Friday, February 5, 2010
Strong Enough To Be Her Man
The whole point of ‘Get A Great Girl’ is
to find and attract a truly fantastic quality
woman who is something special inside
and out. That means she is not only
beautiful, but she’s kind, she’s wise,
and dare I say it, she even has logic.
Now, along the road to finding this kind of
woman, you’re going to bump into a lot of
the WRONG women.
In fact, you may end up meeting so many
of the wrong women, that you start to think
ALL women are the same. This is similar
to how so many women feel that ALL men
And this is where being STRONG comes in.
If you allow yourself to become too jaded,
you will carry around too much negativity,
too much defensiveness, which may be
great for preventing getting abused by
the WRONG women, but will also
REPEL the RIGHT woman.
Ever since I was a teenager, I always knew
one billion percent what kind of relationship
I wanted in terms of the AUTHENTICITY
of it, in terms of the HEART in it, and the
PASSION as well.
Cultural brainwashing since childhood,
that taught me hogwash such as “men are jerks”
and also lack of experience meant that I had no
idea just how horrifyingly abusive women could be,
just as abusive as any evil man portrayed on
Oprah Winfrey, etc.
(By the way, Oprah’s got another one lined
up on evil men by the way, all about the
child molesters that men are, on Monday.
It's no wonder growing up I felt I had to
prove I was a good guy a hundred times
harder than any woman had to prove
she was a good girl.)
Growing up in this environment where men were
portrayed as all evil, I truly BELIEVED it when
a woman told me that all she wanted was a good
guy for a relationship, a guy that wouldn’t cheat,
etc. And then I couldn’t understand how when
I was this good honest way, with women that
I was attracted to, I got back NOTHING.
So I started to slowly believe that I was the
victim of some evil conspiracy, and I started
to fall big time for the “player” mentality
and I started to believe that playing ‘THE GAME’
on women was the only way to get anywhere.
This was YEARS before there was any book
published called “The Game” and years before
I entered this field.
The TRUTH is, and it took many years to see
this, is that there ARE women of virtue, of
honor, of great courage and fantastic morals,
They just aren’t growing on trees, they aren’t
They ABSOLUTELY can be found, they’re
probably within a few miles or kilometers of
where you are right now. You just don’t know
who’s who right now.
Similarly, great MEN are not easy for women to
If you want to meet a great woman, and you
want to make sure you attract her rather than
push her away, AND you want to avoid being
TURNED INTO A SUCKER by the WRONG
WOMAN, here are some MAJOR tips:
TRUST MUST BE EARNED
I hate to say it, but if you are a good guy, you
need to realize that due to our culture, MOST
women will be brainwashed and they will
lack the courage to stand up for the right
values in their lives.
If you act too good too fast, you are simply
making yourself a target for the WRONG WOMAN.
What I mean by “too good” is giving away too
much power, in any form. Whether it’s you
getting too emotional for a woman too fast,
whether it’s you giving out too much of your
feelings too fast, it’s just not wise, because
the wrong woman will take advantage of
you this way just so that she can have
someone to fall back upon, and not
necessarily love you for real- and cause
you all kinds of psychological anguish.
She will PRETEND she is into you, and try
to cover up all the inconsistencies such as
not calling you back or writing back in
a reasonable amount of time, etc.
This leads to:
2. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS
Including the action of TAKING THE EFFORT
to make sure to WRITE THE WORDS TO YOU!
So words DO count, but not words when they
come in the form of constant excuses or
rationalizations. We all make mistakes, but
when someone is constantly having excuses
for mistreating you, there is a problem.
Now, notice that none of what I have suggested
anywhere here says that you should ever lie,
manipulate, or be mean spirited.
The reason for this, is in case you meet a
woman who happens to be a GREAT GIRL
but you just don’t know her at all yet.
As a GREAT GIRL, she knows just how tough
it is to meet a truly great guy, and so she has
to protect herself as well, yet she also knows
how important it is to not PUSH HIM AWAY
in case he IS the right guy.
3. THE INTERNET CAN BE A VERY BAD THING
Hey, although the internet is awesome with music
on youtube, it’s great for communication instantly,
it’s got lots of great things about it no question.
What I’m talking about is the GIANT CESS POOL
that is EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY ONLINE.
It has become so damn easy for people to be
emotionally unfaithful to each other because
unlike in the old days, where someone KNEW
and everyone KNEW what cheating was and is,
these days, it’s actually today become something
you DON’T TALK ABOUT, even though it
happens a LOT and it DESTROYS relationships.
The line has become so blurred that millions
of people just have thrown the whole line
out altogether. These are not the types you
are looking for, however.
Everybody knows about it, I’ve spoken with
hundreds of women and hundreds of guys
and they all know EXACTLY what I’m talking
about, and many of these men AND women have
been the victims of this stuff.
The reason why you don’t talk about this is
because it’s not COOL in our “celebrate how
stupid we can be culture” to discuss this.
(Remember, in our culture, it's only cool to
act young and stupid as Craig Ferguson put
Of course, the fact that there is over 50%
divorce rates, the fact that just about everyone
knows about this problem, all this does not
make it to the front pages of our culture.
That’s because it’s not COOL to care
about relationships lasting, - even the
commercials for wedding rings really
say nothing about love.
If somebody knew that there was a 50%
chance they’d get sick from eating a certain
FOOD, they’d avoid it for sure.
If everyone was speaking about how dangerous
it was to eat at a certain restaurants, no one
would go there.
Athletes who want PEAK PERFORMANCE
will avoid not only the wrong foods, but
they will avoid the wrong THOUGHT
PATTERNS, they will do ANYTHING
so that they can WIN.
They will not even hang out with people who
have the wrong MENTALITY because they
don't want their MENTAL FRAME to be
So all this is perfectly understood by society.
It's just when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS,
everyone gets stupid, because relationships
are not all about "me".
But, if you want to WIN at relationships, and
TRUST is the key to relationships, then
you need to find a woman who puts just
as much INTO building this trust as you do.
Somehow, when it comes to cherishing
their own relationship, most people throw
wisdom out the window and engage in all kinds
of threatening behavior that jeopardizes the
life-force of a relationship, known as trust.
So my point is, you want to meet a woman
who isn’t big on things like how many guys
she can get on TWITTER, FACEBOOK,
etc, and you should avoid a woman who
seems to be glued to constantly IM’ing
and closing her browser when you walk
by, you know what I mean?
Don’t waste time on the wrong women, when
the RIGHT woman is out there, and waiting
to meet YOU.
4. DON’T TRY TO CHANGE HER
INTO A DIFFERENT PERSON
You can never change someone, they need
to be the right person all on their own.
Unless your job is a therapist, don’t try to
be a woman’s therapist, since the reality is
you are really only doing it for yourself,
and you are hoping she will change for you.
In fact, the mere ACTION of trying to change
her only makes you more needy and is kind
of a WUSS move if you think about it, because
it says that you NEED this woman so much
that you can’t walk away from her even
though she is WRONG for you.
And there’s the opposite effect too, by walking
AWAY from the wrong woman, you regain
your self-esteem and confidence because
actions speak louder than words to your
brain as well. Your brain starts to get
the message that you ARE THE MAN
that you are NOT NEEDY, since you are
truly taking the ACTIONS of a confident
And women can smell that confidence from
a million miles away.
5. DON’T EJECT WITHOUT GOOD REASON
This gets us back to square one- being
STRONG ENOUGH to be her man.
The truth is that if she is a GREAT GIRL,
there will STILL likely be emotional baggage
that you both have from past relationships
or interactions with the opposite gender.
Nobody’s perfect, so you have to make
sure that you don’t JUMP off the ship
before you really should either.
All too often, what we do is in order
to avoid PAIN, we will come up with
ANYTHING to point out that is negative
about a woman so that we can have
an excuse for ourselves for why we
AVOIDED getting to know a certain
woman, when the truth is we just
were too AFRAID of getting hurt.
And it's always easier to avoid
something altogether, the only
problem is you end up with
no woman, so that's not cool.
So you have to be strong enough to
not let yourself get sucked into
the WUSS zone that avoids ALL
emotional risk completely -
because that attitude GUARANTEES
failure with ANY and EVERY woman
you will ever meet.
This takes a bit of experience to know the
difference between something that is trivial
and something that is really a problem, so
my rule of thumb for you is that until you
have at least dated her ONCE, don’t jump
So for example, in the email exchanges or
phone calls leading up to the date, don’t
jump to conclusions.
The other thing is, you don’t have to keep it all
bottled up either, you can mention whatever
it was that concerned you, as long as you
do it in a way that doesn’t paint her in
a bad light.
It’s quite normal for communication between
two strangers, particularly a man and woman,
to be far from accurate or perfect in the beginning.
Add in the fact that so much of modern
communication isn’t even face-to-face, it’s
on the phone, email, texting, etc, and all this
leaves gross room for misunderstandings.
Then, on top of this, ADD the fact that some
of her strange behavior might have been
triggered by strange behavior of your OWN
that you weren't aware of, but she didn’t feel
comfortable or polite saying anything so early
on, and she figured she’d get to know you
better in person as she spoke to you more
in real life.
So you have to be strong enough to not let
your own past distort what is happening
in the PRESENT.
Otherwise, you’ll never really get to
really LIVE in the NOW and enjoy a
fantastic, passionate relationship with
a truly great girl.
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