The Power Of MEANING For Success With A Truly Good Woman

Today I want to talk about meaning, and how it

relates to pick up, dating, and relationships.

A sense of meaning is the most important thing

is the most important factor in one experiencing

the highest degree of happiness.

This has not only been proven by experts in the

field of positive psychology such as Martin Seligman,

but you can probably attest to this in your own

experiences in life.

Think back to specific experiences in your own life.

Were you happiest when you just did things like

have a meal packed with sugar, salt, or fat?

Even sex itself, as high as it ranks, is not the MOST

powerful emotion, at least not unless it is combined

with a sense of meaning.

In fact, PLEASURE itself is not necessarily thing that

actually gives the most happiness.

People will go through UNIMAGINABLE SWEAT,

PAIN, AND EFFORT to accomplish actions that

are tied to a sense of MEANING for them.

It can be a million different things depending on the

individual.

However, perhaps something like completing a

marathon that you trained all year for,  or seeing

the work you put into helping a community of

kids learn how to read, or some kind of other

really CHALLENGING activity that combined

YOUR skills with helping  others; usually it is

THESE KINDS OF THINGS THAT give the most

deep sense of meaning and happiness.

Now, no man and no woman, no matter how

sexy they find each other, can find happiness

in just being with each other.

It has to be part of a larger picture.

And don’t get me wrong for one second-

sex and the entire physical and erotic side

of the man-woman connection is MASSIVELY

important to understand and to be comfortable

with. More on this in the future.

It’s just that most men and women are not

even AWARE of how POWERFUL a sense of

meaning in life is, and how closely linked it is

to a sense of happiness.

Many women try to find this sense of meaning

through their career, and some of them do succeed

in finding this because of the nature of the work

they do, since it connects their skills to helping

others in a massive way.

But many women do not. And, more importantly,

most women when they meet men who try to

pick them up end up finding the conversations

lack any real significance on a deep level.

That is perfectly fine when you are dealing with

women who are promiscuous and just looking

to get drunk and jump into the sack.

But it is not enough for a woman who is actually

looking for a man for a real relationship. Nor should

it be enough for a man looking for a woman for

a real relationship.

And the time to show your ability to appreciate

meaning, to FIND meaning, and to CREATE meaning,

is in the very first interaction you have with the

woman you approach.

Look for all the possibilities in the environment,

in the situation, in the things she is saying and

doing, that can lead to a POWERFUL perspective

that is MEANINGFUL.

For example, let’s say you are on the commuter

train and she is sitting next to you. And the train

is just waiting there for some technical mechanical

issue.

You might strike up a conversation on how lucky

we are to have these kinds of problems, and how

precious time is, and how you are going to do some

meditation in that moment because it is such a great

opportunity for that.

This might lead to her agreeing, laughing, or perhaps

sharing a story with you about places she’s been

where there was no train or commuter travel,

and that might lead to you asking about the culture

there, and how people find as much happiness or

even more over there with even less material

things around them.

Do you see what I am getting at?

A sense of MEANING.

Now, NONE of this means that you can’t or shouldn’t

ALSO be able to flirt, be playful, and all the rest of that

good stuff.

That other stuff should ALWAYS be there.

But it’s not ENOUGH to attract the kind of woman

who appreciates MEANING in her life.

And the best kind of women are the ones that have a

VERY RICH SENSE OF MEANING in their lives.

The reason this is so good is because it means they are

HAPPY ON A DEEP LEVEL, a level much greater than

superficial laughter or superficial temporary pleasure.

And the happier and more at peace they are, the more

THEY CAN BRING TO THE TABLE WHEN IT COMES TO

BEING WITH YOU, as opposed to being miserable,

unpredictable with their temper, or BORED with life

and looking for novelty of the sexual sort with many

partners just to distract themselves from the emotional

emptiness of their lives.

And of course, they are looking for this quality in you

as well.

Now, in my bootcamps, I go DEEP with the guys I teach,

including in developing these skills as well.

These are the kinds of interactions that you won’t

find happening with the drunken women videos

on the internet, because for drunken women

who are promiscuous, it’s all NOT necessary and

may even be “too heavy” for them.

There is nobody else on the planet who has made it

their PRIMARY FOCUS to help men get GREAT girlfriends.

And I have been doing this for THIRTEEN YEARS.

I’ve helped guys in many cities in many countries  

around the WORLD.  A lot of these men ended

up meeting the women of their DREAMS just

DAYS OR EVEN HOURS after completing my program,

and I’ve heard from them about their amazing marriages

and children that followed.

When you learn new things, when you know what

you are doing, things change RAPIDLY for you.

The largest newspaper in Canada followed my work for
several WEEKS, in helping men meet and attract women
for the exclusive purpose not just of “hooking up” but
rather for getting a great relationship.

It was even called “The Get A Relationship Challenge”. 

And the success these men achieved was REAL,
and documented in detail by the paper.

This “stuff” that I teach is REAL.

And it’s about so much more than “getting laid”.

It’s about getting a great girl.

To find out about my bootcamps, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

To find out about my home-study books and programs, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html 

To find out about PRIVATE CONSULTATIONS with me

on ANY matter regarding attraction, dating, or relationships,

go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why BELIEF Is The Key To Success with Women, And How To Get It

One of the most powerful experiences I've had as an instructor was
with a particularly "salt of the earth" client. He was doing amazing
attracting a two-set at a roof-top lounge. The women, who happened to
be gorgeous, were eating out of the palm of his hand, oblivious to
every other guy in the place and giving him endless indications of
interest.

He then told me that he wanted to speak to me away from the lounge.
So, outside the lounge, he was asking me, "How do you think it's
going?"

I told him he was doing great, obviously.

He asked me, "Do you think they are actually attracted?".
I told him that when women are constantly touching you, smiling
around you, and oblivious to every other guy in the place, that yes,
they are definitely attracted to you.

What was particularly cool about this guy is that he was absolutely
not arrogant, absolutely just a really cool, laid back, totally
CONGRUENT guy in his approach.

But so DEEP is the conditioning in our society for men to think
NEGATIVELY of themselves regarding women, that you can
have all the success in the world happening to you, and
you wouldn't even REALIZE the opportunities that women 
are THROWING your way, especially since women tend to be a
bit more subtle than men when showing their interest. 

AND THIS is why INNER GAME really IS so absolutely, massively,
overwhelmingly important, and why no amount of watching
pick-up videos can replace ACTUALLY being in the situation of
approaching women yourself, again and again and again, until
you BELIEVE on the DEEPEST levels that you ARE worthy, that
you CAN absolutely succeed.

What you CAN do is get the greatest INSIGHTS into how to make
your interaction as EFFECTIVE as possible, by skyrocketing your
sense of humor, your rapport skills, your sense of dominance,
and by your understandings about female psychology, so that
when you DO approach, you can not only have SPECIFIC things
that you can apply to IMPROVE your results, but also the very
fact you are studying these aspects of a successful interaction
will GIVE your subconscious mind a REASON to FEEL confident.

So you are feeling more CONFIDENT and you are also learning
more things which make you COMPETENT, and the more COMPETENT you know you are, the more CONFIDENT you feel, which leads to you ENTHUSIASTICALLY wanting to learn EVEN MORE, which builds even MORE competence, which builds even more confidence, in a NEVER-ENDING POSITIVE CYCLE!

Along with this CONFIDENCE and COMPETENCE,
it is VITAL to understand that getting a great
girlfriend is DIFFERENT than getting a one-night stand
or getting physical with any of the MILLIONS of
promiscuous women that abound these days.

This getting a great girlfriend is what I specialize in.
So in my programs you are learning a lot more than just
how to get the party girls, or the promiscuous girls who
may be fine in many ways, but who themselves will be the
first to say that they aren't relationship material.

If you want a woman who is the "total package"-
who is attractive and also has the personality
that would make for a fun and TRUSTWORTHY
and FAITHFUL girlfriend, then the material that
you will learn in my programs is of EXTREME
importance.

A woman who is looking for a real relationship is
putting a lot more on the line than just one evening
("one night stand") of her life.
 
She's putting her emotions, her time, her TRUST,
in you, and she isn't going to do all that for just any
guy who comes up to her with some pick up artist
or "dating guru" tactic.

At "Get A Great Girl", you're learning to master the
full picture of interaction with women, including
but also much more than just the initial words you
are going say to her.

The next time you want to approach a woman you're attracted
to, and you have no idea of what to say, try going up to her
and being honest about the fact you found her attractive.
At the same time, STAY COOL.

The best thing about this is that it eliminates the
"sketchy vibes" problem because it forces you to be
congruent, since you, after all, are being honest.
YOU know in your heart that you are NOT trying to
COVER UP anything, so you FEEL honest because you
ARE being honest.

This is GREAT for your INNER GAME.
You are forcing yourself to ACCEPT that it is OKAY
to be a MAN.

It's also great because it IMMEDIATELY lets the woman
know what's up, in the sense that you are not PRETENDING
to be there for some other reason.

This shows confidence, and it also allows her to VIEW you as a
man from the FIRST impression, rather than immediately seeing
you as just some guy who is going to be immediately slotted
into the friend category.

Then, look for positive situational material- comments on things
going on right then and there, KEEP IT POSITIVE. And give her a
chance to contribute to the conversation; it should NOT just be
YOU doing all the talking anyway.

Now, there are more advanced levels to the approach,
of course, where you indicate all these things without
having to be so blunt about them, but this is a great strategy
to use if you are feeling rusty, just starting into the process
of meeting women again, or if you happen to not have anything
to say.

And if you would like to learn THE FULL PICTURE to success
when it comes to getting a great girlfriend, or KEEPING
a great girlfriend, then I suggest you go HERE immediately:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/catalog.html

To learn the skill of PICK UP in REAL TIME, live, from me
directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP,
go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html

Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars.

The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life
more fun.

Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.

Get a GREAT girlfriend.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why Not Being "Mr. Model" Can HELP A Man Attract Women

I hate all forms of B.S. And so I am really proud to share this one super-powerful point today:

Due to the destructive forces of third-wave feminism, a lot of women in the western world are CONFUSED and a little on guard when it comes to men who try to approach them to pick them up. These women have been bombarded by negative propaganda about men.

And so, if a guy is too good-looking, and comes across too smooth, a LOT of women will actually start to IMMEDIATELY think that he is a player who probably only goes around sleeping with women and telling them lies they want to hear in order to sleep with them.

On the other hand, if a guy seems he is NOT the stereotypical guy who can so easily get lots of women, and does not seem so extra-smooth and polished in his approach, what actually happens is a wonderful IRONY:

The women often LOWER THEIR GUARD, thinking "Oh this guy I don't have to WORRY about him in that respect" and so the women are actually often MORE RECEPTIVE AND OPEN to the actual approach- and if the guy DOES happen to be TRAINED in the ways of how to approach and attract, he is getting the perfect circumstance:

PREPARATION MEETING "PERFECT RECEPTIVE OPPORTUNITY" SINCE THE WOMAN IS MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY OPEN.

I learned this lesson by ACCIDENT.

What happened is that one day I had pulled an all-niter, and was totally in a rush  and had no time to do the regular routine in the morning, and left the house with the first thing I could find to wear and my hair messy, and I noticed throughout the day that wherever I was, it seemed the women were hanging around MORE rather than less.

PART of this, by the way, is also the fact that my mind was totally NOT thinking about pick-up, so the women could sense there was NO AGENDA going on, which was the honest truth- there wasn't-I actually felt there was no way I would get anywhere the way I looked and felt, and so I wasn't giving off creepy pick up artist vibes.

However, the other part also was that I didn't seem like a THREAT, like the kind of guy who could break their heart.

And so, after seeing these women hanging around without leaving, lingering for example, at the book or magazine rack beside me at a store, or hanging out too close to me on the bus without moving, I couldn't take it anymore, and started to open up the conversations, all the while treating it totally like an experiment and not worrying at all about trying to get an outcome, which helped even more as well.

And it was INSANE how CONSISTENTLY this kept on working throughout the day.

The BIGGEST thing that any man REALLY needs for success
with a woman is a CHANCE.  And by a chance, I mean having
a woman simply being OPEN to feeling out your personality,
getting to KNOW you.

Most guys end up doing things that SHUT THE WOMAN DOWN
before the guys even say a WORD.

Women feel attraction DIFFERENTLY than men.
Women need to FEEL OUT YOUR PERSONALITY.

But most men end up doing things that make the woman
emotionally shut down and thus prevent the guys from
GETTING TO THE POINT of showing depth of personality.

It was a powerful lesson I mentally stored in the VAULT of my
mind FOREVER, and one that I use to this very day to help men
all over the world who also come to my live bootcamps to learn
in person on women in every sort of place you can imagine-
from bookstores to cafes to public transit and much more. 

And what you have just read is just the first few MINUTES
from my MASSIVELY POWERFUL AUDIO PROGRAM onSuccess with Women called THE CHARISMATIC MAN.

This program contains an HOUR full of PURE GOLD
on SKYROCKETING your success with women.

Download this program NOW at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/charismatic-man.html

And to learn more about my live BOOTCAMP, go here:

The Michael Marks Dating BOOTCAMP

Till next time,

Michael Marks  

A Major Secret For Skyrocketing Your Success With Women

Get ready for something VERY important that
will make a MASSIVE difference in your success
with women.

The most important part of one’s success
with women is the strength of one’s mindset-
often known as one’s “internal game” as opposed
to learning superficial tactics.

And from all the aspects of this “internal game”
the hardest one for most guys to get is BELIEF,
having the belief that you CAN get the results
you want, and in general having powerful beliefs
about yourself, your ability to attract women,
etc.

Now, here’s what you need to know:
Human beings are hardwired to actually have
a NEGATIVITY BIAS. 

A long time ago, human beings really WERE
faced with tons of IMMEDIATE threats that
they HAD TO WORRY ABOUT and had to be
so-called “pessimistic” about – it wasn’t
pessimism though, it was realism.

Today, although humanity faces all kinds of
existential threats, the fact of the matter is that
on a day-to-day basis, having this pessimistic
attitude not only does not serve us, it actually
DESTROYS our chances of success with women
and with most other things, since it is not
accurately reflecting the reality.

This is part of the reason advertisers GROSSLY
EXAGGERATE the claims about their products
and services – it is because people are so
pessimistic that the result is if a product claims
to be a trillion times better than it is, people’s
pessimism clicks in and figures that it is worth
FAR LESS than the claim, but still worth far more
than they would think it was worth if the advertiser
just said the TRUTH.

Let me say something that is NOT an exaggeration,
yet STILL is MASSIVE:

IF YOU THINK THAT THE GUYS WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL
WITH WOMEN ARE ALL LUCKY GUYS WHO SOMEHOW
ARE EITHER RICH, GOOD LOOKING, WELL-CONNECTED,
OR ANYTHING ELSE, YOUR MIND IS PLAYING THE
NEGATIVITY BIAS ON YOU.

And if you are thinking or feeling that way, then you
are TOTALLY in the wrong MENTAL ZONE.

If you think that way, then YOUR MIND HAS GOT YOU
CONQUERED, AND YOU MUST NOW CONQUER YOUR MIND.

For now, allow me to say two more things:

ONE: BASE YOUR BEHAVIOR AND YOUR ACTIONS
WITH WOMEN ON THE PREMISE THAT YOUR ACTIONS
ARE TOTALLY WORTH IT.

Even if you feel TOTALLY NOT CONFIDENT AT ALL,
just take the ACTIONS that you WOULD take IF
you DID feel confident.

ACTION is a HUGELY powerful tool, so even if
you THINK AND FEEL you aren't going to succeed,
you can still force yourself to take the ACTIONS-
and THE VERY FACT YOU ARE TAKING THOSE
ACTIONS will have a HUGE effect on your MIND.

It's better to take the right ACTIONS, than it is
to try to TALK YOURSELF into a state of confidence.

So if there is a woman you want to talk to,
DO IT.  Don't even ARGUE with yourself or
try so hard to convince yourself why it's
all going to be so great, just TAKE THE
SAME ACTIONS that you would take if you
did NOT give IN to the fear.

Chances are, like all human beings, you are
a victim of your own hard-wiring to be pessimistic
about everything, including your ability to attract
women.

Don't put energy into trying to CONVINCE
yourself of why you are so awesome with
women, if in fact you feel the opposite-
trying to convince yourself that something
is true, when deep down you believe it is false,
can actually be counter productive as
your negative feelings may then just start
to try even harder to convince you to
give in to their negative perspectives.

Just focus on taking ACTION with women-
and THAT will then improve your perspective-
if you STICK with it. You can't just do it once.
You must immerse yourself in action.

In my live training, I show you the detailed,
step-by-step PROPER way to go about transforming
your mindset with women PROPERLY, and I
even customize it for your particular needs.

A negative perspective will SOUR everything-
you can have the most gorgeous woman in
the world eating out of your hand, and if you
are engulfed in the darkness of pessimism,
you will think she doesn’t really like you,
or you will think that you won’t be able
to keep her interested, or some other
thoughts that belittle your own success.

The CHALLENGE for most men is HOW
to EFFECTIVELY change their beliefs, their
states of mind, when it comes to this area
of their lives.

And in this newsletter, I have touched on the
REAL SOLUTION, and I promise you this is just
the tip of the iceberg of what you will learn in
my programs.

This is why taking a bootcamp with me is
so powerful.

The results of bootcamp training means that you will
get BETTER results with women, which means
you will start to feed your brain POSITIVE
FEEDBACK about your abilities with women,
which will truly MAKE YOU FEEL THE CONFIDENCE
instead of having to just act it.

Not only will you get to see powerful results
from your interactions with women happening
right before your eyes in real time, but I also
draw from an extensive array of PROVEN strategies
to help you SKYROCKET your “INTERNAL GAME”
as well - strategies that are far more effective
than just telling you to 'think positive'.

Plus, of course, I’ll also share with you VITAL
insights on women – these insights are going
to help you along every step of the way,
all the way to a relationship if you so desire.

Over the course of 13 years, I have helped
all kinds of men succeed with women- men
who vary in every way you can imagine-
so whatever your challenge is, chances are
that I’ve already found the SOLUTIONS for
for you before we’ve even met.

And of course, on top of all this deep-level
internal change, there is also the SKILL
of the actual 'approach' that I will teach you,
and that I have honed over 13 years.

I have helped thousands of men around
the globe, and some of these men have
even invited me to meet their girlfriends,
and invited me to their weddings with
the women they met through the skills
they learned from me.

Again, what I teach is not at ALL what you
have typically heard from positive thinking,
I assure you of this. What I teach is based
on EVIDENCE and RESEARCH that I have
personally used myself and have used
to help thousands of other men.

Bootcamp is at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

If you would like an immediate course on
OBLITERATING APPROACH ANXIETY, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/obliterating.html

That program is an EXCELLENT program for getting
rid of all EXCUSES and for ENSURING you take action-
it’s a vital program on its own, and it’s also an excellent
program to take before Bootcamp.

This program is NOT the stereotypical positive thinking
AT ALL- the RESULTS, however, absolutely DO lead to a
MASSIVELY EMPOWERED AND CONFIDENT STATE OF MIND.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth About Humor And Success With Women

In a world of confusion and lies, I would
like to spread some TRUTH when it comes
to attracting women.  I’m on a break right
now, so I only have a few minutes before
I have to get back to the real thing, so
this is going to be “short and sweet” today.

Have you ever heard women say they like
a guy who is FUNNY?

This is one of those things you have to be
careful of, because there are plenty of guys
who are funny that don’t seem to get the
women, but then again there are other
guys who are funny who seem to get
incredible women. 

So allow me to explain what is going on.

Humor can be used to convey different things.

For example, it can be used to convey
CONFIDENCE.

If a woman asks you about where you live,
or what you do, and you can tell she is asking
it just to make conversation and not because
it really is a serious question, or if you can
tell how most guys try so hard to qualify
themselves and try to impress women
with their answers, you can instead say
something like:

“I live in a cardboard box and I am very
ambitious, as I plan to move into a huge
cardboard box as soon as I get one from
someone throwing out their cardboard box for
a big-screen TV.”

So you are being funny and you are simultaneously
showing you don’t feel a need to qualify yourself,
so you are showing confidence.

At the same time, humor of ANY sort can be
powerful when you are trying to break through
the barriers of being a TOTAL STRANGER when
you see a woman out in public somewhere that
you would like to meet.

If you can get a woman LAUGHING, you
OVER-RIDE the part of her brain that plays
the TOO-CAUTIOUS role and in general works
to shut DOWN the guys who approach her.

But since you got her LAUGHING, she
can’t help but feel DIFFERENTLY and
feel more POSITIVE about this whole
situation.

So humor does not always have to be about
ATTRACTION or even CONFIDENCE in
order to be of MASSIVE VALUE when
meeting and approaching women, especially
women who are total strangers.

It sure helps if you can get a woman RELAXED
when you are approaching her. 

Studies have shown that it is hard to NOT LIKE
someone who had just made you laugh three times.

A lot of men worry about coming across in some
creepy  way to women.  Well, one SIMPLE answer
to this problem is to get her laughing, because if
she is laughing, she SIMPLY CANNOT HELP
BUT FEEL MORE POSITIVE ABOUT YOU.

So now, at that point, you can NOW unleash
ALL of your skills that you have learned on
attracting women, because she is now OPEN
to the DISCUSSION with you. 

So humor can OPEN THE DOORS for you
to allow you to work your magic.

By the way, there's one last element
regarding humor that I didn't mention
here, that is in a way the most
IMPORTANT of all, and it is something
that just about all women realize:

Powerful humor also conveys INTELLIGENCE.

So, in a world where so many men seem to
only be able to whistle cat-calls at women,
and who seem to only have the one-dimension
of being interested in the physical, it
is EXTREMELY POWERFUL to be able to CONVEY
to women that in addition to having a
PHYSICAL INTEREST IN HER (which she
already knows if she is attractive), you also have
OTHER ELEMENTS TO YOUR PERSONALITY,
including INTELLIGENCE.

Intelligence is one of those things that
you don't want to convey in a dry CEREBRAL
way, but rather in a JUICY EMOTIONAL WAY.

And powerful humor allows you to do
exactly that- it PROVES your intelligence
and it does it without sounding BORING
and without sounding as if you are insecure
and have to explain it directly.

INDIRECT and EMOTIONAL is the way to
CONVEY what you want to convey, and
HUMOR conveys intelligence in an
INDIRECT and EMOTIONAL way.

What you have just read here, as POWERFUL
as it is, is just a GLIMPSE into a whole other
UNIVERSE of awesome results you can have
with women.  I suggest you launch yourself
into the HEART of this incredible universe
of success with women by getting my
ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM
immediately.

I’ve also made this program EASIER for you
to get than EVER. It took me a while to set up
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It’s at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Power Of Self-Belief

There are two aspects of being successful

when it comes to meeting and attracting

a woman. The first part is having the

finesse in terms of skills to approach

a woman anywhere in any situation and

smoothly get a conversation rolling that

demonstrates attractive character traits,

such as confidence, intelligence, wit,

and empathy.

The second part, though, is what is going

on “behind the scenes” so to speak, in

your mind, in your life, etc. It’s a little

hard sometimes to be confident and

be in the right states of mind when

everything else is going to hell in your

life.

So, today, I just want to briefly yet in

an important way address that other

side.  Now, the examples I am about

to give are dramatic but all true, and

you don’t necessarily have to do the

same things in your life, but the point

is going to be the same nonetheless:

Nothing breeds success like success.

So if you are successful in one thing,

it’s easier to take that confidence to

another thing as well.  This includes

being successful in any goal in your life.

And the number one thing you need to

know regarding being successful in  

any goal in your life is that most people

fail due to FEAR, which also leads to

lack of EFFORT.  If you are too afraid

of failure, for example, you won’t put

in the effort, you will lose motivation,

you will be easily overwhelmed by

the slightest setback.

And the most horrifying thing about

fear is that it DISTORTS your perception

of the actual situation, it makes you think

things are worse than they are.

This is why, so often in life, people NEED

to have someone or something to FORCE them

to do important things because if it wasn’t through

force, they would give into their fear.

So, sometimes, for example a kid might be

afraid to go to the doctor, but the parent,

after trying all kinds of other ways that

don’t work, has to ultimately force the kid to go,

and it’s a good thing.

But once you’re an adult, you really don’t get

someone to force you to do the right things

in your life.  YOU have to force yourself.

YOU have to push through the fear.

YOU have to work your butt off.

YOU have to do the research and learning.

The good news, though, is that once you

understand this, suddenly you are able to

accomplish so much, and as you accomplish

this, you start to see how so many people

fail due to fear.

When Arnold Schwarzenegger was a kid

who wanted to become a champion bodybuilder,

his parents thought he was off his rocker. He

was a kid in a town in Austria after World

War II where bodybuilding was considered

even stranger than it was in America at that

time, and there was little opportunity for

financial success in that sport anywhere,

even in America.

But he didn’t let anyone’s thoughts of him

failing allow him to stop him from achieving

this goal.  Not only did he become a champion,

but along the way, before then, when he lost,

you could not even tell he lost from his

expression on his face- there is a famous

photo of him coming in second before the

years where he won undefeated year after

year.

In that photo, where he lost, from his face,

he looks like he won.  That is confidence, that

is happiness, that is passion for your sport.

He worked HARD.  Before getting any movie

roles, he was already a millionaire. He had

worked as a bricklayer, he started a construction

company, he sold bodybuilding manuals through

the mail. 

And when he wanted to become an actor,

at the time being insanely muscular was not

in vogue for actors or even action stars.

And they said he had too thick of an accent.

They said he could never play anything more

than a tiny role as a bouncer or other similar

minor roles in any film.

But within a few years, he became the highest

paid actor and conquered two genres, both action

and comedy.

And then when he wanted to become a politician,

they said he could never win, they made fun of

his lack of experience and said he should stick

to movies, but he ended up winning TWO terms

as governor of California.

When a person conquers a sport, conquers the

acting profession, conquers politics, and also

becomes a millionaire before even landing

an acting gig, it is not a coincidence.

Similarly, when James Cameron, the man who

made Avatar, wanted to make films, they said

he was too old and he didn’t have the education,

since he had never gone to film school and was

already 30 years old.

And even after proving to the world his ability

and expertise with The Terminator, (where for
a while right after, they were all believing in him)
when it came time for each of his new films, again
most people around him lost faith and they said
he would fail. 

With each film, whether it was Terminator 2, 
Titanic, or Avatar, it didn't matter- they said
he would fail, and they always had some
supposedly "good reason" for believing he
would fail.

Each time, he took on NEW challenges in
his films, pioneering new ideas and taking on
new challenges that most others around
him could never take on due to fear-
challenges that OTHERS did not believe
they or anyone else could handle.

They said he would never make back the enormous
money it cost to make Terminator 2.  

Of course, it became one of the most highly 
profitable films in history.

They said that Titanic would be a failure

since everyone already knew the ending,

and since it didn’t feature stars who were

famous at the time, and since it was too

long at about 3 hours, and since it was

a historical period piece, a genre that

tends to not do well at the box-office.

And when it came to Avatar, people were

saying it was also going to fail, that no

one is going to be interested in a bunch

of blue aliens with tails.

So, my point is that you need to have one

HELL of a strong INTERNAL DRIVE

because if you expect to be “encouraged”

by the outside world, you WON’T BE.

In fact, so often the most successful people

are driven to succeed BECAUSE they

were told they would fail, because they

wanted to PROVE these people wrong.

So, when it comes to your own life, JUST

STICK TO YOUR GOALS and don’t let

people screw with your CONFIDENCE.

This includes your confidence with women

as well. In fact, I have seen this countless

times: A woman will give a guy the cold

shoulder, and then his REACTION is so

confident, that his REACTION actually

GETS the woman interested.

For example, I’ve seen in my bootcamps

situations where a woman will say to a

guy she is too busy to date anyone, and the

guy will tell her that is perfect, because he

has no time either, instead of telling her

how much he needs to have her in his life,

and all of a sudden she laughs and starts

to melt and starts to re-engage in the

conversation.

It’s a very crazy world, and I didn’t make it

this way, it just is what it is.  The hungry

never get fed.  Those that have the power get

everything. Most women will give nothing to

the guy that is a nice guy but has no confidence

and no power.

But to the guy that has the confidence and

the power,  they will throw themselves at

him, and excuse just about all his negative

behaviors.

I always find it strange that certain women

(not all) will condemn a celebrity who is unfaithful

to his girlfriend or wife, but yet these same

“condemners” would never give the time of

day to a “nice guy” WITHOUT the power,

without the confidence, and would in a

heartbeat be THRILLED to be the next

in line to be with that celebrity.

In the same way that some men are brainwashed

by the “halo effect” of a beautiful woman,

and will excuse or rationalize the WORST

behavior of a woman who is beautiful,

so too some women are overwhelmed by

the halo effect of a man who resonates

POWER and CONFIDENCE.

Looks can definitely help a man as well, but

when it comes to men, women’s attraction is

not limited to this, it extends to his strength

of personality- the BEHAVIORS he displays.

And the only way to resonate those things

is to LIVE it.  You must be INTERNALLY

driven, you can’t depend on a woman or

anyone actually, to tell you how smart you

are, how great you are, how successful you

will be, that you will make it, etc, etc.

YOU must believe.

And the irony is, that when you do this,

in the long run, EVERYONE believes in you,

which is just another one of those things in

life that is ironic, when you don’t need

anyone to believe in you because YOU

believe in you, then ultimately everyone

believes in you.

For my most powerful program on

SKYROCKETING your INTERNAL

self, for conquering fears, for building

your SELF-BELIEF, I seriously suggest

you get my program WARRIOR WITHIN.

It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

For a personal consultation with me, go here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks