A New Girlfriend By The End Of The Day?

Today is Saturday, and before this day

is over, you could have yourself a new

girlfriend. 

And if you are reading this somewhere

in the world where it is already Sunday,

the exact same holds true.

In just one day, and it could be

ANY day, a man can get himself

a fantastic new girlfriend. 

That is not hyperbole or exaggeration.

And I’m not just talking about any woman.

I’m talking about the kind of woman most

men can only DREAM of getting.

In fact, I am absolutely certain of this,

and the real challenge is holding yourself

BACK from entering into a serious relationship

too quickly with her, because  you are going

to be so crazy about her and she is going to

be so crazy about you that you both are

going to think you should jump into a

relationship, which I advise you not to

do so fast.

More on that later in this newsletter.  

How do I know this?

Because I prove this every week:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

I take guys, in person, out into the “real

world” where women are, and demonstrate

how it all works, and have them prove it

for themselves.  Approaching women who

are gorgeous, total strangers, and having

these women melt for them.

And these women are not drunk in

some club. They are women from all

walks of life, in normal places like

cafes, bookstores, supermarkets, transit,

and everywhere else.

So, getting the woman you want doesn’t

have to take a lot of TIME. If you started

right now, you could have her by tonight.

It doesn’t take a lot of money.

Especially when you consider most

men spend just about everything they

have trying to impress women, trying

to meet women and trying to get women

through various ways.

It doesn’t have to take heartache.

It DOES take know-how.

So let me share with you today something

VITAL about attracting women that most

men don’t understand, and that I myself

didn’t get before I started in this field.

The typical guy will usually eventually meet

SOME woman he is attracted to, who is attracted

to him.  (And if you have never met any woman
yet, you may be able to use this in your favor since 
you may have a clean slate to work from- a slate
that may be free from the wrong assumptions).    

Everything seems like it’s going to be great.

And the guy then does all the things he’s heard

from various sources, things like 'be nice to

women, 'give women compliments', and 'be

sensitive', etc.

And USUALLY what happens is that the whole

thing goes to HELL, it doesn’t work out, the

woman ends up “losing interest” and all that

crap.

So, as guys, we tend to learn the wrong lesson:

We start to think that women are nuts, that

women are all liars, that women in fact

DON’T like any of those things, and we

start to think that all those old guys in

the locker room who gave us advice about

women and told us that all women were

terrible were right, and that their advice

of having to show women “who’s the boss”

may actually be onto something.

This then opens us up to the advice from

pick up artists who say “all women are

the same, so you may as just well not

get into relationships, just get physical

with as many women as you can,

and do the bar scene, and find promiscuous

women and just have lots of physical

stuff with lots of women.”

The problem with that is that it really only

works on women who are unable to have

a long-term passion and connection to a

man.  Usually, the women that are really

into “hooking up” are women with

extreme lifestyle choices, like drinking

heavily, working in careers with extreme

hours that make relationships almost impossible,

or women who simply don’t have much

emotional capacity to love in the first place.

The real truth is that actually women

ARE attracted to men who are loving,

who are kind, who are sensitive, but

the key to remember is that just because

a woman is attracted does not mean she

is compatible.

Most women tend to be lucky enough to

live in societies where men do the

approaching, so women usually feel less

desperate than men, and more easily able to

back off a possible male partner if she

sees that he isn't compatible.

On the other hand, because most men

are the ones who have to do the approaching,

and most men don't know how to approach,

this makes most men feel a scarcity

when it comes to women, and this

scarcity then makes men feel more

desperate, and increases the halo

effect they feel for a woman, and

this makes most men feel the need

to "make it work" even if a woman 

is not compatible.

So the answer is not to become a jerk, the

answer is not to abandon the whole ship

altogether and say to forget ever having

an actual girlfriend that you really are

passionate about and to just instead have

robotic “physical only” relationships.

The answer is to actually see the REAL TRUTH

which is that most men simply don’t meet ENOUGH

of the RIGHT women in the first place to actually

CHOOSE the woman who WILL work out as the

RIGHT one.

It’s NOT that all women are screwed up.

It’s that most men meet so FEW WOMEN,

that the woman or women they DO try to

connect with almost always end up NOT

working out long term.

This is, of course, NOT the fault of anyone.

And I really mean this, because we are

TOLD from a young age to believe that

DESTINY will find us the right woman,

and so we can’t help but THINK that

when we DO meet a woman we like

who likes us as well, that she MUST

be the one that DESTINY has promised

for us, otherwise why would we feel

so STRONGLY about her?

And the ANSWER to that is because

MOTHER NATURE IS FREAKING SMART.

Mother nature wants to make sure we

MATE AND REPRODUCE, so nature,

or evolution, or whatever you want to call

it, has made it that we tend to INFLATE

the ‘PERFECTNESS’ or the SUITABILITY

of a woman for us. 

It’s part of the HALO effect, where we tend

to attribute greater virtue, greater intelligence,

greater EVERYTHING when it comes to the

good things, when we are ATTRACTED to

someone.

ATTRACTION actually blinds us not only

to what a woman really is, but it blinds us

to our OWN faulty decision making processes.

In other words, we tend to THINK we are

very logical and smart in our decision making

processes when it comes to women, but unless
we have been lucky enough to have LEARNED
this from someone, most of us just aren’t,
including myself.

I had to learn this lesson, as well as just about 
all the insights and skills regarding attracting women, 
the long hard way.    

If you are the exception to this, and you ALWAYS
KNEW whether a woman would be compatible 
with you or not, from the get go, you have my 
congratulations, of course.  

EVOLUTION has designed human beings to want
to MATE without thinking TOOO much about it.

So unless you are keenly aware of the dynamics
going on regarding sexual attraction, it's almost
impossible to realize the "tricks" that are minds
are playing on us.  

Evolution just wants us to reproduce to keep

the species going, which is kind of a hard thing

to argue with, so let’s give mother nature or

evolution some respect here and not hate it either.

So, let me bring this right down to what this

means for what you should DO to attract

women- and that is, you actually SHOULD

have an open heart, you SHOULD show

AUTHENTIC interest when you speak 
to a woman, and you SHOULD come across 
with GOODNESS rather than cynical, bitter
thoughts about how you must control this 
woman in order to prevent her from hurting 
you….

BUT this does NOT mean that you should

necessarily GO FOR A WOMAN just because

she then RESPONDS to your approach.

Don’t go in with a bitter attitude at all.

In fact, enjoy the process and have a blast.

Just SLOW THINGS DOWN in terms of

getting into a serious relationship, so you can

make sure she is indeed RIGHT for you and

that you are right for her, and that neither of you

are falling for the halo effect.

A woman can be a good woman but just not

the right compatible woman for you, due to

having a very different personality from yours,

but the “halo effect” can trick you into thinking

that this is not a problem.

Most men end up getting their perceptions of

women based on an EXTREMELY LIMITED

sample of information.  This is because they

either never actually date enough women, or

they get into serious relationships that take

YEARS, before actually having met enough

women to meet one that is compatible with

them.

I’m not saying that men need to date all

the BILLIONS of women on the planet

before making a decision or before getting

into a relationship, but for the love of

goodness, don’t make a decision about

women before at least meeting a HUNDRED

of them, and getting to know at least

50 of them really well, and dating at least

a couple dozen of them.

To make a generalization about BILLIONS

of women without actually getting to know

a lot of them is madness, and yet that is

what most men, including myself at one

point, do.

And when I say ‘getting to know’ I really do

mean ‘getting to know’ – so until you are

actually dating a woman, or if you somehow

were already friends with her for a while,

you just don’t know her.  Most men jump

to conclusions in order to prevent having

to do the actual action of getting to know

them for real.

This is ANOTHER reason why I teach men

how to MEET TONS OF WOMEN easily,

in real life, through approaching them, so

that this way, you can have a lot of women

to get to know and to actually CHOOSE

from.

And when you make that approach, you

MUST be authentic.

I’m going to quote myself now:

“And one of the KEY elements to having an effective

conversation when you approach a woman who is

a total stranger is for you to come across as

AUTHENTIC, and not as some guy who has this

predetermined exact concept of what you and her

should say and do.”

A woman can TELL when a guy is not being authentic,

and is on some form of auto-pilot, and it creeps a

woman out, it makes her go on “caution” mode,

since she is wondering why can’t the guy just

be more “for real” instead of putting on an act.

Of course, the CHALLENGE then becomes the following:

“How do I go in there without a plan, and stay

CALM? After all, I have no idea what to SAY

to her!!!!!!!!!!” 

Well, this gets to step number TWO:

NUMBER TWO:

PUT ALL YOUR NERVOUS ENERGY INTO

ONE THING- FOCUSING ON HER.

See, the REAL trick to this, is that you don’t

HAVE to memorize or plan ANYTHING, you

can start a conversation with the SIMPLEST

remark or observation that you notice, and

then ALL YOUR FOCUS IS OFF YOU COMPLETELY,

it should ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

go into LISTENING to her, and OBSERVING her,

and REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY

paying attention.

This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good, for so

many reasons, and it really is so friggen insane

how the so called “pick up artists” will sell guys

so much B.S. and nonsense, and miss out on the

BIGGEST thing, which is this.

First of all, by focusing on LISTENING to her and

observing her, rather than on thinking to yourself

“WHAT DO I SAY TO HER?” you go into a much

CALMER state, since there is just about NOTHING

that you have to “figure out” in terms of what

to say or do!

You just LISTEN, OBSERVE, PERCEIVE,

PAY ATTENTION, to all that she says or does. 

So start the conversation with SOME observation:

It could be the oranges she’s looking at in the

supermarket, and you notice she is really taking

her time to get the right ones and you could say

the first thought in your mind from this e.g.

“You’re really picky, aren’t you?”

Is this a REALLY GENIUS HARD COMMENT to think of

when you see her selecting the oranges? No, it’s not.  

The KEY is to OBSERVE her response- let your eyes,

ears, intelligence, and HEART be OPEN so you can

get ALL the things she is saying/implying with her

words, body language, clothing style, etc.

So, she might chuckle first, to which YOU can say:

“You’re laughing.  You think I’m funny.  You were

here to get oranges and now you’re getting more

than just oranges.”

Or, she might chuckle and say to you:

“You have to be careful, not all oranges are

equal!” as a joke back to you.

If you’re paying attention to HER, then when

she says to you her comment that not all oranges

are equal, this could trigger in your mind the

thought or image of oranges not all mixing together

properly, or even the thought that oranges

themselves can’t be mixed with oranges, never

mind APPLES and ORANGES!

So you can respond to her with:

“Oh man, now you’re getting really mean!

First they say, not to mix apples and oranges,

but now according to YOU, you can’t even

mix APPLES AND APPLES! That’s it, we’re

done! I want a divorce!”

THIS IS FUNNY, and it shows you DID NOT

REHEARSE IT OR PLAN IT.

So she does not go into: “This sucks, this guy

doesn’t even pay attention to me, he just says

the same pick up lines to every woman he meets!”

Instead, you were AUTHENTIC and truly in the

MOMENT and just GENUINELY and AUTHENTICALLY

REACTING to what she was doing and saying.

On the idea of being AUTHENTIC, let me continue with:

TELLING A WOMAN YOU FIND HER ATTRACTIVE

So, you know how in general, putting a

woman on a PEDESTAL is a TERRIBLE

way to try to attract her?

Well guess what? I figured out a way to

actually tell a woman she is beautiful and

have it ONLY do GOOD things for you,

WITHOUT you coming across as a weak

man who will sell his soul for any crumbs

of attention from a beautiful woman.

It all has to do with the INTENT.

You see, getting back to point number

ONE regarding AUTHENTICITY, you

CAN tell a woman that she is beautiful,

because you MEAN it, and it IS the reason

you approached her, but the mistake that

just about EVERY GUY makes is that they

ALSO bring something ELSE into the

situation when they say something like

“You are so beautiful that I had to come

over and say hello.”

The MISTAKE is bringing into the situation

all your thoughts about the future, and how

you would do ANYTHING to be with her, and

how you would REALLY appreciate it, if she was

with you, etc, etc. 

And those desperate thoughts come from NOT

UNDERSTANDING THAT THERE REALLY

ARE BILLIONS OF WOMEN OUT THERE.

Now the TRICK to not thinking needy thoughts

is to simply be FULLY AUTHENTIC, which means

NOT romanticizing the moment with endless

thoughts of the FUTURE based on one interaction

with one woman, and instead just focus on the

PRESENT.

THAT IS FAR MORE AUTHENTIC TO

REALITY.  She is one woman.  She MIGHT

be the one, but she might not, but who cares,

it’s all part of the PROCESS, and you do

find her beautiful- that is the real truth.

In other words, she is BEAUTIFUL and you

FIND HER ATTRACTIVE.

That’s it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And THAT is OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t just mean morally okay, which OF

COURSE it is, what I mean is THAT will

NOT make you seem weak to a woman,

in fact, it can make you seem STRONG,

since you TOOK ACTION on your DESIRE,

and you have no apology for it.

That is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

different than the way most guys would

say the “beautiful” comment.

Also, one of the reasons I usually DON’T

suggest guys approach women with the

“you are so beautiful” comment is because

I myself used to be BRAINWASHED to believe

that women REALLY appreciated it when a

a man found her beautiful, and when a man

in general found her to be more beautiful

than any other woman, etc.

I used to really believe that the biggest thing

in a relationship for a woman is having a man 

that never takes her for granted, that always

finds her so beautiful, etc, etc.

Of course, we are fed this B.S. from the day

we are born, so it’s no wonder so many men

think this, follow this, and then end up having

their hearts torn to shreds.

So, I don’t want guys to make the mistake of

thinking the “beautiful” comment works because

of romantic reasons, and I don’t want guys to

think that their relationships depend on convincing

a woman how beautiful you find her to be,

as that will just make you come across as weak

on an inner level, and women just can’t feel

attraction to men who radiate weakness within.

So that’s why I’m being REALLY careful to be

CLEAR here- the reason the “you’re

so beautiful” comment works in an initial

approach is ONLY if it is done with the

implications given in your vocal tonality that

you are the kind of man who rises to the challenge,

you see a woman you find beautiful, you take

action. 

And yes, of course, a woman also appreciates

the compliment, but it’s not the COMPLIMENT

so much as the fact that YOU are so secure

with yourself, with your value, with being

secure about your sexual value, that all

YOU care about is EXPRESSING IT.

The emphasis is on YOU expressing your interest,

in a non-needy way, through the “beautiful”

comment.  

In fact, the MORE you are COOL with her

NOT reciprocating the same interest, the

BETTER you will do, which is just another

irony is a series of ironies about attraction. 

The reason it works when you DON’T need

her to  MELT for you when you say these

words to her, is that it shows her you are

STRONG, that you are not so obsessed

with her having to now say “I will marry you”

just because you said “You are beautiful”.

Also, another positive element about this

“beautiful” comment, of course, is that it

is AUTHENTIC, and it immediately establishes

that you are not there out of platonic interest,

but rather you ARE A MAN who finds her

to be AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN.

So it sets the wheels in motion in her mind

immediately, and it sets them in the right

direction, rather than pretending you just

want to talk about the weather with her.

Now, of course, on the ULTIMATE level,

when you have mastered EVERYTHING,

you can IMPLY so much in the most subtle

nuances in your expression and tonality,

even if you did approach a woman and

you DID talk about only the weather.

And, of course, you can also start with

a neutral conversation, and THEN go

into FLIRTY mode, teasing her playfully,

etc.

But before the ultimate level, where you

can actually do anything, this can be a

great way to improve your results with

women.

There are many roads that lead to Rome,

so to speak, but the KEY is to be AUTHENTIC

and to LISTEN and OBSERVE so that you

can react in the most fitting and most effective

way possible, based on what she is saying

or doing.

And if you are reading this right now,

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Till next time,

Michael Marks