How To "Pick Up" Women With Effective Conversation Skills

Here's a new video on picking up women anywhere,
using the most powerful conversation skills especially
applied to the art of approaching and attracting women.

To learn how to pick up women anywhere, LIVE, in my one-on-one "Real World Bootcamp", go here:

 http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

And to learn more about mastering the approach, check out my program called "Acing The Approach" at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

What To Say On The Spur Of The Moment & How To Take Things To A Deeper Level

One of the most important things to realize when
you meet a woman on the spur of the moment
is that you must be ready to respond to the situation
IMMEDIATELY, otherwise the moment will be
gone and so will she.

In order to do this, you have to already be
READY.  You can't start trying to "figure
it out" in the moment.  This is where having
the skills mastered truly makes the biggest
difference.

Here’s a real life example written by a man
who posted to the Get A Great Girl Forum:

QUESTION

“So tonight, I was walking into my dorm when
this cute girl holds the door open for me. I told
her it was nice to see somebody who actually
holds the door open for people and she smiled
and said that people still do that. I replied with
a sarcastic "yeah, right" and could not think of
anything else. She said goodnight and walked away.

I really think that I could have expanded on this
and made a real conversation and connection.
Any advice for next time in a situation like this?"

RESPONSE FROM ANOTHER MAN ON THE FORUM
WHO IS USING THE GET A GREAT GIRL MATERIALS

“Yo man! We all get into a situation where we react
in a way that is "routine" to us, whether that is a
routine way of approaching the situation or whether
it's something we always say every time something
like that happens, but it's these routines that aren't
helping us get anywhere with a girl, and we need to
break out of that routine. The brilliant thing about
this is it takes practice, and that was one girl...so
you could try that again with another girl! GREAT!

From reading what you have said, there are quite a
few angles that you could have covered I feel. Quite
a few are done by READING THE SITUATION. Basically
when you read the situation you are pretty much trying
to find a topic from something that is around you - in
this case it could be something she's wearing or just
the fact that she's opening a door for you (like you've said),
could even be about the fact it's night time even.

I think the problem started because you opened with
a sentence that doesn't require a lot of thought for the
other person to answer i.e. if you asked her if the sky
was blue she would say yes, but instead if you asked
her why is the sky blue there would be much more to
talk about.

So how would you first speak to this girl if you knew that
you were the guy that portrayed the best qualities? You
wouldn't try and say anything that would at first qualify her
(unless you were complimenting on how she has a good
vibe to her, that's different), but would maybe say
something that can show a few things about you. Sure
you would definitely say thanks to her for holding
the door open for you but you wouldn't stop there,
you'd say something like "Thanks, but honestly,
you could just say Hi to me if you wanted to talk
to me, you don't need to open a door to start talking
to me" or something along the lines of you conveying
your superiority in a playful manner...I say that
cause the scenario is greatly set up!

It's at night, people actually get scared at night,
she could think you're someone that's about to
kill her at night but instead you're going to be that
awesome guy she wishes she could have every
time she thinks of it!

That's all I can think of just now but I hope this helps :)"

MY COMMENTS

It's great to see people using this place exactly as it was
designed for! Good question and great reply!

One of the biggest principles I teach is: “Think to yourself
what would you say if you KNEW she liked you and you
genuinely wanted good for her?”

At the same time, you want to make sure that what
you say creates a playful vibe where she will likely
WANT to participate as opposed to just answering
you to be polite.     

For example, you might say, in a friendly "dignified" voice:
"Why thank you, it's refreshing to see some chivalry...oh
wait, that's what men do for women, well you should see
what it's like when ***I*** open the door for a lady....
care to see?"

And then you could playfully get her to go behind you, and
demonstrate a really classic chivalrous KNIGHT IN SHINING
ARMOR style of opening the door for her.

The KEY to making this work of course is that you are having FUN
being playful in this way, and at the same time really going all
the way in role-playing the classic chivalry.

By doing this, you are totally conveying MANLY
qualities in all the BEST senses of the word,
you are also conveying PLAYFULNESS, and
you are ALSO allowing HER to fall into her
role of being FEMININE since you are playing
your role of being MASCULINE.

Humans naturally want to know the ROLE they should be
playing, and this way you make it FUN and EASY for her
to get to know you and to truly relax and allow the
sexy vibes to flow between the both of you.

This kind of thing will get her giggling in a GOOD WAY,
and truly break the ice so that you can now go into
"normal" kind of talk about yourselves, because now
you are both going to be relaxed and feeling you can
both truly "vibe" with each other.

Another point I want to make about meeting women
is that you want to show a woman that you see her
as an INDIVIDUAL.

THIS IS A HUUUUUUGE THING, and is really the
SECOND part of any successful approach.

So, first, you need to find a way to bridge that
gap from total stranger to actually HAVING
some kind of conversation, but then the
goal is to actually make that conversation
POWERFUL in a CONNECTING sense.

The irony is that you can’t go STRAIGHT into
connecting, because it would come across
as too serious, and just plain weird.

So FIRST, you convey good qualities about yourself,
and you should also get her feeling relaxed.

THEN, you go into learning about HER and
CONNECTING.

And to CONNECT best, you need to learn how
to CONFIRM her UNIQUE sense of identity.

To do this, you must LEARN MORE ABOUT HER.

Having our UNIQUE individual identities CONFIRMED
by another is one of the biggest things in terms of actually
CONNECTING two people.

A woman is going to feel a trillion times more connected
to you if you see her as an INDIVIDUAL, if you are
genuinely interested in learning about her and if
you are not being presumptuous to think you know
her.

This is, by the way, ANOTHER reason why putting
a woman on a pedestal before you even know her
is not attractive.

For example, let’s say you meet a gorgeous woman
and you are clearly infatuated with her, and telling
her how much you adore her.

Well, she KNOWS that you don’t KNOW her, so
whoever it is you are ADORING, from her perspective
is NOT her, you can’t POSSIBLY adore HER since
you don’t even KNOW her, it’s some FANTASY
in your MIND that you are adoring.

So all this "nice" stuff, from her perspective, isn't
being given to HER, it's being given to this construct,
this concept of who you think she is, which is based
on zero actual knowledge of her.

You can see from here, that it's not that women
don't like being treated well, it's that this kind of
infatuation, or "nice treatment" is actually kind of
creepy.

The idea that you THINK you know her when
in reality it’s just all the things you’ve dreamed up
in your subconscious mind played up by the halo
effect in your mind about her, is all something that
she finds UNCOOL and repulsive.

So, once she is giggling or relaxed and a bit
impressed with your initial opening, then it’s
time to truly pour on your LISTENING skills,
and make no mistake about it, listening
properly requires SKILLS. Most people THINK
they know what it means to listen, but that
is usually just HEARING, not LISTENING
and not understanding.

In fact, to truly listen WELL, we often must
work on improving our OWN ‘filters’ that
affect the way we see and understand others
as well as the world in general.

Having the wrong “filter” can totally screw up
our ability to connect to women because the
wrong filter ends up distorting our perception
of what women are saying or doing to us.

So, for example, if I have the wrong filter, a woman
might say something totally innocent to me, but I
interpret in a way that is insulting to me. Now, I
am going to probably say something defensive back,
which will make her see me as insecure or having
a chip on my shoulder, or she might just think I
don’t understand her- none of these things are cool.

Or, on the opposite extreme, if my filter is wrong,
I might think that a certain woman who actually
is NOT a very good person is GREAT, because I
can’t see the full picture since my filter is wrong.

This is why REAL success with women involves the
BIG PICTURE, it’s not just about a pick-up line, it’s
not just about one thing.

And yet, it doesn’t have to be HARD, IF YOU
GET THE RIGHT INSTRUCTION.

This is where my WARRIOR WITHIN program comes in:
It will make sure you not only know what to SAY to a
woman, it will ALSO make sure you know how to
CONTINUE the interaction with her in a way that
actually LEADS to genuine success and a genuine
relationship.

Warrior Within goes in DEPTH into making sure
you master all the things you've read about in this
newsletter.

This program is not some kind of gimmick.
It goes DEEP, and it’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

If you’d like to learn DIRECTLY from me, in PERSON,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my first book,
then do that immediately at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Approaching Women: The Mature Man's Way

TONS of crucial insights on attracting and approaching
women to get to today, AND there’s an important brand
NEW video as well:



As you know, I’m not interested in gimmicks or
juvenile ‘pick up lines’ as a method for attracting
the women of your choices. That stuff doesn’t
interest me, and I have a feeling it doesn’t for
you either. I get the feeling we’re a more mature
crowd.

Well, on that note, today, there is a lot of really practical
and important information on successfully approaching
and attracting women that I want to share with you.

Keep in mind, that everything I share with you is not
something I made up, but rather is what I have found
to be true again and again and again “in the field” on
real women in just about every place you can imagine,
and that is proven repeatedly in my Real World
Bootcamps on a weekly basis.

1. TO SMILE OR NOT TO SMILE?

When I first started out, I used to wonder why the
hell whenever I would smile in making my approach
to women, I would do much worse than when I didn’t.

This got me pissed off, and made me really NOT
feeling like smiling at women at all. This led to
me being more brute and cold in my approaches,
which ironically, IMPROVED everything, but
made me even more upset, because I started to
think women were nuts.

This was not a healthy foundation for a long–term
relationship with any woman, which is why my
relationships tended to explode pretty fast.

Well, fast forward several years, and I realized what
was going on:

In places that are not designed for “picking up”, i.e.
in places that are NOT clubs, bars, lounges, etc,
women don’t EXPECT to be approached by men.

Sure, it happens sometimes, but it’s usually not done
right.

See, there’s something really important to understand:

Many women actually FANTASIZE about meeting
a man who is their “destiny” through a total CHANCE
encounter. It’s as if it was all designed by fate and the
universe, etc, etc.

Think about how so many of the romance novels
for women revolve around a woman meeting a
man who is "the stranger".

Also, many women, even if they are not fantasizing
about meeting “the one” this way, still find the idea
of being approached by a total STRANGER who they
don't know at all, in a “normal” place like a bookstore,
bus, café, etc, to be very attractive and sexual.

HOWEVER, the WORST thing a man can do,
is to RUIN the “chance” element of all this in
a woman’s mind by making it seem like he
does this “pick up stuff” all day long, on
MANY women.

This TOTALLY ROBS the event of all the romance,
and all the unique “specialness” of it, since after all,
the guy does this on LOTS of women, and she was
just number 1,542.

So, if a guy, let’s say in a bookstore, is all smiley,
and all too perfectly polished, and acting as if this
is a CLUB, or a singles bar, etc, it REEKS of
FAKENESS, ARTIFICIALNESS, AND has zero
feeling of serendipity- a word that women love
that means “chance”. Hence, the chick-flick
“Serendipity”.

So THIS is why it’s important that when approaching
women in “normal” places- places that aren’t DESIGNED
for socializing and meeting other singles, such as bookstores,
coffee shops, etc, you really want to be as SPONTANEOUS
as possible, or at the very least, to COME ACROSS as
spontaneous.

2. USE THE ENVIRONMENT

This is one of the reasons I like to really work the
IMMEDIATE ENVIRONMENT into the approach,
because it tailors it for that SPECIFIC place and time,
making it far less likely to appear that you use the same
thing on every woman you meet.

For example, if the phone at the store is ringing,
you might joke with the woman “Hey, it’s for you”,
and you might even do this with a mock-serious
face, and even REPEAT it, as if you are serious,
saying “No really, serious, it’s for you!”.

THIS way, the interaction has started off in a very
REAL sense, a very IMMEDIATE sense, that you
are in the MOMENT with her.

She might say back, playfully but half-seriously
as well, "I hope not" (she hopes the phone is not
for her.)

And you might reply with, "Yeah, it's crazy,
you want to come to the bookstore to get
away from it all, and they keep hounding
you!!"

This SPONTANEOUS DYNAMIC does something
wonderful:

It REMOVES the “Oh-oh, another cheesy guy
who spends his whole day picking up women
or trying to pick them up.”

If a guy does it to all women, then how special
can SHE feel she is to the guy? Worse yet, if the
guy does it all day, she feels “Is he LACKING
the ability to get women somehow? What’s
WRONG with the guy? What do I have to
be CAREFUL about here?”

So THIS is the concern, it’s NOT that women
are somehow attracted to guys who are ice-cold
and somehow hate it when a guy smiles.

It’s the PARTICULAR LOGISTICS of the dynamics
of approaching women in ‘normal’ places that were
not originally designed especially for men and women
meeting each other!

THIS is why having the full SKILLS and INSIGHTS
on approaching women in different types of places is
ESSENTIAL.

It’s not enough to JUST have the guts to approach,
although that is a GREAT start.

In a club, bar, or lounge atmosphere, you CAN start with
a more jovial and socializing type of “vibe” to your
demeanor and mannerisms- because EVERYONE is
ALREADY in that state of mind, that is the whole
behavioral CONTEXT of the location.

The music, the dancing, the drinks, the weekend, the
good times, the party, etc., is all PART of the club,
bar, lounge ATMOSPHERE.

This is why, you could even USE an obvious pick-up
line in a club, and get away with it, as long as it’s
OBVIOUSLY SAID WITH PLAYFUL VIBES
and is just a start into more conversation.

But in regular places, I would prefer to comment
on something in the environment, or something she
is doing or wearing, or even start a conversation
by mentioning a true, intriguing story or article
that I had read to get her thoughts on it, and this
would be the springboard for a great conversation-
which I could still branch out from in many ways
if those branches seemed more meaningful.

3. USE THE PAUSE!

Another strategy to keep in mind, is that to prevent
yourself from “over-selling” yourself by talking too
much or too fast, you should REMEMBER to PAUSE.

Many times, when a guy is approaching a woman, he
will either say NOTHING, or he will keep on talking
TOO MUCH, including if the woman is responding
to him, he may get too excited and start trying so hard
that he keeps on talking and talking.

All this ends up coming across as if a guy is trying
too hard to QUALIFY himself. It comes across as
insecurity, which often leads to negative behaviors
like extreme arrogance, showing off, and not listening,
all of which are attraction destroyers.

So, by consciously reminding yourself to take PAUSES,
until it becomes instinct because you actually don’t FEEL
the need to oversell yourself, you prevent the problem.

You also allow HER to fill in the void, and allow HER
to speak, which also allows you to learn more about
her and makes you able to form a better connection
and have more MEANINGFUL things to say to her
that are RELEVANT to her, than simply talking
non-stop without listening to her.

This also makes you come across as more secure as well.

4. RE-ENGAGE IF REQUIRED

What I mean by this, is sometimes a woman
might not "IGNITE" the first second you
say something to her. She might have
had a bad day, she might have broken
up with her boyfriend, she might have
just been fired.

It could be a million things- so what
you have to do is ALLOW for all this,
and not EJECT so quickly.

Just because she didn't do cartwheels
the first second you started talking
to her does not mean it's over.

You may have to RE-ENGAGE her and
CONTINUE the conversation, with
something ELSE that is interesting,
relevant, playful, or captivating
in some other way.

Being a man means not running for the hills
just because she isn't offering you her
body and soul within two seconds of talking
to her.

5. NEW LIGHT ON THE QUESTION:
“DO JERKS REALLY ATTRACT WOMEN?”

This is a topic that has been spoken about a BILLION
times, so I’m not going to repeat what has already been
said on it – there is something very important and very
NEW that has not been said about this by anyone.

You must read the entire following section to truly
UNDERSTAND, so do NOT just read the next
paragraph, you must read the whole thing below
it as well, or you are going to start thinking some
terrible things about women – and I’m telling you
that with most women, those negative things are
NOT true.

INDEED, THE JERK ELEMENT DOES ATTRACT
WOMEN, BUT NO MORE SO THAN MEN ARE
ATTRACTED TO THE ‘BI**H’ ELEMENT OF
WOMEN.

Now, stick with me closely here, because the details
COUNT.

Women DO want to meet men who are kind, thoughtful,
good listeners, etc. These things are ESSENTIAL if
there is going to be any RELATIONSHIP that LASTS
in the future.

However, the SEXUAL component of the relationship
is a little DIFFERENT. There are TIMES when a woman
may very well be turned on by this “softer side” of one’s
personality.

BUT! And this is the big BUT! You must remember
that RAW ANIMALISTIC DESIRE is actually a very
SELFISH thing, in both men and women.

And, if a woman is with a man who is soooooo nice, that
he ONLY thinks of her and NOT of himself and HIS needs,
it can actually make her feel GUILTY for even THINKING
of going WILD into raw carnal sinful mode with him!!!!!!

She may feel GUILTY for wanting to be an ANIMAL
in bed!!!!!

Do you see where I’m coming from?
On the other hand, if a guy is a real JERK, she feels
NO GUILT at all about doing whatever animalistic
carnal raw behavior she WANTS to do in bed, because
she KNOWS the JERK doesn’t give a RAT’S ASS
what she thinks, and in fact the jerk will make sure
to get WHAT HE WANTS from her.

All this, ironically, helps her feel BETTER about
FREEING her inhibitions with the jerk, and about
being carnal with him. She has no GUILT about
it with him, since although she is in USING him
for sex, his jerkiness makes her feel NO GUILT
about it!

PLUS, since he himself is SO COMFORTABLE
being sexual, and TAKING, it makes her feel
more comfortable DOING THE SAME!

In this sense, the “jerk” is GIVING her MORE
than the “nice guy”- he is giving her FREEDOM
from her INHIBITIONS, he is giving her a
GUILT-FREE experience to go WILD in bed!

It’s the same way vice versa, if a woman
was TOTALLY SACRIFICING HERSELF FOR YOU,
in every way, and if she didn't care for
herself at all, you might start to feel
WEIRD about going all sexual on her, you
might even feel guilty.

THIS is why it’s so important to COMBINE the
best of BOTH WORLDS if you want to have
a woman not only LOVE AND RESPECT you
as a boyfriend, but also feel GREAT about going
WILD ANIMALISTIC CARNAL ANIMAL
with you!!!!

You do this by showing EXTREME comfort
in your own skin, extreme comfort being sexual,
and by showing that you are high self-esteem
and that you have NO SHAME in TAKING.

THIS IS GOOD FOR HER AND GOOD FOR YOU,
AND VICE-VERSA AS WELL, WHEN SHE DOES
THE SAME.

Now, at the SAME time, you ALSO show that
you ARE a good listener, that you DO care, etc.

Most guys fail to be able to COMBINE both these
elements to their VIBE, especially in the initial
approach and pick-up.

Balancing these elements is a SKILL.

And doing things RIGHT the FIRST time is
CRUCIAL, because the FIRST IMPRESSION
makes the deepest imprint on her mind and her
emotions.

A lot of this COMBINATION is shown through
SUBTLETY. It’s not that you start throwing
vulgar language around in your approach, but
rather that your tonality exudes sexuality and
confidence and still shows warmth as well.

BOTH elements are IMBUED into your conversation
and interaction, and this combination makes you that
RARE man that women go home and tell their friends
they met, and their friends get jealous about wishing
THEY could have as cool a guy approach THEM!

If you’re reading this right now, and would like
to MASTER the skills of approaching and
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them,
I suggest you take my REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP,
where I will train you in person, in the
real world, in real time, on tons of
real women.

I will take you step by step, and work
with you to get EVERY ASPECT of the
approach and attraction MASTERED- from
the actual first moment you walk-up to them,
to mastering your body language and tonality,
to calibrating your timing and your ability
to smoothly respond to anything she says
IMMEDIATELY, to breaking through your
internal obstacles, to ENSURING attraction
and a deep sense of connection in her, so
that she is eagerly waiting to see you
again and take things to a deeper level,
including the fulfillment of her erotic
fantasies with you.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

The results of this program are incredible:
It’s not uncommon even for guys who have had
virtually NO PRIOR EXPERIENCE to then get
fantastic new girlfriends within DAYS of
completing the bootcamp!

How am I able to get guys these results
with women? It’s because I have devoted
myself to this skill and to TEACHING this
skill to other men, for TEN YEARS.

My teaching style is geared for LONG-TERM
results, it is not limited to the “party
circuit” where certain women are already
drunk and ‘out looking for a good time.’

It’s the choice for men with MATURITY, who are
looking to actually LEARN a skill set with women
that will serve them well for LIFE.

When I think back to my own life, on how many
YEARS I suffered in loneliness and in a frame of
scarcity with women, when, had I known these
skills, I could have gone out and got myself a
great new girlfriend on ANY DAY I WANTED,
I almost can’t believe it.

I sometimes wish I had a time travel machine
to visit my previous self and teach him all
that I currently know!

And if you’re reading this right now, YOU can
take advantage of what I learned and get the
women you want NOW.

The FASTEST way to learn is BOOTCAMP,
because I can see exactly what you’re doing
and get you up to speed immediately by
CUSTOMIZING my program just for you.

The bootcamp is PRIVATE, EXCLUSIVE
AND 1-ON-1.

And it’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Here’s a recent letter from a man who did
even more than find great girls to date!

LETTER:

Hi Michael. I was at your boot camp in 2008.
I wanted to give you an update. I met a very
attractive and QUALITY woman in May of 2010.
A woman whose overall qualities are well beyond
what I ever expected. We're getting married in
September.

I want to thank you for the information that you
provide with your books, CD's and the info on the
bootcamp. The info you provide has helped me to
be a good boyfriend and fiance and keep our
relationship fun and fresh.

Without the info you provide I can't say that things
would have been as fun and enjoyable as they have
been. Actually, with my old way of thinking and
inaccurate outlook on myself, women and dating
in general may very well have contributed to our
relationship's demise.

You're a classy guy who truly wants to help men
be quality men who meet quality women. Your
teaching goes well beyond what a 'pick up' artist
would teach.

I'd recommend your books, cd's and bootcamp to
any guy who is looking for real answers. What you
teach can save many guys a lifetime of misery and
failure in relationships.

And yes, just because we're getting married doesn't
mean that the principles you teach are to not be applied.
They're not even principles (principles sounds a bit like
manipulation). They're just bits and pieces of information
to help men unravel the things in themselves that isn't
them and help men to be who they really are.

Keep up the good work bro.

Tom Bryson, Austin, TX.”

MY REPLY:

Thank you for the kind words and for sharing that
letter! I think it really helps when men can see
that what they will learn from the Bootcamp and
the other programs is a lot more significant than
“pick up lines”.

And if you’re reading this right now, and if
you can’t make it to Bootcamp just yet, you can
STILL master these skills by taking advantage
of my home study programs, each one of which is
the result of REAL WORLD TESTING that proves it
WORKS on getting women attracted to you.

These programs also serve as a great PREPARATION
for Bootcamp as well.

They’re at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Show Dominance When Approaching Women

First things first, here’s an important new video on
the “how to” of approaching and attracting women,
and you can use it right now to TURBOCHARGE your
results with women!



Today, I’m going to share with you a crucial
strategy you can easily apply to successfully
approach women. It’s all based on real world
research and testing and I’ve been using this
for YEARS, including in my live workshops
with guys as we approach women just about
everywhere.

In order to fully understand how to use the
strategy I am about to show you, it is crucial
to understand one thing:

Being a powerful, dominant man is the strongest
force when it comes to attracting women, and in
fact to women, the form of power known as
DOMINANCE is particularly important when
they instinctively and subconsciously size up a man.

Let me go even further to make this even more clear:
Superficial types of attraction, such as a guy having
“good looks” simply doesn’t mean the same thing
to women as a woman being “good looking” means
to men. Sure, great looks do indeed appeal to
women, but the good looks really means FAR LESS
to women than it means to men.

The proof of this is all around us. How many male
models can women name? How many female
models can men name? How many strip clubs
are there for women where men take their clothes
off? How many strip clubs are there for men
where women take their clothes off?

The massive imbalance here tells you something
right away: Women simply aren’t as COMPELLED
to chase a man because he is “good looking” as
MEN are compelled to chase a woman because
she is good looking.

Ahh, but now, let’s flip this around to POWER.
See, good ol Brad Pitt, before he became a
movie star and a famous celebrity and thus
“a power broker”, actually had a HARD TIME
with women, according to his own words in
countless interviews.

In other words, he actually didn’t have it much
different than other guys when he was doing
regular guy things like being a waiter, etc.

And let’s take this even further:
How many men chase women who are powerful?
How man WOMEN chase MEN who are powerful?

This is why women care more about the fact that a
man has POWER, STATUS, and DOMINANCE
than the fact he is super good looking, etc.

And here’s the thing: Just like men can’t help it
but go crazy for women who give off the signs
of beauty, women can’t help it but go crazy for
men who give off the signs of DOMINANCE.

In fact, it’s a bit more complicated than that,
because it’s not exactly like women get immediately
“soaked” by power and status OR by great looks,
it’s more like women immediately feel the primal
need to GET CLOSER with this man and learn
more about him.

Female sexuality takes a little more “warming up”
than male sexuality. Male sexuality is “ready to go”
at any moment. Women become OPEN to the
idea of escalating physically with such a man.

This actually all makes a lot of sense on an
evolutionary level. Women are the ones that
have to carry a baby for nine months, women
are the ones that can only have a limited
amount of children, women have a LOT
invested in making the RIGHT CHOICE
for their reproductive partner.

So that man has to display the traits of power,
status, and dominance in society to show that
his DNA will produce another child that will
ALSO be a survivor and who will thrive in
the crazy jungle of life. Also, this man’s
power and status and dominance probably
also mean he has access to the resources
like food and shelter for survival of the
family unit.

Meanwhile, male sexuality is a little different.
Men, in evolutionary perspectives, didn’t have
as much invested in any ONE woman, and
also could never know for sure if their woman
was faithful, so to ensure that they DID have
their own offspring, they evolved to impregnate
many women, thus increasing the chances for
actually having a child of their own.

By the way, none of this should be taken as
a MORAL imperative for today. I’m simply
speaking about the way attraction works.

So, now that it’s totally clear how important
DOMINANCE and POWER and STATUS is, let me show
you how to convey all these things in the very
FIRST MOMENTS you approach and meet a woman.

DO NOT ALLOW YOUR VOCAL TONALITY TO FLUCTUATE!

Think about how your voice sounds when you
are feeling an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE to
something.

Whether it’s HAPPY, SAD, ANGRY, FEARFUL,
HOPEFULL, or any OTHER emotion!

What happens is your TONALITY changes!

For example, when you are feeling FEARFUL,
your pitch tends to RISE, right? When feeling
depressed, it tends to lower and get faded.
When feeling happy, it gets more energy.

Now, imagine a monitor was TRACKING the
way one’s voice changed if that voice kept on
showing a TON of emotional reactions.

Imagine it looked like a line on a graph, and
the line kept jumping up and down, like an
erratic heartbeat on a monitor.

Well, what you want to do with your tonality
is actually stay on a STRAIGHT LINE.

Unlike the heartbeat monitor, where a straight
line means the worst thing, a straight FLAT
LINE when it comes to your VOCAL TONALITY
when approaching a woman is actually the
BEST thing.

This is because the LACK of fluctuation, the lack
of CHANGING tonalities, the lack of movement
from the STRAIGHT baseline, shows that you
are NOT having ANY emotional reactions to
the conversation.

On a subconscious level, this shows that you
believe that YOU have massive value and
as such, the CONVERSATION WITH THIS
WOMAN is not a big deal to you.

You can ONLY have an emotional reaction
to something if you believe that thing is
IMPORTANT.

Happy, sad, ecstatic, angry, or depressed, you
simply can’t have these emotions and NOT
feel that indeed things are important enough
to either get depressed about, happy about,
angry about, etc.

Now, most guys, when they approach a
woman they like, they tend to have their
voices going all over the place – the voices
FLUCTATE a lot.

So, for example, they may be really HAPPY
the woman is talking to them. Then, they
may be FEARFUL that the woman doesn’t
like them. Or, they may be DISAPPOINTED
if the woman isn’t immediately showing
signs of massive interest.

All these emotions show in the VOICE.

The flip side of all of this is that if you DON’T
HAVE EMOTIONS in your voice, then clearly
NOTHING too important is going on OUTSIDE
of you.

In other words, you don’t feel OUTBALANCED
by the IMPORTANCE of this woman.

Now, from a woman’s standpoint, this makes
you a GIVER, and the holder of HIGHER
value.

Most guys she meets, she can’t help but feel
SHE is the superior value, and that the guy
is an INFERIOR value. After all, this is
the message the guys are giving off in
their TONALITY.

They are REACTING to something very
IMPORTANT, to something that’s a
BIG DEAL—THE WOMAN.

A woman would rather meet a guy who
is a “big deal” to HER! She’s sick and
tired of meeting guys who she ISN’T
interested in but who are all so interested
in HER.

So make no mistake about it, this is not about
making the woman UNIMPORTANT, it’s
about making sure that YOU don’t come
across as YOU being unimportant.

And the way most men behave when they
approach and interact with a woman who is
attractive simply makes the men come
across as UNIMPORTANT because they
are having EMOTIONAL REACTIONS
that are so evident in their TONALITY.

So, the way to ensure this is not happening
is to make sure that your voice tone does
not fluctuate. Each fluctuation is a sign
of an emotional reaction, and each emotional
reaction is a sign that you feel she is so
important compared to you.

This does not mean that you should come across
as a lifeless, boring robot, as your voice tone can
still show resonance, sensuality, and confidence,
all without fluctuating much from the baseline.

And if you want to master the skills of attracting
women, I suggest you take advantage of my
home study programs, and when you’re ready
for the big leagues, sign up for my Real World
Bootcamp, where you will be trained by me
in an exclusive one-on-one program that is
custom made just for you.

The Real World Bootcamp is guaranteed to
take you to the next level of success with
women no matter who you are, and take
you there faster than anything else on
earth. This program combines the best
of all worlds- you are getting trained
in the real world, you are getting the
best coaching instruction LIVE and
custom made for you to ensure your
maximum progress, and you are getting
ALL of my focus and time.

This program truly is ONE-to-ONE.

It’s at:

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To find out about all my home study programs,
go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Each one of my home study programs is the
result of YEARS of real world experience
teaching men how to get the best results with
high quality women, and you owe it to yourself
to check them out right now.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How A "No Club" Dude Gets The Girl!

>>>>LETTER FROM A DUDE WHO 'DOESN'T DO CLUBS'<<<<

Hey Michael,

Just thought I should send you a message,
something interesting happened to me
two nights ago (Friday night). A friend
of mine was having a birthday party at
a club. He’s a decent guy, but I’m not
into the “clubbing” thing, and yet birthdays
are only once a year, and I figured it would
be rude not to attend.

The other thing is that after getting your
Warrior Within materials about a week ago,
I figured this might be a chance to practice,
even though you’ve made it pretty clear that
clubs aren’t usually the best place to find
a compatible great girl, especially if a guy
is not into drinking.

I don’t do clubs so I don’t have any “club gear”,
so for this party I figured I’d hit the mall and jazz
up the wardrobe a bit.

Without giving you a speech, I’ll just say that it
was a black, felt-like material for my shirt,
with a small blue embroidered design on the left
chest area, and one very thin, metallic-silvery stripe
that stretched down each sleeve. I saw it in the store
and knew this would rock.

By the way, this was the fourth store I went to,
the first three just didn’t have anything that
measured up!

Coupled it up with a pair of black jeans, an emblem
stylized buckled belt, and a pair of low cut black
boots. (All from separate stores!)

Now, at the store, trying them on, I honestly felt
that this was somehow morally wrong.

I know this sounds crazy, but I actually felt,
exactly like what the “hidden” guy describes
in your Warrior Within seminar. Remember
how you were both explaining how we as
humans begin to associate certain status with
certain ways of dressing, and that we actually
feel that we are not allowed to change groups,
to move up in status?

Well that’s how I felt, when I was trying
on these cool clothes. I felt like if I did
wear these, someone would come over
and say “Who do you think you are?
Don’t you realize you are not part of
the cool crowd? Go back where you
come from!”

The thing is, that I actually really loved
these new clothes! I just figured that I
wasn’t “cool” enough to wear them.
I have nothing in common with the
people who tend to usually wear the
‘cool’ clothing.

Mike, if it wasn’t for your coaching, I
would have never forced myself to
go along with all this.

So, there I am next, walking up to the
club, feeling like probably everyone
is saying “that guy is a faker, that guy
doesn’t belong with the cool people”.

This is also where your teachings on
“it’s okay to be freaked out” came in!

I just continued right on, feeling all
the anxieties and accepting it all, and
not trying to force myself to feel
all perfect before taking action- because
that perfect feeling will never come,
and thanks to you, I’m not waiting
around for it, I’m taking action now.

So there I am, inside the club, saying
happy birthday to the dude, hi to a few
friends, and then I noticed something.

*Girls were checking me out!*

This does not usually happen to me.
I’m not a bad looking guy, but I’m no model.

Could this Michael dude really have known
this was going to happen???

I felt very weird in the club, as I don’t drink,
and I don’t tend to fit the typical lifestyle of
the girls who tend to live the club life-you
know what I mean –the tanning, the drinking,
the smoking, the partying, the sleeping around,
etc.

But I remembered what you said, and that
the greatest form of ‘social proof’ begins
with the self- that I must claim my own
value and take every action forth that is
consistent with one who believes in their
value, even if I felt anxiety about it.

So I was at the bar, getting a juice,
when I hear this distinctly feminine
voice.

“I love your shirt!”

Was somebody talking to me?

I turn around and I see this physically perfect
little package of feminine gorgeousness has
stepped in beside me.

She was about 5”4 blond with brown
highlights and green eyes, wearing
a blue short dress, and what looked
like diamond studded heels.

Probably 24-25 years old.

Let me tell you what went through my mind:
*&^%! (I know you’ll have to censor that.)

This chick was hotter than anything I’ve
seen in months!

Here’s what I wanted to do, Michael:

I wanted to melt like butter and I
wanted to say nothing, just freaking
stand there and just take in all her
beauty and I would have been pretty
happy with that.

Seriously, it was that intense of an experience.

Pathetic? Maybe. True? Completely.

Still though, your words from the seminar echoed
in my mind:

“How nice is it really for me to be feeling this way?”

These feelings are all about me taking, I would
not be feeling this way if I felt I could give value.

And more importantly, I wasn’t thinking about
how to give.

And how just as I am enjoying her, she would probably
enjoy this interaction if I would live up to who I know
I can be.

So rather than melt, I instead became less selfish.

Rather than jumping for joy like a little boy,
I stayed pretty calm, partially because I
already knew that most of these girls would
have very little in common with me, and
are probably not what I’m looking for.

Rather than gushing at the compliment, I just
said “Thanks, and I know that’s not a line
you say to all the men”.

I’m not sure what came over me, with that
remark, as it was a cross between sarcasm
and the truth. I meant the thanks, but I
also figured to myself that yes the shirt
was cool, but that also this girl is so
beautiful that anything she says at first
is enough to bowl over most men,
and so I honestly was curious if she
was just drunk and playing around
or whether she really wanted to chat.

So there was a bit of sarcasm in my voice,
as if maybe indeed she did say that to all
the guys.

This turned out to be a great move, because
she immediately poked her finger into my
chest, smiling but a bit surprised, saying
“No, I don’t say that to all the guys!”

You know Michael, this got me thinking,
that it seems to me that maybe it’s a rare
thing for any man to challenge any beautiful
woman, because this woman really seemed
to react to my statement as if no man has
ever questioned her before.

And then I remembered that just a few
seconds before, I myself wanted to melt
like butter, and that’s with having your
training!

So I can see how most men, it’s sheer biology,
the reaction the power of having a beautiful
woman right in your face.

And that’s the thing, Michael, this woman
being right in my face now, I could drink
in the flowery scent of her perfume, I
could just see her in my mind completely
naked, and again, for a second, there was
that old guilt as if I was doing something
wrong.

But I pushed on, remembering your coaching
and remembering that these women WANT
me to see them otherwise they wouldn’t
‘dress to impress’ in a public place!

Then, I actually verbalized what was on my mind,
as I leaned into her and said something like:

“I have to tell you something- to be perfectly
honest with you, I’m not really into the club
scene! I’m here for a party!”

She responded with something like “It’s
interesting you say that, because I’m not
really a club girl!”

Now, this got a bit of a rise out of me,
because I was being honest, and just
wanted her to know that I’m not looking
for the old “shag for the night” thing,
but then it clicked that all I ended up
doing by this was actually “disqualifying”
her, by making her think that I thought
that she must be a club girl, and that
because I am not a club guy, she is
not right for me.

So this just raised the level of the challenge,
right Michael?

Now she was more into me, and trying to
tell me how she doesn’t take most guys
who she meets at clubs seriously, which
is why she rarely goes to clubs, but that
her friend from out of town came in and
there was nothing else to do that night.

I’m thinking to myself, that at this point,
just having a great conversation with
a gorgeous creature like this, is already
way better than sitting at home watching
tv!

And because I was already feeling like I
was “ahead” because of that, now my mood
really was picking up, because I was enjoying
myself and the enjoying the social stimulation
with this woman.

So then I playfully took her hands, and pulled
her into me, close. I said to her “You know,
if you’re trying to get my attention with all
this high class talk, it might be working.”

She goes, “Might?????”

So I told her “Well, I need to know what
you’re like!”

So then she pulls the final card up her sleeve,
Er, skirt, er, panties, er, you know what I mean:

She turns around, her back to me, and
then turns her face toward me and gives
this sultry look, as if she is about to get
all erotic.

Man, if it was not for your teachings,
I would have screwed this up so bad.

I would have totally gone for this, thinking
this is my open door.

But I knew what was really going on,
I knew that if I went for this, that if
she was the kind of woman that I
really do want, she would get turned
off immediately.

Thanks to you, I realized that this was
actually a built-in habit that a lot of
attractive women exhibit when they
sense that a man is not under their
control, especially a man that they
actually want.

So I just motioned “no” with my head,
and gave her the “come hither gesture”
that she should come over to me.

In a playful, but genuine voice, I told her:
“I’m sure that works with every other guy,
but no, with me, I really do want to know
what you’re like. I want to know what
will happen after the bed stuff.”

We ended up chatting for a good half-hour!
This letter would take too much time for
me to explain all the ways I connected to
her and vice versa, using your materials,
but I can tell you that the more she spoke,
the more I learned about her, and the more
I could connect to her and speak to her
about the things that matter to us.

I learned a ton about her, and indeed this
woman seems like she’s got a lot of
important traits that I am looking for
in a woman, besides the superficial.

And then, I took her to a sofa to sit down,
and held her hands as I looked deep in
her eyes, just like a good soap opera,
but I already knew it was on between us,
and we did some serious good old
fashioned kissing and making out.

I ended up leaving the club with her and
her friend, and we already have plans
to meet up Tuesday after her friend
leaves to go back to her hometown.

What was pretty cool before we
parted, was that her friend
came up to me and told me that
I better call her friend, and
that I better not take her
friend for granted.

I thought this was cute, because
it was as if they thought that
I must be some guy who has lots
of women around and might forget
her!

But what clicked in my head when this
happened, is the realization that it's
this behavior and these ways of being
that create the massive abundance
of choices with women.

I realize that if I keep this up,
this is exactly what my situation
will be, and in fact I will have to
remind myself not to forget to call
up women.

None of this could have happened if
it wasn’t for your teachings. Had I
pushed for the sexual too fast, I would
have seemed like every other guy.
Had I worn boring clothing, I would
have not stood out and would have
not have made the same powerful
first impression. Had I tried to pretend
that I was a “club guy” she would
have ultimately found out I was
being dishonest, which would have
shown that I was insecure.

Instead, my behavior built attraction,
built intrigue, it built trust since I
clearly was not interested in forcing
anything to happen (ironically, this
ended up making it all happen), and it
allowed her to feel free to be herself since
I made sure to “lead the way” in this regard,
as you explain that we must do in order
for women to feel comfortable doing the
same.

I know this is a long letter, but I wanted
to write to you because I myself can
hardly believe that all this almost never
happened and could have been just
another night watching TV.

Also, I think it’s important that your
readers understand that when you say
that your material is for getting a
great girlfriend, I actually think it
would work on any woman!

After this experience, I feel like
meeting even more women, everywhere now,
cafes, bookstores, and even going back to
the club (I know, I know, I should
be happy with what I already got! But
your program is like a new toy and I
want to try it out in many new situations!)
because I can already see how I would
apply it on any woman!

I think the important distinction with your
material is that it goes farther than is
required for women who are only looking for
a ‘one night stand’ or ‘friends with benefits'
thing.

In other words, it will work on all women,
but for men who are just looking for the
ONS or FWB, then they should still use
your materials, but they should tone
everything DOWN, since these women
are not looking for such a strong
connection.

Thanks again...

Jack T., Texas

***MY COMMENTS***

Well, first of all congratulations on doing
so many things BANG ON perfect, and ALSO
thanks for sharing what you learned and
how you applied it.

It’s always fascinating to me, how on the
highest level of skill, what is really
happening is the most noble level of
communication.

For example, you really WERE trying to see
if this woman met your standards or not, and
this ended up triggering the challenge for her
and raising her attraction.

You also rewarded her at the perfect moment,
after she had earned it by trying to convince
you. You also made sure to use physical
contact, but in a non-creepy way, and holding
hands in a club is extremely innocent yet
still has sexual undertones.

I also LOVED how you remembered the
“final card” that is played by so many
women who are attractive, which is the
sexual innuendo/hint, etc, but is really
something that they expect to use to
DOMINATE THE interaction over the
man, or to throw him for a loop.

They don’t even do this to be bad.
It’s just a good feeling for a woman to
know she HAS the guy, (it's a good
feeling for a MOMENT for her, until
it sinks in a second later that
this guy should not have fallen
for pure lust -- at which point,
she is DISAPPOINTED that he DID
fall for it) and usually this
last card will do the trick for
these women.

Of course, when women see that every
guys falls for this, it’s not a cool
thing for the guy.

And again, this ultimately is NOT a game
when you don’t fall for it. Why SHOULD
a man suddenly now think that this woman
is now perfect, just because she flashed
a pseudo-promise of sexual goodies to come?

Pardon the unintentional pun, of course.

Also, there's nothing wrong with wanting
to meet a lot of women with your new
skills and 'powers'! You can use your
skills to meet and screen women for the
best ones, and if you like, choose the
best of the best from those women you
attracted, to be your girlfriend.

All in all GREAT stuff!

And if you’re reading this now, I want
you to understand that all this success
starts with a SINGLE step, and that
step leads to MORE momentum,
and MORE steps, each step helping
you gain more and more momentum
and skill to you start to improve at
EXPONENTIAL SPEED.

What’s the first step?
Write down RIGHT NOW, all your fears
about approaching women, going out alone
toa party or club or bookstore or café
or anywhere else, to meet women.

For every fear you have about approaching
women, I want you to write down the
WORST CASE SCENARIO.

It might make you SHUDDER.
It might make you NAUSEOUS.

But, DO NOT try to butter up the image
and do not try to make it all feel good.

Of course, if it DOES feel good, that’s great.
If thinking about approaching women feels
great, then by all means, feel great.

But if it felt so awesome, you probably
would be doing it, right?

So I’m saying that the yucky feeling is OKAY.

In fact, if you spend enough time with
the actual FEAR, instead of RUNNING
from that fear, you will actually get
a HOLD over it- instead of IT holding
YOU.

Now, write down ALL your excuses for
not approaching.

In fact, next time you see a woman you
want to approach, and you DON’T do it,
write down WHY you didn’t do it.

Not just the IMMEDIATE why of
“I felt freaked by it”, but the WHY you
felt freaked, what was the BIGGEST
concern underneath it all?

And then, for all the situations that you don’t
approach women, I want you to write a
MORE POWERFUL ANSWER for why
you MUST approach.

You must be PREPARED PSYCHOLOGICALLY
in ADVANCE of the moment, or it will be
TOO LATE if you start only getting into state
once you see a woman you want to approach.

You need to be prepared to approach women
EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT FEELING SO
AWESOME ABOUT IT.

In fact, even if you feel FREAKED OUT,
go approach anyway.

Once you see a woman you want to approach,
you must be already PREPARED to QUASH
the excuses.

So have those “excuse-destroyers” ALREADY
FIGURED OUT, long in advance.

What you are reading is just the BEGINNING
of the success with women you can be having
RIGHT NOW! To get the FULL PICTURE
on how to attract the women of your CHOICE,
I suggest you get my ‘Warrior Within’ program
immediately.

This program will destroy your excuses, and
give you the FASTEST AND MOST POWERFUL
SOLUTIONS for meeting, attracting, and keeping
the women you WANT.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book,
‘Get A Great Girl’, do that now. This book
will give you a great foundation for meeting
and attracting quality women, and is the place
to start.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Charisma Is MADE, Not Born

Although there are many ways to meet women,
including building up your social circle, or
through going online, my personal favorite is
the good ol' fashioned PRIMAL style:

SEE WOMAN, APPROACH WITH SKILL, GET WOMAN.

Does it always work?
Of course not, that's why MOST GUYS never DO it.

It's also why the guys who not only DO it,
but do it WELL, tend to get pretty awesome
results, ESPECIALLY if they do it a LOT.

To be blunt, it makes a pretty big statement
to a woman when you show her through this
kind of ACTION that you are DIFFERENT
from most men.

And hey, I'm NOT knocking the other ways
of meeting women, and in fact I've DONE
those ways as well, and they're totally
cool and fine!

But the thing is, the skills you get from
having to master REAL LIFE APPROACHES
end up making ALL THE OTHER WAYS seem
like CHILD'S PLAY.

But the reverse is not true.
Being confident while behind a screen
on the internet does not mean you will
be feeling as confident actually making
a real life approach to a woman who is
a total stranger.

Being witty when in the company of your
FRIENDS who happen to have invited a couple
women they know to a party is not the same
as being able to be witty and empowered and
on the ball when you suddenly must do it
on CUE when you see a woman on the train
in middle of a bunch of total strangers.

See what I mean?

And if a guy DOES meet a great woman using ANY method,
well then that is AWESOME SUCCESS, because as long as
you get what you want it IS success.

I'm just saying that I PERSONALLY find the
idea of making approaches to women to be
quite the DRAMATIC experience, and also
I have seen how the skills involved in
making a successful approach in real life
HELP you in meeting and attracting women
in every OTHER method such as online or
through your social circle, etc.

Some people like video games, some people
like to play poker. I think approaching
women is awesome.

And, it's not only the END result that
I like, it's the RUSH, it somehow feels
like one of the few POSITIVE things that
we can still do as men and women that harkens
back to the GOOD ELEMENT of our ANCIENT
SELVES.

There's something very INSTINCTIVE in
humans that AWAKENS when you take this
step.

When you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are entering into the
'FORBIDDEN ZONE' in a cool way, that
society STILL seems unable to "modernize"
and I LOVE THIS, it's one of the only
ways to get in touch with who we are
as humans in the most EVOLUTIONARY
yet POSITIVE sense.

No twitter, no tv, no computer,
no technology to cover up or
to diminish the RAW EXPERIENCE.

This is about MAN and WOMAN coming TOGETHER.

It's what we were all BORN to do!!!!

And the fact that most people DON'T do this,
is what makes it even cooler, not just for YOU,
but for the WOMAN as well.

You're giving the woman that rare chance
for HER to experience this adventure that
brings out her most instinctive drive.

Now, doing it right involves a few skills,
it doesn't have to take forever, but it
does take a few skills, and the truth is
in a few weeks most men could get the
basics and do TEN TIMES BETTER with
women than they could before- IF they
actually kept up the practice.

But most guys don't get to the point of
developing the SKILL because they don't
even APPROACH in the first place.

Which brings me to Albert Ellis:

"Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the
"shame-attacking exercise" in 1933 at age 19, when
he decided to approach every woman who sat down
alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden.

"Thirty walked away immediately," he told the
New York Times. "I talked with the other 100, for
the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was.
Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops."

And Ellis learned he wouldn't die from rejection.
Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only
one date, he said, but "with the second 100, I got
good and made a few dates"--and, eventually, got
to be "one of the best picker-uppers of women in
the United States."
- Psychology Today Magazine, by Erika Casriel

Now, this is a guy who had ZERO information on
pick-up, and strictly worked on GUTS alone.

When I started out, I had no one to really
learn from, so I had to do the same thing,
learning it all the HARD way. If I could go
back in time, I could help his results MASSIVELY
by letting him know GUARANTEED ways to get
into the conversation without getting shut down
so that he buys himself the required two or three
minutes to actually SPARK attraction.

I would teach him various ways to disarm her
and charm her that would at least give him a
fighting chance, ways to take her automatic
responses she gives all guys to shut them
down and slip right by those statements.

For example, if she says that she is in a rush,
then the best thing to say is to actually NOT
ask her for a favour for a second, but to actually
let her know that you're in a rush as well, (so that
she can relax and not feel this is going to take
forever). If she says anything that is defensive,
the best way to diffuse it is to use warm
humor (i.e. if she says that she doesn't talk to
guys because guys are jerks, you should say
something like "I agree! That's why I'm talking
to you and not them" with a smile.) because you
need to change her emotional state not even
TRY to engage her actual argument or her
logic.

If she's smiling, she's no longer going to WANT
to shut you down.

The fact of the matter is that there are MANY
factors involved in a successful pick-up, and
KNOWING these in advance will HELP you
get more consistent results.

And one factor IS getting over your anxiety, yet at the
same time, it's important to realize that a BIT of anxiety
and fear is actually a GOOD thing!

It can work in your favor. Ask any martial artist
or any performer of anything and they will tell
you that fear, when controlled, can actually
ENHANCE your performance. It can help
you stay alert and be on the ball. For example,
if you are interacting with a woman and
you start showing off without realizing it
and she starts to roll her eyes, it's GOOD
that you feel a bit of discomfort at this, as
it MOTIVATES YOU to STEER THIS
PICK-UP PROPERLY and change gears
to showing that you are not full of yourself,
for example, by making a joke that is
SELF-DEPRECATING.

i.e. You're accidentally showing off about your
prestigious education and you then see her roll
her eyes, so you then say something like
"And of course, I then got my PhD in useless facts,
as we all know we learned more about real life
outside school."

This actually shows that you are far cooler and also
far more understanding and that you have more
empathy as well, all in one swift move.

Again, normally you wouldn't have to engage in
self-deprecating behavior, but in such as situation
it would be the right thing to do and would actually
make you seem cooler.

Now, if you have suffered major abuse yourself (and
I know what that is like, so I am absolutely NOT
makng light of this) then the anxiety of a social
interaction may be overwhelming, in which case you
should first work on building UP your desensitivity
to your fears so that you can take the anxiety of
a social interaction.

If we never felt ANY discomfort in a social interaction,
then we'd think we were PERFECT and never adjust
our behavior to help make the other person feel the
good vibes, and our social life would then SUCK.

Also, don't try to be PERFECT.
Don't try to build Rome in one day, or you will
feel that much FARTHER from progress and
you will feel even MORE anxiety.

Instead, keep taking STEPS, gradually
taking bigger and bigger steps, and
taking on more and more 'daring'
approaches with women.

I put 'daring' in quotes because you
will eventually see that this is FUN.

But just take it STEP by STEP for now.

When you are first learning these skills, you should
each day push your envelope a little farther. Start by
chatting up the clerks at stores, then work to starting
conversations anywhere with anyone, then work to
short conversations with women you're interested
in, then longer conversations, then to first dates,
then to getting physical, etc, etc.

THE KEY IS MOMENTUM.
DON'T STOP THE DAY TO DAY PROGRESS.

And if you don't believe me that great CHARISMA
is MADE and not BORN, let me give you some
examples from that same article:

"Conan O'Brien has said he knew that performing
live comedy was what he had to do because there
was nothing in the world that terrified him more.
But when he first debuted as host of NBC's Late Night
in 1993, ratings were abysmal and reviews were even
worse. Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales wrote
that O'Brien was "a living collage of annoying nervous
habits" and implored him to "get the heck off TV."
But he stuck it out, and years later, the critics ate
their words. Shales himself wrote that O'Brien became
"one of the greatest examples of a self-makeover in
television history"

Cool, isn't it.
By the way, Conan is happily married,
(a pretty cool feat in today's society) but
if he wasn't, I assure you, his confidence,
his humor, his wit, his rapport skills,
his social intelligence, would KICK ASS!

Here's some more:

"Comedic superstar Will Ferrell, who once
considered himself painfully shy, forced
himself to do crazy things in public. "In
college, I would push an overhead projector
across campus with my pants just low enough
to show my butt," Ferrell told People. "Then
my friend would incite the crowd to be like,
'Look at that idiot!' That's how I got over
being shy."

When I first started practicing, one of the
places I forced myself to go to were nightclubs.
I HATED it at first, and couldn't understand
how ANYONE could meet anyone in a place where
the music was so loud that you could barely
HEAR a word a woman said to you, plus it
was so dark, you could barely SEE anyone.

But, all these things are just ILLUSIONS,
they are NOT barriers at all, and learning
this helped me realize that ALL the "social
taboo of making approaches" was ALSO an
illusion.

Once I started teaching, some people even thought
that I must have ALWAYS been this "nightclub" guy.
That was a real compliment, because nothing could
be further from the truth.

At one time, the idea of going to MARS seemed more
comfortable than going to a club.

Now, I STILL don't think that nightclubs are the
best place for meeting a long term girlfriend,
HOWEVER, it was still useful to see how the
ILLUSIONS of "challenges" of meeting women
in a nightclub were a total JOKE.

Please believe me, that most women DO enjoy
being approached, even if they DON'T show it.

The thing is, it really helps a lot if you
do it RIGHT.

This stuff CAN be learned and MASTERED to the
point that it becomes effortless and natural.

Again, getting back to the NIGHTCLUBS lesson for me:
Not only was I not interested in that type of environment,
but I had no clue how the heck you can have a conversation
with all that noise and all those distractions and how
you can go from that to having not only a conversation
but to getting a real interaction and taking it to
a physical level all very fast. There was a time
you couldn't pay me a million dollars to be in
that environment.

So, if I could get over that, I knew that normal
environments would feel VERY comfortable me.

That motivated me to get good at this stuff,
and the reality is that it does NOT take that long,
but it DOES take MASSIVE DESIRE to succeed.

So DON'T THINK FOR A SECOND that "picking up women"
is beyond your ability, or beyond your personality.

Don't think that your anxiety is a BLOCK, because
even THAT can be controlled.

YOU can be the guy that OTHERS will say, "He's
a NATURAL at this" because from their perspective,
you will have improved THAT MUCH that others will
think this must have ALWAYS been something you
were great at.

And if YOU want to learn the DEEPEST levels of how
to be successful at 'pick-up' and how to attract the kind
of woman you are really interested in, then I suggest
you take advantage of my programs.

Years ago, I was training guys to not rely
routines, even as a bestselling author had
written a book that swore by the value of
memorized routines for picking up a woman.

This same author now agrees with what I said
YEARS ago that routines are actually not
necessary and that is very possible and in
fact PREFERABLE to not rely on them.

I've never resorted to manipulation or
abuse of women and I have always been
repelled by that idea, as well as repelled
by the idea of guys selling their self-esteem
just to get any "action" from a woman, because
they refused to learn how to actually spark
ATTRACTION.

I don't think I'm God, and I don't think I
have ALL the answers. However, I DO believe
that we must understand the deepest levels of
psychology and apply it to creating HARMONY
between men and women for a better world for
all of us. And we must learn from REAL
practice, as knowledge and theory without
practice is not enough.

This is about so much more than "getting action"
- it's about creating attraction on all levels
in the most powerful and meaningful way possible,
for the most lasting results with the kind of
woman you truly want in your life.

Somewhere, right this very moment, the
woman of your dreams is out there,
WISHING that you knew all this stuff
so that you could take effective action
and MEET her and enjoy life together!

So I suggest you take advantage of my
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

"Tiramisu" Secrets To Pick-Up Women

I have a secret to picking up women
successfully, and it's called TIRAMISU.

Yeah, I know what you're thinking-
"Tiramisu? Isn't that a delicious PASTRY???"

You'll see what I mean as we go along.

Today I want to give you a whole new PARADIGM
on the whole topic of PICKING UP WOMEN!

You see, the term 'pick-up' isn't my favorite
term because it has been so misused and warped,
and it also reduces the experience to something
as trivial as picking up a bar of soap.

I instead prefer to think of the term 'pick-up'
in a very DIFFERENT way:

Pick UP, or rather RAISE UP, ELEVATE the
EMOTIONS, the VIBE!

Turn the interaction into a mutual 'pick me up',
kind of like a great TIRAMISU!



In fact, that's what TIRAMISU means- 'pick me up'!
It's recipe is designed to make you FEEL elevated.

A lot of guys think that nice guys finish last.

The problem is that YES, if a guy is "nice" from a
place of NEEDINESS, he will finish last.

This is because at the end of the day, if the
'nice' behaviors are coming from NEEDINESS,
they really aren't nice at all, they're
actually DRAINING, they are "DRAG ME DOWN",
not a "PICK ME UP".

And "Drag Me Down" isn't NICE!
It's MEAN in fact!

Yes, women can ABSOLUTELY tell the difference
IMMEDIATELY in whether your "nice" behavior
to her is from NEEDINESS or from your sense
of ABUNDANCE!

The needy kind of niceness makes a woman
feel PRESSURE, makes a woman feel that
there is something probably "wrong" with
this "deal" of niceness, etc.

Now of course, this doesn't mean to be
a jerk, either.

Instead, I want you to go TIRAMISU on women!
Be a REAL 'pick me UP'!

Make the experience of the interaction
with you even more of a "pick me up"
than this delicious commodity!



Behave with her as if you already have
EVERYTHING you could DREAM of and you
simply ENJOY sharing that FEELING of
abundance with her, you don't want
to HOARD that feeling, you want to
GIVE IT!

What's really wacky is that a lot of the
PICK UP ARTIST games involve ways of
SUBTLY putting a woman DOWN, to LOWER
her self-esteem!

THIS IS THE OPPOSITE of what you want to do,
and this "putting her down" is the reason
that pick up artist style interactions
do NOT lead to getting fantastic interactions
with women that result in real girlfriends!

A lot of the pick up artist style behavior
is more like picking **ON** women, not picking
UP women!

YUCK!
It's just another form of BULLYING.
And hey, I get it, I was hurt by the
wrong women too.

But this bully stuff is just a waste of
energy, instead it's SOOO much better to
move on from the wrong woman and just get
SUCCESS with other women!

Women of course DO want to be treated well,
but it has to be by someone who is a STRONG man.
I don't mean with huge muscles, although working
out is always nice, I mean that he is STRONG in
the sense of not NEEDING her, BUT WHO STILL
ENJOYS HIMSELF AND ENJOYS HER COMPANY AND
IS PASSIONATE ABOUT LOTS OF THINGS!

He has built a SECURE identity, has a secure
sense of humor, and he can LEAD the show
in the interaction with a woman.

And since so many guys are NOT this way, the
JERKS often win by DEFAULT simply because
jerks have no apology, they lead the show, go
for what they want, and don't seem needy at all,
and have a life of their own. Yet none of these
things are jerky--it's only the ABUSE that's
wrong, it's not the JERKY stuff they do that's
attractive, it's the MANLY stuff they do that's
attractive, and you can do that AND be a good
guy and do better with women than any jerk.

So let's say you are taking a walk and reach
a stoplight and the light is red and there is
a woman you'd like to talk to standing there
near you. The longer you WAIT to say something
the WEAKER you seem because it becomes
obvious after 30 seconds of silence that you
were THINKING of the perfect opener, and
that means you were making a BIG DEAL
about the fact she is there. Why is she
such a big deal relative to who YOU ARE?

Making a big deal about a woman might SEEM
to be nice, but it's not, what it really is doing
is making YOU seem to be LESS than her,
so what is so nice about telling a woman she
should be with a guy who is LESS worthy
than SHE is???

Wouldn't it be NICER to be the guy who is
JUST as desirable if not MORE, who is
STILL interested in her? Wouldn't that make
her feel BETTER, THAT SHE IS GETTING
SOMETHING out of this too?

So, by starting the conversation RIGHT AWAY,
you are showing MORE VALUE about yourself,
more confidence in yourself, and this makes HER
feel better, as everyone wants MORE value in their
life, not less. You don't want a woman to be
NICE to you, you want her to WANT you.

You don't want her to have SYMPATHY, you
want her to feel ATTRACTION. So by relying
on being "nice" and submissive and coming across
as unworthy, you are relying on her SYMPATHY.
When you are coming across as VALUABLE,
you are triggering ATTRACTION.

So let's go through some common ways of
showing MORE value:

THE WAY TO BE PLAYFUL

So let's go back to the example of the woman
at the traffic light standing beside you.

You already know that you have to say something
right away, right?

And you know that kissing up is not cool either.

And you know that showing an awesome state
of mind is very cool.

So whatever the situation is, there is a way to
respond that is very cool.

Let's say it's raining LIGHTLY, and you have
an umbrella and she doesn't. You could in a
PLAYFUL way say to her "poor you, I feel so
bad for you, but not THAT bad to give you my
umbrella!".

THE RIGHT INTENT IN YOUR VOICE

If this is said with the right INTENT in your
voice, she will LAUGH because it's funny,
but she will also see that you are a cool guy
that is not NEEDING her so badly like
every OTHER guy. This is a sign of
STRENGTH, it's simply ATTRACTIVE.

This doesn't mean that later on when dating
her that you should not show her that you like
her- that's where a lot of guys make mistakes,
they don't realize that getting to know a
woman and the way you interact with her
is an evolving thing, it's not always the
same thing. And rewarding good behavior
is not the same as kissing up.

Let's say it's not raining, but you are both
waiting for the light. You can tease her
that she is JINXING the light to stay red
and not turn and that it must be her fault
because you are always at that light
and it never takes this long.

CONTINUE THE CONVERSATION
BY USING HER OWN RESPONSE
AS YOUR FUEL FOR YOUR RESPONSE!

And no matter what she says back to you,
you USE what she says as FUEL for
responding BACK to her, like a ping-pong
game. So if she says "How could I be
jinxing the light?? Why would I do that?"

You can then playfully respond with:
"Oh of course, the cover-up, you're an
EXPERT at this, with an alibi and totally
looking innocent and everything!"

INCORPORATE PLAYFUL ROLE PLAYING

She might then say something like
"haha" and then you use THAT by
saying "Don't think that laughing will
get you off the hook! You're like
a super villain here, using your
psychic powers or whatever to
control the traffic lights!"

SHIFT INTO A "REAL" CONVERSATION

Another thing is that you have to know when
to SHIFT GEARS. Too often, if a guy GETS
to the point that the girl is laughing and having
a good time, he doesn't want to STOP doing
the playful stuff, but it's important to MOVE
the interaction AHEAD into the zone of
actually having a conversation where you
both share real opinions, perspectives, etc.

Otherwise, she will feel she never got to know
you at all, and that you are ONLY playful,
and perhaps don't have a "deeper" side to you.

So, again using this example, as the light changes,
and you are both crossing the street, you can
shift gears into more rapport and you can
playfully transition by asking her if she
works in the area and makes a ton of money
so she can take you out to fancy places, etc.

She can then tell you a bit about what she does,
whether she is in school and what she's studying,
or whether she works and what she does or
wants to do in the future as her job.

And this is where you must be 'picking up'
ON what she is saying!

Next time you think of the word pick up,
think of picking UP the vibes and mood,
and think of picking up ON what she is
saying- all this will lead to a successful
PICK UP!

If you are listening well, you can then tell what
she is passionate about, i.e. teaching children,
and if you share any of her passions, or anything
related, i.e. let's say you work with children,
or let's say you respect great teachers,
you can then have a meaningful conversation,
plus you can chat about your passions, etc.

DON'T SHOW OFF

So many guys though make the mistake of talking
about themselves in a way that shows they are
VERY insecure. For example, as soon as the
woman asks what the guy does, the guy goes
on a whole serious long answer about his
job in a way where he thinks he is being
subtle about how cool or rich or prestigious
or smart he is, and it's obvious what he's
doing, and it looks insecure.

Instead, it's better to talk about the REASONS
you love what you do. And if you don't
love what you do, then focus your convo
on something else. Also, it's always a
fun and playful and cool thing to first
answer the question to what do you do
with something outrageous, simply
because it shows you are not a slave
to that question and that you don't
take yourself so seriously.

So your first answer to what you do could be
something like "I jump out of cakes
at birthday parties" or "you work at
Disneyland as the big bad wolf" etc.

Once you are having a real conversation
and you are in rapport with her, from THERE,
you can take her number or email or sometimes
even go straight for the INSTANT date right then
and there if there is a coffee shop, just tell her
this is a good convo and that you should
both continue it over a coffee! It's all up
to YOU, it's YOUR JOB as the MAN
and she EXPECTS you to do your job,
and the worst is that she declines, perhaps
because she is really busy and late for
work, and in that case you can still take her
number or email and contact her later.

THE RIGHT INTENT

The key is for you to be having the right
INTENT, and that is that you are not being
a jerk, you are simply being a MAN who
is in FULL control of his emotions around
a woman who is attractive and you are not
about to hand over your dignity and life and
emotional stability over to a woman just
because she is there.

FOCUS ON THE MOMENT RATHER
THAN THE OUTCOME

Rather, you ENJOY the fact she is there, and
you ENJOY the moment with her, but you are
not WORRYING about her response-
that's NOT up to you, and you have
learned not to fear WOMEN'S reactions.

You must not be outcome dependent- rather
you must focus on how to enjoy that MOMENT.

It's not about showing her "who's boss" and
it's not about kissing up to her, it's about
you CONVEYING to her that you are in
a great state. And since most guys are in
a terrible state since she is so beautiful
that it makes them uncomfortable, it's
PARTICULARLY cool if you show
her that not only are you in a great state,
but also that you aren't NEEDY for her,
and yet you still may LIKE her all at
the same time.

CONTROLLING THE FRAME

Sometimes a woman will try to SHUT DOWN
your pick-up. This doesn't mean she hates you
or is mean or anything. Some women simply
feel it's their job to be a "good girl" by trying
to make it hard for you to get with her.

Embrace this fact, don't get pissed off about it,
but don't ACCEPT her frame either.

So on one hand, don't get pissed since
getting pissed off about it is EXACTLY
the reaction she has been told is the kind
of guy that just wants to take advantage of her.
So she will feel that you are fitting the stereotype
of a jerk, and feel that she did the right thing.

She expects you to UNDERSTAND that she
needs to act hard to get to be considered a
good girl, good woman, etc.

But at the same time, you can't accept what she
says either or you won't get anywhere, so if she
says something to you during the chat like "I'm really
busy with work, school, etc, I don't have time
to meet guys" don't say "ok".

Instead, PLAYFULLY REFRAME her statement
as a reason for why she SHOULD be chatting with
you.

Tell her "Well then since you're so busy, clearly
you need a HEALTHY BREAK to be even
MORE productive. And what can be better than
chatting to a super cool guy like myself?"

Not only are you controlling the frame of the situation,
but you are also getting her laughing by this, changing
her internal state to make her even more receptive
to you.

If she says "My friends would kill me if they
found out I gave number to a guy on the
bus/streetcar/intersection (or whatever else)!"
You can then say "Well, then, all the more
reason to do it! You get to be the NAUGHTY
one who does whatever she wants, and it will
be our seeeecret shhhhhhhhhhhhhh!"

This is TIRAMISU PICK UP!

And so by starting the conversation RIGHT
AWAY, by looking for the playful angle,
by not kissing up, by not being outcome
dependent, and following all the OTHER
tips above, you are massively increasing
the odds that you are going to GET the
girl.

If you notice, NOTHING mentioned above
has ANYTHING to do with being A JERK.

It has to do with CONVEYING WHO
YOU ARE, and what you are conveying
with these tips is that you are secure,
you are strong, you are fun to be with,
you are witty, you are not needy, and
that you are masculine.

NONE of these things are jerky or "fake".

However, we don't always FEEL all those
cool things, and we don't always know the
best way to CONVEY those things about
ourselves.

But what if there was a way to understand ourselves,
to understand the STRUCTURE of all emotions,
and to understand WOMEN and the PHASES
of the pick-up, so that you could CONSISTENTLY
be READY to take advantage of all the opportunities
to meet women all around you?

What if there was also a way to know what to do
BEYOND the pick-up, to KEEP a woman attracted?

Well now there is a way, and you can get the most
advanced level in my WARRIOR WITHIN program, that
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the world.

This program is the most ADVANCED program on
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pick up women, but picks women UP in the
GREATER sense of the word as well, tiramisu
style, so that they want to KEEP ON being
with you.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks