The Truth And Nothing But The Truth When It Comes To Success With Women

For over 12 years now, I've been motivated by learning the truth about women and attraction. The truth may not be what sells, but in the end, it's the only thing that's important and the only way to actually get where you want to go.

So, for example, when the best-selling book called The Game came out, millions of men believed it all and they all thought that the best way and only way to really meet and attract women was by using pick-up lines.  

Even before the book had come out, I was telling the author on a Forum website devoted to the topic of dating and attraction that actually pick-up lines were not necessary- and I was already proving how to do the entire "pick up" in a more natural and effective way. 

Well, it only took the seduction/pick up artist community about 6 YEARS to finally realize that what I was saying was true. And not just in night clubs, but in meeting women ANYWHERE.

In fact, that was the NEXT thing that I was light-years ahead of- the whole idea that you can't usually meet the best kinds of women in night-clubs, because an attractive woman who also has her act together in terms of her morals, behaviors, and attitudes is not likely to want to go to a nightclub very often.  

The reason is because she ALREADY gets too much attention from the wrong guys, and the last place she wants to go is a place where she is going to be BOMBARDED by a bunch of drunk or tipsy guys who just want to get physical- if she just wanted that, she could meet a guy like that ANY second of ANY day. 

But again, it took MANY YEARS for those brainwashed by the effects of "group think" in the pick-up artist world, to SEE and BELIEVE what I had been teaching for many YEARS.

And by the way, of course, none of these guys would dare to give me one DROP of credit for all this, of course, because that would mean possibly encouraging guys to actually THINK rather than just listen to whatever they (the gurus) said.

And so I was explaining that the best way to meet a great woman is when these women are simply out and about doing their thing- getting groceries, going to the coffee shop, at the library, etc. 

Now, you still have to SCREEN women because ALL women are out there doing their thing, so you have to find the right ones through screening, but if you focus on nightclubs, you have to realize that the women in nightclubs are AWARE of the fact that it's a place where people go to drink and where for the most part, men are paying to meet women and not the other way around. 

So you have to ask yourself what kind of attractive woman needs to go there regularly, unless she is either looking for attention or promiscuous.  

But just because a woman is out and about during the day or evening in a place that is not a club, does not mean she is great girlfriend material.

This is another FACT that the pick up artist community wants to HIDE from you, or maybe doesn't even KNOW- but it's DAMN IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO KNOW- and that you know how to screen.

Here's ANOTHER thing they don't tell you:
WOMEN AND MEN ARE NOT THE SAME SEXUALLY


There is a TON of evidence that female nature is different from male nature.

So, for example, there was the famous experiment where 100 MEN were approached by a woman on a university campus, who were offered by the woman a chance to sleep with her, and almost EVERY man said yes.

Then, when the same experiment was set up on campus where 100 WOMEN were approached by a man for sex, EVERY WOMAN said no.

Source for this, by the way is: http://www.elainehatfield.com/79.pdf

And recently in the whole "Ashley Madison" news story, it turned out that almost NO MEN were actually MEETING ANY WOMEN-because in reality there were BARELY ANY WOMEN ON THE SITE---something the site tried to keep a secret!

The whole site was driven by MEN who WANTED to meet women, and who THOUGHT there were tons of women on these sites, but in reality, there were almost NO women on these sites, and the website had to actually FABRICATE the IDEA that there WERE tons of women on the site, in order to keep sucking in the men who were, unfortunately, looking for an affair.

But the point here is a LARGER point- that FEMALE NATURE is not as IMMEDIATELY driven by the same kind of sexual desire as MALE nature.

And YET, pick up artist after pick up artist KEEPS ON TELLING MEN that SECRETLY allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the women out there really want to SLEEP with a PLAYER, and are just BURSTING AT THE SEEMS to have sex with some guy who knows the MAGIC SECRET.

The TRUTH is, it's only a certain PERCENTAGE of women that are like this, and although their are, in ABSOLUTE terms, quite a few of these women, in terms of their actual percentage of the population of women, they are SUPER LOW and DO NOT REPRESENT THE NATURE OF MOST WOMEN.

But the majority of the pick up artist community wants you to think ALL women secretly just want to be promiscuous or in general that they have the same nature as men- so that you will think that since all women are really promiscuous anyway, you might as well join them since there is no point looking for a GREAT GIRLFRIEND that is not going to cheat on you or disrespect you, etc.

And again, most men, who just want to meet a great woman, will actually SCREW THEMSELVES BADLY by having the wrong picture of women and of reality.

And it's a bit sad, what is going on. You see, at one time, the promiscuous men and women knew to hang out at night clubs to meet their own types.

But now, thanks to GREED and the commercialization of human needs like love, sex, and affection, pick up artists are branching out into what used to be normal places- like EVERYWHERE else, and so now the normal women out there have to learn the hard way that a lot of these guys approaching them are not normal guys just trying to meet women as girlfriends, but rather playing a game to just try to gather as many women as possible, and trying to manufacture a connection with them that is actually NOT authentic. 

Which means that any GOOD women out there should actually have their guard up even MORE- but most women won't because it hasn't reached the tipping point yet. 

Of course, most women, even ones not informed in the slightest, will still put two and two together and it won't take too long for them to see when a guy is behaving in a way that doesn't add up.

By the way, this is yet another reason I can't associate with the pick up artist movement, even though there IS a GOOD purpose for learning these skills, and is what I teach men. 

I've always taught these skills ALONG with a sense of RESPONSIBILITY. 

To quote the first issue ever of Spider-Man, which was actually called "Amazing Fantasy"- "with great power comes great responsibility"- an idea that actually came from Voltaire.

 So remember, getting a woman into bed quick isn't a sign of how cool you are, it's a sign that a woman was unusual and is the type who wants to get physical fast with guys.

The IRONY of this all is that I was the guy who wrote, way back in 2003 in my first book, how MASCULINITY and FEMININITY are crucial parts of BIOLOGY, they are not just some invention- and how important it is for men to BE masculine and for women to be feminine in order to attract the opposite gender. 

But the pick up artist community only wants to embrace the part of the message that they like- the fact that it's GOOD for you to BE masculine and embrace your masculinity---but they DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT THE COROLLARY(the consequence) OF THIS- which means ALSO accepting that they want FEMININE women.

And although there ARE definitely promiscuous women, it goes AGAINST most women's nature to be as promiscuous as men naturally want to be (which is why over thousands of years, there has been that trade off- a man will be willing to be faithful to a woman who is truly worthy of it)- and deep down, men don't even WANT women to be promiscuous, they aren't even as attracted to promiscuous women.

So, if you REALLLLLLY want to embrace my message of the importance of masculinity in men, you ALSO must embrace the truth of the importance and the nature of FEMININITY in women.

That means seeing the GLARING TRUTH that can be seen with ANYONE with OPEN EYES OR EARS that MOST women are simply NOT as promiscuous as men---

--And if the pick up artists keep showing you videos of guys getting physical or sleeping with women- those are women that don't represent the kinds of women most guys want- just like how commercials on TV SHOW YOU things that don't represent THE TRUTH, but at least there there is the FINE PRINT at the bottom of the screen with all the disclaimers about how everything you are seeing is actually NOT TRUE.   

And so THIS explains the SLOW TREND these days in the pick up artist community AWAY from the night clubs and toward what they call DAYGAME. 

Again, trying to copy me, but STILL bastardizing the ACTUAL PART THAT MATTERS---because it's NOT about whether you meet a woman during the DAY or NIGHT- that whole distinction is REALLY referring to nightclubs versus "normal" places like the coffee shop, but you can meet a GREAT woman at night just about anywhere- it has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH DAYGAME VERSUS NIGHTGAME--this is just yet MORE MARKETING LEADING TO DESTRUCTION OF ACTUAL TRUTH.

So if you are reading this now, ask yourself: "How many more YEARS of my life am I going to WASTE following the DISTORTIONS OF TRUTH promoted by most dating advice experts?"  

The DISTINCTIONS between TRUTH and DISTORTION of TRUTH are sometimes HARD to see when you are in the "middle of the forest"--you can't see the forest because of all the trees. 
 
And SUBTLETIES matter- as you have seen from all the above. It's not enough to get dating advice that SORT OF tells you PART of what you need to know- MISSING JUST ONE DROP OF IMPORTANT TRUTH is like launching a SPACECRAFT with just a few parts missing, the fuel just slightly wrong, the trajectory just a bit off---it will result in a DISASTER.

And getting the RIGHT woman in your life is the single most important other human being that you will ever interact with IN your life- it MATTERS A WHOLE HECK OF A LOT.
 
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Till next time, 

Michael Marks

P.S. Because having a sense of humor is so useful, including when it comes to interacting with women and being in the right state of mind, I thought I would include this following image on the idea of having great power and great responsibility:

 

Revealing My SECRETS On Attracting Women

What you are about to read comes DIRECTLY
from YEARS of experience "IN THE FIELD".

There is absolutely no filler, no gimmicks, no nonsense. 
Just CONCRETE, SOLID, PROVEN STRATEGIES
THAT WORK.

So here we go: 

NUMBER ONE:
WOMEN CRAVE AUTHENTICITY, AND YOU CAN’T
BE AUTHENTIC IF YOU GO INTO THE APPROACH
WITH A PLAN.

Now, this might sound hard to believe, especially
if you already know that indeed just about all
successful approaches go through stages in the
interaction, from opening the conversation to
building attraction and rapport, to closing the
interaction with a solid close where it’s clear
she is into you and where she wants you to
take her number, or even immediately go
out on an “instant-date” right then and there.

The thing is, though, that even though these
“phases” of the interaction may very well
exist, they are simply the NATURAL by-product
of ALL effective interactions that you will have
with the women you want to attract.

And one of the KEY elements to having an effective
conversation when you approach a woman who is
a total stranger is for you to come across as
AUTHENTIC, and not as some guy who has this
predetermined exact concept of what you and her 
should say and do.

A woman can TELL when a guy is not being authentic, 
and is on some form of auto-pilot, and it weirds a
woman out, it makes her go on “caution” mode, since she
is wondering why can’t the guy just be more “for real”
instead of putting on an act.

Of course, the CHALLENGE then becomes the following:
 
“How do I go in there without a plan, and stay
CALM? After all, I have no idea what to SAY
to her!!!!!!!!!!”  

And this is where you can really separate
the guys who care about teaching this stuff
for REAL, versus the guys who are only in
this for the commercial reasons of making
money.

Do I expect to be paid for my intense work and
long hours devoted to a client? Yes, because
time is not free.  However, the difference with
me is that I REALLY AM PASSIONATE ABOUT
THIS FIELD FOR REAL. 

And I’m not talking about going to nightclubs
where certain types of women attend, and where
these women are tipsy, half-drunk, or bombed
out of their minds.

That, to me, is not really what it’s all about.

To me, it’s all about actually meeting the kind
of women who have TRUE potential to be great
girlfriends, the kinds of women that most
men REALLY want.  Ultimately, the kind of
WOMAN you really want for the LONG term.

And you just can’t find those women in a bar
or nightclub, at least not the vast majority of
the time.    

So, what do you do to BE authentic and NOT
memorize material and NOT go in with some
pre-determined plan, and yet STILL be calm
and under control?

Well, this gets to step number TWO:

NUMBER TWO:
PUT ALL YOUR NERVOUS ENERGY INTO
ONE THING- FOCUSING ON HER.

See, the REAL trick to this, is that you don’t
HAVE to memorize or plan ANYTHING, you
can start a conversation with the SIMPLEST
remark or observation that you notice, and
then ALL YOUR FOCUS IS OFF YOU COMPLETELY,
it should ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
go into LISTENING to her, and OBSERVING her,
and REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY
paying attention.

This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good, for so
many reasons, and it really is so friggen insane
how the so called “pick up artists” will sell guys
so much B.S. and nonsense, and miss out on the
BIGGEST thing, which is this.

First of all, by focusing on LISTENING to her and
observing her, rather than on thinking to yourself
“WHAT DO I SAY TO HER?” you go into a much
CALMER state, since there is just about NOTHING
that you have to “figure out” in terms of what
to say or do!

You just LISTEN, OBSERVE, PERCEIVE, PAY ATTENTION, to all that she  says or does. 

So start the conversation with SOME observation:
It could be the oranges she’s looking at in the
supermarket, and you notice she is really taking
her time to get the right ones and you could say
the first thought in your mind from this e.g.

“You’re really picky, aren’t you?”

Is this a REALLY GENIUS HARD COMMENT to think of
when you see her selecting the oranges? No, it’s not.  

The KEY is to OBSERVE her response- let your eyes,
ears, intelligence, and HEART be OPEN so you can
get ALL the things she is saying/implying with her
words, body language, clothing style, etc.

So, she might chuckle first, to which YOU can say:

“You’re laughing.  You think I’m funny.  You were
here to get oranges and now you’re getting more
than just oranges.”
 
Or, she might chuckle and say to you:

“You have to be careful, not all oranges are
equal!” as a joke back to you.

If you’re paying attention to HER, then when
she says to you her comment that not all oranges
are equal, this could trigger in your mind the
thought or image of oranges not all mixing together
properly, or even the thought that oranges
themselves can’t be mixed with oranges, never
mind APPLES and ORANGES!

So you can respond to her with:

“Oh man, now you’re getting really mean!
First they say, not to mix apples and oranges,
but now according to YOU, you can’t even
mix APPLES AND APPLES! That’s it, we’re
done! I want a divorce!”
 
THIS IS FUNNY, and it shows you DID NOT
REHEARSE IT OR PLAN IT.

So she does not go into: “This sucks, this guy
doesn’t even pay attention to me, he just says
the same pick up lines to every woman he meets!”

Instead, you were AUTHENTIC and truly in the
MOMENT and just GENUINELY and AUTHENTICALLY
REACTING to what she was doing and saying. 

Now, I need to add one more important detail
here, which is the following:

NUMBER THREE:
YOU CAN DO ALMOST ANYTHING, BUT YOU MUST
HAVE SOME KIND OF POSITIVE EMOTION GOING
INTO THE APPROACH.

So, you can be intriguing, you can be motivating,
you can be funny, you can of course be FLIRTY,
(you don’t HAVE to start with flirty), but you
DO have to SOME kind of COMPELLING ANGLE,
which flows from your state of mind.

Whatever emotion you are feeling, you will FILTER
the world through that emotion, so if you are totally
in ZOMBIE mode, or totally bored, or totally exhausted,
you just won’t SEE much in any situation where you
find a woman, and no matter WHAT she says to you.

So you have TONS of choices of what emotions
you can be experiencing, you don’t have to be   
x if you are y, you don’t have to change yourself
into being into country music if you are into rock,
or rock if you are into country, you don’t have
to be funny, you don’t have to be mysterious
or intriguing, but you have to be feeling SOMETHING
positive, even if it’s just a love for life, or if it’s
a great song you just heard, or even if you are
just feeling flirty and in a good mood.

You can’t walk in there on a fuel tank that is,
from a positive emotional standpoint, empty.

But that’s it, once you have THAT, almost ALL
your energy goes into OBSERVING AND LISTENING,
and then based on THAT, you just REACT in the
most instinctive way!!!!

So, if a woman tells you she just had a terrible
day at work, you can EASILY go into rapport
with her and make her feel you identify with
her, or you can cheer her up, or you can even
be funny and say “Hey, don’t tell me all your
problems, that’s RUDE!” in a JOKING way,
where she WILL laugh and hence you HAVE
cheered her up.

You see? Because you are GENUINELY listening,
what you SAY and DO can be a trillion percent
AUTHENTIC since all you have to do is REACT
sincerely (which could sometimes include
reacting with a JOKE) rather than make up
stuff!

So, by adopting this approach, you end up
coming across as AUTHENTIC, you don’t
sound off her mental alarm bells, you also
come across as socially intelligent since you
didn’t act selfish by talking only about yourself
but rather you got HER TALKING about herself
and you listened well, which in itself builds
a stronger bond, plus all this shows tons of
guts too, since, after all, you DID approach
her out of the blue and you smoothly got
a beautiful stranger to open up to you.

I love this stuff so much.
And guess what?
I've got MORE for you.

NUMBER FOUR:
TELLING A WOMAN YOU FIND HER ATTRACTIVE

So, you know how in general, putting a
woman on a PEDESTAL is a TERRIBLE
way to try to attract her?

Well guess what? I figured out a way to
actually tell a woman she is beautiful and
have it ONLY do GOOD things for you,
WITHOUT you coming across as a weak
man who will sell his soul for any crumbs
of attention from a beautiful woman.

It all has to do with the INTENT.

You see, getting back to point number
ONE regarding AUTHENTICITY, you
CAN tell a woman that she is beautiful,
because you MEAN it, and it IS the reason
you approached her, but the mistake that
just about EVERY GUY makes is that they
ALSO bring something ELSE into the
situation when they say something like

“You are so beautiful that I had to come
over and say hello.”

The MISTAKE is bringing into the situation
all your thoughts about the future, and how
you would do ANYTHING to be with her, and
how you would REALLY appreciate it, if she was
with you, etc, etc.

I’m talking about even THINKING those thoughts,
because the thoughts affect your emotions.

Now the TRICK to not thinking needy thoughts
is to simply be FULLY AUTHENTIC, which means
NOT romanticizing the moment with endless
thoughts of the FUTURE, and instead just
focus on the PRESENT.

In other words, she is BEAUTIFUL and you
FIND HER ATTRACTIVE.

That’s it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And THAT is OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t just mean morally okay, which OF
COURSE it is, what I mean is THAT will
NOT make you seem weak to a woman,
in fact, it can make you seem STRONG,
since you TOOK ACTION on your DESIRE,
and you have no apology for it.

That is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
different than the way most guys would
say the “beautiful” comment.

Also, one of the reasons I usually DON’T
suggest guys approach women with the
“you are so beautiful” comment is because
I myself used to be BRAINWASHED to believe
that women REALLY appreciated it when a
a man found her beautiful, and when a man
in general found her to be more beautiful
than any other woman, etc.

I used to really believe that the biggest thing
in a relationship for a woman is having a man 
that never takes her for granted, that always
finds her so beautiful, etc, etc.

Of course, we are fed this B.S. from the day
we are born, so it’s no wonder so many men
think this, follow this, and then end up having
their hearts torn to shreds.

So, I don’t want guys to make the mistake of
thinking the “beautiful” comment works because
of romantic reasons, and I don’t want guys to
think that their relationships depend on convincing
a woman how beautiful you find her to be,
as that will just make you come across as weak
on an inner level, and women just can’t feel
attraction to men who radiate weakness within.

So that’s why I’m being REALLY careful to be
CLEAR here- the reason the “you’re
so beautiful” comment works in an initial
approach is ONLY if it is done with the
implications given in your vocal tonality that
you are the kind of man who rises to the challenge,
you see a woman you find beautiful, you take
action. 

And yes, of course, a woman also appreciates
the compliment, but it’s not the COMPLIMENT
so much as the fact that YOU are so secure
with yourself, with your value, with being
secure about your sexual value, that all
YOU care about is EXPRESSING IT.

The emphasis is on YOU expressing your interest,
in a non-needy way, through the “beautiful”
comment.  

In fact, the MORE you are COOL with her
NOT reciprocating the same interest, the
BETTER you will do, which is just another
irony is a series of ironies about attraction. 

The reason it works when you DON’T need
her to  MELT for you when you say these
words to her, is that it shows her you are
STRONG, that you are not so obsessed
with her having to now say “I will marry you”
just because you said “You are beautiful”.

Also, another positive element about this
“beautiful” comment, of course, is that it
is AUTHENTIC, and it immediately establishes
that you are not there out of platonic interest,
but rather you ARE A MAN who finds her
to be AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN.

So it sets the wheels in motion in her mind
immediately, and it sets them in the right
direction, rather than pretending you just
want to talk about the weather with her.

Now, of course, on the ULTIMATE level,
when you have mastered EVERYTHING,
you can IMPLY so much in the most subtle
nuances in your expression and tonality,
even if you did approach a woman and
you DID talk about only the weather. 

And, of course, you can also start with
a neutral conversation, and THEN go
into FLIRTY mode, teasing her playfully,
etc.

But before the ultimate level, where you 
can actually do anything, this can be a
great way to improve your results with
women.

There are many roads that lead to Rome,
so to speak, but the KEY is to be AUTHENTIC
and to LISTEN and OBSERVE so that you
can react in the most fitting and most effective
way possible, based on what she is saying
or doing.

There is also another pearl I want to leave
you with, regarding ALL your approaches,
and that is before going into any approach,
you FULLY COMMIT in your mind to doing
your BEST no matter what.

In order to do this, we must accept the possibility
of failure, which leads to number five...

NUMBER FIVE:
ACCEPTING THE POSSIBILITY OF FAILURE.

This is a very subtle, but SUPREMELY POWERFUL
distinction between those guys who do well
and those guys who don’t when it comes to
approaching and attracting women.

You see, if you can’t accept the possibility of
failure, then in your mind, you will NOT give
ALL of yourself into your approach, because
you are too AFFECTED by that thought- the
thought of failure. 

It is ONLY when you are PREPARED TO
ACCEPT FAILURE, and you STILL feel that
indeed it is STILL WORTH IT, THAT SUCCESS
WITH THE WOMAN IS WORTH IT SO MUCH
THAT THE COST OF POSSIBLE FAILURE IS
NOT ENOUGH OF A DETERRENT.

You have to really WANT success with
women to the point that success means
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than failure. 

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The Next Revolution In Attracting Women

There are a few really important areas to master
if you are to be successful in approaching and
attracting women, but the two BIGGEST ones are
achieving a combination of confidence and comfort
in talking to women, because this allows you to
instinctively convey your full personality since
you aren’t frozen up with fear.

And don't underestimate those words "full
personality" as when it comes to women,
a man's PERSONALITY is a verrrrrrry powerful
force for attracting a woman.

The problem is that men end up showing
either no personality or a FAKE personality
that the women end up rejecting! 

Now, along the way through the evolution of methods
on how to approach and attract women, three of  the
most popular “methods” included kissing up to women
with tons of compliments, memorizing pick up
lines, as well as delivering back-handed compliments
which are actually thinly veiled insults.

The thinking behind the kissing up to women was
that flattery will get you everywhere. The thinking
behind the memorized pick up lines was that even
if you are feeling fear, you will have something to
say since it’s been memorized.  And the thinking
behind the backhanded compliments is that it
would make a woman feel more insecure, and thus
make her feel that the guy is somehow more important.

Now, before I came along, there were authors who
wrote against the kissing up attitude. They knew that
constantly kissing up ultimately leads to losing the
respect and the attraction of the woman.

By the way, this doesn't mean you should not show
kindness or that you should not show gratitude for
being treated extremely well.

However, when I came along into the field, I noticed
a huge reliance on pick up lines and memorized
routines, as well as a huge amount of emphasis on the
method of using backhanded compliments.

I worked tirelessly to disprove these ideas, and
at the time I was mocked for them.  It took coverage
from major newspapers who followed my students
and their success with women for people to finally
see that indeed you don’t need pick up lines and
indeed that using backhanded compliments which
are really thinly veiled insults are not the way to go.

In fact, using backhanded compliments could
often DESTROY a woman’s trust in a guy,
plus also the use of such tactics on a subtle
yet devastating way ended up undermining
a man’s confidence in himself, since it
made him feel like he had so little worth
that he had to reduce himself to these kinds
of abusive tactics.

Now, here’s the thing to remember: What
all these things have in common, be they
pick up lines, kissing up, or thinly veiled
insults, they are the result of insecurity.

So, if I am insecure about approaching a woman,
and I fear that what I will say will be rejected,
then I will feel better if I have a memorized
pick up line.  I will feel better if I think that
a back-handed compliment will “neutralize”
a woman’s ego, I will feel better if I think
that kissing up will WORK on her ego so
I will then use the kissing up methods, etc.

The bottom line is that all these methods
are the result of INSECURITY.

Now, I’m not BLAMING anyone for feeling
insecurity. I was probably the KING of feeling
insecure when it came to approaching women.

I remember being back in university and
approaching women and thinking my heart
was going to EXPLODE from beating so
hard from the excitement, stress, and
anxiety of the moment.

The insecurity IS a HUGE issue and it’s no joke.

So the best solution is the one that attacks
the real problem, the insecurity itself.

Now, some may argue that it doesn’t matter,
that if memorizing a pick-up line MAKES
a guy feel more secure, or if using a backhanded  
compliment makes a guy feel he has the edge,
then that’s all that matters.

However, I think that truth IS important.

If a guy thinks that insulting a woman is what
works, or is what made her attracted to him,
that is an unhealthy belief and will eventually
erode his confidence and his faith in women
to the point that he engages in toxic behaviors
that destroy his relationships with women.

He will be suspicious of her every action.
He will constantly think she might be losing
attraction to him.  And this will result in
him eventually SHOWING his insecurity
through jealousy or negativity, and those
things will destroy the relationship.

He will start to think that HE isn’t enough,
He will think that he must use MORE of these
external tactics, and of course that will not
work to attract her since it was never about
that external tactic, it was about his confidence
and comfort.

If a guy really thinks he is just using the
tactic as a way for HIM to feel secure,
then he will be more effective to just focus
on the actions that actually REALLY tackle
the insecurity and that DO make him feel
totally secure and comfortable.

And the feelings of stress and anxiety that
come when approaching and interacting with
women you want to attract are complex,
because the solutions involve correcting
deeply-entrenched, unhealthy, and incorrect
beliefs about women, and often about a
man's own self as well.  

Then, on top of this, is also the development
of conversation skills that will really help
you in your interactions with women that
are spontaneous, i.e. “cold approaches”.

Plus, on top of this, is also the development
of the highest degree of social and emotional
intelligence that really allows you to create
a powerful connection with a woman.

Now, I’ve already revolutionized this field in
two ways: As a result of my work, the entire
“backhanded compliments” method has been
pretty much stopped, and the need for pick
up lines has been stopped and replaced with
actually having far more REAL conversations.

Now, some of you may be wondering why
I don’t have VIDEOS of my work up on
the net.

The reason is simple: My work has revolutionized
this field TWICE, (removing pick up lines and
backhanded compliments as well as other abusive
tactics) and my work has been poorly imitated by
others in this field, without giving me an ounce
of credit.

Just a few years ago, pick up lines and backhanded
compliments were considered ABSOLUTELY
THE BEST WAY TO GO, just check out the
best-selling book called “The Game”, even though
I was clearly showing how to go about approaching
women without pick up lines and without backhanded
compliments even back then.

I also never advocated JUST telling a woman
that you like her, because this didn’t give a
woman anything else to know about you other
than the fact you liked her, and so unless she
was physically attracted just based on looks
alone, she had nothing else to stimulate her
attraction, which would mean a guy was
limited to just using his looks.

Everything I taught has now become accepted
as the truth and the way to go.  Yet, of course,
not one author or instructor out there has decided
to give me an ounce of credit for this.

So what do you think will happen when I put out
the absolute best videos showing how this all goes
down for real?  And I’ve already had several offers
even from television networks to get permission
from all sorts of venues so they can get the best
angles for all the “pick ups”.

What will happen is that for a THIRD TIME, my work
will be imitated yet once again, it will revolutionize
the field once again, and of course all the work
will be taken by so-called experts who then
try to use it and claim it as their own. People
will forget the TV special that covered me,
and who created the method, etc.

So, there is no reason for me to put up VIDEOS
of my students or myself doing our work, because
all that will happen is that these ideas will be
imitated and stolen, and I have better things
to do with my time than have my intellectual
property stolen or distorted.

There’s only one way to see it all happen for
real, and that is by taking an actual bootcamp
with me. Within SECONDS, you will see
what others can only IMAGINE is possible
when it comes to success in approaching and
attracting women.

And the best part of all of it is that absolutely
NONE OF IT requires any FAKING on your
part. You don’t need pick up lines.  You
don’t need to use backhanded compliments.
You don’t need to do things that go against
your own moral code or that feel "weird".

And by the way, there’s nothing FLASHY required,
just good old fashioned solid attraction and
solid connection.  I’m going to show you
how to use YOU and YOUR personality to
make it all work PERFECTLY.

Now, I’ve got plenty of guys who want to learn,
so it’s not like I’m writing this message here for me.
I’m plenty busy right now and I have no desire to
pressure you or pressure myself with too many
clients at once- all I’m saying is that I may
not have the time to do bootcamps in the future. 

My obsessive mind is constantly at work, and
I’m a creative person, and there are several other
really cool projects I’m working on at the moment
that may end up taking all my time in the future. 

The same way I create in this field, I create in
other fields that I'm passionate about as well.

So, if you really want to learn these skills, then
it’s a good idea to learn them while you can
before it’s too late.

It’s as simple as sending me an email letting me
know what weekend in the future works for you.
Please give me a few potential weekends, in
case one of them is already booked. 

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Revealing My "Classified" Secrets For Attracting Women

It’s been a while since I’ve written a new
newsletter, and that is because QUALITY
counts more than anything else to me, and
I recently finished a period where I spent
several weeks IMMERSED exclusively in
“the field”- that is, in the actual approaches
and attraction work where I and my clients
approach women just about EVERYWHERE
and ANYWHERE.

More on that later, in fact, there's a
very important announcement at the end
of this newsletter regarding all this
research I've been doing "in the field".

In fact, I am so obsessed with this work,
that even after “bootcamps” are over and
my clients go home after an intensive day
of approaching and attracting women, I
typically don’t end the day then, as what
I do at that point is POUR over everything
that happened during the bootcamp and
analyze everything to glean new important
insights and strategies for FURTHER improving
the process of attracting women anywhere.

So, what you are about to read comes DIRECTLY
from all this experience.  There is absolutely
no filler, no gimmicks, no nonsense, no
new age hocus-pocus, just CONCRETE,
SOLID, PROVEN STRATEGIES THAT WORK.

So here we go:

NUMBER ONE:
WOMEN CRAVE AUTHENTICITY, AND YOU CAN’T
BE AUTHENTIC IF YOU GO INTO THE APPROACH
WITH A PLAN.

Now, this might sound hard to believe, especially
if you already know that indeed just about all
successful approaches go through stages in the
interaction, from opening the conversation to
building attraction and rapport, to closing the
interaction with a solid close where it’s clear
she is into you and where she wants you to
take her number, or even immediately go
out on an “instant-date” right then and there.

The thing is, though, that even though these
“phases” of the interaction may very well
exist, they are simply the NATURAL by-product
of ALL effective interactions that you will have
with the women you want to attract.

And one of the KEY elements to having an effective
conversation when you approach a woman who is
a total stranger is for you to come across as
AUTHENTIC, and not as some guy who has this
predetermined exact concept of what you and her 
should say and do.

A woman can TELL when a guy is not being authentic, 
and is on some form of auto-pilot, and it weirds a
woman out, it makes her go on “caution” mode, since she
is wondering why can’t the guy just be more “for real”
instead of putting on an act.

Of course, the CHALLENGE then becomes the following:
 
“How do I go in there without a plan, and stay
CALM? After all, I have no idea what to SAY
to her!!!!!!!!!!”  

And this is where you can really separate
the guys who care about teaching this stuff
for REAL, versus the guys who are only in
this for the commercial reasons of making
money.

Do I expect to be paid for my intense work and
long hours devoted to a client? Yes, because
time is not free.  However, the difference with
me is that I REALLY AM PASSIONATE ABOUT
THIS FIELD FOR REAL. 

And I’m not talking about going to nightclubs
where certain types of women attend, and where
these women are tipsy, half-drunk, or bombed
out of their minds.

That, to me, is not really what it’s all about.

To me, it’s all about actually meeting the kind
of women who have TRUE potential to be great
girlfriends, the kinds of women that most
men REALLY want.  Ultimately, the kind of
WOMAN you really want for the LONG term.

And you just can’t find those women in a bar
or nightclub, at least not the vast majority of
the time.    

So, what do you do to BE authentic and NOT
memorize material and NOT go in with some
pre-determined plan, and yet STILL be calm
and under control?

Well, this gets to step number TWO:

NUMBER TWO:
PUT ALL YOUR NERVOUS ENERGY INTO
ONE THING- FOCUSING ON HER.

See, the REAL trick to this, is that you don’t
HAVE to memorize or plan ANYTHING, you
can start a conversation with the SIMPLEST
remark or observation that you notice, and
then ALL YOUR FOCUS IS OFF YOU COMPLETELY,
it should ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
go into LISTENING to her, and OBSERVING her,
and REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY
paying attention.

This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good, for so
many reasons, and it really is so friggen insane
how the so called “pick up artists” will sell guys
so much B.S. and nonsense, and miss out on the
BIGGEST thing, which is this.

First of all, by focusing on LISTENING to her and
observing her, rather than on thinking to yourself
“WHAT DO I SAY TO HER?” you go into a much
CALMER state, since there is just about NOTHING
that you have to “figure out” in terms of what
to say or do!

You just LISTEN, OBSERVE, PERCEIVE, PAY ATTENTION, to all that she  says or does. 

So start the conversation with SOME observation:
It could be the oranges she’s looking at in the
supermarket, and you notice she is really taking
her time to get the right ones and you could say
the first thought in your mind from this e.g.

“You’re really picky, aren’t you?”

Is this a REALLY GENIUS HARD COMMENT to think of
when you see her selecting the oranges? No, it’s not.  

The KEY is to OBSERVE her response- let your eyes,
ears, intelligence, and HEART be OPEN so you can
get ALL the things she is saying/implying with her
words, body language, clothing style, etc.

So, she might chuckle first, to which YOU can say:

“You’re laughing.  You think I’m funny.  You were
here to get oranges and now you’re getting more
than just oranges.”
 
Or, she might chuckle and say to you:

“You have to be careful, not all oranges are
equal!” as a joke back to you.

If you’re paying attention to HER, then when
she says to you her comment that not all oranges
are equal, this could trigger in your mind the
thought or image of oranges not all mixing together
properly, or even the thought that oranges
themselves can’t be mixed with oranges, never
mind APPLES and ORANGES!

So you can respond to her with:

“Oh man, now you’re getting really mean!
First they say, not to mix apples and oranges,
but now according to YOU, you can’t even
mix APPLES AND APPLES! That’s it, we’re
done! I want a divorce!”
 
THIS IS FUNNY, and it shows you DID NOT
REHEARSE IT OR PLAN IT.

So she does not go into: “This sucks, this guy
doesn’t even pay attention to me, he just says
the same pick up lines to every woman he meets!”

Instead, you were AUTHENTIC and truly in the
MOMENT and just GENUINELY and AUTHENTICALLY
REACTING to what she was doing and saying. 

Now, I need to add one more important detail
here, which is the following:

NUMBER THREE:
YOU CAN DO ALMOST ANYTHING, BUT YOU MUST
HAVE SOME KIND OF POSITIVE EMOTION GOING
INTO THE APPROACH.

So, you can be intriguing, you can be motivating,
you can be funny, you can of course be FLIRTY,
(you don’t HAVE to start with flirty), but you
DO have to SOME kind of COMPELLING ANGLE,
which flows from your state of mind.

Whatever emotion you are feeling, you will FILTER
the world through that emotion, so if you are totally
in ZOMBIE mode, or totally bored, or totally exhausted,
you just won’t SEE much in any situation where you
find a woman, and no matter WHAT she says to you.

So you have TONS of choices of what emotions
you can be experiencing, you don’t have to be   
x if you are y, you don’t have to change yourself
into being into country music if you are into rock,
or rock if you are into country, you don’t have
to be funny, you don’t have to be mysterious
or intriguing, but you have to be feeling SOMETHING
positive, even if it’s just a love for life, or if it’s
a great song you just heard, or even if you are
just feeling flirty and in a good mood.

You can’t walk in there on a fuel tank that is,
from a positive emotional standpoint, empty.

But that’s it, once you have THAT, almost ALL
your energy goes into OBSERVING AND LISTENING,
and then based on THAT, you just REACT in the
most instinctive way!!!!

So, if a woman tells you she just had a terrible
day at work, you can EASILY go into rapport
with her and make her feel you identify with
her, or you can cheer her up, or you can even
be funny and say “Hey, don’t tell me all your
problems, that’s RUDE!” in a JOKING way,
where she WILL laugh and hence you HAVE
cheered her up.

You see? Because you are GENUINELY listening,
what you SAY and DO can be a trillion percent
AUTHENTIC since all you have to do is REACT
sincerely (which could sometimes include
reacting with a JOKE) rather than make up
stuff!

So, by adopting this approach, you end up
coming across as AUTHENTIC, you don’t
sound off her mental alarm bells, you also
come across as socially intelligent since you
didn’t act selfish by talking only about yourself
but rather you got HER TALKING about herself
and you listened well, which in itself builds
a stronger bond, plus all this shows tons of
guts too, since, after all, you DID approach
her out of the blue and you smoothly got
a beautiful stranger to open up to you.

I love this stuff so much.
And guess what?
I've got MORE for you.

NUMBER FOUR:
TELLING A WOMAN YOU FIND HER ATTRACTIVE

So, you know how in general, putting a
woman on a PEDESTAL is a TERRIBLE
way to try to attract her?

Well guess what? I figured out a way to
actually tell a woman she is beautiful and
have it ONLY do GOOD things for you,
WITHOUT you coming across as a weak
man who will sell his soul for any crumbs
of attention from a beautiful woman.

It all has to do with the INTENT.

You see, getting back to point number
ONE regarding AUTHENTICITY, you
CAN tell a woman that she is beautiful,
because you MEAN it, and it IS the reason
you approached her, but the mistake that
just about EVERY GUY makes is that they
ALSO bring something ELSE into the
situation when they say something like

“You are so beautiful that I had to come
over and say hello.”

The MISTAKE is bringing into the situation
all your thoughts about the future, and how
you would do ANYTHING to be with her, and
how you would REALLY appreciate it, if she was
with you, etc, etc.

I’m talking about even THINKING those thoughts,
because the thoughts affect your emotions.

Now the TRICK to not thinking needy thoughts
is to simply be FULLY AUTHENTIC, which means
NOT romanticizing the moment with endless
thoughts of the FUTURE, and instead just
focus on the PRESENT.

In other words, she is BEAUTIFUL and you
FIND HER ATTRACTIVE.

That’s it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And THAT is OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don’t just mean morally okay, which OF
COURSE it is, what I mean is THAT will
NOT make you seem weak to a woman,
in fact, it can make you seem STRONG,
since you TOOK ACTION on your DESIRE,
and you have no apology for it.

That is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
different than the way most guys would
say the “beautiful” comment.

Also, one of the reasons I usually DON’T
suggest guys approach women with the
“you are so beautiful” comment is because
I myself used to be BRAINWASHED to believe
that women REALLY appreciated it when a
a man found her beautiful, and when a man
in general found her to be more beautiful
than any other woman, etc.

I used to really believe that the biggest thing
in a relationship for a woman is having a man 
that never takes her for granted, that always
finds her so beautiful, etc, etc.

Of course, we are fed this B.S. from the day
we are born, so it’s no wonder so many men
think this, follow this, and then end up having
their hearts torn to shreds.

So, I don’t want guys to make the mistake of
thinking the “beautiful” comment works because
of romantic reasons, and I don’t want guys to
think that their relationships depend on convincing
a woman how beautiful you find her to be,
as that will just make you come across as weak
on an inner level, and women just can’t feel
attraction to men who radiate weakness within.

So that’s why I’m being REALLY careful to be
CLEAR here- the reason the “you’re
so beautiful” comment works in an initial
approach is ONLY if it is done with the
implications given in your vocal tonality that
you are the kind of man who rises to the challenge,
you see a woman you find beautiful, you take
action. 

And yes, of course, a woman also appreciates
the compliment, but it’s not the COMPLIMENT
so much as the fact that YOU are so secure
with yourself, with your value, with being
secure about your sexual value, that all
YOU care about is EXPRESSING IT.

The emphasis is on YOU expressing your interest,
in a non-needy way, through the “beautiful”
comment.  

In fact, the MORE you are COOL with her
NOT reciprocating the same interest, the
BETTER you will do, which is just another
irony is a series of ironies about attraction. 

The reason it works when you DON’T need
her to  MELT for you when you say these
words to her, is that it shows her you are
STRONG, that you are not so obsessed
with her having to now say “I will marry you”
just because you said “You are beautiful”.

Also, another positive element about this
“beautiful” comment, of course, is that it
is AUTHENTIC, and it immediately establishes
that you are not there out of platonic interest,
but rather you ARE A MAN who finds her
to be AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN.

So it sets the wheels in motion in her mind
immediately, and it sets them in the right
direction, rather than pretending you just
want to talk about the weather with her.

Now, of course, on the ULTIMATE level,
when you have mastered EVERYTHING,
you can IMPLY so much in the most subtle
nuances in your expression and tonality,
even if you did approach a woman and
you DID talk about only the weather. 

And, of course, you can also start with
a neutral conversation, and THEN go
into FLIRTY mode, teasing her playfully,
etc.

But before the ultimate level, where you 
can actually do anything, this can be a
great way to improve your results with
women.

There are many roads that lead to Rome,
so to speak, but the KEY is to be AUTHENTIC
and to LISTEN and OBSERVE so that you
can react in the most fitting and most effective
way possible, based on what she is saying
or doing.

There is also another pearl I want to leave
you with, regarding ALL your approaches,
and that is before going into any approach,
you FULLY COMMIT in your mind to doing
your BEST no matter what.

In order to do this, we must accept the possibility
of failure, which leads to number five...

NUMBER FIVE:
ACCEPTING THE POSSIBILITY OF FAILURE.

This is a very subtle, but SUPREMELY POWERFUL
distinction between those guys who do well
and those guys who don’t when it comes to
approaching and attracting women.

You see, if you can’t accept the possibility of
failure, then in your mind, you will NOT give
ALL of yourself into your approach, because
you are too AFFECTED by that thought- the
thought of failure. 

It is ONLY when you are PREPARED TO
ACCEPT FAILURE, and you STILL feel that
indeed it is STILL WORTH IT, THAT SUCCESS
WITH THE WOMAN IS WORTH IT SO MUCH
THAT THE COST OF POSSIBLE FAILURE IS
NOT ENOUGH OF A DETERRENT.

You have to really WANT success with
women to the point that success means
MORE TO YOU, much, much, MUCH more,
than failure. 

And if you are reading this right now
and you want to SKYROCKET your success
with women, I suggest you get your hands
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The material in this program comes from
REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE. In fact, at first
I was reluctant to even give these
secrets away, as I worked damn hard
to figure them all out, but then I
realized that this will keep me even
more hungry to KEEP ON ADVANCING in
this field of attracting women, which
is my passion.

In case you may be wondering why I am
so confident that my materials, coaching,
and bootcamps are so effective, it is
because I get to see men getting results
with them in my actual bootcamps.
 
Here's another thing about me and my
programs: I don't spend my time on MARKETING,
I just focus on the actual ATTRACTION skills
and I obsess to improve the field ceaselessly.

It’s the reason that The Toronto Star chose me
from all the instructors on Earth as the best coach
for men who not only want to attract a gorgeous woman,
but a gorgeous woman who would also make for a great
relationship as well, in the Toronto Star’s “Get A
Relationship Challenge”.

It’s also the reason David D’Angelo, best selling
author, said, "One of Michael's passions is not
only just how to attract women but also how
to find a great woman who would make a
fantastic girlfriend, and also how to create
attraction in a way that creates and builds
 trust, rather than create attraction in a way
that hurts trust which a lot of guys do."

It is this standard of excellence and passion behind
my work which will give YOU the success you desire
with women as well.

The best thing you can do right now is
download this important new program for
skyrocketing your success with women,
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

A MAJOR Secret On How To Approach Women

I have something VERY important to tell you
about approaching women. It is something
most men get WRONG, and understanding this
will make a MASSIVE difference in your
approaches on women!

If you see a woman you would like to approach,
for example, at a food court somewhere, do any
of the options below provide the best solution?

Answer A:
You take a few minutes to decide the best thing
to say, and then you walk over to her and say it.

Answer B:
You take a few minutes to decide what to say,
and then you carefully walk over but you make
sure she does NOT see you coming, so it can
look like you just happened to be walking
in that direction toward her for something else
and not as if SHE was the main reason you
were walking that way.

Answer C:
You go over right away, directly toward her,
even though this means she can see you coming.
However, you then try to make sure it does NOT
seem as if you are actually interested in her in a
way that has to do with sex.  You chat to her
for an hour about something intelligent so that
it seems this is not about sex.

Answer D:
You go over right away, and you decide to
make it CLEAR you are interested in her
in a way that does have to do with attraction
and with her as a woman,  and you decide
to do this  by TELLING her that you think she
is very sexy and that you would like to go
out with her.  

And the BEST ANSWER is:
NONE of the above.

The REAL answer is to approach her DIRECTLY
even if she sees you walking toward her, and
then when you approach her to chat, you
should NOT verbally start with telling her
that you are attracted to her, and you ALSO
should not try to make it seem as if you
are NOT interested in her either.

Just keep it upbeat.
So, for example, you could go right into
something like this:

"That looks REALLLLLLLLY GOOD! That is what
I like in a woman, someone who enjoys life
and does not deprive herself!"

In this example, you are delivering the
message with flair, with fun, and you
are giving her a playful compliment
without kissing up AT ALL.

Also, the comment is totally spontaneous,
it is not a memorized pick-up line, it
is something born of, and in, the MOMENT,
which makes it feel more REAL instead of
REHEARSED.   

It is also the kind of topic that can easily
lead into a fun chat about guilty pleasures
like chocolate or television watching, plus
it can give you a lead-in to enjoying food
more with some company and you sitting there
with her for your lunch. 

She might comment that actually the food
she is eating is healthy, it is not a
guilty thing, and you can playfully
respond with something like "Let me guess,
you're a lawyer, right?" with a smirk
as you say it. 

Then she might tell you whatever it is
she really is, or she might ask you
about yourself, all this is good
CONVERSATION.

Then, after just a few moments of this,
you can chill out more and slowly get
to a DEEPER CONNECTION based on shared
VALUES, which also only takes a few
minutes.

And THEN, if you connect, you let her
know that you want to see her again. 
 
So, to recap what happened here is:
First, you DIRECTLY approach her.
You walk right up to her, even if she
sees you from far away.  It is a good
thing anyway if she sees this, as I
will explain below.

Then, when you reach her, you chat about anything
that is fun, upbeat, intriguing, or playful,
as long as you ARE ACTUALLY being either fun,
upbeat, intriguing, or playful.  (This gets
back to being congruent, which is an important
topic in itself.)

Allow me to explain WHY this is the best way to
approach a woman, especially if this is NOT a
nightclub or a party environment.

It all stems from the fact that women FEEL a
tremendous pressure to not even ACCIDENTALLY
appear promiscuous.

This newsletter could go on for several YEARS
giving you the entire history of the perceptions
of men about female sexuality, so I will just
give a few serious examples:

For MANY years, even into the modern era or psychology
and psychiatry, most men thought that women did not
even HAVE orgasms!  In other words, most men thought
that women were not even really sexual  beings!

Then, on TOP of that, any woman who WAS perceived
as promiscuous was viewed as the absolute LOWEST,
the very BOTTOM of the totem pole of status in society.

Of course, the men who get lots of women are often
viewed as COOL, i.e. Hugh Hefner, or at least viewed
as POWERFUL, i.e. many kings who had tons of women.

And even today, the fact is, most men would like
to have sex with lots of women, but they do not
want a girlfriend who is promiscuous or who even
WAS promiscuous.

Meanwhile, the TRUTH is, that women indeed DO
have urges and desires just as INTENSE as men,
if not even MORE intense than men.

So women are not looking to screw up their lives
and their reputations.   If a guy approaches a woman
and seems OVERLY into the superficial, especially
if he does this RIGHT OFF THE BAT with the following
kind of comment:

****You are so beautiful.****

The BIGGEST REASON that FAILS (unless delivered
in a SUPER CONFIDENT way) is NOT just because
it seems like a form of kissing up.

Rather, the WRECKAGE left by such a comment
is also because it makes a woman feel that if she
REWARDS this kind of approach by even TALKING
to him, she feels she will be viewed by him as a SLUT.

She also figures that anyone who FINDS OUT she
talked to him will ALSO feel she is a slut.

This is why women will IMMEDIATELY shut down
ANY guy who shows he is IGNORANT of this issue.
Women are RUTHLESS in this regard, and if you
understand the massive repercussions women pay
if they are not careful about this, it makes
TOTAL SENSE.

Ahhhh, but some guys have GROWN WISE to this,
or so they think.

And PRESTO, such is born the OVERLY NICE GUY
APPROACH.

So you have these guys that do EVERYTHING in
their power to NOT come across as interested in
sex. The guy approaches the woman indirectly,
he pretends to be walking the same way as her,
he pretends to be interested in her choice of
stationary, books, purse, movies, etc, etc.

Now, a TINY bit of the NICE GUY stuff is not
the end of the world.

But the TRUTH  is, if you ever used the Overly
Nice Guy approach and ended up attracting a
woman who was  a stranger, and you ended up
sleeping with her, and she became your girlfriend
or whatever, it was not because you approached
her with the NICE GUY stuff.

It was because you managed to chat with her WITHOUT
triggering her WORRY of being labelled a SLUT.

Then you got her number or something like that,
and then you met up, and ALL ALONG she WANTED
to have sex with you, and you managed to NOT
trigger fears in this regard.

She was THINKING about how WILD it would be
to go NUTS with you in bed from pretty much the
FIRST MOMENT you approached her.

And the problem is that a lot of guys FORGET THIS,
they pour on so much NICE GUY APPROACH that the
woman figures maybe this guy is NOT into women,
maybe this guy is going to take FOREVER to get
physical with, maybe this guy does not REALIZE
how women have mind-blowing fantasies that
would make most men BLUSH.

So just because women do not want to be labelled sluts,
does NOT mean to in ANY way pretend you are NOT
a sexual person.

And the WAY to demonstrate that you are a MAN,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY showing you understand
women have these sensitivities and concerns,
is to simply APPROACH WOMEN DIRECTLY, yet at
the same time keep the INITIAL CONVERSATION
simply a POSITIVE experience that is NOT
too overtly sexual.

(In a club, though, the sexual can happen
a lot faster since the whole POINT of
a club is really about PARTY TIME.)

She KNOWS the reason you approached her!
She is GLAD you approached her.

She is MORE happy that you approached her
DIRECTLY rather than conveying that you
think you need to be SNEAKY about it by
going in some kind of strange circle or
zig-zag pattern or somehow coming up
behind her.

The most BRILLIANT path toward her is
DIRECTLY toward her in terms of your
actual physical WALK UP to her.

But in terms of the conversation, you convey
masculinity, you convey interest, you convey
your insight into women, by actually NOT
talking about the physical stuff too much
if at ALL, not until you FIRST establish
more of a FLOW of a conversation and
more of a CONNECTION.

So you APPROACH directly.

However, your CHAT should convey your
interest INDIRECTLY, because your APPROACH
already makes it pretty darn clear why
you are chatting to her, and any more
runs the risk of overdoing it and
triggering her fears of being labelled
a slut and SHUTTING you down..

The calmness of your demeanor, the
COMFORT you feel and display while
chatting with her, all THAT is what shows
the right stuff about you and your
intentions in the beginning.

It is even okay to say something this:

***I just wanted to chat with you and
see what you are about.***

Then, you actually see if for REAL
you two can have FUN chatting together,
being playful together.

This is why you should NOT go on for
an hour about something too deep or
intelligent, because the first part
of the chat is about PLAYFULNESS
or at least about some kind of
chemistry.

Before you can play in the bedroom,
you have to be able to play outside
the bedroom.

If you go on for an hour about something
serious, you VAPORIZE the sexual and fun
vibes and you instead create the boring
vibe of an old, empty, dusty, lecture hall.

And THEN, you ALSO test to see if you
both have something ELSE important in
common BESIDES just wanting to go wild
on each other.

And THAT provides the ULTIMATE solution
on how to ensure you do not trigger her
fears of being labelled a slut, because
if there is a REAL connection between
you two, then she cannot BE a slut.

And THEN, you can ALSO tell her once that
she is cute, attractive, or whatever.

Remember, though, that she KNEW that is what
you thought all along when you approached her,
but you can tell her once, (after you two have
connected) just to make it absolutely clear
to her that you intend to pursue this all
the way to the end, for REAL, as a man.

What you have just read is so important, that
it will play a MAJOR role in EVERY SINGLE
interaction you ever have with any woman you
approach that you want to attract.

And yet, as POWERFUL as it is, it is also the
TIP of the iceberg of TONS of other VITAL
insights and strategies on attracting the women
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I did not sit at HOME coming up with this program.
Instead, I learned it all on the FIELD, through
years of experience, and then only AFTER that,
and after SEEING it WORK for OTHER guys
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Attract Women Without Playing Games

Weekends are pretty hectic so this is
going to be a very brief newsletter,
but very important as well.

The most effective "pickups", or
what I prefer to call situations of
"approaching and attracting women"
are done when you convey all the
right things about yourself in the
LEAST amount of time, using the
LEAST amount of energy, and using
zero cheesy or corny tactics.

Now, I fully understand that sometimes
as a beginner, it can feel good to
have some pick up lines memorized,
to feel confident through knowing
you have some story memorized to
tell her that is supposed to convey
that you are cool, or is supposed
to be funny, etc., etc.

But you really want to wean yourself
off of those things as soon as possible,
or if at all possible to avoid using
them altogether.

(Again, though, I do understand how
it can sometimes be useful for a guy
who simply feels too overwhelmed
without them at first. I just suggest
a guy gets OFF them as soon as he can.)

The problem with all these things
is that they prevent you from being
your best, because they end up becoming
crutches that you can become addicted
to using.

The problem with all these things
is that they prevent you from being
your best, because they end up becoming
crutches that you can become addicted
to using.

And the use of those crutches actually
WEAKENS your inner game, (your inner
game, of course, is NOT a game at all, it is
your REAL inner strength) because you
are sending the message DIRECTLY to
your mind through ACTION that you
do NOT believe you can pull off
attracting the woman you want
UNLESS you use those superficial
tactics.

Now, on the other hand, when you
force yourself to use ZERO GAMES,
you then have to MASSIVELY rely
on your OWN ABILITY to attract
women.

And when I say your own ability, this
is referring to the MULTITUDE of skills
that are already in your DNA, but are
currently ASLEEP, lying dormant, waiting
to be AWOKEN.

What I am all about is helping men to
bring these elements of themselves that
are ALREADY THERE, but are sleeping,
to LIFE.

And trust me, what you have got already
in your system, from a billion years of
evolution, is A TRILLION TIMES MORE POWERFUL
than any pick up line or memorized material.

The human mind is powerful not only this
way, but also in the sense that women can
TELL if you are using SUPERFICIAL TACTICS.

That does not mean they always MIND, but
it definitely means that you will come
across as FAR MORE ATTRACTIVE if the
woman senses that you generated every
single element of the pickup on your
own, based on the actual real life
spontaneous moment that you saw her.

In one of my bootcamps, a client had mentioned
to me that he was interested in learning
how to master the pick up without using
anything external to himself. 

That meant no pick up lines at all.
No subtle but funny insults to 
make her feel insecure.
No fake compliments to kiss up.

So the entire bootcamp ran without so
much as even one tiny single SUPERFICIAL
tactic.

Instead, his inner game was taken to
new heights, his spontaneous conversation
skills soared, and he learned to convey
sexuality without saying a single dirty
joke or making any innuendos.

And he turned his entire "game" around
in just a few approaches, and the most
amazing thing about it is that he was
suddenly getting women laughing and
melting and opening up for him
without saying MUCH.

In fact, once he got them going, he
leaned back and they pretty much did
the rest of the work!

By the way, one of the coolest things
to me is when the woman is giving off
MASSIVE signals of interest, but a guy
is learning so fast that he doesn't
think it is for real.

So for example, this cool guy, he got
this woman melting for him, and I am
watching this from a bit away so she
cannot see, and he then walks away
from her, he tells me that he did
not take her number because he
was not sure if she was really into
him or not.

I knew with a trillion percent certainty
that she was into him MASSIVELY or she
would not have been asking him questions
such as "So what are your plans for
Saturday night?", which he told me that
she asked him.

So I told him to go BACK and find her
and take her number, which is kind of
interesting since the pick up was in a
way over, but I knew she was INTO him.

Not only that, but since I knew she
was into him, I knew that she would
be even MORE attracted this time,
since the human mind tends to get
DEEPER INTO an emotional experience
when you stimulate the emotion,
then pause the stimulation, and
then later continue the stimulation.

This is known as FRACTIONATION, and
is also a great idea to use when
making out with a woman when in
foreplay as well. 

(Kissing her, then stopping,
then kissing again later. Petting,
then stopping, then some more,
stopping, then some more, till
she is heating up and starting to
rub on you like crazy.)  

But, I do NOT recommend that guys
break up the initial approach this
way, because you can end up really
losing her if she happens to leave
the area.

So he finds her in another aisle of the store,
and calls her name out with TOTAL CONFIDENCE.

I am changing her name for the sake of
privacy, but he does not say to her
"Uhm, Jennifer?"

Instead, he sees her from a bit away,
and says:
"JENNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! What are you DOING??????"

He TOTALLY commits to the delivery,
with a trillion percent conviction.

No namby-pamby weak style.
Instead, he puts it ALL out there.

This is cool, because a woman senses this
man MEANS BUSINESS.

Her body language opened up to him
so wide, and she smiled so warmly,
it was as if in a movie a woman had
thought she had lost the love of her
life and then FOUND him again.

So of course, he got the number, and
they chatted more, and if it weren't for
the bootcamp itself, he could have left
with her right then and there, but he
had further training since the bootcamp
was still on.

And I honestly do not like to obsess
about women who are hot and young,
but it just so happens she was an
attractive younger woman.

PICK UP IS NOT SUPPOSED TO TAKE FOREVER.
I don't even like the term "pick-up"
but I use it since it seems to be
the most common way to refer to it.

One of the reasons I don't love the
term "pick-up" is because it sends
a message to your own mind that this
is some kind of ACT, some kind of
fake thing where you have to pull
the wool over women's eyes, when
in reality it is ACTUALLY about
unleashing the MAN in you in all
the right ways and at the moment
when it COUNTS when you see the
woman you want to meet.

And it is about doing all this while
STILL having tons of warmth in your soul
and STILL being a sensitive person who
cares about others.

It's not about being a jerk or being fake
or being manipulative.

And when it is done right, it all happens
VERY QUICKLY, and with very LITTLE
talking, and with very little effort.

If a stranger were to walk by within
a MINUTE of the conversation starting,
he would think FOR SURE this guy and
girl MUST already be boyfriend and
girlfriend or have already known
each other a LONG TIME.

It is when a guy is NOT doing it
properly, that it takes forever,
and that you will notice the guy
is making all kinds of exaggerated
actions, over the top jokes,
and other forms of overcompensation.

When you have the conversation skills,
and when you understand the right things
about women, and when you also are in the
RIGHT STATE OF MIND, you actually end up
doing MILLIONS of subtle things with your
expression, your tonality, your timing,
your body language, that ALL COMMUNICATE
THE RIGHT THINGS about yourself to a woman.

And THAT is what I teach you to DO.
I do not waste your time trying to teach
you a TRILLION pick up tactics so that you
can IMITATE what the right thing is supposed
to look like.

Instead, I focus on BRINGING TO LIFE that
part of you that is deep within that will
AUTOMATICALLY DO ALL THE RIGHT THINGS
when you interact with women!

It is not about my special pick up tactics,
I do not HAVE any special cheesy tactics,
instead what I have is TEN YEARS EXPERIENCE
in teaching you how to REVIVE that billion-years-in
the-making part of your mind that ALREADY
know how to attract women INSTINCTIVELY.
(It just has been BURIED DEEP under endless
misguided social conditioning.)

The honest truth is that I was teaching this
advanced method even way back when pick up
lines were all the rage. And the other truth
is that since then, I've taken the training
to an even DEEPER level where you will not
only be able to initially attract women but
you will understand what to do at every stage
including the long-term attraction as well.

Now here's the thing: I know some of you
might think that since Michael just said
that the best way to attract women is
to just not use any tactics at all, then
what the heck does he teach?

What I teach is all about the SUBTLETIES.

It is like saying, everyone knows that
to get big muscles, you need to lift
weights and eat right.

But at one point, it is ESSENTIAL to
learn HOW to do this, and even though
working out is a real thing, the body
was meant to exercise, that does not
mean we all know how to do it PROPERLY,
especially since we tend to live in
societies where we do not get a lot
of exercise.

It is the same thing with my programs.
I teach you the best way to use your
REAL SELF to get you RESULTS with
women.

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learning how to unleash your inner game,
and on how to attract and keep a quality
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Till next time,

Michael Marks