Basically, in the first 30 seconds of approaching
a woman, many times the "battle" is already lost,
unless you make sure not to do ANYTHING
that creeps a woman out.
And the biggest creep out of all?
Well, that's when she senses you feel you
need to GET something out of her before
she's even got a chance to know who you
are.
And most of the time, this message of
"wanting to get something from her"
is all delivered SUBCONSCIOUSLY
and it's all conveyed through your
body language and tonality without
realizing it.
Because you are actually FEELING
that you want to get something from
her, it always ends up SHOWING,
(i.e. It looks like you're plugged into
10,0000 watts of electricity, you're
feeling too much of her energy,
you're too excited, etc.) and she
senses this, whether she senses it
consciously, or, more likely, she senses
it subconsciusly, and it registers as a
FEELING of being "creeped out".
So, the question is, how do you get RID of the
feeling of wanting to GET something from
a woman who you clearly ARE interested in?
The answer is to do something where you
KNOW what you are doing is actually
NOT so "clever" and cool!
This is part of the reason I was always against
trying to act like a "super smooth clever"
pick up artist.
So, by doing something that you feel is NOT
a "great line", and in fact is downright random,
you totally DON'T EXPECT anything from her,
you are not expecting her to react positively or
negatively, you don't expect anything much at all.
For example, you can start with:
"Sunshine makes my day."
Yup.
This actually FREES you up to stop WANTING
something from her, because you already figured
there's no chance that THIS is going to get a result,
so when you say this "unclever" thing, you actually
end up NOT TELEGRAPHING NEEDINESS
for a big result from her.
Now, when you do this, no matter WHAT you
actually say, the TONALITY of your voice
and the expressions on your face will all
be delivering the message of "I'm not
expecting anything from you, so you can
just chill out, alright? I'm just being me
because I know there is nothing for me
to lose here, I actually feel very safe
and secure since I am not even EXPECTING
or HOPING, and I'm not taking anything
from you".
Yup, your tonality and expressions DO say
about 97% of the message, the words are
only about 3%!!
So, this way, because you in reality ARE feeling
indifferent, you are NOT EXCITED, because you
aren't even hoping to get anything from her.
The other benefit of this, as I've always said,
is that it ALSO makes you realize how powerful
YOUR NATURAL IDENTITY is as an attractant,
this helps nurture your self-concept in the right
way, so that you realize it's truly not about
the pick-up lines.
Now, with time and practice, you get so damn
comfortable, that you are in such a great internal
place emotionally and in terms of state, that you
actually SWITCH into SUPER COMFORTABLE
mode where you ABSOLUTELY DO EXPECT
TO GET RESULTS, but now the difference is
that you KNOW you will get them, as opposed
to HOPING for them.
So THEN, you can actually use some really
powerful openers, that are more advanced,
because you can also BACK IT UP with
the right body language and tonality.
See, it's okay to KNOW you are going to get
results and expect them. It's just not good to
be going in "hoping".
Every fiber of your being must be saying
"I know you want me" and not, "I hope you do
so I'll just try."
As Yoda said to Luke:
"Do or do not. There is no try."
But for now, if you are a beginner, just go
up to the woman you want to approach
and LITERALLY say the first thing on
your mind, the FIRST thing that pops
into your head. Not the second thing,
THE FIRST.
If it's dumb, it might even work better ;)
Plus, it will do wonders for your inner game.
Remember, it has to be INSTANTANEOUS,
don't go in with a plan.
And if you want the FULL SCOOP, then
get my ADVANCED material at:
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