Today I want
to talk about meaning, and how it
relates to pick
up, dating, and relationships.
A sense of
meaning is the most important thing
is the most
important factor in one experiencing
the highest
degree of happiness.
This has not
only been proven by experts in the
field of
positive psychology such as Martin Seligman,
but you can
probably attest to this in your own
experiences
in life.
Think back
to specific experiences in your own life.
Were you
happiest when you just did things like
have a meal
packed with sugar, salt, or fat?
Even sex
itself, as high as it ranks, is not the MOST
powerful emotion,
at least not unless it is combined
with a sense
of meaning.
In fact,
PLEASURE itself is not necessarily thing that
actually gives
the most happiness.
People will
go through UNIMAGINABLE SWEAT,
PAIN, AND
EFFORT to accomplish actions that
are tied to
a sense of MEANING for them.
It can be a
million different things depending on the
individual.
However,
perhaps something like completing a
marathon that
you trained all year for, or seeing
the work you
put into helping a community of
kids learn
how to read, or some kind of other
really
CHALLENGING activity that combined
YOUR skills
with helping others; usually it is
THESE KINDS
OF THINGS THAT give the most
deep sense
of meaning and happiness.
Now, no man
and no woman, no matter how
sexy they
find each other, can find happiness
in just
being with each other.
It has to be
part of a larger picture.
And don’t
get me wrong for one second-
sex and the entire
physical and erotic side
of the
man-woman connection is MASSIVELY
important to
understand and to be comfortable
with. More
on this in the future.
It’s just
that most men and women are not
even AWARE
of how POWERFUL a sense of
meaning in
life is, and how closely linked it is
to a sense
of happiness.
Many women
try to find this sense of meaning
through their
career, and some of them do succeed
in finding
this because of the nature of the work
they do,
since it connects their skills to helping
others in a
massive way.
But many
women do not. And, more importantly,
most women
when they meet men who try to
pick them up
end up finding the conversations
lack any
real significance on a deep level.
That is perfectly
fine when you are dealing with
women who
are promiscuous and just looking
to get drunk
and jump into the sack.
But it is
not enough for a woman who is actually
looking for
a man for a real relationship. Nor should
it be enough
for a man looking for a woman for
a real
relationship.
And the time
to show your ability to appreciate
meaning, to
FIND meaning, and to CREATE meaning,
is in the
very first interaction you have with the
woman you
approach.
Look for all
the possibilities in the environment,
in the
situation, in the things she is saying and
doing, that
can lead to a POWERFUL perspective
that is
MEANINGFUL.
For example,
let’s say you are on the commuter
train and
she is sitting next to you. And the train
is just
waiting there for some technical mechanical
issue.
You might
strike up a conversation on how lucky
we are to
have these kinds of problems, and how
precious
time is, and how you are going to do some
meditation
in that moment because it is such a great
opportunity
for that.
This might
lead to her agreeing, laughing, or perhaps
sharing a
story with you about places she’s been
where there
was no train or commuter travel,
and that
might lead to you asking about the culture
there, and
how people find as much happiness or
even more
over there with even less material
things
around them.
Do you see
what I am getting at?
A sense of
MEANING.
Now, NONE of
this means that you can’t or shouldn’t
ALSO be able
to flirt, be playful, and all the rest of that
good stuff.
That other
stuff should ALWAYS be there.
But it’s not
ENOUGH to attract the kind of woman
who
appreciates MEANING in her life.
And the best
kind of women are the ones that have a
VERY RICH SENSE
OF MEANING in their lives.
The reason
this is so good is because it means they are
HAPPY ON A
DEEP LEVEL, a level much greater than
superficial laughter
or superficial temporary pleasure.
And the
happier and more at peace they are, the more
THEY CAN
BRING TO THE TABLE WHEN IT COMES TO
BEING WITH
YOU, as opposed to being miserable,
unpredictable
with their temper, or BORED with life
and looking
for novelty of the sexual sort with many
partners just
to distract themselves from the emotional
emptiness of
their lives.
And of
course, they are looking for this quality in you
as well.
Now, in my
bootcamps, I go DEEP with the guys I teach,
including in
developing these skills as well.
These are
the kinds of interactions that you won’t
find happening
with the drunken women videos
on the
internet, because for drunken women
who are
promiscuous, it’s all NOT necessary and
may even be “too
heavy” for them.
There is
nobody else on the planet who has made it
their PRIMARY
FOCUS to help men get GREAT girlfriends.
And I have
been doing this for THIRTEEN YEARS.
I’ve helped
guys in many cities in many countries
around the
WORLD. A lot of these men ended
up meeting
the women of their DREAMS just
DAYS OR EVEN
HOURS after completing my program,
and I’ve heard
from them about their amazing marriages
and children
that followed.
When you
learn new things, when you know what
you are
doing, things change RAPIDLY for you.
The largest
newspaper in Canada followed my work for
several WEEKS, in helping men meet and attract women
for the exclusive purpose not just of “hooking up” but
rather for getting a great relationship.
It was even called “The Get A Relationship Challenge”.
several WEEKS, in helping men meet and attract women
for the exclusive purpose not just of “hooking up” but
rather for getting a great relationship.
It was even called “The Get A Relationship Challenge”.
And the success these men achieved was REAL,
and documented in detail by the paper.
This “stuff”
that I teach is REAL.
And it’s
about so much more than “getting laid”.
It’s about
getting a great girl.
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about my bootcamps, go here:
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about my home-study books and programs, go here:
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about PRIVATE CONSULTATIONS with me
on ANY
matter regarding attraction, dating, or relationships,
go here:
Till next
time,
Michael
Marks
