Hitting the 'THE SWEET SPOT' To Attract Women

Today I need to explain something called THE SWEET SPOT.

It is MASSIVELY IMPORTANT for attracting women.

I wrote about this in the past, but it's been a long time so I have a feeling most guys have forgotten how ABSOLUTELY IMPORTANT this is for success in attracting women.

The only thing I CARE about when it comes to this thing called “how to attract women” is getting guys RESULTS.  No mumbo-jumbo, no hocus-pocus, no superstition.

It all must actually WORK.

So today, I’m going to share with you some of the GREATEST points of all time regarding how to attract women.

Obviously, these are going to be the BROAD strokes here, as it would be impossible to put every detail in one newsletter and that is the reason I have my actual programs.

So let’s begin.

ONE: HIT “THE SWEET SPOT”

By the “sweet spot” I mean the right BLEND of confidence mixed with kindness.

I often call this mixture the right "balance",
but a client referred to this mixture, or this right
balance I was describing, as "the sweet spot",
and I like the words "the sweet spot" as a term.  

And yes, KINDNESS is absolutely attractive to
women, WHEN it is blended with POWER.

If you just show kindness, you are kissing up.
If you just show power/dominance/confidence,
you are coming across as an insecure JERK.

When you BLEND kindness with power, you
become attractive and charismatic.

So, for example, telling a woman she has impeccable
taste in men is a playful way of giving her a compliment
and saying something cool about yourself.

Helping a woman who is looking for directions and then
playfully telling her you will bill her for the help, is
kind and confident.

 







If a woman gives YOU a compliment, i.e. she says, “You are pretty cool”, and you say, “I know”- THAT shows confidence.

If you then pull her into you and kiss her, that shows affection on top of the confidence.

It’s this MIXING of confidence and kindness that is VERY cool.

Most guys MISS the target.  They come in too
arrogant in their effort to show confidence, or
they come in too “nice” in their effort to show
kindness, caring, or affection.

Miss the mark, and get NOTHING.
Hit the mark, and you start a CHAIN REACTION
inside her mind that  results in a BURSTING FIRE
OF HEATED ATTRACTION for you.

Here’s an analogy that came up from the same client
during a bootcamp when it “clicked” in his mind,
he said the following, and I paraphrase:

“It’s like that scene at the end of the original
Star Wars, when they blow up the "Death Star".
Luke had to fire into a super NARROW area
and ONLY a direct hit in that super tight
area would work.”





Miss the target, however, and the "Death Star" is left
TOTALLY UNAFFECTED.

HIT the target, and the entire thing IGNITES
into a fireball of a billion glowing splinters.

It’s the same with women but in a positive
way:

MISS the mark, and it’s pretty much NOTHING.   
      
But if you hit the “sweet spot” in their mind
with that combo of CONFIDENCE/POWER
mixed with KINDNESS, and it is quite
literally INSTANT attraction heat they
feel in the most primal sense for you.

TWO:  THE THRILL OF THE GAME

What I mean by this is that APPROACHING
WOMEN for the goal of romance, sex, etc,
is ABSOLUTELY THRILLING and so
there is not even a QUESTION of whether it
is “worth it” or not to approach women!

Seriously, aside from having your HEALTH and FOOD or SHELTER, I can’t think of anything MORE rewarding.

And I don’t just mean the end product, I mean that even the PROCESS itself is awesome.

Approaching women is a BLAST.

Let’s say you love football.
Would you ONLY play football if you knew you were going to WIN every single game????

Or does a guy who LOVES football love ALL his games, even if he doesn’t WIN them all?

That’s because to him football is EXCITING.

When you approach women, especially women
who are TOTAL STRANGERS, it is the most
exciting thing in the world, at least to the guys
I know and for myself as well.

I’ll tell you why:
Each time you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are INTERFERING with the
entire fabric of your UNIVERSE.

That woman may very well be the woman who
turns out to be your LOVER, and/or the mother 
of your children, or the woman who inspires you
to be all you can be.

But if you are not BOLD, you will just sit back
and let it all be, and NOTHING will happen,
an entire DIFFERENT future (possibly boring)
instead of the possibly AMAZING one you could
have had, IF you had taken action to approach her.

And it’s YOU who is changing your own destiny.
YOU are the one TAKING ACTION.

Part of being a MAN in just about every culture
on EARTH is being the one who takes the lead
when it comes to the human “mating”. 

Women ARE DEEPLY AFFECTED by a man’s
DARING, his BOLDNESS, his BRAVERY,
his INITIATIVE.  And they know full well
how INTIMIDATING it is for most men
to approach women who are total strangers.

So DOING THE APPROACH not only is the only way to MEET her as a stranger,  but it ALSO sends the right message
because of the very fact it DOES take guts to do it!

If you want to be successful at approaching women, it is important to realize that the approaches themselves are PART of the excitement.

Also, when you have the skill that comes from doing a lot of approaches, women can SENSE that you have options, because you actually SUBCONSCIOUSLY behave differently, and they pick up on those signals.

Women can often TELL that you have options by sizing up your confidence which shows up in all kinds of subtle subconscious ways when you interact with women.

And  when a woman knows you have OPTIONS, she gets even MORE attracted.

And all this is because you DO the approaches.
So it’s NEVER a “waste” of time to approach
women, because the SKILL SET in itself
becomes something women RESPECT
and are ATTRACTED to in you.

Instead of being a man who HOPES that
he will get women, you are the man who
TAKES ACTION.

THREE: ALWAYS BEHAVE AS IF YOU
ALREADY KNEW YOU HAD HER, AND
AS IF A BILLION OTHER SUPER-HOT WOMEN
WERE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS.

What is such a tragedy is that there is so little
TIME to make the right impression on a woman
who is a total stranger.

The GOOD PART of this however, is that if you
do it RIGHT, and you make the right impression,
that impression will STICK LIKE CRAZY GLUE!

In her mind, she knows NOTHING about you.
So you have a PERFECTLY CLEAN SLATE
to create the PERFECT image.
 
She has NOTHING to contradict any positive
message you create about yourself. 

Soooooooooooo, what this means is if you
BEHAVE as if you already HAD her in your
palm, if you behave as if you have a billion
other options but you still are interested in her,
then SHE WILL FEEL THIS IS THE TRUTH
ABOUT YOU.

It’s also a great way to PREVENT coming across
as insecure or a jerk.

Plenty of guys THINK they are acting “confident”
by telling a woman OFF the first second the woman
does something they don’t like.

But if a guy is REALLY confident and secure, he
feels NO NEED to have to PROVE himself or
to insult her.  Instead, when a guy is super-secure
he often can see the REAL reasons a woman is
behaving a certain way.

What I mean by this is that it’s NORMAL for
a woman to be a bit CAUTIOUS when meeting
a man who is a total stranger.

A guy who is INSECURE will feel THREATENED
and possibly INSULTED by anything she does that
isn’t a clear sign of her INTEREST.

But a guy who is secure will NOT feel threatened
and is far more likely to respond to anything she
does in the most ATTRACTIVE way.

So for example, if a woman is asking a guy a lot
of questions about “does he pick up lots of women
in stores” or something like that, a SECURE guy
knows she is actually INTERESTED and she just
is trying to find out if HE is serious at all about
her or is she just “woman number one thousand”
to him.

So a secure guy will give a warm smile and possibly
joke to her that indeed she is number one thousand,
(just to get that out of the way since he knows she
is thinking it) and then in a CALM voice tone, say:

“Actually, meeting the RIGHT person is what it’s all about, right? We all meet people, but it’s about meeting the right one.”


TRUST ME, the way you BEHAVE is worth a
TRILLION TIMES more than how much MONEY
you have, what you LOOK like, or how FAMOUS
you are, or whether you are a rockstar or not.

In fact, a client recently emailed me about a guy who was a real rock star who really WAS great with attracting women, and who then traded lives with a dude who was a “regular guy” who was NOT good at all at attracting women.

Somehow they managed to fool most strangers.
In other words, people thought the regular dude
WAS the rock star guy and they thought the rock star
guy was the regular dude.

Well, guess what happened? The guy who really
WAS the authentic rock star dude STILL did
awesome with women, even though he had NONE
of the “rock star” status.

And the guy who could NOT attract women beforehand
STILL couldn’t do well even WITH the “rock star”
status.

That’s because the CHARISMA is what REALLY COUNTS. 

You can’t just BUY the right behaviors, attitudes, feelings, etc.
You can’t just “adopt” them from someone else.

And if you DO convey the right behaviors, actions,
attitudes, feelings, etc, then NO ONE can somehow
make you UNDESIRABLE, no matter what they do.

You can see this all the time in real life. Take a look
at any ten random women who are gorgeous, and you will
find out that MOST of these women are with guys
that SEEM ordinary until you actually INTERACT
with them.

As you can tell, EVERYTHING you read here comes from REAL WORLD experience.

And I can ACCELERATE your learning curve in the real world of approaching women.  You can save YEARS from learning it all the hard way, because I can show you the DIRECT path instead of you taking the trial-and-error path.

The trial-and-error path of trying to succeed with women not only is INEFFICIENT, but it also can DRAIN your motivation from going through infinite FRUSTRATION.   

I seriously suggest you take my Real World Bootcamp because I will PERSONALLY show you EVERYTHING you need to know, and it will all be done for REAL.

The Real World Bootcamp is non-stop IMMERSION in the world of approaching women who are totalstrangers, with a very special twist: You're getting expert coaching, the result of over ten years experience from someone who has been getting men RESULTS with women for all that time, every step of the way. 

In the Real World Bootcamp, you learn how to
master the skills for successfully approaching
women right out of the blue, anywhere, who are
total strangers- and then ATTRACTING them.

The Bootcamp makes you self-sufficient because
it teaches you exactly what you need to do to
optimize your approaches to women who are complete
strangers, anywhere, so that you can maximize
the chances of getting them attracted, connected,
and wanting to know you more.

Think of a personal trainer at the gym: He shows 
you proper form, strategy, and technique.

WithOUT the expert  instruction, one will never
optimize their results, and will also likely get injured
and then not be able to work out at all, possibly for years.

Just going out to the gym with no clue what
you are doing can result in not only very little
to no progress, but it can actually result in
making a guy WORSE OFF than had he never gone
to the gym at all.

Similarly, going out to approach women without
expert training can result in a lot of negative
habits that actually push women AWAY.


It can also create negative emotional associations 
in your OWN mind with approaching, to the point
that a guy never does it again, and misses out
on the entire world of possibilities with all
the women that are out there, all the women
that he does not get to meet through rare
"luck" situations.

This bootcamp teaches you how to USE all those opportunities that are available everyday when you see women ANYWHERE, including at the mall, cafe, park, library, post office or grocery store, or just walking on the sidewalk or while riding the bus or train - it could absolutely ANYWHERE.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Power Of Self-Belief

There are two aspects of being successful

when it comes to meeting and attracting

a woman. The first part is having the

finesse in terms of skills to approach

a woman anywhere in any situation and

smoothly get a conversation rolling that

demonstrates attractive character traits,

such as confidence, intelligence, wit,

and empathy.

The second part, though, is what is going

on “behind the scenes” so to speak, in

your mind, in your life, etc. It’s a little

hard sometimes to be confident and

be in the right states of mind when

everything else is going to hell in your

life.

So, today, I just want to briefly yet in

an important way address that other

side.  Now, the examples I am about

to give are dramatic but all true, and

you don’t necessarily have to do the

same things in your life, but the point

is going to be the same nonetheless:

Nothing breeds success like success.

So if you are successful in one thing,

it’s easier to take that confidence to

another thing as well.  This includes

being successful in any goal in your life.

And the number one thing you need to

know regarding being successful in  

any goal in your life is that most people

fail due to FEAR, which also leads to

lack of EFFORT.  If you are too afraid

of failure, for example, you won’t put

in the effort, you will lose motivation,

you will be easily overwhelmed by

the slightest setback.

And the most horrifying thing about

fear is that it DISTORTS your perception

of the actual situation, it makes you think

things are worse than they are.

This is why, so often in life, people NEED

to have someone or something to FORCE them

to do important things because if it wasn’t through

force, they would give into their fear.

So, sometimes, for example a kid might be

afraid to go to the doctor, but the parent,

after trying all kinds of other ways that

don’t work, has to ultimately force the kid to go,

and it’s a good thing.

But once you’re an adult, you really don’t get

someone to force you to do the right things

in your life.  YOU have to force yourself.

YOU have to push through the fear.

YOU have to work your butt off.

YOU have to do the research and learning.

The good news, though, is that once you

understand this, suddenly you are able to

accomplish so much, and as you accomplish

this, you start to see how so many people

fail due to fear.

When Arnold Schwarzenegger was a kid

who wanted to become a champion bodybuilder,

his parents thought he was off his rocker. He

was a kid in a town in Austria after World

War II where bodybuilding was considered

even stranger than it was in America at that

time, and there was little opportunity for

financial success in that sport anywhere,

even in America.

But he didn’t let anyone’s thoughts of him

failing allow him to stop him from achieving

this goal.  Not only did he become a champion,

but along the way, before then, when he lost,

you could not even tell he lost from his

expression on his face- there is a famous

photo of him coming in second before the

years where he won undefeated year after

year.

In that photo, where he lost, from his face,

he looks like he won.  That is confidence, that

is happiness, that is passion for your sport.

He worked HARD.  Before getting any movie

roles, he was already a millionaire. He had

worked as a bricklayer, he started a construction

company, he sold bodybuilding manuals through

the mail. 

And when he wanted to become an actor,

at the time being insanely muscular was not

in vogue for actors or even action stars.

And they said he had too thick of an accent.

They said he could never play anything more

than a tiny role as a bouncer or other similar

minor roles in any film.

But within a few years, he became the highest

paid actor and conquered two genres, both action

and comedy.

And then when he wanted to become a politician,

they said he could never win, they made fun of

his lack of experience and said he should stick

to movies, but he ended up winning TWO terms

as governor of California.

When a person conquers a sport, conquers the

acting profession, conquers politics, and also

becomes a millionaire before even landing

an acting gig, it is not a coincidence.

Similarly, when James Cameron, the man who

made Avatar, wanted to make films, they said

he was too old and he didn’t have the education,

since he had never gone to film school and was

already 30 years old.

And even after proving to the world his ability

and expertise with The Terminator, (where for
a while right after, they were all believing in him)
when it came time for each of his new films, again
most people around him lost faith and they said
he would fail. 

With each film, whether it was Terminator 2, 
Titanic, or Avatar, it didn't matter- they said
he would fail, and they always had some
supposedly "good reason" for believing he
would fail.

Each time, he took on NEW challenges in
his films, pioneering new ideas and taking on
new challenges that most others around
him could never take on due to fear-
challenges that OTHERS did not believe
they or anyone else could handle.

They said he would never make back the enormous
money it cost to make Terminator 2.  

Of course, it became one of the most highly 
profitable films in history.

They said that Titanic would be a failure

since everyone already knew the ending,

and since it didn’t feature stars who were

famous at the time, and since it was too

long at about 3 hours, and since it was

a historical period piece, a genre that

tends to not do well at the box-office.

And when it came to Avatar, people were

saying it was also going to fail, that no

one is going to be interested in a bunch

of blue aliens with tails.

So, my point is that you need to have one

HELL of a strong INTERNAL DRIVE

because if you expect to be “encouraged”

by the outside world, you WON’T BE.

In fact, so often the most successful people

are driven to succeed BECAUSE they

were told they would fail, because they

wanted to PROVE these people wrong.

So, when it comes to your own life, JUST

STICK TO YOUR GOALS and don’t let

people screw with your CONFIDENCE.

This includes your confidence with women

as well. In fact, I have seen this countless

times: A woman will give a guy the cold

shoulder, and then his REACTION is so

confident, that his REACTION actually

GETS the woman interested.

For example, I’ve seen in my bootcamps

situations where a woman will say to a

guy she is too busy to date anyone, and the

guy will tell her that is perfect, because he

has no time either, instead of telling her

how much he needs to have her in his life,

and all of a sudden she laughs and starts

to melt and starts to re-engage in the

conversation.

It’s a very crazy world, and I didn’t make it

this way, it just is what it is.  The hungry

never get fed.  Those that have the power get

everything. Most women will give nothing to

the guy that is a nice guy but has no confidence

and no power.

But to the guy that has the confidence and

the power,  they will throw themselves at

him, and excuse just about all his negative

behaviors.

I always find it strange that certain women

(not all) will condemn a celebrity who is unfaithful

to his girlfriend or wife, but yet these same

“condemners” would never give the time of

day to a “nice guy” WITHOUT the power,

without the confidence, and would in a

heartbeat be THRILLED to be the next

in line to be with that celebrity.

In the same way that some men are brainwashed

by the “halo effect” of a beautiful woman,

and will excuse or rationalize the WORST

behavior of a woman who is beautiful,

so too some women are overwhelmed by

the halo effect of a man who resonates

POWER and CONFIDENCE.

Looks can definitely help a man as well, but

when it comes to men, women’s attraction is

not limited to this, it extends to his strength

of personality- the BEHAVIORS he displays.

And the only way to resonate those things

is to LIVE it.  You must be INTERNALLY

driven, you can’t depend on a woman or

anyone actually, to tell you how smart you

are, how great you are, how successful you

will be, that you will make it, etc, etc.

YOU must believe.

And the irony is, that when you do this,

in the long run, EVERYONE believes in you,

which is just another one of those things in

life that is ironic, when you don’t need

anyone to believe in you because YOU

believe in you, then ultimately everyone

believes in you.

For my most powerful program on

SKYROCKETING your INTERNAL

self, for conquering fears, for building

your SELF-BELIEF, I seriously suggest

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Get A Woman To Keep Thinking Of You Long After The Initial Chat

One of the big things in attracting a woman
who is a total stranger is not just the initial
chat, but getting her to STAY attracted and
still be thinking of you in a positive way
long after the initial chat.

So let me get straight to TWO massive
concepts that are RIDICULOUSLY
important for success with women.

The first has to do with FAKE versus
REAL confidence.

While on one hand, you can try to FAKE
confidence, and “faking it till you make it”
is better than doing nothing, the problem
is if you are not prepared to LIVE the
lifestyle of confidence, you will end up
a NERVOUS WRECK if you DO get
the woman and you start to worry that
she will detect that it was all an act.

So what I mean is, you must start to take
the behaviors that the confident version
of yourself would take in ALL ASPECTS
OF YOUR LIFE, day in and day out, on
a regular basis.

This way, you will actually LIVE the
actions of confident decisions and you
will OOZE with the VIBES of confidence
when interacting with women as well.

Women really DO MASSIVELY RESPOND
to confidence, because CONFIDENCE always
breeds SUCCESS.  And by “confidence” I
don’t mean that you are always FEELING
confident, but that you are at least never
giving into INSECURITY.

So now, let me give one of the all-time classic
examples of a CONFIDENT response.  It comes
from The Empire Strikes Back, when Han Solo
replies to Princess Leia when they are captured,
she tells him that she loves him, just moments
before the enemy is going to freeze him in
carbonite for God knows how long, maybe forever.

Han’s response is not, “Yes, I love you too.”
His response to her loving words, in the
middle of this horrible situation, is:

“I know.”

He KNOWS.

Rather than get all teared up, rather than panic,
and rather than get all emotional and awe-struck
that she has told him she loves him, he instead
shows INSANE CONFIDENCE and also shows
a SENSE OF HUMOR as well, he shows that
he KNOWS she loves him and that she has
loved him all along.

Now let me share something about this, there
is A REASON this quote from this movie has
been loved and cherished and quoted by so many
fans and even non-fans over the years.

And it’s because this CHARACTER is actually
teaching a GREAT LESSON about how to
attract women.   

It’s not ONLY THE CONFIDENCE.

It’s ALSO the HUMOR.

I have studied some of the actual research on how
humor affects the brain, and one of the things it
does is actually help store things into the LONG
TERM MEMORY.

So, when you meet a woman for the FIRST TIME,
and you demonstrate CONFIDENCE in a way that
ALSO gets her LAUGHING, you are ATTRACTING
her in a way that she will REMEMBER YOU long
after the initial “pick up” is over.

Can you think of how important this is when approaching
a woman who is a total STRANGER somewhere?

If you can get her laughing AND seeing that you
are confident, you not only attract her but you help
her remember the conversation and think about you
in a good way long after the initial conversation is
OVER.

This is a HUGE thing, because so often, even a
GOOD initial conversation is often FORGOTTEN
later in the day, and it loses steam by the time that
woman has come home and reflects on it, if she
even reflects on it at all.

But if you got her laughing, and seeing you were
confident, she will likely think about the conversation
she had with you, and EVEN IF SHE DOESN’T
REMEMBER THE DETAILS SHE WILL REMEMBER
HOW SHE FELT, THAT SHE FELT GOOOOOOOD.

People don’t remember details so well, but they
ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE
THEM FEEL.

So show masculinity, show confidence, and get her
LAUGHING, and you are going to become a
POWERHOUSE of attraction with women.

What you are reading, as powerful as it is,
is just the TIP of the ICEBERG.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Happy Attractor

A SUPER INSANELY IMPORTANT message
today regarding the truth about attracting women.

Have you ever wondered why a guy will
suddenly do better with ALL women
once he GETS a woman interested in him?

Maybe you thought that this is because
he suddenly now has CONFIDENCE.

This is true, but it actually goes DEEPER
than this.

What has happened is that he is also
HAPPIER (and confidence is PART of
being happy), and it is THAT EMOTION
that is a BIG part of what I am talking
about when I talk about the COMBINATION
of emotions that form the “magic mix”
to attract women.

One of the craziest ironies is that we are
living in a time that emphasizes the
INDIVIDUAL’S happiness.  So each
person is really busy focusing on themselves,
their career, their personal lives, etc.

As opposed to a long time ago when it
was all about getting married young,      
and focusing on love of family, country,
religion, etc.

And yet, people are no happier now that
they get to focus on themselves so much.

The reason is because HAPPINESS is
all about the EFFORT one puts into
doing the DEEP INNER WORK on
himself or herself.  And unfortunately,
people THINK that a good life is a life
where they don’t have to expend EFFORT,
and unfortunately people simply DON’T
BELIEVE the truth which is that a huge
portion of happiness comes from working
on one’s attitude.

There is a great book, called “The How
of Happiness”, that I suggest everyone
read. It is one of the ONLY books on this
topic that is not full of gimmicks but rather
has taken the SCIENTIFIC METHOD to
its approach.  I was delighted to find out
how INSANELY MUCH it has in common
with my WARRIOR WITHIN program,
because for example, in my program,
I explain how you don’t have to be a
JERK to show you are tough, or to attract
women,  and you don’t have to manipulate
women to get them interested in you, and
that in fact the better you are able to
experience POSITIVE EMOTIONS,
the easier it will be to attract women.

The reason why this is, is because people
want to feel RELAXED around others,
they want to feel GOOD.

A lot of guys mistake this with KISSING
UP to a woman, but KISSING UP TO
A WOMAN is actually doing the opposite
because it reeks of DESPERATION.

The fact is, when a guy is really worshipping
a woman out of a scarcity mentality, out of
desperation, out of fear of not being able
to find another woman, out of fear of thinking
that SHE is the sole provider of his self-esteem
and happiness, he is ACTUALLY giving off
a horrifyingly REPULSIVE “vibe” where
a woman can FEEL all those negative emotions
in him- those emotions can be DETECTED,
and they don’t feel good to be around.

On the OTHER HAND, when a man can
STILL be good to a woman, but it’s all
coming from a sense of HIS OWN HAPPINESS,
his own calm, and NOT his DESPERATION
for her, or his need for her, THEN a woman
LIGHTS UP around him.

Now, the thing is, when FIRST approaching
a woman, in a non party environment, you CAN’T
just go up to her in TOTAL EXTREME HAPPY
mode on the surface, or she will think you are nuts.

And this is where a lot of guys get mixed up
and confused.

You can’t just go up to a woman in the
bookstore and be BEAMING with a smile
and just EXPLODING WITH HAPPINESS.

Or rather, you can, but you have to actually
NOT SHOW IT IN THAT FIRST SECOND.

The reason is that people like that are SO RARE,
that a woman will just think something is wrong
with you.

So, in that FIRST MOMENT, just be DEAD
SERIOUS in your expression on your face.

Say whatever it is that you are going to say,
as your conversation opener, in that super
serious tonality.

BUT THEN, once she is starting to TALK
to you, you should THEN reveal and unleash
the FULL INTERNAL POWER of your
EXPLODING SUNSHINE.

Take the conversation to the most inspiring
place, the funniest place, the most meaningful
place, the kindest place, the most interesting
place, MAKE THE CONVERSATION
DAMN POSITIVE, AND MAKE SURE
YOU MEAN IT WITH EVERY MORSEL
OF YOUR SOUL.

Man, you do this, and you are going to
have so many women at your fingertips,
you are going to need a new program from
me called HOW TO STOP WOMEN FROM
CONTACTING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE
TOO MANY CONSTANTLY BEGGING YOU
FOR YOUR ATTENTION ALL THE TIME.

We are brainwashed to think that acting mean,
tough, negative, etc, is somehow “cool”, that
being depressed is stylish, while being happy
is cheesy and for idiots.

NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM
THE TRUTH.

It’s EASY to get depressed, to be negative,
to be pessimistic. THAT is why so many
people frame it as COOL, because they
HAVE BEEN DUPED by their own
negative emotions to think that negativity
IS the right emotion.

But it ain’t.
In fact, if you ever see a knockout of a woman
who is constantly single, it just might be because
she is a really negative person, so she drives away
any normal guy, and she herself is repulsed by the
negative desperate guys.

Negativity IS REALLY A REPULSOR, even
if a woman is gorgeous on the outside, and
even if a guy has EVERYTHING ELSE
going on for him on the outside. 

Also, it is VITAL to realize, and this
is pointed out in "The How of Happiness",
that one's EXTERNAL circumstances ONLY
account for 10 percent of one's sense
of happiness.

Yup, 10 percent.
This is why it is so important, if you
want to KEEP a woman attracted to you,
that you learn how to STAY happy in
general, otherwise when the initial
excitement you felt from getting her
wears off, your happiness will go away.

If your entire sense of happiness
depends on her and if you think
that without her, life will be
pointless, you won't be happy,
and THAT will definitely push
her away.      

On the other hand, if you learn how
to be deeply positive in your own way,
and feel a deep sense of meaning in
your life, then you will actually
enjoy her more, because you are
not expecting her to be the source
of all your positive emotions,
and of course this superior state
of mind that you are in will
also ATTRACT HER MORE TO YOU.

So, let me give you some tips for CHANGING
your INTERNAL STATE:

ONE: REFRAME

What I mean by this, is FIND A NEW
perspective on things that you think
are NEGATIVES or WEAKNESSES
about yourself or your life.

So, if you think you are too old for
a woman, just remember that most
women complain that the guys they
meet are emotionally immature, and
that tons of women CRAVE older men.

If you think you are too young for a woman,
just remember how IMPRESSIVE it will
be if you show that you actually HAVE
the maturity of an older man WHILE ALSO
being super young.

If you think you are too short, just
think about how the vast majority of
heart throbs in Hollywood are actually
shorter than average.

If you think you are too tall, just remember
that plenty of women will find themselves
feeling very feminine in your presence
and crave that masculine polar opposite
feeling that you will give her.

If you think that you are not rich enough,
remember that money does not PHYSICALLY
attract a woman, so you can easier know if a
woman that is with you is genuinely attracted
to you or not.    

There is ALWAYS another perspective,
but it is up to YOU to put the ENERGY
into FEELING that perspective.

I can tell you that most people simply
DO NOT PUT ANY EFFORT IN
to actually doing ANY reframing
in their mind.

It is INSANE.

It is like going to the gym and expecting
to get BIG MUSCLES by SITTING
on the bench press machine or STANDING
with the squat bar on you, and the author
of that book gives a similar analogy.

TWO: DO KIND THINGS FOR NO REASON
FOR TOTAL STRANGERS

The very ACT of doing this sends a
DIRECT SIGNAL to your brain that
YOU are living in ABUNDANCE,
that you are ABLE to do GOOD
for others.

It makes you feel POWERFUL and it
makes you feel GOOD.

It is a GREAT thing to do for your own
MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL STATE.

This is why I don’t like it when guys
say nasty things about women who
aren’t physically attractive, or who
will be rude or give the cold shoulder
to them.

It suggests a very DESPERATE state
of mind to one’s SELF, never mind that
is is kind of cruel.

Your MIND follows your ACTIONS.
Take the ACTIONS of a man who believes
he’s got it all, and the EMOTIONS of a man
that “has it all” then come as well.

This gets me to number three:

THREE: PHYSICALLY CHANGE
YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

It sounds SOOOOOOOO CHEESY, but
doing things like SMILING actually DO
change your OWN emotions.

Now, like I said before, don’t START
your approach to a woman with a big
smile, but for your OWN self, in general,
DEFINITELY SMILE.  Do it for
YOURSELF, and then, of course, what
will happen is that your smile even when
around women will be the smile that
is from feeling good and not from
kissing up.

Don’t be like the masses who say and
think that this stuff is CHEESY.  

The very fact they think it is CHEESY
is why so FEW people MASTER these
skills even though they ARE THE VERY
SECRETS for MASSIVE SUCCESS.

Now, these are just THREE tips, and in my
WARRIOR WITHIN program I share with
you TONS more, ESPECIALLY as they
relate to approaching women, attracting
women, getting over fears, creating a
deep connection with women, and much,
much more.

Remember, when a woman experiences
what life is like with you in just a few
MINUTES of her first interaction with you,
she will then KEEP ON THINKING OF YOU
as she goes back to her regular life and her
regular social circle and keeps comparing
how much better she felt around YOU than
around ANYONE else.

And she will want you then more than EVER.

It all boils down to what is going on INSIDE
of you; it is about being the MASTER of
the internal emotions, especially as they
relate to interacting and attracting women.

And the very best program that you can get
on this topic is my WARRIOR WITHIN
DVD Set that has been designed for
EXACTLY this purpose.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my program
on CONFIDENT HUMOR, then definitely do that
as well:

When you see a gorgeous woman somewhere
who is a total stranger, there is often nothing
better for "breaking the ice" and getting her
phone number than using CONFIDENT HUMOR.

This program is not about learning corny jokes,
it’s about becoming more confident in your
humor, and using that to skyrocket your
sense of humor. 

Get this program right now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/confident-humor.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting Women: Hitting "The Sweet Spot"

The only thing I CARE about when it comes
to this thing called “how to attract women” is
getting guys RESULTS.  No mumbo-jumbo,
no hocus-pocus, no superstition.

It all must actually WORK.

So today, I’m going to share with you some
of the GREATEST points of all time regarding
how to attract women. Obviously, these are
going to be the BROAD strokes here, as it
would be impossible to put every detail in
one newsletter and that is the reason I have
my actual programs.

So let’s begin:

ONE: HIT “THE SWEET SPOT”

By the “sweet spot” I mean the right BLEND
of confidence mixed with kindness.

I often call this mixture the right "balance",
but a client referred to this mixture, or this right
balance I was describing, as "the sweet spot",
and I like the words "the sweet spot" as a term.  

And yes, KINDNESS is absolutely attractive to
women, WHEN it is blended with POWER.

If you just show kindness, you are kissing up.
If you just show power/dominance/confidence,
you are coming across as an insecure JERK.

When you BLEND kindness with power, you
become attractive and charismatic.

So, for example, telling a woman she has impeccable
taste in men is a playful way of giving her a compliment
and saying something cool about yourself.

Helping a woman who is looking for directions and then
playfully telling her you will bill her for the help, is
kind and confident.

If a woman gives YOU a compliment, i.e. she says
“You are pretty cool”, and you say, “I know” that
shows confidence.  If you then pull her into you
and kiss her, that shows affection on top of the
confidence.

It’s this MIXING of confidence and kindness that
is VERY cool.

Most guys MISS the target.  They come in too
arrogant in their effort to show confidence, or
they come in too “nice” in their effort to show
kindness, caring, or affection.

Miss the mark, and get NOTHING.
Hit the mark, and you start a CHAIN REACTION
inside her mind that  results in a BURSTING FIRE
OF HEATED ATTRACTION for you.

Here’s an analogy that came up from the same client
during a bootcamp when it “clicked” in his mind,
he said the following, and I paraphrase:

“It’s like that scene at the end of the original
Star Wars, when they blow up the death star.
Luke had to fire into a super NARROW area
and ONLY a direct hit in that super tight
area would work.”

Miss the target, and the Death Star is left
TOTALLY UNAFFECTED.

HIT the target, and the entire thing IGNITES
into a fireball of a billion glowing splinters.

It’s the same with women but in a positive
way:

MISS the mark, and it’s pretty much NOTHING.   
      
But if you hit the “sweet spot” in their mind
with that combo of CONFIDENCE/POWER
mixed with KINDNESS, and it is quite
literally INSTANT attraction heat they
feel in the most primal sense for you.

TWO:  THE THRILL OF THE GAME

What I mean by this is that APPROACHING
WOMEN for the goal of romance, sex, etc,
is ABSOLUTELY THRILLING and so
there is not even a QUESTION of whether it
is “worth it” or not to approach women!

Seriously, aside from having your HEALTH
and FOOD/SHELTER, I can’t think of anything
MORE rewarding than WOMEN.

And I don’t just mean the end product, I mean
that even the PROCESS itself is awesome.

Approaching women is a BLAST.
Let’s say you love football.
Would you ONLY play football if you knew
you were going to WIN every single game????

Or does a guy who LOVES football love ALL
his games, even if he doesn’t WIN them all?

That’s because to him football is EXCITING.

When you approach women, especially women
who are TOTAL STRANGERS, it is the most
exciting thing in the world, at least to the guys
I know and for myself as well.

I’ll tell you why:
Each time you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, you are INTERFERING with the
entire fabric of your UNIVERSE.

That woman may very well be the woman who
turns out to be your LOVER, and/or the mother 
of your children, or the woman who inspires you
to be all you can be.

But if you are not BOLD, you will just sit back
and let it all be, and NOTHING will happen,
an entire DIFFERENT future (possibly boring)
instead of the possibly AMAZING one you could
have had, IF you had taken action to approach her.

And it’s YOU who is changing your own destiny.
YOU are the one TAKING ACTION.

Part of being a MAN in just about every culture
on EARTH is being the one who takes the lead
when it comes to the human “mating”. 

Women ARE DEEPLY AFFECTED by a man’s
DARING, his BOLDNESS, his BRAVERY,
his INITIATIVE.  And they know full well
how INTIMIDATING it is for most men
to approach women who are total strangers.

So DOING THE APPROACH not only is
the only way to MEET her as a stranger,  
but it ALSO sends the right message
because of the very fact it DOES take
guts to do it!

If you want to be successful at approaching
women, it is important to realize that the
approaches themselves are PART of the
excitement.

Also, I’ve personally noticed that when I do
a lot of approaches, women can SENSE that
I have options.  And my clients report this
as well.  Women can often TELL that you
have options by sizing up your confidence
which shows up in all kinds of subtle
subconscious ways when you interact
with women.

And  when a woman knows you have
OPTIONS, she gets even MORE attracted.

And all this is because you DO the approaches.
So it’s NEVER a “waste” of time to approach
women, because the SKILL SET in itself
becomes something women RESPECT
and are ATTRACTED to in you.

Instead of being a man who HOPES that
he will get women, you are the man who
TAKES ACTION.

THREE: ALWAYS BEHAVE AS IF YOU
ALREADY KNEW YOU HAD HER, AND
AS IF A BILLION OTHER SUPER-HOT WOMEN
WERE AT YOUR FINGERTIPS.

What is such a tragedy is that there is so little
TIME to make the right impression on a woman
who is a total stranger.

The GOOD PART of this however, is that if you
do it RIGHT, and you make the right impression,
that impression will STICK LIKE CRAZY GLUE!

In her mind, she knows NOTHING about you.
So you have a PERFECTLY CLEAN SLATE
to create the PERFECT image.
 
She has NOTHING to contradict any positive
message you create about yourself. 

Soooooooooooo, what this means is if you
BEHAVE as if you already HAD her in your
palm, if you behave as if you have a billion
other options but you still are interested in her,
then SHE WILL FEEL THIS IS THE TRUTH
ABOUT YOU.

It’s also a great way to PREVENT coming across
as insecure or a jerk.

Plenty of guys THINK they are acting “confident”
by telling a woman OFF the first second the woman
does something they don’t like.

But if a guy is REALLY confident and secure, he
feels NO NEED to have to PROVE himself or
to insult her.  Instead, when a guy is super-secure
he often can see the REAL reasons a woman is
behaving a certain way.

What I mean by this is that it’s NORMAL for
a woman to be a bit CAUTIOUS when meeting
a man who is a total stranger.

A guy who is INSECURE will feel THREATENED
and possibly INSULTED by anything she does that
isn’t a clear sign of her INTEREST.

But a guy who is secure will NOT feel threatened
and is far more likely to respond to anything she
does in the most ATTRACTIVE way.

So for example, if a woman is asking a guy a lot
of questions about “does he pick up lots of women
in stores” or something like that, a SECURE guy
knows she is actually INTERESTED and she just
is trying to find out if HE is serious at all about
her or is she just “woman number one thousand”
to him.

So a secure guy will give a warm smile and possibly
joke to her that indeed she is number one thousand,
(just to get that out of the way since he knows she
is thinking it) and then in a CALM voice tone, say
“Actually, meeting the RIGHT person is what it’s
all about, right? We all meet people, but it’s about
meeting the right one.”

TRUST ME, the way you BEHAVE is worth a
TRILLION TIMES more than how much MONEY
you have, what you LOOK like, or how FAMOUS
you are, or whether you are a rockstar or not.

In fact, a client recently emailed me about a guy
who was a real rock star who really WAS great
with attracting chicks, he traded lives with
a dude who was a “regular guy” who was NOT
good at all at attracting chicks.

Somehow they managed to fool most strangers.
In other words, people thought the regular dude
WAS the rock star guy and they thought the rock star
guy was the regular dude.

Well, guess what happened? The guy who really
WAS the authentic rock star dude STILL did
awesome with chicks, even though he had NONE
of the “rock star” status.

And the guy who could NOT pull chicks beforehand
STILL couldn’t do well even WITH the “rock star”
status.

That’s because the CHARISMA is what REALLY COUNTS.
You can’t just BUY the right behaviors, attitudes, feelings, etc.
You can’t just “adopt” them from someone else.

And if you DO convey the right behaviors, actions,
attitudes, feelings, etc, then NO ONE can somehow
make you UNDESIRABLE, no matter what they do.

You can see this all the time in real life. Take a look
at any ten random women who are hot, and you will
find out that MOST of these women are with guys
that SEEM ordinary until you actually INTERACT
with them.  
  
As you can tell, EVERYTHING you read here
comes from REAL WORLD experience.

And I can ACCELERATE your learning curve in
the real world of approaching women.  You can save
YEARS from learning it all the hard way, because
I can show you the DIRECT path instead of you
taking the trial-and-error path.

The trial-and-error path of trying to succeed with
women not only is INEFFICIENT, but it also can
DRAIN your motivation from going through
infinite FRUSTRATION.   

I seriously suggest you take my Real World Bootcamp
because I will PERSONALLY show you EVERYTHING
you need to know, and it will all be done for REAL.

That means the women you are approaching and
attracting have NO CLUE you are about to
approach them.  These are all real women who
are going about their day in their actual lives,
who are about to have their day ROCK because
of YOU.

The Real World Bootcamp is non-stop IMMERSION
in the world of approaching women who are total
strangers, with a very special twist:
You're getting expert coaching, the result of
over ten years experience from someone who has
been getting men RESULTS with women for all that
time, every step of the way. 

In the Real World Bootcamp, you learn how to
master the skills for successfully approaching
women right out of the blue, anywhere, who are
total strangers- and then ATTRACTING them.

The Bootcamp makes you self-sufficient because
it teaches you exactly what you need to do to
optimize your approaches to women who are complete
strangers, anywhere, so that you can maximize
the chances of getting them attracted, connected,
and wanting to know you more.

Think of a personal trainer at the gym: He shows 
you proper form, strategy, and technique.

WithOUT the expert  instruction, one will never
optimize their results, and will also likely get injured
and then not be able to work out at all, possibly for years.

Just going out to the gym with no clue what
you are doing can result in not only very little
to no progress, but it can actually result in
making a guy WORSE OFF than had he never gone
to the gym at all.

Similarly, going out to approach women without
expert training can result in a lot of negative
habits that actually push women AWAY, plus it
can create negative emotional associations in
your OWN mind with approaching, to the point
that a guy never does it again, and misses out
on the entire world of possibilities with all
the women that are out there, all the women
that he does not get to meet through rare
"luck" situations.

This bootcamp teaches you how to USE all those
opportunities that are available everyday when you
see women ANYWHERE, including the mall, the bus,
the cafe, the train, the park, the sidewalk, the library,
the post office, the grocery store, and absolutely
ANYWHERE else.

It's at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

For my most powerful HOME study program
on how to approach and attract women who
are total strangers, ANYWHERE, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

Now, there are MANY important elements to being successful
with women. The program above covers all of them.

However, of all the elements for success with women,
mastering your INNER GAME is the SINGLE MOST
important element.

To FOCUS on this single greatest element to success
with women, on the most ADVANCED level, I created
a program specializing on INNER GAME, and it is called
"WARRIOR WITHIN".

INNER GAME is also absolutely vital for attracting
quality women for a LONG TERM relationship
as well, and for DETECTING a woman's character
IMMEDIATELY.

WARRIOR WITHIN is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

To find out about ALL my programs for skyrocketing
your success with women, including my "specialization"
series, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

A MAJOR Secret On How To Approach Women

I have something VERY important to tell you
about approaching women. It is something
most men get WRONG, and understanding this
will make a MASSIVE difference in your
approaches on women!

If you see a woman you would like to approach,
for example, at a food court somewhere, do any
of the options below provide the best solution?

Answer A:
You take a few minutes to decide the best thing
to say, and then you walk over to her and say it.

Answer B:
You take a few minutes to decide what to say,
and then you carefully walk over but you make
sure she does NOT see you coming, so it can
look like you just happened to be walking
in that direction toward her for something else
and not as if SHE was the main reason you
were walking that way.

Answer C:
You go over right away, directly toward her,
even though this means she can see you coming.
However, you then try to make sure it does NOT
seem as if you are actually interested in her in a
way that has to do with sex.  You chat to her
for an hour about something intelligent so that
it seems this is not about sex.

Answer D:
You go over right away, and you decide to
make it CLEAR you are interested in her
in a way that does have to do with attraction
and with her as a woman,  and you decide
to do this  by TELLING her that you think she
is very sexy and that you would like to go
out with her.  

And the BEST ANSWER is:
NONE of the above.

The REAL answer is to approach her DIRECTLY
even if she sees you walking toward her, and
then when you approach her to chat, you
should NOT verbally start with telling her
that you are attracted to her, and you ALSO
should not try to make it seem as if you
are NOT interested in her either.

Just keep it upbeat.
So, for example, you could go right into
something like this:

"That looks REALLLLLLLLY GOOD! That is what
I like in a woman, someone who enjoys life
and does not deprive herself!"

In this example, you are delivering the
message with flair, with fun, and you
are giving her a playful compliment
without kissing up AT ALL.

Also, the comment is totally spontaneous,
it is not a memorized pick-up line, it
is something born of, and in, the MOMENT,
which makes it feel more REAL instead of
REHEARSED.   

It is also the kind of topic that can easily
lead into a fun chat about guilty pleasures
like chocolate or television watching, plus
it can give you a lead-in to enjoying food
more with some company and you sitting there
with her for your lunch. 

She might comment that actually the food
she is eating is healthy, it is not a
guilty thing, and you can playfully
respond with something like "Let me guess,
you're a lawyer, right?" with a smirk
as you say it. 

Then she might tell you whatever it is
she really is, or she might ask you
about yourself, all this is good
CONVERSATION.

Then, after just a few moments of this,
you can chill out more and slowly get
to a DEEPER CONNECTION based on shared
VALUES, which also only takes a few
minutes.

And THEN, if you connect, you let her
know that you want to see her again. 
 
So, to recap what happened here is:
First, you DIRECTLY approach her.
You walk right up to her, even if she
sees you from far away.  It is a good
thing anyway if she sees this, as I
will explain below.

Then, when you reach her, you chat about anything
that is fun, upbeat, intriguing, or playful,
as long as you ARE ACTUALLY being either fun,
upbeat, intriguing, or playful.  (This gets
back to being congruent, which is an important
topic in itself.)

Allow me to explain WHY this is the best way to
approach a woman, especially if this is NOT a
nightclub or a party environment.

It all stems from the fact that women FEEL a
tremendous pressure to not even ACCIDENTALLY
appear promiscuous.

This newsletter could go on for several YEARS
giving you the entire history of the perceptions
of men about female sexuality, so I will just
give a few serious examples:

For MANY years, even into the modern era or psychology
and psychiatry, most men thought that women did not
even HAVE orgasms!  In other words, most men thought
that women were not even really sexual  beings!

Then, on TOP of that, any woman who WAS perceived
as promiscuous was viewed as the absolute LOWEST,
the very BOTTOM of the totem pole of status in society.

Of course, the men who get lots of women are often
viewed as COOL, i.e. Hugh Hefner, or at least viewed
as POWERFUL, i.e. many kings who had tons of women.

And even today, the fact is, most men would like
to have sex with lots of women, but they do not
want a girlfriend who is promiscuous or who even
WAS promiscuous.

Meanwhile, the TRUTH is, that women indeed DO
have urges and desires just as INTENSE as men,
if not even MORE intense than men.

So women are not looking to screw up their lives
and their reputations.   If a guy approaches a woman
and seems OVERLY into the superficial, especially
if he does this RIGHT OFF THE BAT with the following
kind of comment:

****You are so beautiful.****

The BIGGEST REASON that FAILS (unless delivered
in a SUPER CONFIDENT way) is NOT just because
it seems like a form of kissing up.

Rather, the WRECKAGE left by such a comment
is also because it makes a woman feel that if she
REWARDS this kind of approach by even TALKING
to him, she feels she will be viewed by him as a SLUT.

She also figures that anyone who FINDS OUT she
talked to him will ALSO feel she is a slut.

This is why women will IMMEDIATELY shut down
ANY guy who shows he is IGNORANT of this issue.
Women are RUTHLESS in this regard, and if you
understand the massive repercussions women pay
if they are not careful about this, it makes
TOTAL SENSE.

Ahhhh, but some guys have GROWN WISE to this,
or so they think.

And PRESTO, such is born the OVERLY NICE GUY
APPROACH.

So you have these guys that do EVERYTHING in
their power to NOT come across as interested in
sex. The guy approaches the woman indirectly,
he pretends to be walking the same way as her,
he pretends to be interested in her choice of
stationary, books, purse, movies, etc, etc.

Now, a TINY bit of the NICE GUY stuff is not
the end of the world.

But the TRUTH  is, if you ever used the Overly
Nice Guy approach and ended up attracting a
woman who was  a stranger, and you ended up
sleeping with her, and she became your girlfriend
or whatever, it was not because you approached
her with the NICE GUY stuff.

It was because you managed to chat with her WITHOUT
triggering her WORRY of being labelled a SLUT.

Then you got her number or something like that,
and then you met up, and ALL ALONG she WANTED
to have sex with you, and you managed to NOT
trigger fears in this regard.

She was THINKING about how WILD it would be
to go NUTS with you in bed from pretty much the
FIRST MOMENT you approached her.

And the problem is that a lot of guys FORGET THIS,
they pour on so much NICE GUY APPROACH that the
woman figures maybe this guy is NOT into women,
maybe this guy is going to take FOREVER to get
physical with, maybe this guy does not REALIZE
how women have mind-blowing fantasies that
would make most men BLUSH.

So just because women do not want to be labelled sluts,
does NOT mean to in ANY way pretend you are NOT
a sexual person.

And the WAY to demonstrate that you are a MAN,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY showing you understand
women have these sensitivities and concerns,
is to simply APPROACH WOMEN DIRECTLY, yet at
the same time keep the INITIAL CONVERSATION
simply a POSITIVE experience that is NOT
too overtly sexual.

(In a club, though, the sexual can happen
a lot faster since the whole POINT of
a club is really about PARTY TIME.)

She KNOWS the reason you approached her!
She is GLAD you approached her.

She is MORE happy that you approached her
DIRECTLY rather than conveying that you
think you need to be SNEAKY about it by
going in some kind of strange circle or
zig-zag pattern or somehow coming up
behind her.

The most BRILLIANT path toward her is
DIRECTLY toward her in terms of your
actual physical WALK UP to her.

But in terms of the conversation, you convey
masculinity, you convey interest, you convey
your insight into women, by actually NOT
talking about the physical stuff too much
if at ALL, not until you FIRST establish
more of a FLOW of a conversation and
more of a CONNECTION.

So you APPROACH directly.

However, your CHAT should convey your
interest INDIRECTLY, because your APPROACH
already makes it pretty darn clear why
you are chatting to her, and any more
runs the risk of overdoing it and
triggering her fears of being labelled
a slut and SHUTTING you down..

The calmness of your demeanor, the
COMFORT you feel and display while
chatting with her, all THAT is what shows
the right stuff about you and your
intentions in the beginning.

It is even okay to say something this:

***I just wanted to chat with you and
see what you are about.***

Then, you actually see if for REAL
you two can have FUN chatting together,
being playful together.

This is why you should NOT go on for
an hour about something too deep or
intelligent, because the first part
of the chat is about PLAYFULNESS
or at least about some kind of
chemistry.

Before you can play in the bedroom,
you have to be able to play outside
the bedroom.

If you go on for an hour about something
serious, you VAPORIZE the sexual and fun
vibes and you instead create the boring
vibe of an old, empty, dusty, lecture hall.

And THEN, you ALSO test to see if you
both have something ELSE important in
common BESIDES just wanting to go wild
on each other.

And THAT provides the ULTIMATE solution
on how to ensure you do not trigger her
fears of being labelled a slut, because
if there is a REAL connection between
you two, then she cannot BE a slut.

And THEN, you can ALSO tell her once that
she is cute, attractive, or whatever.

Remember, though, that she KNEW that is what
you thought all along when you approached her,
but you can tell her once, (after you two have
connected) just to make it absolutely clear
to her that you intend to pursue this all
the way to the end, for REAL, as a man.

What you have just read is so important, that
it will play a MAJOR role in EVERY SINGLE
interaction you ever have with any woman you
approach that you want to attract.

And yet, as POWERFUL as it is, it is also the
TIP of the iceberg of TONS of other VITAL
insights and strategies on attracting the women
of your choice that you will find in my special
program, known as: Attraction Accelerators.

I did not sit at HOME coming up with this program.
Instead, I learned it all on the FIELD, through
years of experience, and then only AFTER that,
and after SEEING it WORK for OTHER guys
as well, did I finally record this program.

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You can download this program in MINUTES from
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

An Important Message For Your Success In The New Year

Around this time of year, a lot of people make
New Year’s resolutions, and I thought I would
share with you some really important insights
on the truth about success, not only with women
but regarding just about EVERYTHING.

This way, you can take these insights and apply
them to your own life and make the very best not
only of any new resolutions but also for all your
goals.

PART ONE: ABOUT CONFIDENCE

One of the most insane things is that although we
hear that CONFIDENCE is essential for success
with women, it is also essential for success in just
about ANY goal.  This is why learning the skills
for success with women also help you with so
much else in life.

The problem though is that just TELLING someone
that confidence is the secret is not enough, because
some people are BORN with more confidence than
others.  But the good news is that confidence is similar
to building MUSCLE, in that if you work on it, you
can CULTIVATE it, you can make it grow.

In fact, confidence can be grown to HUGE proportions,
a trillion times bigger than any muscle!

Whatever it is you lack confidence in, the trick is to
START doing it, WITHOUT putting pressure on yourself,
even if you do it WITHOUT confidence.

Most people never get confident at anything because they
never do it often enough to get over the fear, and also they
do whatever that thing is that they lack confidence in, in
an environment of PRESSURE.

So, for example, if you want to approach women with
CONFIDENCE, then take off the PRESSURE by not
making the GOAL that she must be ecstatic from your
approach, but rather your GOAL is simply that YOU
did not give into your fear, that YOU went up and said
‘Hello, how are you doing?’ or some other casual
conversation opener. 

You can even make the goal just to say HI.

TAKE OFF THE PRESSURE AT FIRST.

Then, once you do the goal WITHOUT pressure,
you can then SLOWLY start to add more pressure,
for example, try keeping the  conversation going
for two minutes, three minutes, four minutes, try
adding minutes to the conversation, try adding humor,
take ONE more step each day to add a BIT to the
pressure, just like adding a BIT of weight when you
are lifting weights.

But getting back to CONFIDENCE again, this way,
you will be improving your SKILL as well, which
of course will help you build even MORE confidence,
but also you will be getting DESENSITIZED to the
fear, simply because you have been doing the
thing (approaching women, talking to women) that
you fear so many times. 

Also, regarding CONFIDENCE, the reason it is so
important is because if you BELIEVE you can succeed,
then you are not going to SABOTAGE your success,
and again this applies to ALL goals.

But if you believe that really you DON’T have
what it takes to succeed, in other words if you lack
confidence, then you will not really give ALL YOU
HAVE toward achieving your goal.  You will waste
time, you will procrastinate, you will move slowly,
you will have other things to do that feel more important,
you will feel a lack of energy, etc, etc.

All that crap comes from the ROOT cause, which is
FEAR that really you won’t succeed.  Fear is such a
devil because it works subconsciously as well, and
does things like making you THINK you are tired
when you aren’t. (This doesn’t mean you don’t need
rest, it just means that when you lack confidence,
there is a general lack of energy for achieving the
goal.)

PART TWO: ABOUT TIME

The NEXT related idea regarding success I want
to share with you is about using TIME wisely.

The real truth is that TIME is more precious than
MONEY.  Even BILLIONAIRES would love to
have more TIME, and would happily spend like
crazy to get MORE time.  In fact, one of the biggest
reasons people WANT money is to save them time,
but it can’t CREATE time, it can just save it.

This idea is absolutely inextricably bound with success.
Not only must you have confidence for your goal, but
you must have TIME LIMITS for ALL your goals, and
ALL your tasks, even the MENIAL ones. 

I used to think this was a non-fun way to live life, but
the PROBLEM is time is SO PRECIOUS, that  there
is simply NO TIME for WASTING TIME.

So I learned from a man smarter than myself to use
a TIMER for EVERYTHING I do, big or small,
exciting or mundane.

Set the amount of time you think something SHOULD
take, and then set the timer and start working on it.

You’d be AMAZED at much time you will save
and you will realize how much time you were
wasting before. 

Again, time is so precious, and GOALS TAKE TIME.
So if you WASTE TIME, not only regarding your big
goal, but if you waste time on being inefficient on all
the small goals and tasks you must do everyday, you
will NOT achieve your biggest goals simply because
you won’t have enough TIME.

Now, you have to also stay calm during all this. And
the fact is, if you do this, you will be more calm because
you will realize how you are not wasting time.  I just
want to mention to stay calm, because I don’t want
you to burn out with stress.

PART THREE: ABOUT ENVISIONING YOUR GOALS

A lot of people mention the idea of PICTURING your goal
in your head.

Arnold Schwarzenegger has spoken a great deal about
how he could SEE himself as successful in his various
endeavors from bodybuilding to acting to politics, and
how he took his confidence from one thing, e.g. bodybuilding,
to another, e.g. acting.

In the book and film The Secret, there is a great deal
of focus on practicing EXPERIENCING THE FEELINGS
OF GRATITUDE YOU WOULD HAVE IF YOU ALREADY
HAD ACHIEVED YOUR GOALS.

So the important element in common is not just WANTING
Or WISHING to be successful, but actually SEEING
AND EXPERIENCING that success as if you ALREADY
HAVE IT.

You are ALREADY THERE in your mind, and LOVING IT.

In my opinion, this is not HOCUS-POCUS superstition.

Rather, the power of this is that it CHANGES you on a
deep level, subconsciously you STOP sabotaging yourself,
plus you are in such a positive state that OF COURSE you
keep on doing all the things that bring success, and ALSO
you start to BECOME like that version of yourself that you
want to BE, which ALSO helps ATTRACT people that
are on a SIMILAR wavelength that can HELP  you get to
that goal.

I can tell you that in my own life, every person I met that
was instrumental in making huge positive changes in my        
life was the result of me focusing on BEING and FEELING
the way I wanted to be in my GOAL version of myself and
my GOAL version of reality.  

It NEVER CAME from any “official” request, it
never came from “forcing” myself, it came from
me truly behaving the way I would if I was
“already there experiencing the joy of having
the goal”. 

And the crazy thing about all this is that this is actually
the EASIER way to live, because it is what your MIND
REALLLY WANTS anyway!   

And if you are reading this right now, and would like
to learn MORE about making this your best year EVER,
with women, with relationships, and with ALL of your
goals, then I suggest you download my eBook, called
Way to Win, immediately.

This book is a POWERFUL resource on how to get into
the RIGHT mindset for success, as well as how to
actually GO about achieving your goals, and also
it contains extremely inspiring TRUE stories,
all of which are consistent with the principles
of success outlined in the book.  

Download this book and use it immediately for your
success in ALL your goals, by going here NOW:

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And for ALL my important programs on success
with women, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php 

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Get A Woman To Keep Thinking Of You Long After The Initial Chat

One of the big things in attracting a woman
who is a total stranger is not just the initial
chat, but getting her to STAY attracted and
still be thinking of you in a positive way
long after the initial chat.

So let me get straight to TWO massive
concepts that are RIDICULOUSLY
important for success with women.

The first has to do with FAKE versus
REAL confidence.

While on one hand, you can try to FAKE
confidence, and “faking it till you make it”
is better than doing nothing, the problem
is if you are not prepared to LIVE the
lifestyle of confidence, you will end up
a NERVOUS WRECK if you DO get
the woman and you start to worry that
she will detect that it was all an act.

So what I mean is, you must start to take
the behaviors that the confident version
of yourself would take in ALL ASPECTS
OF YOUR LIFE, day in and day out, on
a regular basis.

This way, you will actually LIVE the
actions of confident decisions and you
will OOZE with the VIBES of confidence
when interacting with women as well.

Women really DO MASSIVELY RESPOND
to confidence, because CONFIDENCE always
breeds SUCCESS.  And by “confidence” I
don’t mean that you are always FEELING
confident, but that you are at least never
giving into INSECURITY.

So now, let me give one of the all-time classic
examples of a CONFIDENT response.  It comes
from The Empire Strikes Back, when Han Solo
replies to Princess Leia when they are captured,
she tells him that she loves him, just moments
before the enemy is going to freeze him in
carbonite for God knows how long, maybe forever.

Han’s response is not “Yes, I love you too.”
His response to her loving words, in the
middle of this horrible situation, is:

“I know.”

He KNOWS.

Rather than get all teared up, rather than panic,
and rather than get all emotional and awe-struck
that she has told him she loves him, he instead
shows INSANE CONFIDENCE and also shows
a SENSE OF HUMOR as well, he shows that
he KNOWS she loves him and that she has
loved him all along.

Now let me share something about this, there
is A REASON this quote from this movie has
been loved and cherished and quoted by so many
fans and even non-fans over the years.

And it’s because this CHARACTER is actually
teaching a GREAT LESSON about how to
attract women.   

It’s not ONLY THE CONFIDENCE.

It’s ALSO the HUMOR.

I have studied some of the actual research on how
humor affects the brain, and one of the things it
does is actually help store things into the LONG
TERM MEMORY.

So, when you meet a woman for the FIRST TIME,
and you demonstrate CONFIDENCE in a way that
ALSO gets her LAUGHING, you are ATTRACTING
her in a way that she will REMEMBER YOU long
after the initial “pick up” is over.

Can you think of how important this is when approaching
a woman who is a total STRANGER somewhere?

If you can get her laughing AND seeing that you
are confident, you not only attract her but you help
her remember the conversation and think about you
in a good way long after the initial conversation is
OVER.

This is a HUGE thing, because so often, even a
GOOD initial conversation is often FORGOTTEN
later in the day, and it loses steam by the time that
woman has come home and reflects on it, if she
even reflects on it at all.

But if you got her laughing, and seeing you were
confident, she will likely think about the conversation
she had with you, and EVEN IF SHE DOESN’T
REMEMBER THE DETAILS SHE WILL REMEMBER
HOW SHE FELT, THAT SHE FELT GOOOOOOOD.

People don’t remember details so well, but they
ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE
THEM FEEL.

So show masculinity, show confidence, and get her
LAUGHING, and you are going to become a
POWERHOUSE of attraction with women.

Regarding CONFIDENCE with women, I have
a FANTASTIC program called WARRIOR
WITHIN, and it’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Regarding HUMOR, I have a very special interview
I did with a man who used to suck with women, then
became so good that he was one of the subjects of
a New York Times best-selling book regarding
attracting women.  His entire approach to women
consists of comedy, but in a way where he does
NOT memorize jokes or anything like that.

This is not some gimmick about some kind of
joke to tell women, it’s about UNLEASHING
humor.

I seriously suggest you check it out at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/confident-humor.html

Also, I have an insanely powerful free video that
is crammed with GOLDEN tips for skyrocketing
your attraction with women, and if you haven’t
checked it out yet, then definitely do that now.

It’s at:

http://youtu.be/x1qMxC2r0Pc

I have poured my absolute blood, sweat, and
tears into ALL of my programs, and they are
all designed to help you with every aspect
of being successful with women.

You can check out ALL my programs by going
here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks