When you see a woman you would like
to approach, the moment of opportunity
is often just a few seconds, so it is
CRUCIAL to learn how to attract a
woman INSTANTLY.
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good",
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like “oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a “you’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN
GUTS
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILY
TOOTHY KISSING UP IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
week in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this INTERACTION till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say “Hi, I’m Joe (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a YES ladder
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get my most
ADVANCED training on igniting a
woman's attraction for you, I
seriously suggest you get my
ATTRACTION MASTERY program at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program is a WORKHORSE.
It just keeps on giving you MORE
and MORE and MORE of the most
absolutely EFFECTIVE strategies
for attracting the women of your
choice.
Every man who is serious about
actually GETTING the woman he
wants should have this program.
I have also been ADDING to this program
over the years with important programs
to keep you constantly updated on the
most effective strategies for attraction
success.
One of these programs is called Attraction Accelerators,
and if you haven't yet downloaded it, then do that
IMMEDIATELY, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Get the Attraction Mastery Program. Get Accelerators.
And get the woman of your dreams.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Wednesday, December 4, 2013
How To Attract A Woman INSTANTLY
When you see a woman you would like
to approach, the moment of opportunity
is often just a few seconds, so it is
CRUCIAL to learn how to attract a
woman INSTANTLY.
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good",
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like “oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a “you’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN
GUTS
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILY
TOOTHY KISSING UP IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
week in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this INTERACTION till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say “Hi, I’m Joe (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a YES ladder
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get my most
ADVANCED training on igniting a
woman's attraction for you, I
seriously suggest you get my
WARRIOR WITHIN program at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
This program is about DEEP INTERNAL
TRANSFORMATION, so that you learn to
attract quality women in a way that LASTS.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my "Attraction Accelerators"
program, then do that IMMEDIATELY, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
to approach, the moment of opportunity
is often just a few seconds, so it is
CRUCIAL to learn how to attract a
woman INSTANTLY.
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good",
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like “oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a “you’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN
GUTS
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILY
TOOTHY KISSING UP IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
week in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this INTERACTION till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say “Hi, I’m Joe (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a YES ladder
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get my most
ADVANCED training on igniting a
woman's attraction for you, I
seriously suggest you get my
WARRIOR WITHIN program at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
This program is about DEEP INTERNAL
TRANSFORMATION, so that you learn to
attract quality women in a way that LASTS.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my "Attraction Accelerators"
program, then do that IMMEDIATELY, at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Saturday, February 23, 2013
How You Can Be A "TEN" To A Woman
When it comes to attraction, as men, we
can BUILD attraction. And yet, rather
than build attraction, most men DO
THE VERY THINGS THAT DESTROY THEIR
OWN "ATTRACTIVENESS" TO WOMEN.
In the film "She's Out of My League",
this guy meets this knockout, and the
one thing he has about himself is that
he doesn't try to impress the woman by
being someone ELSE.
So he authentically is not seeking approval.
He may be a bit insecure around the woman,
but he doesn't act like a jackass who needs
to show off to get attention.
Also, he has a bit of a sense of humor
regarding his own insecurities, which is
not as good as NOT having the insecurities,
but at least helps limit the damage of those
insecurities.
HOWEVER, the DISASTROUS thing he does,
is that he CAN'T BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN AS
ATTRACTIVE AS HER CAN REALLY WANT TO
BE WITH HIM.
So, based on this belief, he interprets EVERYTHING
as a reason why this girl will not want to be with him.
He then ACTS on his warped interpretation of
everything she does.
So, while the girl is initially getting more
attracted to him, there is a point where his
FEARS start to screw things up with her when
he starts to take actions based on his fears,
and one of the biggest examples is when she
finds out that he SERIOUSLY HOPES she has
some MAJOR FLAW, so that this way he can feel
she will more likely want to stay with him.
This whole thing reminds me a bit of the
certain styles of so-called "advice" that focus
on harming a woman's self-esteem with
'cleverly' disguised insults and back-handed
compliments in order to get her to feel
unworthy and insecure.
The idea behind that so called "advice" is that
it will supposedly make her feel like HE is a
great catch.
It is supposed to make her appreciate him
more since supposedly she will feel she
herself is no great catch anymore.
First of all, I find that type of behavior plain
old WRONG from an ethical point of view.
Having an intention to make an innocent
person suffer is plain old WRONG.
In ADDITION to this, is the fact that any
woman with a bit of self-esteem will
DETECT this kind of "trick" and it will
RUIN her attraction to the guy as she can
see the guy is so INSECURE that he needed
to do this. It will also not only ruin her
attraction, but also make her pissed off
as well as no one enjoys being attacked
in the worst way, since after all, our
self-esteem is the most important part
of our sense of "feeling good".
So, in the film, the guy is hoping that
some defect her ex mentioned to him will
be true.
Think about that for a second- why on
earth would a man who is attracted to
a woman who is treating him RIGHT, and
who is a KNOCKOUT, why would he WISH
that she actually had to have some
kind of DEFECT to her?
The answer is INSECURITY and NEEDINESS.
The insecurity says, "Well, if she has a flaw, then
maybe she will accept my flaws."
The NEEDINESS says that "I can't feel good without
her, so I must find some way to KEEP her regardless
of what's good for her or not, in fact let's start WISHING
she had some problems, some DEFECT in fact!!
YEAH, that would be perfect!"
And this is not just a movie thing, it's very common
to REAL LIFE. When feeling insecure and needy,
it's quite HUMAN to almost wish there was SOME
flaw to the "perfectness" of the other person, the
woman who we think is "OUT OF OUR LEAGUE".
Now, think about it from the woman's point of view:
How can she love a man who SERIOUSLY WISHES SHE
HAS OR WILL GET SOME DEFECT????????????????
Just because HE is afraid that he is not good enough for her.
The point of all this, is that INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS
can turn a guy who is slowly growing on a woman into being
a guy who went from being a 5 or 6 into being an 8, 9, or 10,
and then this INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS constantly
CUTS HIM DOWN BY ANOTHER "POINT".
Each time you RESIST the urge to give into insecurities,
your GAIN a point on the attraction scale.
But in this movie, he does the opposite, and each time he
allows himself to give IN to his insecurities, he LOSES another
point on the attraction scale to the woman.
And THAT is how he ends up as a "5", when he was
at one point more of a 9 on his way to being a TEN.
That is, until near the end of the movie, when he realizes
how SCREWED UP his own thinking has been and
how he IS indeed a "10"!
And here's the OTHER major news: EVEN THE GUYS
EVERYONE THINKS HAVE IT "ALL" ACTUALLY
VERY OFTEN HAVE MAJOR INSECURITIES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!!
And the movie actually reflects this reality, as the very
guy he is jealous of, who used to date the knockout
in the past, did JUST AS MANY INSECURE THINGS
as well!!!! He just puts on a show in front of the rest
of the world that he is really secure, but when it came
to being with the knockout, he screwed things up
just as bad, all because he thought the woman
would ultimately dump him.
This happens in real life all the time!!!
It doesn't matter if you're an A LIST ACTOR WHO
IS CONSIDERED THE MALE ICON OF RUGGEDNESS,
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE A MODEL OR
BILLIONAIRE, the bottom line is that EVERYONE
has insecurities, and if you let those insecurities
and neediness affect your ACTIONS, it will harm
the attraction a woman feels for you.
Yet the crucial thing to remember is that if you
RESIST the urge to give in to those insecurities,
you keep on RISING on the bar of attraction.
Now, speaking of MASTERING ATTRACTION and beating
insecurity and neediness, as well as learning
the most effective ways of attracting women,
you're going to LOVE my "Attraction Accelerators"
instant download program which goes into FULL
EXPLICIT DETAIL on these topics!
Here are just SOME of the powerful and
immediately-applicable REAL WORLD strategies
and insights you will learn. Remember,
ALL of what you are going to learn in this
edition is going to be IMMEDIATELY
useful when you see a woman you’d like
to approach and attract anywhere:
*You’ll learn the mistakes men make when
“scoping” out a room to check out the women
there, and you’ll learn the RIGHT way to do this.
Doing this WRONG ends up causing you to lose
the woman BEFORE you even say a word to her.
*How to avoid the number 1 mistake that makes
you PROCRASTINATE from taking action- if you
don’t stop this mistake, chances are you will
keep procrastinating when it comes to approaching
women forever, because of the addictive nature
of this type of procrastination.
*The RIGHT way to go about walking toward a woman
you see in a club or food court, and the WRONG WAY
THAT YOU MUST AVOID. (Most guys take the wrong
“route” and it comes across as very insecure and
REPULSIVE.)
*The proper DISTANCE you should actually be when
chatting to a woman you find attractive. It’s a lot
closer than most guys think!
*I’m going to answer all questions related to:
"I hear that you're supposed to let the woman
speak about herself! If I just listen to her, how
will she know anything cool about me?"
*You’ll also learn how to START the conversation
in a way that is compelling, unique, and a proper "FIT"
for your own personality- this way, you will have
no competition because no one can match your
unique "personality DNA", and you will also
feel comfortable since you will not be
doing an artificial "act".
*You’ll ALSO learn the most effective things to be
doing in any social or party situation you find
yourself in where you can meet women.
In a party/lounge/club atmosphere, there is a certain
“sequence of steps” that will really help you get much
farther than doing the typical “Hi, let’s stand and
talk for as long as possible and hopefully this will
lead to getting your phone number or something more”.
I’ll show you a way of handling these environments
in a way that is AT LEAST TEN TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE
at creating attraction and also at making her see
you as someone she would like to know beyond just
this party or club, etc.
*You’ll also learn how to make the environment of
a party, lounge, or social situation work in your favor.
So the fact there are lots of people there walking around,
the fact that she may be going for a drink and walking
away, the fact she may be looking for her friends,
ALL THESE THINGS can actually be turned around
and work in your FAVOR- I’LL SHOW YOU HOW!!!
*When it’s CRITICAL that you tell a woman that you
LIKE her, really FAST! This has absolutely nothing
to do with “kissing up”, and in fact not telling her
you like her will be seen by her as you being
massively insecure or even worse, clueless about
sexuality.
*How to say what’s on your mind (rather than
Just talking about “safe” topics that are boring)
in a way that gets women filling in the rest of
the conversation for you!
This way, you not only lead the conversation,
which gets the woman to become more feminine
in your presence and follow you, but it also
sets up the best sexual dynamic between the
two of you.
It ALSO allows you to do less work, because
since you started the conversation, that in
itself shows you have plenty to say, but it
also allows you to chill out and lean back
and now just listen to what she has to say—
Which of course gives you tons more things
to talk about and gives you the ability to
also give her a genuine compliment which
she will value!
I’ll show you exactly how this all works!
*You’ll learn the RIGHT amount of body contact
to have with a woman you just met, and how
to do it.
*Ever wonder if a woman is into you or not?
Do you let this stop you from taking action?
Here’s what to do in all those situations!
*How to build ACTION MOMENTUM in your
overall PLAN for getting the woman of your
dreams, so that you are taking ACTION
every day on this and not getting swept
up in all the obstacles to you achieving this
goal.
*How to use a proven principle from psychology
that will TAKE OVER YOUR MIND AND MAKE
SURE YOU BECOME FAR MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
no matter what you do otherwise!
This principle is PROVEN, again and again, to WORK.
A top university in the United States has proven
this principle to be very effective, and I’m going
to show you how to apply it on yourself with women.
*You’ll also learn to bring yourself to a higher level
of “skill” when it comes to everything you do with
women, from first seeing her, to chatting, to getting
her laughing, to getting under the sheets, to even
getting into a relationship and keeping things going-
by adopting a subtle yet crucial distinction for yourself:
Most people say they will “try” to succeed.
That’s not good enough.
However, we also know that lying to ourselves
isn’t good either.
There is something else, a different mindset, that
is based on TRUTH, that is more empowering,
and I’ll share that with you as well.
*If a woman contacts you with voice mail, email,
or text, I’ll show the best way to RESPOND to these
particular modes of communication in a way that
puts you in the driver’s seat, so to speak.
*As the very ORIGINAL guy who knew that the
pick up artist vibes end up creeping out quality
women, I’ll show you one of the most powerful
things you can do to a woman to get her to say
to herself ‘THIS GUY IS THE FULL PACKAGE’.
I’ll show you the GENUINE way to truly “qualify”
a woman in a way that is a HUNDRED times
more effective than the trivial, “Oh you like
chewing gum? So do I! That’s awesome! ”
Qualifying a woman in a MEANINGFUL way is the
final stage before getting physical with her, and
99% of men out there are STILL doing this wrong.
This is why most of the guys who follow pick up
artist advice end up confused, because they got
the woman’s attention, but then she flaked out
later on. There’s a reason she flaked out, and
it’s called lack of meaningful qualifying.
*You’ll also learn how to get the very women
that seem “difficult” at first, and you’ll realize
how most guys are LOSING out on these
supposedly difficult women by abandoning ship
for easier pastures, but the thing is, these
women who seem “difficult” initially are often
the BEST KINDS OF WOMEN because they know
they have high worth and self esteem, and they
don’t sleep around much.
Now, there is a fine line between difficult and
being a spoiled b****. I’ll show you how to
get those “difficult” women.
*I’ll also show you how to PROPERLY give women
the DOMINANCE polarity they crave so badly.
Attractive women especially crave this, as every
man they meet kisses up to them so badly, these
women have never felt what it’s like to be with
a man who can truly be DOMINANT at the right
times.
*You’ll also learn the art of “VIBING” with a woman,
which is probably the single most important overall
skill with women, and can be the easiest, yet our
brainwashing makes us FORGET this again and
again. I’ll show you the things that help for
making “vibing” with women come easily to you.
If you’d like to get this special program
that is jam packed with GOLDEN insights,
strategies, and tips to get you the kind of women
you want, then you need to go here NOW:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
To find out about ALL my programs that contain
PRECIOUS insights you won't find anywhere else,
including on how to OBLITERATE the fear of
approaching any woman, all the way to how to
MASTER the art of comedy, and much, MUCH more,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
I WISH when I was starting out, that someone had made
such a TREASURE of resources available TOGETHER at
such a fantastic price.
For now, for tomorrow, and for always, be THE MAN.
Michael Marks
can BUILD attraction. And yet, rather
than build attraction, most men DO
THE VERY THINGS THAT DESTROY THEIR
OWN "ATTRACTIVENESS" TO WOMEN.
In the film "She's Out of My League",
this guy meets this knockout, and the
one thing he has about himself is that
he doesn't try to impress the woman by
being someone ELSE.
So he authentically is not seeking approval.
He may be a bit insecure around the woman,
but he doesn't act like a jackass who needs
to show off to get attention.
Also, he has a bit of a sense of humor
regarding his own insecurities, which is
not as good as NOT having the insecurities,
but at least helps limit the damage of those
insecurities.
HOWEVER, the DISASTROUS thing he does,
is that he CAN'T BELIEVE THAT A WOMAN AS
ATTRACTIVE AS HER CAN REALLY WANT TO
BE WITH HIM.
So, based on this belief, he interprets EVERYTHING
as a reason why this girl will not want to be with him.
He then ACTS on his warped interpretation of
everything she does.
So, while the girl is initially getting more
attracted to him, there is a point where his
FEARS start to screw things up with her when
he starts to take actions based on his fears,
and one of the biggest examples is when she
finds out that he SERIOUSLY HOPES she has
some MAJOR FLAW, so that this way he can feel
she will more likely want to stay with him.
This whole thing reminds me a bit of the
certain styles of so-called "advice" that focus
on harming a woman's self-esteem with
'cleverly' disguised insults and back-handed
compliments in order to get her to feel
unworthy and insecure.
The idea behind that so called "advice" is that
it will supposedly make her feel like HE is a
great catch.
It is supposed to make her appreciate him
more since supposedly she will feel she
herself is no great catch anymore.
First of all, I find that type of behavior plain
old WRONG from an ethical point of view.
Having an intention to make an innocent
person suffer is plain old WRONG.
In ADDITION to this, is the fact that any
woman with a bit of self-esteem will
DETECT this kind of "trick" and it will
RUIN her attraction to the guy as she can
see the guy is so INSECURE that he needed
to do this. It will also not only ruin her
attraction, but also make her pissed off
as well as no one enjoys being attacked
in the worst way, since after all, our
self-esteem is the most important part
of our sense of "feeling good".
So, in the film, the guy is hoping that
some defect her ex mentioned to him will
be true.
Think about that for a second- why on
earth would a man who is attracted to
a woman who is treating him RIGHT, and
who is a KNOCKOUT, why would he WISH
that she actually had to have some
kind of DEFECT to her?
The answer is INSECURITY and NEEDINESS.
The insecurity says, "Well, if she has a flaw, then
maybe she will accept my flaws."
The NEEDINESS says that "I can't feel good without
her, so I must find some way to KEEP her regardless
of what's good for her or not, in fact let's start WISHING
she had some problems, some DEFECT in fact!!
YEAH, that would be perfect!"
And this is not just a movie thing, it's very common
to REAL LIFE. When feeling insecure and needy,
it's quite HUMAN to almost wish there was SOME
flaw to the "perfectness" of the other person, the
woman who we think is "OUT OF OUR LEAGUE".
Now, think about it from the woman's point of view:
How can she love a man who SERIOUSLY WISHES SHE
HAS OR WILL GET SOME DEFECT????????????????
Just because HE is afraid that he is not good enough for her.
The point of all this, is that INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS
can turn a guy who is slowly growing on a woman into being
a guy who went from being a 5 or 6 into being an 8, 9, or 10,
and then this INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS constantly
CUTS HIM DOWN BY ANOTHER "POINT".
Each time you RESIST the urge to give into insecurities,
your GAIN a point on the attraction scale.
But in this movie, he does the opposite, and each time he
allows himself to give IN to his insecurities, he LOSES another
point on the attraction scale to the woman.
And THAT is how he ends up as a "5", when he was
at one point more of a 9 on his way to being a TEN.
That is, until near the end of the movie, when he realizes
how SCREWED UP his own thinking has been and
how he IS indeed a "10"!
And here's the OTHER major news: EVEN THE GUYS
EVERYONE THINKS HAVE IT "ALL" ACTUALLY
VERY OFTEN HAVE MAJOR INSECURITIES AS WELL!!!!!!!!!!
And the movie actually reflects this reality, as the very
guy he is jealous of, who used to date the knockout
in the past, did JUST AS MANY INSECURE THINGS
as well!!!! He just puts on a show in front of the rest
of the world that he is really secure, but when it came
to being with the knockout, he screwed things up
just as bad, all because he thought the woman
would ultimately dump him.
This happens in real life all the time!!!
It doesn't matter if you're an A LIST ACTOR WHO
IS CONSIDERED THE MALE ICON OF RUGGEDNESS,
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU'RE A MODEL OR
BILLIONAIRE, the bottom line is that EVERYONE
has insecurities, and if you let those insecurities
and neediness affect your ACTIONS, it will harm
the attraction a woman feels for you.
Yet the crucial thing to remember is that if you
RESIST the urge to give in to those insecurities,
you keep on RISING on the bar of attraction.
Now, speaking of MASTERING ATTRACTION and beating
insecurity and neediness, as well as learning
the most effective ways of attracting women,
you're going to LOVE my "Attraction Accelerators"
instant download program which goes into FULL
EXPLICIT DETAIL on these topics!
Here are just SOME of the powerful and
immediately-applicable REAL WORLD strategies
and insights you will learn. Remember,
ALL of what you are going to learn in this
edition is going to be IMMEDIATELY
useful when you see a woman you’d like
to approach and attract anywhere:
*You’ll learn the mistakes men make when
“scoping” out a room to check out the women
there, and you’ll learn the RIGHT way to do this.
Doing this WRONG ends up causing you to lose
the woman BEFORE you even say a word to her.
*How to avoid the number 1 mistake that makes
you PROCRASTINATE from taking action- if you
don’t stop this mistake, chances are you will
keep procrastinating when it comes to approaching
women forever, because of the addictive nature
of this type of procrastination.
*The RIGHT way to go about walking toward a woman
you see in a club or food court, and the WRONG WAY
THAT YOU MUST AVOID. (Most guys take the wrong
“route” and it comes across as very insecure and
REPULSIVE.)
*The proper DISTANCE you should actually be when
chatting to a woman you find attractive. It’s a lot
closer than most guys think!
*I’m going to answer all questions related to:
"I hear that you're supposed to let the woman
speak about herself! If I just listen to her, how
will she know anything cool about me?"
*You’ll also learn how to START the conversation
in a way that is compelling, unique, and a proper "FIT"
for your own personality- this way, you will have
no competition because no one can match your
unique "personality DNA", and you will also
feel comfortable since you will not be
doing an artificial "act".
*You’ll ALSO learn the most effective things to be
doing in any social or party situation you find
yourself in where you can meet women.
In a party/lounge/club atmosphere, there is a certain
“sequence of steps” that will really help you get much
farther than doing the typical “Hi, let’s stand and
talk for as long as possible and hopefully this will
lead to getting your phone number or something more”.
I’ll show you a way of handling these environments
in a way that is AT LEAST TEN TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE
at creating attraction and also at making her see
you as someone she would like to know beyond just
this party or club, etc.
*You’ll also learn how to make the environment of
a party, lounge, or social situation work in your favor.
So the fact there are lots of people there walking around,
the fact that she may be going for a drink and walking
away, the fact she may be looking for her friends,
ALL THESE THINGS can actually be turned around
and work in your FAVOR- I’LL SHOW YOU HOW!!!
*When it’s CRITICAL that you tell a woman that you
LIKE her, really FAST! This has absolutely nothing
to do with “kissing up”, and in fact not telling her
you like her will be seen by her as you being
massively insecure or even worse, clueless about
sexuality.
*How to say what’s on your mind (rather than
Just talking about “safe” topics that are boring)
in a way that gets women filling in the rest of
the conversation for you!
This way, you not only lead the conversation,
which gets the woman to become more feminine
in your presence and follow you, but it also
sets up the best sexual dynamic between the
two of you.
It ALSO allows you to do less work, because
since you started the conversation, that in
itself shows you have plenty to say, but it
also allows you to chill out and lean back
and now just listen to what she has to say—
Which of course gives you tons more things
to talk about and gives you the ability to
also give her a genuine compliment which
she will value!
I’ll show you exactly how this all works!
*You’ll learn the RIGHT amount of body contact
to have with a woman you just met, and how
to do it.
*Ever wonder if a woman is into you or not?
Do you let this stop you from taking action?
Here’s what to do in all those situations!
*How to build ACTION MOMENTUM in your
overall PLAN for getting the woman of your
dreams, so that you are taking ACTION
every day on this and not getting swept
up in all the obstacles to you achieving this
goal.
*How to use a proven principle from psychology
that will TAKE OVER YOUR MIND AND MAKE
SURE YOU BECOME FAR MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
no matter what you do otherwise!
This principle is PROVEN, again and again, to WORK.
A top university in the United States has proven
this principle to be very effective, and I’m going
to show you how to apply it on yourself with women.
*You’ll also learn to bring yourself to a higher level
of “skill” when it comes to everything you do with
women, from first seeing her, to chatting, to getting
her laughing, to getting under the sheets, to even
getting into a relationship and keeping things going-
by adopting a subtle yet crucial distinction for yourself:
Most people say they will “try” to succeed.
That’s not good enough.
However, we also know that lying to ourselves
isn’t good either.
There is something else, a different mindset, that
is based on TRUTH, that is more empowering,
and I’ll share that with you as well.
*If a woman contacts you with voice mail, email,
or text, I’ll show the best way to RESPOND to these
particular modes of communication in a way that
puts you in the driver’s seat, so to speak.
*As the very ORIGINAL guy who knew that the
pick up artist vibes end up creeping out quality
women, I’ll show you one of the most powerful
things you can do to a woman to get her to say
to herself ‘THIS GUY IS THE FULL PACKAGE’.
I’ll show you the GENUINE way to truly “qualify”
a woman in a way that is a HUNDRED times
more effective than the trivial, “Oh you like
chewing gum? So do I! That’s awesome! ”
Qualifying a woman in a MEANINGFUL way is the
final stage before getting physical with her, and
99% of men out there are STILL doing this wrong.
This is why most of the guys who follow pick up
artist advice end up confused, because they got
the woman’s attention, but then she flaked out
later on. There’s a reason she flaked out, and
it’s called lack of meaningful qualifying.
*You’ll also learn how to get the very women
that seem “difficult” at first, and you’ll realize
how most guys are LOSING out on these
supposedly difficult women by abandoning ship
for easier pastures, but the thing is, these
women who seem “difficult” initially are often
the BEST KINDS OF WOMEN because they know
they have high worth and self esteem, and they
don’t sleep around much.
Now, there is a fine line between difficult and
being a spoiled b****. I’ll show you how to
get those “difficult” women.
*I’ll also show you how to PROPERLY give women
the DOMINANCE polarity they crave so badly.
Attractive women especially crave this, as every
man they meet kisses up to them so badly, these
women have never felt what it’s like to be with
a man who can truly be DOMINANT at the right
times.
*You’ll also learn the art of “VIBING” with a woman,
which is probably the single most important overall
skill with women, and can be the easiest, yet our
brainwashing makes us FORGET this again and
again. I’ll show you the things that help for
making “vibing” with women come easily to you.
If you’d like to get this special program
that is jam packed with GOLDEN insights,
strategies, and tips to get you the kind of women
you want, then you need to go here NOW:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
To find out about ALL my programs that contain
PRECIOUS insights you won't find anywhere else,
including on how to OBLITERATE the fear of
approaching any woman, all the way to how to
MASTER the art of comedy, and much, MUCH more,
go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php
I WISH when I was starting out, that someone had made
such a TREASURE of resources available TOGETHER at
such a fantastic price.
For now, for tomorrow, and for always, be THE MAN.
Michael Marks
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Creating Attraction From SCRATCH
What you're about to read is
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good";
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like, “Oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a, “You’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILEY,
TOOTHY, KISSING UP, IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
weak in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this interaction till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say, “Hi, I’m Joe" (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a "YES ladder"
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine, yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING on igniting a
woman's raw animal attraction for
you, I seriously suggest you get my
"Attraction Mastery Program"at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program contains 12 HOURS of
cream-of-the-crop advanced insights
into what ANY MAN can do to ignite
a woman's raw physical attraction
for him.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every man needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
pure GOLD, so make sure you're
ready to fully digest this one.
The one thing everyone wants more of
is this thing known as “feeling good”.
The other thing that is pretty
INFINITE is the human want for
sexual things.
No one gets enough of those two things,
and anyone that can GIVE IT rules the world.
They really both fall under the
basic category of "feeling good";
they both boil down to the release
of endorphins into the bloodstream.
It’s the reason the ENTERTAINMENT
industry is a billion dollar industry.
And obviously, things like COCAINE.
It's all about FEELING AWESOME.
People will do anything to feel
awesome, unfortunately some people
even resort to drugs that will
DESTROY them.
Ask someone if they remember five
things they learned in college and
they’ll usually STRUGGLE and FAIL
to give you an INSTANT answer, but
ask them the last name of a singer
name Britney, and you’ll get INSTANT
answers.
Same thing if you ask the name of
the band called The Rolling ______ .
Now, when it comes to attracting a woman,
most guys tend to approach women and
they try to IMPRESS her by listing cool
things about themselves, or by sounding
important, etc.
None of this really fires off the FEELING
GOOD chemicals in her system, none of this
fires off ENDORPHINS.
And this is especially true when a woman
is particularly attractive and has seen it
all before.
The worst sin is feeling needy, that actual
FEELING of insecurity and neediness is
a huge problem in itself, because it
makes it impossible for you to give
off the right vibes.
Neediness and insecurity are the
ANTI-ENDORPHINS. They SUCK OUT
the fun vibes from surrounding
human beings. They REPEL women.
So if you are feeling needy, the first thing
I must tell you is to SMACK YOURSELF
SILLY and not BEHAVE that way at least
when you are approaching and chatting up
a woman.
If you are feeling needy, at least don’t
ACT upon that neediness.
This is the difference between a compliment
you give to a woman that comes from your
confidence and the kind of compliment
you give to a woman that comes from
feeling like, “Oh my god I better give her
a compliment and let her know my entire
emotions are at risk on whether she likes
me or not”.
So, for example, a compliment given
from CONFIDENCE might take the
following form:
Let’s say you’re at a supermarket, and
there’s a striking woman checking out
the cookies section. So you roll up
to her, and you give her this serious
look, instead of this big toothy smile
that would look like you’re a puddle
of wuss, that is totally needy for her.
So you give her this look, fake serious,
(which will make the humor have more
impact coming up, and this is important
because you don’t want to let on that
a joke is coming or you ruin the whole
thing) and you say:
“What do you think you’re doing?”
Say it almost accusingly, as if she’s in
TROUBLE for something.
Don’t go psycho, just say it with a bit
of a, “You’re in trouble” kind of vibe
to your voice.
Then, she’ll say something like
“What do you mean?” and she’ll be
all serious.
Then you can say, “Well, you shouldn’t
be here. There are no attractive women
in this area. Not for at least 40 miles,
you shouldn’t be here, it’s not allowed.”
Now, remember, you say this all with
a mock serious face, which has way
more impact, because it takes her a
sec for her to get it, she won’t see
it coming.
Now, when she smiles, don’t start
smiling and laughing, that will ruin it.
KEEP ON ACTING TOTALLY
STRAIGHT FORWARD.
“Yeah, it’s dangerous in fact, you
shouldn’t even be here. Seriously.”
Now, at this point, and it’s just a
beginning, you’re at least showing:
A SENSE OF FUN.
GUTS.
AND YOU’RE NOT ALL SMILEY,
TOOTHY, KISSING UP, IN TERMS
OF YOUR EXPRESSION ON YOUR
FACE AND TONALITY OF VOICE
This is a huge thing, by the way,
because by having the serious
expression and tonality, you
can get away with giving a
HUGE compliment that basically
is saying she is very attractive,
without at all seeming like you’re
weak in the knees for her and
all needy.
But it’s not over yet, there’s more.
This is just an OPENING here.
You must COOK this interaction till it’s
really heated UP.
So for example, at this point, you
could say, “Hi, I’m Joe" (or whatever your name is)
and extend your hand, and she will likely
do the same and tell you her name.
Give a firm handshake and solid
eye contact as you do this.
Then, time for some more fun:
For example, now that you’re both
in front of the cookies, you can say:
“You can tell a lot about a person
from what kind of junk food they
like. In your case, you love chocolate
cookies, and chocolate is sinful,
so you’re the kind of person that
really is going to enjoy life and
the kind of people that are definitely
going to party in hell, that’s my
type for sure.”
There are subtle undertones to all this.
The idea of being naughty and having
fun and being sinful, is giving her
permission to relax, and yet it’s
all being done in such an INNOCENT
way here, after all, we’re talking
COOKIES here!
Something like this is guaranteed to
get her responding, and agreeing, and
you want to be building a "YES ladder"
as soon as possible, the more things
she is truly saying YES to the better.
Now, I give this example on purpose
because you don’t have to be a party
animal to do this, you don’t have to
hang out at nightclubs, you don’t
have to even go outside your normal
environment, EVERYONE needs
to go basic shopping.
You can turn up the ante even more,
so for example, as you and her are
chatting, and reaching the checkout
aisle, you can tell the clerk that
this woman has been STALKING you
the entire time, and thank God that
now finally someone is here to see it,
to save you from the harassment
of this woman.
She’s going to smile at this, plus she’s
going to love the fact you are so not
needy for her, so confident, that you
are FOR SURE not going to be like
all the other guys she has met that
were so needy for her, that had no
MASCULINITY left, they gave
all their ‘mojo’ away to her,
while YOU have it in SPADES.
Now, remember, this is all coming from
a place of CONFIDENCE, not maliciousness,
and not insecurity, there is a fine, yet supremely
important difference between these things.
There are endless things you can
playfully tease her on as well, even
at the checkout counter. For example,
let’s say you need bags and she has
her own environmentally friendly bag.
So you can pretend you are the evil
corporate guy and she is the hippie
saving the world, and that you’re
far too evil for a girl like her, (which
is again the opposite of most guys
trying to convince her of why they
are the right guy for her, out of neediness).
Then, let’s say she ends up needing one
extra bag so she needs an actual plastic
bag and has to buy one, (which is pretty
common because often we don’t perfectly
estimate how much stuff we’re going
to have), so then you can playfully
comment that you are already having
an evil influence on her, turning her
to your evil ways.
So, during this interaction she has had with
you, she has seen that you are gutsy, you
are funny, you are not afraid to give a
compliment, you are spontaneous, you
are social, and that you understand
the magical thing called “sexual tension”
and how to create it.
Most men have no clue what this even
is, and why women want it so badly.
And you will have done this all in
a very BRIEF amount of time, which
is all the more cool.
At THIS point, you can do whatever
you want, you can chat with her some
more, you can take her number, the
point is that you have TRIGGERED
HER EMOTIONS and shown that
you are a man in the right way.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg.
This material runs DEEP. It's about
the most PRIMAL elements of how women
respond to men that GIVE OFF THE
"SURVIVAL" VIBES.
The things I described above are
MANIFESTATIONS of the traits of
MEN WHO SURVIVE, and therefore
ignite ATTRACTION in her on
a primal, sexual, level.
If you’d like to get the complete
ADVANCED TRAINING on igniting a
woman's raw animal attraction for
you, I seriously suggest you get my
"Attraction Mastery Program"at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
This program contains 12 HOURS of
cream-of-the-crop advanced insights
into what ANY MAN can do to ignite
a woman's raw physical attraction
for him.
And if haven’t yet downloaded my
original book, “The Dating Wizard”,
then do that immediately at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html
This book is the very FIRST
thing every man needs to get
when it comes to women. It sets
down the foundation on which
all my more advanced programs
build upon.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
The RIGHT Way To Persist With Women
There's a lot of misunderstanding about
the role of PERSISTENCE when it comes
to attracting a woman.
We have all heard about how persistence
is such an important thing in life for
success, and this is true, but when it
comes to attracting a woman, most guys
get this all wrong.
Persistence does NOT mean to keep on
chasing some woman who shows no signs
of interest.
In fact, so often, when guys get caught up on
ONE woman, this is very often the OPPOSITE
of persistence, because they completely avoid
ALL OTHER WOMEN ON THE PLANET!
They just pour all their energy into this ONE
woman who often is simply a woman that they
met through some convenient situation, like
somebody at work, or some woman who is
a clerk or waitress at their local store or
restaurant, etc.
Not only is this not the right kind of
persistence, but it actually ends up
making a guy think that this one woman
is much more valuable and much more
of a necessity for his life than he thinks,
because the mind plays tricks on us like this.
Part of it is the reverse rationalization,
that says, "Well, if I put so much energy
into this one woman, it must be a sign
that she is "the one"" etc, etc.
Plus, the other "Jedi mind-trick" going on
is that anything we do a lot of, we tend
to think is the right thing, and we even
go so far as to COMPLETELY warp all
evidence to the contrary as somehow
still being evidence that, 'YES SHE IS
THE SPECIAL ONE!'
Part of it is also the 'EASY' element,
because it's easier to just NOT go out
and approach other women, and instead
just fantasize about how cool it would
be to get this woman that works at the
local store/restaurant/school etc, etc,
etc.
And, since he now has far more self-esteem,
he isn't particularly attracted to a woman
that didn't appreciate him then.
So, NOW, at that point, he is ready to truly
appreciate what a REAL 'great girl' is.
So let's get to it- what effective persistence really is.
So let me get to what is the GOOD kind of persistence:
I'm not talking about her being RUDE.
There's no excuse for being NASTY.
I'm just saying if she is not really "into" your
approach in the first few moments.
THIS is where you must be PERSISTENT.
I have seen MANY of these kinds of situations
turn into wonderful relationships in real life, not
just in bootcamps, but also in my actual experiences
dating and approaching women.
A woman is not always going to JUMP UP
IN HAPPINESS at the first moment of your
approach, especially if this is not in a club
or some other party atmosphere.
So what will happen is a guy will say something
to her, she will say something back, but not much,
and the guy will instinctively have this, "GET OUT
WHILE YOU STILL CAN BEFORE SHE GETS
PISSED OFF!" feeling internally.
"THIS ISN'T NORMAL, GUYS DON'T APPROACH
TOTAL STRANGERS, ONLY WEIRDOS DO THIS,
SHE MUST THINK I AM A WEIRDO!"
Well, HERE is where I say, "PERSIST!"
DO NOT EJECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There are so many, many reasons why a woman
might not be showing unbridled enthusiasm.
She might simply be showing caution, she
has no clue who you are yet. So she needs
more time to "feel you out" and see what
kind of vibes you are giving off.
She might simply be feeling a need to
show she is not easy, because after all,
would YOU want a woman who IS easy?
Would YOU want a woman who gives her number
out to EVERY guy that approaches her?
Plus, it's also possible that your conversation
opener wasn't so great, and didn't get her
particularly intrigued or laughing or relaxed
in some other way, but that does NOT mean
this interaction is OVER, it does NOT MEAN
that you can't turn this into something
GREAT still.
Now, here's the next part about the KIND
of persistence you need in these situations.
You need to persist being in the right state
of MIND.
And I don't mean some kind of BATTLE state
of mind, where you are saying to yourself,
"I WILL PERSIST IN THIS FIGHT AND WIN!".
You want to persist in having that combo
of states of being upbeat, dominant, and
still chilled out, EVEN IF SHE IS NOT
DOING "happy cartwheels" in response
to your initial approach.
If you start to give up your good state,
if you start to allow yourself to fall
into a freaked out state, or a angry
state, or a lethargic state, guess what?
So she will ALSO start to become nervous
if you are nervous. If you seem pissed
off, she may become pissed off.
And the clincher to all this, is that
most guys typically go into the WORST
states of mind when they go to approach
a woman, AND the fact that the woman
is not giving them the full approval
right away is only feeding MORE
fuel for the guy's negative emotions,
and causes him to GIVE UP and give
IN to those negative emotions, which
just fuels HER negative emotions!
That TANK has to last LONG ENOUGH to
WEATHER THE STORM until she MELTS!
And YES, so often, if you just PERSIST
for those few MINUTES, she will indeed
MELT and fall for you.
So THAT'S a great way to persist, because
those FIVE MINUTES of persistence can lead
to weeks, months, and YEARS of great times
as she becomes your girlfriend.
A woman does NOT think you are desperate
for persisting in that INITIAL approach,
if you do it RIGHT.
But a woman DOES think a guy is desperate
if he keeps on PERSISTING for the same
woman for years. And of course usually
when a guy is doing this "years of
persistence" strategy, he is also doing
all the WRONG things as well, like trying
to show her what a great guy he is by
doing favors for her, etc, etc.
Here's ANOTHER point about persistence
in that initial interaction:
It’s like the mating dance has begun, and
she requires a certain sequence of events
to happen.
Which is not to say that you are supposed
to be all predictable in everything you do,
but there is a DEFINITE pattern to the
mating ritual, for sure.
So although women very often ARE receptive
at the first moment of the approach, even
if they aren’t, it’s not time to pack
your bags and go.
You have to have persistence while at the
same time not conveying the slightest ounce
of neediness or 'cluelessness'.
You have to still maintain the playful vibe, because
in fact THIS IS ALL PART OF THE “DANCE”.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS, PART FOUR***
There's absolutely no question about it, persistence
in learning and practicing these skills WORKS.
This is one area where taking a live BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful, because you will get
1-To-1 PERSONAL instruction in the absolute
most "hands-on" environment on real women,
again and again and again, we will persist
like MAD over the course of the bootcamp
until you GET these skills INGRAINED.
You're getting this instruction directly
from me, so you get the benefit of all
those years of experience which will
save YOU precious TIME.
And your 'persistence' will be used in
the most EFFICIENT manner, so that you
are not just spinning your wheels, but
actually IMPROVING all the time and
actually GETTING the women attracted.
Live training allows me to speed UP
your results, because I am right there
at all times making sure you to KEEP
you on track, and every time you start
to veer off course, I will make sure
you STOP doing that, until you develop
the INSTINCTS to do it RIGHT without
even THINKING about it.
Your "instincts" for approaching women
will be honed to excellence so that
you are READY, a trained "Jedi" for
all future situations where you see
women you'd like to meet.
To learn more about bootcamp, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
A lot of guys want to know if they need to study
my other programs before taking bootcamp.
The answer is that it's not REQUIRED, I
WILL teach you all you need to know to
get these skills under your belt, however
the more you know coming into bootcamp,
the FARTHER I can take you, since you are
not coming in as a beginner.
A great place to start, before getting into my
"Super-Programs" is my 'Attraction Accelerators'
program, which you can download right NOW
and be using on women TODAY!!!
It's PACKED with POWERFUL and EASY TO USE
strategies for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE, ANYTIME.
And if RIGHT NOW you can't come to bootcamp,
then this program is an absolute MUST in the meantime.
Think of it as a "virtual" Bootcamp, and in fact,
this program is based on many areas focused
on in Bootcamp, and was even originally called
"The Bootcamp Edition"and "Putting It All Together"
because it is about many DIFFERENT elements
of the approach.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
You'll be very glad you got this program.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
the role of PERSISTENCE when it comes
to attracting a woman.
We have all heard about how persistence
is such an important thing in life for
success, and this is true, but when it
comes to attracting a woman, most guys
get this all wrong.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS NOT***
Persistence does NOT mean to keep on
chasing some woman who shows no signs
of interest.
In fact, so often, when guys get caught up on
ONE woman, this is very often the OPPOSITE
of persistence, because they completely avoid
ALL OTHER WOMEN ON THE PLANET!
They just pour all their energy into this ONE
woman who often is simply a woman that they
met through some convenient situation, like
somebody at work, or some woman who is
a clerk or waitress at their local store or
restaurant, etc.
Not only is this not the right kind of
persistence, but it actually ends up
making a guy think that this one woman
is much more valuable and much more
of a necessity for his life than he thinks,
because the mind plays tricks on us like this.
Part of it is the reverse rationalization,
that says, "Well, if I put so much energy
into this one woman, it must be a sign
that she is "the one"" etc, etc.
Plus, the other "Jedi mind-trick" going on
is that anything we do a lot of, we tend
to think is the right thing, and we even
go so far as to COMPLETELY warp all
evidence to the contrary as somehow
still being evidence that, 'YES SHE IS
THE SPECIAL ONE!'
Part of it is also the 'EASY' element,
because it's easier to just NOT go out
and approach other women, and instead
just fantasize about how cool it would
be to get this woman that works at the
local store/restaurant/school etc, etc,
etc.
The irony about all this, is that when
a guy DOES persist in the RIGHT way,
with other women, he often suddenly
hears from the "special" one, and
of course at that point he now
realizes he actually has no idea
if she's 'special' or not because
it was all his own neediness that
was distorting her into something
that doesn't even exist.
And, since he now has far more self-esteem,
he isn't particularly attracted to a woman
that didn't appreciate him then.
So, NOW, at that point, he is ready to truly
appreciate what a REAL 'great girl' is.
So let's get to it- what effective persistence really is.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS, PART ONE***
So let me get to what is the GOOD kind of persistence:
This is when you approach a woman, and she
is NOT suddenly showing you smiles and she
is not seeming so warm to you.
I'm not talking about her being RUDE.
There's no excuse for being NASTY.
I'm just saying if she is not really "into" your
approach in the first few moments.
THIS is where you must be PERSISTENT.
I have seen MANY of these kinds of situations
turn into wonderful relationships in real life, not
just in bootcamps, but also in my actual experiences
dating and approaching women.
A woman is not always going to JUMP UP
IN HAPPINESS at the first moment of your
approach, especially if this is not in a club
or some other party atmosphere.
So what will happen is a guy will say something
to her, she will say something back, but not much,
and the guy will instinctively have this, "GET OUT
WHILE YOU STILL CAN BEFORE SHE GETS
PISSED OFF!" feeling internally.
Or, a guy might feel that awkward feeling of:
"THIS ISN'T NORMAL, GUYS DON'T APPROACH
TOTAL STRANGERS, ONLY WEIRDOS DO THIS,
SHE MUST THINK I AM A WEIRDO!"
Well, HERE is where I say, "PERSIST!"
DO NOT EJECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There are so many, many reasons why a woman
might not be showing unbridled enthusiasm.
She might simply be showing caution, she
has no clue who you are yet. So she needs
more time to "feel you out" and see what
kind of vibes you are giving off.
She might simply be feeling a need to
show she is not easy, because after all,
would YOU want a woman who IS easy?
Would YOU want a woman who gives her number
out to EVERY guy that approaches her?
Plus, it's also possible that your conversation
opener wasn't so great, and didn't get her
particularly intrigued or laughing or relaxed
in some other way, but that does NOT mean
this interaction is OVER, it does NOT MEAN
that you can't turn this into something
GREAT still.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS, PART TWO***
Now, here's the next part about the KIND
of persistence you need in these situations.
You need to persist being in the right state
of MIND.
And I don't mean some kind of BATTLE state
of mind, where you are saying to yourself,
"I WILL PERSIST IN THIS FIGHT AND WIN!".
You want to persist in having that combo
of states of being upbeat, dominant, and
still chilled out, EVEN IF SHE IS NOT
DOING "happy cartwheels" in response
to your initial approach.
If you start to give up your good state,
if you start to allow yourself to fall
into a freaked out state, or a angry
state, or a lethargic state, guess what?
STATES OF MIND ARE CATCHY.
So she will ALSO start to become nervous
if you are nervous. If you seem pissed
off, she may become pissed off.
And the clincher to all this, is that
most guys typically go into the WORST
states of mind when they go to approach
a woman, AND the fact that the woman
is not giving them the full approval
right away is only feeding MORE
fuel for the guy's negative emotions,
and causes him to GIVE UP and give
IN to those negative emotions, which
just fuels HER negative emotions!
This is why you must really have a
HUGE RESERVE OF 'AWESOMENESS'
in your EMOTIONAL FUEL TANK when
you go UP to a woman to approach her.
That TANK has to last LONG ENOUGH to
WEATHER THE STORM until she MELTS!
And YES, so often, if you just PERSIST
for those few MINUTES, she will indeed
MELT and fall for you.
So THAT'S a great way to persist, because
those FIVE MINUTES of persistence can lead
to weeks, months, and YEARS of great times
as she becomes your girlfriend.
Compare the power of THAT persistence
to the ridiculous WEEKS, MONTHS, AND
SOMETIMES YEARS that a guy spends
"persisting" for ONE woman.
A woman does NOT think you are desperate
for persisting in that INITIAL approach,
if you do it RIGHT.
But a woman DOES think a guy is desperate
if he keeps on PERSISTING for the same
woman for years. And of course usually
when a guy is doing this "years of
persistence" strategy, he is also doing
all the WRONG things as well, like trying
to show her what a great guy he is by
doing favors for her, etc, etc.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS, PART THREE***
Here's ANOTHER point about persistence
in that initial interaction:
A woman often gets more turned ON when
she is hard to get, and the guy KNOWS how
to get around her hard to get tactics.
It’s like the mating dance has begun, and
she requires a certain sequence of events
to happen.
Which is not to say that you are supposed
to be all predictable in everything you do,
but there is a DEFINITE pattern to the
mating ritual, for sure.
And for related reasons, it’s important that
YOU make the pattern happen, because
if SHE feels that SHE has to make it happen,
then you are ALREADY OUT OF THE
RUNNING BY DEFAULT, because YOU
KNOWING HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN
is part of what she has been conditioned to
believe is YOUR sexual role.
So although women very often ARE receptive
at the first moment of the approach, even
if they aren’t, it’s not time to pack
your bags and go.
You have to have persistence while at the
same time not conveying the slightest ounce
of neediness or 'cluelessness'.
You have to still maintain the playful vibe, because
in fact THIS IS ALL PART OF THE “DANCE”.
***WHAT EFFECTIVE PERSISTENCE IS, PART FOUR***
The other kind of persistence that is powerful
is the persistence in LEARNING these skills.
There's absolutely no question about it, persistence
in learning and practicing these skills WORKS.
This is one area where taking a live BOOTCAMP
with me is so powerful, because you will get
1-To-1 PERSONAL instruction in the absolute
most "hands-on" environment on real women,
again and again and again, we will persist
like MAD over the course of the bootcamp
until you GET these skills INGRAINED.
You're getting this instruction directly
from me, so you get the benefit of all
those years of experience which will
save YOU precious TIME.
And your 'persistence' will be used in
the most EFFICIENT manner, so that you
are not just spinning your wheels, but
actually IMPROVING all the time and
actually GETTING the women attracted.
Live training allows me to speed UP
your results, because I am right there
at all times making sure you to KEEP
you on track, and every time you start
to veer off course, I will make sure
you STOP doing that, until you develop
the INSTINCTS to do it RIGHT without
even THINKING about it.
Your "instincts" for approaching women
will be honed to excellence so that
you are READY, a trained "Jedi" for
all future situations where you see
women you'd like to meet.
To learn more about bootcamp, go here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html
A lot of guys want to know if they need to study
my other programs before taking bootcamp.
The answer is that it's not REQUIRED, I
WILL teach you all you need to know to
get these skills under your belt, however
the more you know coming into bootcamp,
the FARTHER I can take you, since you are
not coming in as a beginner.
A great place to start, before getting into my
"Super-Programs" is my 'Attraction Accelerators'
program, which you can download right NOW
and be using on women TODAY!!!
The great thing about this program is that it's
designed so that you can use it IMMEDIATELY
on women and get GREAT results the SAME DAY.
It's PACKED with POWERFUL and EASY TO USE
strategies for approaching and attracting women
ANYWHERE, ANYTIME.
And if RIGHT NOW you can't come to bootcamp,
then this program is an absolute MUST in the meantime.
Think of it as a "virtual" Bootcamp, and in fact,
this program is based on many areas focused
on in Bootcamp, and was even originally called
"The Bootcamp Edition"and "Putting It All Together"
because it is about many DIFFERENT elements
of the approach.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
You'll be very glad you got this program.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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