It's About CHARISMA, Not "Bad Boys"

One of the things that really burns me
up is when I see good guys being told
perversions of truth that actually hold
guys BACK from getting progress with
women.

One of the biggest problems is the way
guys who really need to learn CONFIDENCE
and to gain CHARISMA are told to emulate
"bad boys".

The only attractive part of "bad boys"
is that they have a certain amount of
CONFIDENCE IN THEMSELVES and they don't
pretend to not be sexual.

However, bad boys also end up getting
themselves in trouble, often end up
with no money, end up often in rehab
for years, and often lack the required
social skills for moving up in the world.

ALL of which are NOT attractive to the
BEST quality women.

I've known quite a few bad
boys over the years, and I PROMISE
you that the COOLEST ones are the
ones who came out the other end
and turned their lives AROUND
from all that- these guys truly
ARE COOL because they KNOW
what it means to be a bad boy
and they have VOLUNTARILY
GIVEN IT ALL UP because they
see the other side- these guys
have NO NEED to put on an ACT
of being tough, because they
are the toughest of all and
they know the truth about
the whole thing.

The coolest bad boys are the
bad boys who have MATURED
beyond those days.

But to try to take a guy who is "too nice"
and make him PRETEND to be a "bad boy"
is ridiculous and pointless and self-destructive.

Now, a woman who has serious ISSUES
AND WOULD BE A DISASTER in a relationship
might find that a bad boy is perfect
for her, since she herself knows that
any SANE guy would run like hell from her,
and also because she feeds off the DRAMA
that a bad boy provides for her, since
she has no life of her OWN that she
is passionate about.

Again, this acting "young and stupid"
mentality is in full force here as well,
and you do NOT want a woman who WORSHIPS
the mentality of being young, inexperienced,
and stupid.

Yes, there ARE some psychologically
damaged women who DO want a "bad boy",
but I guarantee you that if you are
not TRULY a bad boy, then you will
find these kind of women the most
destructive force in your life-
the reason bad boys can handle
them is becuase they themselves
truly don't CARE. So if you
are looking for a woman to have
a HEALTHY and passionate connection
with, you should avoid these women.

Again, this isn't about getting all the
wacky insane girls, it's about getting
a GREAT GIRL.

Let me also prove it to you in the real
world:

Almost every success story when it
comes to men, if the man is not at
PEACE in his relationship, it almost
always brings him DOWN.

I'm not saying that every single man needs
to be in a relationship to be successful, but
I am saying that the stereotype of being a
"bad boy" is a MYTH in terms of it being
COOL.

When Mike Tyson was having problems with
Robin Givens, he was beaten by a boxer far
less talented.

When Sly Stallone was philandering after his
original success with Rocky and Rambo, and
screwed up his relationship with his wife, he
started to make some unwise decisions with
the films he decided to make, and his career
REALLY suffered for a long time.  Once
he got this part of his life back on track,
he eventually regained his success.

The list of talented men who started to lose
their edge when they allowed their relationship
to get screwed up is ENDLESS.

Ever notice that over the past few decades,
you didn't hear about Spielberg hanging out
at strip clubs and womanizing?

Gene Simmons, of KISS, has been faithful to
the same woman, the woman who is the mother
of his children, forever, and KISS is still
a kick-ass successful band, and he himself
is more successful than ever.  And before
he dedicated himself to her, he clearly
had his choice of INFINITE women and
was definitely with tons of women and
they all loved him. 

He's a decent guy who also ROCKED.

Tom Cruise, whatever you want to say about him,
has never been one to screw around in his relationships.
He's still at the top of his game.

Will Smith, same story, totally faithful to his wife.
Super successful.

Bill Gates, also not known for being some kind of
bad boy, is actually one of the most powerful people
in the world.  Also, faithful to his wife.

Similarly, even Tiger Woods, although he
was not faithful, this did not INCREASE
his wife's attraction to him, and it did not
INCREASE his success.

In fact it almost COST him his entire marriage
to her and has thrown him for a loop professionally.

Tiger's roots are LEGENDARY in
terms of old-school good old fashioned
INTEGRITY AND VALUES.

His father was an ex green-beret, and
his father was, in his own words, his
best friend.  He says all this.  He also
gives tons of credit to his mom for
putting the competitive spirit in him.

Sounds like a pretty DECENT guy,
to put it mildly, no?

It's only when he got OFF that track
that he started to have problems it seems.

Tiger LOVES being competitive, he
gets a RUSH from the sport, but he
is NOT a "bad boy" in any sense
of the word.  There is no evidence
for him being mean, abusive, uncaring,
etc, in general, aside of course from
his infidelity- and this infidelity will
cause problems on and off the course
because you need to have peace on
the homefront if you are to do well
in the arena of your career as well.

A lot of this "bad boy" stuff advice is
simply an OVERCOMPENSATION
from being too WEAK and SUBMISSIVE
AND HANDING OVER YOUR
DIGNITY ON A PLATTER.

The solution to too little of an ingredient
in a recipe is not to OVERLOAD the recipe
with that ingredient, and so the solution
to being a nice guy is not to become a
bad boy!

It may, however, be something to experiment
with just to SEE the perspective change.

James Bond isn't a "bad boy" really, he's
willing to give up his LIFE for others, for
his job, he just OOOZES something known
as CHARISMA throughout the entire PROCESS.



And it's this CHARISMA, this sense of
THRIVING off the danger, this sense of
LOVING the ADVENTURE, this sense of
enjoying the banter with the most
intelligent and most beautiful of women,
this sense of knowing he is making
a DIFFERENCE in the world, the sense
of INDEPENDENCE and that he will
get the job DONE no matter what,
all this comes across as CHARISMA,
and THAT'S what is attractive.

There's nothing "bad" in any of that.

So for any guys who are thinking of
being more "bad" to women, I suggest
you become more CHARISMATIC instead.

Your results will mean the difference
between wasting time doing mental
masterbation, ("I'm a BAD BOY now! So
I know I must be getting closer to
getting all the girls, right?") versus
ACTUALLY being in bed with the woman
of your dreams.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks