Women And "Testing" - What You MUST Know

I want to share something that even I myself

have grown to appreciate far more in recent

years.

Very FEW human beings willfully give power away.

This includes the women who benefit from

continuing the MYTH that "men are terrible"

and the myth that "therefore men should

prove to women they are worth being with"

while at the SAME time continuing the myth
that "we should just all assume that 'of course'
women are all perfect, and women don't have
to prove a thing to men when dating, in a
relationship, etc."

In fact, the human mind is designed to RATIONALIZE

quite a bit of selfishness unless trained to do otherwise.

So a lot of women probably actually

BELIEVE the feminist propaganda.  In fact,

a lot of MEN believe it, which is why

they feel this need to act so submissive

and fearful when it comes to interacting

with women.

But only in recent years did I become

more conscious of WHY this type of

thinking is so prevalent- thanks to

a man who has taught me countless

insights on this topic.

It's due to feminism- which is NOT about

protecting women - even though it sounds

like it is on the surface.

The BIGGEST thing I learned in recent years

is that contrary to popular belief, women are

NOT hardwired to TEST you in the way you

may have been taught by many pick up artists

and dating experts.

Basically, conventional wisdom from pick up

artists is that women are hard-wired to test

men, so they will say all kinds of things to you

and do all kinds of things to you that are hurtful

or provocative NOT because these women

really want to do these things to you but

because they want to SEE how you will react-

supposedly they want to see if you are a real

man who is all in self-control and who is super

confident and all that jazz.

So, supposedly a woman will exhibit rude behavior,

cruel behavior, disrespectful behavior, provocative

behavior just to see your reaction. Supposedly, women

do this because they are HARDWIRED to do so, in

order to mate with only the men who are real men,

men who are so calm and so confident and so secure

that nothing bothers them.

As if a man who has high self-esteem WOULD
think to himself "Hmmmm. This woman is giving
me rude behavior- so let me now try to CHANGE
her, let's invest EFFORT in making this woman
RESPECT me!"

As if THAT is the sign of a man with CONFIDENCE?

The real sign of confidence and self-esteem would be
to LEAVE, rather than LOWER himself to SPEND
his ENERGY trying to CHANGE HER.

Does the KING waste energy on ABSORBING disrespect
from someone, and then on top of that, also expend energy
on that person, trying to get that person to ultimately WANT
him?

Of course not.

SUPPOSEDLY, if a woman says to you that you are
short, fat, poor, ugly, dumb, a loser, a brute, or anything
else, that’s not because she is a messed-up human being,

SUPPOSEDLY it’s because she just wants to see if you
are the right man for her.

SUPPOSEDLY, if a woman flirts with other men when
she is dating you, that’s not because she is disrespectful,
it’s because she really just wants to see how you react,

she really hates flirting with other men.

Well, guess what?

There was a time that I actually believed this,

because almost every woman I met DID behave

this way.

And, on top of this, when I exhibited the right

REACTIONS, it always DID skyrocket the woman’s

attraction.

But what I learned over the years is that this has

NOTHING to do with the hard-wiring of women.

It has to do with CORRUPTION and becoming

SPOILED.

So, if you let a child get away with bad behavior,

that child will just keep PUSHING the boundaries

of his or her bad behavior further and further-

TILL YOU STOP it.

And, just like a child, if the child sees that you are

CALM and not BEING MADE ANGRY OR FEARFUL

and that you are IN CONTROL, you will have a

far greater IMPACT than if you show that you

are completely at the mercy of their behavior.

But NONE of this means that the child is

HARDWIRED to test you any more than the

child is hardwired to do something like steal-

the only hard-wiring that women have in this

regard is the basic HUMAN hard-wiring to

GET AS MUCH AS WE CAN if we can get it.

So, in a nutshell, FEMINISM has basically

TOLD WOMEN that women should be

GETTING MORE, MUCH MORE, and that

MORE is never enough.

Women are told that they have been VICTIMS

and that men are RAPISTS AND CHEATERS AND

SCUM-BAGS.

And most men, especially the ones who actually

DO CARE about being decent and fair, BELIEVED

the propaganda- and so most men BEND OVER

BACKWARDS to please any woman they find

attractive and even women they DON’T find

attractive still most men will BEND OVER

BACKWARDS to treat FAIRLY and to PROTECT

from abuse.

A cool dude (http://tobiasbratt.blogspot.com/ ) sent me

a video showing a social experiment where a guy and
a woman agreed to PRETEND they were getting into

an argument, and when the woman PUNCHED

HIM AND KEPT ON BEATING INTO HIM, in

PUBLIC, not ONE PERSON did A THING-

NOT ONE PERSON EVEN SAID ONE WORD

TO THE WOMAN TO STOP HER ABUSE.

When the experiment was reversed, and the

guy just STARTED to get physical on the

woman – within SECONDS he was STOPPED.

So THAT is how sensitive the general male

population is towards the PROPER treatment

of women- but when it comes to men, not

only is it considered okay for a woman to

verbally abuse him, it’s also okay for her to

physically abuse him.

I bring this up to PROVE TO YOU that the

issue is not HARD-WIRING – women are not

BORN to treat men like garbage.

Women have to be TAUGHT to treat men this way.

And if you think it's "different" when it is a
WOMAN abusing a man, then I urge you to ask
yourself why you are so quick to think that-
and if that assumption might possibly be
the RESULT of being BOMBARDED with
messages about male assaults on women and
barely ever being told a WORD about the
millions of cases of women abusing men
in every way you can imagine that happen
each year as well.

And, of course, in a culture that also WORSHIPS

female beauty, and also tells men that men

are selfish violent scumbag rapists, even the

MEN themselves start to believe it, and of course

will spoil any woman they are interested in,

while the woman will feel this is just the right

thing, that this is PROPER.

So, just like a child who is spoiled and thinks that

THERE IS INFINITE RIGHT FOR SELFISHNESS, so too

a woman who believes the feminist propaganda

will feel that it’s fine to mistreat most men and

to ignore anything that any man says is important

to him.

It is absolutely NOT a coincidence that more men

than ever before in history are choosing not to get

married- and it’s not because they don’t want to

love a woman.

It is absolutely NOT a coincidence that there are

groups known as MEN GO THEIR OWN WAY

where heterosexual men have made a conscious

decision to go their own way because to them it’s

just not worth it.

It is absolutely NOT a coincidence that men all

over the planet are even looking to pick up artists

to try to find some way to improve their chances

of success with women.

It ALL comes from the SAME general ISSUE-

THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR ANY OF THESE

PHENOMENA IF FEMINISM HAD NOT CREATED

THIS MASSIVE DISTORTION OF REALITY IN

SO MANY PEOPLE’S HEADS.

The solution is not to try to “WIN the game”-

because men and women being with each other

is actually a NATURAL thing- it doesn’t require

GAMES and SPECIAL TACTICS.

It only requires all sorts of insanely difficult efforts

(which still barely produce results when it comes

to getting a great relationship with a girlfriend )

when dealing with women who are brainwashed

by feminism.

The ANSWER is to simply FIND WOMEN who are

NOT brainwashed by feminist perspectives-

perspectives that encourage women to treat

relationships as expendable, perspectives that

encourage women to value EVERYTHING ELSE

above their connection to a man and their family-

rather what is emphasized is INDEPENDENCE

FROM A MAN, IMMEDIATE SHORT-TERM SEXUAL

GRATIFICATION, FINANCIAL GAIN, and a light-headed

attitude toward RESPECTING a boyfriend or husband.

So the answer is simple.

GET A WOMAN WHO IS NOT FROM A FEMINIST

ENVIRONMENT- you may have to travel out of your

own country.

If you must TRAVEL, then DO that.

If you can’t do that, then you have to be EVEN MORE
SUPER CAREFUL than usual in your screening process-
find women who had REALLY AWESOME parents who
SHIELDED nthem from the DESTRUCTIVE EFFECTS
of feminism.

Let me tell you, the difference IS MIND-BLOWING.

The hardest part of attracting women from places

where feminism didn’t take off, is REMEMBERING

that they WANT you to BE A MAN.

They won’t PUNISH you for talking to them.

They won’t PUNISH you for showing CONFIDENCE.

