Death Of The Ego, Birth Of The Man

You were born a very fascinating
creature. Not knowing anything
about this world, you still had
a natural UNSTOPPABLE attitude
that kept on seeking new
horizons, learning new things,
exploring your environment...
all with having very little
reason to even HAVE all this
confidence...

It's amazing how even as babies,
we want to explore and crawl
to see what else is going on,
we don't worry about danger,
we rather want to see what
we can DO...we do NOT want
to AVOID things...

Then, slowly, as an adult, you
UNLEARNED all this, you instead
LEARNED tons of the WRONG
ideas, and you got the worst
thing of all---that all humans
get--EGO.

Ego is really the basis for
99% of the things that hold
a man back from success with
a quality woman.

The ego tries to prevent
you from being the man
you were born to be.

There's a reason that the term "being a man"
has had so much meaning over the years.

It means getting over fears.

It's universally respected.

Women know this very well, in fact
they subconsciously REALIZE the
REASONS it's so important, and
these reasons go WAY BEYOND
"hunting the tiger" stuff.

In fact, women can tell when a guy
is doing all sorts of things out of fear.

Things like showing off to try to win her
approval, things like being a jerk and overly
"macho" to try to seem tough, things like
kissing UP to a woman to try to win her
approval at any cost even your own dignity,
things like being a "player" who needs to
get notches on his bedpost to try to prove
to himself he is something because he is
not sure if he IS worthy of something
more with women, and the list goes on
and on...

And a great woman can detect all this
almost INSTANTLY about a guy, from
his mannerisms, and from subtleties about
what he talks about and how he says it.

A woman can tell that all this stuff
comes from not being comfortable with
who you are. I know what this feels
like, I used to try EVERYTHING to
impress women.

But I learned that not only does
it not work, but that more importantly,
it's GOOD that it doesn't work, because
it means that women truly DO want you
to be yourself- but they want you to
be COMFORTABLE with yourself.

If a guy is not comfortable with
himself, a woman knows that this
will very likely trigger all sorts
of issues later on- because he will
be seeing all kinds of problems
happening with her when she is
really innocent- he will think
she must be doing this bad thing
or that bad thing, or even that
she can't possibly like him, etc.

A lot of this is subconscious,
a woman doesn't always think this
all out in her head in this obvious a
way, but she nonetheless realizes it
on a deeper level.

And it causes her to pull AWAY.

So it's not about being a jerk or
being a nice guy. It's about being
a man, in the classic sense.

A recent letter shows this clearly:

***LETTER***

Hello Michael,

I just wanted to thank you for your
brilliant insights on how to be a man.

I am 57 and just separated from a 4 year
marriage which on hindsight I blew. I say
hindsight because your last newsletter on
'a bulletproof identity' pointed out exactly
where I went wrong.

I lost that identity which I developed when
I was single and it was through it that I
attracted my wife. I got complacent and
let it slowly slide away until in the last
few months I let financial problems and
fears reduce me to a blubbering mess.

Guys, Michael has been on the money
on just about every topic in the newsletters
I have read. I file every one of them and
read them often (funny, just realised that
I stopped reading them about a year ago
and that's when I started losing my
"bulletproof identity') I am going
through your ebook again and working
towards getting enough bucks behind
me to go to see him personally and
learn some more.

Again great work.

Paul B.

>>>My Comments<<<

First of all, thank you for the incredibly
positive comments.

It's particularly meaningful to get
replies from guys who have lived
enough life to see the truth about
the full value of this information.

You'll notice that most of the guys
who worship the pick up artists are
guys in their teens and twenties.

Suddenly, you hardly see these
guys around in their thirties.

That's because by that time, they
already know the pick up artist
advice and the drunken nightclubs
is not the way to get a great
girlfriend. Similarly, pick
up lines won't cut it either.

That doesn't mean all guys in their
teens and twenties get fooled by
pick up artists, it just means
that it's easier to fool guys
without life experience.

I'm not interested in fooling anyone.

The pick up artists promise that their
info will get you physical FAST with
ANY woman, and that it will get you
a great girlfriend, and that it will do
EVERYTHING for ANY guy and
do it FAST, too.

Real life doesn't work that way.

If you want a great girl, it takes
a different path.

I'd rather promise less, but actually
DELIVER ON MY PROMISES.

Also, it's amazing that you have the
strength to see where you went off
the path, rather than blaming the
world, blaming all women, etc.

This is truly something to be PRAISED.

The reason I say this is that our egos are
so damn strong, that we want to think that
the battle is always OUTSIDE of ourselves,
that it's never anything about US, anything
that WE can do about it.

And the irony is that when we let our ego
take over, we become incredibly WEAK.

We lose the power to CHANGE our actions
and to actually get what we WANT, because
we believe there's nothing we can do, because
we are just so powerless against the big evil
world.

It actually takes HIGH SELF ESTEEM to
REALIZE when we are going wrong---
because our high self-esteem wants to
IMPROVE our own life, it is WILLING
to do what is required for change.

So the big question is, why is so hard to
change our identity?

Why is it, for example, that if a woman is
NOT treating us well, and our self esteem
is down, and we know we should not call her,
that we feel the urge keep on calling her
anyway, and drag our dignity through the
mud?

Why is it, for example, that if our self-concept
is weak, that even if we KNOW from expert
advice, how to approach a woman, and we
know that we SHOULD, that we don't????

The reason is because that old self-concept
has been ingrained in us by habit for so long,
that it is STRONG. That old concept we
have of ourselves of being UNWORTHY
is so strong in ourselves, that our old
self-concept doesn't want to LET GO.

It wants to hang on for dear life badly.

Think of your old self-concept as a LIVING
thing that does NOT want to DIE.

And yet, you have to let it GO if you want
the NEW you to come. In fact, it's not even
new, it's actually the ORIGINAL version of
YOU that you were BEFORE you got all
messed up by bad conditioning and bad
messages.

The ego must DIE for the MAN to be BORN.

So in the beginning, becoming a far stronger,
far more secure person, no matter what the
situation is what whatever woman is in
front of you, you have to actually FORCE
yourself to IGNORE your gut instincts,
because your current gut instincts are all
BRAINWASHED instincts that follow the
WRONG and WEAK self-concept you have
developed over many years.

So if you are getting out of a relationship
with a woman who mistreated you, and
you feel the urge to call her or write to her,
you have to FORCE yourself not to give
in.

If you see a woman you think is beautiful
and you want to WUSS OUT, and your
internal voice is giving you a billion
reasons NOT to do it, you have to DEFY
those voices in every way and you have
to REALIZE that it's NORMAL to be
FEELING TOTALLY WEIRD inside.

It's normal because this IS the way to
make the TRANSITION to your NEW
identity.

Most guys give up when it comes to
this stuff because they don't realize
certain important truths:

One HUGE truth is that the pain actually
gets WORSE before it gets better!

Yup. So if you are going up to a woman
and you feel WORSE than ever, that's
not a reason to NOT do it again, that's
a GREAT reason to do it again, because
it WILL get better! It's supposed to
get WORSE first, and that's totally
normal, so if it feels HORRIBLE
at first, that's OKAY and NORMAL.

It WILL get better.

And once you get over that hump, things
REALLY start to improve, as once you
see progress, in terms of having less
fear, this motivates you to keep on
doing more and more approaches,
or to not give into any weak behaviors,
etc.

This development is so important because
it affects your entire perspective on life
and on women and it raises your standards.

It enables you to have the kind of conversation
with a great woman that she can truly identify
with--and this has nothing to do with trying
to win her approval, it has to do with being
a STRONGER person.

In fact, this is not about just getting chicks,
it's about getting QUALITY, as opposed to
picking up trash.

So if you want to allow the NEW identity
to come in, at first, you're going to have to
KICK THE OLD IDENTITY IN THE ASS,
no matter how badly it screams in pain, no
matter how badly it PLEADS with you to
GIVE IN to its weaknesses.

And you're going to have to CONTINUE
doing this for a few weeks, so that you
give the new identity a chance to get
FED- it gets nurtured and fed by ACTION,
and every time you take on the ACTIONS
of a high self-esteem person, who is not
a slave to his ego, that new strong identity
gets even STRONGER.

Until the old weak identity begins to show
itself for what it really is--- your ENEMY
in the disguise of being a FRIEND.

It tried to make you think it was serving
you, it tried to make you think you NEEDED
it, that you needed to be so CAUTIOUS
around women and that all women didn't
have good intentions for you, and that
all women needed to be controlled, etc etc.

But I am telling you that you are so much
STRONGER than the current identity you
think is the real you. You CANNOT be
destroyed by anything that your ego conjures
up, but it will try to make you think that you
CAN be destroyed unless you listen to it.

So next time you feel that confusion over
what is the correct thing to do with a woman,
whether that is approaching a stranger,
or calling back a woman who didn't respect
you, or whether it's making a big deal
or fight about something trivial (which
is really just your ego over-reacting
and seeing threats everywhere), make
sure you CONSCIOUSLY over-ride
your OLD INSTINCTS.

You must do this so that you can develop
the right NEW instincts, the instincts of a
man who has said GOODBYE and GOOD
RIDDANCE to his ego FOREVER so that
he can be REBORN as the MAN he was
meant to be, the man he was ORIGINALLY
before being brainwashed by the wrong
programming and messages.

The ego does nothing for you, it just
creates endless fears and breeds off
those fears and justifies itself this way.

I assure you that the best kind of woman
has done this work on herself as well,
and she will be able to detect INSTANTLY
whether you have as well. And THIS
is a big part of how she screens the
men in her life that she is going to
give a chance to.

She knows that unless you have done this
work, there is simply no way the two of
you will have a solid foundation for
anything together.

What you have just read is the tip of the
iceberg - if you want to get the FULL picture
on attracting the best quality women, then
I suggest you get my WARRIOR WITHIN
Program On DVD.

This program is TIMELESS.
It will show you the way that has worked to
attract women since ancient times - it's the
classic way of the MAN.

No cheesy artificial tactics.

You will be attracting her through the power of
who you become internally as a result of this
mind-blowing program.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And of course, if you haven't yet downloaded my eBooks,
"The Dating Wizard" and "Get A Great Girl", do that NOW.

"The Dating Wizard" is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

And "Get A Great Girl" is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

These books are a GREAT place to
get started meeting and attracting
the BEST women, inside and out, on
the planet.

For now, and for always – BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks

Strong Enough To Be Her Man

The whole point of ‘Get A Great Girl’ is
to find and attract a truly fantastic quality
woman who is something special inside
and out. That means she is not only
beautiful, but she’s kind, she’s wise,
and dare I say it, she even has logic.

Now, along the road to finding this kind of
woman, you’re going to bump into a lot of
the WRONG women.

In fact, you may end up meeting so many
of the wrong women, that you start to think
ALL women are the same. This is similar
to how so many women feel that ALL men
are jerks.

And this is where being STRONG comes in.
If you allow yourself to become too jaded,
you will carry around too much negativity,
too much defensiveness, which may be
great for preventing getting abused by
the WRONG women, but will also
REPEL the RIGHT woman.

Ever since I was a teenager, I always knew
one billion percent what kind of relationship
I wanted in terms of the AUTHENTICITY
of it, in terms of the HEART in it, and the
PASSION as well.

Cultural brainwashing since childhood,
that taught me hogwash such as “men are jerks”
and also lack of experience meant that I had no
idea just how horrifyingly abusive women could be,
just as abusive as any evil man portrayed on
Oprah Winfrey, etc.

(By the way, Oprah’s got another one lined
up on evil men by the way, all about the
child molesters that men are, on Monday.
It's no wonder growing up I felt I had to
prove I was a good guy a hundred times
harder than any woman had to prove
she was a good girl.)

Growing up in this environment where men were
portrayed as all evil, I truly BELIEVED it when
a woman told me that all she wanted was a good
guy for a relationship, a guy that wouldn’t cheat,
etc. And then I couldn’t understand how when
I was this good honest way, with women that
I was attracted to, I got back NOTHING.

So I started to slowly believe that I was the
victim of some evil conspiracy, and I started
to fall big time for the “player” mentality
and I started to believe that playing ‘THE GAME’
on women was the only way to get anywhere.

This was YEARS before there was any book
published called “The Game” and years before
I entered this field.

The TRUTH is, and it took many years to see
this, is that there ARE women of virtue, of
honor, of great courage and fantastic morals,
out there.

They just aren’t growing on trees, they aren’t
EVERYWHERE.

They ABSOLUTELY can be found, they’re
probably within a few miles or kilometers of
where you are right now. You just don’t know
who’s who right now.

Similarly, great MEN are not easy for women to
find, either.

If you want to meet a great woman, and you
want to make sure you attract her rather than
push her away, AND you want to avoid being
TURNED INTO A SUCKER by the WRONG
WOMAN, here are some MAJOR tips:

ONE:
TRUST MUST BE EARNED

I hate to say it, but if you are a good guy, you
need to realize that due to our culture, MOST
women will be brainwashed and they will
lack the courage to stand up for the right
values in their lives.

If you act too good too fast, you are simply
making yourself a target for the WRONG WOMAN.

What I mean by “too good” is giving away too
much power, in any form. Whether it’s you
getting too emotional for a woman too fast,
whether it’s you giving out too much of your
feelings too fast, it’s just not wise, because
the wrong woman will take advantage of
you this way just so that she can have
someone to fall back upon, and not
necessarily love you for real- and cause
you all kinds of psychological anguish.

She will PRETEND she is into you, and try
to cover up all the inconsistencies such as
not calling you back or writing back in
a reasonable amount of time, etc.

This leads to:

2. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

Including the action of TAKING THE EFFORT
to make sure to WRITE THE WORDS TO YOU!

So words DO count, but not words when they
come in the form of constant excuses or
rationalizations. We all make mistakes, but
when someone is constantly having excuses
for mistreating you, there is a problem.

Now, notice that none of what I have suggested
anywhere here says that you should ever lie,
manipulate, or be mean spirited.

The reason for this, is in case you meet a
woman who happens to be a GREAT GIRL
but you just don’t know her at all yet.

As a GREAT GIRL, she knows just how tough
it is to meet a truly great guy, and so she has
to protect herself as well, yet she also knows
how important it is to not PUSH HIM AWAY
in case he IS the right guy.

3. THE INTERNET CAN BE A VERY BAD THING

Hey, although the internet is awesome with music
on youtube, it’s great for communication instantly,
it’s got lots of great things about it no question.

What I’m talking about is the GIANT CESS POOL
that is EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY ONLINE.

It has become so damn easy for people to be
emotionally unfaithful to each other because
unlike in the old days, where someone KNEW
and everyone KNEW what cheating was and is,
these days, it’s actually today become something
you DON’T TALK ABOUT, even though it
happens a LOT and it DESTROYS relationships.

The line has become so blurred that millions
of people just have thrown the whole line
out altogether.  These are not the types you
are looking for, however.

Everybody knows about it, I’ve spoken with
hundreds of women and hundreds of guys
and they all know EXACTLY what I’m talking
about, and many of these men AND women have
been the victims of this stuff.

The reason why you don’t talk about this is
because it’s not COOL in our “celebrate how
stupid we can be culture” to discuss this.
(Remember, in our culture, it's only cool to
act young and stupid as Craig Ferguson put
so well.)

Of course, the fact that there is over 50%
divorce rates, the fact that just about everyone
knows about this problem, all this does not
make it to the front pages of our culture.

That’s because it’s not COOL to care
about relationships lasting, - even the
commercials for wedding rings really
say nothing about love.

If somebody knew that there was a 50%
chance they’d get sick from eating a certain
FOOD, they’d avoid it for sure.

If everyone was speaking about how dangerous
it was to eat at a certain restaurants, no one
would go there.

Athletes who want PEAK PERFORMANCE
will avoid not only the wrong foods, but
they will avoid the wrong THOUGHT
PATTERNS, they will do ANYTHING
so that they can WIN.

They will not even hang out with people who
have the wrong MENTALITY because they
don't want their MENTAL FRAME to be
screwed with.

So all this is perfectly understood by society.
It's just when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS,
everyone gets stupid, because relationships
are not all about "me".

But, if you want to WIN at relationships, and
TRUST is the key to relationships, then
you need to find a woman who puts just
as much INTO building this trust as you do.

Somehow, when it comes to cherishing
their own relationship, most people throw
wisdom out the window and engage in all kinds
of threatening behavior that jeopardizes the
life-force of a relationship, known as trust.

So my point is, you want to meet a woman
who isn’t big on things like how many guys
she can get on TWITTER, FACEBOOK,
etc, and you should avoid a woman who
seems to be glued to constantly IM’ing
and closing her browser when you walk
by, you know what I mean?

Don’t waste time on the wrong women, when
the RIGHT woman is out there, and waiting
to meet YOU.

4. DON’T TRY TO CHANGE HER
    INTO A DIFFERENT PERSON

You can never change someone, they need
to be the right person all on their own.

Unless your job is a therapist, don’t try to
be a woman’s therapist, since the reality is
you are really only doing it for yourself,
and you are hoping she will change for you.

In fact, the mere ACTION of trying to change
her only makes you more needy and is kind
of a WUSS move if you think about it, because
it says that you NEED this woman so much
that you can’t walk away from her even
though she is WRONG for you.

And there’s the opposite effect too, by walking
AWAY from the wrong woman, you regain
your self-esteem and confidence because
actions speak louder than words to your
brain as well. Your brain starts to get
the message that you ARE THE MAN
that you are NOT NEEDY, since you are
truly taking the ACTIONS of a confident
man.

And women can smell that confidence from
a million miles away.

5. DON’T EJECT WITHOUT GOOD REASON

This gets us back to square one- being
STRONG ENOUGH to be her man.

The truth is that if she is a GREAT GIRL,
there will STILL likely be emotional baggage
that you both have from past relationships
or interactions with the opposite gender.

Nobody’s perfect, so you have to make
sure that you don’t JUMP off the ship
before you really should either.

All too often, what we do is in order
to avoid PAIN, we will come up with
ANYTHING to point out that is negative
about a woman so that we can have
an excuse for ourselves for why we
AVOIDED getting to know a certain
woman, when the truth is we just
were too AFRAID of getting hurt.

And it's always easier to avoid
something altogether, the only
problem is you end up with
no woman, so that's not cool.

So you have to be strong enough to
not let yourself get sucked into
the WUSS zone that avoids ALL
emotional risk completely -
because that attitude GUARANTEES
failure with ANY and EVERY woman
you will ever meet.

This takes a bit of experience to know the
difference between something that is trivial
and something that is really a problem, so
my rule of thumb for you is that until you
have at least dated her ONCE, don’t jump
to conclusions.

So for example, in the email exchanges or
phone calls leading up to the date, don’t
jump to conclusions.

The other thing is, you don’t have to keep it all
bottled up either, you can mention whatever
it was that concerned you, as long as you
do it in a way that doesn’t paint her in
a bad light.

It’s quite normal for communication between
two strangers, particularly a man and woman,
to be far from accurate or perfect in the beginning.

Add in the fact that so much of modern
communication isn’t even face-to-face, it’s
on the phone, email, texting, etc, and all this
leaves gross room for misunderstandings.

Then, on top of this, ADD the fact that some
of her strange behavior might have been
triggered by strange behavior of your OWN
that you weren't aware of, but she didn’t feel
comfortable or polite saying anything so early
on, and she figured she’d get to know you
better in person as she spoke to you more
in real life.

So you have to be strong enough to not let
your own past distort what is happening
in the PRESENT.
Otherwise, you’ll never really get to
really LIVE in the NOW and enjoy a
fantastic, passionate relationship with
a truly great girl.

And if you’re reading this right now,
and you are serious about meeting
a woman who is truly a "Genuine Gem",
then I suggest you get my book,
‘Get A Great Girl’ RIGHT NOW.

As powerful as this newsletter is,
there’s so much MORE, including
how to make your PERSONALITY
light up like a SUPERNOVA so that
a woman sees you for the incredible
being that you truly are.

This book will show you TONS of
important insights you need to have if
you don’t want to screw it up with a
great girl – from the moment you
see her and want to approach her,
all the way to getting physical and
into a relationship.

This book will show you what REALLY
COUNTS in the real world, this is not
some gimmick or fad, it’s the in-depth
truth on how to go about meeting and
attracting a truly GREAT woman.

It’s at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

To find out about ALL my books and programs,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Best,

Michael Marks