Approaching a woman who is a total stranger
in some random place that is not where
she is expecting to meet a man, can seem
like a daunting task, especially when you're
not sure what to even say.
The answer, however, to the most effective
approach is not to memorize a pick-up line,
but rather to learn to use the particulars
of the moment and the environment so that
you can truly customize your approach to
make it the most appropriate for that
situation.
So, let's say some woman is doing some
exercise beside you at the gym, or let's
say she is in line reading a book at the
bank, or let's say she is scrambling to
find her ticket as she boards the bus,
ANY of these things are true spontaneous
events that you could easily comment on.
And here's the thing: Even if your first
comment is not AMAZING, you STILL have
an opportunity to do AMAZING because there
are almost INFINITE opportunities that
can follow INSTANTLY after that.
And, women aren't expecting the first words
out of your mouth to be Shakespeare - it's
more important to not creep a woman out
than it is to come across like Mr. Ultra Smooth
Pickup Artist who has the most hilarious
or cool story or comment to say from the
first moment he opens his mouth.
In fact, the 'not creeping out a woman'
is ACTUALLY one of the BIGGEST skills
when it comes to meeting a woman in
random places that are not designed for
socializing- this is actually more important,
in the first moment, than saying something
that sounds cool but somehow is being
delivered in a way that is still creeping
her out- i.e. using nervous tonality,
being too in her face, seeming too
eager/desperate, not being chilled out
enough, etc.
Now, don't get me wrong, it IS GOOD
IF YOU CAN SLOWLY BUILD UP THE TEMPERATURE
of the interaction, and by that I mean
if you can start to pick up steam where
you and her are both really getting
comfortable and enjoying the vibe of
the conversation, and here is how you
can do that:
Rather than having some detailed plan
memorized for the conversation, you
actually treat the conversation more
like you would with a REAL friend-
in the sense of you wouldn't PLAN
ahead of time the details of what
you are going to chat about with
your FRIEND, right????
You would just HAVE A GOOD TIME
chatting to your friend, right?
About whatever- it might be some
movie you saw, it might be just to
joke around, it might be some
comment on something you learned,
it might not even be much talking
at all, but rather just chilling
out- and ALL these things are good
things to apply in the interaction
with the woman you approached!
You're probably wondering how this
is possible, since you don't know
the woman, you might figure that
you can't KNOW what to talk about-
but that's just IT- if you keep
the conversation a positive experience,
you really CAN'T go wrong.
AND, all you really need at any moment
is about a MINUTE'S worth of conversation!
THIS IS THE COOLEST THING.
You see, if you can get the conversation
going for even ONE MINUTE, during that
minute a WHOLE UNIVERSE opens up of
opportunities for you.
One thing that happens is that she can
COMMENT on what YOU said during that minute
where you were talking, and YOU can then
comment on what SHE just said, and so on
and so forth.
But even if she doesn't say anything
back after your first MINUTE of conversation,
that still gives you an entire MINUTE to
create a MILLION possible conversation threads
related to YOUR conversation topic.
The best analogy I can give of this is
what happens when you view a YouTube
video- you will notice that at the end
of the video, are a TON of related videos,
plus of course on the side of the screen
are the related videos.
So, for example, if you are chatting
with a woman at the gas station as
she is filling up or paying for gas,
you can playfully chat about how
you have a billion points in whatever
rewards program the store has, and
how that is good for about one pack
of gum, and this might prompt a
playful reply from her along the
same lines, to which you might
respond that the two of you could
pool your points together and then
you could get half a sandwich together.
Even if it doesn't prompt a response
from her, you might continue with
talking about how driving in snow
should require a special license,
or the talk about the sandwich
could lead to a conversation about
cooking instead of eating on the run,
which could prompt you to ask if she
is a good cook, and you can joke
about whether you would marry her
or divorce her right on the spot
based on that.
The more conversation THREADS you
have at your disposal, the more
opportunities you have and the more
likely it is that she is going to
instinctively engage in the conversation
with you.
And then, when you combine THAT
with what SHE contributes to the
conversation, you then have exponentially
MORE options on where to take the
conversation.
So all you really need is just a few
moments, perhaps a MINUTE as I said
earlier, and usually it's not even
a whole minute that you need.
This method works BETTER than memorizing
a whole pick up line and a whole pick up
routine, because it allows you to be more
REAL in the moment, and women can sense
that you are not just practicing some
rehearsed line, they can sense that you
are actually engaging them very much
in the moment, that you are being what
is known as 'PRESENT' with them.
Being present means you are not on auto-pilot
with your mind distracted on something else.
You are, instead, fully in the moment as
you communicate with her.
This method takes a lot of guts in the
beginning, because it FEELS like you
are jumping out of a plane withOUT
a parachute, without a safety of
having a whole speech memorized,
but this method is much, MUCH
better than the memorization
method because it allows you
to do all that I described above.
What you have just read is the tip
of the iceberg. I LOVE this stuff,
I love doing it, I love teaching it,
I love demonstrating it.
The fastest way for you to learn these
skills is to learn from me as I teach
you in PERSON, in real life, in my
BOOTCAMP program. I can teach you
anywhere in the world, or you can
take my bootcamp where I conduct
bootcamps most of the year, which
is in Toronto.
Don't push off learning this skill-set.
The right woman will give you TEN TIMES
the energy you currently have, so if
it's time or money you are concerned
about, just remember that this is an
investment that will pay dividends
for you for the rest of your life.
BOOTCAMP is at:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
For a full list of my home-study programs,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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