehow attracted someone who
really is MORE than they expected.

Both parties to the relationship feel that

THEY are the one getting the superior deal.

THAT'S going to make for a happy relationship.

And the first MAJOR step to making a woman
feel SHE is the lucky one is to be MORE
secure than her, and ESPECIALLY being a
MAN, there is ALSO the bonus element of
being more DOMINANT as well which is a
masculine quality that turns ON a woman.

This dominance is not about pushing her
around, it's about taking initiative, it's
about approaching HER and not waiting for
her to approach YOU, etc, etc.

When a woman meets a man who GETS all this,
and still knows how to treat her RIGHT,
she MELTS in all the right ways.

And if you are reading this right now, and
haven't yet downloaded my very first book,
"The Dating Wizard", then do that now.

That's the book that this man is speaking
about that changed his life.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

And if you haven't yet downloaded my latest
program, "The Charismatic Man", then you'll
want to do that immediately at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/charismatic-man.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth About Women No One Tells You

The truth about women is the one
thing I have been obsessed about
for over two decades.

The  most important thing to me is
truth. I don't want to hear that
things are better than they really
are, and I don't want to hear that
things are worse than they really
are.

I just want the truth.

Unfortunately, the truth is very
hard to find, because everyone
is trying to bend the truth in
order to promote their own
self-interest, and that includes
the dating gurus and pick up
artists, etc.

So how do you know if I am telling
you the truth?

Well, I think for one thing, you
can see over the years that I've
tried to give you a balanced picture,
it's not "men vs. women", it's not
like all men or all women are all
good or all bad, etc, etc. I've
been saying this since day one.

I've also never pandered to easy
money by getting on the bandwagon
of the "get LAID with my special
magic tactics" pick up artist gimmicks
craze even when it was at it's zenith.

Truth really does matter to me.

That's what I've devoted my work
to in this field as well- the truth
about women and attracting them.

Some of the guys in the dating field
like to make it seem like if you don't
learn their stuff, every woman will
cheat on you, as if women are programmed
to be more unfaithful than men are!

On the other hand, certain women's groups
like to make it seem like the situation
for WOMEN is worse than it is, they
say things like "1 in every 3 women
will be a victim of rape or attempted
rape". Hearing these kind of FALSE
statistics, growing up, made me think
along the following lines:

"HOLY SMOKES, MOST MEN MUST REALLY BE
TERRIBLE, AND WOMEN MUST REALLY THINK
THAT MEN ARE PSYCHOTIC, so I WILL
GO TO THE ENDS OF THE EARTH TO
SHOW A WOMAN HOW NICE AND GOOD I AM,
AND I WILL TAKE TONS OF ABUSE JUST
TO SHOW A WOMAN THAT I AM A GOOD
PERSON, UNLIKE THOSE "EVIL MAJORITY
OF MEN".

Well, the REALITY is that even though
of COURSE even ONE rape is EVIL, the
truth is that the real statistics are
more like 1 in every 8 women, not
1 in every 3 women, will be a victim
of rape. That's almost 3 TIMES less
"evil" of a situation than most men
were informed of - or, put another way,
growing up as a kid, I was told by
all kinds of "experts" on tv and
newspaper that the situation for women
was THREE HUNDRED PERCENT WORSE THAN
IT ACTUALLY WAS!

No wonder so many of us men at one
point became "nice guys", as we
probably felt that it was CRUCIAL
to be this way in order to show
that we are sensitive to this
catastrophic situation that women
were facing because of "all those
evil men."

However, of course, if you go around
saying that the women's rights movement
was INCORRECT in their stats, you
suddenly become seen as some evil
monstrosity who is against women's rights.
Even though that is not true at all.

I am for HUMAN RIGHTS AND HUMAN HONESTY!

What makes the problem even worse,
is that when MEN are PSYCHOLOGICALLY
abused BY WOMEN, it goes UNDER-REPORTED.

This is because it's just not the kind of thing that
anyone is likely to BELIEVE, plus ON TOP OF
THIS, it's not considered "manly" to report these
kinds of things, so people end up thinking that
no men get abused by women, when of course
in fact they DO just as much as vice-versa.

Now, of course, all this is part of why I created
Get A Great Girl, because it's not about attracting
"A" woman, it's about getting the RIGHT woman,
the kind of woman WORTHY of a good man.

At the same time, though, I think it's crucial to
understand the big picture of attraction as well,
and toward that end, I suggest you check out
my article over here:

http://tinyurl.com/4dt2ydu

Till next time,

Michael Marks