Maybe you've heard that it's not cool to be
NEEDY with women. And maybe you've even
tried to "act" not needy.
Well, it's important to understand the FULL POWER
AND THE FULL TRUTH BEHIND THE REASONS
FOR ALL THIS.
This way, you will realize this has nothing
to do with ACTING, and you will start to
do it from the most EFFECTIVE place within
you, it will be REAL.
Nothing compares to being something for REAL.
Not only can a woman tell the difference, but
it also makes it easier for you when you are
not having to put on an "act."
So I'm going to cover this, and I'm also going to share
with you here some other crucial tips for approaching,
attracting, and KEEPING a fantastic woman.
1. Let's start with point ONE:
IF A TOTAL STUNNER, A COMPLETE KNOCKOUT,
LANDED ON YOUR DOORSTEP, COULD YOU
HANDLE IT?
This is one of the most Earth-shattering concepts
that most people will never even realize exists:
It's not about someone being "lucky" by having
a great girl being GIVEN to him somehow.
You have to become the kind of man inside that
CAN GET her, and then you can repeat this
over and over again.
If you are not this kind of man, you will do the
things that sabotage your results over and over
again.
Most people think that the hard part about GETTING
a woman, or KEEPING a woman has to do with
mastering certain “tactics” or “strategies”.
Now, while it’s true that some of these tactics
and strategies can be HELPFUL, they are more
like superficial things that can “tweek” an already
SUCCESSFUL situation. They will do NOTHING
however, if the FOUNDATION is missing, and
that FOUNDATION is your self-concept.
Do you SEE yourself as a guy who really CAN have
a fantastic woman in his life and who can KEEP her?
Do you have a picture in your mind of what such
a man IS? How he THINKS? How he FEELS?
What would be the first thoughts and emotions
that would come to mind if this DID happen?
Picture it right now:
Pay careful attention to the thoughts and emotions
going through your mind right now.
Compare these thoughts and emotions to what
you know you should be thinking and feeling
as we proceed here.
Let me give you a very FACTUAL example of how
this concept applies in real life:
There are TONS of people who win lotteries, and end
up with NOTHING very quickly.
How can this happen?
Often, these were poor people who truly must have
APPRECIATED the value of money, right????
Just like a guy who really wants a great woman
would really APPRECIATE that, right???
And THAT my friends, is the EXACT PROBLEM.
THE NEEDINESS FOR IT IS WHAT DRIVES
IT AWAY.
Power, with women, with money, with ANYTHING
really stems NOT from getting the money, and it
stems NOT from getting the woman.
It stems first from WITHIN.
This is not mumbo-jumbo at all, and I’ll explain
exactly why, with full logic and evidence:
This is not just something that sounds interesting
on PAPER. It’s a FACT.
You see, it takes INFINITE STRENGTH to have the
SELF-DISCIPLINE to RESIST OUR OWN URGES.
So, for example, a guy gets a million dollars, and if he
didn’t have self-DISCIPLINE in this area before, he now
will INDULGE his own weaknesses to WANT endlessly, and
he will spend and spend and spend, kind of like a guy who
had no water in the desert and now sees water and over-drinks,
making himself sick. At least the guy in the desert really
HAD a need for water, just not that much.
Now, in the following example, obviously it was not
these victims’ fault, because the brutal physical realities
of starvation mixed with not knowing the right way to eat
when finally presented with food are beyond comprehension,
but this actually happened at the end of WWII when some
concentration camp survivors were liberated, and were
provided with food.
STARVING for food, these victims had TINY stomachs
from not eating for so long, and physically their stomachs
could not TAKE more than just a morsel of food, but the
HUNGER was so strong upon smelling the food that
many DIED from eating what would otherwise be normal
portions of food.
Medical teams were trained to make sure that from then
on, all these newly liberated prisoners would be given
tiny rations and then gradually greater quantities of food,
and the right kinds of food, so that slowly their digestive
systems would adjust back to normal.
I bring this extreme point only for purposes of clarity:
WHAT OUR EMOTIONS INITIALLY WANT ARE NOT ONLY
NOT ALWAYS GOOD INDICATORS OF WHAT WE NEED...
BUT FOLLOWING OUR EMOTIONS CAN OFTEN LEAD TO
THE VERY DESTRUCTION OF THAT THING WHICH WE SEEK!
What does this mean?
It means that NEEDING a woman, in the same way
that overwhelming feeling of NEEDING endless money,
that feeling of NEEDING it so badly, WEAKENS you
AND PREVENTS YOU FROM ACTUALLY BEING ABLE
TO HOLD ONTO THAT MONEY, or, in this case, the
neediness for a woman makes one unable to keep
a woman even if she is put right in his face as a gift
by a generous angel.
NEEDINESS.
It weakens your decision making capability.
It makes you VULNERABLE to exploitation.
This applies both with women and with money.
So for example, a gorgeous woman can land on your
doorstep, and she will tell you about all her friends
who need favors, and you will feel that you must
OFFER to help them all, after all you VALUE this
woman so much, right???????????????????????
Even though she didn’t tell you to do anything,
you might end up becoming a martyr with your
time and energy, since you feel otherwise you
might be a “bad” guy, and you might lose her
otherwise.
And by spending all your energy and time on
these favors, you have very little energy and
time for yourself or for having fun with your
girl.
Plus, all this neediness to make others happy
makes you seem uncool and weak, especially
as it deprives you of fulfilling your REAL talents
and your real ambitions that make you feel
great, and so all this results in the woman
LEAVING YOU.
Also, feeling too needy for her might cause you
to become jealous and start a fight over every little
tiny innocent thing, which will also cause her to leave.
NEEDINESS causes us to make POOR decisions,
and it WARPS our perception of things, and it
plain feels bad as well.
Financially, it’s similar.
Without being STRONG, without realizing that we
all really only need very LITTLE money, a sudden
influx of a million dollars can go flying out the door
and be gone in a heartbeat.
The desire to spend to “GET” all kinds of things you
don’t really NEED can get rid of half your money
in a blink. There is really no end to wanting
“things” and the more you get, the more you want
anyway. Suddenly, you feel like you NEED to get
a mansion, you need to get a fancy car, you NEED
to go to fancy restaurants, etc, etc.
People who earn their money realize the only way
to have more than they spend is to buy the IMPORTANT
things and not EVERYTHING.
People who earn their wealth the hard way HAVE
to have mastered this discipline, or they would
have lost it all. Notice that they also INVEST
their money, in the same way a smart guy
INVESTS in the right woman for a powerful
and strong relationship in the future.
There’s nothing wrong with spending your emotions
on a woman, in fact you MUST do this for a thriving
relationship, the key is to do it wisely, and with the
right woman, and to never come from a place of neediness.
The IRONY is that this attitude actually EMPOWERS
you to be more resourceful, because when you are
feeling empowered, and you know you have choices,
you are able to be more efficient, more creative, and more
convincing. All of which help you with WOMEN as well:
When you are NOT feeling NEEDY for a woman,
you don’t make stupid decisions that come from
FEAR OF LOSING HER.
Decisions like over-spending to impress her.
Decisions like calling her too much to make sure
she’s “happy”.
Decisions like doing too many favors for her or
her friend or family, favours that you really
can’t afford time wise, energy wise, or emotionally.
And of course, the fear of losing her comes from
thinking that you really NEED her.
Now don’t get me wrong.
I LOVE the idea of being with a quality woman.
It’s, from all the various pleasures out there,
one of the most MEANINGFUL, for sure.
And if you eventually want to raise a family,
then if you are with any other kind of woman
besides a truly fantastic woman, you are
going to be in HELL. A great quality woman
who you can trust and who is a positive person
and who is giving is an absolute MUST.
And yet, to get this kind of quality woman,
you must not be WEAK, you must not be needy,
you must not think that she is the one providing
you with all the awesome emotions.
Otherwise, the neediness will make you EASY PREY
for the kind of VULTURE type women out there
who know how to ACT nice but who aren’t really
good people. If you were STRONG EMOTIONALLY
and NOT NEEDY, you would be able to SEE
THROUGH THE ACT! (Especially if you also learn
the skills I teach in DETECTING a quality woman!)
But if you are needy, you start to become blind
to her bad behaviors and you even start to see
good things in her that don’t even EXIST in reality.
This is why an AUTHENTICALLY GOOD WOMAN
who has the right character INSISTS on a man
who is STRONG, so that he can see the difference
between HER and a woman who is a FAKE.
Being strong emotionally really is the number
one ingredient in being THE MAN.
Otherwise, you become like the guy who won
the lottery and is TOOOO in LOVE (TOO NEEDY
FOR THINGS) with the idea of GETTING THINGS
from this money, (WHEN REALLY, MOST OF WHAT
YOU NEED IS INSIDE YOU ALREADY) and who is also
TOO WEAK to know how to HOLD ON to the money
he’s GOT, how to invest, etc.
Same thing with a woman, you want to know
how to invest in her PROPERLY, so that it actually
brings back MORE of her energy, commitment,
and love. And the irony is that in order to do this,
you have to be STRONG ON YOUR OWN without
her.
Okay, so that’s part one:
IF YOU’RE FEELING NEEDY, GO OUTSIDE IN THE
SNOW RIGHT NOW IN A BATHING SUIT AND POUR
A BUCKET OF COLD WATER OVER YOU!
(Get a doctor’s approval first, though, to make sure
you can handle it! No snow in your area? Then
just do the cold bucket of water without the snow!
Get a doctor's approval first, of course!)
Then run inside and repeat these words ten times:
My power comes from WITHIN!
Part TWO:
OBSERVATIONS SKILLS/HUMOR/THE APPROACH
There is INFINITE potential and power in honing your
OBSERVATIONAL SKILLS of reality.
You don’t have to MAKE UP anything!
In life, and in your conversations with women, become
more OBSERVANT of reality. See the things that
most other people never see or think about.
For example, one thing that I’m really
NOT a huge fan of is “Reality TV”,
especially where there is nothing to learn.
So I’ll make an exception for an occasional episode
of The Apprentice, where you at least see people
authentically trying to come up with various strategies
and plans for teamwork, for leadership, for marketing,
etc, etc.
But otherwise, the vast majority of “Reality TV”, to me,
is the most UNREAL thing ever! I’d much rather
watch a show or movie made by the very best
writers, actors, and creative teams, because the
point of all great art is to make something that
is EMOTIONALLY TRUE and that has a point
that IS relevant for real life.
Instead, “Reality TV” has a bunch of non-professional
actors, who are pretending to NOT be acting, but
are acting anyway, as they know the camera is on them,
so of course they are trying to act in a way that they think
is cool, except the only problem is they aren’t professional.
They don’t even have a script to help distract us from
the non-professional acting.
I actually heard a comedian named Gould who
spoke about this, but when I first thought about
"Reality TV" years ago, I was not even trying to
be funny, it was just my feelings and observation
on the situation.
What makes these kinds of comments great for
conversation is that they are TRUE, and in a way
kind of funny as well.
That combo makes for a very compelling chat
with a woman who is a total stranger.
Another version of OBSERVING REALITY that
I like to use is PLAYING WITH FAMOUS TERMS/WORDS
to create something that feels MORE EMOTIONALLY
RELEVANT for the situation, or is MORE POWERFUL
than the original words.
So, for example, while waiting at the bus stop,
if it’s taking forever for the bus to come, and
you're both shivering waiting for the bus, you
can joke with the girl waiting there as well that
the initials for the transit system stand for
something else.
So if the real name was “Martian Commission Transportation”
and it's known by its initials as, “M.C.T.”, you might tell her,
“Hey, you know what MCT stands for?”
And she says, “Martian Commission Transportation, no?”
You give a smug smile and say, “Massively Cold Time!”
You can make INFINITE versions of this.
Similarly, and on an even MORE powerful level, I love
to take the mundane and ADD VALUE to make it
MEANINGFUL.
So, for example, in that very conversation, I might
speak about how we are at least both saving the
environment by taking public transit, and might
start singing a song about the environment like
Michael Jackson’s “Earth” song, and then actually
TAKE HER HANDS AND START DANCING WITH
HER RIGHT THERE AT THE BUS STOP!!
Turn the whole thing into a CAUSE, a movement,
even PLAYFULLY, and in fact ESPECIALLY
when done playfully, it’s VERY HARD for a
woman to resist doing something as POSITIVE
as a playful dance for the ENVIRONMENT!
It also shows what a cool guy you are in
LEADING THE WAY in this interaction
as THE MAN, and it gives you two something
to BOND over, it also gets her thinking that if
you are this fun and passionate at the BUS stop,
then how much MORE fun must you be in BED!!!
By the way, when you do this, it’s important
you pull her into YOUR physical space, and
not that you go into HERS, as this way you are
far more dominant, sexual, and cool.
While we’re on the topic of playing with words
so that they actually have more meaning than
the original words, is there a better song that
illustrates this point than the hit song
'ONE LIFE STAND'????
This song is a kick-ass positive song
that is all about the OPPOSITE of the
term 'ONE NIGHT STAND'.
By making just a minor change in the title,
it almost SOUNDS the same and yet it
is TOTALLY DIFFERENT and FAR
MORE MEANINGFUL!
By the way, that’s ANOTHER thing you can do,
just ask a woman randomly if she’s heard the
song “One Life Stand”, and if she hasn’t, you
can tell her about it, and if she has heard of
it, you can ask her what she thinks of it.
This is a fantastic way to lead the conversation
in the right direction that is upbeat, fun, sexual,
and meaningful.
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