Why BELIEF Is The Key To Success with Women, And How To Get It

One of the most powerful experiences I've had as an instructor was
with a particularly "salt of the earth" client. He was doing amazing
attracting a two-set at a roof-top lounge. The women, who happened to
be gorgeous, were eating out of the palm of his hand, oblivious to
every other guy in the place and giving him endless indications of
interest.

He then told me that he wanted to speak to me away from the lounge.
So, outside the lounge, he was asking me, "How do you think it's
going?"

I told him he was doing great, obviously.

He asked me, "Do you think they are actually attracted?".
I told him that when women are constantly touching you, smiling
around you, and oblivious to every other guy in the place, that yes,
they are definitely attracted to you.

What was particularly cool about this guy is that he was absolutely
not arrogant, absolutely just a really cool, laid back, totally
CONGRUENT guy in his approach.

But so DEEP is the conditioning in our society for men to think
NEGATIVELY of themselves regarding women, that you can
have all the success in the world happening to you, and
you wouldn't even REALIZE the opportunities that women 
are THROWING your way, especially since women tend to be a
bit more subtle than men when showing their interest. 

AND THIS is why INNER GAME really IS so absolutely, massively,
overwhelmingly important, and why no amount of watching
pick-up videos can replace ACTUALLY being in the situation of
approaching women yourself, again and again and again, until
you BELIEVE on the DEEPEST levels that you ARE worthy, that
you CAN absolutely succeed.

What you CAN do is get the greatest INSIGHTS into how to make
your interaction as EFFECTIVE as possible, by skyrocketing your
sense of humor, your rapport skills, your sense of dominance,
and by your understandings about female psychology, so that
when you DO approach, you can not only have SPECIFIC things
that you can apply to IMPROVE your results, but also the very
fact you are studying these aspects of a successful interaction
will GIVE your subconscious mind a REASON to FEEL confident.

So you are feeling more CONFIDENT and you are also learning
more things which make you COMPETENT, and the more COMPETENT you know you are, the more CONFIDENT you feel, which leads to you ENTHUSIASTICALLY wanting to learn EVEN MORE, which builds even MORE competence, which builds even more confidence, in a NEVER-ENDING POSITIVE CYCLE!

Along with this CONFIDENCE and COMPETENCE,
it is VITAL to understand that getting a great
girlfriend is DIFFERENT than getting a one-night stand
or getting physical with any of the MILLIONS of
promiscuous women that abound these days.

This getting a great girlfriend is what I specialize in.
So in my programs you are learning a lot more than just
how to get the party girls, or the promiscuous girls who
may be fine in many ways, but who themselves will be the
first to say that they aren't relationship material.

If you want a woman who is the "total package"-
who is attractive and also has the personality
that would make for a fun and TRUSTWORTHY
and FAITHFUL girlfriend, then the material that
you will learn in my programs is of EXTREME
importance.

A woman who is looking for a real relationship is
putting a lot more on the line than just one evening
("one night stand") of her life.
 
She's putting her emotions, her time, her TRUST,
in you, and she isn't going to do all that for just any
guy who comes up to her with some pick up artist
or "dating guru" tactic.

At "Get A Great Girl", you're learning to master the
full picture of interaction with women, including
but also much more than just the initial words you
are going say to her.

The next time you want to approach a woman you're attracted
to, and you have no idea of what to say, try going up to her
and being honest about the fact you found her attractive.
At the same time, STAY COOL.

The best thing about this is that it eliminates the
"sketchy vibes" problem because it forces you to be
congruent, since you, after all, are being honest.
YOU know in your heart that you are NOT trying to
COVER UP anything, so you FEEL honest because you
ARE being honest.

This is GREAT for your INNER GAME.
You are forcing yourself to ACCEPT that it is OKAY
to be a MAN.

It's also great because it IMMEDIATELY lets the woman
know what's up, in the sense that you are not PRETENDING
to be there for some other reason.

This shows confidence, and it also allows her to VIEW you as a
man from the FIRST impression, rather than immediately seeing
you as just some guy who is going to be immediately slotted
into the friend category.

Then, look for positive situational material- comments on things
going on right then and there, KEEP IT POSITIVE. And give her a
chance to contribute to the conversation; it should NOT just be
YOU doing all the talking anyway.

Now, there are more advanced levels to the approach,
of course, where you indicate all these things without
having to be so blunt about them, but this is a great strategy
to use if you are feeling rusty, just starting into the process
of meeting women again, or if you happen to not have anything
to say.

And if you would like to learn THE FULL PICTURE to success
when it comes to getting a great girlfriend, or KEEPING
a great girlfriend, then I suggest you go HERE immediately:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/catalog.html

To learn the skill of PICK UP in REAL TIME, live, from me
directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP,
go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html

Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars.

The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life
more fun.

Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.

Get a GREAT girlfriend.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

What Almost EVERY Guy Gets Wrong With Women, And What YOU Should Do

I want to give you a MASSIVE and IMMEDIATE BOOST with women. So fasten your seat-belts.

Ever see the film The Matrix? The story is about a world where almost everyone on EARTH is PERMANENTLY asleep, but their minds are controlled by a computer to make them think they are awake and living a perfectly normal reality.

Only a precious few are actually AWAKE to this reality, and only they can change that reality- by confronting the computer program. 

The challenge is that the threats created by the program are only as powerful as the recipient BELIEVES them to be, but the "Matrix" is damn good at making those threats feel REAL.

To overcome the program, one must constantly have a stronger frame of INTERNAL reality versus the fake reality projected by the Matrix.

A lot of dating coaches like to give the analogy of The Matrix to let guys know that their possibilities with women are greater than they realize- in fact, I was probably the FIRST guy to use this analogy.

But the IRONY is that most of the pick up artists and dating coaches have actually CONTRIBUTED to the "MATRIX", so to speak, by making guys truly BELIEVE in things that aren't REAL, things that actually hinder their success when it comes to getting a great girlfriend.

What I am talking about is the obsession with the SPEED of getting physical with women. 

The fact of the matter is that women who are going to be faithful girlfriends who don't treat sleeping with a guy as a joke, are simply going to be a lot SLOWER on jumping into the physical aspect of a relationship.

Now, there are MANY, MANY, MANY other things of course as well that make a great girlfriend a great girlfriend- honesty, kindness, positivity, understanding, etc.

But the reason I bring up the physical aspect is because it is the current MATRIX STRATEGY to throw men off the real picture of reality.

A lot of pick up artist types like to take advantage of the ignorance of men on this issue, and since most men think all women are the same, most men think they are witnessing a miracle when they see a guy for example make out with a random woman very quickly, or get physical with her in even more ways.

Most men don't realize that this is truly no big deal, because of the great many women out there for whom making out with a stranger means nothing at all, and for some women out there, sleeping with a total stranger also means nothing at all.

There is no more strategy to this than it is a strategy to learn how to ride the bus. You go to the bus stop, wait for the bus, the doors open, and you get on.

So, men are asleep to the REALITY that to find the kind of woman who would make for a great girlfriend, you actually have to combine a particular set of social skills with also being the kind of man that shows he can handle life and handle a real relationship.

But, that is too complicated for a MARKETING VIDEO. And the vast majority of everything you see around you is SATURATED in marketing as opposed to TRUTH.

The real "Matrix" we live in today is MARKETING. Almost everything you see around you has had its truth TAINTED by MARKETING.

A TON of the marketing out there wants to EXPLOIT your emotions, your desire for SIMPLICITY, and it wants to exploit your EMOTIONAL WEAKNESSES.

It doesn't give a rat's ass about what is good for you- it's like a drug dealer that just wants to get you HOOKED, and of course once you are hooked, you are a slave to the dealer.

And the irony is that people go on and on about drug dealers, but the truth is the DESTRUCTION to society from all the other people who EXPLOIT people's weaknesses is actually just as harmful and possibly even more destructive to society.

If you want a great girlfriend, who will treat you right, who won't run off into another guy's bed when the smallest thing goes wrong, you need to get a woman who is STRONGER than the type of person who is so easily EXPLOITED emotionally.

And to get THAT kind of woman, you better be THAT kind of man as well.

And by the way, there is a very good REASON why a lot of men and women choose not to be promiscuous- and it has nothing to do with religion.

The real truth is, that, like anything else, over-exposure to something actually DESENSITIZES you to that thing.

When the physical becomes a complete joke, it loses the same IMPACT it once had.

But when it is used WISELY, the slightest TOUCH can deliver A UNIVERSE of EROTICISM, and it can do this FOREVER with the same partner.

Not a bad thing to have between two people who love each other, huh?

So, you won't find the "how to make out in 30 seconds" in my programs, because I figure you already know how to get the bus.

But if you're looking for how to get A GREAT GIRLFRIEND, I suggest you START with my book, called Get A Great Girl, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Samples.html

This book is NOTHING like what you read in typical dating advice and pick up artist material.

The NEXT step is to take my BOOTCAMP program, which will show you IN REAL TIME, how to find, screen, attract, and connect to quality women.

It's at: 

getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Truth And Nothing But The Truth When It Comes To Success With Women

For over 12 years now, I've been motivated by learning the truth about women and attraction. The truth may not be what sells, but in the end, it's the only thing that's important and the only way to actually get where you want to go.

So, for example, when the best-selling book called The Game came out, millions of men believed it all and they all thought that the best way and only way to really meet and attract women was by using pick-up lines.  

Even before the book had come out, I was telling the author on a Forum website devoted to the topic of dating and attraction that actually pick-up lines were not necessary- and I was already proving how to do the entire "pick up" in a more natural and effective way. 

Well, it only took the seduction/pick up artist community about 6 YEARS to finally realize that what I was saying was true. And not just in night clubs, but in meeting women ANYWHERE.

In fact, that was the NEXT thing that I was light-years ahead of- the whole idea that you can't usually meet the best kinds of women in night-clubs, because an attractive woman who also has her act together in terms of her morals, behaviors, and attitudes is not likely to want to go to a nightclub very often.  

The reason is because she ALREADY gets too much attention from the wrong guys, and the last place she wants to go is a place where she is going to be BOMBARDED by a bunch of drunk or tipsy guys who just want to get physical- if she just wanted that, she could meet a guy like that ANY second of ANY day. 

But again, it took MANY YEARS for those brainwashed by the effects of "group think" in the pick-up artist world, to SEE and BELIEVE what I had been teaching for many YEARS.

And by the way, of course, none of these guys would dare to give me one DROP of credit for all this, of course, because that would mean possibly encouraging guys to actually THINK rather than just listen to whatever they (the gurus) said.

And so I was explaining that the best way to meet a great woman is when these women are simply out and about doing their thing- getting groceries, going to the coffee shop, at the library, etc. 

Now, you still have to SCREEN women because ALL women are out there doing their thing, so you have to find the right ones through screening, but if you focus on nightclubs, you have to realize that the women in nightclubs are AWARE of the fact that it's a place where people go to drink and where for the most part, men are paying to meet women and not the other way around. 

So you have to ask yourself what kind of attractive woman needs to go there regularly, unless she is either looking for attention or promiscuous.  

But just because a woman is out and about during the day or evening in a place that is not a club, does not mean she is great girlfriend material.

This is another FACT that the pick up artist community wants to HIDE from you, or maybe doesn't even KNOW- but it's DAMN IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO KNOW- and that you know how to screen.

Here's ANOTHER thing they don't tell you:
WOMEN AND MEN ARE NOT THE SAME SEXUALLY


There is a TON of evidence that female nature is different from male nature.

So, for example, there was the famous experiment where 100 MEN were approached by a woman on a university campus, who were offered by the woman a chance to sleep with her, and almost EVERY man said yes.

Then, when the same experiment was set up on campus where 100 WOMEN were approached by a man for sex, EVERY WOMAN said no.

Source for this, by the way is: http://www.elainehatfield.com/79.pdf

And recently in the whole "Ashley Madison" news story, it turned out that almost NO MEN were actually MEETING ANY WOMEN-because in reality there were BARELY ANY WOMEN ON THE SITE---something the site tried to keep a secret!

The whole site was driven by MEN who WANTED to meet women, and who THOUGHT there were tons of women on these sites, but in reality, there were almost NO women on these sites, and the website had to actually FABRICATE the IDEA that there WERE tons of women on the site, in order to keep sucking in the men who were, unfortunately, looking for an affair.

But the point here is a LARGER point- that FEMALE NATURE is not as IMMEDIATELY driven by the same kind of sexual desire as MALE nature.

And YET, pick up artist after pick up artist KEEPS ON TELLING MEN that SECRETLY allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the women out there really want to SLEEP with a PLAYER, and are just BURSTING AT THE SEEMS to have sex with some guy who knows the MAGIC SECRET.

The TRUTH is, it's only a certain PERCENTAGE of women that are like this, and although their are, in ABSOLUTE terms, quite a few of these women, in terms of their actual percentage of the population of women, they are SUPER LOW and DO NOT REPRESENT THE NATURE OF MOST WOMEN.

But the majority of the pick up artist community wants you to think ALL women secretly just want to be promiscuous or in general that they have the same nature as men- so that you will think that since all women are really promiscuous anyway, you might as well join them since there is no point looking for a GREAT GIRLFRIEND that is not going to cheat on you or disrespect you, etc.

And again, most men, who just want to meet a great woman, will actually SCREW THEMSELVES BADLY by having the wrong picture of women and of reality.

And it's a bit sad, what is going on. You see, at one time, the promiscuous men and women knew to hang out at night clubs to meet their own types.

But now, thanks to GREED and the commercialization of human needs like love, sex, and affection, pick up artists are branching out into what used to be normal places- like EVERYWHERE else, and so now the normal women out there have to learn the hard way that a lot of these guys approaching them are not normal guys just trying to meet women as girlfriends, but rather playing a game to just try to gather as many women as possible, and trying to manufacture a connection with them that is actually NOT authentic. 

Which means that any GOOD women out there should actually have their guard up even MORE- but most women won't because it hasn't reached the tipping point yet. 

Of course, most women, even ones not informed in the slightest, will still put two and two together and it won't take too long for them to see when a guy is behaving in a way that doesn't add up.

By the way, this is yet another reason I can't associate with the pick up artist movement, even though there IS a GOOD purpose for learning these skills, and is what I teach men. 

I've always taught these skills ALONG with a sense of RESPONSIBILITY. 

To quote the first issue ever of Spider-Man, which was actually called "Amazing Fantasy"- "with great power comes great responsibility"- an idea that actually came from Voltaire.

 So remember, getting a woman into bed quick isn't a sign of how cool you are, it's a sign that a woman was unusual and is the type who wants to get physical fast with guys.

The IRONY of this all is that I was the guy who wrote, way back in 2003 in my first book, how MASCULINITY and FEMININITY are crucial parts of BIOLOGY, they are not just some invention- and how important it is for men to BE masculine and for women to be feminine in order to attract the opposite gender. 

But the pick up artist community only wants to embrace the part of the message that they like- the fact that it's GOOD for you to BE masculine and embrace your masculinity---but they DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT THE COROLLARY(the consequence) OF THIS- which means ALSO accepting that they want FEMININE women.

And although there ARE definitely promiscuous women, it goes AGAINST most women's nature to be as promiscuous as men naturally want to be (which is why over thousands of years, there has been that trade off- a man will be willing to be faithful to a woman who is truly worthy of it)- and deep down, men don't even WANT women to be promiscuous, they aren't even as attracted to promiscuous women.

So, if you REALLLLLLY want to embrace my message of the importance of masculinity in men, you ALSO must embrace the truth of the importance and the nature of FEMININITY in women.

That means seeing the GLARING TRUTH that can be seen with ANYONE with OPEN EYES OR EARS that MOST women are simply NOT as promiscuous as men---

--And if the pick up artists keep showing you videos of guys getting physical or sleeping with women- those are women that don't represent the kinds of women most guys want- just like how commercials on TV SHOW YOU things that don't represent THE TRUTH, but at least there there is the FINE PRINT at the bottom of the screen with all the disclaimers about how everything you are seeing is actually NOT TRUE.   

And so THIS explains the SLOW TREND these days in the pick up artist community AWAY from the night clubs and toward what they call DAYGAME. 

Again, trying to copy me, but STILL bastardizing the ACTUAL PART THAT MATTERS---because it's NOT about whether you meet a woman during the DAY or NIGHT- that whole distinction is REALLY referring to nightclubs versus "normal" places like the coffee shop, but you can meet a GREAT woman at night just about anywhere- it has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH DAYGAME VERSUS NIGHTGAME--this is just yet MORE MARKETING LEADING TO DESTRUCTION OF ACTUAL TRUTH.

So if you are reading this now, ask yourself: "How many more YEARS of my life am I going to WASTE following the DISTORTIONS OF TRUTH promoted by most dating advice experts?"  

The DISTINCTIONS between TRUTH and DISTORTION of TRUTH are sometimes HARD to see when you are in the "middle of the forest"--you can't see the forest because of all the trees. 
 
And SUBTLETIES matter- as you have seen from all the above. It's not enough to get dating advice that SORT OF tells you PART of what you need to know- MISSING JUST ONE DROP OF IMPORTANT TRUTH is like launching a SPACECRAFT with just a few parts missing, the fuel just slightly wrong, the trajectory just a bit off---it will result in a DISASTER.

And getting the RIGHT woman in your life is the single most important other human being that you will ever interact with IN your life- it MATTERS A WHOLE HECK OF A LOT.
 
If you want to get the RIGHT advice, there's ONE place to go - www.getagreatgirl.com 

For  the FASTEST way to learn everything, sign up for BOOTCAMP:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

For my most powerful HOME STUDY programs, including many audio programs that you can listen to while traveling or driving so you make the most use of your time, go here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.html

Till next time, 

Michael Marks

P.S. Because having a sense of humor is so useful, including when it comes to interacting with women and being in the right state of mind, I thought I would include this following image on the idea of having great power and great responsibility:

 

The Greatest SECRET On Getting A Quality Woman

This is one of the most important
newsletters I have ever written on
the topic of getting a truly great
girlfriend who is the total package
inside and out.

In order to get a great woman, it is
imperative that a man become the
greatest version of himself as well.

The CHALLENGE, however, is that
almost the exact INSTANT that you
make the commitment to improving
yourself, you will be faced with a
barrage of situations that TEST your
COMMITMENT to truly improving
yourself.

And the single GREATEST source of these
tests will usually come from SOCIAL PRESSURE.
So, for example, let’s say you decide to spend your
time NOT gossiping, and you happen to be having
dinner with friends one evening and one of them
or all of them are really going HEAVY on the
juicy gossip stuff.

Now, by the way, I am not judging people, as
people in general are only trying to do what
they think makes sense, and not everyone is
fortunate to have the right leadership and
guidance.

Back to our example above, in this situation
you will feel the pressure to JOIN IN  and
be gossipy and to start focusing on other
people’s lives rather than how to improve
your own.

Or, let’s say, you decide to start exercising,
and the current group of friends you have  
never exercise, they will for example invite
you out to watch TV, eat junk food, or something
during the time you wanted to go exercise.

And the above examples are not even where
people INTENTIONALLY are trying to
screw you up because they are jealous
of you or they are feeling insecure because
they are too lazy to change and they want
you to be on the same “level” as them.

Then, of course, there is the general social
pressure to just “fit in” with society rather
than EXCEED the “average”, because
in general, people only like the average
person, since the person above average
raises jealousies and the person below
is someone people either feel sorry for
or sometimes mocked.

The SECOND you want to actually IMPROVE
yourself, you will be BOMBARDED with
these situations, and MOST PEOPLE will
then FAIL, because it is so damn HARD
to CHANGE one’s path because of the
power of MOMENTUM. 

As humans, we just don’t like to CHANGE.
And if we decide to change, it doesn’t take
MUCH for most people’s commitment to
be SHATTERED.    

And, as I said above, the greatest CULPRIT
is the power of SOCIAL PROOF to make
sure you don’t rise much above or below
the SOCIAL or societal average.

We are affected by SOCIAL PROOF because
of our HARD-WIRING.  This is BIOLOGY
and EVOLUTION in FULL EFFECT.

It is important to understand that social proof
DOES have its uses.  For example, very often
in life, and in human history, making decisions
based on what the GROUP believed helped
individuals save TIME. 

So if for example, in ancient times, there was
a PATHWAY through the jungle that was
considered efficient or safe by the majority
of people, then it might very well save an
individual time to take that path rather than
search out every path or try to create a new
one.

So over the course of human history, feeling
INFLUENCED by social proof usually was
a GOOD thing.

However, social proof can BACKFIRE, as
if the social group is WRONG about something,
an individual will still feel very INFLUENCED
and sometimes emotionally compelled to follow
the suggestion of the GROUP.

This is ONE of the reasons that taking a bootcamp
with me is SO powerful.  It is because you are
truly being taken into a completely different
SOCIAL FORCE than the ones you tend to
meet in regular life. 

Since I have dedicated YEARS of my life
toward the training of men in how to attract
and keep quality women, I am EXTREMELY
CONGRUENT to this in every way. 

When someone else is truly CONGRUENT to something,
you FEEL the social pressure effect of that trait on a
DEEP level and you can more easily INTERNALIZE
that trait for yourself. 

It’s not just a cerebral event; it is EMOTIONALLY
COMPELLING AND OVERWHELMING in a
POSITIVE WAY.

It sinks in DEEP and becomes INTERNALIZED.
You become CONFIDENT about the new behaviors.
 
Make no mistake about it, CONGRUENCY is
EVERYTHING.

Congruency is so powerful, that you can go up
to a woman and tell her something like
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and actually have
it WORK if you are truly FEELING her
beauty in a way that is EMPOWERING
and ENERGIZING for you.

So the woman feels that you are not FAKING.
The woman can tell you mean BUSINESS.

Similarly, when you are in my Bootcamp, the
things I am telling you and teaching you
suddenly take on a whole new level of
MEANING and of EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

That means that you are now being influenced
in a POSITIVE way through the POSITIVE
“social pressure” that you feel from me.

I myself experienced this a few times in my life,
when I met some rare individuals who were
true EXCEPTIONS in a POSITIVE way to the
GENERAL NORMS of society. 

The mere experience of BEING IN THAT
ENVIRONMENT had an even GREATER
effect on me than ALL the specific strategies
that they taught me, put all together!  And
they taught me some GREAT strategies,
it is just that the EFFECT of INTERACTING
with these people was even GREATER than
the actual awesome strategies that they taught.

The power of SOCIAL PRESSURE is so great,
that every powerful group, company, or organization
on EARTH uses it to MASSIVE extremes. 

If you want to CHANGE yourself for the BETTER,
be prepared to BATTLE against the social forces
that want to INFLUENCE you to NOT improve
yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.

Most people give UP and give IN.
Will you?

And here’s where it all comes full circle.
Most men want a woman who will treat them
RIGHT.

A woman who is INTELLIGENT but who is
not arrogant or spoiled.

A woman who works HARD but who is not
selfish.

A woman who is FAITHFUL but is not insecure.

A woman who is health conscious but not
addicted to the gym.   

A woman who is fun in bed but who is not
promiscuous.

A woman who is friendly but not naïve.

If a woman is all these things, she is DAMN RARE.
She has REBELLED, so to speak, against the
social norms.

She can RESIST social proof, and probably in
fact has formed a POSITIVE social group of her
OWN, where the groups fuels each other with
POSITIVE social pressure, where they socially
proof healthy ideals and values.

And LIKE attracts LIKE.
The right kind of quality woman can DETECT
the INCONSISTENCIES in a man who is just
PRETENDING to be similar to her in order
to get her into bed.
   
She knows what the right values LOOK like
because she HAS them in HERSELF.     
 
The first thing you can do to change yourself
into the kind of man that quality women want
is to start choosing the RIGHT way to spend
your time, the RIGHT way to behave, the
RIGHT goals in your life.

I am not a preacher so I cannot tell you
what these RIGHT goals are for you, but
I can tell you that usually LAZINESS
make most people actually THINK that
the goals that take LESS work, the values
that take LESS discipline are the RIGHT
ones, when in fact they are usually the
WRONG ones.

Develop an attitude that does NOT look
for the easy way out.  Learn to see the
POSITIVE side of INTELLIGENT
and HARD work.  Learn to appreciate
the result of SWEATING it out to
IMPROVE yourself.  Learn to enjoy
the PROCESS of self-improvement.

Be HAPPY to learn from good people
who are KIND when they want to teach
you something rather than just being
arrogant.

Learn to try to UNDERSTAND people
rather than dismiss them right away.
You will notice that even though I have
standards that are higher than the average
in society, I do not BLAME people so fast,
because blaming is very easy and it ignores
the reality that most people aren’t TRYING
to do the wrong thing. 

However, UNDERSTANDING people does
not mean LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS.
It does not mean accepting a woman who
mistreats you.

When you INTERNALIZE these IMPROVED
attitudes, when you SHOW on the EXTERNAL
side as well that you are LIVING these ideals,
you will notice a MASSIVE improvement in
your ability to detect the RIGHT kinds of
women QUICKLY as well as how to detect
and avoid the wrong types of women, AND
you will also start to attract the right kinds
of women with far greater ease than before.

This is because you will be CONVEYING
all these things through all the subtle
nuances in your tonality, your body language,
your vocabulary, the expressions on your
face, the way you are able to listen and
understand and connect and inspire, etc.

Now, this newsletter has drawn some of the
BROAD STROKES that are ESSENTIAL
for your success.

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You will LOVE what you GAIN from Bootcamp.
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social NORM for a man when it comes to
his success with women. 

Most men GIVE IN to the desire to just
FIT IN and be AVERAGE.

You can REBEL against the FORCE of that
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And if you are still not SERIOUSLY
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

"Real World" Truth On Getting Quality Women

Before I start today, I just want to make
one thing really clear, and that is the
difference between FANTASY and REALITY
when it comes to getting women.

The more you get the REAL THING, the
less you care about the FAKE thing.

Most men figure they will NEVER get the
kind of women they want.

So it is the most natural thing in the
world to then really, REALLY enjoy
things like Playboy or Penthouse.

The women there are touched up with makeup,
they are presented in certain angles and
lighting, and they have certain expressions
on their faces, etc.  All designed to enhance
the fantasy.

Similar thing with strippers at strip clubs.

Now, like I said, fantasy is NORMAL when
the REALITY is not there.

For example, I LOVE the Star Wars original
movies with Luke Skywalker, etc.

Part of the fantasy is the POWER of the "Force",
(which is not clearly defined, which makes it
even easier to believe in, for one can define it
in a way that is real to themselves).
 
And of course, there is the fact that I LOVE the idea of flying an "X-Wing" spacecraft but  I probably will NEVER actually fly an X-Wing fighter spacecraft, probably never get to battle Darth Vader with a lightsaber, and probably not get to go on the same adventures with R2D2 and C3PO.

So I LOVE the FANTASY of it!
When I fantasize about it when watching the
movie, I FORGET it is a fantasy and I get
to actually FEEL the fantasy for a while.

But when it comes to WOMEN, when you actually
GET the kind of attractive woman or women you
like for REAL, you simply don't feel the same
DESIRE for the FANTASIZING elements.

It is like being Superman for real and then
fantasizing about flying.  You are doing it
for REAL so you do not fantasize about it.

But there is one MORE element to this that
most men never realize:

REALITY is far MORE powerful than FANTASY.

And what I mean by this, is that, let us say
you meet a woman who is a genuine NINE in
terms of her looks, and a genuine TEN in
terms of her personality.

And you have her, bent over the couch,
she is panting your name in obsessive
lust for you, she is begging for your
body, she is totally yours, crazy for
you in every way.

You see the beads of sweat on her QUIVERING body, you behold the contours of her every curve, and again it strikes you- she is totally YOURS.
 
I can ASSURE YOU that this is going to
be a TRILLION TIMES more ELECTRIFYING
than fantasizing about a woman who is
in a magazine or video, even if the
magazine and video has all the lighting,
makeup, and specially chosen angles
for photo or video recording.

The REAL THING CRUSHES the fantasy thing
by a ratio of about a TRILLION to one.

That is one of the reasons my "Real World
Bootcamp" is called "The Real World Bootcamp".

Until one experiences the real thing, it
is very hard to even FATHOM how powerful
it is, because until that point, FANTASY
is the only thing that exists.   
 
And most men will never even TRY to learn
the REAL THING.  This is why porn is a
BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.

Most men DO NOT KNOW HOW to get the real thing.

And now, I would like to give you EIGHT super powerful tips on how to GET the REAL THING, how to not only get an attractive woman, but a woman who is also a fantastic quality woman who would be a great
girlfriend.

These tips will work for you even if
you don't know ANY women or have ANY
"connections" to a social network at ALL.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 1:
GET INTO THE "JUICY" CONVERSATION RIGHT AWAY!

So, let's say you are already approaching
women and starting conversations, you
might notice that women will just be polite.

You aren't seeing their eyes light up.

Keep in mind that this woman has no idea
who you are, she has no idea that you have
gone through a lot in this life, that you are
not only a good person, but a pretty cool
person as well. She knows NOTHING
about you.

And you can't start listing your resume there.
So the ONLY thing SHE can judge you on here
is the conversation she's having with you and
how it FEELS to her.

So, you have to get her into "FEELING" state
pretty darn fast.

Now, you do NOT want to overcompensate
with becoming a CLOWN or PERFORMER.

You should start the conversation with something
low-key, like if you were at a card store and you
were commenting on the choice of card she is
holding, i.e. a father's day card, and telling her
she must have a close relationship with her dad
to buy such a card, etc.

THEN however you want to UP the ante pretty
fast, to BUILD from there. You want to get
her FEELING damn good. So you might go
from there into something that is either very
INTERESTING, or something that is very funny,
or something that truly raises her self-esteem
and makes her feel better about herself, you
can CHOOSE whatever fits best for your personality.

EXAMPLE:
So, giving the example of the woman at
the card store, you can go HUMOROUS
by telling her that she's just trying to butter
up her dad so he can buy her a Jaguar...

..Or you can go into the INTRIGUING and
genuinely meaningful compliment that raises her
self-esteem by speaking about how girls who get
along well with their dads tend to be the girls
who have less drama issues- and this would
PROMPT a response from her that was a lot
more involved on her part- it wouldn't just be
her trying to get rid of you, since now she is
actually engaged in something meaningful to her.

Also, you could COMBINE the above, and go
from humorous/funny, to the more serious and
intriguing and raising self-esteem style
conversation.

COMBINING emotions is a VERY powerful thing.
Imagine if you get a woman laughing, then get
her feeling intrigued, and then feeling better
about herself, all within a span of just a few
MINUTES.

You are going to be MEMORABLE.

You are going to be the guy she wants to CALL,
and all the other guys that just ogled her or said
trivial stuff to her will not even be REMEMBERED.

If you aren't getting the conversation into
the right EMOTIONAL ZONE very
QUICKLY, it's no surprise that your
interactions aren't amounting to any
results.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 2:
SHOW A BIT OF INTEREST WHEN SHE HAS EARNED IT.

Be down to earth and real.

This is a huge factor in being successful
when it comes to how to get a girlfriend.

Most guys are trying so hard to show they
are not interested, because they are told
by the "dating gurus" and pick up artists
that this will make the woman more interested-
so the guys end up standing way too far from
the women, and talking from too much of a
distance, and the guys try to also avoid ANY
type of comment that might sound like they
are interested.

The truth is that although you shouldn't give
compliments for the sake of compliments,
you SHOULD reward a woman for the
things that she really EARNED.

The KEYWORD here though is EARNED.
If you give compliments or if you seek
rapport for things she didn't EARN,
you are behaving as an underling,
a needy desperate guy.

HOWEVER, once she has EARNED it,
it's an entirely different matter.

So if she is telling you things that you really
find worthy of respect or interest, well then
you actually MUST show and tell her this,
because it is actually a way of letting her know
that she stands OUT from the rest, that she is
NOT just another woman, that you are NOT
just looking at her from a superficial point
of view.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 3:
BE AWARE OF THE EMOTIONAL VIBE OF THE SITUATION

Ignoring this is a MAJOR factor in screwing up attraction.

This often stems from not being present
in the moment, and being too caught up
in trying to achieve a certain outcome.

This pressure to achieve a certain outcome
is like a constant ALARM blaring in your
ear that prevents you from actually listening
properly and from FEELING what a woman
is actually feeling and trying to convey to you.

A lot of communication, in fact most of it,
is not in the words themselves, so if you are
ONLY listening to a woman's WORDS and not the
full depth of the tonality, expression, and
context behind those words, then you are often
missing what her real message is.

Here's a helpful hint- most of the time,
a woman is just trying to feel good, like
all humans do. So rather than focusing
on how you can show off how smart
you are, instead think about how you
can be CREATING A GOOD VIBE.

If she is talking about something a bit sad,
i.e. some tragedy or war, then don't show
off how much you know about that issue,
rather you should create RAPPORT to make
her feel understood, and then gently LEAD
the conversation to somewhere more
POSITIVE.

Look for the bright side of things, and
the reality is that if not for negative things,
there would BE no positive side, so if the
conversation is not going down the right
track, it's just another OPPORTUNITY
for you to create AWESOME emotions
where they didn't exist before, and that
makes you even cooler than every
other guy who couldn't do that.

A woman will not remember the details of
the conversation, she will only remember
how she FELT during it. So make it feel
GOOD.

Listen when she is speaking, listen for what
is the EMOTIONAL crux of what she is
saying, don't just be thinking of how you
can be the most cool guy to show how
you can give the most clever response.

The most clever response is the response
that simply FEELS good. You'll get
farther by NOT showing off then you
would by showing how clever and
"cool" you are. Don't put yourself
down of course, just don't make it
all about YOU. And that's how
she will remember YOU.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 4:
PROGRESS THE INTERACTION!

An interaction has natural stages,
you start off low key, you build
up steam and connect to each other,
and then you have to get her contact
info.

Out of fear, most guys will just stay
in whatever stage they are in, because
it feels good to not be rejected. However,
if you don't PROGRESS the interaction
to getting her number, and from getting
her number, to getting the date, to
getting physical, to relationship, etc,
etc, then what is the point?

So often, guys will open up a conversation
with something low key, and the women
will be receptive, but then the guys
STAY in that zone the entire time
because it feels good to get that
validation and they don't want to risk
LOSING that sense of validation.

So MOVE THE INTERACTION FORWARD.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 5:
BE FLIRTATIOUS!

If you are trying to meet a woman, then it's
CRUCIAL that she understands that there is
a sexual tension to the interaction.

So, the key to being more flirty and sexual
is being more PLAYFUL in your interaction,
combined with having a bit of a mischievous
glint in your eye.

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 6:
DON'T "OVERCOMPENSATE" FOR INSECURITIES

This is a HUGE one. We all fear not being
accepted, because of whatever it is we are
insecure about. So what do we do? We
OVERCOMPENSATE for that insecurity,
and we don't even realize it. It usually
comes across as either being insecure
or what is worse, as being a JERK.

If you start a conversation by trying to
protect yourself against your fear, usually
it will work AGAINST you.

For example, if you very early in a
chat said something like "superficial
things are so over-rated, I would never
be caught working for a big corporation",
that would be an example of this.

If you're bald, if you're short, if you're
ANYTHING you are insecure about- the reality
is that it's NOT an issue but if you START
with "Hi, my name is Mac, would you date
a short guy?" then you clearly are showing
that this is a major obsession or fear.

Same with, "Hi, I make peanuts, but
I LOVE what I do" that also shows that
you are obsessed with the issue since
it's the first thing you brought up.

Just be comfortable in your own skin, and
don't bring up the issue at all. There's
a lot more to you than you think, a lot
more to you than the things you are
insecure about.

This rule also applies for not trying to
explain anything about yourself or situation
that you think is not cool- so if your are
renting a car because your regular better
car is at the shop, don't say, "This is
just a rental- I have a better car". 

Just DON'T BRING IT UP, otherwise it comes
across as you feeling inferior to her.

And when YOU feel inferior, that is the
ultimate litmus test to a woman of
how desirable you are. YOU are the one
who has to know how desirable you are.

If you don't feel it, how can she?

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 7:
TAKE IT SLOW. DON'T RUSH IT AND REVEAL
TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO EARLY!

Now, the problem with this is that it is
the behavior of someone who feels that
he is going to get rejected.

So, if you just approached a woman, don't
start telling her within 30 seconds "man,
I'm so tired, I just got in from LA" or
"I'm so tired, I was up all night with
my agent on the phone" etc, etc.

It's OBVIOUS to her that you are throwing
around the words "LA" and "AGENT".

How To Get A Girlfriend Tip 8:
ADD EMOTIONAL DEPTH TO THE CONVERSATION.

What this means is that a quality woman
who is looking for a real relationship
is seeking someone who has an appreciation
for more than JUST sex.

This does NOT mean to BORE her with some
lecture crammed with statistical data.

Instead, what this means, is to incorporate
an element of INTRIGUE into your conversation
that has powerful emotional RELEVANCE to
her life.

For example, asking her the following question,
even as a conversation starter, would be great:

"What do you think of the phrase,
'Don't die with the song still in  you?' "

This is the kind of question (by the way, I got this from a great woman, so it comes right from the source) that gets the EMOTIONAL GEARS WORKING, and has MEAT to it that can provide the fuel for a great conversation, and then you can THEN sprinkle in some playfulness LATER.

For example, let's say you are both
chatting about this topic for a few minutes,
you can then say, "Wow this is pretty deep,
look what you caused here! Instead of having
a meaningless conversation, you got me going
deep! That's it, from now on, we are talking
about Justin Bieber and Beyonce!"

This way, you get her laughing and feeling
that you have a full personality, the kind
of man that she can see herself with in
all the various contexts of a long term
relationship.

Those are 8 SUPER IMPORTANT tips on how to
get a girlfriend that you can now go out
and apply IMMEDIATELY, and you will notice
a MASSIVE difference, TODAY.

And if you are reading this right now and
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I’m talking from TOTAL SCRATCH all the way to
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And if you've been reading these newsletters,
you probably already know about my Real World
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The benefit of this program is that it saves
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Till next time,

Michael Marks