Attracting A Truly Great Woman

If you are looking to meet and attract a truly
great woman who is not only beautiful
but who would also be the kind of woman
who would make for a fantastic girlfriend,
wife, mother, and life-long supporter, this
is a particularly important newsletter for you.

ONE: POPULARITY DOES NOT EQUAL GOOD

The first thing I need to make absolutely
clear is that the POPULARITY of something
is not always a great indicator of that thing’s
value.   

TWO:
WHEN DEEP DOWN, YOU REALLY ARE PUTTING THE
WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL, YOU END UP SHOWING IT

So, the POPULAR ADVICE for men when it
comes to dating usually boils down to do
ANYTHING to try to get the woman, especially
to get her into bed.   

There are many problems with this approach.
First of all, it puts your MIND in the WRONG
place psychologically.  It puts ALL the value
on HER and none of it on your SELF.

So, even if the tactic involves PRETENDING
that you are high value, the fact is, that underneath
this charade, this game, this tactic, you would
actually feel INFERIOR worth to the woman
you are trying to attract, because, after all,
your mindset is all about how to get the woman
at all costs.

Ironically, this type of approach often ends up
REPELLING women, because women can
SENSE that lack of confidence even if the
guy is VERBALLY saying cocky remarks
or acting “hard to get” on the surface.

THREE: WOMEN ARE USUALLY BETTER AT
READING BODY LANGUAGE THAN MEN

Women are better than men at reading body
language, and this may be because they have
more practice socializing in complex ways
at an earlier age than men, whereas boys
don’t tend to engage as much in those types
of behaviors as they do in things like sports
or other stereotypically “male” actions.

So, if a guy is FAKING his emotions, women
can SENSE it.

FOUR:
SCREENING IS ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A WOMAN WITH
GREAT VALUES.

Also, if a guy is trying to get a QUALITY
woman, then it becomes even MORE important
to SCREEN a woman for the right values and
behaviors.

Now, there are some pick up artists that try to
PRETEND they are screening a woman, in order
to SEEM  as if they are NOT desperate for the
woman, but the TRUTH is, this is just a tactic,
they don’t REALLY care about screening, they
just want to get her into bed.

And again, the irony is that FAKING does not
work that well anyway EVEN FOR GUYS THAT
ARE ONLY CONCERNED WITH THE SUPERFICIAL.  
 
It is for THIS reason that guys who are only
concerned with the superficial would do much
better to be a lot more DIRECT while still showing
some class, as there are some women out there who
are looking for similar promiscuous adventures and
those women will be happy to meet a guy who is
honest and still showing some class.

But if you are looking for something a lot deeper
and a lot more long-term, if you are looking for
the kind of woman to be a true partner in the
deepest sense of the word, SCREENING becomes
INSANELY IMPORTANT.

It is important, first of all, so that you don’t waste
PRECIOUS TIME on the wrong women. 

You can EASILY screen out women in just a
brief conversation.  You can be on the lookout
for how she spends her time, including her free
time, you can be on the lookout for what kinds
of things she likes to talk about.

FIVE: GET HER COMFORTABLE TO REVEAL HERSELF,
BY NOT COMING ACROSS AS JUDGMENTAL.

What is on a person’s MIND will often come
out in their CHATTING, if you just let them
feel COMFORTABLE with you.

This is why it is so important that you do NOT
tell a woman right away exactly what you are
looking for OR what you value or hate. 

Instead, just have a casual but interesting chat
that gets her emotionally pumped. When people
are emotional they tend to talk more because
they are FEELING the DESIRE to express themselves.

SIX: GET HER EMOTIONAL IN A POSITIVE WAY

So don’t bore a woman to sleep.  Talk about
things that are INTRIGUING or INSPIRING. 
Or find something about her so that you can
give her a truly HONEST compliment on
besides her looks. 

SEVEN:
STOP COMPROMISING YOUR INSISTENCE ON GREAT VALUES

There’s ANOTHER really important step to
getting a quality woman, and that is to stop
COMPROMISING with yourself on what
you define as GREAT VALUES in a woman.

I swear to it, I personally think that good guys
are living in the WORST TIME IN HISTORY
for finding quality women who are STELLAR
in the traits that are important for relationships,
for marriage, and for raising a family.

I also think that it’s probably pretty hard for
the few quality women who DO exist to find
the RIGHT men who have great values as well,
but since I’m not a woman, I can’t tell you for
sure what it’s like to be a woman who is truly
loyal and faithful and who is looking for a man
who is loyal and faithful.

I don’t think that anyone should be FORCED to
live a lifestyle in which they don’t believe. 
Family life is not for everyone.  Marriage is not
for everyone.  Relationships are not for everyone.
And in today’s current society, this is DOUBLY
true.

However, when in the RIGHT relationship, MOST
people tend to report being happier than when they
were single, and most single people are also still
trying to find someone.

EIGHT: THE BIG PICTURE

On a larger scale, a strong RELATIONSHIP is the
bedrock of a strong marriage.  A strong marriage
is a great FOUNDATION for bringing up children
in the right atmosphere. Well-adjusted CHILDREN
grow up into well-adjusted ADULTS.  Well adjusted
ADULTS create a HEALTHY SOCIETY.  A healthy
SOCIETY means a healthy COUNTRY.  A healthy
country can POSITIVELY affect the WORLD as
well. 

And the OPPOSITE is true as well.  A screwed-up
perception of how men and women should behave
will screw up EVERYTHING else.

NINE: SOME ELEMENTS OF THE PAST WERE WISER THAN THE PRESENT
 
Now, there were many things WRONG with society
back in 1950.  I won’t get into them here, as I’m sure
you can figure them out on your own.  But there were
SOME things that were definitely RIGHT.

And one of those things was the GENERAL VIEW
toward relationships. When a man courted a woman,
it MEANT something greater than just how to get
her into bed.  It reflected his desire to COMMIT to
her, to start a FAMILY with her.  It was not just
about the short-term physical.

And women, in general, were looking at men from
a more MATURE perspective.  Just like men, they
were also thinking about the long-term potential,
whether a man would be hard-working or lazy,
and whether he would be a good father, etc.

Not only this, but women were doing this when
they turned 18!  Women were not waiting till they
were twice that age to start thinking about the
important traits in a man. (And many women
today NEVER seem to think about it.) 

FAST FORWARD TO 2013, and you have the
following scenario that takes place amongst
SOME women who are SUPPOSED to be
ready for a life-long mature COMMITTMENT
and deep-seated love and RESPECT for their
man:

BACHELORETTE PARTIES WITH MEN
STRIPPING AND SHAKING THEIR
YOU-KNOW-WHATS

And I'm not a hypocrite, I don't think that men
who are seriously in love with their future
wives, men who view marriage as sacred,
would think it is appropriate to be holding
stripper bachelor parties either.

Part of the problem is that many women have
abandoned their once PROUD role in society
as protectors of family values.  It used to be that
most women would SHUN the kinds of values that
degrade the deepest levels of connection between
men and women.

Today, however, some misguided women feel they have
made "progress" and gained "equality" by trying to
duplicate the behaviors of the most promiscuous men.     

In 1950, you had women in their PRIME
thinking CAREFULLY about how to find and get
a man who would be a great husband and father,
and you had women who VALUED their chastity,
who felt it was something SACRED to give to
a man...

But TODAY you have many women who are WAY PAST
THEIR PRIME, who STILL can’t put it together in
their heads that a man who is the kind of man who
has good values, who would be a good father, who
would be loyal, and a man who is STRONG enough
and SMART enough to be a great leader, would never
be STUPID enough to marry such a woman.

TEN: THIS IS WHERE I COME IN

Again, THIS is the reason GET A GREAT GIRL
was born.  GET A GREAT GIRL would not be
NEEDED in 1950.  Everything I write about was
OBVIOUS back then.

So let me bring this full circle:
If you want a GREAT QUALITY WOMAN, you
better FORGET the popular advice.

If you want to get that RARE kind of woman, you
HAVE to stand APART from the masses.

And again, I do not believe in violence, and I
do not believe in preaching.  Do not try to
CONVINCE any woman who is messed up
on how to be a better woman. 

There are some wise women around.  These women
have a lot of courage to stand up for good values.

And these women standing up for good values aren't
just 90 year-old grannies.  These women standing up
for eternal values include women who are intelligent
and attractive university students who are right in the
THICK of this social pressure, and yet they are
RESISTING it COMPLETELY.

ELEVEN: YOU MUST BE THE MAN AND STAY ON COURSE

I PROMISE YOU that there ARE still some
decent women around. But man oh MAN are
you going to have to be the MAN if you
are going to go after a quality woman.

You are going to meet a lot of the WRONG women
along the way.

What is even CRAZIER, is that with the CERTAINTY
and CONFIDENCE in the eternal and powerful values
that you possess, you will find a lot of these WRONG
women actually PURSUING you.

Resisting the urge to give in to the SHORT TERM
pleasure is part of the SEPARATING the men from
the boys, so to speak.  The weak men will give into
these wrong women because the desire for the physical
with them while STILL not having found the RIGHT
woman will be very strong. 

But giving in may very well make you LOSE some
of your CERTAINTY, some of your sense of DIRECTION,
some of your CONFIDENCE in your own values.

You are what you THINK AND DO.
So if you give into the wrong women, you will start to
RATIONALIZE and JUSTIFY to yourself all kinds of
nonsense, such as why you need to stay with this wrong
woman.

Meanwhile, the RIGHT WOMAN is out there waiting
as you spend all that time and energy and waste it
on the WRONG woman.  Wasting that time and
energy is something you should not do, because
meeting the RIGHT WOMAN may take a lot of energy
and time, but it is probably the MOST IMPORTANT
THINK YOU CAN DO IN YOUR LIFE besides taking
care of your health and in fact the wrong woman will
harm your health and the right woman will improve it.

TWELVE: TAKING ACTION

Now, let me get down to the NITTY-GRITTY.
I HATE b.s.
I LOVE truth.

And the TRUTH is, that unless you have some special
connection to all the right women, you are going to have
to APPROACH WOMEN and chat with them and get
a sense of who they are.

I repeat:
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN.

You cannot expect miracles in the sense of you just
sitting at home or expecting women to just appear
out of thin air.  Also, women don’t tend to do the
approaching. This is because most women are
culturally conditioned to be less "pro-active" than
men when it comes to the INITIAL approach.

Women are told that being too assertive in the
initial approach will make them seem less
feminine. 

If a woman is interested in a man who is a total
stranger,  usually the most she feels she can do
is INDIRECTLY make herself more available,
i.e. hanging around a certain area for longer than
usual, etc.

And you can’t give yourself excuses, as excuses
won’t help.  If there are no women in one place,
go to another place where there are women.
Keep trying new places till you find places
where you can meet plenty of women. 
   
You must SOLDIER on, approaching woman
after woman even in situations that feel awkward. 

You have no idea how strong this makes you,
because what happens is that when an EASIER
approach situation comes later, you will JUMP
on it because you will have already had experience
doing so many approaches that were harder from
before.

THIRTEEN: THE INSTANT-DATE

ANOTHER super-important  point is this:
GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE IF POSSIBLE

Getting a phone number is all good and fine, but
if you can, GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE.

What I mean by this is to actually take the
approach as far as possible.  If the chat is
going well, then after a few minutes suggest
that you go for a coffee right then and there,
especially if there is a coffee house nearby.

You have to remember that the woman is a
total stranger, and the more you get a chance
to connect with her, the LESS CHANCE that
later she will wonder just what the heck happened
earlier that day that made her give her number
to a total stranger. 

Sometimes a guy will have a great interaction with
a woman,  and the woman will happily give him
her real number, but then later on she will forget
some of the details and she will wonder how on
earth she gave her number to a total stranger.

However, if she has a really LONG chat with you,
she gets a much better perspective of who you are,
and this makes her feel that it is not weird for her
to meet up with you again.

This does NOT mean that getting a woman’s
phone number is not enough.  Many times, it
IS enough, because you can chat on the phone.

I’m just saying that it is even BETTER to try to
get the INSTANT DATE with her in that very
FIRST interaction you have with her.

The right woman IS out there, she is hoping to meet you.
She is NOT a typical woman from today’s society.
She is NOT impressed by the screwed up morals.
She has the ability to THINK CRITICALLY.
       
If you want to attract a woman who is able to
RISE ABOVE THE CRAPOLA VALUES, you
must show that you are the kind of MAN who is
RARE and who is ABOVE the stupidity that is
unfortunately so often POPULAR. 

If you are REALLY SERIOUS about mastering the
skills on how to approach women MOST EFFECTIVELY
then take a bootcamp with me.  Bootcamp is totally
private, one on one, and takes place completely in the
real world.  There are no simulators, just real women
in all types of places, and me beside you as your
most powerful coach who has trained in these skills
for over ten YEARS.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

If you are looking for a woman for a serious relationship
who will treat you RIGHT and be LOYAL to you long-term,
you MUST BE PREPARED on how to go about doing all this.

If you JUST want the physical, this is the EASY part.
There are tons of promiscuous women who are not looking
to commit, every weekend at the clubs, bars, lounges, etc.

But if you want a quality woman who would make for
a great wife, mother, and partner for life, you
NEED TO BE INFORMED.

I seriously suggest you take a MASSIVE action for yourself
to SOLVE the problem by getting my intensive home study
program that is all about getting a QUALITY woman,
by going HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,    
               
Michael Marks  
            

The Greatest SECRET On Getting A Quality Woman

This is one of the most important
newsletters I have ever written on
the topic of getting a truly great
girlfriend who is the total package
inside and out.

In order to get a great woman, it is
imperative that a man become the
greatest version of himself as well.

The CHALLENGE, however, is that
almost the exact INSTANT that you
make the commitment to improving
yourself, you will be faced with a
barrage of situations that TEST your
COMMITMENT to truly improving
yourself.

And the single GREATEST source of these
tests will usually come from SOCIAL PRESSURE.
So, for example, let’s say you decide to spend your
time NOT gossiping, and you happen to be having
dinner with friends one evening and one of them
or all of them are really going HEAVY on the
juicy gossip stuff.

Now, by the way, I am not judging people, as
people in general are only trying to do what
they think makes sense, and not everyone is
fortunate to have the right leadership and
guidance.

Back to our example above, in this situation
you will feel the pressure to JOIN IN  and
be gossipy and to start focusing on other
people’s lives rather than how to improve
your own.

Or, let’s say, you decide to start exercising,
and the current group of friends you have  
never exercise, they will for example invite
you out to watch TV, eat junk food, or something
during the time you wanted to go exercise.

And the above examples are not even where
people INTENTIONALLY are trying to
screw you up because they are jealous
of you or they are feeling insecure because
they are too lazy to change and they want
you to be on the same “level” as them.

Then, of course, there is the general social
pressure to just “fit in” with society rather
than EXCEED the “average”, because
in general, people only like the average
person, since the person above average
raises jealousies and the person below
is someone people either feel sorry for
or sometimes mocked.

The SECOND you want to actually IMPROVE
yourself, you will be BOMBARDED with
these situations, and MOST PEOPLE will
then FAIL, because it is so damn HARD
to CHANGE one’s path because of the
power of MOMENTUM. 

As humans, we just don’t like to CHANGE.
And if we decide to change, it doesn’t take
MUCH for most people’s commitment to
be SHATTERED.    

And, as I said above, the greatest CULPRIT
is the power of SOCIAL PROOF to make
sure you don’t rise much above or below
the SOCIAL or societal average.

We are affected by SOCIAL PROOF because
of our HARD-WIRING.  This is BIOLOGY
and EVOLUTION in FULL EFFECT.

It is important to understand that social proof
DOES have its uses.  For example, very often
in life, and in human history, making decisions
based on what the GROUP believed helped
individuals save TIME. 

So if for example, in ancient times, there was
a PATHWAY through the jungle that was
considered efficient or safe by the majority
of people, then it might very well save an
individual time to take that path rather than
search out every path or try to create a new
one.

So over the course of human history, feeling
INFLUENCED by social proof usually was
a GOOD thing.

However, social proof can BACKFIRE, as
if the social group is WRONG about something,
an individual will still feel very INFLUENCED
and sometimes emotionally compelled to follow
the suggestion of the GROUP.

This is ONE of the reasons that taking a bootcamp
with me is SO powerful.  It is because you are
truly being taken into a completely different
SOCIAL FORCE than the ones you tend to
meet in regular life. 

Since I have dedicated YEARS of my life
toward the training of men in how to attract
and keep quality women, I am EXTREMELY
CONGRUENT to this in every way. 

When someone else is truly CONGRUENT to something,
you FEEL the social pressure effect of that trait on a
DEEP level and you can more easily INTERNALIZE
that trait for yourself. 

It’s not just a cerebral event; it is EMOTIONALLY
COMPELLING AND OVERWHELMING in a
POSITIVE WAY.

It sinks in DEEP and becomes INTERNALIZED.
You become CONFIDENT about the new behaviors.
 
Make no mistake about it, CONGRUENCY is
EVERYTHING.

Congruency is so powerful, that you can go up
to a woman and tell her something like
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and actually have
it WORK if you are truly FEELING her
beauty in a way that is EMPOWERING
and ENERGIZING for you.

So the woman feels that you are not FAKING.
The woman can tell you mean BUSINESS.

Similarly, when you are in my Bootcamp, the
things I am telling you and teaching you
suddenly take on a whole new level of
MEANING and of EMOTIONAL IMPACT.

That means that you are now being influenced
in a POSITIVE way through the POSITIVE
“social pressure” that you feel from me.

I myself experienced this a few times in my life,
when I met some rare individuals who were
true EXCEPTIONS in a POSITIVE way to the
GENERAL NORMS of society. 

The mere experience of BEING IN THAT
ENVIRONMENT had an even GREATER
effect on me than ALL the specific strategies
that they taught me, put all together!  And
they taught me some GREAT strategies,
it is just that the EFFECT of INTERACTING
with these people was even GREATER than
the actual awesome strategies that they taught.

The power of SOCIAL PRESSURE is so great,
that every powerful group, company, or organization
on EARTH uses it to MASSIVE extremes. 

If you want to CHANGE yourself for the BETTER,
be prepared to BATTLE against the social forces
that want to INFLUENCE you to NOT improve
yourself mentally, physically, financially, etc.

Most people give UP and give IN.
Will you?

And here’s where it all comes full circle.
Most men want a woman who will treat them
RIGHT.

A woman who is INTELLIGENT but who is
not arrogant or spoiled.

A woman who works HARD but who is not
selfish.

A woman who is FAITHFUL but is not insecure.

A woman who is health conscious but not
addicted to the gym.   

A woman who is fun in bed but who is not
promiscuous.

A woman who is friendly but not naïve.

If a woman is all these things, she is DAMN RARE.
She has REBELLED, so to speak, against the
social norms.

She can RESIST social proof, and probably in
fact has formed a POSITIVE social group of her
OWN, where the groups fuels each other with
POSITIVE social pressure, where they socially
proof healthy ideals and values.

And LIKE attracts LIKE.
The right kind of quality woman can DETECT
the INCONSISTENCIES in a man who is just
PRETENDING to be similar to her in order
to get her into bed.
   
She knows what the right values LOOK like
because she HAS them in HERSELF.     
 
The first thing you can do to change yourself
into the kind of man that quality women want
is to start choosing the RIGHT way to spend
your time, the RIGHT way to behave, the
RIGHT goals in your life.

I am not a preacher so I cannot tell you
what these RIGHT goals are for you, but
I can tell you that usually LAZINESS
make most people actually THINK that
the goals that take LESS work, the values
that take LESS discipline are the RIGHT
ones, when in fact they are usually the
WRONG ones.

Develop an attitude that does NOT look
for the easy way out.  Learn to see the
POSITIVE side of INTELLIGENT
and HARD work.  Learn to appreciate
the result of SWEATING it out to
IMPROVE yourself.  Learn to enjoy
the PROCESS of self-improvement.

Be HAPPY to learn from good people
who are KIND when they want to teach
you something rather than just being
arrogant.

Learn to try to UNDERSTAND people
rather than dismiss them right away.
You will notice that even though I have
standards that are higher than the average
in society, I do not BLAME people so fast,
because blaming is very easy and it ignores
the reality that most people aren’t TRYING
to do the wrong thing. 

However, UNDERSTANDING people does
not mean LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS.
It does not mean accepting a woman who
mistreats you.

When you INTERNALIZE these IMPROVED
attitudes, when you SHOW on the EXTERNAL
side as well that you are LIVING these ideals,
you will notice a MASSIVE improvement in
your ability to detect the RIGHT kinds of
women QUICKLY as well as how to detect
and avoid the wrong types of women, AND
you will also start to attract the right kinds
of women with far greater ease than before.

This is because you will be CONVEYING
all these things through all the subtle
nuances in your tonality, your body language,
your vocabulary, the expressions on your
face, the way you are able to listen and
understand and connect and inspire, etc.

Now, this newsletter has drawn some of the
BROAD STROKES that are ESSENTIAL
for your success.

It’s time to get down to the nitty-gritty and
put it all into ACTION.

The FASTEST way to get it all into action
is through BOOTCAMP, where I will
instruct you live as you approach women
EVERYWHERE. 

Keep in mind BOOTCAMP is not only about
gaining CONFIDENCE, it is also about
MASTERING the TECHNICAL skills and
gaining the know-how regarding how to
take action and approach women even in
all those "hard to approach" situations.

Learn more about what Bootcamp is and
when the next sessions are being held by
going HERE immediately:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

You will LOVE what you GAIN from Bootcamp.
The experience is PRICELESS and it is
something most men will NEVER do, because
it requires the internal MOTIVATION to
get success BEYOND what is the average
social NORM for a man when it comes to
his success with women. 

Most men GIVE IN to the desire to just
FIT IN and be AVERAGE.

You can REBEL against the FORCE of that
social pressure and EXCEED what is
the AVERAGE for most men.

And if you are still not SERIOUSLY
approaching women yet, you MUST download
my “Acing the Approach” program now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html

And to learn the FULL PICTURE on how to
get yourself a FANTASTIC quality woman
for a great relationship, go HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

A Quality Woman, A Quality Culture

One of the challenges for a lot of
men and women today is that they
feel a pressure to act a certain
type of way, a way that is arrogant
and rude.

Now, maybe when one is 15 this might
seem cool to some. But by the time
you're an adult, there's no place for
it.

The problem is that a lot of the culture
today celebrates insane values, just
take a look at the popular culture
and music. It often preaches violence,
lust, and a total absence of real
love.

Yet, when someone contributes REAL
entertainment with quality values,
something like Titanic or The Notebook,
it almost always becomes a super
best-seller. That's because people,
young and old, men and women,
are STARVING for the real stuff.

And so, in honor of GOOD VALUES,
I am putting up a song by John Denver,
(Calypso, that honors Jacques Cousteau)
and the great news is that there
are awesome women out there who
totally love this kind of thing
too!



They key though is to not act
APOLOGETIC for having great values-
your PRIDE in these great values
liberates women from having to
feel a need to pretend they are
part of the insane culture--
they would love to know that
you are a quality man.

Don't even PRETEND to be a guy who
is into the screwed up values, all
that would achieve is attract the
WRONG kind of woman. On the other
hand, when you are super congruent
and proud of your great values,
you not only show greater confidence
in yourself, but you also show
a great woman that she can trust
you to stand up for these things
no matter what, no matter
WHAT pressure you are under.

Michael Marks

http://www.getagreatgirl.com

"Canada AM" Interview

Quick news! The crew at "Canada AM"
did a great job with this interview,
which gets into the power of your
"vibe", as well as the importance
of learning powerful listening skills
so that you can have a great conversation
with a woman, all without faking your
personality or memorizing "routines"!

It's at: http://tinyurl.com/cf2ab2

Best,

Michael

Succeed Or Fail - It's Up To You

It's incredible when you realize that
the people who GET somewhere awesome
in this world, without exception, all
seem to have the same characteristic-
they know deep deep down that in fact
they CAN do it, no matter how "illogical"
it might seem.

A few years ago, I was lucky enough
to see James Cameron in person, as
he received an honorary degree at
Ryerson University for his achievements
in film. This was just after "Titanic"
had broken all records.

James Cameron is the man responsible
for creating such classics as The Terminator,
Aliens, and Titanic. Not only did he direct
these films, but he also conceives the
very story idea, he usually writes the
entire script, he edits the films, and
has a major hand in just about EVERY
element of his movies- this is what gives
his movies that "look and feel" that
is uniquely his.

Guess what?
James Cameron never even went to film school.
He was driving a truck at the time, and
devoured the books on filming from the
university library.

And he took apart every camera he could
get his hands on to learn how they worked.

Guess what else?
Just about EVERY film he has ever done
started out with all the "experts"
predicting the film was going to be
a failure, because it would be too
costly, too experimental, too this
or too that.

I still remember his speech at Ryerson,
where he explained that when it came to
Titanic, while the film was still in
production, the "experts" all predicted
it was going to be a total failure,
because, after all:

1. "The film is a historical period
piece- nobody wants to see those
kinds of movies".

2. "Everybody already knows the story
of the Titanic- they already know how
it's going to end! No one wants to see
that!"

3. "The film is too long- nobody
wants to sit through a movie that
is about three hours long- especially
a historical period piece!"

4. "The film has no major movie
stars, nobody is going to want
to come see it". (This was
before Leonardo DiCaprio was
famous.)

And then at the speech, James
Cameron said, "Well, I guess
they didn't know everything!"

Cameron was so dedicated to making the
movie and getting it done properly
that when the studio wanted to cut
the funding of the film because it
was going over schedule and over
budget, he gave up his OWN director's
salary! He was willing to use his
OWN money to ensure he could get
the movie made the exact way he
envisioned it.

Now THAT is congruency.

And now, almost a decade later,
he is again revolutionizing film:



My point is this:
Congruency is everything.
You have to be COMPLETELY committed
to your goal.

Congruency means that every level
of your behavior is alligned and
consistent:
Your thoughts, your goals, your
actions, your lifestyle, your words,
EVERYTHING.

If you want a great woman, then you have
to STOP any type of actions that are
INCONSISTENT with this goal.

A great woman is looking for a great man,
and she will spot the inconsistencies-
be it a negative attitude, be it a lazy
attitude, be it hatred against women,
be it a closed-minded attitude, be it
lack of conviction in your self-worth,
be it a lack of sense of purpose, etc.

It really is up to you, no matter
what anyone else says, no matter
how good your excuse is for
failing.

The key though is to find out what
YOU are passionate about, and do that.

James Cameron didn't try to "fit in"
with everyone else so that he could
get a "normal" job. He found his
passion, and pursued that, no matter
how illogical it seemed.

It's not like he was 19 and in film school
with no 'adult' major responsibilities on
his mind.

At the time he made the decision to make
movies, he was 31 and a truck driver.

So, not having money is not an excuse
either for not pursuing your passion.

The next time someone says "you can't"
just remember the words of Mr. Cameron:
"I guess they didn't know everything."

Till next time...

Michael Marks
www.GetAGreatGirl.com