Flood Her Emotional Receptors

A ton of great stuff to get into today on attracting the women
most guys would sell their own mom to get!!!!

Let's dive right in:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Hope all is well good sir! I was wondering
in your email you gave an example of how
to approach a female. Now let’s just say if
she is really rude or nasty or just ignores
you and you feel like you made a public fool
of yourself.

What mental tactics can you play in your mind
to get you over that hurt feeling? And how did
you handle a rude female who exploded on you
even if you were being a gentlemen/ the MAN?

Jimmy B.

Austin, TX

>>>ANSWER<<<

Thanks for your email! The BIGGEST thing here
is put the RIGHT FRAME onto this, and the
RIGHT FRAME is a combo of:

1. It’s ALL FUN.

2. DON’T EJECT SO FAST.

3. Use EVERYTHING in your environment
to your advantage.

And the point of 1-3?

ALL THESE THINGS FLOOD HER
EMOTIONAL RECEPTORS!

When you are having fun, you show
that you are living in YOUR reality,
not hers, and that shows power and
dominance, and to be perfectly honest,
it also makes her feel MORE AT EASE
THAN IF YOU WERE TRYING TO
DO THIS FOR HER!!

By doing it for your own sense of fun,
you actually take off the pressure
from her, which removes her resistance!

She can't resist what is an ABSENCE
of force!

More on this later when we get to
the little chat about "jerks".

Also, not ejecting shows a lot of
balls and self-belief.

Using everything in your environment
provides you with infinite ways of
showing just how much of the man
you really ARE.

Now, I remember the FEAR of approaching
women when I first started out, and the
truth is that the FEAR is much worse than
the actual REALITY even if she DOES get
pissed off!

I would feel MUCH WORSE if I did NOT
approach a woman than if I DID approach.

Even the WORST INSULT from actually
APPROACHING was way better than the
feeling of giving into fear and NOT approaching.

When I didn’t approach, I would feel HORRIBLE
with regret for HOURS, sometimes for DAYS.

And it almost never happens by the way, that a
woman really is ever really nasty or rude, but
yeah, in very RARE occasions it happens.

And when YOU know that you got over your
own fear by actually GOING THROUGH with
the entire approach and pushing yourself
through it, you often feel a natural HIGH
from overcoming your own internal obstacles,
that you really GENUINELY don’t care that
she got upset!

And THIS attitude is what actually ATTRACTS
and often changes the situation around!

All this kind of behavior FLOODS
a woman's emotional receptors,
making her feel ALIVE and making
her want to be PART of you.

Let me illustrate this with something
that happened during one bootcamp:

A client I was with asked me, while we
were on a subway train platform, if I could
approach this striking woman who was
about halfway down the platform.

So I rolled up to her, I don’t even remember
exactly what I said, it was something playful,
but she just didn’t reply---so in my mind, I
didn’t think this had anything to do with ME.

That’s the first step:

DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY.

I FIGURED SHE DIDN’T HEAR ME!

So I spoke LOUDER!

This time, I got a lukewarm response, she
just wasn’t being very talkative at all or
giving me much energy to work with.

Now, at this point, the train doors opened.
So I figured “I’ll let this one go, no problem,
there are other girls on this train.”

I immediately plopped down into a seat
across from another girl, even more
striking than the first one, and started
a playful conversation. The theme
was about how I was all for independent
women, in fact I wanted a woman who
not only worked and made a lot of money
but also took care of the home stuff too!

The playful angle was that I felt women
should do it ALL while I enjoy watching
TV!

Now THIS woman started eating it up,
getting right into it, saying that she liked
the fact I was cool with women being
empowered, but she said (playfully)
that it’s not fair that I get to stay on
the couch watching TV all day-
to which I told her “Hey, don’t ruin
this it was going so well! I’m gonna
have to divorce you and take half
your money! And how about the
KIDS???”

Now, this girl is laughing and having a blast,
and guess what?

Girl number 1 from the platform is suddenly
taking a keen interest, and even though
girl number 1 is sitting FAR AWAY, she
tries to JOIN THE CONVERSATION with
her point of view!!!

NOW, THERE IS DRAMA HAPPENING,
(the thought of losing a guy, the thought that
this OTHER girl is gonna get the guy, the
fact there is a whole SCENE on the train,
etc, etc!)

NOW GIRL NUMBER ONE FEELS ALIVE!!!!!

She starts actually GETTING INTO THIS WHOLE
DISCUSSION, and if anything SHE looks “weird”
now to the rest of the people on the train!!

When a woman is feeling EMOTION,
nothing else MATTERS.

Nothing else matters because emotions
make her feel more ALIVE than anything
ELSE. In fact, they are the ONLY thing
that makes her FEEL ALIVE.

Everything else, she might as well be asleep.

When she’s feeling emotions, she’ll even
do things EMBARRASING to herself, she’ll
even PUSH to do embarrassing things to
herself if she thinks it will lead to MORE
of these emotions that are so much powerful
than her feelings of what most OTHER people
think of her – she just cares what YOU think
of her!

Add to this, the fact that since she’s gorgeous,
she’s got the kind of confidence that often comes
with it and doesn’t care what most people think,
especially when it comes to her getting the man
that she WANTS!

So what happened here???

What happened was that:

1. I never allowed ANY of the initial interaction
to get SERIOUS. This was MY WORLD that
I was allowing girls into, and in MY WORLD,
the number ONE priority is HAVING AN
AWESOME TIME.

So, when the first girl didn’t seem to understand
or “get it” or “like it” or whatever, I didn’t feel that
this had much to do with ME.

I also didn’t feel like my happiness depended on it.

2. I PUSHED AHEAD even though I got no
reply the first time.

This indicated that I was NOT the kind of guy
who MELTED at the first sign of not getting
APPROVAL from her.

I didn’t NEED her approval, and in fact I
actually wanted to GIVE and not TAKE
here, I didn’t feel like I wanted to “get”
or “take” her approval of me.

I wanted to SHARE THE FUN VIBES I
was feeling within.

3. I also ended up using the tactic of
“SOCIAL PROOF” in a very genuine way.

When girl number ONE saw girl number TWO
having a great time chatting with me, suddenly
a SWITCH got pulled in girl number ONE’S mind:

Girl number one on a primal level now felt
that it’s OKAY to talk to this total stranger,
because THIS OTHER ATTRACTIVE
WOMAN felt it was fine to do.

Girl number one no longer had to worry
about feeling like she was “weird” if she
talked to a total stranger, and also girl
number one probably also felt more
attraction now as well, because girl number
two was “proof” that I had attraction value.

Was I looking to use girl number two
to get girl number one? NOPE.

In fact, I couldn’t care all that much about
getting EITHER girl to be honest!!!!!!!!!!!

It was FUN, but not SERIOUS to my sense
of “I’m cool” or “If I don’t get her then I’m not
cool.”

And THAT inner strength actually SHOWS
on your EXTERIOR as well- it shows in
your tonality, your body language, your
expression on your face.

Girl number TWO was probably more confident
than girl number ONE, and girl number TWO
got “confidence” THROUGH girl number one
and also got more attracted through the
‘social proof’ that girl number two was
giving me.

So this is where PERSISTENCE MIXED
WITH GUTS, MIXED WITH SOCIAL PROOF
gave KICK-ASS RESULTS!!!!

At this point, I got my client into the conversation,
and what’s interesting is that now I was providing
social proof for my client, making the conversation
go even smoother.

All this was cool to witness up close in person
and provided a very valuable learning lesson.

One of the most IMPORTANT lessons here
is the MARCHING FORTH AND PERSISTING
THROUGH WHAT SEEMS LIKE TOUGH TIMES!

He who DARES with approaching women WINS.

It is ATTRACTIVE to see a man who believes
in himself so much that he is not in the slightest
shaken up by what a woman says or does.

I’m reminded of a great scene in 'Goodfellas’
where Ray Liotta’s character comes back home
late. As he’s rolling up the driveway in his car
with the top down, his wife as well as his wife’s
mother are YELLING LIKE NUTS at him.

For a moment, he just lets them do their thing.
Then, without leaving the car, he just starts
LAUGHING and pulls right out of the driveway,
and drives off happy as can be.

So, this way, he’s in a great state.

They get time to cool off.

He appears even cooler by not having
to yell and scream back at them.

It’s also ATTRACTIVE when a man PERSISTS,
not in a NEEDY way, but in a confident way.

So, trying forever to get the same girl, that’s
NEEDY. But being able to MOVE ON and
get ANOTHER girl, THAT’S confidence.

A woman SENSES on a deep subconscious
level that this kind of man is GOING PLACES
IN THIS WORLD. He’s moving UP.

He’s DRIVEN.

But she’s not consciously THINKING this.
She just feels, “This guy is a MAN”.
“A man that I WANT.”

Even “LOSSES” CAN BE TURNED AROUND
AND APPROACHES CAN BE RESCUED
FROM THE “JAWS OF DEATH” IF YOU
HANDLE IT RIGHT AND PERSIST WITHIN
THE INTERACTION!!!!!

So for example, you can chat to OTHER
women, you can also DISARM women
with humor. This is one of my favorite
things to do with my “Disarm and Charm”
strategy.

If a woman is being resistant, sometimes
it has nothing to do with her not being
attracted- sometimes it’s just a matter
of TRUST, after all you are a total
stranger and she’s not sure who the
heck you are.

So if a woman for example says something
like “Do you do this to all the women in
the store???” then if I sense from her tone
of voice that she is just being difficult for
fun, then I might say “Only women who
look like they could use a great conversation”
to which they often reply “Do I look like
I could use a great conversation?”

And to that I’ll say “I bet it’s REALLY RARE
for you to meet a guy that can actually be
fun, challenging, and still have a meaningful
connection, right?”

And the crazy thing is that I’m always
RIGHT about this, and their answer is
“YES IT IS RARE!!!”

Now, if I sense a woman is being genuinely
cautious, then I won’t use humor, I’ll just
be straightforward and say “I just wanted
to say hi and see if you might be an
interesting person inside as well.”

Another time, these two girls were
chatting with each other at a food
court, and I think one of them had
broken up with some guy or something
and she was pouring out her guts to
her friend.

At the time, years ago, I didn’t understand
the power of CALIBRATING (finely tuning
and adjusting your approach for the specifics
of the situation), and I was influenced by the
arrogant pick up artist tactics, and when she
said “She’s been through a lot, and she just
wants privacy.”

I said something insensitive, which REALLY
pissed her off, and then she stands up
and tells me she’s gonna call security.

And what did I say in response to THAT?

Well, at least I was in the playful state of
mind when I said:

“Tell me how you REALLY feel!!”

Honestly, I was LAUGHING to myself,
and this was definitely by FAR one of
the WORST situations EVER.

I mean MALL SECURITY?????

And in middle of an ENTIRE FOOD COURT??

And even THEN, back then many years
ago, I STILL marched on, to ANOTHER
table, and started a chat with two OTHER
girls, one of them was just INSANELY
GORGEOUS and the other was still
a decent contender, and within MINUTES
my client and I were in a great conversation,
and soon we started getting into deeper
connection with the girls:

For example, chatting about their hobbies
and future goals, we got well beyond just
the laughing stuff, and walked away with
BOTH their numbers.

All on the very same food court as the woman
who was going to call security!!!!

THAT’S the kind of attitude you want to
not only HAVE but also SHOW.

In some ways, over the years, I’m more
proud of these rare CRAZY situations
because you learn a LOT from them
including just how much BIGGER you
can be than these situations, which
if you look at it honestly, really ARE
funny!

Another time, with a client on bootcamp,
we were at a club, which I don’t think is
as good as a food court or bookstore
for meeting quality women, but it’s still
a place to practice.

We were on a patio on the roof of the club,
and these two knockouts there, and I
started chatting with one of the girls
and the other girl starts saying “It’s
my friend’s birthday and we’re supposed
to just spend time together”, etc, etc.

And I just playfully kept it going, because
I knew that in a club, playful is easy and
key, even though her friend INSISTED
that this girl would NOT talk to me.

Finally, after about FOUR MINUTES of
me not giving in, the ‘birthday girl’ who
was not supposed to talk to me, ended
up actually breaking free from her friend
and her first words were:

“Oh my god! You’re so RUDE!!!
I LOVE IT!"

And she comes OVER and embraces me!!

Needless to say, there was no competition
after that, how many guys would gladly
EMBRACE so much resistance????

The trick is to EMBRACE it all and have
MORE fun with that than if it was going
EASILY!

By the way, this has nothing to do with
ME- ANY GUY CAN DO THIS ONCE HE
“GETS” WHAT’S GOING ON IN THE
INDIVIDUAL SITUATION WITH THESE
WOMEN.

Here’s a few more things to keep in mind:

Realize that it's not always so easy being
an attractive woman in public, because a
lot of guys unfortunately have no class
and just ogle and don't do the whole approach
in a classy way, so these women have to
develop a bit of a "cold front" sometimes to
ward off most men.

Again, more evidence that it’s not PERSONAL.

She has no idea who I am, who you are, and
she is just generalizing about guys.

The other thing is that I became desensitized to
this kind of thing from doing it so much, so the
honest truth is that I would find it FUNNY if a
woman ignored me, because it's actually kind
of funny knowing that a woman DID hear me
but is just pretending she didn't, when I know
in fact I'm a good guy!!!! :)

So it's important to LOOK for the FUNNY
stuff that is ALWAYS there in these situations
if you just look hard enough. You’ll find that
this perspective EMPOWERS you.

I also always ask myself, in a very constructive
way, "Hmmm….how can I have improved that
approach???" because I am an obsessive
type of guy, and I always am interested in
learning how I could have made it HARDER
for her to ignore me or be nasty, etc.

I really DO enjoy the very science of this whole
topic, so it is interesting for me to actually
use these kinds of situations to learn the most
from, as when things do not go perfectly I can
often learn more from those situations than when
they go perfectly.

Finally, it's also very possible that a woman
already has a boyfriend, and this is her way
of showing respect to her boyfriend by being
a bit of a beeeeyottch to all other guys, which
is kind of cool too :) It means she is very
faithful!!

Hope that helps!

***NEXT QUESTION***

Have you read or heard of the book
'I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell' and
'***holes Finish First'? I just came
across them in the bookstore the other
day.

Basically, the guy is a complete ***hole
and has no apologies about it and with
his New York Times BestSeller list status,
dozens of women email him every day
wanting to hook up with him.

One might argue it is the fame, not the
***holeness that is attracting these women
in droves, but he got to be famous by first
being an ***hole.

If you would be so kind, would you mind
breaking down this phenomenon for us in
a future newsletter?

Carl R.
Chicago

>>>MY REPLY<<<

Ahh, the ever popular “DO JERKS REALLY
ATTRACT WOMEN OR NOT????”

I’ll answer this one easily:

The only reason why JERKS often get
results with women has nothing to do
with being a JERK, it has to do with
SELF-LOVE, and this is something
that good guys MUST learn.

I wish I had learned this back in high school:

Jerks often are EXPLODING WITH SELF-LOVE.

There are two kinds of jerks:

The SICK ones who really hate themselves and
go out of their way to make life difficult for others.

That is NOT attractive at ALL.

It’s REPULSIVE as hell.

Then there are the other kind of jerks:

The guys who don’t give a RAT’S ASS
about political correctness, about following
every single boring social norm just to fit in, etc.

They care far more about what THEY think,
and they care far more about having FUN.

They don’t care for society’s rules that say
you should not be so sexual.

They don’t care for being enslaved to boring
clothing, boring jobs, boring food, or boring
lifestyles.

They don’t feel the need to CENSOR their
PASSION for all things they ENJOY.

They are "SELFISH" and go for what they
want in an OBVIOUS way, they don’t hide
it like most people do.

Everyone is selfish, they just don't HIDE it.
And often these "jerks" end up actually being
GOOD GUYS UNDER THIS SELFISH
STUFF, in the sense that they DO give
to others, but they make sure to love
THEMSELVES, and the truth is
everyone should do this.

When you love yourself, you can love
others better too.  When you feel you
are of value, you feel you can GIVE
value to others as well.  You also don't
feel NEEDY since you already feel
you have value, so you don't need
to force a woman to do anything,
since you already feel great!
So, when a woman sees a guy like that,
it’s a TURN ON for so MANY reasons:

For one thing, deep down she
WANTS to be that way too!!!

She wants to release her sexuality.
She wants to laugh.
She wants to be excited.
She wants to FEEL ALIVE.

And since women are MORE pressured to
fit in and be “nice” compared to men, women
end up often being more REPRESSED.

And with more repression, comes MORE
DESIRE TO DO ALL THOSE THINGS
THAT THEY ARE BEING REPRESSED
FROM DOING OR FEELING.

So, along comes Mr. Jerk who says
I DO WHATEVER I WANT, I LOVE
SEXUAL STUFF, AND YOU CAN DO
WHATEVER YOU WANT EXCEPT YOU
CAN’T TELLL MEEEEEE WHAT TO DO!!

So now, this guy is giving her TONS of emotions
from his OWN lifestyle, PLUS he is giving her
the RARE emotion of being CHALLENGED
since most guys are so WEAK in terms of
how they feel in front of women, that THIS
challenging guy is the guy who gives her
ALL the emotions she craves!!!

So, ANY guy can be like this, it’s NOT
about being a jerk.

The problem is that POWER corrupts,
and when jerks see that they can get
so much leverage over women with this,
they often start to take women for granted,
and start to be inconsiderate, and then
of course they LOSE these girls over
the long term.

So the jerkiness is not attractive long term.
And the attractive things that jerks do are
not the JERKY things! They are the things
that involve THE COURAGE to REBEL
against RESTRICTIVE BORING RULES
AND BORING LIFESTYLES!!!!

And this is why, if you are a GOOD GUY
who ALSO is LIBERATED FROM THE
RESTRICTIVE BORING LIFESTYLES,
then you will truly RULE when it comes
to women, because it is SO RARE for
a woman to find a guy with this kind
of courage AND integrity.

***NEXT QUESTION***

Hey Michael,

I love the idea you mentioned of how
the brain is a sexual tool because its
creativity is attractive to women.

Can you give us any tips on being more
creative in our interactions with women?

Danny M.

Leeds, UK

>>>MY REPLY<<<

Thanks for your question- absolutely,
as Denis Dutton has pointed out in his
Darwinian theory of beauty, the whole
point of being able to create emotional
impact through anything like comedy,
drama, music, or any other form of
skill or art, is actually to attract the
opposite sex.

It’s not necessary for most of survival
from the elements or for getting food-
rather, the brain is an ENORMOUSLY
POWERFUL SOCIAL "MACHINE"
that definitely IS appealing to women
WHEN USED RIGHT.

Obviously, I can’t explain the entire
range of emotional impacts that you
can create and how to create them
in one email, but here’s one quick
tip you can apply RIGHT AWAY:

Any time you see a MEDIA sign or
commercial, etc, with a catchphrase
like “Just do it” or “Harvey’s makes
your hamburger a beautiful thing”
try to come up with SEVEN DIFFERENT
WAYS OF SAYING THAT SAME THING!

Trust me, there is genius to this, it’s
just one of the many great ideas that
came up in the Warrior Within program.

(This actually came from a guest who
attended Warrior Within, he is a true
success story who used the Get A Great Girl
materials to go from not being able to even
approach women at all, to being able to
spontaneously attract women ANYWHERE.)

Companies spend BILLIONS of dollars
a year devising these slogans and
campaigns, because they are
EMOTIONALLY EFFECTIVE AND
WORK TO GET RESULTS!

Practicing coming up with seven different
ways of saying these things will sharpen
your creative skills, especially your
SKILLS AT BEING SPONTANEOUS
WITH MORE CHARISMATIC
CONVERSATIONS!!!!!

Try to make the seven different ways
of saying these things as full of visual
imagery, and dramatic or comedic effect
as possible.

And if you want to get the FULL PICTURE
on attracting the very BEST women, then
I suggest you take advantage of my
WARRIOR WITHIN PROGRAM ON DVD.

This program will show you how to develop
the charisma and confidence on a DEEP
level to not only approach women anywhere,
but to also do it with FLAIR and STYLE
so that a woman is COMPELLED by
her own attraction to you to be putty
in your hands.

When I tell you that this program goes DEEP,
I'm not giving you hyperbole.  This program
goes DEEP.

You will learn the very BEST strategies
on Earth for becoming the kind of man
that attracts the women most men
can only DREAM about.

You will change on a very CORE level.
It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you’ve missed my monthly
Actions For Attraction series where
I give you my latest insights for having
the EDGE in attracting women, then
you’ve got to get your hands on my
Actions For Attraction CD Set.

In this CD Set, you’ll find a WEALTH
of golden strategies on obliterating
‘approach anxiety’ (the anxiety that
comes when you want to approach
a woman) skyrocketing your
sense of humor with women (I
actually interviewed the only man
alive that is known for his COMBINATION
of killer comedy skills AND skills with
women), real examples of chats
with women that start from the
very moment you see her, as well
as a TON of other crucial insights
that will make an IMMEDIATE
AND MAJOR difference in your
interactions with women.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/ActionsForAttraction.html

Of course, if you haven’t yet read my Ebooks,
do that NOW.

‘The Dating Wizard’ is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

'Get A Great Girl’ is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

As powerful as the newsletters are, I assure
you they are only the tip of the iceberg to the
MASSIVE insights you will get in my programs.

For now, and for always – BE THE MAN.

Michael Marks