Today's newsletter goes DEEP,
this is not KOOL-AID drink here,
this is ADVANCED FUEL FOR
SUCCESS WITH WOMEN.
One of the coolest things to me is the fact
that a man CAN attract virtually any woman
by the power of his PERSONALITY.
This personality is really a combination of
PSYCHOLOGICAL SKILLS at a supremely
high level, and these skills have nothing to
do with controlling HER, they have to do
with accessing parts of your mind you
mat not even realize you HAVE.
Three fundamental components of
these skills involve:
1. Creating MEANING in her life.
2. Creating HUMOR through emotional
RISK, VULNERABILITY, and TRUTH.
3. Social INTELLIGENCE.
NUMBER 1:
CREATE MEANING IN HER LIFE
Help give a woman MEANING in her life,
and she will be yours forever. Especially
if this meaning is linked to improving her
self-esteem on a very deep level.
Of course, step one in this is practicing
what you preach.
We are currently living in a time where there
is almost ZERO pressure on anyone to have
ANY values whatsoever.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that more
people are depressed and find their lives
meaningless, ESPECIALLY attractive
women, than ever before, during a time
when there is very very VERY little
moral code being enforced socially.
So, because there is no moral code to live BY,
there is very little for people to life FOR.
Let me be specific:
In previous generations, there was a value
on various different things, for example,
things like FAMILY, things like LOYALTY,
things like FIDELITY, things like EXPERIENCE,
things like INTELLIGENCE.
These were actually promoted.
Today, however the OBSESSION is with
YOUTH.
Craig Ferguson the talk show host has actually
TALKED about this, which is very cool:
It’s all because of societal changes, and how
everything became about "me" and making
money rather than anything else.
It's not a conspiracy though, it's just business
gone out of control because there aren't any
many competing forces or competing values
anymore.
Companies know that if they can get the
KIDS, they can have them for LIFE, and
milk them financially for LIFE. And
a lot of parents are themselves the product
of these values, so they aren't helping.
Also, kids and youth have LESS EXPERIENCE,
are LESS WISE, and are easily manipulated
by their EMOTIONS, especially by appealing
to violence and to the most basic sexual things.
So for example, the vast majority of the movies
that come out are focused on youth, to get the
youth audience, they are also focused on
violence and sex in the most non-creative,
non-artistic, and primitive ways, because
to a bunch of teenagers whose hormones
just kicked in, this appeals to them, it’s
all a new thing to them.
But while in the past this was just one part
of what was available in our culture, now it’s
virtually EVERYTHING.
In the 1950’s, Superman was played by
an actor in his 40’s. A couple of years ago,
Superman was played by an actor in his
20s or 30s.
In the 1950’s, sure, a woman’s beauty was
attractive, but today it’s her YOUTH that is
the main thing. In fact, I would say that if
you took a sample of the women who were
in billboards, movies, tv shows in the 50’s
and 60’s, and 70’s, they were on average
MORE beautiful than the women being
celebrated today, but they weren’t as
young in general.
In even the recent past, Cindy Crawford and Madonna
were hitting their prime only PAST the age of 25, while
today it’s gone nuts with Britney Spears priming at 18,
Miley Cirus, etc.
And the obsession with the sexual,
as soon as any celebrity gets any
fame whatsoever, it’s BOOM
straight to the maximum graphic
display immediately.
It’s not just movies, it’s almost everything that is
being advertised- and that totals BILLIONS of
dollars a year, billions worth of MESSAGES
being bombarded everywhere telling us it’s
only about youth.
So of course women are uptight and nervous,
especially the ones who think they have a chance,
i.e. the attractive ones, because other ones have
to let go of this illusion fantasy and are probably
happier for it, learning the lesson early that
self-esteem is not about being under 20 years old.
This obsession with youth stems from
marketing efforts by companies, and on a
smaller level, there is nothing that is
considered TABOO now- so there are
companies that sell dating sites on cheating
on your spouse with other cheating people,
companies will do whatever they need to
do to SELL, period, regardless of the
moral questions involved, in fact they
will turn things around and try to make
it seem like a morally good thing.
It’s not a coincidence that more women than
ever are on PROZAC. It’s not a coincidence
that relationships are disintegrating while the
obsession with material and youth is on the
rise. People are chasing after what they
hope will bring them MEANING, but
they ain’t getting it no matter how high
they climb.
If you want to attract a woman on the
deepest level, then you need to have
a STRONGER SENSE OF MEANING
than most people have. And this means
a stronger sense of VALUES than most
of our society has.
This requires taking a RISK, it means that
you have to NOT be afraid of going
AGAINST social convention in this
respect and in fact you should be
PROUD of it.
This is part of what I mean by the difference
between a GREAT MAN and a “nice guy”.
“Nice guy” seems to have a weak connotation
to it, while a great man does everything in
his life out of genuine CONVICTION, he doesn’t
do things out of PRESSURE to “fit in”.
Next time, you’re chatting to a woman,
see if you can make a comment or lend
a perspective that ILLUSTRATES that
in fact you HAVE MEANING in your
life and that it shows through the things
you say.
If you’re in a bookstore and a woman
is reading VOGUE in the magazine
section or whatever, maybe TELL
her, with a sense of HUMOR, “I hope
you don’t take those articles seriously.
They’re just trying to make women
insecure, in fact there’s a big conspiracy
where the men’s and women’s magazines
just share the same articles but change
the titles so they can sell them to each
audience!”
And when you say this, COMMIT to it
with your voice tonality, don’t say it
with a namby-pamby attitude. Make
it REAL.
This is TRUTH mixed with HUMOR
mixed with a sense of VALUES,
particularly the value of SELF-ESTEEM!
NUMBER 2:
HUMOR IS RISK, VULNERABILITY, TRUTH
The reality is that humor makes a woman
FEEL good, and women are often MORE
affected by FEELINGS when it comes to
most things than men are. Men DO
get emotional about CERTAIN things,
but not as MANY things as women
do, in general. So humor is VERY
POWERFUL with women.
The irony of making humor work is that
you have to say the very things that most
people would NOT say, and the things
you say have to have TRUTH behind
them, AND the things have to be said
in a way that is not mean-spirited.
Most guys don’t want to take the
emotional RISK that there won’t
be a laugh, they’re too afraid of
their own ego.
But as Robin Williams says, this is
COMEDY, this isn’t about you having
to jump off a building, it’s about TALKING,
the worst thing is that they don’t LAUGH,
so what??????
You can actually learn to get an
adrenaline RUSH from this risk,
and get ADDICTED to it in a
good way, which will make you
VERY FUNNY VERY FAST.
And again, there has to be truth to it.
Like when Robin Williams talks about
how UNREALISTIC beer commercials
are and how people “get sucked into
drinking beer by believing it’s a healthy
thing! All these beer commercials
usually show BIG MEN, MANLY MEN,
doing manly things! ‘You’ve just killed
a small animal, it’s time for light beer!
Why not have a REALISTIC beer commercial
show a REALISTIC thing about beer? –
It’s 5 o’clock in the morning, you’ve just
pissed on a dumpster- IT’S MILLER TIME!’
Or when Dave Chappelle makes the comment,
“Chivalry is dead. And women killed it!”
This is FUNNY, because it takes guts
to say, and it TRUE in many ways
because FEMINISM tried to make
women and men the SAME, thereby
destroying things like chivalry.
So you have to take the comedy RISK,
and you also have to be VULNERABLE,
you can’t be afraid to BRING OUT WHO
YOU REALLY ARE.
Yes, the irony is that being courageous enough
to bring out the perspectives that you see, that
other people won’t say, INCLUDING THE
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU VULNERABLE,
are actually very often the things that everyone
has on their mind but are just afraid to say,
and so now you have her RESPECT as well,
and she sees all this as STRENGTH.
So you are revealing your identity, you are
being strong, you are being vulnerable, you
are being honest, and you are being FUNNY
all at once. No wonder humor is such a
powerful drug when used right.
NUMBER 3:
SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
This is a HUGELY important concept you
want to put into action when socializing
or interacting with any woman.
The other day I happened to see something
on television. Talk show host Jimmy Fallon
had a certain guest on, she was talking about
one of her many luxurious homes, and how
she was enjoying FISHING from the very
backyard of one of her homes, how it connects
right to a POND, etc, etc.
Now, I know everyone knows these people
are wealthy, but really, do people WANT to
know about all of her homes? Do people
want to hear HER talking about her luxury
life? The answer is NO, it’s not cool to talk
about this and no one is interested really in this-
and Jimmy Fallon KNOWS that this is
not making the audience feel better, so
what does he do?
He says how he just went ICE FISHING
LOCALLY and froze his butt off, and how
he didn’t even HAVE THE TALENT OR
SKILL to make the hole himself and how
he and his friend just froze out in the
cold trying to catch a fish but ended
up getting NOTHING.
Ahhh, now the audience LAUGHS and
feels GREAT. It’s winter now and they
are all freezing their butt off too.
Normally, he won't be so self-deprecating,
but in the MOMENT it was the right thing
to do because he tapped into the VIBE
of the audience and he knew where they
were at emotionally at that moment.
This is exactly what you want to be doing
with women, you have to know what's
going on and how to adjust for the
situation.
And do they think that Jimmy Fallon is a
loser for this? Of course not.
If anything, they like him even more from
all this, and it’s obvious from the audience
response.
When chatting up a woman, don’t kiss up
to her, but definitely think about HER emotions,
and realize that showing off is basically
NEVER the right thing to do, and I’m not
just talking morally, it’s actually NOT cool.
It makes you seem needy and insecure.
By the way, I’m sure the guest didn’t
intend anything negative at all, and that in reality
she IS a cool person who was just nervous at
the moment. Just like a lot of guys who are
decent guys UNINTENTIONALLY sabotage
their results with women. And I used to be
the KING of these mistakes, thinking to
myself “I really want to impress this woman,
so I’ll tell her the most impressive things
about myself possible”. I cringe to think
about the mistakes I made even if they
were years ago.
And if you’re reading this right now, and
want to learn the RIGHT way to interact
with women, and especially the right way
to get a GREAT quality woman for a
fantastic relationship, then I suggest you
download my book ‘Get A Great Girl’
IMMEDIATELY at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
What you read in these newsletters, as
deep as they get, is still just scratching
the SURFACE compared to what
you'll learn in this book as well as
in my other books and programs.
If you’re just STARTING out in the dating
game, then you should first get my book
‘The Dating Wizard’ at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
I must warn you, though, this book is
designed to REPROGRAM guys who
are "TOO NICE". If this is not you,
then this book is not for you! I'm not
interested in creating JERKS, and
being a JERK doesn't get you great
results with women.
However, I know that I myself, and many
other men, were BRAINWASHED to put
all women on pedestals and that type
of thinking will get you DEMOLISHED
with THE MAJORITY of attractive women,
so I wrote the THE DATING WIZARD book
to SAVE ALL NICE GUYS FROM BEING
DESTROYED!
For my most ADVANCED program, go here:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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