As a guy, I just want to say that I UNDERSTAND
the desire to want to just get to the FUN stuff with
women, and the good news is that the truth is that
most women LOVE everything to do with getting
physical. HOWEVER, before you can get to that
part, you need to WARM WOMEN UP first with
the RIGHT kind of conversation that gets things
going in the proper direction.
In other words, before you can get physical with a woman,
you need to develop a powerful CONNECTION with her
Unless a woman is at a club and clearly LOOKING
to just get physical, it’s ESSENTIAL that you don’t
"put the cart before the horse" so to speak.
SKIPPING the first stage and trying to get physical
IMMEDIATELY (even just verbalizing your desire
to take things to a physical level) almost always fails,
especially when approaching women in everyday
places like coffee shops, bookstores, public transit,
or just about anywhere else.
So here’s what I mean by the RIGHT type of conversation:
The right kind of conversation taps on topics that are directly
MEANINGFUL to a woman, and are also INTRIGUING to
her, and are often ALSO FUNNY at the same time. Overall,
the TONE should be UPBEAT, it should take her to a place
that is emotionally BETTER than where she was BEFORE
she met you.
And one of the BIG topics that you can incorporate into
almost ANY "approach women" situation is the topic of
HUMAN COMMUNICATION and CONNECTION.
Think about it: When you approach a woman who is a
total stranger, the ONLY way to bridge that gap is by
helping her "feel out your personality". Otherwise,
you are letting her view you as a blank VOID, since
you are a stranger to her.
The way to help her ‘feel out your personality’ is to
CONNECT to her using the sharpest human communication
skills you have, and I have found that actually using the
TOPIC of human communication as a theme in your chat
with her, ends up SUBCONSCIOUSLY MOTIVATING
HER to use HER communication skills with YOU, so that
she can get to know YOU better!
As human beings, we are ALL social creatures. We may
not all be "party animals" but we all need some connection
to others. No man, and no woman, is an island. So chances
are STRONG that this topic will RESONATE with most
women you meet.
Keep in mind that most women are even more social than men, and you then realize that this topic becomes even MORE effective with women.
Now, before I go further, let me give you two powerful
points regarding human communication that you might
use in a chat with a woman:
1. For all the technological communication tools we
have today, overall as a society we actually have
FEWER truly MEANINGFUL connections than
our parents’ generation, partially as a RESULT
of all these technological devices.
2. Study after study keeps on showing us that
meaningful connections with others, i.e. our
relationships with others, are the single greatest
factor in determining our overall sense of happiness.
This is all VERY RELEVANT to "picking up women" and
I’ll get more into all of this in a second.
I want to make it really clear that what I am about to describe
does NOT have to be a DIFFICULT task to accomplish, in
fact I will show you right now a PERFECT way to do this
EVERY time.
The magic words to remember are these:
EVERY situation where you see a woman somewhere,
no matter WHERE, and no matter WHEN, always has
the PERFECT solution already BUILT IN to that situation,
so that you NEVER have to resort to cheesy pick-up lines
that sound to her like you use them on every woman, and
which would not make her feel special at all.
Pick-up lines actually cause women to put up their
GUARDS because women then feel you are not being real
with them, they feel you are just putting on an ACT.
They then wonder what you are HIDING if you have to
use some ACT. This is what causes the negative reaction
of most women to pick up lines- it’s because they make
women SUSPICIOUS of what the guy REALLY is about,
since he is clearly putting on some act that hides his identity.
So here’s an EXAMPLE of the "HOW-TO" on applying
this concept of "every situation has the solution built
into it" while incorporating the TOPIC of "HUMAN CONNECTION".
Let’s say you are at a STARBUCKS and you see a woman
there you’d love to chat up. You might notice a million
different things, from the book she is holding in her
hand, to the particular drink she orders, that you might
have an intriguing comment on, but let’s say you CAN’T
think of anything to say to her- here’s an example of
INCORPORATING THE ELEMENT OF HUMAN
CONNECTION:
You might speak about the very FACT that Starbucks
itself was really based on the PREMISE that going for
a coffee should NOT just be something you RUSH
but rather should something you savor and enjoy as
a great experience WITH OTHER PEOPLE around.
It’s the HUMAN element, NOT the coffee, as
coffee has been around for a lot longer than
Starbucks has. Even coffee shops used to
be something that didn’t really CELEBRATE
the coffee experience, it wasn’t supposed to
be some CLASSY social experience till
STARBUCKS came along.
And you can actually APPROACH a woman
in a Starbucks, or even ANYWHERE, any
woman having a coffee, but especially this
would work well in a Starbucks, by mentioning
something like this:
"Hi there, I just had this thought, and I’m curious
what you think. Did you know that the whole idea
of Starbucks is that it was instead of people rushing
in and out of donut and coffee shops, the idea was
that people would really RELISH the coffee experience,
and that it would be a COMMUNITY type of place
where you actually take your time with it.
In fact, that’s why every Starbucks has the community
wall inside of it, with postings about events in the
community. The idea is to have people socializing
and being a GROUP, it’s the SOCIAL element.
But here’s the part that really makes me WONDER:
Have you EVER seen anyone at a Starbucks actually
CHAT to anyone they didn’t already KNOW?"
NOW THIS is a COOL conversation starter, and you’ve
actually shown how YOU are aware of the human
dynamics of communication, and how YOU are
actually DIFFERENT from others, and also if she
CHATS TO YOU RIGHT NOW, she is PROVING
herself to be DIFFERENT from most people as well,
in a POSITIVE way, which now gives you something
that you can REWARD her for with a GENUINE
compliment!
No matter WHAT SHE SAYS back to you, chances are
she’s going to provide you with a lot MORE to speak about
than if you just say "hi" to her, or just told her she was
beautiful, although that is also a lot better than doing
nothing.
She might respond with something like this:
"That’s fascinating, I never thought about that before!
But it makes sense. Usually I’m just thinking I need
my caffeine fix!"
And now, with that kind of playful humor that SHE
is giving you, you are off to the right kind of BANTER.
You can playfully tease her for being addicted to a drug
called caffeine, and then you can actually give her a
COMPLIMENT that she is one of the few human
beings that has social skills enough to actually use
Starbucks for what is was originally designed for!
Once you are on this topic, you can take it much FURTHER,
even if you, for example, CONSCIOUSLY bring up MORE
of the topic of human communication in a way that involves
HER.
You could tell her that one of the most important elements
to human communication is confirming feedback, meaning
validation, this can be SIMPLE in the sense of someone
saying HELLO to you after you have said HELLO to them.
And then you can PLAYFULLY say to her, "Hello!" and
she will GET THE JOKE, that it’s HER role to now
say HELLO back to you, and she will say, "Hello", and
now you can PLAYFULLY tell her that she is GOOD at
this communication stuff.
By being PLAYFUL about this, you are actually getting
away with PERFECT HUMAN COMMUNICATION
and CONFIRMING FEEDBACK, and setting up a
great foundation for her to get to KNOW you, all
the while she is ENJOYING this because it’s a bit
playful and not totally serious.
You can even take it a step FURTHER by letting her
know that receiving VALIDATION from others
through confirming feedback is really an essential
part of having a healthy psyche, and you can then
smile at her and give her a MEANINGFUL
compliment and even TELL her that you just
gave her a GENUINE confirming feedback,
and you can even playfully suggest that she
should give the same to you, and tell her that
means she should say something nice about you!
REMEMBER that what makes all this work is
the playful element MIXED with the fact that
this is ALSO true HUMAN COMMUNICATON
being done in the RIGHT WAY.
Now, human communication and validation
is a DEEP topic, that affects EVERYTHING
about our emotions, including the emotion
of SEX, but for now, I just want to mention
ONE more thing, which is that you can
even talk about how TRUST is the bedrock
of any real meaningful social connection,
to which she will surely AGREE.
At this point, going for her NUMBER is going
to be the EASIEST thing on Earth, because you
have conveyed TONS of cool things about yourself,
and you have gotten her smiling, you have intrigued
her, you have made her feel better about herself,
you have shown yourself to be different from
every other guy she’s met, it’s just CRAZY
how much good stuff you have going for yourself
at this point.
And by the way, this TOPIC is NOT limited
to STARBUCKS AT ALL!!!!!
The concept of COMMUNICATION flows like
CRAZY into just about EVERYTHING TODAY.
So, for example, you can use a similar approach
for anytime you see a woman on a LAPTOP anywhere,
or using an iPhone or iPad anywhere, or using the
INTERNET anywhere.
Here’s the basics of this idea in a nutshell:
Today, there is MORE technology than ever, all
designed to make it EASIER for an individual to
COMMUNICATE with others. Everyone has
some kind of cell-phone or I-Phone or I-Pad,
there is SKYPE, there is TWITTER, there was
MY SPACE, there is FACEBOOK, they are ALL
about socializing, they are even called "SOCIAL MEDIA"!
And yet, because of these things, people are LOCKED
into a very ARTIFICIAL form of COMMUNICATION.
The very idea of having a special and INTIMATE
and private identity that connects on a deep level
to someone else is WEAKENED by these things.
There is less privacy.
There is also so much time spent on tech forms
of communication, that many people don’t meet
in PERSON as much, they just communicate by
technology instead of face-to-face.
PLUS, a lot of people use Facebook in a way that does
NOT represent their REAL selves, because they are
afraid that their real selves are not cool, so they
instead do all sorts of things to try to seem more
cool by creating an identity that is not really true
to themselves.
THIS is a topic that is NOT supposed to be said as
a rant, and I fully see the value in these technologies for OTHER purposes, I'm just try to make it clear here so you can get the "talking points" that you would bring up in the conversation opener.
These topics are INTERESTING and RELEVANT
and they ESPECIALLY relate to HUMAN
COMMUNICATION- which is what you are
using when chatting to a woman who is a
total stranger.
So you can use these topics as a conversation
opener, asking her for HER thoughts on these
ideas, and then later in the chat you can playfully
CONGRATULATE her for being so good at
REAL communication face-to-face with you!
You would open the conversation with the most
relevant item, i.e. if she was using an I-Phone,
Facebook, a laptop, etc, etc.
We are LIVING in a very UNIQUE time when it
comes to the very way most people even PERCEIVE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION, and it makes sense
to TAP this topic when talking to a woman who you
want to actually have INTIMATE communication with.
It’s something that is meaningful to her, and probably
she does NOT get enough of a MEANINGFUL connection
in her own life, even though she may very well spend
TONS of time on social media. YOU will be the man
who stands out as the man who IS able to connect
with her on the most powerful level.
And THEN you can proceed to stage two, of getting
PHYSICAL, because then SHE WILL BE INTERESTED
in getting physical with YOU.
I’m sure that you can tell from reading this newsletter
that I’m only interested in giving you the ABSOLUTE
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