There are some VITAL strategies and insights
regarding attracting women that I want to share
with you immediately.
ETHICS
The first one is regarding ethics and
attracting women.
Someone who is immature will say that
ethics do not matter, and that the
only thing that matters is getting
the woman, but the fact is, one who
has experience and emotional maturity
knows that they are part of the same
thing.
The bottom line is that if you want
a woman who is going to treat you right,
long term, she better be a woman who
APPRECIATES the fact that you are
a man who has great ethics himself.
And she better be the kind of woman who
demonstrates awesome ethics in her every
SUBTLETY of her behavior as well.
So you have to be RUTHLESS in this area,
and simply not let women into your life
who demonstrate poor ethics.
HOWEVER, the challenge with this is that
when you meet a woman who is a total stranger
you really can’t say for sure what her motivations
are for the things she is doing.
So, although HONESTY is one of the biggies
when it comes to ethics, it is possible that
a woman might not be TOTALLY HONEST with
you as a total stranger, due to her own
insecurities or due to her misunderstanding
you, etc, etc.
So, you have to allow some room for a woman
to get to KNOW YOU and for you to get to
KNOW HER before totally slamming down
the hammer and the judgement call on her,
and you have to instead make decisions based
on the BIG PICTURE she is giving you.
I would say that one of the most important
skills in life is to be SENSITIVE to other
people’s insecurities and to tread carefully
around those things, and in fact when it
comes to approaching and attracting women,
if you can actually make a woman feel
GREAT about the very thing she is insecure
about, you’ve gone a long way toward having
her MELT for you.
HOWEVER, and this is where attracting women
is not so simple, this does not mean trying to be
a THERAPIST to a woman. It does not mean
trying to be her GIRLFRIEND. It does not mean
that you are trying to MANIPULATE her through
ONLY being sensitive to her because you want
to get her in bed but you really don’t care about
her otherwise.
ETHICS really have to permeate through ALL
your actions- because ultimately everything is
built on the foundation you set initially. Set
up a morally screwed up foundation, and
ultimately she will sense it on some level,
and she will feel betrayed, and besides it’s
just creepy anyway and a good guy won’t
want to do that.
So, the idea is that as a MAN, you are ESPECIALLY
showing sensitivity to the things she may be insecure
about in terms of her APPEAL to you as a WOMAN.
In a similar way, a wise woman knows EXACTLY
how to serve her MAN this way, by helping him
FEEL as manly as possible.
This is why a great man and great woman truly
bring out the MASCULINITY AND THE
FEMININITY in each other, and bring out
the best in each other regarding many other
dimensions of their beings as well.
So, for example, if a woman feel she isn’t
attractive enough, or young enough, or
feminine enough, or WHATEVER it is,
and THIS is what is causing her to hold
back, you as a MAN have the power to
help her UNLEASH herself from the
CHAINS of that fear.
But of course, you can only do so much,
do NOT try to be a therapist.
Again, ETHICS including honesty, kindness,
sensitivity, all of these things are absolutely
VITAL to every step of attracting a fantastic
woman.
Remember, this is not about how to just get
PHYSICAL with some drunk woman at a
nightclub. I’m talking about how to attract
a fantastic woman for something substantial
long term.
SEXUAL POLARITY
Now, at the same time, all this “gooey” good
ethics stuff, and all the CEREBRAL logic of
how to behave, as important as it is, is not
ENOUGH to make the FIRE OF ATTRACTION.
The KEY is to mix all of that moral goodness
and all that CEREBRAL LOGIC with a SOLID
UNDERSTANDING of the SEXUAL.
And one of the biggest ways to help a woman
UNLEASH her sexual side is for YOU to
show that you yourself feel that the sexual
is absolutely vital to any relationship as well,
but do this in a very casual manner.
The reason I say “casual” is because if you
start to get all CLINICAL when you talk about
sex, if you start to get all ANALYTICAL and
robotic about it, you DRAIN all the ENERGY
and APPEAL of it.
Instead, when the opportunity to bring up the
topic comes up, don’t shy away from it. If
she is talking about working out, you might
mention how she wants to look sexy for you,
and you might say this in a flirty way but
with FULL ON confidence and zero apology,
so that you DO NOT SAY “Just Kidding”.
Don’t say “Just Kidding”, because the truth
is you WANT HER TO TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY,
you may be behaving casual about it, but you aren’t
“just kidding”.
Another thing is the SEXUAL POLARITY
that you must help define in the interaction
between you and her.
Human beings need to know what role they
are supposed to play.
If you act feminine, she will act masculine.
You don’t want this, and neither does she.
So, act MASCULINE.
Don’t be whiny asking her if she likes you.
Don’t fish for approval.
Don’t try to be her girlfriend and try to
talk about girly things like shopping-
believe it or not, a lot of guys will do
this in order to try to get rapport with
a woman.
(Instead, get rapport through sincere
conversation, not through pretending
to be a woman! )
Take the initiative in terms of setting up
the next date, the next meeting, etc.
(Don’t worry, eventually she will start
contacting you to set things up, but in
the beginning, it is the man’s job.)
One of the great things about sexual polarity
is that you reap the rewards of it not only
in general because a woman is more attracted
to you, so she will treat you better, but also
what happens is when you ultimately do
get physical, it will be so much more
gratifying for both you and her.
This leads me to my next point:
SEXUAL TENSION
When a man and woman WANT to jump
each other’s bones, but can’t, THAT is sexual
tension. You WANT to have a lot of sexual
tension in your relationship, followed of
course by sexual RELEASES with each
other.
The key to doing this is not to make up
problems that separate you apart, but rather
to do two other things:
SEXUAL TENSION METHOD ONE:
PLAYFULLY CREATE TENSION
So in this method, you actually playfully
tease a woman by slowing things down
in the bedroom by using a lot of awesome
foreplay, and even BEFORE you get to
the foreplay in the bedroom, you can
create this kind of tension verbally
by making sure a woman never feels
she has totally got you.
So if a woman tells you that she knows
you want her, rather than arguing and
turning something fun into an argument,
you might instead say “And you WANT
me to want you”, or if she says “You
want to rip my clothes off”, you might
say “You WANT me to rip your clothes
off”.
It’s important, for HER joy, that she
DOES NOT FEEL SHE CAN GET
YOU SO EASILY.
This is not about some sick psycho game
of mental abuse, it’s about realizing that
without the right degree of tension, there
isn’t the maximum FUN in BREAKING
that sexual tension with the release later.
There is another way to create sexual
tension as well:
SEXUAL TENSION METHOD TWO:
POSITIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION
All human beings have conflict, but the
LUCKY ones RESOLVE that conflict.
No matter how perfect you and the woma
you meet are, you are not going to see
eye to eye on everything.
You can’t just give in to everything to
please a woman, or you will lose your
own self-respect plus she will lose respect
for you.
You can’t argue about everything either.
The key is to choose your battles wisely,
but ALWAYS battle from a place of
LOVE and NOT NASTINESS OR
NAME-CALLING OR ABUSE.
I promise you this: When you both emerge
from a conflict that you RESOLVED without
abusing each other, you are THEN going to
have some INSANELY WILD TIMES
TOGETHER PHYSICALLY.
Conflict is a part of life, and when you
handle it properly, it creates the natural
tension between the both of you, since
you are by nature of the conflict setting
up BARRIERS between the two of you,
so when it is RESOLVED, you REALLY
want to dive into each other.
At this point, I want to share a very
important letter I received from a man
using the Get A Great Girl materials,
including my latest program, called
Instant Attraction:
LETTER:
I thought I'd give you some success
stories, just to make you feel good as
you care about how guys are doing in
this field:
One thing I came to realized how powerful
it is after reading your materials is Brutal
Honesty.
When you say something very genuine,
women respond to that immensely, and
they follow you through the conversation.
(If you remembered that when I told you
that I want to weed out all the pick up words
and lines for good), this was a good way
to start clearing out myself.
Along with the comment of, "You're beautiful"
without any intention of taking from her, and
stopping the conversation right there - I found
that very helpful too, and the tonality of women
changes and becomes very warm, appreciative,
and thankful who receive such comments, as you
say, "from a giving place". Simply amazing.
Here is the moment of truth, out of all the
women I approached, and applied the knowledge
I stated above, not one of them was not receptive,
not one of them was not smiley, and not one
of them was not willing to further continue the
conversation, perhaps elsewhere.
As a matter of fact, I realized that I can meet
great women almost everywhere I go, I also realized
that there are many good women, whom I began to
feel that they are just waiting for a man to sweep
them off their feet and be with him forever.
More proof just to prove that your programs
"grow in power", is that right now, and I swear
to you, every single time, every where I go,
I began to realize that women - the beautiful ones –
try to get my attention with everything they got,
either by having "their excuses" of accidentally
showing up in front of my face (supermarket,
work, etc) or treating me really nicely, or (this
is a funny one) trying to find a place to sit
right next to me if I'm on a computer in the
library, and all the other desks around are empty.
And what amazes me the most, is that all this
happens without even me saying a word man.
That's how powerful your stuff is.
I’ve also worked on having more balance
in my life, including sleep, good diet, working out,
and especially weeding out stress - because I
noticed that it is the ultimate killer of testosterone.”
-Lawrence T.
MY REPLY:
Fantastic work, man. Now I know that
a lot of guys will read your letter and
think, “Oh, so all I need to do is just
be honest with women?” and the answer
is YES, but that this honesty needs to be
coming from a very ENRICHED and
EMPOWERED place inside of you.
To paraphrase Wayne Dyer, you can only
squeeze out of an orange what is IN that
orange.
So the key is to enrich your understanding
of women and sexuality, and to improve your inner
confidence, and to enrich your understanding of
humanity in general, and THEN the honesty
that comes out of you is ALL VERY POWERFUL
AND ATTRACTIVE.
Because you’ve worked on yourself and
learned so much, so now at this point
WHATEVER COMES OUT OF YOU
is all ATTRACTIVE.
And I’m so proud, man, because this is
EXACTLY what I MOST desire for the
men who study my materials. I don’t
want any man to feel the need to FAKE
SOMETHING in order to attract women.
I want men to be able to attract women
simply by BEING. No gimmicks, no
games, no nonsense.
And throughout the years, I have stayed
true to this approach.
In fact, because I care about the entire field,
I made sure to have the highest standards of
integrity. So, when I took men out in public
to approach women anywhere, it was all
DOCUMENTED by TONS of witnesses
by one of the biggest newspapers on the
PLANET.
Why did I do this?
Because I knew that there were many folks
in this field who did NOT have integrity
and who were just trying to make a quick
buck.
So, if I DIDN’T have the highest standards
of documentation, proof, and witnesses,
ANYBODY could just FAKE the same
results by getting friends or actors to
POSE as women who are receptive to
the guys’ advances.
Right now, there are probably HUNDREDS
if not THOUSANDS of videos out there
showing guys approaching women, but
how many of them have been VERIFIED
as untouched video by THIRD PARTIES
without a vested interest in doctoring the footage?
Keep in mind, as well, that the men who I
coached were totally free to say the truth
because I had no control over the report,
plus I was chosen as the coach for these
men not ONLY because I could help them
with the APPROACH, but also because I
could help teach them about the important
elements necessary for getting and keeping
the kind of woman who would also make
for a great RELATIONSHIP.
The coaching was all part of a contest called
The “Get A Relationship Challenge”.
Integrity matters to me.
Always remember that the best is not
the same as the MOST. So McDonald’s
might sell the MOST burgers, but probably
the CEO of McDonald’s gets his own
dinner somewhere else, right?
If you really want the BEST coaching
for getting the kind of woman you really
want in your life, then it’s time to take
it really SERIOUSLY, and there is no
dating coach more SERIOUS about helping
men learn how to meet, attract, and keep
a truly GREAT woman than myself.
If you haven’t downloaded my latest
program, called Instant Attraction, then
definitely do that now. It really DOES
have my latest powerful insights on
attracting women, and it really WILL
make a BIG difference IMMEDIATELY
in helping you attract the kind of women
you want.
It’s at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/instant-attraction.html
After you’ve done that, and proven to yourself
just how much you’ve GAINED from that
program, check out all my OTHER programs-
EACH ONE is designed to give you MORE
AND MORE POWER to attract the women
you WANT.
Those programs are at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
And when you are ready for the BIGGEST
STEP, it’s time to take my BOOTCAMP.
Find out FULL DETAILS about this at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And finally, sometimes there is a particular
challenge or urgent dating or relationship situation
that you are facing that may require an immediate
live consultation with me. This means I stop
everything I am doing and immediately put all
my focus on YOU.
To arrange a personal consultation, email me
directly and write the words CONSULTATION
REQUEST in capitals in the subject line.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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