How To Be The Winner Women Want

Women want winners.

It’s as simple as that.

Women are HARDWIRED to

be ATTRACTED to winners.

Winners will ensure their own

survival, the survival of their

children, and will continue the

GENES that create the INTELLIGENCE

and other essential traits that

ENSURE survival in the children.

This is all HARDWIRED into a

woman's brain.  She is not

even consciously THINKING about

this stuff unless she happens

to be a PhD in this area.

The bottom line is, women can

SENSE winners, and size up a

man QUICKLY to see if he indeed

IS a winner.

And they feel OVERWHELMING

ATTRACTION to men who are

WINNERS.

So today, I want to share with you

some KEY points about being a winner.

A winner is not necessarily someone

with lots of money, but it is ALWAYS

someone who shares the following traits: 

ONE: ACTION VERSUS TALKING

The real truth is that most people would all

LOVE to get certain things or achieve certain

things, but they are NOT prepared to actually

put in the EFFORT.   

So they don’t want success THAT BADLY.

They just want success, they just want to win,

if it doesn’t have to really require MASSIVE

EFFORT.

So instead of putting in EFFORT, they instead

TALK A LOT.  They talk, and talk, and friggen

TALK some MORE!

They TALK about everything that is “kind of,

sort of, in a way, maybe, possibly RELATED

to” what they want to do or achieve or get,

but they don’t actually TAKE DIRECT ACTION.

And it’s not even that TALKING is all that bad,

per se, the PROBLEM WITH TALKING is that

it takes up all your FRIGGEN' PRECIOUS TIME!!!!!

This is the reason that successful people actually

don’t do a lot of “hanging out to party with other

successful people” UNLESS THAT IS PART OF

THE JOB, they instead are busy WORKING

and TAKING ACTION.

People also TALK a lot about success because

it makes them FEEL that they are making progress

toward success, since they FEEL they put in a

TALKING effort.

It’s all BULL, though.

It’s funny, because sometimes COMEDIANS

are the only ones NOT SCARED TO TELL

THE TRUTH.  

And Sarah Silverman once said as soon as

we say “I’m thinking about”, then that means

we actually are NEVER going to do it.

So, if you say “I’m thinking about doing

x, y, or z”, you are NOT taking ACTION,

and ACTION is the only way to GET there.

DON’T JUST THINK ABOUT IT.

Instead, take up NIKE’S slogan:

JUST DO IT.

This doesn’t mean you don’t need to THINK.

Thinking is actually the MOST IMPORTANT

THING, but TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU

ARE POSSIBLY GOING TO THINK ABOUT,

AND TALKING ABOUT THINKING is not

the same as actually THINKING AND PLANNING,

and then TAKING ACTION to carry out that thinking

and planning.

If you want to be successful, take ACTION,

STOP THE TALKING, and also stop letting

your time get wasted by people who prefer

to TALK rather than take ACTION.

Keep the talking part to about 10%, and the

ACTION PART to about 90%. And that

talking part is only to communicate the

ACTIONS REQUIRED FOR SUCCESS,

and those actions are the result of THINKING,

which is the HARDEST ACTION OF ALL.

 Every second is PRECIOUS, and TALKING

is so often just THROWING OUT TIME FROM

the DOING.

See how different your life is when you stop talking

for ONE WEEK, and instead start DOING.

TWO: BE CONGRUENT: STOP CHASING CONTRADICTORY GOALS

You can’t get anywhere if you want to be in

two OPPOSITE places at the same time, or

even if you want TOO MANY THINGS at ONCE.

Let's say you want a great relationship

with a faithful woman, but you also want

to date dozens of other women.

You have to make up your mind.

You have to make sure your actions

are all CONGRUENT, or consistent,

with your goal.

Let's say you want to start a company,

but you also want to have lots of time

with your relationship.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to be healthy, but you also want to

eat junk food, or work in a place where everyone

smokes, etc.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to make LOTS of money, quickly, but you

also want to have a job you LOVE that gives you

creative freedom.

You have to make up your mind.

In order to WIN, you have to be FOCUSED.

You can’t split your energy and focus into

too many directions, and the more you

can focus it all in ONE direction, the

better.

This is why it’s so important to know what

you REALLY WANT. 

This leads to the next super-important point:

THREE: FIND THE TORTURE YOU LOVE

Again, another comedian, Jerry Seinfeld, recently

mentioned yet another crucial truth on success.

Anyone who thinks success is going to be EASY

is out of their MIND.

Even if you LOVE something, whether it is art,
music, business, math, engineering, medicine,
writing, sports, the fact is THEY ALL STILL
TAKE A HUMONGOUS AMOUNT OF EFFORT

to be SUCCESSFUL in.  

BUT IF YOU LOVE IT ENOUGH, the truth

is that even the TORTURE is something you

love as well.

A person who REALLY LOVES BODYBUILDING

actually ENJOYS THE TORTURE of the burn

of each rep and each set.

It’s not MASOCHISM, it’s an APPRECIATION

OF THE BEAUTY OF THE PROCESS.

A person who TRULY LOVES performing stand up

comedy is ALWAYS working on new material, and

NEVER STOPS THINKING about it, but LOVES

the process, LOVES the beauty of that process, and

is in a way ADDICTED to the EFFORT as well.

A great writer is TORTURED to find NEW IDEAS,

ideas that INSPIRE him or her, and will search to

the ends of the earth for something that really

SPARKS his or her soul.  But there is a JOY

even in that endless work, because again, there

is an appreciation for the process and of course

there is so much motivation for the FRUIT

of all this work, which is the art that gets

created, that inspires.

You have to love something enough to

KEEP AT IT THROUGH THE ENDLESS

TORTURE AND WORK THAT IS

INVOLVED.

But, again, when you choose a goal that

INSPIRES YOU, it is no longer something

you HATE,  rather it is something you LOVE,

including the ‘torture’ part.

FOUR: EMOTIONAL HEALTH

We are, in many ways, still living in the

STONE AGE when it comes to our

appreciation of emotional and mental

health issues.

Just like the BODY can get a millions

things that affect it, from a cold, to

a flu, to a broken bone, etc, etc, so

too the MIND and the EMOTIONS

are JUST as susceptible to “injury”

and illnesses, that require HEALING

or RECOVERY.

If you are constantly feeling depressed,

angry, or any other destructive emotion,

it’s IMPERATIVE that you get the

proper help so that you are in control

of your emotions again.

It’s damn hard to find qualified professionals

who truly CARE and who truly KNOW

what is best for you.

I suggest you start by reading a TON of

books by QUALIFIED PROFESSIONALS

in the fields of psychology and medicine,

because once you are armed with the

right information from the books, you

can then tell whether any human professionals

you meet are actually measuring up to

what they are supposed to be doing for you,

based on what you read in the books.

  

One great book out there, by the way,

is called “Feeling Good” by David Burns.

FIVE: DON’T HATE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

It is INSANE how people who claim to

want to be successful will then spend

a HUUUUUUUUUGE AMOUNT OF

TIME talking about how successful people

out there only got there because they are lucky,

are connected, etc, etc, etc.

YES, INDEED THERE IS A LOT OF

NEPOTISM, LUCK, ETC, GOING ON

IN A LOT OF SUCCESS OUT THERE

WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE.

However, USUALLY the great successes

also WORKED THEIR BRAINS AND

BUNS OFF, in order to GET successful.

Bill Gates used to SLEEP at his desk from

working such long  hours while building

the company.  Today, he gives the money

away to make the world a better place.

THAT is man driven by a lot more than

MONEY, it is a man DRIVEN to

CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE

BETTER.  But he may very well have

been driven just by money  in the

beginning, and that’s totally cool too,

because he was willing to go through

the WORK, the TORTURE.

Steve Jobs (Apple) was so PASSIONATE

about his work instead of just the money,

that even once he was SUCCESSFUL, it

took SOMEONE ELSE to remind him that

he could hire a COOK instead of having

a fridge and freezer full of TV DINNERS.

James Cameron, the director of Titanic,

Avatar, Terminator, and Aliens, was so

poor and so driven when he started that

instead of film school, he learned about

filming by PHOTOCOPYING books from

the LIBRARY on film techniques, while

working as a truck driver, and he DISASSEMBLED

cameras to learn how they worked by reverse

engineering them.

So, when people HATE on successful people,

they are subconsciously ENSURING their

OWN failures, because they are telling themselves

that success is this IMPOSSIBLE thing unless

there is something FISHY going on.

Also, it implies that each individual has NO LUCK.

The truth is, most people are FAR MORE LUCKY

than they friggen REALIZE.

They are too lazy to even REALIZE how much

POTENTIAL they have if they just GOT OFF

their BUTTS and stopped TALKING and started

taking ACTION based on REAL THINKING. 

SIX: THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX

In his book “David and Goliath”,

Malcolm Gladwell explains how so

often, people with various EXTREME

CHALLENGES end up becoming

MORE SUCCESSFUL than people

who seem to have it all.

And the reason is, because these people

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX, they

KNEW that they COULD NEVER WIN

if they looked at things THE SAME WAY

as everyone else. 

It was ONLY because they were already

in such a TOUGH, “impossible to succeed”

situation because of their challenges, that

they FORCED THEMSELVES to HAVE

to think OUTSIDE THE BOX.

They KNEW that success would be

IMPOSSIBLE ACCORDING TO ALL

NORMAL WAYS OF GETTING THERE.

So they had to start thinking of COMPLETELY

DIFFERENT WAYS than ALL “NORMAL”

APPROACHES would suggest.

In other words, just being a little challenged

was not ENOUGH to convince most people

that they had to start thinking OUTSIDE

THE BOX, in a fresh, innovative way.

But having a MAJOR challenge is what

forces many people to HAVE to think

outside the box.

Hence, the example of David and Goliath,

which is that David KNEW there was

absolutely NO WAY he could defeath

GOLIATH according to NORMAL ways,

i.e. WRESTLING WITH GOLIATH.

GOLIATH WAS HUGE, BIG, AND STRONG.

But GOLIATH, huge, bulky and slow, was not

prepared for an expert with a SLING-SHOT.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX.

And if you are reading this right now, and you

find yourself nodding your head in AGREEMENT,

then download my book on success called

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must ABSOLUTELY stick to in order to WIN.

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Today is also the LAST day to arrange a personal

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tonight if you want to arrange that consultation.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Love, Lust, And Your Success In Life

The whole reason I got into this field
had little to do with pure LUST.

It was actually the COMBINATION of love
AND lust, to be honest!

For any guy who just wants to get physical
with a woman who is attractive, the answer
is simple: Find promiscuous women.

What makes it even easier is that there
are PLACES especially designed for finding
promiscuous women, i.e. certain nightclubs,
and to make it even EASIER these women
INTENTIONALLY go to these places where
they know they will consume quantities of
alcohol.

So this kind of thing is not the best formula
for how to find the kind of woman that you can
truly build a LIFE together long-term.

This is why GET A GREAT GIRL was born.
My passion is not about just getting the
physical stuff.

I have always been attracted to something
GREATER, going back all the way to high school.

I wanted the TOTAL PACKAGE, a woman that
was attractive and who ALSO had all the right
personality traits for a great long term
relationship and who would be the right
kind of woman with whom to raise a family.

A woman who was kind, hard-working, loyal,
intelligent, health-conscious, etc.

ONE: BEHIND EVERY GREAT MAN IS A GREAT WOMAN

Here's something else:
I've also known and observed for many years that
it is usually TRUE that behind every great man
is a great woman.

It is ALSO true that when a man SCREWS UP
his relationship with a quality woman and
then LOSES that quality woman, his whole
LIFE goes down the drain.

One of the latest examples is TIGER WOODS.

By the way, in my example of Tiger Woods,
it's important not to take this situation and
judge him since it is impossible to know for
sure the kind of pressure and temptation he
was facing.  The point of this example is simply
to show what happens when a man is no longer
with the right woman, the point is NOT to judge
him for what happened.

He is not alone in what occurred to him, and
in fact the same thing happens to millions of
men, albeit on a smaller level because they
are not so famous.

He reaches the top of his field BY FAR.
Behind the scenes is a great woman who
stands by his side and raises his kids.

Then, the temptation of other women and pure
lust takes over, even though his wife is
gorgeous. 

His wife finds out, is devastated, his relationship
is ruined, his career TANKS.

People think he will never recover because his
golf game DROPS so massively.

It takes some serious TIME, but then guess what?
He slowly comes BACK.

But guess what is MOST important to realize about
this?  He is not alone.  He is not screwing around.
He is in a serious relationship with what appears
to be a really dedicated woman who was prepared
to deal with all the hassle she would get from
dating him at this time.

It is NOT a coincidence that his success coincides
with the time he has HARMONY and LOVE rather than
CHAOS and LUST as the only ruling factors in his life.

The same thing happens time and again with all kinds
of men in all kinds of fields from politics to sports
to business and everything else.

If you're a heterosexual man, being with the
right WOMAN is usually a MUST.  There are
always exceptions to the rule, but in GENERAL
this is a FACT.

The reason for this is because the human mind
is COMPLEX.  It is not JUST seeking love, it
is not JUST seeking LUST. It is not just seeking
security, and it is not just seeking adventure
and some adrenaline-stimulating risk.  It is
not just seeking rapport and support, and it
is not just seeking challenge.

It seeks the right BALANCE of all these things.
And this is why it is so important to find the
RIGHT woman.

So let me bring this full circle:

If you are looking to attract a woman, and if
you are looking for love combined with lust
rather than just lust or just love, I suggest
you USE my attraction strategies, but that
you use them on the kind of women who ALSO
have the right characteristics for ensuring
success in a long term relationship.

This way, you are focusing your energies on
the RIGHT kind of woman, who already HAS
all the right personality traits, but you
are now making her ATTRACTED TO YOU, so that
she is not with you simply out of LOGIC
(i.e. that she wants to have a relationship
where no one cheats on each other) but
rather she is ALSO with you out of her
own LUST for you which you INCREASED
because you also know how to MAGNIFY
a woman's attraction to you.

TWO: TAKE ON BODY LANGUAGE AND THE ROLES
OF THE CALM ALPHA

The next thing I want to explain is how
important it is to actually go beyond
your comfort level if you want to GROW.

What I mean in particular is that if you
want to become the "alpha male", a term
that I have mixed feelings about since
the term has often been wrongly used
to describe a jerk, the fact is that
scientific studies have shown that
if you take on the BEHAVIORS and
BODY LANGUAGE of someone who is not
only POWERFUL but who is also CALM
under pressure, you will ALSO begin
to BECOME this way.

I do not just mean this in a poetic sense.
I am talking CHEMICALLY.

You will experience an INCREASE in testosterone,
the chemical that is the ESSENCE of masculinity,
while SIMULTANEOUSLY experiencing a DROP in
CORTISOL, the destructive chemical that is
often released when people experience STRESS.

So you will become the kind of man who is
ASSERTIVE and CONFIDENT and who rises to
the challenge, but who ALSO does not
HARM his HEALTH when he experiences these
challenges.

There are plenty of men out there who are
very successful, but the CORTISOL they experience
from stress is destroying them.

THREE: ANOTHER DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

If you want to succeed with women, it is
important that you realize a fundamental
difference in their views toward sex.

Men basically feel that ATTRACTION is reason
enough to have sex with someone.

Most women however do NOT feel that way.

For a woman, usually, there needs to be
something ELSE involved.  A REASON, if you will.     

In fact, that REASON itself becomes PART
of the attraction.

It is important to realize this. It explains
why even a SUPERMODEL of a guy will quickly
be forgotten by a woman if the guy does not
FOLLOW up with her quickly and take things
to the next level of connection, but a
MAN on the other hand will remember a
HOT WOMAN for YEARS after he met her
even if he only saw her ONCE for a few
moments, AND he would be ready in an
INSTANT to have sex with her the moment
he saw her AGAIN.

This is a HUGE difference between men and women.

So what this means is that you MUST learn
the skills of how to CONVEY a lot about
yourself through CONVERSATION.

And I don't mean telling a woman a list of your
accomplishments like a resume.  Rather, I mean
INDIRECTLY you communicate to her, and you
actually will do this most effectively through
your STATE OF MIND which manifests itself
in your body language and tonality and which
affects your decisions instinctively on what
to say.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, a woman responds to a man
with a sense of PURPOSE and a sense of GENUINE
interest in her.

Remember, women can read your emotions VERY
EASILY, easier than men can read women.

So, it is not important that you have to be
a millionaire or a billionaire, but rather
that you MUST have a strong sense of WHY
you are doing what you are doing with your
life. 

Women are all about sensing EMOTIONS, so if
your emotions are NAMBY PAMBY, she will pick
that up. If you are not REALLY interested
in her, she will pick that up as well.

Women are not super-powered.  They can't tell
whether a man is a nice person or not right
off the bat.  But they CAN tell whether that
man feels POWERFUL and feels MOTIVATED and
feels INTERESTED in them.

A woman MUST have THESE kinds of reasons
to have sex with a man. It is usually
NOT enough of a reason for a woman to have
sex with a man just because she finds him
attractive when she looks at him.

FOUR: PRESSURE OR NO CHANGE

Finally, I want to end on one note:
If you don't put PRESSURE on yourself
to change, you are most likely NOT
going to change.

So, if you want to get good at attracting
women, and especially if you want to attract
a GREAT woman for a real relationship that
satisfies your love AND lust needs, you
MUST put pressure on yourself.

This is just one of the reasons my BOOTCAMP
is so important.  In BOOTCAMP, I will put
JUST the right amount of pressure on you.
I am not there to OVERWHELM your ability,
instead I am there to teach you and to also
PUSH YOU to what your REAL LIMIT really is.

Most people simply will NEVER push themselves
to their limit, it is human nature NOT to want
to work harder than we have to.

This is why throughout history, it has always
been NECESSITY that is the mother of GENIUS.
It was not VOLUNTARY INTEREST that was the
mother of genius.

When you take bootcamp with me, you will be
pushed to the point where you have no choice
but to GROW in skill.

Bootcamp is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you are really serious about getting
a GREAT woman in your life, then get my
most specialized program that is DEVOTED
to this topic.

The name of this program is "Warrior Within",
and it includes 8 DVDs that will SKYROCKET
your success when it comes to getting the
kind of amazing woman who is the "total
package" that most men can only DREAM about.

It's at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks