How To Be The Winner Women Want

Women want winners.

It’s as simple as that.

Women are HARDWIRED to

be ATTRACTED to winners.

Winners will ensure their own

survival, the survival of their

children, and will continue the

GENES that create the INTELLIGENCE

and other essential traits that

ENSURE survival in the children.

This is all HARDWIRED into a

woman's brain.  She is not

even consciously THINKING about

this stuff unless she happens

to be a PhD in this area.

The bottom line is, women can

SENSE winners, and size up a

man QUICKLY to see if he indeed

IS a winner.

And they feel OVERWHELMING

ATTRACTION to men who are

WINNERS.

So today, I want to share with you

some KEY points about being a winner.

A winner is not necessarily someone

with lots of money, but it is ALWAYS

someone who shares the following traits: 

ONE: ACTION VERSUS TALKING

The real truth is that most people would all

LOVE to get certain things or achieve certain

things, but they are NOT prepared to actually

put in the EFFORT.   

So they don’t want success THAT BADLY.

They just want success, they just want to win,

if it doesn’t have to really require MASSIVE

EFFORT.

So instead of putting in EFFORT, they instead

TALK A LOT.  They talk, and talk, and friggen

TALK some MORE!

They TALK about everything that is “kind of,

sort of, in a way, maybe, possibly RELATED

to” what they want to do or achieve or get,

but they don’t actually TAKE DIRECT ACTION.

And it’s not even that TALKING is all that bad,

per se, the PROBLEM WITH TALKING is that

it takes up all your FRIGGEN' PRECIOUS TIME!!!!!

This is the reason that successful people actually

don’t do a lot of “hanging out to party with other

successful people” UNLESS THAT IS PART OF

THE JOB, they instead are busy WORKING

and TAKING ACTION.

People also TALK a lot about success because

it makes them FEEL that they are making progress

toward success, since they FEEL they put in a

TALKING effort.

It’s all BULL, though.

It’s funny, because sometimes COMEDIANS

are the only ones NOT SCARED TO TELL

THE TRUTH.  

And Sarah Silverman once said as soon as

we say “I’m thinking about”, then that means

we actually are NEVER going to do it.

So, if you say “I’m thinking about doing

x, y, or z”, you are NOT taking ACTION,

and ACTION is the only way to GET there.

DON’T JUST THINK ABOUT IT.

Instead, take up NIKE’S slogan:

JUST DO IT.

This doesn’t mean you don’t need to THINK.

Thinking is actually the MOST IMPORTANT

THING, but TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU

ARE POSSIBLY GOING TO THINK ABOUT,

AND TALKING ABOUT THINKING is not

the same as actually THINKING AND PLANNING,

and then TAKING ACTION to carry out that thinking

and planning.

If you want to be successful, take ACTION,

STOP THE TALKING, and also stop letting

your time get wasted by people who prefer

to TALK rather than take ACTION.

Keep the talking part to about 10%, and the

ACTION PART to about 90%. And that

talking part is only to communicate the

ACTIONS REQUIRED FOR SUCCESS,

and those actions are the result of THINKING,

which is the HARDEST ACTION OF ALL.

 Every second is PRECIOUS, and TALKING

is so often just THROWING OUT TIME FROM

the DOING.

See how different your life is when you stop talking

for ONE WEEK, and instead start DOING.

TWO: BE CONGRUENT: STOP CHASING CONTRADICTORY GOALS

You can’t get anywhere if you want to be in

two OPPOSITE places at the same time, or

even if you want TOO MANY THINGS at ONCE.

Let's say you want a great relationship

with a faithful woman, but you also want

to date dozens of other women.

You have to make up your mind.

You have to make sure your actions

are all CONGRUENT, or consistent,

with your goal.

Let's say you want to start a company,

but you also want to have lots of time

with your relationship.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to be healthy, but you also want to

eat junk food, or work in a place where everyone

smokes, etc.

You have to make up your mind.

You want to make LOTS of money, quickly, but you

also want to have a job you LOVE that gives you

creative freedom.

You have to make up your mind.

In order to WIN, you have to be FOCUSED.

You can’t split your energy and focus into

too many directions, and the more you

can focus it all in ONE direction, the

better.

This is why it’s so important to know what

you REALLY WANT. 

This leads to the next super-important point:

THREE: FIND THE TORTURE YOU LOVE

Again, another comedian, Jerry Seinfeld, recently

mentioned yet another crucial truth on success.

Anyone who thinks success is going to be EASY

is out of their MIND.

Even if you LOVE something, whether it is art,
music, business, math, engineering, medicine,
writing, sports, the fact is THEY ALL STILL
TAKE A HUMONGOUS AMOUNT OF EFFORT

to be SUCCESSFUL in.  

BUT IF YOU LOVE IT ENOUGH, the truth

is that even the TORTURE is something you

love as well.

A person who REALLY LOVES BODYBUILDING

actually ENJOYS THE TORTURE of the burn

of each rep and each set.

It’s not MASOCHISM, it’s an APPRECIATION

OF THE BEAUTY OF THE PROCESS.

A person who TRULY LOVES performing stand up

comedy is ALWAYS working on new material, and

NEVER STOPS THINKING about it, but LOVES

the process, LOVES the beauty of that process, and

is in a way ADDICTED to the EFFORT as well.

A great writer is TORTURED to find NEW IDEAS,

ideas that INSPIRE him or her, and will search to

the ends of the earth for something that really

SPARKS his or her soul.  But there is a JOY

even in that endless work, because again, there

is an appreciation for the process and of course

there is so much motivation for the FRUIT

of all this work, which is the art that gets

created, that inspires.

You have to love something enough to

KEEP AT IT THROUGH THE ENDLESS

TORTURE AND WORK THAT IS

INVOLVED.

But, again, when you choose a goal that

INSPIRES YOU, it is no longer something

you HATE,  rather it is something you LOVE,

including the ‘torture’ part.

FOUR: EMOTIONAL HEALTH

We are, in many ways, still living in the

STONE AGE when it comes to our

appreciation of emotional and mental

health issues.

Just like the BODY can get a millions

things that affect it, from a cold, to

a flu, to a broken bone, etc, etc, so

too the MIND and the EMOTIONS

are JUST as susceptible to “injury”

and illnesses, that require HEALING

or RECOVERY.

If you are constantly feeling depressed,

angry, or any other destructive emotion,

it’s IMPERATIVE that you get the

proper help so that you are in control

of your emotions again.

It’s damn hard to find qualified professionals

who truly CARE and who truly KNOW

what is best for you.

I suggest you start by reading a TON of

books by QUALIFIED PROFESSIONALS

in the fields of psychology and medicine,

because once you are armed with the

right information from the books, you

can then tell whether any human professionals

you meet are actually measuring up to

what they are supposed to be doing for you,

based on what you read in the books.

  

One great book out there, by the way,

is called “Feeling Good” by David Burns.

FIVE: DON’T HATE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

It is INSANE how people who claim to

want to be successful will then spend

a HUUUUUUUUUGE AMOUNT OF

TIME talking about how successful people

out there only got there because they are lucky,

are connected, etc, etc, etc.

YES, INDEED THERE IS A LOT OF

NEPOTISM, LUCK, ETC, GOING ON

IN A LOT OF SUCCESS OUT THERE

WITH A LOT OF PEOPLE.

However, USUALLY the great successes

also WORKED THEIR BRAINS AND

BUNS OFF, in order to GET successful.

Bill Gates used to SLEEP at his desk from

working such long  hours while building

the company.  Today, he gives the money

away to make the world a better place.

THAT is man driven by a lot more than

MONEY, it is a man DRIVEN to

CHANGE THE WORLD FOR THE

BETTER.  But he may very well have

been driven just by money  in the

beginning, and that’s totally cool too,

because he was willing to go through

the WORK, the TORTURE.

Steve Jobs (Apple) was so PASSIONATE

about his work instead of just the money,

that even once he was SUCCESSFUL, it

took SOMEONE ELSE to remind him that

he could hire a COOK instead of having

a fridge and freezer full of TV DINNERS.

James Cameron, the director of Titanic,

Avatar, Terminator, and Aliens, was so

poor and so driven when he started that

instead of film school, he learned about

filming by PHOTOCOPYING books from

the LIBRARY on film techniques, while

working as a truck driver, and he DISASSEMBLED

cameras to learn how they worked by reverse

engineering them.

So, when people HATE on successful people,

they are subconsciously ENSURING their

OWN failures, because they are telling themselves

that success is this IMPOSSIBLE thing unless

there is something FISHY going on.

Also, it implies that each individual has NO LUCK.

The truth is, most people are FAR MORE LUCKY

than they friggen REALIZE.

They are too lazy to even REALIZE how much

POTENTIAL they have if they just GOT OFF

their BUTTS and stopped TALKING and started

taking ACTION based on REAL THINKING. 

SIX: THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX

In his book “David and Goliath”,

Malcolm Gladwell explains how so

often, people with various EXTREME

CHALLENGES end up becoming

MORE SUCCESSFUL than people

who seem to have it all.

And the reason is, because these people

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX, they

KNEW that they COULD NEVER WIN

if they looked at things THE SAME WAY

as everyone else. 

It was ONLY because they were already

in such a TOUGH, “impossible to succeed”

situation because of their challenges, that

they FORCED THEMSELVES to HAVE

to think OUTSIDE THE BOX.

They KNEW that success would be

IMPOSSIBLE ACCORDING TO ALL

NORMAL WAYS OF GETTING THERE.

So they had to start thinking of COMPLETELY

DIFFERENT WAYS than ALL “NORMAL”

APPROACHES would suggest.

In other words, just being a little challenged

was not ENOUGH to convince most people

that they had to start thinking OUTSIDE

THE BOX, in a fresh, innovative way.

But having a MAJOR challenge is what

forces many people to HAVE to think

outside the box.

Hence, the example of David and Goliath,

which is that David KNEW there was

absolutely NO WAY he could defeath

GOLIATH according to NORMAL ways,

i.e. WRESTLING WITH GOLIATH.

GOLIATH WAS HUGE, BIG, AND STRONG.

But GOLIATH, huge, bulky and slow, was not

prepared for an expert with a SLING-SHOT.

THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX.

And if you are reading this right now, and you

find yourself nodding your head in AGREEMENT,

then download my book on success called

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must ABSOLUTELY stick to in order to WIN.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Creating Attraction From SCRATCH

What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.

The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.

No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.

They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good";
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.

It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.

And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.

People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.

Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.

Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .

Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.

None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS. 

And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.

The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.

Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings.  They REPEL women.

So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.

If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness. 

This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like, “Oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.

So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:

Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section.  So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look  like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.

So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:

“What do you think you’re doing?” 

Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.

Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a, “You’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice. 

Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.

Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here.  There are no attractive women
in this area.  Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”

Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming. 

Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.

“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”

Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:

A SENSE OF FUN.

GUTS.

AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILEY,
TOOTHY, KISSING UP, IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE

This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
weak in the knees for her and
all needy.

But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.

You must COOK this interaction till it’s
really heated UP.

So for example, at this point, you
could say, “Hi, I’m Joe" (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.

Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.

Then, time for some more fun:

For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:

“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”

There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!

Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a "YES ladder"
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.

Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.

You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.

She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her, 
while YOU have it in SPADES.

Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine, yet supremely
important difference between these things.

There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter.  For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.

So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).

Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.

So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.

Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.

And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.

At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES. 

The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.

If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING on igniting a
woman's raw animal attraction for
you, I seriously suggest you get my
"Attraction Mastery Program"at:
      
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This program contains 12 HOURS of
cream-of-the-crop advanced insights
into what ANY MAN can do to ignite
a woman's raw physical attraction
for him.

And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

This book is the very FIRST
thing every man needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.

Till next time,

Michael Marks