An important video today on crucial aspects of approaching and attracting women. Did you know that what you SAY truly is of NEGLIGIBLE importance and that what really counts is what you are implying about your self and your state of mind through your TONALITY??
A woman isn't feeling chemistry for you based on you saying something brilliant, but rather she is feeling chemistry for you based on your ability to be in a certain frame of mind, that I discuss in this video.
Plus, crucial insights into how men are adapting to the massive way that WOMEN have changed over the past few decades, AND vital insights on how to get yourself into the best shape and maximize your energy AND how to truly go about achieving your dreams.
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Showing posts with label body language. Show all posts
Showing posts with label body language. Show all posts
Tuesday, August 4, 2015
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Bathe Her In A Sea Of Intoxicating Emotions
The WINNER in this game called ATTRACTION is the
guy who can QUENCH a woman’s thirsty emotional
receptors with a SEA of INTOXICATING EMOTIONS.
And though these emotions come in an endless variety
of shades and mixtures and tones, the ONE THING THAT’S
CRITICAL to understand is that all these emotions resonate
back to POWER and a sense of WONDER, where she can
get LOST in the rush of sensory overload.
In order to pull this off, which is a huge skill in itself, the
PREREQUISITE skill is the ability to get into the right
state of mind. Think of being in the right state as
KINDERGARTEN. It’s required before you can get
into grade ONE.
It makes a huge difference if you are in the right state.
This is why it makes no sense to go after women you
are not even interested in. I mean, if you are doing
something you don’t care about, what kind of state
can you possibly be in? At best, you are indifferent.
Which might seem like a kind of poor man’s confidence,
but it really is pathetic and sucky once you know what
it feels like to be on the other side of the universe.
I have almost NEVER gone after women that I was not
seriously excited by, whether it was their looks or their
personality, and usually it was the combo, which I could
size up pretty damn fast.
Let me talk a bit about getting INTO state.
This has a lot to do with how you are living your entire
LIFE, because, as I’ve said before:
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK AND DO.
So if you are constantly behaving in ways that are namby
pamby, boring, or pathetic, or if you are whiny and not
challenging yourself, and not focused on the right thoughts,
you will feel pretty crummy most of the time.
But let’s say you are just starting out and the IDEA OF
totally changing your WHOLE EMOTIONAL LIFE at
once seems too much to begin with.
It really is not such a big deal, but let’s say for
whatever reason it seems like too big of a deal.
So guess what? Here’s a great solution: Start with
ONE HOUR, and totally UNLEASH YOUR STRONGEST HEALTHY
EMOTIONS and exercise those emotions in that one hour.
For that one hour, turn off the crappy whiny songs
on the radio or cd or mp3, turn off the bullshit
negative or angry music, turn on the stuff that
is empowering and is sung by someone in an excellent state.
The world might seem screwed up, but the truth is there are
good people and good women out there, and you will be
SHIELDED out by them if they sense you are in the wrong
state. And thank goodness for that, or they would be ruined
by all the screwed up people out there.
One hour, that’s it. Start that this second.
I just gave you one powerful example in the form of
the music you listen to. You could apply this principle
in a million other ways, from the way you conduct yourself
and your thoughts at work, at the gym, in your free time,
the books you read, the people you hang out with, the
activities you do, the goals you have, the way you
stand up for what you believe in, the way you make
sure not to judge people too quickly and make sure
to really get the full truth, comparing both sides
of the story to discover who’s telling the truth, etc.
To learn even more ways, go to:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Okay, before I move on to talk a bit about the “big boy’s”
game, which goes way beyond being in the right emotional
state, let me say that being in state is not a separate part
of “the game”, but rather it directly flows into ALL other
parts of the game.
So many guys make the mistake of thinking of parts of
the game in isolation. It doesn’t work that way, it all
comes TOGETHER.
It’s like a guy trying to pack on mass naturally without
steroids who says, “I ate peanut butter and had a glass
of milk today”, thinking that is a lot of protein, not
realizing that it takes about 7 times that
quantity of protein to build muscle, spaced out evenly
over 16 hours. And it takes proper rest, and it takes the
right amount of carbs and fats. And of course the right
kind of training.
So when a guy thinks he’s the master and has nothing
to learn because he “teased that girl”, while in fact
his state is messed up, his clothing is horrifyingly
boring, and his beliefs are all wrong, and he
doesn’t even try to progress the interaction anywhere or
build a meaningful connection or escalate any physical
contact, and he doesn’t make an effort to strike her
emotional chords in any unique and powerful way, he
obviously doesn’t understand that this skill is about a
whole bunch of things happening at once.
It’s important not to feel overwhelmed by the fact there
is more than one thing to learn. The trick is not to
feel like you have to be PERFECT at this moment,
and instead to see PROGRESS and see yourself as
an ever developing human being.
And by the way, even a little progress is enough to make some serious
impact, because it’s all relative since it’s rare for
any guy to actually seriously work on this area of
himself at all. But hey, I like to think that you want
to be more than just good, and would rather be great.
Personally, I consider myself only at about 70% of my
full capacity to understand and exercise my skill in this
area, there are so many more things I want to try and
experiment with and learn. This makes things EXCITING.
Truly, getting there is half the fun, and your own
development will be exciting for you as well.
The way to learn is to throw out your ego. I don’t believe
in “moves” or “methods” or “gurus”. To me, there is only
UNDERSTANDING THE VAST OCEANS OF HUMAN
EMOTION, and applying that IN REAL LIFE to see what
works and what doesn’t. I do take pride, though, in being
THE one who has taken this APPROACH to the entire field.
EMOTIONS are so powerful because women (and
all humans) are ADDICTED to the feelings they get
from emotions, even bad ones unfortunately, which
is why it’s so important to FORCE yourself out of
negative emotions again and again and avoid the
triggers of those emotions.
You must force yourself into a different state, for example by doing exercise
and letting the endorphins flow naturally. Once you get
into a new pattern, you then become addicted to feeling
the awesome emotions and you won’t want to go back.
When you make a woman feel emotions, she will
wake up, no matter what the hell she is doing at
the moment. It doesn’t MATTER how bored or serious
or angry she seems, it’s YOUR JOB to change that
emotion if you want to get her to go from stranger to
attracted to you.
And of course, if you want to keep up any relationship,
you have to keep on doing this, and if she’s smart
she’ll do the same for you. that’s what appreciation
is, and also if you are both high self esteem, you
both won’t be in bad moods too often in the first place).
Let’s take the example of the emotion of feeling INTRIGUE,
from something like the SUPERNATURAL.
WOMEN LOVE THIS STUFF.
If you meet a woman in any situation, and you could
throw a really cool supernatural angle on it, you’ve got
yourself a distinction from almost all other guys.
So for example, let’s say you are both at a light,
crossing the street, and let’s say the light is taking
a long time, you could make a cocky comment with
a splice of intrigue by having this James Bond look
on your face and saying, “you know, I think this light
is an omen”, and she’ll say “why”, and then you can
tease her that it’s forcing you to stand near HER of all
people for so long.
She’ll most likely chuckle, and see your confidence,
but the thing is that this opens up a gateway to talking
about supernatural things, and you can go into a story
about how your aunt or uncle or yourself were in
whatever freaky story:
i.e. how you missed a plane, and thanks to missing
that plane, you or someone you know had to stay home
and that was the last weekend he or she or you had
to see your great grandma, or thanks to staying behind,
he or she or someone ended up meeting the love of
their life, etc.
Whatever it is, I’m sure something true and intriguing
has really happened to you or someone you know.
Now, compare that with some dude who thinks he’s
so cool because he said “this damn light takes so long”.
And you know what? Even THAT might work, but
it obviously reveals way less cool things about you
and obviously touches way less emotional receptors
on her brain.
She has to be FEELING it.
Do NOT underestimate the power of this stuff
when done WELL. And the critical thing to realize
is that this stuff should NOT BE DONE to impress
a woman, but it must become integrated into your
life as person who is bathing in cool sensory impact
himself.
We all have this stuff inside of us, it’s just a
matter of exercising it and using it just like when
a muscle is used on a regular basis and grows stronger.
Why does something like the supernatural have such
emotional power? Because our emotional mind registers
it as POWER, a way to go BEYOND any limitations.
We feel as if we are connected to something OMNIPOTENT.
What can feel greater than that?
People feel MORE THAN HUMAN by TRANSCENDING their
emotions to a state where they no longer feel
limited but feel INFINITELY POWERFUL.
Ever feel empowered by a SONG?
Well, it’s the same thing happening.
This is probably also why so many great musicians and
artists can get so lost themselves in their own creations
that they lose touch with logic and do a lot of harm
to their own bodies because logic is powerless in the
face of the massive overwhelming emotions they
have created.
Which is why these emotions can achieve both so
much good and also so much bad, depending on
what direction they take.
And which is why SPARKING THESE EMOTIONS
makes you COMPELLING to women.
Attraction is about FEELING superiority, power, excellence.
So this intrigue, supernatural stuff feels intoxicating,
and if you can make it feel REAL to her, especially if
you can make it a part of you, you will have a hold on
a woman and probably any person in fact.
This is why performers UNIVERSALLY use this to
enhance their appeal. They are LARGER than life.
A magician seems to defy the laws of physical
science. An actor seems larger than life because
of his or her roles in INCREDIBLE STORIES of
persons overcoming great obstacles, stories
that have been rendered with such brilliant
creativity that they FEEEEEL REAL.
And a singer, well clearly a great singer musician
takes people on an emotional journey to places
people have never been, or places emotionally
that they have long sought to return to.
It’s a shame there are so few good new musicians
now that can really take people on these journeys.
And even romantic songs can be insanely powerful, if they
are done from a point of view of KNOWING THAT THEY
THEMSELVES HAVE VALUE AND FROM A STANDPOINT
OF POWERFUL CONFIDENCE. A standpoint of BELIEF
in their own value that implicitly says they are GIVING
VALUE to the other person by being with them.
So even in THESE cases, it STILL boils down to POWER
and excellence and superiority. Brilliantly conveyed by
the use of the insanely powerful human MIND.
It’s a shame that there are so few of those songs done
right today with artistic finesse and original melodies.
But let’s say for example Def Leppard’s “Put Some Sugar
On Me” or even Anne Murray’s “Now and Forever”.
Remember, emotions are TRUER in our minds than the
most clearly proven logical facts.
How about the emotion of LAUGHTER?
In its own way, it also feels insanely good and powerful.
Because when you are REALLY LAUGHING, you are feeling
as if EVERYTHING is OKAY.
Survival is intact.
In fact, even if you are laughing only out NERVOUS laughter,
you are doing this to make someone ELSE feel that all is okay.
And you are doing this because it’s important to YOU to
make sure the other person is feeling good. So that’s why
folks laugh at the boss’s bad jokes. ‘Cuz even though the
jokes are bad, the people are so happy that the boss is in
a good mood, so everyone is happy and thus laughter is not
far away.
The boss, because of his good mood, is making everyone else
happy, and thus suddenly his jokes at the moment seem funny.
It’s the state of mind of SECURITY TO SURVIVAL that makes
everyone feel good and THAT makes them laugh.
Of course, that is a very weak form of laughter, but still, it’s
DNA is still about a person feeling survival is being bolstered.
Now, on that note, a guy that does NOT laugh at the boss’
bad joke may be signaling that he is SUPERIOR to the boss
and doesn’t NEED the boss, so now suddenly the boss is no
longer a source of survival, so the employee’s brain doesn’t
feel good about the bad joke since there is no gain for him
in terms of survival anyway since he doesn’t need the boss.
This sometimes leads to getting respect and sometimes to
getting fired because now the boss feels that HIS survival
is threatened.
The MAIN POINT is that laughter also occurs from a feeling
of enhanced survival. So for example, when a great comedian
makes light of things that everyone is scared shitless of, he
helps people DEAL with these issues. Or when YOU are
able to EFFECTIVELY poke fun at reality when with a woman,
she feels SECURE with you. After all, the way you have
reframed reality is that it’s all a joke and it’s all in your hand,
it’s nothing, no big deal, so she LAUGHS.
And also when you are able to make her laugh by teasing
HER properly, you are showing that SHE is not a source of
fear for you, like she is for most men. A lot of guys screw
this up by going too far and just being mean, or just being
dorky. Being mean doesn’t make her feel you are not afraid
of her, or that you are superior, it makes her feel you are a
creep with issues. Being just dorky doesn’t make her feel
you are superior, it makes her feel you are a dork.
On this note, by the way, I should mention that this
FINE LINE between being in a playful good mood while
STILL BEING A MAN, and being interesting while still
NOT being the guy trying to entertain her is probably
one of the tougher challenges for most guys. Smoothing
this stuff out comes from practice.
What happens to a lot of guys is that as they start to
get results, they get so encouraged that they want to
KEEP ON MAKING HER LAUGH and KEEP ON TELLING
MORE COOL STORIES, etc., etc., because as guys who
have been through hell with women, (I haven’t forgotten
what that’s like) all we can think is SHE LIKES IT!!!! So
the first instinct when you’re still starting out is to
POUR IT ON THICK, trying as hard as possible to
NOT LET HER DOWN.
The problem with this is that you LOSE the edge that
made you cool in the first place! You end up
GIVING THE FRAME over to HER, it becomes
all about getting her to react in the way you want,
you care TOO MUCH about her staying happy,
and you start to lose your OWN identity and you
stop being natural without even realizing it. It’s
the first step toward becoming submissive and
the end of the line. You have to STOP yourself
if you catch this happening.
You have to know when to slow down, which is, in a
very tight nutshell, AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
Tight game is LEAN game, because the less you do
and the more SHE does, the cooler you will seem.
Of course though, in the first part of the interaction
especially, you must BLAST OPEN the gates and not
hold back.
And of course I would be missing a huge emotion
if I skipped out the emotion of INSANE SEXUAL DESIRE.
The thing to remember is that what unlocks the greatest
sexual pleasure is when both people enjoy GIVING each
other pleasure as well as getting it. This creates an awesome
endless cycle of super hot times for both of you.
And it sure helps to feel connected to the other person if you
are going to enjoy and want to give as much as you get.
So even this “raw sex” thing is actually not as “raw” as one
might think.
For a woman to truly let go with you, she needs to feel
absolute trust in you, and she has to be attracted of
course as well. But the connecting thing and having
some “real convo” where you truly discover things you are
interested in about each other is overlooked by so
many guys who are only focused on the “bottom line”
so to speak, and they cut themselves short by doing this.
This connecting is soooooooo important. It’s the
OTHER side to attraction. It’s about making her
feel that YOU seriously are into HER, about making
HER feel special. This is where truly good guys have
an edge, since they naturally see the good in others
and see what others may not notice or appreciate.
The thing though is that in order to be able to do this
properly, you have to not be fazed by her beauty,
otherwise you will think everything she does is awesome,
which is kind of pathetic.
However, once you have THIS established, THEN
when you get really hot and sweaty with a woman
you are crazy about, THEN it’s time to really let
loose and be the wild beast you know you can be,
because THEN she will want it exactly that way,
and she will want it BAD.
Those are truly the sweetest times of all.
A woman should be so lucky to meet such an awesome
guy who knows all this stuff and understands it deeply.
It’s important to be able to SENSE your own sexual
state of mind, to an extent, throughout the entire
interaction because it keeps you on track that this
IS after all a sexual interaction, even if it first takes
place in the form of words and gestures and teasing
and various other forms of physical contact aside from
sex. So you don’t end up doing stupid things that look
dorky, feminine, submissive, or “friend” like. And by
you behaving this way, she will feel the sexual dimension
to the interaction.
And since human beings are very “state catchy” she will
start to enter this mood and be receptive to your pick up
if you do the rest of the pick up right.
You have to NOT LET UP your state of mind
(both sexual and also your beliefs about yourself
and your worth) at any time, even if she tests you
on it, in fact ESPECIALLY if she tests you on it,
because human beings are all about ACCEPTING
whichever state of mind is EASIEST to accept.
And if you HOLD your own frame of the interaction
as being the ONLY one, the correct one, the
DOMINANT one, she will feel that it makes SENSE.
If you SLIDE and let your frame crumble, HER FRAME
will take over and suddenly you will be the creepy guy
trying to pick her up. But if you KEEP the frame, you
are suddenly the sexy guy she’s been dreaming about.
That means you LEAD the way, at all times, and not
WAIT for her to show you the way, or for her to
give you approval. At the same time, you have to
have a proper sense of timing and take action at
the right moment when it’s best, or you CREATE
the right moment to make it the best.
Finally, I want to say that all this stuff you learn here
is for your PERSONAL goals. Don’t feel that you
have to impress anybody but yourself.
I used to be all pissed at the world and wanted to
stack up numbers, because I figured there were no
good women left on earth so quantity was the only
possible alternative.
Well, turns out I was wrong, there are good women,
not many mind you, but a few, who have incredible
values, including the value of appreciating what
they have.
I share this info with you only because I want
to make it clear that not every woman is some
materialistic, juvenile, status-seeking basket
case. If you want to meet a quality woman, it’s
important that you don’t let negative beliefs
shield her out.
In this newsletter, I’ve touched on some incredibly
crucial points to both your IMMEDIATE and also
your LONG TERM success with women. And as powerful
as this stuff is, it really is just the start of
an awesome journey, just a glimpse if you will, into
a whole other universe. I would like to be the one
who takes you there, personally.
If you would like to TRULY take your success to a
level that most people don’t even know EXISTS,
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
guy who can QUENCH a woman’s thirsty emotional
receptors with a SEA of INTOXICATING EMOTIONS.
And though these emotions come in an endless variety
of shades and mixtures and tones, the ONE THING THAT’S
CRITICAL to understand is that all these emotions resonate
back to POWER and a sense of WONDER, where she can
get LOST in the rush of sensory overload.
In order to pull this off, which is a huge skill in itself, the
PREREQUISITE skill is the ability to get into the right
state of mind. Think of being in the right state as
KINDERGARTEN. It’s required before you can get
into grade ONE.
It makes a huge difference if you are in the right state.
This is why it makes no sense to go after women you
are not even interested in. I mean, if you are doing
something you don’t care about, what kind of state
can you possibly be in? At best, you are indifferent.
Which might seem like a kind of poor man’s confidence,
but it really is pathetic and sucky once you know what
it feels like to be on the other side of the universe.
I have almost NEVER gone after women that I was not
seriously excited by, whether it was their looks or their
personality, and usually it was the combo, which I could
size up pretty damn fast.
Let me talk a bit about getting INTO state.
This has a lot to do with how you are living your entire
LIFE, because, as I’ve said before:
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK AND DO.
So if you are constantly behaving in ways that are namby
pamby, boring, or pathetic, or if you are whiny and not
challenging yourself, and not focused on the right thoughts,
you will feel pretty crummy most of the time.
But let’s say you are just starting out and the IDEA OF
totally changing your WHOLE EMOTIONAL LIFE at
once seems too much to begin with.
It really is not such a big deal, but let’s say for
whatever reason it seems like too big of a deal.
So guess what? Here’s a great solution: Start with
ONE HOUR, and totally UNLEASH YOUR STRONGEST HEALTHY
EMOTIONS and exercise those emotions in that one hour.
For that one hour, turn off the crappy whiny songs
on the radio or cd or mp3, turn off the bullshit
negative or angry music, turn on the stuff that
is empowering and is sung by someone in an excellent state.
The world might seem screwed up, but the truth is there are
good people and good women out there, and you will be
SHIELDED out by them if they sense you are in the wrong
state. And thank goodness for that, or they would be ruined
by all the screwed up people out there.
One hour, that’s it. Start that this second.
I just gave you one powerful example in the form of
the music you listen to. You could apply this principle
in a million other ways, from the way you conduct yourself
and your thoughts at work, at the gym, in your free time,
the books you read, the people you hang out with, the
activities you do, the goals you have, the way you
stand up for what you believe in, the way you make
sure not to judge people too quickly and make sure
to really get the full truth, comparing both sides
of the story to discover who’s telling the truth, etc.
To learn even more ways, go to:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
Okay, before I move on to talk a bit about the “big boy’s”
game, which goes way beyond being in the right emotional
state, let me say that being in state is not a separate part
of “the game”, but rather it directly flows into ALL other
parts of the game.
So many guys make the mistake of thinking of parts of
the game in isolation. It doesn’t work that way, it all
comes TOGETHER.
It’s like a guy trying to pack on mass naturally without
steroids who says, “I ate peanut butter and had a glass
of milk today”, thinking that is a lot of protein, not
realizing that it takes about 7 times that
quantity of protein to build muscle, spaced out evenly
over 16 hours. And it takes proper rest, and it takes the
right amount of carbs and fats. And of course the right
kind of training.
So when a guy thinks he’s the master and has nothing
to learn because he “teased that girl”, while in fact
his state is messed up, his clothing is horrifyingly
boring, and his beliefs are all wrong, and he
doesn’t even try to progress the interaction anywhere or
build a meaningful connection or escalate any physical
contact, and he doesn’t make an effort to strike her
emotional chords in any unique and powerful way, he
obviously doesn’t understand that this skill is about a
whole bunch of things happening at once.
It’s important not to feel overwhelmed by the fact there
is more than one thing to learn. The trick is not to
feel like you have to be PERFECT at this moment,
and instead to see PROGRESS and see yourself as
an ever developing human being.
And by the way, even a little progress is enough to make some serious
impact, because it’s all relative since it’s rare for
any guy to actually seriously work on this area of
himself at all. But hey, I like to think that you want
to be more than just good, and would rather be great.
Personally, I consider myself only at about 70% of my
full capacity to understand and exercise my skill in this
area, there are so many more things I want to try and
experiment with and learn. This makes things EXCITING.
Truly, getting there is half the fun, and your own
development will be exciting for you as well.
The way to learn is to throw out your ego. I don’t believe
in “moves” or “methods” or “gurus”. To me, there is only
UNDERSTANDING THE VAST OCEANS OF HUMAN
EMOTION, and applying that IN REAL LIFE to see what
works and what doesn’t. I do take pride, though, in being
THE one who has taken this APPROACH to the entire field.
EMOTIONS are so powerful because women (and
all humans) are ADDICTED to the feelings they get
from emotions, even bad ones unfortunately, which
is why it’s so important to FORCE yourself out of
negative emotions again and again and avoid the
triggers of those emotions.
You must force yourself into a different state, for example by doing exercise
and letting the endorphins flow naturally. Once you get
into a new pattern, you then become addicted to feeling
the awesome emotions and you won’t want to go back.
When you make a woman feel emotions, she will
wake up, no matter what the hell she is doing at
the moment. It doesn’t MATTER how bored or serious
or angry she seems, it’s YOUR JOB to change that
emotion if you want to get her to go from stranger to
attracted to you.
And of course, if you want to keep up any relationship,
you have to keep on doing this, and if she’s smart
she’ll do the same for you. that’s what appreciation
is, and also if you are both high self esteem, you
both won’t be in bad moods too often in the first place).
Let’s take the example of the emotion of feeling INTRIGUE,
from something like the SUPERNATURAL.
WOMEN LOVE THIS STUFF.
If you meet a woman in any situation, and you could
throw a really cool supernatural angle on it, you’ve got
yourself a distinction from almost all other guys.
So for example, let’s say you are both at a light,
crossing the street, and let’s say the light is taking
a long time, you could make a cocky comment with
a splice of intrigue by having this James Bond look
on your face and saying, “you know, I think this light
is an omen”, and she’ll say “why”, and then you can
tease her that it’s forcing you to stand near HER of all
people for so long.
She’ll most likely chuckle, and see your confidence,
but the thing is that this opens up a gateway to talking
about supernatural things, and you can go into a story
about how your aunt or uncle or yourself were in
whatever freaky story:
i.e. how you missed a plane, and thanks to missing
that plane, you or someone you know had to stay home
and that was the last weekend he or she or you had
to see your great grandma, or thanks to staying behind,
he or she or someone ended up meeting the love of
their life, etc.
Whatever it is, I’m sure something true and intriguing
has really happened to you or someone you know.
Now, compare that with some dude who thinks he’s
so cool because he said “this damn light takes so long”.
And you know what? Even THAT might work, but
it obviously reveals way less cool things about you
and obviously touches way less emotional receptors
on her brain.
She has to be FEELING it.
Do NOT underestimate the power of this stuff
when done WELL. And the critical thing to realize
is that this stuff should NOT BE DONE to impress
a woman, but it must become integrated into your
life as person who is bathing in cool sensory impact
himself.
We all have this stuff inside of us, it’s just a
matter of exercising it and using it just like when
a muscle is used on a regular basis and grows stronger.
Why does something like the supernatural have such
emotional power? Because our emotional mind registers
it as POWER, a way to go BEYOND any limitations.
We feel as if we are connected to something OMNIPOTENT.
What can feel greater than that?
People feel MORE THAN HUMAN by TRANSCENDING their
emotions to a state where they no longer feel
limited but feel INFINITELY POWERFUL.
Ever feel empowered by a SONG?
Well, it’s the same thing happening.
This is probably also why so many great musicians and
artists can get so lost themselves in their own creations
that they lose touch with logic and do a lot of harm
to their own bodies because logic is powerless in the
face of the massive overwhelming emotions they
have created.
Which is why these emotions can achieve both so
much good and also so much bad, depending on
what direction they take.
And which is why SPARKING THESE EMOTIONS
makes you COMPELLING to women.
Attraction is about FEELING superiority, power, excellence.
So this intrigue, supernatural stuff feels intoxicating,
and if you can make it feel REAL to her, especially if
you can make it a part of you, you will have a hold on
a woman and probably any person in fact.
This is why performers UNIVERSALLY use this to
enhance their appeal. They are LARGER than life.
A magician seems to defy the laws of physical
science. An actor seems larger than life because
of his or her roles in INCREDIBLE STORIES of
persons overcoming great obstacles, stories
that have been rendered with such brilliant
creativity that they FEEEEEL REAL.
And a singer, well clearly a great singer musician
takes people on an emotional journey to places
people have never been, or places emotionally
that they have long sought to return to.
It’s a shame there are so few good new musicians
now that can really take people on these journeys.
And even romantic songs can be insanely powerful, if they
are done from a point of view of KNOWING THAT THEY
THEMSELVES HAVE VALUE AND FROM A STANDPOINT
OF POWERFUL CONFIDENCE. A standpoint of BELIEF
in their own value that implicitly says they are GIVING
VALUE to the other person by being with them.
So even in THESE cases, it STILL boils down to POWER
and excellence and superiority. Brilliantly conveyed by
the use of the insanely powerful human MIND.
It’s a shame that there are so few of those songs done
right today with artistic finesse and original melodies.
But let’s say for example Def Leppard’s “Put Some Sugar
On Me” or even Anne Murray’s “Now and Forever”.
Remember, emotions are TRUER in our minds than the
most clearly proven logical facts.
How about the emotion of LAUGHTER?
In its own way, it also feels insanely good and powerful.
Because when you are REALLY LAUGHING, you are feeling
as if EVERYTHING is OKAY.
Survival is intact.
In fact, even if you are laughing only out NERVOUS laughter,
you are doing this to make someone ELSE feel that all is okay.
And you are doing this because it’s important to YOU to
make sure the other person is feeling good. So that’s why
folks laugh at the boss’s bad jokes. ‘Cuz even though the
jokes are bad, the people are so happy that the boss is in
a good mood, so everyone is happy and thus laughter is not
far away.
The boss, because of his good mood, is making everyone else
happy, and thus suddenly his jokes at the moment seem funny.
It’s the state of mind of SECURITY TO SURVIVAL that makes
everyone feel good and THAT makes them laugh.
Of course, that is a very weak form of laughter, but still, it’s
DNA is still about a person feeling survival is being bolstered.
Now, on that note, a guy that does NOT laugh at the boss’
bad joke may be signaling that he is SUPERIOR to the boss
and doesn’t NEED the boss, so now suddenly the boss is no
longer a source of survival, so the employee’s brain doesn’t
feel good about the bad joke since there is no gain for him
in terms of survival anyway since he doesn’t need the boss.
This sometimes leads to getting respect and sometimes to
getting fired because now the boss feels that HIS survival
is threatened.
The MAIN POINT is that laughter also occurs from a feeling
of enhanced survival. So for example, when a great comedian
makes light of things that everyone is scared shitless of, he
helps people DEAL with these issues. Or when YOU are
able to EFFECTIVELY poke fun at reality when with a woman,
she feels SECURE with you. After all, the way you have
reframed reality is that it’s all a joke and it’s all in your hand,
it’s nothing, no big deal, so she LAUGHS.
And also when you are able to make her laugh by teasing
HER properly, you are showing that SHE is not a source of
fear for you, like she is for most men. A lot of guys screw
this up by going too far and just being mean, or just being
dorky. Being mean doesn’t make her feel you are not afraid
of her, or that you are superior, it makes her feel you are a
creep with issues. Being just dorky doesn’t make her feel
you are superior, it makes her feel you are a dork.
On this note, by the way, I should mention that this
FINE LINE between being in a playful good mood while
STILL BEING A MAN, and being interesting while still
NOT being the guy trying to entertain her is probably
one of the tougher challenges for most guys. Smoothing
this stuff out comes from practice.
What happens to a lot of guys is that as they start to
get results, they get so encouraged that they want to
KEEP ON MAKING HER LAUGH and KEEP ON TELLING
MORE COOL STORIES, etc., etc., because as guys who
have been through hell with women, (I haven’t forgotten
what that’s like) all we can think is SHE LIKES IT!!!! So
the first instinct when you’re still starting out is to
POUR IT ON THICK, trying as hard as possible to
NOT LET HER DOWN.
The problem with this is that you LOSE the edge that
made you cool in the first place! You end up
GIVING THE FRAME over to HER, it becomes
all about getting her to react in the way you want,
you care TOO MUCH about her staying happy,
and you start to lose your OWN identity and you
stop being natural without even realizing it. It’s
the first step toward becoming submissive and
the end of the line. You have to STOP yourself
if you catch this happening.
You have to know when to slow down, which is, in a
very tight nutshell, AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
Tight game is LEAN game, because the less you do
and the more SHE does, the cooler you will seem.
Of course though, in the first part of the interaction
especially, you must BLAST OPEN the gates and not
hold back.
And of course I would be missing a huge emotion
if I skipped out the emotion of INSANE SEXUAL DESIRE.
The thing to remember is that what unlocks the greatest
sexual pleasure is when both people enjoy GIVING each
other pleasure as well as getting it. This creates an awesome
endless cycle of super hot times for both of you.
And it sure helps to feel connected to the other person if you
are going to enjoy and want to give as much as you get.
So even this “raw sex” thing is actually not as “raw” as one
might think.
For a woman to truly let go with you, she needs to feel
absolute trust in you, and she has to be attracted of
course as well. But the connecting thing and having
some “real convo” where you truly discover things you are
interested in about each other is overlooked by so
many guys who are only focused on the “bottom line”
so to speak, and they cut themselves short by doing this.
This connecting is soooooooo important. It’s the
OTHER side to attraction. It’s about making her
feel that YOU seriously are into HER, about making
HER feel special. This is where truly good guys have
an edge, since they naturally see the good in others
and see what others may not notice or appreciate.
The thing though is that in order to be able to do this
properly, you have to not be fazed by her beauty,
otherwise you will think everything she does is awesome,
which is kind of pathetic.
However, once you have THIS established, THEN
when you get really hot and sweaty with a woman
you are crazy about, THEN it’s time to really let
loose and be the wild beast you know you can be,
because THEN she will want it exactly that way,
and she will want it BAD.
Those are truly the sweetest times of all.
A woman should be so lucky to meet such an awesome
guy who knows all this stuff and understands it deeply.
It’s important to be able to SENSE your own sexual
state of mind, to an extent, throughout the entire
interaction because it keeps you on track that this
IS after all a sexual interaction, even if it first takes
place in the form of words and gestures and teasing
and various other forms of physical contact aside from
sex. So you don’t end up doing stupid things that look
dorky, feminine, submissive, or “friend” like. And by
you behaving this way, she will feel the sexual dimension
to the interaction.
And since human beings are very “state catchy” she will
start to enter this mood and be receptive to your pick up
if you do the rest of the pick up right.
You have to NOT LET UP your state of mind
(both sexual and also your beliefs about yourself
and your worth) at any time, even if she tests you
on it, in fact ESPECIALLY if she tests you on it,
because human beings are all about ACCEPTING
whichever state of mind is EASIEST to accept.
And if you HOLD your own frame of the interaction
as being the ONLY one, the correct one, the
DOMINANT one, she will feel that it makes SENSE.
If you SLIDE and let your frame crumble, HER FRAME
will take over and suddenly you will be the creepy guy
trying to pick her up. But if you KEEP the frame, you
are suddenly the sexy guy she’s been dreaming about.
That means you LEAD the way, at all times, and not
WAIT for her to show you the way, or for her to
give you approval. At the same time, you have to
have a proper sense of timing and take action at
the right moment when it’s best, or you CREATE
the right moment to make it the best.
Finally, I want to say that all this stuff you learn here
is for your PERSONAL goals. Don’t feel that you
have to impress anybody but yourself.
I used to be all pissed at the world and wanted to
stack up numbers, because I figured there were no
good women left on earth so quantity was the only
possible alternative.
Well, turns out I was wrong, there are good women,
not many mind you, but a few, who have incredible
values, including the value of appreciating what
they have.
I share this info with you only because I want
to make it clear that not every woman is some
materialistic, juvenile, status-seeking basket
case. If you want to meet a quality woman, it’s
important that you don’t let negative beliefs
shield her out.
In this newsletter, I’ve touched on some incredibly
crucial points to both your IMMEDIATE and also
your LONG TERM success with women. And as powerful
as this stuff is, it really is just the start of
an awesome journey, just a glimpse if you will, into
a whole other universe. I would like to be the one
who takes you there, personally.
If you would like to TRULY take your success to a
level that most people don’t even know EXISTS,
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Attracting A Truly Great Woman
If you are looking to meet and attract a truly
great woman who is not only beautiful
but who would also be the kind of woman
who would make for a fantastic girlfriend,
wife, mother, and life-long supporter, this
is a particularly important newsletter for you.
ONE: POPULARITY DOES NOT EQUAL GOOD
The first thing I need to make absolutely
clear is that the POPULARITY of something
is not always a great indicator of that thing’s
value.
TWO:
WHEN DEEP DOWN, YOU REALLY ARE PUTTING THE
WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL, YOU END UP SHOWING IT
So, the POPULAR ADVICE for men when it
comes to dating usually boils down to do
ANYTHING to try to get the woman, especially
to get her into bed.
There are many problems with this approach.
First of all, it puts your MIND in the WRONG
place psychologically. It puts ALL the value
on HER and none of it on your SELF.
So, even if the tactic involves PRETENDING
that you are high value, the fact is, that underneath
this charade, this game, this tactic, you would
actually feel INFERIOR worth to the woman
you are trying to attract, because, after all,
your mindset is all about how to get the woman
at all costs.
Ironically, this type of approach often ends up
REPELLING women, because women can
SENSE that lack of confidence even if the
guy is VERBALLY saying cocky remarks
or acting “hard to get” on the surface.
THREE: WOMEN ARE USUALLY BETTER AT
READING BODY LANGUAGE THAN MEN
Women are better than men at reading body
language, and this may be because they have
more practice socializing in complex ways
at an earlier age than men, whereas boys
don’t tend to engage as much in those types
of behaviors as they do in things like sports
or other stereotypically “male” actions.
So, if a guy is FAKING his emotions, women
can SENSE it.
FOUR:
SCREENING IS ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A WOMAN WITH
GREAT VALUES.
Also, if a guy is trying to get a QUALITY
woman, then it becomes even MORE important
to SCREEN a woman for the right values and
behaviors.
Now, there are some pick up artists that try to
PRETEND they are screening a woman, in order
to SEEM as if they are NOT desperate for the
woman, but the TRUTH is, this is just a tactic,
they don’t REALLY care about screening, they
just want to get her into bed.
And again, the irony is that FAKING does not
work that well anyway EVEN FOR GUYS THAT
ARE ONLY CONCERNED WITH THE SUPERFICIAL.
It is for THIS reason that guys who are only
concerned with the superficial would do much
better to be a lot more DIRECT while still showing
some class, as there are some women out there who
are looking for similar promiscuous adventures and
those women will be happy to meet a guy who is
honest and still showing some class.
But if you are looking for something a lot deeper
and a lot more long-term, if you are looking for
the kind of woman to be a true partner in the
deepest sense of the word, SCREENING becomes
INSANELY IMPORTANT.
It is important, first of all, so that you don’t waste
PRECIOUS TIME on the wrong women.
You can EASILY screen out women in just a
brief conversation. You can be on the lookout
for how she spends her time, including her free
time, you can be on the lookout for what kinds
of things she likes to talk about.
FIVE: GET HER COMFORTABLE TO REVEAL HERSELF,
BY NOT COMING ACROSS AS JUDGMENTAL.
What is on a person’s MIND will often come
out in their CHATTING, if you just let them
feel COMFORTABLE with you.
This is why it is so important that you do NOT
tell a woman right away exactly what you are
looking for OR what you value or hate.
Instead, just have a casual but interesting chat
that gets her emotionally pumped. When people
are emotional they tend to talk more because
they are FEELING the DESIRE to express themselves.
SIX: GET HER EMOTIONAL IN A POSITIVE WAY
So don’t bore a woman to sleep. Talk about
things that are INTRIGUING or INSPIRING.
Or find something about her so that you can
give her a truly HONEST compliment on
besides her looks.
SEVEN:
STOP COMPROMISING YOUR INSISTENCE ON GREAT VALUES
There’s ANOTHER really important step to
getting a quality woman, and that is to stop
COMPROMISING with yourself on what
you define as GREAT VALUES in a woman.
I swear to it, I personally think that good guys
are living in the WORST TIME IN HISTORY
for finding quality women who are STELLAR
in the traits that are important for relationships,
for marriage, and for raising a family.
I also think that it’s probably pretty hard for
the few quality women who DO exist to find
the RIGHT men who have great values as well,
but since I’m not a woman, I can’t tell you for
sure what it’s like to be a woman who is truly
loyal and faithful and who is looking for a man
who is loyal and faithful.
I don’t think that anyone should be FORCED to
live a lifestyle in which they don’t believe.
Family life is not for everyone. Marriage is not
for everyone. Relationships are not for everyone.
And in today’s current society, this is DOUBLY
true.
However, when in the RIGHT relationship, MOST
people tend to report being happier than when they
were single, and most single people are also still
trying to find someone.
EIGHT: THE BIG PICTURE
On a larger scale, a strong RELATIONSHIP is the
bedrock of a strong marriage. A strong marriage
is a great FOUNDATION for bringing up children
in the right atmosphere. Well-adjusted CHILDREN
grow up into well-adjusted ADULTS. Well adjusted
ADULTS create a HEALTHY SOCIETY. A healthy
SOCIETY means a healthy COUNTRY. A healthy
country can POSITIVELY affect the WORLD as
well.
And the OPPOSITE is true as well. A screwed-up
perception of how men and women should behave
will screw up EVERYTHING else.
NINE: SOME ELEMENTS OF THE PAST WERE WISER THAN THE PRESENT
Now, there were many things WRONG with society
back in 1950. I won’t get into them here, as I’m sure
you can figure them out on your own. But there were
SOME things that were definitely RIGHT.
And one of those things was the GENERAL VIEW
toward relationships. When a man courted a woman,
it MEANT something greater than just how to get
her into bed. It reflected his desire to COMMIT to
her, to start a FAMILY with her. It was not just
about the short-term physical.
And women, in general, were looking at men from
a more MATURE perspective. Just like men, they
were also thinking about the long-term potential,
whether a man would be hard-working or lazy,
and whether he would be a good father, etc.
Not only this, but women were doing this when
they turned 18! Women were not waiting till they
were twice that age to start thinking about the
important traits in a man. (And many women
today NEVER seem to think about it.)
FAST FORWARD TO 2013, and you have the
following scenario that takes place amongst
SOME women who are SUPPOSED to be
ready for a life-long mature COMMITTMENT
and deep-seated love and RESPECT for their
man:
BACHELORETTE PARTIES WITH MEN
STRIPPING AND SHAKING THEIR
YOU-KNOW-WHATS
And I'm not a hypocrite, I don't think that men
who are seriously in love with their future
wives, men who view marriage as sacred,
would think it is appropriate to be holding
stripper bachelor parties either.
Part of the problem is that many women have
abandoned their once PROUD role in society
as protectors of family values. It used to be that
most women would SHUN the kinds of values that
degrade the deepest levels of connection between
men and women.
Today, however, some misguided women feel they have
made "progress" and gained "equality" by trying to
duplicate the behaviors of the most promiscuous men.
In 1950, you had women in their PRIME
thinking CAREFULLY about how to find and get
a man who would be a great husband and father,
and you had women who VALUED their chastity,
who felt it was something SACRED to give to
a man...
But TODAY you have many women who are WAY PAST
THEIR PRIME, who STILL can’t put it together in
their heads that a man who is the kind of man who
has good values, who would be a good father, who
would be loyal, and a man who is STRONG enough
and SMART enough to be a great leader, would never
be STUPID enough to marry such a woman.
TEN: THIS IS WHERE I COME IN
Again, THIS is the reason GET A GREAT GIRL
was born. GET A GREAT GIRL would not be
NEEDED in 1950. Everything I write about was
OBVIOUS back then.
So let me bring this full circle:
If you want a GREAT QUALITY WOMAN, you
better FORGET the popular advice.
If you want to get that RARE kind of woman, you
HAVE to stand APART from the masses.
And again, I do not believe in violence, and I
do not believe in preaching. Do not try to
CONVINCE any woman who is messed up
on how to be a better woman.
There are some wise women around. These women
have a lot of courage to stand up for good values.
And these women standing up for good values aren't
just 90 year-old grannies. These women standing up
for eternal values include women who are intelligent
and attractive university students who are right in the
THICK of this social pressure, and yet they are
RESISTING it COMPLETELY.
ELEVEN: YOU MUST BE THE MAN AND STAY ON COURSE
I PROMISE YOU that there ARE still some
decent women around. But man oh MAN are
you going to have to be the MAN if you
are going to go after a quality woman.
You are going to meet a lot of the WRONG women
along the way.
What is even CRAZIER, is that with the CERTAINTY
and CONFIDENCE in the eternal and powerful values
that you possess, you will find a lot of these WRONG
women actually PURSUING you.
Resisting the urge to give in to the SHORT TERM
pleasure is part of the SEPARATING the men from
the boys, so to speak. The weak men will give into
these wrong women because the desire for the physical
with them while STILL not having found the RIGHT
woman will be very strong.
But giving in may very well make you LOSE some
of your CERTAINTY, some of your sense of DIRECTION,
some of your CONFIDENCE in your own values.
You are what you THINK AND DO.
So if you give into the wrong women, you will start to
RATIONALIZE and JUSTIFY to yourself all kinds of
nonsense, such as why you need to stay with this wrong
woman.
Meanwhile, the RIGHT WOMAN is out there waiting
as you spend all that time and energy and waste it
on the WRONG woman. Wasting that time and
energy is something you should not do, because
meeting the RIGHT WOMAN may take a lot of energy
and time, but it is probably the MOST IMPORTANT
THINK YOU CAN DO IN YOUR LIFE besides taking
care of your health and in fact the wrong woman will
harm your health and the right woman will improve it.
TWELVE: TAKING ACTION
Now, let me get down to the NITTY-GRITTY.
I HATE b.s.
I LOVE truth.
And the TRUTH is, that unless you have some special
connection to all the right women, you are going to have
to APPROACH WOMEN and chat with them and get
a sense of who they are.
I repeat:
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN.
You cannot expect miracles in the sense of you just
sitting at home or expecting women to just appear
out of thin air. Also, women don’t tend to do the
approaching. This is because most women are
culturally conditioned to be less "pro-active" than
men when it comes to the INITIAL approach.
Women are told that being too assertive in the
initial approach will make them seem less
feminine.
If a woman is interested in a man who is a total
stranger, usually the most she feels she can do
is INDIRECTLY make herself more available,
i.e. hanging around a certain area for longer than
usual, etc.
And you can’t give yourself excuses, as excuses
won’t help. If there are no women in one place,
go to another place where there are women.
Keep trying new places till you find places
where you can meet plenty of women.
You must SOLDIER on, approaching woman
after woman even in situations that feel awkward.
You have no idea how strong this makes you,
because what happens is that when an EASIER
approach situation comes later, you will JUMP
on it because you will have already had experience
doing so many approaches that were harder from
before.
THIRTEEN: THE INSTANT-DATE
ANOTHER super-important point is this:
GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE IF POSSIBLE
Getting a phone number is all good and fine, but
if you can, GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE.
What I mean by this is to actually take the
approach as far as possible. If the chat is
going well, then after a few minutes suggest
that you go for a coffee right then and there,
especially if there is a coffee house nearby.
You have to remember that the woman is a
total stranger, and the more you get a chance
to connect with her, the LESS CHANCE that
later she will wonder just what the heck happened
earlier that day that made her give her number
to a total stranger.
Sometimes a guy will have a great interaction with
a woman, and the woman will happily give him
her real number, but then later on she will forget
some of the details and she will wonder how on
earth she gave her number to a total stranger.
However, if she has a really LONG chat with you,
she gets a much better perspective of who you are,
and this makes her feel that it is not weird for her
to meet up with you again.
This does NOT mean that getting a woman’s
phone number is not enough. Many times, it
IS enough, because you can chat on the phone.
I’m just saying that it is even BETTER to try to
get the INSTANT DATE with her in that very
FIRST interaction you have with her.
The right woman IS out there, she is hoping to meet you.
She is NOT a typical woman from today’s society.
She is NOT impressed by the screwed up morals.
She has the ability to THINK CRITICALLY.
If you want to attract a woman who is able to
RISE ABOVE THE CRAPOLA VALUES, you
must show that you are the kind of MAN who is
RARE and who is ABOVE the stupidity that is
unfortunately so often POPULAR.
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If you are looking for a woman for a serious relationship
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you MUST BE PREPARED on how to go about doing all this.
If you JUST want the physical, this is the EASY part.
There are tons of promiscuous women who are not looking
to commit, every weekend at the clubs, bars, lounges, etc.
But if you want a quality woman who would make for
a great wife, mother, and partner for life, you
NEED TO BE INFORMED.
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great woman who is not only beautiful
but who would also be the kind of woman
who would make for a fantastic girlfriend,
wife, mother, and life-long supporter, this
is a particularly important newsletter for you.
ONE: POPULARITY DOES NOT EQUAL GOOD
The first thing I need to make absolutely
clear is that the POPULARITY of something
is not always a great indicator of that thing’s
value.
TWO:
WHEN DEEP DOWN, YOU REALLY ARE PUTTING THE
WOMAN ON A PEDESTAL, YOU END UP SHOWING IT
So, the POPULAR ADVICE for men when it
comes to dating usually boils down to do
ANYTHING to try to get the woman, especially
to get her into bed.
There are many problems with this approach.
First of all, it puts your MIND in the WRONG
place psychologically. It puts ALL the value
on HER and none of it on your SELF.
So, even if the tactic involves PRETENDING
that you are high value, the fact is, that underneath
this charade, this game, this tactic, you would
actually feel INFERIOR worth to the woman
you are trying to attract, because, after all,
your mindset is all about how to get the woman
at all costs.
Ironically, this type of approach often ends up
REPELLING women, because women can
SENSE that lack of confidence even if the
guy is VERBALLY saying cocky remarks
or acting “hard to get” on the surface.
THREE: WOMEN ARE USUALLY BETTER AT
READING BODY LANGUAGE THAN MEN
Women are better than men at reading body
language, and this may be because they have
more practice socializing in complex ways
at an earlier age than men, whereas boys
don’t tend to engage as much in those types
of behaviors as they do in things like sports
or other stereotypically “male” actions.
So, if a guy is FAKING his emotions, women
can SENSE it.
FOUR:
SCREENING IS ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A WOMAN WITH
GREAT VALUES.
Also, if a guy is trying to get a QUALITY
woman, then it becomes even MORE important
to SCREEN a woman for the right values and
behaviors.
Now, there are some pick up artists that try to
PRETEND they are screening a woman, in order
to SEEM as if they are NOT desperate for the
woman, but the TRUTH is, this is just a tactic,
they don’t REALLY care about screening, they
just want to get her into bed.
And again, the irony is that FAKING does not
work that well anyway EVEN FOR GUYS THAT
ARE ONLY CONCERNED WITH THE SUPERFICIAL.
It is for THIS reason that guys who are only
concerned with the superficial would do much
better to be a lot more DIRECT while still showing
some class, as there are some women out there who
are looking for similar promiscuous adventures and
those women will be happy to meet a guy who is
honest and still showing some class.
But if you are looking for something a lot deeper
and a lot more long-term, if you are looking for
the kind of woman to be a true partner in the
deepest sense of the word, SCREENING becomes
INSANELY IMPORTANT.
It is important, first of all, so that you don’t waste
PRECIOUS TIME on the wrong women.
You can EASILY screen out women in just a
brief conversation. You can be on the lookout
for how she spends her time, including her free
time, you can be on the lookout for what kinds
of things she likes to talk about.
FIVE: GET HER COMFORTABLE TO REVEAL HERSELF,
BY NOT COMING ACROSS AS JUDGMENTAL.
What is on a person’s MIND will often come
out in their CHATTING, if you just let them
feel COMFORTABLE with you.
This is why it is so important that you do NOT
tell a woman right away exactly what you are
looking for OR what you value or hate.
Instead, just have a casual but interesting chat
that gets her emotionally pumped. When people
are emotional they tend to talk more because
they are FEELING the DESIRE to express themselves.
SIX: GET HER EMOTIONAL IN A POSITIVE WAY
So don’t bore a woman to sleep. Talk about
things that are INTRIGUING or INSPIRING.
Or find something about her so that you can
give her a truly HONEST compliment on
besides her looks.
SEVEN:
STOP COMPROMISING YOUR INSISTENCE ON GREAT VALUES
There’s ANOTHER really important step to
getting a quality woman, and that is to stop
COMPROMISING with yourself on what
you define as GREAT VALUES in a woman.
I swear to it, I personally think that good guys
are living in the WORST TIME IN HISTORY
for finding quality women who are STELLAR
in the traits that are important for relationships,
for marriage, and for raising a family.
I also think that it’s probably pretty hard for
the few quality women who DO exist to find
the RIGHT men who have great values as well,
but since I’m not a woman, I can’t tell you for
sure what it’s like to be a woman who is truly
loyal and faithful and who is looking for a man
who is loyal and faithful.
I don’t think that anyone should be FORCED to
live a lifestyle in which they don’t believe.
Family life is not for everyone. Marriage is not
for everyone. Relationships are not for everyone.
And in today’s current society, this is DOUBLY
true.
However, when in the RIGHT relationship, MOST
people tend to report being happier than when they
were single, and most single people are also still
trying to find someone.
EIGHT: THE BIG PICTURE
On a larger scale, a strong RELATIONSHIP is the
bedrock of a strong marriage. A strong marriage
is a great FOUNDATION for bringing up children
in the right atmosphere. Well-adjusted CHILDREN
grow up into well-adjusted ADULTS. Well adjusted
ADULTS create a HEALTHY SOCIETY. A healthy
SOCIETY means a healthy COUNTRY. A healthy
country can POSITIVELY affect the WORLD as
well.
And the OPPOSITE is true as well. A screwed-up
perception of how men and women should behave
will screw up EVERYTHING else.
NINE: SOME ELEMENTS OF THE PAST WERE WISER THAN THE PRESENT
Now, there were many things WRONG with society
back in 1950. I won’t get into them here, as I’m sure
you can figure them out on your own. But there were
SOME things that were definitely RIGHT.
And one of those things was the GENERAL VIEW
toward relationships. When a man courted a woman,
it MEANT something greater than just how to get
her into bed. It reflected his desire to COMMIT to
her, to start a FAMILY with her. It was not just
about the short-term physical.
And women, in general, were looking at men from
a more MATURE perspective. Just like men, they
were also thinking about the long-term potential,
whether a man would be hard-working or lazy,
and whether he would be a good father, etc.
Not only this, but women were doing this when
they turned 18! Women were not waiting till they
were twice that age to start thinking about the
important traits in a man. (And many women
today NEVER seem to think about it.)
FAST FORWARD TO 2013, and you have the
following scenario that takes place amongst
SOME women who are SUPPOSED to be
ready for a life-long mature COMMITTMENT
and deep-seated love and RESPECT for their
man:
BACHELORETTE PARTIES WITH MEN
STRIPPING AND SHAKING THEIR
YOU-KNOW-WHATS
And I'm not a hypocrite, I don't think that men
who are seriously in love with their future
wives, men who view marriage as sacred,
would think it is appropriate to be holding
stripper bachelor parties either.
Part of the problem is that many women have
abandoned their once PROUD role in society
as protectors of family values. It used to be that
most women would SHUN the kinds of values that
degrade the deepest levels of connection between
men and women.
Today, however, some misguided women feel they have
made "progress" and gained "equality" by trying to
duplicate the behaviors of the most promiscuous men.
In 1950, you had women in their PRIME
thinking CAREFULLY about how to find and get
a man who would be a great husband and father,
and you had women who VALUED their chastity,
who felt it was something SACRED to give to
a man...
But TODAY you have many women who are WAY PAST
THEIR PRIME, who STILL can’t put it together in
their heads that a man who is the kind of man who
has good values, who would be a good father, who
would be loyal, and a man who is STRONG enough
and SMART enough to be a great leader, would never
be STUPID enough to marry such a woman.
TEN: THIS IS WHERE I COME IN
Again, THIS is the reason GET A GREAT GIRL
was born. GET A GREAT GIRL would not be
NEEDED in 1950. Everything I write about was
OBVIOUS back then.
So let me bring this full circle:
If you want a GREAT QUALITY WOMAN, you
better FORGET the popular advice.
If you want to get that RARE kind of woman, you
HAVE to stand APART from the masses.
And again, I do not believe in violence, and I
do not believe in preaching. Do not try to
CONVINCE any woman who is messed up
on how to be a better woman.
There are some wise women around. These women
have a lot of courage to stand up for good values.
And these women standing up for good values aren't
just 90 year-old grannies. These women standing up
for eternal values include women who are intelligent
and attractive university students who are right in the
THICK of this social pressure, and yet they are
RESISTING it COMPLETELY.
ELEVEN: YOU MUST BE THE MAN AND STAY ON COURSE
I PROMISE YOU that there ARE still some
decent women around. But man oh MAN are
you going to have to be the MAN if you
are going to go after a quality woman.
You are going to meet a lot of the WRONG women
along the way.
What is even CRAZIER, is that with the CERTAINTY
and CONFIDENCE in the eternal and powerful values
that you possess, you will find a lot of these WRONG
women actually PURSUING you.
Resisting the urge to give in to the SHORT TERM
pleasure is part of the SEPARATING the men from
the boys, so to speak. The weak men will give into
these wrong women because the desire for the physical
with them while STILL not having found the RIGHT
woman will be very strong.
But giving in may very well make you LOSE some
of your CERTAINTY, some of your sense of DIRECTION,
some of your CONFIDENCE in your own values.
You are what you THINK AND DO.
So if you give into the wrong women, you will start to
RATIONALIZE and JUSTIFY to yourself all kinds of
nonsense, such as why you need to stay with this wrong
woman.
Meanwhile, the RIGHT WOMAN is out there waiting
as you spend all that time and energy and waste it
on the WRONG woman. Wasting that time and
energy is something you should not do, because
meeting the RIGHT WOMAN may take a lot of energy
and time, but it is probably the MOST IMPORTANT
THINK YOU CAN DO IN YOUR LIFE besides taking
care of your health and in fact the wrong woman will
harm your health and the right woman will improve it.
TWELVE: TAKING ACTION
Now, let me get down to the NITTY-GRITTY.
I HATE b.s.
I LOVE truth.
And the TRUTH is, that unless you have some special
connection to all the right women, you are going to have
to APPROACH WOMEN and chat with them and get
a sense of who they are.
I repeat:
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN.
You cannot expect miracles in the sense of you just
sitting at home or expecting women to just appear
out of thin air. Also, women don’t tend to do the
approaching. This is because most women are
culturally conditioned to be less "pro-active" than
men when it comes to the INITIAL approach.
Women are told that being too assertive in the
initial approach will make them seem less
feminine.
If a woman is interested in a man who is a total
stranger, usually the most she feels she can do
is INDIRECTLY make herself more available,
i.e. hanging around a certain area for longer than
usual, etc.
And you can’t give yourself excuses, as excuses
won’t help. If there are no women in one place,
go to another place where there are women.
Keep trying new places till you find places
where you can meet plenty of women.
You must SOLDIER on, approaching woman
after woman even in situations that feel awkward.
You have no idea how strong this makes you,
because what happens is that when an EASIER
approach situation comes later, you will JUMP
on it because you will have already had experience
doing so many approaches that were harder from
before.
THIRTEEN: THE INSTANT-DATE
ANOTHER super-important point is this:
GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE IF POSSIBLE
Getting a phone number is all good and fine, but
if you can, GO FOR THE INSTANT DATE.
What I mean by this is to actually take the
approach as far as possible. If the chat is
going well, then after a few minutes suggest
that you go for a coffee right then and there,
especially if there is a coffee house nearby.
You have to remember that the woman is a
total stranger, and the more you get a chance
to connect with her, the LESS CHANCE that
later she will wonder just what the heck happened
earlier that day that made her give her number
to a total stranger.
Sometimes a guy will have a great interaction with
a woman, and the woman will happily give him
her real number, but then later on she will forget
some of the details and she will wonder how on
earth she gave her number to a total stranger.
However, if she has a really LONG chat with you,
she gets a much better perspective of who you are,
and this makes her feel that it is not weird for her
to meet up with you again.
This does NOT mean that getting a woman’s
phone number is not enough. Many times, it
IS enough, because you can chat on the phone.
I’m just saying that it is even BETTER to try to
get the INSTANT DATE with her in that very
FIRST interaction you have with her.
The right woman IS out there, she is hoping to meet you.
She is NOT a typical woman from today’s society.
She is NOT impressed by the screwed up morals.
She has the ability to THINK CRITICALLY.
If you want to attract a woman who is able to
RISE ABOVE THE CRAPOLA VALUES, you
must show that you are the kind of MAN who is
RARE and who is ABOVE the stupidity that is
unfortunately so often POPULAR.
If you are REALLY SERIOUS about mastering the
skills on how to approach women MOST EFFECTIVELY
then take a bootcamp with me. Bootcamp is totally
private, one on one, and takes place completely in the
real world. There are no simulators, just real women
in all types of places, and me beside you as your
most powerful coach who has trained in these skills
for over ten YEARS.
Bootcamp is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
If you are looking for a woman for a serious relationship
who will treat you RIGHT and be LOYAL to you long-term,
you MUST BE PREPARED on how to go about doing all this.
If you JUST want the physical, this is the EASY part.
There are tons of promiscuous women who are not looking
to commit, every weekend at the clubs, bars, lounges, etc.
But if you want a quality woman who would make for
a great wife, mother, and partner for life, you
NEED TO BE INFORMED.
I seriously suggest you take a MASSIVE action for yourself
to SOLVE the problem by getting my intensive home study
program that is all about getting a QUALITY woman,
by going HERE:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
Monday, April 1, 2013
Love, Lust, And Your Success In Life
The whole reason I got into this field
had little to do with pure LUST.
It was actually the COMBINATION of love
AND lust, to be honest!
For any guy who just wants to get physical
with a woman who is attractive, the answer
is simple: Find promiscuous women.
What makes it even easier is that there
are PLACES especially designed for finding
promiscuous women, i.e. certain nightclubs,
and to make it even EASIER these women
INTENTIONALLY go to these places where
they know they will consume quantities of
alcohol.
So this kind of thing is not the best formula
for how to find the kind of woman that you can
truly build a LIFE together long-term.
This is why GET A GREAT GIRL was born.
My passion is not about just getting the
physical stuff.
I have always been attracted to something
GREATER, going back all the way to high school.
I wanted the TOTAL PACKAGE, a woman that
was attractive and who ALSO had all the right
personality traits for a great long term
relationship and who would be the right
kind of woman with whom to raise a family.
A woman who was kind, hard-working, loyal,
intelligent, health-conscious, etc.
ONE: BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN IS A GREAT WOMAN
Here's something else:
I've also known and observed for many years that
it is usually TRUE that behind every great man
is a great woman.
It is ALSO true that when a man SCREWS UP
his relationship with a quality woman and
then LOSES that quality woman, his whole
LIFE goes down the drain.
One of the latest examples is TIGER WOODS.
By the way, in my example of Tiger Woods,
it's important not to take this situation and
judge him since it is impossible to know for
sure the kind of pressure and temptation he
was facing. The point of this example is simply
to show what happens when a man is no longer
with the right woman, the point is NOT to judge
him for what happened.
He is not alone in what occurred to him, and
in fact the same thing happens to millions of
men, albeit on a smaller level because they
are not so famous.
He reaches the top of his field BY FAR.
Behind the scenes is a great woman who
stands by his side and raises his kids.
Then, the temptation of other women and pure
lust takes over, even though his wife is
gorgeous.
His wife finds out, is devastated, his relationship
is ruined, his career TANKS.
People think he will never recover because his
golf game DROPS so massively.
It takes some serious TIME, but then guess what?
He slowly comes BACK.
But guess what is MOST important to realize about
this? He is not alone. He is not screwing around.
He is in a serious relationship with what appears
to be a really dedicated woman who was prepared
to deal with all the hassle she would get from
dating him at this time.
It is NOT a coincidence that his success coincides
with the time he has HARMONY and LOVE rather than
CHAOS and LUST as the only ruling factors in his life.
The same thing happens time and again with all kinds
of men in all kinds of fields from politics to sports
to business and everything else.
If you're a heterosexual man, being with the
right WOMAN is usually a MUST. There are
always exceptions to the rule, but in GENERAL
this is a FACT.
The reason for this is because the human mind
is COMPLEX. It is not JUST seeking love, it
is not JUST seeking LUST. It is not just seeking
security, and it is not just seeking adventure
and some adrenaline-stimulating risk. It is
not just seeking rapport and support, and it
is not just seeking challenge.
It seeks the right BALANCE of all these things.
And this is why it is so important to find the
RIGHT woman.
So let me bring this full circle:
If you are looking to attract a woman, and if
you are looking for love combined with lust
rather than just lust or just love, I suggest
you USE my attraction strategies, but that
you use them on the kind of women who ALSO
have the right characteristics for ensuring
success in a long term relationship.
This way, you are focusing your energies on
the RIGHT kind of woman, who already HAS
all the right personality traits, but you
are now making her ATTRACTED TO YOU, so that
she is not with you simply out of LOGIC
(i.e. that she wants to have a relationship
where no one cheats on each other) but
rather she is ALSO with you out of her
own LUST for you which you INCREASED
because you also know how to MAGNIFY
a woman's attraction to you.
TWO: TAKE ON BODY LANGUAGE AND THE ROLES
OF THE CALM ALPHA
The next thing I want to explain is how
important it is to actually go beyond
your comfort level if you want to GROW.
What I mean in particular is that if you
want to become the "alpha male", a term
that I have mixed feelings about since
the term has often been wrongly used
to describe a jerk, the fact is that
scientific studies have shown that
if you take on the BEHAVIORS and
BODY LANGUAGE of someone who is not
only POWERFUL but who is also CALM
under pressure, you will ALSO begin
to BECOME this way.
I do not just mean this in a poetic sense.
I am talking CHEMICALLY.
You will experience an INCREASE in testosterone,
the chemical that is the ESSENCE of masculinity,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY experiencing a DROP in
CORTISOL, the destructive chemical that is
often released when people experience STRESS.
So you will become the kind of man who is
ASSERTIVE and CONFIDENT and who rises to
the challenge, but who ALSO does not
HARM his HEALTH when he experiences these
challenges.
There are plenty of men out there who are
very successful, but the CORTISOL they experience
from stress is destroying them.
THREE: ANOTHER DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN
If you want to succeed with women, it is
important that you realize a fundamental
difference in their views toward sex.
Men basically feel that ATTRACTION is reason
enough to have sex with someone.
Most women however do NOT feel that way.
For a woman, usually, there needs to be
something ELSE involved. A REASON, if you will.
In fact, that REASON itself becomes PART
of the attraction.
It is important to realize this. It explains
why even a SUPERMODEL of a guy will quickly
be forgotten by a woman if the guy does not
FOLLOW up with her quickly and take things
to the next level of connection, but a
MAN on the other hand will remember a
HOT WOMAN for YEARS after he met her
even if he only saw her ONCE for a few
moments, AND he would be ready in an
INSTANT to have sex with her the moment
he saw her AGAIN.
This is a HUGE difference between men and women.
So what this means is that you MUST learn
the skills of how to CONVEY a lot about
yourself through CONVERSATION.
And I don't mean telling a woman a list of your
accomplishments like a resume. Rather, I mean
INDIRECTLY you communicate to her, and you
actually will do this most effectively through
your STATE OF MIND which manifests itself
in your body language and tonality and which
affects your decisions instinctively on what
to say.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, a woman responds to a man
with a sense of PURPOSE and a sense of GENUINE
interest in her.
Remember, women can read your emotions VERY
EASILY, easier than men can read women.
So, it is not important that you have to be
a millionaire or a billionaire, but rather
that you MUST have a strong sense of WHY
you are doing what you are doing with your
life.
Women are all about sensing EMOTIONS, so if
your emotions are NAMBY PAMBY, she will pick
that up. If you are not REALLY interested
in her, she will pick that up as well.
Women are not super-powered. They can't tell
whether a man is a nice person or not right
off the bat. But they CAN tell whether that
man feels POWERFUL and feels MOTIVATED and
feels INTERESTED in them.
A woman MUST have THESE kinds of reasons
to have sex with a man. It is usually
NOT enough of a reason for a woman to have
sex with a man just because she finds him
attractive when she looks at him.
FOUR: PRESSURE OR NO CHANGE
Finally, I want to end on one note:
If you don't put PRESSURE on yourself
to change, you are most likely NOT
going to change.
So, if you want to get good at attracting
women, and especially if you want to attract
a GREAT woman for a real relationship that
satisfies your love AND lust needs, you
MUST put pressure on yourself.
This is just one of the reasons my BOOTCAMP
is so important. In BOOTCAMP, I will put
JUST the right amount of pressure on you.
I am not there to OVERWHELM your ability,
instead I am there to teach you and to also
PUSH YOU to what your REAL LIMIT really is.
Most people simply will NEVER push themselves
to their limit, it is human nature NOT to want
to work harder than we have to.
This is why throughout history, it has always
been NECESSITY that is the mother of GENIUS.
It was not VOLUNTARY INTEREST that was the
mother of genius.
When you take bootcamp with me, you will be
pushed to the point where you have no choice
but to GROW in skill.
Bootcamp is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And if you are really serious about getting
a GREAT woman in your life, then get my
most specialized program that is DEVOTED
to this topic.
The name of this program is "Warrior Within",
and it includes 8 DVDs that will SKYROCKET
your success when it comes to getting the
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package" that most men can only DREAM about.
It's at:
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Till next time,
Michael Marks
had little to do with pure LUST.
It was actually the COMBINATION of love
AND lust, to be honest!
For any guy who just wants to get physical
with a woman who is attractive, the answer
is simple: Find promiscuous women.
What makes it even easier is that there
are PLACES especially designed for finding
promiscuous women, i.e. certain nightclubs,
and to make it even EASIER these women
INTENTIONALLY go to these places where
they know they will consume quantities of
alcohol.
So this kind of thing is not the best formula
for how to find the kind of woman that you can
truly build a LIFE together long-term.
This is why GET A GREAT GIRL was born.
My passion is not about just getting the
physical stuff.
I have always been attracted to something
GREATER, going back all the way to high school.
I wanted the TOTAL PACKAGE, a woman that
was attractive and who ALSO had all the right
personality traits for a great long term
relationship and who would be the right
kind of woman with whom to raise a family.
A woman who was kind, hard-working, loyal,
intelligent, health-conscious, etc.
ONE: BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN IS A GREAT WOMAN
Here's something else:
I've also known and observed for many years that
it is usually TRUE that behind every great man
is a great woman.
It is ALSO true that when a man SCREWS UP
his relationship with a quality woman and
then LOSES that quality woman, his whole
LIFE goes down the drain.
One of the latest examples is TIGER WOODS.
By the way, in my example of Tiger Woods,
it's important not to take this situation and
judge him since it is impossible to know for
sure the kind of pressure and temptation he
was facing. The point of this example is simply
to show what happens when a man is no longer
with the right woman, the point is NOT to judge
him for what happened.
He is not alone in what occurred to him, and
in fact the same thing happens to millions of
men, albeit on a smaller level because they
are not so famous.
He reaches the top of his field BY FAR.
Behind the scenes is a great woman who
stands by his side and raises his kids.
Then, the temptation of other women and pure
lust takes over, even though his wife is
gorgeous.
His wife finds out, is devastated, his relationship
is ruined, his career TANKS.
People think he will never recover because his
golf game DROPS so massively.
It takes some serious TIME, but then guess what?
He slowly comes BACK.
But guess what is MOST important to realize about
this? He is not alone. He is not screwing around.
He is in a serious relationship with what appears
to be a really dedicated woman who was prepared
to deal with all the hassle she would get from
dating him at this time.
It is NOT a coincidence that his success coincides
with the time he has HARMONY and LOVE rather than
CHAOS and LUST as the only ruling factors in his life.
The same thing happens time and again with all kinds
of men in all kinds of fields from politics to sports
to business and everything else.
If you're a heterosexual man, being with the
right WOMAN is usually a MUST. There are
always exceptions to the rule, but in GENERAL
this is a FACT.
The reason for this is because the human mind
is COMPLEX. It is not JUST seeking love, it
is not JUST seeking LUST. It is not just seeking
security, and it is not just seeking adventure
and some adrenaline-stimulating risk. It is
not just seeking rapport and support, and it
is not just seeking challenge.
It seeks the right BALANCE of all these things.
And this is why it is so important to find the
RIGHT woman.
So let me bring this full circle:
If you are looking to attract a woman, and if
you are looking for love combined with lust
rather than just lust or just love, I suggest
you USE my attraction strategies, but that
you use them on the kind of women who ALSO
have the right characteristics for ensuring
success in a long term relationship.
This way, you are focusing your energies on
the RIGHT kind of woman, who already HAS
all the right personality traits, but you
are now making her ATTRACTED TO YOU, so that
she is not with you simply out of LOGIC
(i.e. that she wants to have a relationship
where no one cheats on each other) but
rather she is ALSO with you out of her
own LUST for you which you INCREASED
because you also know how to MAGNIFY
a woman's attraction to you.
TWO: TAKE ON BODY LANGUAGE AND THE ROLES
OF THE CALM ALPHA
The next thing I want to explain is how
important it is to actually go beyond
your comfort level if you want to GROW.
What I mean in particular is that if you
want to become the "alpha male", a term
that I have mixed feelings about since
the term has often been wrongly used
to describe a jerk, the fact is that
scientific studies have shown that
if you take on the BEHAVIORS and
BODY LANGUAGE of someone who is not
only POWERFUL but who is also CALM
under pressure, you will ALSO begin
to BECOME this way.
I do not just mean this in a poetic sense.
I am talking CHEMICALLY.
You will experience an INCREASE in testosterone,
the chemical that is the ESSENCE of masculinity,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY experiencing a DROP in
CORTISOL, the destructive chemical that is
often released when people experience STRESS.
So you will become the kind of man who is
ASSERTIVE and CONFIDENT and who rises to
the challenge, but who ALSO does not
HARM his HEALTH when he experiences these
challenges.
There are plenty of men out there who are
very successful, but the CORTISOL they experience
from stress is destroying them.
THREE: ANOTHER DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN
If you want to succeed with women, it is
important that you realize a fundamental
difference in their views toward sex.
Men basically feel that ATTRACTION is reason
enough to have sex with someone.
Most women however do NOT feel that way.
For a woman, usually, there needs to be
something ELSE involved. A REASON, if you will.
In fact, that REASON itself becomes PART
of the attraction.
It is important to realize this. It explains
why even a SUPERMODEL of a guy will quickly
be forgotten by a woman if the guy does not
FOLLOW up with her quickly and take things
to the next level of connection, but a
MAN on the other hand will remember a
HOT WOMAN for YEARS after he met her
even if he only saw her ONCE for a few
moments, AND he would be ready in an
INSTANT to have sex with her the moment
he saw her AGAIN.
This is a HUGE difference between men and women.
So what this means is that you MUST learn
the skills of how to CONVEY a lot about
yourself through CONVERSATION.
And I don't mean telling a woman a list of your
accomplishments like a resume. Rather, I mean
INDIRECTLY you communicate to her, and you
actually will do this most effectively through
your STATE OF MIND which manifests itself
in your body language and tonality and which
affects your decisions instinctively on what
to say.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, a woman responds to a man
with a sense of PURPOSE and a sense of GENUINE
interest in her.
Remember, women can read your emotions VERY
EASILY, easier than men can read women.
So, it is not important that you have to be
a millionaire or a billionaire, but rather
that you MUST have a strong sense of WHY
you are doing what you are doing with your
life.
Women are all about sensing EMOTIONS, so if
your emotions are NAMBY PAMBY, she will pick
that up. If you are not REALLY interested
in her, she will pick that up as well.
Women are not super-powered. They can't tell
whether a man is a nice person or not right
off the bat. But they CAN tell whether that
man feels POWERFUL and feels MOTIVATED and
feels INTERESTED in them.
A woman MUST have THESE kinds of reasons
to have sex with a man. It is usually
NOT enough of a reason for a woman to have
sex with a man just because she finds him
attractive when she looks at him.
FOUR: PRESSURE OR NO CHANGE
Finally, I want to end on one note:
If you don't put PRESSURE on yourself
to change, you are most likely NOT
going to change.
So, if you want to get good at attracting
women, and especially if you want to attract
a GREAT woman for a real relationship that
satisfies your love AND lust needs, you
MUST put pressure on yourself.
This is just one of the reasons my BOOTCAMP
is so important. In BOOTCAMP, I will put
JUST the right amount of pressure on you.
I am not there to OVERWHELM your ability,
instead I am there to teach you and to also
PUSH YOU to what your REAL LIMIT really is.
Most people simply will NEVER push themselves
to their limit, it is human nature NOT to want
to work harder than we have to.
This is why throughout history, it has always
been NECESSITY that is the mother of GENIUS.
It was not VOLUNTARY INTEREST that was the
mother of genius.
When you take bootcamp with me, you will be
pushed to the point where you have no choice
but to GROW in skill.
Bootcamp is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And if you are really serious about getting
a GREAT woman in your life, then get my
most specialized program that is DEVOTED
to this topic.
The name of this program is "Warrior Within",
and it includes 8 DVDs that will SKYROCKET
your success when it comes to getting the
kind of amazing woman who is the "total
package" that most men can only DREAM about.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Thursday, January 24, 2013
How To Beat The Odds And GET The Woman You Want, or: Hot Women Wear Headphones For A REASON!
I would be incorrect if I said that
online dating is always a mistake. If
you MUST be 24 hours a day, 7 days
a week, in locations where there are
no women, then online dating makes
sense.
If you are very shy and would like to
start with talking to women online
instead of in person, this might be
a good idea for some guys as well.
HOWEVER, otherwise, the EFFORT and TIME
that must be spent to find the right woman
ONLINE over weeks and possibly MONTHS if
not YEARS is actually FAR, FAR GREATER
than what it takes to just go for a stroll
and meet a TON of incredible women in
just one AFTERNOON.
This is another reason why taking BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful: It is because you
learn how to waltz right up to women
and attract them on the SPOT. And it is not
some kind of THEORY; you actually get to
PROVE IT in front of your own EYES.
Any by "PROVE IT" I mean the following
kinds of things happen:
1. The woman gives you her email.
2. She gives you her number.
3. She buys you a drink.
4. She gets girly and giggly with you
even though you are not super funny.
5. She kisses you.
6. She makes out with you.
Number 6 tends to happen more in clubs,
but in general, the bottom line is that
you can TELL the women are actually
INTERESTED instead of just saying
things such as, "I have to go".
Focusing your energy on meeting women online
tends to also make you needy as when you finally
meet a woman you are interested in online, you
start to get insecure if she does not respond
right away, and it does not help to know that
if she is attractive or even not so attractive
she probably has a thousand messages in her
inbox from other guys because it is SO EASY
for any guy to just click SEND and send a
message to her INBOX.
Meeting women and approaching women in person
takes a lot more SKILL and hence you get rid
of most of the so called "competition".
PLUS, by getting lots of women from meeting
them in person from cold approaches, you
also become SUPER EMPOWERED AND CONFIDENT
AND SECURE and if you DO decide to go back
to online dating, you actually COMMUNICATE
in a way that SHOWS you are not needy
and in a way that shows you are fun.
It will then show even in your messages
back and forth with women on the online
dating site.
It will also show in your profiles online,
because it is EASIER to put up a playful,
confident, or intriguing profile when you
are feeling EMPOWERED with women as
opposed to feeling NEEDY.
However, what you are at your best online
is NOTHING compared to what you are at your
best IN PERSON. You have MUCH MORE POWER
to attract in PERSON.
And when you see how many women you have
choices from when you master the skill of
approaching in cold approaches, you will
not feel the desire to go back to online
dating.
Online, a woman does not get to feel your
personality since she does not get to see
your body language, your expressions, your
tonality, etc.
You lose some of the HUMAN TOUCH online.
But in REAL LIFE, you get to reveal WAY MORE
PERSONALITY, way more of the HUMAN TOUCH.
NUMBER TWO: HOT WOMEN, HEADPHONES, MOVING
If you look around at hot women, you will notice
a LOT of them have headphones on, and you will
notice they do not often stay STATIONARY in
one place for long in places like malls or
stores, etc.
Some guys complain about this, saying it
makes it harder to approach women.
I used to be one of those guys.
But guess what?
Women being hot and being harder to STOP
and to get them into chat mode compared
to getting other women to stop and chat
is NOT a coincidence.
Hotties NEED to make themselves harder to stop
or they will never get to move through the world
without spending ALL DAY talking to EVERY GUY
that sees them.
The HEADPHONES is PART of that.
The headphones are SAYING, "I'm in my own world,
please leave me alone".
So if you DECIDE TO GIVE INTO THAT, you have
just made yourself part of the MAJORITY of
men who DO NOT GET ANYWHERE with her.
Similarly, these hotties MOVE around more, they
KNOW if they stop for long enough, FOR SURE
they will get a LOT of men who have no clue
about how to behave, and ALSO that these men
will get upset if she has to leave without
giving them the number, etc.
So hotties PREVENT a lot of problems this way.
DO NOT GIVE INTO THESE ARTIFICIAL BARRIERS.
JUST OPEN UP THE CONVERSATION ANYWAY, and
do it RIGHT.
Women know you are approaching them, just make
sure you approach them in a way that makes them
GLAD you did.
THREE: CONGRUENCY
There's one more thing I want to mention today:
It is all about something known as CONGRUENCY.
When opening up a conversation with a woman
who is a total stranger, you can SCREW IT ALL
UP even if you do EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT but
you fail to show CONGRUENCY.
Congruency simply means that your WORDS are
CONSISTENT with your BODY LANGUAGE and tonality.
So, let's say a guy is at a bookstore and starts
chatting to a woman about a book she is reading
and he PRETENDS to be interested in the book
but he is not really interested in it.
Most likely, his FACIAL expressions will reveal
some discomfort or disdain or boredom with it,
from the way his eyebrows furl or the crinkles
in his forehead or the way his glance moves
around unsteadily, or the way his voice shows
a lack of genuine interest, etc.
On the other hand, if a guy actually SAYS
that he knows NOTHING about that topic but
is curious what she finds interesting about
it, he will sound CONGRUENT if this is the
truth about the situation.
A woman sensing CONGRUENCY in a man is a BIG thing.
One of the BIGGEST problems in "pick ups" or
'cold approaches' on women who are total strangers
is coming across as "sketchy" - as UNTRUSTWORTHY.
Women WANT to meet men, but they also want
to be SAFE.
So a guy who is the most innocent guy in the
world, and who just wants a woman and just
wants to impress her, but who is not being
CONGRUENT with her, will trigger her ALARMS.
She does not KNOW the reason he is not being
congruent is rather innocent, i.e. that he
likes her. All she knows is something is NOT
true about the situation.
This is a bit similar to how dogs sense a
person's fear, and it often agitates the
dog, even if the REASON the person feels
fear is BECAUSE of the dog, and not because
the person wants to attack the dog!
All the dog knows is that something is WRONG.
The flip side is also true.
If you are being CONGRUENT, you can use almost
ANYTHING to get a woman into you.
Here's an example from bootcamp:
At a store, the song "Fields of Gold" by Sting
was playing softly over the loudspeakers.
In the moment, I just felt MAN, THIS SONG IS
REALLY CLASSIC STUFF, IT'S CALMING, IT'S
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD STUFF.
So I just turned to the woman, who was in middle
of her own thing, reading a book, and I said,
"Isn't this song beautiful?"
And I MEANT it.
I said it SLOW, and said the word "beautiful"
as if the word beautiful was ITSELF sacred.
I was truly totally congruent with it.
I've loved that song since it first came out.
And now she FEELS it.
She is soaking it in.
And she goes "Yes, it really is".
This woman was YOUNG, so I said the next totally
TRUE and congruent thought I had, which was:
"That's pretty cool you know this song,
because you seem pretty young".
So then she tells me that she has her parents
to thank for that, they brought her up with
great music. We chat a bit about how Lady Gaga
was actually influenced by her parents who
played their music around the house, including
music by Bruce Springsteen, etc.
At that point, I introduce myself and
extend my hand. She smiles and introduces
herself as well as we shake hands. We
continue chatting about things that
RESONATE such as having classic values,
timeless music, and inspiration.
I use this example because it was NOT
genius, it WAS however very CONGRUENT.
Being totally congruent also means you
do not use pick-up lines, because pick-up
lines run the risk of a guy feeling he
is "doing an act", which means not being
congruent to his real identity.
After a while, I had to end it, because
the point was illustrated and my client was
ready to do some more approaches of his own.
(He got the number of a sexy, slim but shapely
woman who wanted him so badly that she was
not afraid to reveal she had NO PLAN for
SATURDAY NIGHT and wanted to know what HE
was doing! And to prove it was a real number,
he actually called her right away, and her
phone rang on her right then and there!)
And if you are reading this right now, I
promise you that what you have just read,
as powerful as it is, is just the TIP
of the ICEBERG.
My "Real World BOOTCAMP" is going to equip you with the skills to attract more women in one WEEK than most men attract in a LIFETIME.
Bootcamp is a bit like THE MATRIX.
You will see that YOU create the
results that YOU want with women, and
that there are NO limits.
You get to benefit from over TEN YEARS
of my dedication to these skills and to
teaching these skills.
Email me with possible weekends that work for
you and I will let you know if any of them are
still available.
Bootcamp is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And if you don't already have the following
two ESSENTIAL programs, get them IMMEDIATELY:
"The Dating Wizard" E-Book:
This book is the FIRST thing to read.
It is an ABSOLUTE MUST.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
"Acing the Approach":
This program shares my LATEST strategies
for succeeding at the art and skill of
approaching and attracting women who
are total strangers.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/acing-the-approach.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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