They won’t PUNISH you for showing that you

aren’t interested in playing CHESS with them,

but rather that you are a man who actually

IS attracted to their FEMININITY.

They won’t PUNISH you for treating them with respect.

They won’t find endless ways to RIDICULE you under

the B.S. excuse that this is some form of TESTING you.

I remember the first woman I dated a woman

who was from a COMPLETELY different environment,

where there was NO feminism.

I could not BELIEVE my mind on the first date.

She never showed a SHRED of disrespect- I was

so overwhelmed with emotion internally it took

all my power not to say that I wanted to marry

her right then and there.

I kept waiting for her to test me in the following

weeks, but NOPE, not one OUNCE of b.s.-EVER.

Imagine- being RESPECTED by a woman,

and not having to play INSANE games

to SUSTAIN the relationship.

THIS CAN BE REAL, in fact there are BILLIONS

of these women around- they just aren't

at your proverbial fingertips if you happen to

live in a feminist-infiltrated society.

You have to do more searching for them.

Oh, and for all the feminists that think these

women are “doormats” and “easy”, the truth is

that these women tend to be FAR MORE STRICT

about NOT getting physical so fast, and tend to be

FAR MORE CONFIDENT in their beliefs than the

typical feminists who rant about how all men

are rapists- and then go get drunk and sleep

with 50 guys. 

This doesn’t mean that every woman you meet

from a non-feminist country is going to fall in

love with you- what it means is that you can

actually expect a NORMAL range of responses

from women, as opposed to the practically

UNIVERSAL, predictable list of abuses that you

will get from women who have been brainwashed

by feminism.

The thing is, if you have grown up in any of the

so-called “Anglo-sphere” countries and even some

that don’t speak English, chances are you’ve been

so IMMERSED in FEMINIST lies that you are now

REPRESSED, your masculine instincts and desires

are BEING REPRESSED under TONS OF LAYERS OF

SOCIAL CONDITIONING.

But women are actually ATTRACTED to the

MANLY part of your behaviors- even if some

women- the feminist brainwashed ones- won’t

admit it.

There are TWO paths you can take for the FASTEST

results in your life when it comes to success with

women.

ONE is my BOOTCAMP program.

I will UNLEASH the part of you that is UNSTOPPABLE

with women, the REAL you that women LOVE.

Bootcamp is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

The other way is through a PERSONAL CONSULTATION.

For more details on having a personal consultation

with me on ANY matter related to dating, attraction,

or relationships, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting Women: Truth Vs. Marketing

There's something important I need to
mention today.

I focus on what actually HELPS men
succeed with getting a woman who
is beautiful inside and out, as opposed
to just focusing on being a MARKETER.

Most of what you read on the internet
when it comes to attraction advice and
dating advice is really just marketing that
is supposed to make you think it is dating
advice.

So, what I mean is, the content is all
designed to get your attention rather
than actually help you the most.

By the way, this is not that much different
from most things that are popular today.
We live in a capitalist society, where
anyone is free to sell whatever they
want, as long as it is legal. 

So, this encourages many entrepreneurs
to focus on the SELLING rather than the
usefulness of what they are selling.

What sells is not necessarily what is best
for people.  For example, healthy food
does not sell nearly as well as junk food.
If we were to judge the quality of something
by the amount it sells, the greatest things on
earth would be cheeseburgers, fries, and
soft drinks that trigger diabetes.

Even qualified people, like “Dr. Phil”, if they
want to make it BIG TIME, keep the message
they sell very simple, so as to reach the lowest
common denominator and reach the masses,
and not challenge the masses to push their
own thinking abilities, because boy oh boy,
do most people HATE thinking.

The things I teach are not marketing nonsense.
They are very real.

Let me give you a few examples:

One: Videos of Approaches

There is a tremendous emphasis on videos
of guys approaching women.  The problem
is the videos often involve extreme cases
to grab your attention.

So the marketers know that the more extreme
the video, the more impressed the audience
will be, regardless of whether it is actually
useful.

So, you will see videos of guys making out
with women within minutes of an approach.
The marketer, er, the dating advisor, claims
this is a magical result of his method.  

Except the problem is, these are women who
are either drunk, promiscuous, or acting.

But figuring that out takes some thinking,
and people hate thinking. They prefer to
believe what they want to believe.

As I’ve said before, people don’t so much
“believe what they see” but rather see what
they want to believe.    

Two: Artificial Categories of Methods

Here are some more examples of marketing
as opposed to useful dating advice:

'Daygame. Nightgame. Direct Game. Indirect Game.'

Some folks decided that they can make some
money by creating specialized categories of
“techniques” for attracting women. 

So “daygame” refers to approaching women
during the day, as if women are different 
during the day than they are at night.

What attracts a particular woman doesn't
change depending on the time of day.  

What IS important to understand are the 
differences between individual women, and 
the types of environments you are meeting 
women in. 

So, for example, approaching a woman at a
party or a nightclub allows you to open up
the conversation extremely easily since,
after all, the environment is a social one.

It’s not “strange” at all for her to be chatted
up out of the blue at a party or nightclub.

However, approaching a woman walking
down the sidewalk, or sitting on the train,
or at the food court, takes a little more
finesse to smoothly chat up out of the blue.

In these situations, you have to adjust the
approach and the conversation to make it
less awkward for her to be chatting to a
total stranger out of the blue.     

Similarly, the idea of “direct game” is reflecting
a lack of understanding of how attracting and
approaching women successfully really works.

The idea of "direct game" is that you just tell
a woman you like her right away.

The problem with this, is that it sounds
great and simple, but it can only work
on a woman that is ALREADY attracted
to you, rather than actually TRIGGER
attraction in a woman.    

But "direct game" SOUNDS cool, doesn't it?
And in the world of marketing, style often
is more important than truth or substance.

“Indirect game” is also another marketing
ploy, or in some cases it is even worse, it
is the result of someone who has no clue 
about women. 

The idea here is that you try to disguise
your interest in a woman, so that she does
not resist your approach. 

The truth though is that most of the time,
an attractive woman has a pretty good idea 
that ANY man that approaches out of the
blue is probably attracted to her.

The REAL solution is to simply do
a REALLY GOOD JOB conveying
your personality as opposed to spending
your energy trying to hide the fact you
are actually trying to get to know her.

So the focus is not so much on direct
or indirect, but rather, on developing
the ability to have a conversation that
shows you have PIZZAZZ to your
personality.

So sure, you can be DIRECT, or you
can be INDIRECT, it doesn’t really
matter if you don’t ALSO show pizzazz.
Again, this is about approaching strangers,
who have no idea who you are, so to
overcome the awkwardness of it all,
the pizzazz you exude evens out the
picture, it makes all the “weirdness”
of the situation go to the wayside. 

Here’s another example of marketing
versus what actually helps a guy with
women: Backhanded compliments.

Backhanded compliments are actually
thinly veiled insults.  This got a huge
amount of marketing success because
it tapped into the frustration that men
feel regarding women, that beautiful
women seem to have too much power,
so by being able to insult these women,
the thinking was that this would lower
women’s self-esteem and make them
feel more likely to be attracted to a
man.

The truth, though, is that this kind of
thinking actually ends up WEAKENING
a man’s confidence and weakening his
approach, because the man actually
starts to BELIEVE that there is no way
he can actually generate enough power
on his own to attract a woman, and must
instead revert to slamming a woman’s
self-esteem. 

All that usually happens there is that
women who do have self-esteem will
just end up chewing the guy out for it,
or just plain leave, OR, if the woman
does not have self-esteem, she will get
even MORE upset in the long term and
be obsessed with making you feel even
worse.  Since her self-esteem is so
low, rather than just move on from you,
she will feel the need to make sure you
suffer first and then she will move on.

So, since day ONE, I have never resorted
to these kinds of harmful strategies, even
though I could have easily made millions
from doing this, since I was in the field
before just about everyone else was, and
I saw the trend becoming popular, but
I resisted the urge to sell out because,
again, I just hate b.s.

Instead of b.s. I focus on what is REALLY
important.  For example, if a guy wants to
beat approach anxiety, he will learn the
most powerful method BACKED UP BY SCIENCE
in my programs.

And in my bootcamps, I don’t just tell men
to go approach women. I actually CUSTOMIZE
my training for YOUR personality and your needs.

I teach you how to do the approach in a way
that suits the needs of the woman, of yourself,
and of the particular dynamics of the situation,
whether it is a coffee shop, bus, train, bookstore,
or whether she is with friends or alone.

And here’s something else:
Given the complexity of the REAL skills
involved in being successful with women,
I actually try to SIMPLIFY things to the
level they CAN be simplified, without
“dumbing it down” at all.  

So you get the most advanced and powerful
skills in the easiest possible way to learn.

Most of the dating coaches out there
came after me, and most of them try
to imitate me, my articles, my content,
but they are just parrots saying various
words at different times that don’t
necessarily make sense for the
situation.
 
When it comes time to learn how to
do something, when you have actual
questions, who do you want to train
you? The parrot that just spits out
words not knowing what it all means,
or someone who can instantly figure
out your challenge and give you the
RIGHT solutions?

Whether it is how to approach women,
how to get over an ex, how to determine
if a woman is right for you or not, how to
connect with women, how to build
intimacy, how to unleash your confidence,
how to incorporate humor in a way that
is suitable for your personality, how to
obliterate approach anxiety, how to
keep a relationship going successfully,
or any other dating related issue, I will
give you the absolute BEST as opposed
to just give you more marketing nonsense.

For consultations, bootcamps, and all
my programs, go here:  

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Do You Have An Urgent Question About Attraction and Women?

I just took a look at my inbox, and I have
a LOT of emails asking questions all about
attracting women, ranging from relationship
questions to questions on how to keep
the conversation going with women who
are total strangers, etc.

To be blunt, it would be more than a full-time
job just to answer all these questions. 

At the same time, I WANT to answer all these
questions properly, as I know that the answers
would save the “askers” of these questions
infinite time and energy.

One way to get these questions answered is
to get the appropriate programs or books from
me.

Yet, sometimes, there is a very SPECIFIC question
a guy has, where he wants a DIRECT answer to
his specific situation and question.

So, if you want an IMMEDIATE, DIRECT
answer to an URGENT dating, attraction,
or relationship question, I can provide you
with the answer to your question or the
answer to your questions.

I can do this for you through my direct,
live, in-person consultation service, or
through my telephone consultation service,
or, if you prefer, my email consultation
service.

The biggest thing that makes me different from
the PUAs and dating coaches out there is that
my focus has always been about not just getting
some woman for getting physical, but rather
about finding, getting, and KEEPING the kind
of woman you really WANT for a long-term
relationship.

If a guy JUST wants to get physical, then all he
has to do is keep approaching women till he finds
a woman who is NOT looking for a relationship.

It’s not hard.  There are TONS of women who
are NOT relationship material, and who are just
looking to have physical connections with men.

On the OTHER HAND, finding, attracting, and
KEEPING the kind of woman you want for a
FULL BLOWN RELATIONSHIP takes
FAR MORE WISDOM.

Allow me to provide you with the experience
and insight to keep you on the RIGHT TRACK
in this regard.  From FINDING the right woman,
to ATTRACTING her, to KEEPING her, to
SAVING your relationship if it is at ALL
possible.

If you want DIRECT and PERSONAL answers
regarding ANY situation you have with women,
then you can arrange a personal consultation with
me by emailing me your question and letting me
know whether you prefer a consultation in person,
or via telephone or email.

Now, let me advise you right away that I am taking
my personal time out of my own schedule to focus
everything I have, all my experience, all my insight,
all my energy, on YOU and nobody else.

That means I am giving up my time to do ANYTHING
ELSE during that time, and I do have many commitments.

Every last bit of my power is being focused on YOU
during that time, and I have to charge for that time.

So, I suggest you ONLY use this service if you
SERIOUSLY need an answer, and if you REALIZE
the value of having this part of your life called
“women, dating and relationships” SOLVED.

The greatest single force that holds back men
from being all they can be in this life, is
NOT having this area of their lives solved.

On the other hand, when this area of your life
with women is running SMOOTHLY, you TAKE OFF
and succeed in EVERY OTHER AREA OF YOUR LIFE
as well. 

To arrange a consultation with me, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks