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Sunday, December 20, 2015
Wednesday, September 9, 2015
How To Unleash The Attractive Personality Women CRAVE
One of the greatest sources of POWER you
must draw from when you see a woman you’d like to approach, is the power of
your INNER CHARM that has unfortunately been REPRESSED by environmental
forces.
What I mean is that, most guys actually
ALREADY have tons of great aspects to their personality, but the problem is
that they suddenly are unable to SHOW theses side of themselves at WILL, like
for example when they suddenly see a woman they would like to approach.
Suddenly, what happens is that they
freeze up and the right actions or words seem so hard to find, and even if a
guy TELLS THEM some great line to say to a woman, it STILL feels too awkward and
weird and in fact sometimes scary to actually do the approach.
So it’s not ONLY a question of having
guts and no fear, it’s also a question of having the ABILITY to actually tap
into that fun side of your personality, or that super-social side of your
personality, when you need to in the moment.
This comes from social conditioning- we
are slowly conditioned from childhood to CONFORM and to not rock the
boat. Also, as men we are taught that it’s not RIGHT to approach women.
Women and some men promote the lie that all women are these victims and fragile
creatures who are terrified of a man approaching them. Plus, we also
don’t want to look like fools and we don’t want to embarrass ourselves,
etc.
The SOLUTION to this requires more than
just watching some other guy approach women successfully. This is helpful, but
it’s not the full solution, because the fact is, SO MUCH of the success a guy
has in attracting a woman is NOT about being this amazingly funny guy with
genius funny comments, or about being the most cool guy with the most
absolutely genius or super-witty things to say- it’s about a very SUBTLE THING
instead.
So, YES, if you ARE super-funny, or
super witty, or super interesting, that’s GREAT and that WILL help, but you
don’t NEED to be those things.
What you DO need is an incredibly strong
sense of being COMFORTABLE letting your REAL personality OUT.
But instead of doing that, we repress
ourselves for reasons described above.
The solution is to gradually keep
pushing yourself to let a little MORE of your personality out with every
approach you make, instead of passing your personality through the CENSORSHIP
FILTERS OF FEAR, WORRY, NEED FOR APPROVAL, ETC.
These censorship filters are SELF
imposed- the only one keeping these filters on is YOU, even though the original
source for them were from places outside of yourself- but now you know that it
is up to YOU to let go of them.
At first, this might seem scary. You might think that what you are about to say will sound stupid, or boring, or strange.
At first, this might seem scary. You might think that what you are about to say will sound stupid, or boring, or strange.
But as you keep on doing this, you will
start to feel more and more COMFORTABLE, allowing more and more of your real
personality to shine through, and women will DETECT that you are feeling
COMFORTABLE, and because states are catchy, they too will feel comfortable
around you, and of course since you are comfortable, you will not freeze up,
and you will suddenly find you have so much more to say and that you are able
to keep the conversation going.
And since your brain is not diverting
all its energy into panic, it has all that extra energy to be way more
interesting, funny, witty, and sexual.
All of which HELP you massively to
attract the woman in front of you.
And on this note, I want to bring to
your attention a very special interview I did with a man who was featured in a
New York Times best-selling book, I man I met in person several times and who we
even together used to combine our skills in teaching men how to approach and
attract women.
His name is Barry. There are many
positive traits of this man, but the ones I to focus on here are his sense of
HUMOR and his sense of being AUTHENTIC no matter what- and of course it goes
without saying his RESULTS with women. Barry and I got along so well we
even taught at bootcamps together.
These two things helped us bond
immediately, as I myself hate the idea of putting on an ACT to attract a woman,
and I hate the idea of faking.
Also, what made Barry’s sense of humor so powerful to me was that NONE of the things he did were artificial to his personality- all his humor came from his own actual perception and feelings about things.
Also, what made Barry’s sense of humor so powerful to me was that NONE of the things he did were artificial to his personality- all his humor came from his own actual perception and feelings about things.
And one of the BIGGEST things I saw in
Barry was how he learned to UNLEASH his personality by UNREPRESSING his
thoughts, feelings, and perceptions- and this ALSO SKYROCKETED his sense of
humor to the point that he was the equal of any professional comedian.
Now, let me warn you, Barry goes WAY
FARTHER in unrepressing himself than most guys will ever do in a THOUSAND
lifetimes, but I think that sometimes when you want to learn how to do
something, it HELPS to see somebody do it in a very MASSIVE WAY.
It illustrates the point CLEARLY, and it
is also INSPIRING.
And I recorded a very special interview
with Barry, where he not only speaks about his own development, but he is
actually FUNNY to the level of making people ‘ROLL ON THE FLOOR LAUGHING’ – all
WITHOUT putting on an ACT, without making up jokes or making up funny
lines. He is just UNLEASHING his personality.
The lessons from this are INFINITE- not
only of course will it make you FUNNIER, and being able to get a woman laughing
right away is a FANTASTIC way to get her to open up to you, but ALSO the same
way unrepressing your personality allows you to be way more HUMOROUS with women,
it ALSO allows you to feel comfortable being more SEXUAL with women, being more
ASSERTIVE with women, being more DOMINANT with women, and all these things are
MASSIVELY attractive to women.
So don’t just stand around watching guys
approach women, but actually BECOME the kind of man that MAKES THE APPROACHES
AND FEELS SUPER COMFORTABLE DOING THEM---and this interview is a FANTASTIC WAY
TO HELP YOURSELF BECOME THAT KIND OF MAN.
I’ve made this special interview program
available as an INSTANT DOWNLOAD.
That means you can be benefiting from it in MINUTES from now- and getting BETTER with women in the process.
That means you can be benefiting from it in MINUTES from now- and getting BETTER with women in the process.
Getting better with women isn’t about an
ACT.
It’s about who you BECOME.
This is why just watching OTHER guys
approaching women isn’t enough.
You need to learn how to do the INTERNAL work as well, to UNLEASH the attractive elements currently REPRESSED in you.
You need to learn how to do the INTERNAL work as well, to UNLEASH the attractive elements currently REPRESSED in you.
Get this program now at:
You and the amazing women you meet will
be glad you did :)
Till next time,
Michael Marks
Saturday, June 13, 2015
The Secret That Women Won't Tell You
There is a secret that the vast majority of attractive women won't tell you. I'm referring to attractive women in societies where things changed drastically since feminism became something very DIFFERENT than striving for justice and equality for women.
I also realize there are exceptions to every rule, and that there are indeed pockets of amazing and gorgeous women in society who belong to subcultures that stand apart from the dominant culture.
With that being said, there are five KEY POINTS regarding the secret that I think every man who is looking to meet, attract, and keep a woman needs to know.
The first one is the issue of PROMISCUITY.
If you’ve ever wondered how the heck it is possible to approach
gorgeous women and have them get physical all the way with you in the blink of an eye, the answer is SIMPLE.
More than at any other time in history, attractive women (not all, but far
more than you can possibly imagine if you are unaware of the truth)
change boyfriends with just a bit less frequency than most people
change underwear.
THIS is just ONE of the reasons that attractive women actually
respond quite POSITIVELY to being approached.
The other reason is that they also have the confidence to know that
when a guy is approaching them, they could get just about any guy to
want to be in a relationship with them- so attractive women are very
calm, very relaxed, and very much feel a sense of control in these
situations.
When you combine these factors with the sky-high levels of
promiscuity of so many attractive women, it becomes very easy to see
how it all works. You see, as far as these women are concerned, there
is almost NO downside to a guy approaching them- since the women know they are in the driver’s seat, and they also know they don’t have to offer any kind of actual commitment or long-term thinking.
Now the thing is though, and this is where a lot of men who are
interested in these women go wrong, that doesn’t mean that female
sexuality is the same as male sexuality. Female sexuality, whether
it is a result of culture or just nature, usually requires a bit of a
warm-up before going into full intensity, which is very different
from male sexuality which is either on or off and very little
in-between and usually very little warm-up.
So, even though they are very promiscuous, that doesn’t mean they
want to be approached immediately directly with the proposition of
getting physical. Women tend to want to feel out your personality a
bit more, especially the aspect of you being positive, leading the
way, etc., etc.
A little bit of a positive attitude and a little persistence in the
initial approach and conversation goes a LONG LONG WAY since the bar is set so LOW because these women really aren’t investing anything into the interaction- the guy is doing all the work, the attractive women know they are the ones in demand, they can make the decisions---EXCEPT FOR ONE DECISION- they can’t make a guy NOT be attracted to them!!!
And this is not a joke- the reason it’s so important to understand is
because since so many attractive women are promiscuous and DO NOT WANT TO COMMIT SERIOUSLY TO A GUY, one of the few things they ARE looking for in a man is a guy, who, ironically, is NOT looking to get serious!
A guy who will be COOL with keeping things very CASUAL, and THIS is one of the reasons SO MANY WOMEN say they want to have a friendship that blossoms into a romance- part of this is also their own social conditioning to make them feel that they are not promiscuous, and part of it is also female psychology that tends to mix many things emotionally together, so friendship and romance all becomes this theoretical and attractive concept in their minds even though it rarely ever works that way in reality.
The point is, one of the few things that IS important for a guy to
remember if he IS interested in these women, is to NEVER EVER EVER mention the idea of serious relationships, raising children, fidelity, or anything like that to the vast majority of attractive women- UNLESS you are raising the issue because you WANT to find out if she is the RIGHT kind of woman- and her negative reaction will tell you your answer right away.
Those topics are DEATH TO SUCCESS with these women because they involve THINKING LONG TERM, USING LOGIC, AND EXERCISING SELF-DISCIPLINE IN THE HARDEST AREA TO DO THAT- the hardest area to do that is in the most tempting area- sex.
Think about it: When people get corrupted, it’s usually by power and
by too much luxury and pleasure- and sex is the biggest pleasure of
all. Now imagine an attractive woman who is being BOMBARDED BY MEN OFFERING HER SEX at all times.
It’s TOO MUCH EMOTION for her to resist- and things like LOGIC and THINKING about her future with men and her family and possible potential children are A MILLION MILES AWAY IN HER MIND- FAR OFF IN THAT FOGGY PLACE CALLED THE FUTURE.
And even FURTHER away are any wise thoughts regarding preventing STIs and STDs.
All forms of logic go out the window when enough emotion is stirred.
And sex is the most powerful emotion of all.
If you seriously try to talk about this with these women, it will destroy any possible chemistry.
Remember, emotions are stronger than logic, so she will NOT understand a word you say regarding this topic. She won't understand because emotions have a way of warping one's perspective.
By the way, ANY PICK UP ARTIST WHO IS HONEST WILL TELL YOU AND ADMIT THAT WHAT I AM SAYING IS TRUE.
I like to give the SUPERMAN example. Superman’s powers don’t come
from WORKING OUT, they come from the YELLOW sun of the EARTH.
Back on Krypton before it exploded, Kryptonians couldn’t fly or have special powers.
Yes, I know Superman is science-fiction or fantasy, but my point is
that getting the typical attractive woman to get physical with you is
less a matter of a guy doing hard things, and more a matter of
simply living near a YELLOW SUN- that yellow sun is PROMISCUOUS
WOMEN.
If you are looking for girlfriend who is not going to be flirting
with other guys, who is not going to cheat on you, who is going to be
loyal and supportive and stick with you through good and bad times,
then I can assure you that the vast, vast, vaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaast majority of attractive women you meet are NOT going to meet your standards.
But if you ONLY want to get physical with some attractive woman or
women, then you really don’t need to learn ANYTHING except the
following:
1. That most attractive women are promiscuous.
2. That therefore what they want in a man is just fun, sex, and no serious talk about the future.
3. That even though they are promiscuous, they still don’t want to be LABELLED as promiscuous, so you must NEVER bring this issue up, and you should pretend that they aren’t promiscuous at ALL.
This won’t be easy if you stick around for long enough, because it’s
human biology for a man to have a negative reaction when he sees a
woman he is sleeping with behaving in ways with men that will lead to
her sleeping with another guy.
4. Because of number 3 above, this is why long-term relationships almost never work out with these women.
That is really all you need to know if that is all you want when it
comes to a woman or women.
Once you know that, the rest is pretty self-explanatory. See a woman
you want to approach? Then just do it. Yes, just do it. If you are
concerned about how to keep a conversation going, the main thing is
to realize the bar is LOW.
So there we go, let’s add one more to the roster:
5. THE BAR IS LOW
They aren’t looking for you to be a NOBEL PRIZE winner or some kind
of doctor trying to save the world or ANYTHING like that.
They really are just looking for a good time, honestly, I know it
sounds crazy, but if they were looking for more serious things, they
wouldn’t live the way they do.
You can fumble the ball, you can do so much WRONG, as long as you keep it POSITIVE and you TOTALLY DON’T BRING UP THE PROMISCUITY ISSUE.
Now, don’t get me wrong, because if you flash a lot of money around,
then of COURSE they will want THAT too, and that might even make them suddenly want to ESCALATE the relationship into SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP territory, and I don’t think that is the kind of serious relationship that men really want.
But if you are looking for MORE than that, for a woman who
understands that the idea is for a man and woman to be PARTNERS in
life, to grow together, and if you are looking for a woman who still
understands the importance of the BIG PICTURE, of loyalty, of
fidelity, and of how easy it is for the years to slip BY and for her
to find herself with NO OPTIONS, well then you need to really have a
HIGHER level of skill.
You need to TRULY become effective at starting MEANINGFUL
conversations, and you need to become highly skilled at SCREENING out the wrong women QUICKLY so you can focus your time and energy on the right women.
You need to know what you SHOULD be looking for in a woman.
You also need to learn how to banish the internal demons and
weaknesses that plague all human beings, such as the desire to have
EVERYTHING- human greed is a weakness, it must be harnessed PROPERLY.
So, for example, being with the same woman, even if she is a GREAT
WOMAN, requires some work if you are going to KEEP UP THE CHEMISTRY over time. But it is WORTH THE INVESTMENT, because of what that MEANS IN THE BIG PICTURE.
A life with total chaos and no order is NOT going to be productive
or rewarding- regardless of what the promiscuous crowd likes to say.
They tend to only say that while they are in their 20s,
but somehow that argument NEVER MAKES IT into their
maturing years- which speaks volumes about how misguided
the thinking of youth often is- especially when it exists in a
culture bombarding it with false promises of endless pleasure-
when in reality the higher level of pleasure comes from
MEANING and ACCOMPLISHMENT.
And you won’t be able to get ANY sense of meaning and you won’t be
able to get any ACCOMPLISHMENT when you are a WRECK BECAUSE of a woman.
And if you are reading this right now and you would like to know
ANYTHING about meeting and keeping women, the most powerful step you can take is LIVE coaching with me.
If you want to learn the HOW TO of the actual APPROACH, I’d be
thrilled to show you all this in person on real women. You can learn
how to do this in my exclusive bootcamp program at
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And if you would like to consult with me on ANY matter regarding
women, whether you want coaching on how to improve your state of
mind, what to do regarding a dating situation you are currently in,
how to know if a woman is being honest with you or not, or ANY other
matter, you can book a private consultation with me by going here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
Before ending this newsletter, I would like to salute those courageous women who continue to uphold and champion the virtues of honor, fidelity, and loyalty. Not only in action, but in spirit as well.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
I also realize there are exceptions to every rule, and that there are indeed pockets of amazing and gorgeous women in society who belong to subcultures that stand apart from the dominant culture.
With that being said, there are five KEY POINTS regarding the secret that I think every man who is looking to meet, attract, and keep a woman needs to know.
The first one is the issue of PROMISCUITY.
If you’ve ever wondered how the heck it is possible to approach
gorgeous women and have them get physical all the way with you in the blink of an eye, the answer is SIMPLE.
More than at any other time in history, attractive women (not all, but far
more than you can possibly imagine if you are unaware of the truth)
change boyfriends with just a bit less frequency than most people
change underwear.
THIS is just ONE of the reasons that attractive women actually
respond quite POSITIVELY to being approached.
The other reason is that they also have the confidence to know that
when a guy is approaching them, they could get just about any guy to
want to be in a relationship with them- so attractive women are very
calm, very relaxed, and very much feel a sense of control in these
situations.
When you combine these factors with the sky-high levels of
promiscuity of so many attractive women, it becomes very easy to see
how it all works. You see, as far as these women are concerned, there
is almost NO downside to a guy approaching them- since the women know they are in the driver’s seat, and they also know they don’t have to offer any kind of actual commitment or long-term thinking.
Now the thing is though, and this is where a lot of men who are
interested in these women go wrong, that doesn’t mean that female
sexuality is the same as male sexuality. Female sexuality, whether
it is a result of culture or just nature, usually requires a bit of a
warm-up before going into full intensity, which is very different
from male sexuality which is either on or off and very little
in-between and usually very little warm-up.
So, even though they are very promiscuous, that doesn’t mean they
want to be approached immediately directly with the proposition of
getting physical. Women tend to want to feel out your personality a
bit more, especially the aspect of you being positive, leading the
way, etc., etc.
A little bit of a positive attitude and a little persistence in the
initial approach and conversation goes a LONG LONG WAY since the bar is set so LOW because these women really aren’t investing anything into the interaction- the guy is doing all the work, the attractive women know they are the ones in demand, they can make the decisions---EXCEPT FOR ONE DECISION- they can’t make a guy NOT be attracted to them!!!
And this is not a joke- the reason it’s so important to understand is
because since so many attractive women are promiscuous and DO NOT WANT TO COMMIT SERIOUSLY TO A GUY, one of the few things they ARE looking for in a man is a guy, who, ironically, is NOT looking to get serious!
A guy who will be COOL with keeping things very CASUAL, and THIS is one of the reasons SO MANY WOMEN say they want to have a friendship that blossoms into a romance- part of this is also their own social conditioning to make them feel that they are not promiscuous, and part of it is also female psychology that tends to mix many things emotionally together, so friendship and romance all becomes this theoretical and attractive concept in their minds even though it rarely ever works that way in reality.
The point is, one of the few things that IS important for a guy to
remember if he IS interested in these women, is to NEVER EVER EVER mention the idea of serious relationships, raising children, fidelity, or anything like that to the vast majority of attractive women- UNLESS you are raising the issue because you WANT to find out if she is the RIGHT kind of woman- and her negative reaction will tell you your answer right away.
Those topics are DEATH TO SUCCESS with these women because they involve THINKING LONG TERM, USING LOGIC, AND EXERCISING SELF-DISCIPLINE IN THE HARDEST AREA TO DO THAT- the hardest area to do that is in the most tempting area- sex.
Think about it: When people get corrupted, it’s usually by power and
by too much luxury and pleasure- and sex is the biggest pleasure of
all. Now imagine an attractive woman who is being BOMBARDED BY MEN OFFERING HER SEX at all times.
It’s TOO MUCH EMOTION for her to resist- and things like LOGIC and THINKING about her future with men and her family and possible potential children are A MILLION MILES AWAY IN HER MIND- FAR OFF IN THAT FOGGY PLACE CALLED THE FUTURE.
And even FURTHER away are any wise thoughts regarding preventing STIs and STDs.
All forms of logic go out the window when enough emotion is stirred.
And sex is the most powerful emotion of all.
If you seriously try to talk about this with these women, it will destroy any possible chemistry.
Remember, emotions are stronger than logic, so she will NOT understand a word you say regarding this topic. She won't understand because emotions have a way of warping one's perspective.
By the way, ANY PICK UP ARTIST WHO IS HONEST WILL TELL YOU AND ADMIT THAT WHAT I AM SAYING IS TRUE.
I like to give the SUPERMAN example. Superman’s powers don’t come
from WORKING OUT, they come from the YELLOW sun of the EARTH.
Back on Krypton before it exploded, Kryptonians couldn’t fly or have special powers.
Yes, I know Superman is science-fiction or fantasy, but my point is
that getting the typical attractive woman to get physical with you is
less a matter of a guy doing hard things, and more a matter of
simply living near a YELLOW SUN- that yellow sun is PROMISCUOUS
WOMEN.
If you are looking for girlfriend who is not going to be flirting
with other guys, who is not going to cheat on you, who is going to be
loyal and supportive and stick with you through good and bad times,
then I can assure you that the vast, vast, vaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaast majority of attractive women you meet are NOT going to meet your standards.
But if you ONLY want to get physical with some attractive woman or
women, then you really don’t need to learn ANYTHING except the
following:
1. That most attractive women are promiscuous.
2. That therefore what they want in a man is just fun, sex, and no serious talk about the future.
3. That even though they are promiscuous, they still don’t want to be LABELLED as promiscuous, so you must NEVER bring this issue up, and you should pretend that they aren’t promiscuous at ALL.
This won’t be easy if you stick around for long enough, because it’s
human biology for a man to have a negative reaction when he sees a
woman he is sleeping with behaving in ways with men that will lead to
her sleeping with another guy.
4. Because of number 3 above, this is why long-term relationships almost never work out with these women.
That is really all you need to know if that is all you want when it
comes to a woman or women.
Once you know that, the rest is pretty self-explanatory. See a woman
you want to approach? Then just do it. Yes, just do it. If you are
concerned about how to keep a conversation going, the main thing is
to realize the bar is LOW.
So there we go, let’s add one more to the roster:
5. THE BAR IS LOW
They aren’t looking for you to be a NOBEL PRIZE winner or some kind
of doctor trying to save the world or ANYTHING like that.
They really are just looking for a good time, honestly, I know it
sounds crazy, but if they were looking for more serious things, they
wouldn’t live the way they do.
You can fumble the ball, you can do so much WRONG, as long as you keep it POSITIVE and you TOTALLY DON’T BRING UP THE PROMISCUITY ISSUE.
Now, don’t get me wrong, because if you flash a lot of money around,
then of COURSE they will want THAT too, and that might even make them suddenly want to ESCALATE the relationship into SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP territory, and I don’t think that is the kind of serious relationship that men really want.
But if you are looking for MORE than that, for a woman who
understands that the idea is for a man and woman to be PARTNERS in
life, to grow together, and if you are looking for a woman who still
understands the importance of the BIG PICTURE, of loyalty, of
fidelity, and of how easy it is for the years to slip BY and for her
to find herself with NO OPTIONS, well then you need to really have a
HIGHER level of skill.
You need to TRULY become effective at starting MEANINGFUL
conversations, and you need to become highly skilled at SCREENING out the wrong women QUICKLY so you can focus your time and energy on the right women.
You need to know what you SHOULD be looking for in a woman.
You also need to learn how to banish the internal demons and
weaknesses that plague all human beings, such as the desire to have
EVERYTHING- human greed is a weakness, it must be harnessed PROPERLY.
So, for example, being with the same woman, even if she is a GREAT
WOMAN, requires some work if you are going to KEEP UP THE CHEMISTRY over time. But it is WORTH THE INVESTMENT, because of what that MEANS IN THE BIG PICTURE.
A life with total chaos and no order is NOT going to be productive
or rewarding- regardless of what the promiscuous crowd likes to say.
They tend to only say that while they are in their 20s,
but somehow that argument NEVER MAKES IT into their
maturing years- which speaks volumes about how misguided
the thinking of youth often is- especially when it exists in a
culture bombarding it with false promises of endless pleasure-
when in reality the higher level of pleasure comes from
MEANING and ACCOMPLISHMENT.
And you won’t be able to get ANY sense of meaning and you won’t be
able to get any ACCOMPLISHMENT when you are a WRECK BECAUSE of a woman.
And if you are reading this right now and you would like to know
ANYTHING about meeting and keeping women, the most powerful step you can take is LIVE coaching with me.
If you want to learn the HOW TO of the actual APPROACH, I’d be
thrilled to show you all this in person on real women. You can learn
how to do this in my exclusive bootcamp program at
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html
And if you would like to consult with me on ANY matter regarding
women, whether you want coaching on how to improve your state of
mind, what to do regarding a dating situation you are currently in,
how to know if a woman is being honest with you or not, or ANY other
matter, you can book a private consultation with me by going here:
http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html
Before ending this newsletter, I would like to salute those courageous women who continue to uphold and champion the virtues of honor, fidelity, and loyalty. Not only in action, but in spirit as well.
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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Friday, June 12, 2015
Congruency And Why It RULES
There is a
concept in attraction known as CONGRUENCY. Congruency
simply means
that you are consistent on every channel of your
communication,
so that means your body language, your words, your
expressions
on your face, your tonality, and EVERYTHING else about
you is
CONSISTENT.
So if a guy
goes up to a girl and tries to show off in an attempt to
convey that
he is desirable, the irony is that the very INSECURITY
that feels
the need to show off actually ends up manifesting itself
in many
ways- the look on the guy’s face, the tonality he ends up
using,
etc. Those things are INCONGRUENT with
true confidence, true sense of
security, etc.
And the
incongruence can be TINY, it can be the most subtle thing, an
inflection
of the voice, a particular crinkle of the eyebrow, something
that a guy
doesn’t even REALIZE he is doing- to TOTALLY DESTROY HIS APPROACH AND
HIS SUCCESS.
This is
because human beings in general are VERY SKILLED at noticing tiny
subtleties in facial expressions and in body language and tonality.
And women, for some reason, tend to be even BETTER at detecting and noticing these things, possibly from experience, and it is possible that women needed to be better at picking up social cues as an adaptive tool for survival since the beginning of human history.
And women, for some reason, tend to be even BETTER at detecting and noticing these things, possibly from experience, and it is possible that women needed to be better at picking up social cues as an adaptive tool for survival since the beginning of human history.
Bottom line
is, humans are really damn good at “feeling out” the way another
person is feeling, even if they are not CONSCIOUSLY aware of what those
things are, the fact is people get a certain VIBE from someone, and
this vibe is the reaction to the other person’s signals being sent
out on all the various channels, such as body language, tonality,
and all the rest.
By the way,
as PROOF of just how tough it is to fake it, notice how
even with
the most advanced CGI graphics that exist today in even the
most
lucrative billion-dollar movie franchises, we STILL haven’t
managed to
fully create and animate the HUMAN face in a totally
believable
way. So, for example, in the film AVATAR, did you notice
the
creatures are BLUE?
A super-cool
friend of mine enlightened me to this.
Human beings
innately
sense the subtleties of another human face and human
expression. Even NEW-BORN babies are gifted with what
almost seems like
SUPERHUMAN abilities in this regard.
And because
humans can tell these subtleties in another human, even
the most
advanced special-effects teams so far still haven’t yet
attained the
skill to create a fully-believable human animated face, so what they
do is make the characters a little OFF from human- such as the blue
characters in Avatar.
It’s far easier to make some blue alien look real because we have no REAL-LIFE REFERENCE point for a “real” blue alien, so we can thus feel that the alien looks realistic. There is no proof in our mind to COUNTER what we see on the screen of the blue alien.
It’s far easier to make some blue alien look real because we have no REAL-LIFE REFERENCE point for a “real” blue alien, so we can thus feel that the alien looks realistic. There is no proof in our mind to COUNTER what we see on the screen of the blue alien.
Now, we may
eventually GET THERE, (James Cameron keeps pushing things to the limit and maybe his team will be the first to do it) to the degree that we can create a fully
believable animated human face, but my point is how MASSIVELY DIFFICULT IT
IS TO FAKE, even with BILLION DOLLAR BUDGETS BY THE MOST ADVANCED
SPECIAL-EFFECTS TEAMS IN THE WORLD!
So if even
billion-dollar companies still find it impossible to fake,
let's try an
EASIER way to come across right- by actually NOT
FAKING, and
instead learning to be COMFORTABLE in our own
skin rather
than putting on an act as an instinctive defense
mechanism.
So what this
means when it comes to you approaching women is that you have to make
DECISIONS on what you really WANT, and on what values are the most
important to you, and you must make sure you don’t have conflicting
goals, and though this is especially true regarding what you want with
women, it’s also true in general for all of what you want in life, as it
all shows in your demeanor.
So, for
example, you are far better off being CONGRUENT and a little
less "MR.
COOL" than trying to pull off being "MR. COOL" but not being truly
CONGRUENT WITH IT.
Yes, a
character like Han Solo is cool.
But the
truth is, and this the mind-blowing part, a character like
“Mr. Rogers”
(from the TV show) can ALSO be cool.
A guy like
"Mr. Rogers" could do AMAZING with most
women---IF he is truly cool with himself and does not put on an ACT with women.
Most men
suddenly start to “PUT ON THE ACT” in front of women- even if the men
don’t WANT to, they can’t HELP it; they feel they MUST.
Not only does the "act" tend to ruin a guy's efforts with women, but it also destroys the chances of him having long-term success, because no one can keep up an act forever.
And even if a guy manages to get lucky with pulling off an act, he will feel nervous about the fact that the woman doesn't even know the real him, she only knows the act.
So he will feel insecure. And not only is that a miserable feeling, but also the insecurity causes a man to say and do and think the wrong things, as insecurity distorts one's perception of things.
Not only does the "act" tend to ruin a guy's efforts with women, but it also destroys the chances of him having long-term success, because no one can keep up an act forever.
And even if a guy manages to get lucky with pulling off an act, he will feel nervous about the fact that the woman doesn't even know the real him, she only knows the act.
So he will feel insecure. And not only is that a miserable feeling, but also the insecurity causes a man to say and do and think the wrong things, as insecurity distorts one's perception of things.
So unless a guy doesn’t understand how to
treat people with respect, he really
shouldn’t put on an ACT.
And if you
want to learn the "how-to" regarding all this- how to stay cool and truly be yourself with women, and if you want to learn the most effective, natural ways to go about the process-from seeing a woman, approaching her, chatting with her, taking things to the next level, and much more-it really helps to get your coaching from an
instructor who is CONGRUENT himself.
Congruency
is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to me.
I know full
well you can’t be in two OPPOSITE places at once. If you
want a woman
who is going to be faithful, who is going to treat you
right, who
keeps herself in shape, etc., etc., that is a very
DIFFERENT
thing than just how to get physical with a promiscuous or
naive woman
quickly.
Most
companies won’t tell you that. They will tell you they are the
perfect
choice no matter WHAT your goal with women is- and that
should be
your FIRST SIGN that in fact they are NOT congruent. And
the more a
woman IS actually a woman who CARES about things like
ethics,
honesty, loyalty, and all the rest, the more SHE will be
INSTINCTIVELY
SENSING WHETHER YOU ARE CONGRUENT OR NOT.
She will be
doing this because it is of PARAMOUNT significance to her
that she
does NOT invest in a guy who lacks the proper character traits.
There are
even some instructors out there who try to imitate me in
some
respects- which would be cool except they then try to imitate
the OPPOSITE
as well, and they then tell you messages more along
the lines of
"Heh-heh, see how we got her to make out, heheh,
check out
her bod, heheh, we are so cool, can't you see how
cool we are?
Check out her a.b.c.d.e.f.g... " and so on and so forth.
All this
seems to be pretending one thing:
That these
women are somehow being "gamed"
when in
reality we are living in a time when women
are so
promiscuous, there is no need for any games
at all.
I still
can’t understand the obsession with being impressed by
getting a
woman to act loose with a man quickly. This stuff is so
easy in a
society obsessed with the superficial, that I could teach
the entire
content of EVERYTHING regarding that stuff in just TEN
MINUTES- and
that is NOT an exaggeration.
If a promiscuous woman was being honest with you, she
would tell
you the truth- she already made the decision
to sleep
with someone new very soon, and the first
guy that
seemed even remotely reasonable and didn't
sabotage his
own luck would be it.
There’s so
LITTLE to know, because these women are already RARING TO GO, there is
NOTHING to teach except how to just LET THE WOMEN DO WHAT THEY WANT,
and any pick up artist who is HONEST will tell you the SAME THING.
It’s one of
life’s ironies that in my quest to learn about women who
would make
for great girlfriends and wives, I ended up initially
learning the
OPPOSITE. How did I learn this? Well,
it’s simple
really. Since I had ZERO interest in women who lacked
the character
traits I was
seeking, I was completed UNATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME, so I really
didn’t try to make anything happen.
My state of
mind was calm because there was very LITTLE AT STAKE once I found out
what these women were like by listening to them speak.
This not
only made it easy for me to have things to say, but my lack
of neediness
also made the women feel VERY RELAXED around me, which made THEM
provide INSANELY EASY OPENINGS and OPPORTUNITIES as they tried to
make it EASY for me to pick them up.
And while
most guys would RUIN the moment and the chemistry by then DESPERATELY LUNGING for
the opportunity, I didn’t jump at all, in fact you might say I was
trying to SLOW THINGS DOWN. I wanted to
know more about who they
really were before going further.
Almost like
a woman might do- I was “stealing the woman’s frame” –
the frame
that most women use on men, of being hard to get, but I
wasn’t
trying to play a game. I really MEANT it- I was CONGRUENT.
Now, don’t
forget, I DID make the approach, and I DID get things into
motion,
which showed them that clearly I was willing to go for what I
wanted. I
was still being a man about the whole process.
This just
made the women even CALMER-and for the first time in a long time these
women were now with a guy who could actually keep the interaction
feeling smooth and normal and not cheap and dirty-and yes,
even the most promiscuous woman wants to feel respected,
especially since the men who are with them feel it is
totally cool for them to do it.
So that’s
all fine and good, but when it comes to attracting a different
kind of woman, it takes more.
It takes
more connection.
It takes
more congruence.
It takes you
being the best man you can be and getting rid of the
inner blocks
in your mind holding you back.
And that’s
what really it’s all about- men and women, through
attraction,
motivating each other to be the best they can be.
So, do you
want an instructor who is genuine?
Do you want
an instructor who is congruent?
Do you want
an instructor who understands that each man is DIFFERENT, and
therefore requires a DIFFERENT approach to learning these skills?
Do you want
an instructor who has over TEN YEARS experience teaching men of all
types of levels of experience?
Do you want
an instructor who is never satisfied with his OWN learning?
Who CONSTANTLY seeks to FURTHER the entire FIELD when it comes to
this topic called dating, attraction, and relationships?
And do you
want to meet a really GREAT woman, who will never take you for granted?
Who will RESPECT you always?
Then I’d
love to be your instructor for this important part of your life,
through a process known as bootcamp.
In my live,
exclusive, in-person, bootcamp program, I do two things.
First, I
take care of the whole INTERNAL side of things- how to get
your inner
state of mind to be at PEAK form- and that includes how to
be
CONGRUENT.
The next
thing I do is teach you the best way to actually APPLY ALL
THIS in your
interactions with women in the form of DIRECT
APPROACHES.
I actually demonstrate this for you, and then guide you
along every
step of the way so that you can do it as well.
By
"DIRECT APPROACHES" here, I mean you approach women you see ANYWHERE-
women who are TOTAL STRANGERS, and you go right up to them and get them
attracted and connected on a deep level.
It gets even
better- you will learn how to do all this in a way that
LASTS. You will not have to learn any gimmicks, you
will not be
using any
lies, you will not be doing anything that is inconsistent
with who you
really are. This way, you will be able to USE what you
learn and
master in bootcamp for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ALL THE WOMEN YOU
MEET.
Congruency
is a HUGE priority for me, both in my own approaches and
in the way I
teach men to acquire these skills and in the way men USE
these
skills.
Since the
things you learn and master will be CONSISTENT WITH YOUR PERSONALITY,
you will feel COMFORTABLE using them on women for the rest of your
life.
And of
course, the results will be better too, since women can sense the
difference in a man who is congruent.
My work has
not only been featured in the biggest newspapers in
the country,
but my students' success with women has been
OBSERVED by
major journalists that FOLLOWED UP on their
progress
after being coached by me-and the majority of the reports
are OVERWHELMINGLY GLOWING-you can check them out on
my website.
are OVERWHELMINGLY GLOWING-you can check them out on
my website.
For a
bootcamp with me, you can email me your request or your
questions
at: michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com
Or you can
visit my bootcamp page at:
Till next
time,
Michael
Marks
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