Approaching Women: The Mature Man's Way

TONS of crucial insights on attracting and approaching
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As you know, I’m not interested in gimmicks or
juvenile ‘pick up lines’ as a method for attracting
the women of your choices. That stuff doesn’t
interest me, and I have a feeling it doesn’t for
you either. I get the feeling we’re a more mature
crowd.

Well, on that note, today, there is a lot of really practical
and important information on successfully approaching
and attracting women that I want to share with you.

Keep in mind, that everything I share with you is not
something I made up, but rather is what I have found
to be true again and again and again “in the field” on
real women in just about every place you can imagine,
and that is proven repeatedly in my Real World
Bootcamps on a weekly basis.

1. TO SMILE OR NOT TO SMILE?

When I first started out, I used to wonder why the
hell whenever I would smile in making my approach
to women, I would do much worse than when I didn’t.

This got me pissed off, and made me really NOT
feeling like smiling at women at all. This led to
me being more brute and cold in my approaches,
which ironically, IMPROVED everything, but
made me even more upset, because I started to
think women were nuts.

This was not a healthy foundation for a long–term
relationship with any woman, which is why my
relationships tended to explode pretty fast.

Well, fast forward several years, and I realized what
was going on:

In places that are not designed for “picking up”, i.e.
in places that are NOT clubs, bars, lounges, etc,
women don’t EXPECT to be approached by men.

Sure, it happens sometimes, but it’s usually not done
right.

See, there’s something really important to understand:

Many women actually FANTASIZE about meeting
a man who is their “destiny” through a total CHANCE
encounter. It’s as if it was all designed by fate and the
universe, etc, etc.

Think about how so many of the romance novels
for women revolve around a woman meeting a
man who is "the stranger".

Also, many women, even if they are not fantasizing
about meeting “the one” this way, still find the idea
of being approached by a total STRANGER who they
don't know at all, in a “normal” place like a bookstore,
bus, café, etc, to be very attractive and sexual.

HOWEVER, the WORST thing a man can do,
is to RUIN the “chance” element of all this in
a woman’s mind by making it seem like he
does this “pick up stuff” all day long, on
MANY women.

This TOTALLY ROBS the event of all the romance,
and all the unique “specialness” of it, since after all,
the guy does this on LOTS of women, and she was
just number 1,542.

So, if a guy, let’s say in a bookstore, is all smiley,
and all too perfectly polished, and acting as if this
is a CLUB, or a singles bar, etc, it REEKS of
FAKENESS, ARTIFICIALNESS, AND has zero
feeling of serendipity- a word that women love
that means “chance”. Hence, the chick-flick
“Serendipity”.

So THIS is why it’s important that when approaching
women in “normal” places- places that aren’t DESIGNED
for socializing and meeting other singles, such as bookstores,
coffee shops, etc, you really want to be as SPONTANEOUS
as possible, or at the very least, to COME ACROSS as
spontaneous.

2. USE THE ENVIRONMENT

This is one of the reasons I like to really work the
IMMEDIATE ENVIRONMENT into the approach,
because it tailors it for that SPECIFIC place and time,
making it far less likely to appear that you use the same
thing on every woman you meet.

For example, if the phone at the store is ringing,
you might joke with the woman “Hey, it’s for you”,
and you might even do this with a mock-serious
face, and even REPEAT it, as if you are serious,
saying “No really, serious, it’s for you!”.

THIS way, the interaction has started off in a very
REAL sense, a very IMMEDIATE sense, that you
are in the MOMENT with her.

She might say back, playfully but half-seriously
as well, "I hope not" (she hopes the phone is not
for her.)

And you might reply with, "Yeah, it's crazy,
you want to come to the bookstore to get
away from it all, and they keep hounding
you!!"

This SPONTANEOUS DYNAMIC does something
wonderful:

It REMOVES the “Oh-oh, another cheesy guy
who spends his whole day picking up women
or trying to pick them up.”

If a guy does it to all women, then how special
can SHE feel she is to the guy? Worse yet, if the
guy does it all day, she feels “Is he LACKING
the ability to get women somehow? What’s
WRONG with the guy? What do I have to
be CAREFUL about here?”

So THIS is the concern, it’s NOT that women
are somehow attracted to guys who are ice-cold
and somehow hate it when a guy smiles.

It’s the PARTICULAR LOGISTICS of the dynamics
of approaching women in ‘normal’ places that were
not originally designed especially for men and women
meeting each other!

THIS is why having the full SKILLS and INSIGHTS
on approaching women in different types of places is
ESSENTIAL.

It’s not enough to JUST have the guts to approach,
although that is a GREAT start.

In a club, bar, or lounge atmosphere, you CAN start with
a more jovial and socializing type of “vibe” to your
demeanor and mannerisms- because EVERYONE is
ALREADY in that state of mind, that is the whole
behavioral CONTEXT of the location.

The music, the dancing, the drinks, the weekend, the
good times, the party, etc., is all PART of the club,
bar, lounge ATMOSPHERE.

This is why, you could even USE an obvious pick-up
line in a club, and get away with it, as long as it’s
OBVIOUSLY SAID WITH PLAYFUL VIBES
and is just a start into more conversation.

But in regular places, I would prefer to comment
on something in the environment, or something she
is doing or wearing, or even start a conversation
by mentioning a true, intriguing story or article
that I had read to get her thoughts on it, and this
would be the springboard for a great conversation-
which I could still branch out from in many ways
if those branches seemed more meaningful.

3. USE THE PAUSE!

Another strategy to keep in mind, is that to prevent
yourself from “over-selling” yourself by talking too
much or too fast, you should REMEMBER to PAUSE.

Many times, when a guy is approaching a woman, he
will either say NOTHING, or he will keep on talking
TOO MUCH, including if the woman is responding
to him, he may get too excited and start trying so hard
that he keeps on talking and talking.

All this ends up coming across as if a guy is trying
too hard to QUALIFY himself. It comes across as
insecurity, which often leads to negative behaviors
like extreme arrogance, showing off, and not listening,
all of which are attraction destroyers.

So, by consciously reminding yourself to take PAUSES,
until it becomes instinct because you actually don’t FEEL
the need to oversell yourself, you prevent the problem.

You also allow HER to fill in the void, and allow HER
to speak, which also allows you to learn more about
her and makes you able to form a better connection
and have more MEANINGFUL things to say to her
that are RELEVANT to her, than simply talking
non-stop without listening to her.

This also makes you come across as more secure as well.

4. RE-ENGAGE IF REQUIRED

What I mean by this, is sometimes a woman
might not "IGNITE" the first second you
say something to her. She might have
had a bad day, she might have broken
up with her boyfriend, she might have
just been fired.

It could be a million things- so what
you have to do is ALLOW for all this,
and not EJECT so quickly.

Just because she didn't do cartwheels
the first second you started talking
to her does not mean it's over.

You may have to RE-ENGAGE her and
CONTINUE the conversation, with
something ELSE that is interesting,
relevant, playful, or captivating
in some other way.

Being a man means not running for the hills
just because she isn't offering you her
body and soul within two seconds of talking
to her.

5. NEW LIGHT ON THE QUESTION:
“DO JERKS REALLY ATTRACT WOMEN?”

This is a topic that has been spoken about a BILLION
times, so I’m not going to repeat what has already been
said on it – there is something very important and very
NEW that has not been said about this by anyone.

You must read the entire following section to truly
UNDERSTAND, so do NOT just read the next
paragraph, you must read the whole thing below
it as well, or you are going to start thinking some
terrible things about women – and I’m telling you
that with most women, those negative things are
NOT true.

