Today there are some ULTRA-IMPORTANT
things I want to share with you about getting
a fantastic quality woman- "the one" if you will.
In particular, there are FIVE traits that you
should be searching for in a woman, and
ALL FIVE are super-important.
These five traits are:
EMPATHY.
HIGH SELF-ESTEEM.
SELF-DISCIPLINE.
A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED.
INFINITE FIDELITY.
And obviously, it goes without saying that
as men, these are just as important for US
to have as well, if we are seeking a woman
that is truly "the one".
What is mind-boggling to me, is how many guys
out there actually DO have these qualities and
have no idea how PRECIOUS they are.
This is where good guys have no clue how
awesome they are, and instead they allow
themselves to be abused by women like
CRAZY, all the while not realizing that
they don't have to be in these abusive
situations, and that in fact there are
some incredible women out there who
would REALLY jump on the opportunity
to be with these guys.
So, let's begin:
1: EMPATHY
Empathy might sound so simple, so obvious,
that you might not even think you have to
make sure a woman HAS this trait.
Nothing could be further from the truth,
however. A powerful sense of empathy is
not something to take for granted as being
a trait that everyone, or in this case, that
every woman, has. NOT every woman
has it at all.
A lot of people know that it is important, so
they attempt to FAKE having empathy.
If a woman does not have a powerful sense
of empathy, she simply won’t be able to
UNDERSTAND you or CARE about you.
Empathy is greater than sympathy. Empathy
is, to quote “Psychology Today”, “the experience
of understanding another person's condition
from their perspective. You place yourself
in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.”
There is no way to live with a woman long-term
and enjoy the experience of being with her if
she simply does not have the ability, or if she
does not truly make the effort, to feel what you
are feeling.
People talk all day about wanting a partner with
intelligence, but they don’t talk that much about
EMPATHY, and yet the truth is, most people
don’t need an EINSTEIN for a partner, but they
do need someone who has great empathy.
2: HIGH SELF-ESTEEM
It is essential that a woman also have high
self-esteem. I know a lot of guys think
the opposite, that if a woman has high
self-esteem, she will think too highly
of herself and therefore not appreciate
the guy.
But it doesn’t work that way, as high-self
esteem has nothing, in itself, to do with
ARROGANCE or haughtiness, and in
fact, sometimes when someone is feeling
low self-esteem, they feel the need to
overcompensate with arrogance and
haughtiness.
The more high self-esteem a woman feels,
the less likely she feels a need to put YOU
down, IF she ALSO has a great sense of
EMPATHY, which is why I mentioned
EMPATHY first.
So, she has empathy, and therefore does not
want you to feel pain, because if you feel
pain, she feels your pain- and when you
feel good, she feels good, she WANTS you
to feel good.
But when a woman feels LOW SELF-ESTEEM,
she feels THREATENED, she may feel that that
men don’t like her, she may feel that you don’t
like her, she may feel stupid, etc, etc.
And, if a woman feels that men don’t like her,
or that you don’t like her, she is far more likely
to feel the need to cause you PAIN. She will
try to make you JEALOUS in order to get you
to like her. She will try to put you DOWN in
order for you to feel like you are LUCKY to
be with her.
She will do all sorts of horrifying things all
because SHE is insecure and feels the need
to make OTHERS including YOU feel LOW
so that they should feel SHE is relatively
HIGH next to them on the totem pole of
being a person who is appreciated by others
for her beauty, intelligence, etc.
Again, the combination of EMPATHY
and high self-esteem is important.
Someone who JUST feels high self esteem might
feel they are GREAT, and have no particular need
to be mean to you, but also no particular need to
care one way or another, and so to a woman without
empathy who has high self esteem, you might just
not be all that important at all.
But again, if she JUST has high self-esteem,
and she feels she can GAIN somehow by
being cruel to you, she might still engage
in that cruelty because she has no EMPATHY
for you, and she feels SUPERIOR to everyone
else since she has no empathy but she does have
high self esteem, so she figures why not just be
totally selfish.
And if she JUST has empathy, she might care
about you, but be no FUN to hang around with,
since she feels so low about herself she just feels
like moping, she feels kind of dead inside, and
this is really tragic by the way.
Plus, if she has low self-esteem, then even if she
has empathy, she might still refuse to believe that
you really like her, that you really are interested
in her, and she might still feel the need to make
you jealous or do other things in order to try to
placate her sense of inferiority.
So you want that magical combo of empathy
AND high self-esteem in a woman.
3: SELF-DISCIPLINE.
It takes self-discipline to find a better solution to
problems than resorting to drug or alcohol abuse.
It takes self-discipline to live by a moral code and
never fool around on the man she is with.
It takes self-discipline for her to hit the gym,
keep in shape, and follow a healthy diet and
lifestyle.
It takes self-discipline to WORK HARD rather
than sit on the couch and Twitter all day or
Facebook all day (especially when it’s with
other guys!) and flirt with other men (or women)
behind your back all day, or be obsessed with
thoughts of sex with others all day rather than
thinking of how she can help you raise a family
together and how she can help INSPIRE you to
be at your best.
And, just like before, self-discipline ALONE
is not enough. It must ALSO come with the
other traits that I am mentioning.
So, for example, self-discipline alone in a woman
might just mean she is disciplined to do whatever
it takes to just make money or do whatever other
selfish thing she wants to do.
Self-discipline ALONE is not enough to make
a woman worthy of a good man who has the
most pure and long-term intentions.
The FOURTH trait that is VITAL that you should
be seeking in a woman is:
4: A BELIEF THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE SACRED
The bottom line is that making a life together,
especially if you plan to raise a family with
a woman, involves GREAT, MASSIVE HURDLES.
And we are living in a time when NO ONE
is putting the social pressure on anyone to
really give a damn about family values anymore
compared to the past.
So the only force that will keep the relationship
going is the force that is created by the two
people in that relationship.
And that means that you both must feel that
a relationship is not just something nice or
fun or a way to kill time.
It must be the DEFINING feature of your life.
The love that you two share must be CHERISHED.
The idea of raising a family together must be
something that inspires both of you to be your
best in every way to each other.
And the only way that inspiration can be strong
enough to last a lifetime is if that inspiration is
driven by a belief that what you two are creating
together in your bond is something of DIVINE
significance that can affect the universe.
And when it comes to this issue, people either
FEEL THIS WAY or they DON’T.
So don’t try to teach a woman how to feel this way.
If she thinks this is just about screwing,
or just about having fun, or just about sharing
a pleasant time together, then it is going to
CRASH.
Every DAY has to be inspired, and that can
ONLY happen when she and you realize this
is about MORE than just you and her, it is
about something SACRED.
Finally, the FIFTH trait she must have is:
5: INFINITE FIDELITY
This actually IS something that women need
to learn MORE than men these days, because
in olden days, women would be shunned by
society completely and never get married if they
were seen as even REMOTELY being unfaithful.
This has its roots in our history, because
men had no clue if a woman was pregnant with their
own child or some other guy's kid- i.e. if she was
disloyal.
This is where the rage, the jealousy, the ZERO
tolerance emotion that men have for women
who cheat, came from. It makes total sense,
because NOT having such strong emotions
on this issue could mean the difference between
having their own DNA wiped OUT from the
gene pool, or having their own DNA continue
by fathering children- their OWN children.
And even though today DNA testing can prove this,
our BRAINS as men are still hardwired the same way
as they were in ancient days, meaning that a man has
absolutely no TOLERANCE for a woman that might
even in the SLIGHTEST way be unfaithful.
It is not like men consciously think about the
evolution/paternity issue at all, it is the fact
that we are HARDWIRED to have very
STRONG emotions about this issue, as men.
Most women today don't understand this issue,
because political correctness has made it so that
any mention of this issue is deemed somehow to
be a form of trying to control a woman, when
in reality it is women who control men by sheer
virtue of biology:
Only women give birth, and only women know
for sure who is the father, unless scientific
testing gets in the way, and only women have
the power over men's emotions in this way.
In fact, the ONLY evolutionary counter
for men would be to literally shack up
with HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of other
women, which, in the ABSENCE of a special
faithful woman, is MEN'S actual nature anyway.
So until we live in a culture where it is politically
correct for men to sleep with thousands of women,
there will be no force to make women think of how
important it is that THEY show men how faithful
that they as women can be, by steering CLEAR
AWAY from all forms of behavior that can raise
EVEN THE SUSPICION of infidelity.
This includes hanging out alone with some dude
she says is just a friend. 99.99% of straight men
have better things to do than just "hang out in
their free time" with some woman they are NOT
SEXUALLY INTERESTED in, in private.
A wise woman who REALLY wants a man
to love her forever will think twice before joining
her fellow "mainstream society women" who
think it is cute to flirt with other men or to play
even the TINIEST games on the side with
other men.
So, do NOT go for any woman who doesn't
understand this TO THE DEEPEST FIBERS
of her SOUL.
And if you are reading this right now and
would like to know more about getting a
truly fantastic woman, then I suggest you
get my book, called Get A Great Girl,
immediately.
This book is packed with how to do things
DIFFERENTLY if you are looking to meet
and keep a truly fantastic woman compared
to just picking up women.
It’s at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
If you have any questions about women, dating,
or relationships, and you would like a personal
consultation with me, just email me directly
at michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com and I will
be in touch with you on the same day.
You should probably also check out my full
line of programs for success with women at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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