There are
two aspects of being successful
when it
comes to meeting and attracting
a woman. The
first part is having the
finesse in
terms of skills to approach
a woman
anywhere in any situation and
smoothly get
a conversation rolling that
demonstrates
attractive character traits,
such as
confidence, intelligence, wit,
and empathy.
The second
part, though, is what is going
on “behind
the scenes” so to speak, in
your mind,
in your life, etc. It’s a little
hard
sometimes to be confident and
be in the
right states of mind when
everything
else is going to hell in your
life.
So, today, I
just want to briefly yet in
an important
way address that other
side. Now, the examples I am about
to give are
dramatic but all true, and
you don’t
necessarily have to do the
same things
in your life, but the point
is going to
be the same nonetheless:
Nothing
breeds success like success.
So if you
are successful in one thing,
it’s easier
to take that confidence to
another
thing as well. This includes
being
successful in any goal in your life.
And the
number one thing you need to
know
regarding being successful in
any goal in
your life is that most people
fail due to
FEAR, which also leads to
lack of
EFFORT. If you are too afraid
of failure,
for example, you won’t put
in the
effort, you will lose motivation,
you will be
easily overwhelmed by
the slightest
setback.
And the most horrifying thing about
And the most horrifying thing about
fear is that
it DISTORTS your perception
of the
actual situation, it makes you think
things are
worse than they are.
This is why,
so often in life, people NEED
to have
someone or something to FORCE them
to do
important things because if it wasn’t through
force, they
would give into their fear.
So,
sometimes, for example a kid might be
afraid to go
to the doctor, but the parent,
after trying
all kinds of other ways that
don’t work,
has to ultimately force the kid to go,
and it’s a
good thing.
But once
you’re an adult, you really don’t get
someone to
force you to do the right things
in your
life. YOU have to force yourself.
YOU have to
push through the fear.
YOU have to
work your butt off.
YOU have to
do the research and learning.
The good
news, though, is that once you
understand
this, suddenly you are able to
accomplish
so much, and as you accomplish
this, you
start to see how so many people
fail due to
fear.
When Arnold
Schwarzenegger was a kid
who wanted
to become a champion bodybuilder,
his parents
thought he was off his rocker. He
was a kid in
a town in Austria after World
War II where
bodybuilding was considered
even
stranger than it was in America at that
time, and
there was little opportunity for
financial
success in that sport anywhere,
even in
America.
But he
didn’t let anyone’s thoughts of him
failing
allow him to stop him from achieve
this
goal. Not only did he become a champion,
but along
the way, before then, when he lost,
you could
not even tell he lost from his
expression
on his face- there is a famous
photo of him
coming in second before the
years where
he won undefeated year after
year.
In that
photo, where he lost, from his face,
he looks
like he won. That is confidence, that
is
happiness, that is passion for your sport.
He worked
HARD. Before getting any movie
roles, he
was already a millionaire. He had
worked as a
bricklayer, he started a construction
company, he
sold bodybuilding manuals through
the mail.
And when he
wanted to become an actor,
at the time
being insanely muscular was not
in vogue for
actors or even action stars.
And they
said he had too thick of an accent.
They said he
could never play anything more
than a tiny
role as a bouncer or other similar
minor roles
in any film.
But within a
few years, he became the highest
paid actor
and conquered two genres, both action
and comedy.
And then
when he wanted to become a politician,
they said he
could never win, they made fun of
his lack of
experience and said he should stick
to movies,
but he ended up winning TWO terms
as governor
of California.
When a
person conquers a sport, conquers the
acting
profession, conquers politics, and also
becomes a
millionaire before even landing
an acting
gig, it is not a coincidence.
Similarly,
when James Cameron, the guy who
made Avatar,
wanted to make films, they said
he was too
old and he didn’t have the education,
since he had
never gone to film school and was
already 30
years old.
And even
after proving to the world his ability
and
expertise with The Terminator, they said he
would fail
with each film, whether it was
Terminator
2, Titanic, or Avatar. They said
he would
never make back the money it cost
to make
Terminator 2.
They said
that Titanic would be a failure
since
everyone already knew the ending,
and since it
didn’t feature stars who were
famous at
the time, and since it was too
long at
about 3 hours, and since it was
a historical
period piece, a genre that
tends to not
do well at the box-office.
And when it
came to Avatar, people were
saying it
was also going to fail, that no
one is going
to be interested in a bunch
of blue
aliens with tails.
So, my point
is that you need to have one
HELL of a
strong INTERNAL DRIVE
because if
you expect to be “encouraged”
by the
outside world, you WON’T BE.
In fact, so
often the most successful people
are driven
to succeed BECAUSE they
were told
they would fail, because they
wanted to
PROVE these people wrong.
So, when it
comes to your own life, JUST
STICK TO
YOUR GOALS and don’t let
people screw
with your CONFIDENCE.
This
includes your confidence with women
as well. In
fact, I have seen this countless
times: A
woman will give a guy the cold
shoulder,
and then his REACTION is so
confident,
that his REACTION actually
GETS the
woman interested.
For example,
I’ve seen in my bootcamps
situations
where a woman will say to a
guy she is
too busy to date anyone, and the
guy will
tell her that is perfect, because he
has no time
either, instead of telling her
how much he
needs to have her in his life,
and all of a
sudden she laughs and starts
to melt and
starts to re-engage in the
conversation.
It’s a very
crazy world, and I didn’t make it
this way, it
just is what it is. The hungry
never get
fed. Those that have the power get
everything.
Most women will give nothing to
the guy that
is a nice guy but has no confidence
and no
power.
But to the
guy that has the confidence and
the
power, they will throw themselves at
him, and
excuse just about all his negative
behaviors.
I always
find it strange that certain women
(not all)
will condemn a celebrity who is unfaithful
to his
girlfriend or wife, but yet these same
“condemners”
would never give the time of
day to a
“nice guy” WITHOUT the power,
without the
confidence, and would in a
heartbeat be
THRILLED to be the next
in line to
be with that celebrity.
In the same
way that some men are brainwashed
by the “halo
effect” of a beautiful woman,
and will
excuse or rationalize the WORST
behavior of
a woman who is beautiful,
so too some
women are overwhelmed by
the halo
effect of a man who resonates
POWER and
CONFIDENCE.
Looks can
definitely help a man as well, but
when it
comes to men, women’s attraction is
not limited
to this, it extends to his strength
of
personality- the BEHAVIORS he displays.
And the only
way to resonate those things
is to LIVE
it. You must be INTERNALLY
driven, you
can’t depend on a woman or
anyone
actually, to tell you how smart you
are, how
great you are, how successful you
will be,
that you will make it, etc, etc.
YOU must
believe.
And the
irony is, that when you do this,
in the long
run, EVERYONE believes in you,
which is
just another one of those things in
life that is
ironic, when you don’t need
anyone to
believe in you because YOU
believe in
you, then ultimately everyone
believes in
you.
One of the
most powerful things you
can do for
SKYROCKETING your INTERNAL
self, for
conquering fears, for building
your
SELF-BELIEF, is to take my BOOTCAMP
program
where you learn it all in real-life, at:
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Till next
time,
Michael
Marks
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