INDEED, THE JERK ELEMENT DOES ATTRACT
WOMEN, BUT NO MORE SO THAN MEN ARE
ATTRACTED TO THE ‘BI**H’ ELEMENT OF
WOMEN.

Now, stick with me closely here, because the details
COUNT.

Women DO want to meet men who are kind, thoughtful,
good listeners, etc. These things are ESSENTIAL if
there is going to be any RELATIONSHIP that LASTS
in the future.

However, the SEXUAL component of the relationship
is a little DIFFERENT. There are TIMES when a woman
may very well be turned on by this “softer side” of one’s
personality.

BUT! And this is the big BUT! You must remember
that RAW ANIMALISTIC DESIRE is actually a very
SELFISH thing, in both men and women.

And, if a woman is with a man who is soooooo nice, that
he ONLY thinks of her and NOT of himself and HIS needs,
it can actually make her feel GUILTY for even THINKING
of going WILD into raw carnal sinful mode with him!!!!!!

She may feel GUILTY for wanting to be an ANIMAL
in bed!!!!!

Do you see where I’m coming from?
On the other hand, if a guy is a real JERK, she feels
NO GUILT at all about doing whatever animalistic
carnal raw behavior she WANTS to do in bed, because
she KNOWS the JERK doesn’t give a RAT’S ASS
what she thinks, and in fact the jerk will make sure
to get WHAT HE WANTS from her.

All this, ironically, helps her feel BETTER about
FREEING her inhibitions with the jerk, and about
being carnal with him. She has no GUILT about
it with him, since although she is in USING him
for sex, his jerkiness makes her feel NO GUILT
about it!

PLUS, since he himself is SO COMFORTABLE
being sexual, and TAKING, it makes her feel
more comfortable DOING THE SAME!

In this sense, the “jerk” is GIVING her MORE
than the “nice guy”- he is giving her FREEDOM
from her INHIBITIONS, he is giving her a
GUILT-FREE experience to go WILD in bed!

It’s the same way vice versa, if a woman
was TOTALLY SACRIFICING HERSELF FOR YOU,
in every way, and if she didn't care for
herself at all, you might start to feel
WEIRD about going all sexual on her, you
might even feel guilty.

THIS is why it’s so important to COMBINE the
best of BOTH WORLDS if you want to have
a woman not only LOVE AND RESPECT you
as a boyfriend, but also feel GREAT about going
WILD ANIMALISTIC CARNAL ANIMAL
with you!!!!

You do this by showing EXTREME comfort
in your own skin, extreme comfort being sexual,
and by showing that you are high self-esteem
and that you have NO SHAME in TAKING.

THIS IS GOOD FOR HER AND GOOD FOR YOU,
AND VICE-VERSA AS WELL, WHEN SHE DOES
THE SAME.

Now, at the SAME time, you ALSO show that
you ARE a good listener, that you DO care, etc.

Most guys fail to be able to COMBINE both these
elements to their VIBE, especially in the initial
approach and pick-up.

Balancing these elements is a SKILL.

And doing things RIGHT the FIRST time is
CRUCIAL, because the FIRST IMPRESSION
makes the deepest imprint on her mind and her
emotions.

A lot of this COMBINATION is shown through
SUBTLETY. It’s not that you start throwing
vulgar language around in your approach, but
rather that your tonality exudes sexuality and
confidence and still shows warmth as well.

BOTH elements are IMBUED into your conversation
and interaction, and this combination makes you that
RARE man that women go home and tell their friends
they met, and their friends get jealous about wishing
THEY could have as cool a guy approach THEM!

If you’re reading this right now, and would like
to MASTER the skills of approaching and
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them,
I suggest you take my REAL WORLD BOOTCAMP,
where I will train you in person, in the
real world, in real time, on tons of
real women.

I will take you step by step, and work
with you to get EVERY ASPECT of the
approach and attraction MASTERED- from
the actual first moment you walk-up to them,
to mastering your body language and tonality,
to calibrating your timing and your ability
to smoothly respond to anything she says
IMMEDIATELY, to breaking through your
internal obstacles, to ENSURING attraction
and a deep sense of connection in her, so
that she is eagerly waiting to see you
again and take things to a deeper level,
including the fulfillment of her erotic
fantasies with you.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

The results of this program are incredible:
It’s not uncommon even for guys who have had
virtually NO PRIOR EXPERIENCE to then get
fantastic new girlfriends within DAYS of
completing the bootcamp!

How am I able to get guys these results
with women? It’s because I have devoted
myself to this skill and to TEACHING this
skill to other men, for TEN YEARS.

My teaching style is geared for LONG-TERM
results, it is not limited to the “party
circuit” where certain women are already
drunk and ‘out looking for a good time.’

It’s the choice for men with MATURITY, who are
looking to actually LEARN a skill set with women
that will serve them well for LIFE.

When I think back to my own life, on how many
YEARS I suffered in loneliness and in a frame of
scarcity with women, when, had I known these
skills, I could have gone out and got myself a
great new girlfriend on ANY DAY I WANTED,
I almost can’t believe it.

I sometimes wish I had a time travel machine
to visit my previous self and teach him all
that I currently know!

And if you’re reading this right now, YOU can
take advantage of what I learned and get the
women you want NOW.

The FASTEST way to learn is BOOTCAMP,
because I can see exactly what you’re doing
and get you up to speed immediately by
CUSTOMIZING my program just for you.

The bootcamp is PRIVATE, EXCLUSIVE
AND 1-ON-1.

And it’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

Here’s a recent letter from a man who did
even more than find great girls to date!

LETTER:

Hi Michael. I was at your boot camp in 2008.
I wanted to give you an update. I met a very
attractive and QUALITY woman in May of 2010.
A woman whose overall qualities are well beyond
what I ever expected. We're getting married in
September.

I want to thank you for the information that you
provide with your books, CD's and the info on the
bootcamp. The info you provide has helped me to
be a good boyfriend and fiance and keep our
relationship fun and fresh.

Without the info you provide I can't say that things
would have been as fun and enjoyable as they have
been. Actually, with my old way of thinking and
inaccurate outlook on myself, women and dating
in general may very well have contributed to our
relationship's demise.

You're a classy guy who truly wants to help men
be quality men who meet quality women. Your
teaching goes well beyond what a 'pick up' artist
would teach.

I'd recommend your books, cd's and bootcamp to
any guy who is looking for real answers. What you
teach can save many guys a lifetime of misery and
failure in relationships.

And yes, just because we're getting married doesn't
mean that the principles you teach are to not be applied.
They're not even principles (principles sounds a bit like
manipulation). They're just bits and pieces of information
to help men unravel the things in themselves that isn't
them and help men to be who they really are.

Keep up the good work bro.

Tom Bryson, Austin, TX.”

MY REPLY:

Thank you for the kind words and for sharing that
letter! I think it really helps when men can see
that what they will learn from the Bootcamp and
the other programs is a lot more significant than
“pick up lines”.

And if you’re reading this right now, and if
you can’t make it to Bootcamp just yet, you can
STILL master these skills by taking advantage
of my home study programs, each one of which is
the result of REAL WORLD TESTING that proves it
WORKS on getting women attracted to you.

These programs also serve as a great PREPARATION
for Bootcamp as well.

They’re at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Approaching Women: Clubs Vs. "Daytime" Places

Today, I'm going to share with you a ton of  crucial
points on the differences between meeting women
in clubs and normal everyday places like bookstores
and coffee shops.

The most important distinction to understand is that
bars and clubs are DESIGNED for singles to MEET
each other.

This is really the whole POINT of these places.
It's not some kind of secret or conspiracy.

Women who go out to these places usually WANT
to meet men.

Factor in the alcohol, the music, the atmosphere,
and the fact it's the weekend, and you have a
FANTASTIC opportunity to meet women
VERY easily.

The women are HOPING that men will approach them,
if the men have their basic act together.

So, when you approach a woman, or a group of women,
at a bar or night club, it makes SENSE to go in with
a very fun attitude, with your vocal projection loud
to overpower the music, and it also makes sense
that you can establish a lot more physical contact
as well.

WHAT ABOUT THE ONE NIGHT STAND?

I'm not into the one night stand myself, for a
vast amount of reasons, including the fact
that there is no way to know if a woman is
free of STD's and STI's no matter WHAT
she says, and condoms aren't perfect.

On top of that, there are enough ways to
meet a lot of women, and get to know them
over time, so that you indeed have a huge
pool of women at your fingertips at any
time if this is what you really desire.

And on top of all that, I honestly don't
enjoy getting physical with a woman
if I don't also know she is a really
cool person as well.

I don't like rewarding beauty if it has no character.

But I know that this is still an area that a lot
of men are curious about, or want to know
about, so I'll just answer it right here,
as IGNORANCE is never bliss, and
KNOWING the reality actually makes
people less needy for it:

There is a CERTAIN percentage of women
at a nightclub or bar on any given night, that
indeed ARE looking for a one night stand.

The exact percentage depends on the place
and the time, but let's just give a very rough
estimate of 15%-30% of the women at the
bar or nightclub.

They aren't usually going to have a HUGE
SIGN on their shirt or face that SAYS they
are looking for a one night stand, or that
SAYS they want to go home with some guy
that night, but you can find out pretty fast how
receptive a woman IS to a one night stand or
to go home with you that night, by escalating
to the physical level of kissing and making out
relatively quickly in the pick-up.

And if she isn't up for that, you would be
wise to move on to the NEXT woman
who IS- IF you are into that sort of thing.

Now, even the women who ARE looking for
a one night stand, usually aren't going to just
JUMP into your car or cab the moment you
make it clear that you are up for it.

Not at all.

It's pretty normal even for the women who are
indeed up for a one night stand to basically
slow you down. She might stop the making
out, she might decline the suggestion to
go home with you right then and there-
but at the same time she will make it
clear that she is really into you and
she is not leaving your side.

And to ALL of this, if you just permanently
stop, you will not get anywhere.

Instead, you just chill out with her, then
attempt to escalate again with her a few
minutes later, and see if she is up for it
that time. 

And this process can repeat itself several
times till she is totally up for it and she is
smiling about it and nodding and gesturing
to get with you right then and there.

Also, this physical escalation may not happen
in the actual club.  It might happen when you
both leave the club for a bite to eat, at the
cafe/fallafel/pizza joint, for example.

It might happen as you are walking to your
place, which, if you want a one night stand,
better be close by the club or bar, as driving
for three hours in your car or in a cab makes
it a lot harder for a woman to stay in the state
of mind that is conducive to the one night
stand thing or the same-night sex thing.

The hard-core physical escalation might not
happen till you are both alone in your place
or her place.

But the main thing, if a guy wants to have
sex with a woman the same night he met
her at the club, he is going to have to
escalate and progress the interaction at
every opportunity, since there is no time
to just let the pickup stay in "one stage"
for too long, as there are only so many
hours till the night is over.

So you have to keep progressing the
interaction forward as much as possible
and not STALL out of fear of rejection
at ALL. 

And you have to sense if SHE is into it as well,
so that you are not wasting your time. And if
she IS, you may STILL have to be persistent.
And for the love of humanity, at the very least,
MAKE SURE TO USE A CONDOM and
use it PROPERLY.

So that's the women who want to get physical
and want to sleep with a guy on the same night
they met him at the club.

BUT THAT'S NOT ALL WOMEN IN THE CLUB!

So, from my perspective, the one night stand
thing is a lot of work, for very little reward,
and in fact you are opening yourself up to
a host of potential problems as well.

Plus, like I said, I don't like the idea of
rewarding a woman just because she is
beautiful.  I find it contributes to the
problem of certain women thinking
that they can get by just on their
looks alone.

Plus, you can get to know a lot of QUALITY
women over time, who are attractive and have
the character as well, so that if getting physical is
what you want, you will have plenty of options
at any given moment.  

So, that's where the other women come into context.

Some of the women in the club/bar/lounge/pub
really are there to meet men, but not to
neccessarily go home with them that night.

And in fact, if a guy keeps on trying to
escalate with a woman who clearly is
NOT into that, he rightfully deserves
to get his ass thrown out the door.

There's a lot of women, just like a lot of men,
who want to actually MEET the right person,
and since the regular ways of meeting haven't
worked out, they are trying the clubs avenue.

By and large, in clubs, you don't have to worry
about how to CALIBRATE your OPENING.

You can open up a conversation with almost
ANYTHING fun.

BUT HOW ABOUT MEETING IN "REGULAR" PLACES?

Meeting women in "normal" places like bookstores and
coffee shops and even on the city bus or city commuter
train, and right on the street, require MORES calibration
than a club.

So you might be asking, "Then why bother with
"normal" places?"

And the answer is that, unfortunately, usually in the
clubs, the most attractive women tend to be smokers,
drinkers, and wannabe actresses/singers/dancers.

Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be
an actress, singer, or dancer.  And a drink now
and then can be healthy.

HOWEVER, it's not a COINCIDENCE that
so often, the ATTRACTIVE girls decide they
want to become actresses, etc.

It seems to them to be the "easy way" to get
by and to get what they want in life.

"I'm hot, so therefore I will leverage THAT
and will not bother with hard work, developing
my mind, developing my character."

Now, obviously, there ARE some really hard
working actresses who are massively talented,
like Meryl Streep.  But I can assure you that
most of the wannabe actresses at clubs who
are smoking it up and drinking it up and dressing
to the nines aren't USUALLY going to be
"girlfriend" material.

Seriously, a lot of these women WILL sleep with
any guy who can get them ahead, and will cheat
on any guy at the slightest chance of hooking up
with some other guy who they think will get
them ahead.

I also left one other reason why some women
go to clubs: BECAUSE THEY ARE JUST
HORNY, JUST LIKE GUYS!

So, meeting these women, is very different from
meeting women who have potential to be an actual
girlfriend.

Now, this doesn't mean that all the women you
meet in the REGULAR places in life are going
to have great potential for being a girlfriend.

It just means that the fantastic women who ARE
great girlfriend potential have to get out and about
and do all the things that everyone has to do,
like getting groceries, going shopping, getting
a Starbucks, and enjoying the weather.

In addition, the attractive women who also have
the OTHER quality traits of CHARACTER tend
to not be too addicted to the clubs, because
they already KNOW that clubs tend to bring
out the wrong guys to them, and these women
certainly don't need to go to clubs in order
to get ATTENTION from men.

They get plenty of attention ANYWHERE they
go anyway, so the last thing they need to do
is spend the night in a place full of guys who
are drunk and who think they have a license
to now do anything they want.

This is why, I think clubs might be a good place
to PRACTICE for beginners, but the "real world"
is the better place to actually meet the kinds of
women that are the "total package".

And, getting back to my original point, meeting women
in regular places requires MORE CALIBRATION
of your skills.

For example, if a woman is reading a book in the
aisles of a bookstore, and you just go right up
to her head-on, without warning, you will often
catch her off-guard in a way that is NOT cool
and will seem a little creepy.

However, if you first establish your presence there
so she can see you with her peripheral vision,
and you allow a moment or two for her
subconscious or her conscious mind to
detect that you are there, and THEN
you approach her, this is much wiser.

Also, you would be wise to GRADUALLY
build up the proximity and the body language,
and this is NOT because you are trying to
play a "game" on women, but because it
could CREEP her out if you come on too
strong in an environment that is not ESPECIALLY
about socializing.  It's a bookstore, not a club.

So, for example, you might be facing the books
yourself, and she would be to your side.

And rather than turning your whole body to
face her, you would just turn your face toward
her.  Your chest and the rest of your body
would still be facing the stacks of books.

When you start talking to her, she will turn
to see you, and subconsciously she will
feel that you are not some wierdo who
spends his whole day just barging up
on women everywhere.

On top of this, you also want to make your
approach and interaction as LOW-KEY as
possible.  And what I mean by this, is that
you want to ELIMINATE anything from
the interaction that can make it seem in
any way NOT NORMAL.

So, you should be acting as if what you are
doing is the most NORMAL thing in the
world.  If you overcompensate for nerves
with talking too quietly (because you
don't want anyone to hear you do
this 'pick-up') or if you speak too loudly
because you are overcompensating out
of the fear of not seeming manly enough,
all that will do is make it all seem
NOT NORMAL.

If you come into the conversation with
too much of a party attitude, that will
seem out of place as well.

You have to not only calibrate for your environment,
(i.e. a bookstore being quiet and calm, versus
meeting on a loud train) but you have to also calibrate
your "pick-up" around the fact that this is NOT a club,
this is NOT a place designed for meeting.

So since she is not particularly expecting to be
approached at the bookstore, her GUARD is
a bit more on.

At the same time, however, if you DO calibrate
properly and you don't trip her "CREEPY GUY
WARNING ALARMS", well then now you
actually have a much STRONGER chance of
actually getting this woman than you would
at a club, because of the very fact that meeting
at a club is EASIER, and women may be
much more OPEN to chatting, but not
neccessarily that much more open to
ACTUALLY HOOKING UP WITH
A GUY THEY MEET A CLUB.

Things balance out:
In a club, because it's normal to socialize there,
women will be OPEN to chatting.

However, they also give you LESS credit for
the mere fact you approached them to chat,
because that's what all the guys are doing
in the club. 

Mind you, most of the guys in the club are doing
it wrong, but most of them ARE trying to meet
women there.

So there's a bit of "inflation" when it comes to
making the approach in a club.  In a club,
you better do a REAL GOOD JOB because
there's a lot of guys doing the clubs.

Getting back to the bookstore example, you
would only turn to actually FACE her fully
once SHE is really facing you fully first.

This way, she feels more COMFORTABLE
and NOT creeped out by you, since you
are NOT coming on strong, and are thus
NOT putting her under any pressure.

By removing the pressure, you remove the
need for her to have to RESIST your
interaction with her.

In both cases though, whether you meet
a club or in a bookstore or cafe or anywhere
else that is "normal", it's crucial that you
LISTEN to whatever she says in her
response to what you said.

THIS gives you something to PING-PONG
off of, and to reply back to her based on
what SHE said.

By focusing on the PROCESS, and by
LISTENING to her, you become more
RELAXED plus you get to actually
get more INSIGHT into who she is,
so you can have better communication
with her.

And ultimately, the highest compliment
you can give a woman is when you
really understand her and you can
QUALIFY her for a particular character
trait or accomplishment of hers.

So if for example, she is courageous to
go into a field that is dominated by men,
or she is working on making the world
a better place, or even if she is just
the kind of person that is at peace with
herself and the world, all these things
are cool things to compliment her on-
IF you can back it up with evidence
based on what you have learned
about her.

SPONTANEOUS "SITUATIONAL" OPENER,
OR MEMORIZED "CANNED" OPENER?

A lot of guys want to know what's better,
to use a "canned" memorized opener to
start the conversation, or to just actually
find something SITUATIONAL, i.e.
about the SITUATION, the context
of the situation, i.e. if she is in the bookstore
reading in the international relations and
politics section, and you comment to her
how unusual it is to find a woman in
this section.

The truth is that it IS better to use a SPONTANEOUS
conversation starter that is about the SITUATION,
i.e. something she is doing, or something else
about her or even about the immediate environment
around her, this is always better because it
shows you are not using the same line on
every woman you meet.

Plus, because it IS real about the situation, you
actually WILL sound congruent to it, you won't
sound like a liar because you aren't lying.

Now, at the same time, I realize that sometimes
the act of approaching a woman who is a stranger
can seem OVERWHELMING.

So, it's FINE to use something MEMORIZED.
Use a real true story that actually happened to
you, something interesting and hopefully upbeat,
or at least intriguing, to tell her, and then comment
on whatever SHE says as her REACTION to your
story.

This gets the ball rolling in the right direction,
and you can playfully tease her on anything
she says back to you.

Just make sure to STOP the memorized speech
as soon as possible in the interaction.  Once she
is commenting on it to you, you really have the
conversation started and you don't really need
it anymore.

Plus, you will see as you go along that if you
keep on approaching women, using the
memorized story, you will be so calm
because you already KNOW what to
say to get things started, that you now
will finally be in the state of mind to
actually REALIZE AND NOTICE
all the SPONTANEOUS AND
"SITUATIONAL" openers that you
could use instead as your conversation
starters.

TONALITY VS. CONTENT

Obviously, what you SAY does matter to a
degree. If it's interesting, captivating, etc.

But HOW you say it matters a TON.

Now, I'm especially talking about the very
OPENER, as once you are both in a deep
conversation, then you naturally tend to
speak about things in the right tonality
since you are so comfortable.

But the OPENER is a different story.
It's just an OPENER, so what you are
REALLY trying to get across is that
there is POTENTIAL here.

The most important things, therefore, are that
you are not a creep, that you are confident,
that you are in a good state of mind, that
you are masculine, that you are playful,
etc.

So, technically, you can EASILY get away
with even the supposedly "nice-guy" words
of "you are beautiful", if your voice tonality
suggested that you were stating this as a
matter of FACT rather than as a DESPERATE
HOPE SHE WILL LIKE YOU because
you said those words.

In fact, you can say the words "you are
beautiful" in such a way to show flirtyness,
a sense of playfulness, confidence, and
even dominance. Dominance, because
you can say the words in such a way
that it is implied that because YOU
said the words, YOU feel that it is
a GREAT COMPLIMENT because
it comes from YOU, a person of
MASSIVE VALUE.

Tonality is a MAJOR influencing factor,
and in fact, the use of tonality can allow
you to say something very HONEST
and even "nice" and make you NOT
come across as "needy" but rather
as a man who is CONFIDENT,
who is GENUINE, and who she
can let her own guard down with,
and she can let such a man IN.

Now, what you've just read, as detailed
as it is, is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.

I want to show you how to do all this MASTERFULLY,
by coaching you IN PERSON, in real time, on real women.

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This is all the absolute real thing, at all times.

I would have given ANYTHING to learn these
skills back in the days when I used to hopelessly
PRAY, often for YEARS on end, that some girl
that I was all obsessed about would reciprocate
my feelings.

ALL that came from NOT knowing the MASSIVE
ABUNDANCE of women that can be at one's fingertips,
if he just masters the SKILLS of how to meet and
attract women.

I was coming from a scarcity mentality, that really
DISTORTS not only one's emotions and perspectives,
but really RUINS one's life.

It's time to STOP the wasted energy, the wasted
time, the wasted emotions, and time to start getting
the ABUNDANCE with women into your life.

What's amazing also, is that once this area of your
life is taken care of, you tend to suddenly also
improve all your OTHER areas as well, because
now that you have broken through this barrier,
it makes you so confident that you know you
can take on the WORLD and that you will WIN.

Get yourself signed up for bootcamp TODAY.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

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