The Power Of Self-Belief In Attracting Women

There are two aspects of being successful

when it comes to meeting and attracting

a woman. The first part is having the

finesse in terms of skills to approach

a woman anywhere in any situation and

smoothly get a conversation rolling that

demonstrates attractive character traits,

such as confidence, intelligence, wit,

and empathy.

The second part, though, is what is going

on “behind the scenes” so to speak, in

your mind, in your life, etc. It’s a little

hard sometimes to be confident and

be in the right states of mind when

everything else is going to hell in your

life.

So, today, I just want to briefly yet in

an important way address that other

side.  Now, the examples I am about

to give are dramatic but all true, and

you don’t necessarily have to do the

same things in your life, but the point

is going to be the same nonetheless:

Nothing breeds success like success.

So if you are successful in one thing,

it’s easier to take that confidence to

another thing as well.  This includes

being successful in any goal in your life.

And the number one thing you need to

know regarding being successful in 

any goal in your life is that most people

fail due to FEAR, which also leads to

lack of EFFORT.  If you are too afraid

of failure, for example, you won’t put

in the effort, you will lose motivation,

you will be easily overwhelmed by

the slightest setback.

And the most horrifying thing about

fear is that it DISTORTS your perception

of the actual situation, it makes you think

things are worse than they are.

This is why, so often in life, people NEED

to have someone or something to FORCE them

to do important things because if it wasn’t through

force, they would give into their fear.

So, sometimes, for example a kid might be

afraid to go to the doctor, but the parent,

after trying all kinds of other ways that

don’t work, has to ultimately force the kid to go,

and it’s a good thing.

But once you’re an adult, you really don’t get

someone to force you to do the right things

in your life.  YOU have to force yourself.

YOU have to push through the fear.

YOU have to work your butt off.

YOU have to do the research and learning.

The good news, though, is that once you

understand this, suddenly you are able to

accomplish so much, and as you accomplish

this, you start to see how so many people

fail due to fear.

When Arnold Schwarzenegger was a kid

who wanted to become a champion bodybuilder,

his parents thought he was off his rocker. He

was a kid in a town in Austria after World

War II where bodybuilding was considered

even stranger than it was in America at that

time, and there was little opportunity for

financial success in that sport anywhere,

even in America.

But he didn’t let anyone’s thoughts of him

failing allow him to stop him from achieve

this goal.  Not only did he become a champion,

but along the way, before then, when he lost,

you could not even tell he lost from his

expression on his face- there is a famous

photo of him coming in second before the

years where he won undefeated year after

year.

In that photo, where he lost, from his face,

he looks like he won.  That is confidence, that

is happiness, that is passion for your sport.

He worked HARD.  Before getting any movie

roles, he was already a millionaire. He had

worked as a bricklayer, he started a construction

company, he sold bodybuilding manuals through

the mail.

And when he wanted to become an actor,

at the time being insanely muscular was not

in vogue for actors or even action stars.

And they said he had too thick of an accent.

They said he could never play anything more

than a tiny role as a bouncer or other similar

minor roles in any film.

But within a few years, he became the highest

paid actor and conquered two genres, both action

and comedy.

And then when he wanted to become a politician,

they said he could never win, they made fun of

his lack of experience and said he should stick

to movies, but he ended up winning TWO terms

as governor of California.

When a person conquers a sport, conquers the

acting profession, conquers politics, and also

becomes a millionaire before even landing

an acting gig, it is not a coincidence.

Similarly, when James Cameron, the guy who

made Avatar, wanted to make films, they said

he was too old and he didn’t have the education,

since he had never gone to film school and was

already 30 years old.

And even after proving to the world his ability

and expertise with The Terminator, they said he

would fail with each film, whether it was

Terminator 2, Titanic, or Avatar.  They said

he would never make back the money it cost

to make Terminator 2.

They said that Titanic would be a failure

since everyone already knew the ending,

and since it didn’t feature stars who were

famous at the time, and since it was too

long at about 3 hours, and since it was

a historical period piece, a genre that

tends to not do well at the box-office.

And when it came to Avatar, people were

saying it was also going to fail, that no

one is going to be interested in a bunch

of blue aliens with tails.

So, my point is that you need to have one

HELL of a strong INTERNAL DRIVE

because if you expect to be “encouraged”

by the outside world, you WON’T BE.

In fact, so often the most successful people

are driven to succeed BECAUSE they

were told they would fail, because they

wanted to PROVE these people wrong.

So, when it comes to your own life, JUST

STICK TO YOUR GOALS and don’t let

people screw with your CONFIDENCE.

This includes your confidence with women

as well. In fact, I have seen this countless

times: A woman will give a guy the cold

shoulder, and then his REACTION is so

confident, that his REACTION actually

GETS the woman interested.

For example, I’ve seen in my bootcamps

situations where a woman will say to a

guy she is too busy to date anyone, and the

guy will tell her that is perfect, because he

has no time either, instead of telling her

how much he needs to have her in his life,

and all of a sudden she laughs and starts

to melt and starts to re-engage in the

conversation.

It’s a very crazy world, and I didn’t make it

this way, it just is what it is.  The hungry

never get fed.  Those that have the power get

everything. Most women will give nothing to

the guy that is a nice guy but has no confidence

and no power.

But to the guy that has the confidence and

the power,  they will throw themselves at

him, and excuse just about all his negative

behaviors.

I always find it strange that certain women

(not all) will condemn a celebrity who is unfaithful

to his girlfriend or wife, but yet these same

“condemners” would never give the time of

day to a “nice guy” WITHOUT the power,

without the confidence, and would in a

heartbeat be THRILLED to be the next

in line to be with that celebrity.

In the same way that some men are brainwashed

by the “halo effect” of a beautiful woman,

and will excuse or rationalize the WORST

behavior of a woman who is beautiful,

so too some women are overwhelmed by

the halo effect of a man who resonates

POWER and CONFIDENCE.

Looks can definitely help a man as well, but

when it comes to men, women’s attraction is

not limited to this, it extends to his strength

of personality- the BEHAVIORS he displays.

And the only way to resonate those things

is to LIVE it.  You must be INTERNALLY

driven, you can’t depend on a woman or

anyone actually, to tell you how smart you

are, how great you are, how successful you

will be, that you will make it, etc, etc.

YOU must believe.

And the irony is, that when you do this,

in the long run, EVERYONE believes in you,

which is just another one of those things in

life that is ironic, when you don’t need

anyone to believe in you because YOU

believe in you, then ultimately everyone

believes in you.

One of the most powerful things you

can do for SKYROCKETING your INTERNAL

self, for conquering fears, for building

your SELF-BELIEF, is to take my BOOTCAMP

program where you learn it all in real-life, at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Love, Lust, And Your Success In Life

The whole reason I got into this field
had little to do with pure LUST.

It was actually the COMBINATION of love
AND lust, to be honest!

For any guy who just wants to get physical
with a woman who is attractive, the answer
is simple: Find promiscuous women.

What makes it even easier is that there
are PLACES especially designed for finding
promiscuous women, i.e. certain nightclubs,
and to make it even EASIER these women
INTENTIONALLY go to these places where
they know they will consume quantities of
alcohol.

So this kind of thing is not the best formula
for how to find the kind of woman that you can
truly build a LIFE together long-term.

This is why GET A GREAT GIRL was born.
My passion is not about just getting the
physical stuff.

I have always been attracted to something
GREATER, going back all the way to high school.

I wanted the TOTAL PACKAGE, a woman that
was attractive and who ALSO had all the right
personality traits for a great long term
relationship and who would be the right
kind of woman with whom to raise a family.

A woman who was kind, hard-working, loyal,
intelligent, health-conscious, etc.

ONE: BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN IS A GREAT WOMAN

Here's something else:
I've also known and observed for many years that
it is usually TRUE that behind every great man
is a great woman.

It is ALSO true that when a man SCREWS UP
his relationship with a quality woman and
then LOSES that quality woman, his whole
LIFE goes down the drain.

One of the latest examples is TIGER WOODS.

By the way, in my example of Tiger Woods,
it's important not to take this situation and
judge him since it is impossible to know for
sure the kind of pressure and temptation he
was facing.  The point of this example is simply
to show what happens when a man is no longer
with the right woman, the point is NOT to judge
him for what happened.

He is not alone in what occurred to him, and
in fact the same thing happens to millions of
men, albeit on a smaller level because they
are not so famous.

He reaches the top of his field BY FAR.
Behind the scenes is a great woman who
stands by his side and raises his kids.

Then, the temptation of other women and pure
lust takes over, even though his wife is
gorgeous. 

His wife finds out, is devastated, his relationship
is ruined, his career TANKS.

People think he will never recover because his
golf game DROPS so massively.

It takes some serious TIME, but then guess what?
He slowly comes BACK.

But guess what is MOST important to realize about
this?  He is not alone.  He is not screwing around.
He is in a serious relationship with what appears
to be a really dedicated woman who was prepared
to deal with all the hassle she would get from
dating him at this time.

It is NOT a coincidence that his success coincides
with the time he has HARMONY and LOVE rather than
CHAOS and LUST as the only ruling factors in his life.

The same thing happens time and again with all kinds
of men in all kinds of fields from politics to sports
to business and everything else.

If you're a heterosexual man, being with the
right WOMAN is usually a MUST.  There are
always exceptions to the rule, but in GENERAL
this is a FACT.

The reason for this is because the human mind
is COMPLEX.  It is not JUST seeking love, it
is not JUST seeking LUST. It is not just seeking
security, and it is not just seeking adventure
and some adrenaline-stimulating risk.  It is
not just seeking rapport and support, and it
is not just seeking challenge.

It seeks the right BALANCE of all these things.
And this is why it is so important to find the
RIGHT woman.

So let me bring this full circle:

If you are looking to attract a woman, and if
you are looking for love combined with lust
rather than just lust or just love, I suggest
you USE my attraction strategies, but that
you use them on the kind of women who ALSO
have the right characteristics for ensuring
success in a long term relationship.

This way, you are focusing your energies on
the RIGHT kind of woman, who already HAS
all the right personality traits, but you
are now making her ATTRACTED TO YOU, so that
she is not with you simply out of LOGIC
(i.e. that she wants to have a relationship
where no one cheats on each other) but
rather she is ALSO with you out of her
own LUST for you which you INCREASED
because you also know how to MAGNIFY
a woman's attraction to you.

TWO: TAKE ON BODY LANGUAGE AND THE ROLES
OF THE CALM ALPHA

The next thing I want to explain is how
important it is to actually go beyond
your comfort level if you want to GROW.

What I mean in particular is that if you
want to become the "alpha male", a term
that I have mixed feelings about since
the term has often been wrongly used
to describe a jerk, the fact is that
scientific studies have shown that
if you take on the BEHAVIORS and
BODY LANGUAGE of someone who is not
only POWERFUL but who is also CALM
under pressure, you will ALSO begin
to BECOME this way.

I do not just mean this in a poetic sense.
I am talking CHEMICALLY.

You will experience an INCREASE in testosterone,
the chemical that is the ESSENCE of masculinity,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY experiencing a DROP in
CORTISOL, the destructive chemical that is
often released when people experience STRESS.

So you will become the kind of man who is
ASSERTIVE and CONFIDENT and who rises to
the challenge, but who ALSO does not
HARM his HEALTH when he experiences these
challenges.

There are plenty of men out there who are
very successful, but the CORTISOL they experience
from stress is destroying them.

THREE: ANOTHER DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

If you want to succeed with women, it is
important that you realize a fundamental
difference in their views toward sex.

Men basically feel that ATTRACTION is reason
enough to have sex with someone.

Most women however do NOT feel that way.

For a woman, usually, there needs to be
something ELSE involved.  A REASON, if you will.     

In fact, that REASON itself becomes PART
of the attraction.

It is important to realize this. It explains
why even a SUPERMODEL of a guy will quickly
be forgotten by a woman if the guy does not
FOLLOW up with her quickly and take things
to the next level of connection, but a
MAN on the other hand will remember a
HOT WOMAN for YEARS after he met her
even if he only saw her ONCE for a few
moments, AND he would be ready in an
INSTANT to have sex with her the moment
he saw her AGAIN.

This is a HUGE difference between men and women.

So what this means is that you MUST learn
the skills of how to CONVEY a lot about
yourself through CONVERSATION.

And I don't mean telling a woman a list of your
accomplishments like a resume.  Rather, I mean
INDIRECTLY you communicate to her, and you
actually will do this most effectively through
your STATE OF MIND which manifests itself
in your body language and tonality and which
affects your decisions instinctively on what
to say.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, a woman responds to a man
with a sense of PURPOSE and a sense of GENUINE
interest in her.

Remember, women can read your emotions VERY
EASILY, easier than men can read women.

So, it is not important that you have to be
a millionaire or a billionaire, but rather
that you MUST have a strong sense of WHY
you are doing what you are doing with your
life. 

Women are all about sensing EMOTIONS, so if
your emotions are NAMBY PAMBY, she will pick
that up. If you are not REALLY interested
in her, she will pick that up as well.

Women are not super-powered.  They can't tell
whether a man is a nice person or not right
off the bat.  But they CAN tell whether that
man feels POWERFUL and feels MOTIVATED and
feels INTERESTED in them.

A woman MUST have THESE kinds of reasons
to have sex with a man. It is usually
NOT enough of a reason for a woman to have
sex with a man just because she finds him
attractive when she looks at him.

FOUR: PRESSURE OR NO CHANGE

Finally, I want to end on one note:
If you don't put PRESSURE on yourself
to change, you are most likely NOT
going to change.

So, if you want to get good at attracting
women, and especially if you want to attract
a GREAT woman for a real relationship that
satisfies your love AND lust needs, you
MUST put pressure on yourself.

This is just one of the reasons my BOOTCAMP
is so important.  In BOOTCAMP, I will put
JUST the right amount of pressure on you.
I am not there to OVERWHELM your ability,
instead I am there to teach you and to also
PUSH YOU to what your REAL LIMIT really is.

Most people simply will NEVER push themselves
to their limit, it is human nature NOT to want
to work harder than we have to.

This is why throughout history, it has always
been NECESSITY that is the mother of GENIUS.
It was not VOLUNTARY INTEREST that was the
mother of genius.

When you take bootcamp with me, you will be
pushed to the point where you have no choice
but to GROW in skill.

Bootcamp is at:

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And if you are really serious about getting
a GREAT woman in your life, then get my
most specialized program that is DEVOTED
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The name of this program is "Warrior Within",
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Till next time,

Michael Marks