Hello again!
Just want to let everyone know my new blog is at: http://thedatingwizardreturns.blogspot.com
See you there!
Best,
Michael
Tuesday, April 26, 2016
Wednesday, April 6, 2016
The Dating Wizard Returns
Hellooooooooooooooooooooo! Just wanted to update everyone on my new site, which is http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com
It is the next level UP in attracting the woman of your dreams.
Check it out. You'll be glad you did.
All the best,
Michael
It is the next level UP in attracting the woman of your dreams.
Check it out. You'll be glad you did.
All the best,
Michael
Saturday, March 19, 2016
#1 Thing To Attract Women (You Can't See It In Any "Pick Up" Video)
The most powerful thing a man can do to attract women is something that happens so fast that virtually NO ONE can even DETECT it.
Which is why it can't be learned by watching a pick-up.
I've just completed my most POWERFUL book on attracting women in THIRTEEN YEARS, that reveals MASSIVELY IMPORTANT NEW SECRETS.
Check it out HERE:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Which is why it can't be learned by watching a pick-up.
I've just completed my most POWERFUL book on attracting women in THIRTEEN YEARS, that reveals MASSIVELY IMPORTANT NEW SECRETS.
Check it out HERE:
http://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/book.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Monday, February 29, 2016
The Power Of MEANING For Success With A Truly Good Woman
Today I want
to talk about meaning, and how it
relates to pick
up, dating, and relationships.
A sense of
meaning is the most important thing
is the most
important factor in one experiencing
the highest
degree of happiness.
This has not
only been proven by experts in the
field of
positive psychology such as Martin Seligman,
but you can
probably attest to this in your own
experiences
in life.
Think back
to specific experiences in your own life.
Were you
happiest when you just did things like
have a meal
packed with sugar, salt, or fat?
Even sex
itself, as high as it ranks, is not the MOST
powerful emotion,
at least not unless it is combined
with a sense
of meaning.
In fact,
PLEASURE itself is not necessarily thing that
actually gives
the most happiness.
People will
go through UNIMAGINABLE SWEAT,
PAIN, AND
EFFORT to accomplish actions that
are tied to
a sense of MEANING for them.
It can be a
million different things depending on the
individual.
However,
perhaps something like completing a
marathon that
you trained all year for, or seeing
the work you
put into helping a community of
kids learn
how to read, or some kind of other
really
CHALLENGING activity that combined
YOUR skills
with helping others; usually it is
THESE KINDS
OF THINGS THAT give the most
deep sense
of meaning and happiness.
Now, no man
and no woman, no matter how
sexy they
find each other, can find happiness
It has to be
part of a larger picture.
And don’t
get me wrong for one second-
sex and the entire
physical and erotic side
of the
man-woman connection is MASSIVELY
important to
understand and to be comfortable
with. More
on this in the future.
It’s just
that most men and women are not
even AWARE
of how POWERFUL a sense of
meaning in
life is, and how closely linked it is
to a sense
of happiness.
Many women
try to find this sense of meaning
through their
career, and some of them do succeed
in finding
this because of the nature of the work
they do,
since it connects their skills to helping
others in a
massive way.
But many
women do not. And, more importantly,
most women
when they meet men who try to
pick them up
end up finding the conversations
lack any
real significance on a deep level.
That is perfectly
fine when you are dealing with
women who
are promiscuous and just looking
to get drunk
and jump into the sack.
But it is
not enough for a woman who is actually
looking for
a man for a real relationship. Nor should
it be enough
for a man looking for a woman for
a real
relationship.
And the time
to show your ability to appreciate
meaning, to
FIND meaning, and to CREATE meaning,
is in the
very first interaction you have with the
woman you
approach.
Look for all
the possibilities in the environment,
in the
situation, in the things she is saying and
doing, that
can lead to a POWERFUL perspective
that is
MEANINGFUL.
For example,
let’s say you are on the commuter
train and
she is sitting next to you. And the train
is just
waiting there for some technical mechanical
issue.
You might
strike up a conversation on how lucky
we are to
have these kinds of problems, and how
precious
time is, and how you are going to do some
meditation
in that moment because it is such a great
opportunity
for that.
This might
lead to her agreeing, laughing, or perhaps
sharing a
story with you about places she’s been
where there
was no train or commuter travel,
and that
might lead to you asking about the culture
there, and
how people find as much happiness or
even more
over there with even less material
things
around them.
Do you see
what I am getting at?
A sense of
MEANING.
Now, NONE of
this means that you can’t or shouldn’t
ALSO be able
to flirt, be playful, and all the rest of that
good stuff.
That other
stuff should ALWAYS be there.
But it’s not
ENOUGH to attract the kind of woman
who
appreciates MEANING in her life.
And the best
kind of women are the ones that have a
VERY RICH SENSE
OF MEANING in their lives.
The reason
this is so good is because it means they are
HAPPY ON A
DEEP LEVEL, a level much greater than
superficial laughter
or superficial temporary pleasure.
And the
happier and more at peace they are, the more
THEY CAN
BRING TO THE TABLE WHEN IT COMES TO
BEING WITH
YOU, as opposed to being miserable,
unpredictable
with their temper, or BORED with life
and looking
for novelty of the sexual sort with many
partners just
to distract themselves from the emotional
emptiness of
their lives.
And of
course, they are looking for this quality in you
as well.
Now, in my
bootcamps, I go DEEP with the guys I teach,
including in
developing these skills as well.
These are
the kinds of interactions that you won’t
find happening
with the drunken women videos
on the
internet, because for drunken women
who are
promiscuous, it’s all NOT necessary and
may even be “too
heavy” for them.
There is
nobody else on the planet who has made it
their PRIMARY
FOCUS to help men get GREAT girlfriends.
And I have
been doing this for THIRTEEN YEARS.
I’ve helped
guys in many cities in many countries
around the
WORLD. A lot of these men ended
up meeting
the women of their DREAMS just
DAYS OR EVEN
HOURS after completing my program,
and I’ve heard
from them about their amazing marriages
and children
that followed.
When you
learn new things, when you know what
you are
doing, things change RAPIDLY for you.
The largest
newspaper in Canada followed my work for
several WEEKS, in helping men meet and attract women
for the exclusive purpose not just of “hooking up” but
rather for getting a great relationship.
It was even called “The Get A Relationship Challenge”.
several WEEKS, in helping men meet and attract women
for the exclusive purpose not just of “hooking up” but
rather for getting a great relationship.
It was even called “The Get A Relationship Challenge”.
And the success these men achieved was REAL,
and documented in detail by the paper.
This “stuff”
that I teach is REAL.
And it’s
about so much more than “getting laid”.
It’s about
getting a great girl.
To find out
about my bootcamps, go here:
To find out
about my home-study books and programs, go here:
To find out
about PRIVATE CONSULTATIONS with me
on ANY
matter regarding attraction, dating, or relationships,
go here:
Till next
time,
Michael
Marks
Sunday, February 28, 2016
Getting A Truly GOOD Woman
Without alcohol and dishonesty, 99% of "pick up artist" videos out
there could not exist.
Also, to a degree, unfortunately, many women kind of suspect that
the guy IS being dishonest, but WANT to indulge in the experience
for the short term but not be held accountable in their own minds for
the long term consequences to their lives because they are too busy
just thinking about the moment, so they indulge in alcohol on
purpose as a way to rationalize later and rationalize in the
moment that it wasn't their fault.
This "it's not my fault" (not taking responsibility) is the number one issue with many women today, and it is a direct result of feminism because it encourages blaming men, and it is also the number one way that a lot of dishonest men, i.e. many of the pick up artists out there, exploit these women, and these women then go on to say that all men they meet are jerks.
These women say that men are jerks, so they can enjoy the experience but later on not be held accountable for the long term destructive effects of promiscuity. These long term effects include the fact that no good man wants to commit to such women. And the truth always comes out eventually, and even if a woman were to try to hide the truth about her, then this itself is a life where she is constantly living a lie, and that is a terrible life as well.
All thanks to feminism which preaches "be like men in the worst
possible interpretation of men", i.e. be promiscuous, be selfish, and
which also preaches blaming men instead of taking responsibility.
And so, getting women to get physical with you is the easiest thing on the planet when you are surrounded with women who want to believe your lies and who are promiscuous and who feel they are in the right to not take responsibility for their behavior.
And this is the reason I created get a GREAT girl, because if a man wants to meet the kind of woman he can actually build a future with, a woman who takes responsibility for her behaviors, a woman who is not promiscuous and who does not need to get drunk to make decisions, it is a completely different thing than getting the kind of women that most pick up artists show in their videos.
Also, I don't film the pick-ups of my clients, because it is WRONG to go around showing films of anyone to millions of people when you never got the permission of those people to film them.
Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars. If you have children with this
woman, she can also cause you MISERY by being a horrible
person to help you raise your children.
The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life more
fun. And she will be a true PARTNER for life.
Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.
Get a GREAT girlfriend.
Go HERE immediately: https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/
To learn the skill of screening women for QUALITY character, and of how to approach and attract in REAL TIME, live, from me directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
there could not exist.
Also, to a degree, unfortunately, many women kind of suspect that
the guy IS being dishonest, but WANT to indulge in the experience
for the short term but not be held accountable in their own minds for
the long term consequences to their lives because they are too busy
just thinking about the moment, so they indulge in alcohol on
purpose as a way to rationalize later and rationalize in the
moment that it wasn't their fault.
This "it's not my fault" (not taking responsibility) is the number one issue with many women today, and it is a direct result of feminism because it encourages blaming men, and it is also the number one way that a lot of dishonest men, i.e. many of the pick up artists out there, exploit these women, and these women then go on to say that all men they meet are jerks.
These women say that men are jerks, so they can enjoy the experience but later on not be held accountable for the long term destructive effects of promiscuity. These long term effects include the fact that no good man wants to commit to such women. And the truth always comes out eventually, and even if a woman were to try to hide the truth about her, then this itself is a life where she is constantly living a lie, and that is a terrible life as well.
All thanks to feminism which preaches "be like men in the worst
possible interpretation of men", i.e. be promiscuous, be selfish, and
which also preaches blaming men instead of taking responsibility.
And so, getting women to get physical with you is the easiest thing on the planet when you are surrounded with women who want to believe your lies and who are promiscuous and who feel they are in the right to not take responsibility for their behavior.
And this is the reason I created get a GREAT girl, because if a man wants to meet the kind of woman he can actually build a future with, a woman who takes responsibility for her behaviors, a woman who is not promiscuous and who does not need to get drunk to make decisions, it is a completely different thing than getting the kind of women that most pick up artists show in their videos.
Also, I don't film the pick-ups of my clients, because it is WRONG to go around showing films of anyone to millions of people when you never got the permission of those people to film them.
Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars. If you have children with this
woman, she can also cause you MISERY by being a horrible
person to help you raise your children.
The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life more
fun. And she will be a true PARTNER for life.
Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.
Get a GREAT girlfriend.
Go HERE immediately: https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/
To learn the skill of screening women for QUALITY character, and of how to approach and attract in REAL TIME, live, from me directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Friday, February 26, 2016
Why BELIEF Is The Key To Success with Women, And How To Get It
One of the most powerful experiences I've had as an instructor was
with a particularly "salt of the earth" client. He was doing amazing
attracting a two-set at a roof-top lounge. The women, who happened to
be gorgeous, were eating out of the palm of his hand, oblivious to
every other guy in the place and giving him endless indications of
interest.
He then told me that he wanted to speak to me away from the lounge.
So, outside the lounge, he was asking me, "How do you think it's
going?"
I told him he was doing great, obviously.
He asked me, "Do you think they are actually attracted?".
I told him that when women are constantly touching you, smiling
around you, and oblivious to every other guy in the place, that yes,
they are definitely attracted to you.
What was particularly cool about this guy is that he was absolutely
not arrogant, absolutely just a really cool, laid back, totally
CONGRUENT guy in his approach.
But so DEEP is the conditioning in our society for men to think
NEGATIVELY of themselves regarding women, that you can
have all the success in the world happening to you, and
you wouldn't even REALIZE the opportunities that women
are THROWING your way, especially since women tend to be a
bit more subtle than men when showing their interest.
AND THIS is why INNER GAME really IS so absolutely, massively,
overwhelmingly important, and why no amount of watching
pick-up videos can replace ACTUALLY being in the situation of
approaching women yourself, again and again and again, until
you BELIEVE on the DEEPEST levels that you ARE worthy, that
you CAN absolutely succeed.
What you CAN do is get the greatest INSIGHTS into how to make
your interaction as EFFECTIVE as possible, by skyrocketing your
sense of humor, your rapport skills, your sense of dominance,
and by your understandings about female psychology, so that
when you DO approach, you can not only have SPECIFIC things
that you can apply to IMPROVE your results, but also the very
fact you are studying these aspects of a successful interaction
will GIVE your subconscious mind a REASON to FEEL confident.
So you are feeling more CONFIDENT and you are also learning
more things which make you COMPETENT, and the more COMPETENT you know you are, the more CONFIDENT you feel, which leads to you ENTHUSIASTICALLY wanting to learn EVEN MORE, which builds even MORE competence, which builds even more confidence, in a NEVER-ENDING POSITIVE CYCLE!
Along with this CONFIDENCE and COMPETENCE,
it is VITAL to understand that getting a great
girlfriend is DIFFERENT than getting a one-night stand
or getting physical with any of the MILLIONS of
promiscuous women that abound these days.
This getting a great girlfriend is what I specialize in.
So in my programs you are learning a lot more than just
how to get the party girls, or the promiscuous girls who
may be fine in many ways, but who themselves will be the
first to say that they aren't relationship material.
If you want a woman who is the "total package"-
who is attractive and also has the personality
that would make for a fun and TRUSTWORTHY
and FAITHFUL girlfriend, then the material that
you will learn in my programs is of EXTREME
importance.
A woman who is looking for a real relationship is
putting a lot more on the line than just one evening
("one night stand") of her life.
She's putting her emotions, her time, her TRUST,
in you, and she isn't going to do all that for just any
guy who comes up to her with some pick up artist
or "dating guru" tactic.
At "Get A Great Girl", you're learning to master the
full picture of interaction with women, including
but also much more than just the initial words you
are going say to her.
The next time you want to approach a woman you're attracted
to, and you have no idea of what to say, try going up to her
and being honest about the fact you found her attractive.
At the same time, STAY COOL.
The best thing about this is that it eliminates the
"sketchy vibes" problem because it forces you to be
congruent, since you, after all, are being honest.
YOU know in your heart that you are NOT trying to
COVER UP anything, so you FEEL honest because you
ARE being honest.
This is GREAT for your INNER GAME.
You are forcing yourself to ACCEPT that it is OKAY
to be a MAN.
It's also great because it IMMEDIATELY lets the woman
know what's up, in the sense that you are not PRETENDING
to be there for some other reason.
This shows confidence, and it also allows her to VIEW you as a
man from the FIRST impression, rather than immediately seeing
you as just some guy who is going to be immediately slotted
into the friend category.
Then, look for positive situational material- comments on things
going on right then and there, KEEP IT POSITIVE. And give her a
chance to contribute to the conversation; it should NOT just be
YOU doing all the talking anyway.
Now, there are more advanced levels to the approach,
of course, where you indicate all these things without
having to be so blunt about them, but this is a great strategy
to use if you are feeling rusty, just starting into the process
of meeting women again, or if you happen to not have anything
to say.
And if you would like to learn THE FULL PICTURE to success
when it comes to getting a great girlfriend, or KEEPING
a great girlfriend, then I suggest you go HERE immediately:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/catalog.html
To learn the skill of PICK UP in REAL TIME, live, from me
directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP,
go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars.
The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life
more fun.
Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.
Get a GREAT girlfriend.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
with a particularly "salt of the earth" client. He was doing amazing
attracting a two-set at a roof-top lounge. The women, who happened to
be gorgeous, were eating out of the palm of his hand, oblivious to
every other guy in the place and giving him endless indications of
interest.
He then told me that he wanted to speak to me away from the lounge.
So, outside the lounge, he was asking me, "How do you think it's
going?"
I told him he was doing great, obviously.
He asked me, "Do you think they are actually attracted?".
I told him that when women are constantly touching you, smiling
around you, and oblivious to every other guy in the place, that yes,
they are definitely attracted to you.
What was particularly cool about this guy is that he was absolutely
not arrogant, absolutely just a really cool, laid back, totally
CONGRUENT guy in his approach.
But so DEEP is the conditioning in our society for men to think
NEGATIVELY of themselves regarding women, that you can
have all the success in the world happening to you, and
you wouldn't even REALIZE the opportunities that women
are THROWING your way, especially since women tend to be a
bit more subtle than men when showing their interest.
AND THIS is why INNER GAME really IS so absolutely, massively,
overwhelmingly important, and why no amount of watching
pick-up videos can replace ACTUALLY being in the situation of
approaching women yourself, again and again and again, until
you BELIEVE on the DEEPEST levels that you ARE worthy, that
you CAN absolutely succeed.
What you CAN do is get the greatest INSIGHTS into how to make
your interaction as EFFECTIVE as possible, by skyrocketing your
sense of humor, your rapport skills, your sense of dominance,
and by your understandings about female psychology, so that
when you DO approach, you can not only have SPECIFIC things
that you can apply to IMPROVE your results, but also the very
fact you are studying these aspects of a successful interaction
will GIVE your subconscious mind a REASON to FEEL confident.
So you are feeling more CONFIDENT and you are also learning
more things which make you COMPETENT, and the more COMPETENT you know you are, the more CONFIDENT you feel, which leads to you ENTHUSIASTICALLY wanting to learn EVEN MORE, which builds even MORE competence, which builds even more confidence, in a NEVER-ENDING POSITIVE CYCLE!
Along with this CONFIDENCE and COMPETENCE,
it is VITAL to understand that getting a great
girlfriend is DIFFERENT than getting a one-night stand
or getting physical with any of the MILLIONS of
promiscuous women that abound these days.
This getting a great girlfriend is what I specialize in.
So in my programs you are learning a lot more than just
how to get the party girls, or the promiscuous girls who
may be fine in many ways, but who themselves will be the
first to say that they aren't relationship material.
If you want a woman who is the "total package"-
who is attractive and also has the personality
that would make for a fun and TRUSTWORTHY
and FAITHFUL girlfriend, then the material that
you will learn in my programs is of EXTREME
importance.
A woman who is looking for a real relationship is
putting a lot more on the line than just one evening
("one night stand") of her life.
She's putting her emotions, her time, her TRUST,
in you, and she isn't going to do all that for just any
guy who comes up to her with some pick up artist
or "dating guru" tactic.
At "Get A Great Girl", you're learning to master the
full picture of interaction with women, including
but also much more than just the initial words you
are going say to her.
The next time you want to approach a woman you're attracted
to, and you have no idea of what to say, try going up to her
and being honest about the fact you found her attractive.
At the same time, STAY COOL.
The best thing about this is that it eliminates the
"sketchy vibes" problem because it forces you to be
congruent, since you, after all, are being honest.
YOU know in your heart that you are NOT trying to
COVER UP anything, so you FEEL honest because you
ARE being honest.
This is GREAT for your INNER GAME.
You are forcing yourself to ACCEPT that it is OKAY
to be a MAN.
It's also great because it IMMEDIATELY lets the woman
know what's up, in the sense that you are not PRETENDING
to be there for some other reason.
This shows confidence, and it also allows her to VIEW you as a
man from the FIRST impression, rather than immediately seeing
you as just some guy who is going to be immediately slotted
into the friend category.
Then, look for positive situational material- comments on things
going on right then and there, KEEP IT POSITIVE. And give her a
chance to contribute to the conversation; it should NOT just be
YOU doing all the talking anyway.
Now, there are more advanced levels to the approach,
of course, where you indicate all these things without
having to be so blunt about them, but this is a great strategy
to use if you are feeling rusty, just starting into the process
of meeting women again, or if you happen to not have anything
to say.
And if you would like to learn THE FULL PICTURE to success
when it comes to getting a great girlfriend, or KEEPING
a great girlfriend, then I suggest you go HERE immediately:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/catalog.html
To learn the skill of PICK UP in REAL TIME, live, from me
directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP,
go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html
For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:
https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars.
The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life
more fun.
Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.
Get a GREAT girlfriend.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, January 20, 2016
Giving Vs. Taking For Success With Women
Sometimes I think that if guys
just knew how
much women actually crave men,
and how
appreciative they are of a guy
who knows
how to not make them feel
"cheap" yet still
knows how to UNLEASH women's many
inhibitions, every guy on earth
would
then LOVE women in general and
would
TOTALLY change his attitudes and
his
beliefs. His inner game would
SKYROCKET
and he would also feel great
about himself,
thereby also unleashing his own
sexual
energy in a positive, healthy
way.
The thing is, it's HARD
to believe this, if
the RESULTS you are
getting from your
interactions with
women are not so great.
So let me right here state some
powerful
insights that will improve your
interactions
with women immediately.
Let's first talk about the very
APPROACH.
That's where it starts, right?
The problem is that most guys
IMMEDIATELY
send off the wrong signals.
They try so hard to come up with
the
PERFECT opener, the perfect
things to say,
that they are actually showing
NOT that they
CARE about the woman, but that
they care
about TAKING from the woman.
Yes, you heard me
right.
Because if this was
about GIVING to the
woman, the guy would
feel pretty good already
and not be worried
about "HOW" to give,
he would be pretty
confident that it's all
going to go GREAT
since after all, he is
the GIVER in the
situation.
But when you are trying so hard
to make sure
that you are not rejected, what
you are really
conveying to the woman is that
YOU want
something. Actually, worse than
WANT.
Wanting is not bad, but NEEEEDING
is
horrible.
And the bottom line is, she's
right.
If you are trying so hard, you DO
want it
so badly that it's more of a NEED
for you.
That makes a woman feel PRESSURE.
It's like that feeling you get
when you
walk into a store casually, and
IMMEDIATELY some amateur
salesperson
creepily gives you a whole
"overly clever"
SALES PITCH.
When you go to buy a FERRARI,
nobody
tries to give you a desperate
sales pitch.
You don't see commercials for it
on TV.
YOU go to THEM to find out more.
Because, it's a
FERRARI.
It has VALUE.
The FERRARI is GIVING
MORE than
it's TAKING. It's
giving so much that
PEOPLE go to IT, with
pleasure.
In fact, it would make you feel
WORSE
if they tried to desperately sell
it to you.
Which is why Ferrari doesn't do
that.
They don't HAVE to.
No pressure tactics necessary.
This itself shows value, but it's
not
some kind of "fake"
tactic, it's the
TRUTH about them, they don't need
to do the pressure stuff, so they
don't.
It's the same thing with you and
a woman
in many ways.
The biggest way to create
RESISTANCE
IN A WOMAN is to PUT PRESSURE
on her. And the reverse is true
as well,
if you put ZERO pressure on her,
she
can't help but start to focus on
what it
would be like if she DID decide
to
spend more time with you. And
it's
starting to sound like a better
thing
all the time considering she is
feeling
pretty good with you already and
most
guys are just making her feel BAD
in infinite ways due to their low
self-esteem
which causes fights, causes
pressure,
and also ruins the potential for
her to
feel any MEANINGFUL self-esteem
boost from them, since after all,
they
are coming across as losers, so
any
compliment they DO give means
NOTHING.
Guys think they are
GIVING by coming
up with the perfect
opener, by trying to
find out how to
tap-dance around the
fact that they want to
talk to her.
In reality though,
the guy is simply putting
HIMSELF BELOW HER,
so she will
NEVER feel like she
is "GETTING"
ANYTHING from him,
no matter how
hard he tries, in
fact the harder he tries,
the worse it is -
the more he comes across
as DRAINING her, as
TAKING from her.
The way to GIVE to her,
emotionally, is to
not need to TAKE from her. You
have to
be EMOTIONALLY ABUNDANT regarding
everything that most guys would
WANT
TO TAKE FROM HER.
So most guys want to feel
VALIDATED by her?
You need to be VALIDATED
yourself.
Most guys want to
feel UPBEAT by her
approval?
You must be ALREADY
SELF-APPROVED,
and FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL
it.
Most guys want to
feel that SENSE OF HUMOR
that comes from the
confidence you get when
a girl is NUTS
about you?
You must be able to
FEEL THAT VIBE without
her.
THIS is why I keep on
saying that the ultimate
GAME is really NOT a
fake, a tactic, or a "move",
it's about your
"inner-game", but the thing is it
takes EXPERIENCE IN THE
REAL WORLD
of interacting with
women to fully get your
inner game to where it
needs to be.
Inner game is a product
of many things,
including learning
vital aspects of how
your mind works, but it
also requires
you actively getting
out there and
approaching women as
well.
You GROW internally, so that you
can
ACTUALLY really be a GIVER IN THE
ALL IMPORTANT EMOTIONAL SENSE.
Not a giver in terms of
"I'll do ANYTHING
for this chick", that's
actually a TAKER.
You'd do ANYTHING because you
feel
you NEED her so bad. She can
SENSE
that neediness, it makes her feel
that you
are going to USE her, you are
going to
DRAIN her, it makes her feel that
you
are INFERIOR, that you are going
to
bring her down.
And remember, it's not that she
is THINKING
this, she is NOT CONSCIOUS of it
at ALL.
She is not THINKING it, she is
simply
feeling the feeling of REVULSION.
She doesn't
necessarily articulate the feeling
to herself, or figure
out exactly why she is
feeling it. She just
DOES. She just FEELS
it.
You see, in a way, although years
ago I was
pissed at the situation at how
men had given
up so much official power to
women, the truth
is that this has become a GREAT
catalyst for
men to BECOME STRONGER THAN EVER,
since they now HAVE to. Men can
finally realize
the ULTIMATE POWER they have
INTERNALLY.
And this is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
more attractive
to women than anything else.
So women's lib and all that
stuff?
BRING IT ON!
As far as raw attraction
is concerned,
feminism still doesn't change
anything.
IT DOESN'T CHANGE A THING.
You just have to be
careful in selecting the right
woman for a long term
relationship, because
relationships require
logic as well as attraction,
but as far as
attraction is concerned, NOTHING
stands in the way of
your attractive power when
you exhibit the right
behaviors.
Women will ALWAYS
respond to the stuff
I am teaching you;
they can't HELP it any
more than you can help
feeling HUNGRY
when you are hungry.
Any more than
you feeling thirsty
when you are thirsty.
The attraction will KICK IN at
once,
but you HAVE TO BE CONGRUENT.
You have to work at actually
BEING the
best, emotionally strongest, most
fun,
YOU, instead of just ACTING it.
Okay, there's more on that even,
but I need
to move on here as space and time
is limited.
Although of course
"courage" is attractive
to women in general, definitely,
there's
something else as well.
I'd like to let you in on a
little secret regarding
this:
One of the MAIN reasons women say
they
want a guy who is COURAGEOUS, in
my
humble opinion based on YEARS of
interactions
with WOMEN who are STRIKING, is
because
THEY interpret courage to mean
that he will
LEAD THEM TO "PHYSICAL LEVELS" OF
INTIMACY REGARDLESS OF the fact they may
be acting FEISTY with him and playfully even
doing things like telling him to F-OFF.
Think about it: If there is someone you TRULY
want to AVOID, you IGNORE them. You don't start
trying to get them all riled up.
INTIMACY REGARDLESS OF the fact they may
be acting FEISTY with him and playfully even
doing things like telling him to F-OFF.
Think about it: If there is someone you TRULY
want to AVOID, you IGNORE them. You don't start
trying to get them all riled up.
Women tend to not be direct in their communication.
What they say and think tends to pass through
several layers of FILTERS.
You see, women HAVE to put up a bit of a
What they say and think tends to pass through
several layers of FILTERS.
You see, women HAVE to put up a bit of a
FRONT of not being so sexual.
It's part of
how women survived throughout
history,
by making this aspect of themselves more valuable
by
DECREASING the supply, which they
did by acting coy, hard to get,
less overtly
sexual, etc. But the thing is, if
any guy
thinks women are less sexual than
men
even 1%, they have a
HUUUUUUUUUUGE
surprise coming. If anything,
women are
even MORE sexual than men.
Really,
once a woman is into you, she
will often
be on you like bees to honey, and
won't
get OFF. Your phone will be
ringing
non-stop. You will regret having
a
cell phone. Which is definitely
not the
worst thing in the world
especially if
you know how to handle it.
It takes COURAGE to be SEXUAL
with
a woman, when women keep on
saying
how they "don't need a
man", and how they
are supposedly so happy and
independent.
It's B.S. Trust me, it's TOTAL
B.S.!!!!!
They are NOT happy without a man.
They NEED A MAN just as much as
a man needs a woman.
Anything else you read or hear is
just
B.S.!!!!!!!!!!
So stop reading it, cuz it's all
B.S. written
usually by pretty miserable women
who just
WISH they could get a cool guy,
which
they might be able to do if they
just stopped
being so miserable which repels
any fun
guy they meet.
So you see, it takes COURAGE for
a guy
to interact with women these
days, and women
KNOW it. So they say they like a
guy
with COURAGE.
I'm not saying that's the ONLY
kind of
courage they care about, but I'm
saying
it's DEFINITELY ONE OF THE BIG
ONES.
So when a woman says this courage
thing,
it's almost as if she's saying
"I want a guy
who will lead me to getting
physical even though I play
some pretty convincing games
about being non-sexual."
Now, for any total dumb-asses out
there, this
does NOT mean to be AGGRESSIVE in
a creepy way. If a woman tells
you to back
off, you back off. But don't
expect a
woman to lead YOU to the physical side
of things.
Most women tend to only leave HINTS.
YOU must lead the way, for most women.
of things.
Most women tend to only leave HINTS.
YOU must lead the way, for most women.
At least until you two have
already
been physical with each other.
Okay, next:
The key to feeling
sexual is feeling GOOD.
People want to ACCEPT THEMSELVES,
but
for most people, it's not easy.
If you can help a woman ACCEPT
HERSELF,
her self-esteem SKYROCKETS.
And women with high self-esteem
are AWESOME.
The thing is that most guys try
to do this with
needy compliments that show the
guy is
desperate. So anything he says is
not meaningful
then.
So, the IMPORTANT thing in an
interaction
with a woman is to NOT DO MUCH!
It's to simply BE the best
version of yourself.
A self that is totally
self-accepting.
And that you are not there to
JUDGE HER.
How can she POSSIBLY
feel BETTER
about herself if you
are already feeling
BAD about her? i.e.
That if she does
not GIVE you what you
"want", that
you would feel HURT.
And of course,
the whole idea of
wanting so badly,
it ruins the whole
natural vibe of just
enjoying someone
else's PRESENCE.
Think about it:
The reason you hang
with people you
like is not because you
need anything
in PARTICULAR from
them. It's
just BEING with them.
That's what
vibe is all about. You
enjoy being
with them because you
know you
can trust them, you
know they accept
you, and you accept
them, and you
all give each other
that good feeling
from simply accepting
each other.
THIS is actually a huge part of
the "game".
Getting to THAT point is the real
"game".
But most guys start acting WEIRD
with women,
the guy CLEARLY is trying to
suddenly MAKE
something happen, he feels he
NEEDS to get
a reaction, he needs there to be
a RESULT.
He totally becomes this guy who
is NOT
his real self. He becomes the
version of
himself that is all uptight,
needy, and
inferior. That's not him, that's
the
distorted version of him.
It's not about DOING
things for women.
It's about accepting
yourself, and accepting
them, and it's about
being dominant
enough to LEAD the
interaction to
greater physical
escalation and
chemistry.
When a woman feels zero pressure,
when
she feels accepted, and when she
feels
she is with a guy who is
self-validated,
who is sexual and playful and
loves women
and loves the physical side of relationships
but isn't desperate, and who knows how to
lead the show and be "courageous" and dominant,
all this allows her OWN sexuality to
but isn't desperate, and who knows how to
lead the show and be "courageous" and dominant,
all this allows her OWN sexuality to
SKYROCKET and shine on through.
And on that note, let
me get to some great
letters that hit upon
these crucial ideas.
LETTER FROM A READER
Michael,
I just have to write
you this message. It is now
6 o'clock in the
morning here in Europe and I
just returned home
from one of the most amazing
parties of my life.
I read your book last week
(remember me, the
Dutch speaking guy who
had some problems speaking
French in
Luxemburg?) and I am
now eagerly waiting
for your CD's which
should arrive early
next week.
Anyway, the party. I
busted the balls of
5 different really
beautiful girls (background:
If I have ever
busted the balls of 1 (ONE)
beautiful girl in
the past during 1 night,
it would have made
my year).
So thanks to your
advice, I have adapted
the mentality of the
MAN (which was indeed
already inside me)
and spoke without fear
or hesitation with
these girls. One, "Ilse",
she was still a
student at 27 and I joked
with that fact and
afterwards we had some
nice conversation
about teaching and parties.
"Nathalie",
an aerobic teacher, had a dress
with 'chains' as a
pattern and I busted her
balls with asking if
she liked "to be chained".
We had a wonderful
conversation about
fashion and dating.
"Lyndsey" was a cute
blond who liked
horse riding and fitness
and came to speak to
me three times because
other guys tried to
hit on her and she wanted
to be rescued.
With
"Patricia" and "Elsie" the same stories.
A great night
thus... HOWEVER, all of them,
all 5 (FIVE) have
told me during or at the
end of our
conversations that I was a guy
with an enormous
amount of confidence
and that I really
knew how to talk with
women (thank you
again Michael). BUT the
fact that they said
this, made that they did
not wanted to give
me their email, because
they thought I was
like this with every
woman...
So my question to
you is now: Can you
be too much of the
MAN? or did I do
something wrong?
In the end, I do not
care. I had a great night
and I lost once and
for all my fear of talking
to cute women. But I
would like to know if
next time I have to
slow down a little bit.
Appreciate your
feedback and I am eagerly
waiting for your
CD's (to which you certainly
will also receive my
feeback).
Enjoy your Sunday!
Ciao!
Max K.
***MY REPLY***
Hi Max,
I just got in from
Bootcamp and read your
message.
Congratulations first of all
for losing your fear
of talking to cute
women and learning how
to bust on
them.
The women were
actually telling you exactly
the recipe for taking
the interaction further:
"Please show me
you are not treating me
like a whore, because
I do like you a lot."
So when you were
clearly teasing every
girl, and ONLY teasing
them, it seemed
that you were not the
type of guy to
actually have any
connection with
any woman. That makes
her feel that getting
physical with you
would mean she has no
worth, because you
don't even care about
her at all enough to
get to know her. It would
make her feel low, as
explained in the eBook.
So the answer to your
question is that you can
never be The Man too
much, however, it's
REALLY important to
ALSO build up
TRUST, which comes
from her feeling
accepted, and from
feeling connection
with you, etc.
Trust is crucial for
getting intimate, in fact,
the very FIRST WORDS
you hear on the
CD Set are going to
IMMEDIATELY get
into helping you
answer this question of
"am I busting on
women too much or not".
It's all ultimately
about making women feel
GREAT, and that means
ultimately about
enhancing their
feelings of self-esteem as
well as you coming
across as being
ACCEPTING of yourself
and of being
sexual and of having
massive worth.
This UNLOCKS the
combination to her
own sexuality being
unleashed, with you
and by you.
But what happens if
you ONLY tease a woman
and you do not start
also ADDING to that initial
chemistry the awesome
emotions of connection
and trust, and all the
other aspects of self-esteem,
then she will start to
feel after a certain point that
you are just PLAYING
with her.
It's the OPPOSITE of
making her feel good.
It's making her feel
that you don't REALLY
care at ALL. So now
you are coming across
as a guy who COULD
have been desirable,
since you HAD value.
But the problem is,
since you ONLY showed
that side, and
never took her
interest as a cue to start
developing a
connection, she feels that
you would only HURT
her feelings
ultimately. i.e. That
you would get physical
with her and just
dump her, etc.
You want to actually
take that MOMENTUM
that you built with
the initial emotions of
attraction you
created, because NOW she
WANTS to connect with
you. NOW it
would have MEANING.
But if you just tease
her, it's as if she could
have been anybody, you
never created the
connection with her to
find out more about
her, to get to know
her, so that she could feel
special with you. So
it would be making her
feel CHEAP if she went
with you then.
Teasing is a powerful
beginning, and often can
be used even sprinkled
throughout the interaction,
but you MUST TAKE THE
INTERACTION
BEYOND THIS AS WELL,
into a place where
she feels not only
that you are this super confident
guy, but that you also
feel SHE is special.
Of course, all this
can only come AFTER
she feels YOU are
special.
In the meantime,
review the points from the book
on making her feel
total trust before she can
unleash herself
physically with you. That
will help you
immensely for now.
Once again, congrats
on breaking through
the fear. Now, it's
time to TAKE that raw
power and apply it
with laser-beam focus.
LETTER FROM A READER
I recently read
another book on understanding
dogs (Cesar's way by
Cesar Millan). And I have
to make clear that I
am NOT in any way
referring to woman
as dogs, but the main
lesson of the book
can be applied to human
relations as well.
The author is a well-known
expert on dog
behavior. He states that dogs
are pack animals and
like humans they have
hierarchies where
most members tend to be
followers with far
fewer leaders.
He emphasizes that
dogs universally respond
to a calm assertive
personality. This author
states that this
state-of-mind displays
leadership to a dog
and all dogs tend to
be attracted to and
yearn for this type of
leadership.
He goes on to state
that excitable, over-emotional
behavior in
dog-owners tends to be viewed by
dogs as unstable and
it repel dogs and makes
them feel superior
to their owners. This in turn
causes many of the
behavioral problems that
this expert is
consulted about.
Notice any parallels
within our human
relationships??
A. X.
MY REPLY
Hey man,
Good to hear from you.
Thank you for that
email, your comments
and questions are
appreciated.
On understanding dogs
and the parallels to
human relationships,
the calm yet confident
leader personality
makes total sense because
it takes GUTS to be a
leader, you take
responsibility, you
have to THINK, whereas
followers can shut off
their brain, because
thinking and being
"awake" and being
emotionally strong
(i.e. not giving in to the
weak emotions that
make us angry/lazy, etc)
is the "real
work" of life.
It takes a LEADER to
do it.
So the analogy is VERY
useful.
And the CRAZY IRONY TODAY is that it is often not MEN in our society who are acting like leaders, but more often than not it is WOMEN.
It is WOMEN who are being empowered by endless messages of encouragement to go accomplish their goals and dreams, while MEN are being BOMBARDED by endless messages of how they need to be WEAKER and KISS UP more to women, and in general encouraging men to be slaves to feelings of weakness and insecurity rather than to be objective and take charge of their fears.
So, MORE THAN EVER, women TRULY CRAVE MEN WHO BEHAVE LIKE CLASSIC MEN.
And the CRAZY IRONY TODAY is that it is often not MEN in our society who are acting like leaders, but more often than not it is WOMEN.
It is WOMEN who are being empowered by endless messages of encouragement to go accomplish their goals and dreams, while MEN are being BOMBARDED by endless messages of how they need to be WEAKER and KISS UP more to women, and in general encouraging men to be slaves to feelings of weakness and insecurity rather than to be objective and take charge of their fears.
So, MORE THAN EVER, women TRULY CRAVE MEN WHO BEHAVE LIKE CLASSIC MEN.
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