What You Should Really Be Doing In The Opener

I've been getting a bunch of emails
regarding my last newsletters, so 
I'm going to try to quickly answer
something and clear something up.
 
An opener to a conversation might be,
for example, some topic or theme that
would be appropriate as an ice-breaker
or conversation starter, in a certain
type of environment.
 
There are tons of possible topics,
so for example, in a coffee shop
you can start a conversation about
how addicted to caffeine we've
become as a society, or you can
ask her what her worst vice is,
and that your worst is coffee,
or you can ask her to rate 
these vices in order - coffee,
chocolate, or chick flicks,
or any other guilty pleasure
she might indulge in.
 
Now, notice I'm keeping the topic
relatively flexible and open-ended
to allow for maximum customization
for the actual situation, as opposed
to memorizing endless details and
endless pick up lines.
 
It's easier this way, and it's more
effective, and it encourages you
to think on your feet and be more
spontaneous and real.
 
And yet, there is another point to
the opener- what it does is it allows
you the chance to RELAX about the
opener, and to instead FOCUS on
HER, and I mean focusing on anything
about her that will provide the next
phase of the conversation.
 
It allows you to put your brain to work
on observing her and listening to her,
instead of getting all nervous about
what the heck to say.

THIS is how you come up with the 
perfect way to continue the interaction
in a natural way that really fits her
and the situation instead of just
using some rehearsed line.

Now, getting into all the details regarding that
NEXT phase is a whole other topic, and this
is a newsletter, not a book, and also it's the
reason I offer consultations and bootcamps
which allow me to teach you it all in detail-
and to customize it all for your needs, 
and in bootcamps to also demonstrate it all-
and to observe you as you approach,
kind of like how a driving instructor is
in the car with you and observing and
helping you out when required. 
 
Now, after a while, you won't even
need to memorize ANY theme or topic,
if you follow my method of learning,
which is focused on weaning you off
any training wheels and getting you
as independent and powerful and
flexible as possible for any situation.
 
But my point is, the purpose of the opener
is not necessarily to OVERWHELM HER
WITH YOUR AWESOMENESS - although
you MIGHT sometimes do this as well
if you are really in the zone and you have
something REALLY perfect to say for the
moment, and you deliver it right, etc.
 
But the main point of the opener is that
it is a RELIABLE way for YOU to buy
some time to actually get to glean some
understanding of her- whether it comes
from observing something she is saying,
doing, wearing, etc. 

It is not a time to be falling asleep thinking
that you don't have to do anything else.

It is the time to be so focused on her that
you have a MOUNTAIN of things to talk
about based on those observations. 

So the opener is not just a random thing,
it has purposes, and it is there to help you
get to the NEXT stage, although like I said
pick up does not follow the exact same
order of sequencing in every interaction,
and sometimes more than one thing
is happening at once- for example,
attraction and connection can be
happening at the same time.
 
But again, the purpose of this newsletter
is just to give more understanding of the 
opener.
 
Also, I want to make it clear that if you
have no coach, if you can't take my bootcamp,
if you can't take my consultations, if you can't
get my programs, it is TOTALLY FINE to approach,
open with WHATEVER you can possibly think of, 
try your best to keep the conversation going, 
and if it collapses, SO BE IT, you will 
GROW MASSIVELY FROM THIS.
 
As you keep up this style, it will eventually lead 
to you lasting LONGER in the conversation, and
making the interaction more meaningful and
compelling. 
 
This is because forcing yourself NOT TO EJECT
for as long as you can forces your MIND to
grow in skill. 

The thing is, learning from me will save you
PRECIOUS time. 

I believe TIME is far, FAR more precious than money.

In bootcamp, I share a PLETHORA of crucial
insights customized to your particular needs, that
will shave off MONTHS and often YEARS from your
learning time- things that you would have to see
the hard way over and over and over again to
notice the patterns- but that I point out to you
and save you from, saving you from wasting time, and 
saving you from wasting emotions, IMMEDIATELY. 

I'm a careful judge of when to help, and exactly
how much to help, ESPECIALLY REGARDING THE
ACTUAL WORDS TO SAY.
 
When it comes to memorized material to say to
a woman, I always coach my guys with just the 
MINIMUM of help- this is very similar to working
out with a partner who is "spotting" you at the gym, 
so if you are lifting the weight, the partner is not 
supposed to LIFT THE WEIGHT FOR YOU, he gives
you just the MINIMUM you need, and THAT is the 
best training partner.

I want you to get the girl, as they say.
And I want you to do it with as little help from me
as possible, so that you grow in skill as fast as
possible.

Now, there are some exceptions for particular situations,
but in general, if the spotter is getting more of a workout
than the guy lifting the weight, something is wrong.

And as your COACH and not just your training partner,
I know what is going to work best for you in terms
of what skills you need the most.

It's not about me spitting out every fact on
pickup to you, and it's not about helping you
too much.  It's about giving you what
is best for your development.

It's similar to bodybuilding- a guy who easily puts on
size but not definition, should focus on definition 
more, and a guy who is easily defined but doesn't
have much size should work on putting on some size.
 
I love it when my students grow in skill as
fast as possible, so that's why I am adamant
about not babying them- and about making sure
they put their focus on the areas that are going
to most help them attract the women they want.
 
So if you are ready for the ultimate training,
then BOOTCAMP is for you.
 
It's at:
 
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
 
P.S. If you are in Toronto and interested in a 2-hour
free seminar, where I will be teaching some of my latest
insights on attraction and women, just send me an email 
letting me know.
 
Till next time,
 
Michael Marks
 

Passion, Action, And Attraction

Just a very short newsletter today,
but an important one for you to get
this year off to the right start.

Everybody talks about making resolutions
this time of year, and there are probably
more books and more experts on how to
cause change in your life than ever
before in human history, yet one
thing BOGGLES MY MIND:

WHY DO THEY MAKE IT ALL SO COMPLICATED?????????

You need two ingredients for effective
change: PASSION and ACTION.

If you think you are going to create
change in your life by dragging your
feet, you're wrong.  Yes, it's better
than nothing, but it's not the way
to EXCELLENCE.

And if you think you're going to
get the change you want just because
you WANT something badly enough, but
you aren't taking ACTION, ain't nothing
gonna happen then either.

But put the two TOGETHER-
PASSION and ACTION, and then
EVERYTHING happens as a result,
including all the other steps.

Let me give you an example- I recently had
a bootcamp client that I was not even HALF-WAY
through training, I'd done several demonstrations,
and it was time for him to put more of what
he had been taught and what he had observed
into action.

So what followed showed a TON of passion,
AND he took action- and this was highlighted
when we were walking in the cold outside,
past a trendy restaurant and through the
the window a stunning sight could be seen.

A beautiful woman was having dinner with
a group of friends, and it ignited the
fire of his PASSION.

He took ACTION.
Even though this was the kind of restaurant
where you need to have reservations, where
you must wait for someone to come to you
to help you find a table, and  even though he
had no connection to her or her friends, NONE
of this stopped him.

He went STRAIGHT in, and when the staff
asked if they could help him find a
table, he just said he had to speak
with someone at a table- his passion
and conviction made it clear he was
genuine, and they just let him
straight on in.

He went directly up to her, no games,
no faking, no trying to look like
it was a matter of coincidence.

By the way, this is far more attractive
than trying to cover it all up - the key
though is to also have the conversation
skills to spontaneously start and
continue a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger- which comes
from a combination of learning through
instruction and through practice as well.

Now, not only did the woman not react
negatively, she was warm to his approach,
the only problem is that he was so new,
that he actually ejected due to a
combination of not knowing what else
to say after his initial genuine opening,
but also the pressure was a lot for a
beginner, and so he ejected, which is
perfectly fine- this was one of his
FIRST approaches during bootcamp, so
it's impossible to get all the conversation
skills down that fast.

But SHE was ready for him to CONTINUE.
See, women aren't trained to do pick
up themselves, so you have to kind of
get the ball rolling a bit before they can
even be able to close the gap and help
you along- it's not like they don't want
to, but it IS a skill.

But my point is, with THAT level of
PASSION and ACTION- I can take a student
VERY VERY VERRRRRRRRRRRY FAR.

Yes, there ARE many different skills involved
in the actual approaches/pick ups- and they are
vital, absolutely crucial - but if you have the
PASSION, and you are a person who takes ACTION,
then you can truly BENEFIT from my teaching
you all the skills.

You are the kind of person who I will be able
to teach those SKILLS- the skills of calibrating
your approach perfectly, the skill of knowing
how to approach in terms of every nuance,
from the angle you approach her to the level
of connection you make to the things you
say to start off the conversation, to making
her feel comfortable, to conveying the best elements
of your personality, to the kind of humor
to use, to keeping the conversation going,
to making her want to feed the conversation
herself, etc., etc., etc.

And when it comes to THIS field itself, it
is a PASSION of mine, and I have put over
a DECADE of passionate ACTION into it,
CONSTANTLY refining.

One of the things that I have always been
passionate about in this field, is how to
attract women without using lies, and
without engaging in any malfeasance.

No one, absolutely no one else on the planet,
has been teaching men this no-nonsense way,
for as long as I have. No one.

There have been some people who have tried
to imitate me, but that is all they have done.

Tried to imitate.
Because their passion is not this field,
their passion is trying to make an easy
income from doing nothing original.

In fact, one company thought it would be
cool to film men approaching women,
but forgot to mention that the women
were paid to act happy to meet the men.

They then of course, when caught, mentioned
it later. I'm sure they're reading this newsletter
right now, hoping to get something from
me, but they don't understand the thing to
copy from me is having good ethics- believe
it or not, without ethics, there IS NO connection
between human beings, and that includes
between men and women.

Another thing to copy from me is my emphasis on
the fact that this is a SKILL that takes PRACTICE.

There are TONS of important elements to learn,
and ABSOLUTELY having an experienced professional
as your instructor will make your learning infinitely
faster than having to learn it all through trial and error
completely on your own, but you will STILL NEED
TO PRACTICE.

Other companies like to focus on drunk women.
To me, that's not a real connection, but I understand
that some men don't care.  At least those guys
are honest.

I like to keep it real.
I could make a hundred time more profit
by screwing guys over with endless marketing
nonsense, from pretending they've seen spirits,
to enlightenment, to all sorts of stuff that no one
can ever prove.

I want to simply help you attract women without
using anything sketchy.  

Some men lie about their age, their accomplishments,
their finances, their social status, their job, etc. and
so to me that would feel SUCKY even if it DID result
in getting the woman, because you'd always feel
like it wasn't real, or like you were in jeopardy of
losing her if you were honest.

But what is so crazy is that if you are
actually ATTRACTING a woman, that's all she
CARES about- SO nothing else matters, including
the things you THOUGHT you needed to lie about-
and what is IRONIC is that the giving into
the INSECURITY AROUND whatever issue you
think you need to lie about -- well that
INSECURITY is the REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
ANTI-ATTRACTOR!

Is it every attractive woman on the planet?
No, but it's more women though than you could
ever have the time for in a dozen lifetimes.

I've seen it happen SO often, it's RIDICULOUSLY
obvious to me at this point. I'm talking about
women FIGHTING to convince YOU to call them,
just MINUTES after approaching them- women
that most men would think they had 'no chance'
with.

And this is one of the reasons I'm not a fan
of online dating- it doesn't give you the best
way to SHOW YOUR FULL PERSONALITY and to show
what you can do with that personality.

In person, you not only have your voice and
body language, but you also get to REACT
and INTERACT with women, so they get the
FULL EXPERIENCE of what it means to be
in your aura.

So, if you are PASSIONATE about having the
power to attract the women of your choice,
and if you are prepared to take ACTION,
then I already know you are going to
learn EVERYTHING and I already know it's
going to be a THRILL to teach you.

Take ACTION now- contact me TODAY for your
BOOTCAMP program.

BOOTCAMP is where I take your passion, your
commitment to ACTION, and then EQUIP you with
all the SKILLS covering EVERY SITUATION you
can find yourself in with ANY woman you want
to attract, no matter WHERE you happen to
see her.

BOOTCAMP is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks