Getting A Truly GOOD Woman

Without alcohol and dishonesty, 99% of "pick up artist" videos out
there could not exist. 

Also, to a degree, unfortunately, many women kind of suspect that
the guy IS being dishonest, but WANT to indulge in the experience 
for the short term but not be held accountable in their own minds for
the long term consequences to their lives because they are too busy 
just thinking about the moment, so they indulge in alcohol on 
purpose as a way to rationalize later and rationalize in the
moment that it wasn't their fault.

This "it's not my fault" (not taking responsibility) is the number one issue with many women today, and it is a direct result of feminism because it encourages blaming men, and it is also the number one way that a lot of dishonest men, i.e. many of the pick up artists out there, exploit these women, and these women then go on to say that all men they meet are jerks. 

These women say that men are jerks, so they can enjoy the experience but later on not be held accountable for the long term destructive effects of promiscuity.  These long term effects include the fact that no good man wants to commit to such women. And the truth always comes out eventually, and even if a woman were to try to hide the truth about her, then this itself is a life where she is constantly living a lie, and that is a terrible life as well.

All thanks to feminism which preaches "be like men in the worst
possible interpretation of men", i.e. be promiscuous, be selfish, and
which also preaches blaming men instead of taking responsibility.

And so, getting women to get physical with you is the easiest thing on the planet when you are surrounded with women who want to believe your lies and who are promiscuous and who feel they are in the right to not take responsibility for their behavior.

And this is the reason I created get a GREAT girl, because if a man wants to meet the kind of woman he can actually build a future with, a woman who takes responsibility for her behaviors, a woman who is not promiscuous and who does not need to get drunk to make decisions, it is a completely different thing than getting the kind of women that most pick up artists show in their videos.

Also, I don't film the pick-ups of my clients, because it is WRONG to go around showing films of anyone to millions of people when you never got the permission of those people to film them.

Being with the right woman is the most important thing.
The wrong woman can cost a man his emotions, his energy,
and even MILLIONS of dollars. If you have children with this
woman, she can also cause you MISERY by being a horrible
person to help you raise your children.

The RIGHT woman, however, will PUT THE WIND IN YOUR SAILS,
will motivate you to new heights, and just simply make life more
fun. And she will be a true PARTNER for life.

Don't get caught up in the distractions bombarding you
everywhere with the wrong kinds of women.

Get a GREAT girlfriend.

Go HERE immediately: https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/

 
To learn the skill of screening women for QUALITY character, and of how to approach and attract in REAL TIME, live, from me directly, in an exclusive and private one-on-one BOOTCAMP, go here:


https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/bootcamp.html

For a phone consultation or any other form of coaching
from me, go here:

https://www.thedatingwizardreturns.com/consultations.html
 
Till next time,

Michael Marks

A Video PROOF Of Third-Wave Feminism's DESTRUCTION On Goodness

A conversation I was having on Facebook got me inspired to actually put something up here on the blog- and it is a comparison of two videos that REALLY illustrate how third-wave feminism has REALLY screwed things up.

By the way, before I go any further, let me say that there ARE great women still.  

Usually these are women are from places where things are not even REMOTELY CLOSE to third-wave feminism. These women will make your mind EXPLODE because you won't BELIEVE how it is POSSIBLE to actually sit down and have a conversation with a woman or go for a walk with a woman and actually be treated with RESPECT and not have to deal with endless, endless, ENDLESS b.s. 

One can see the deterioration from when things were far better to how they are now, in just a few short decades. A great friend of mine pointed the following example out to me: Compare the ORIGINAL "She Was An American Girl" by Tom Petty to the bastardized version by Bonnie McKee recently, called "American Girl" where the girl in the video acts completely gross. I'll include the links below for comparison.

So here we go:


 
COMPARED TO:




Again, going back to the video by Bonnie McKee, so MANY, MANY, MANY things are summed up just in this ONE video alone. 

Notice how she acts totally promiscuous, notice how she says "I never say that I'm sorry" so she never takes responsibility for anything she does wrong, notice how she acts masculine and says she is going to DOMINATE the bed.

Notice how she says she doesn't need any man (with the b.s. excuse that it's "if he gets in her way"- which I'm willing to bet in real life is pretty much ANYTHING any guy does that doesn't kiss up to her will be considered to her to be "in her way")- and notice how she keeps getting back to "keep moving her body" and how she "is always ready to party" (I'm paraphrasing) and zero respect for her own mother, and most likely, for any parental figure or anyone who actually cares about her and is in a position of authority and who may have some experience about life.

Notice how she says she is taking over the world (arrogant and materialistic), and how she was raised by the television ( apparently by the worst TV like "Keeping Up with the Kardashians", and not something like "Leave It To Beaver" or "Highway to Heaven" or "Little House on the Prairie" --all those latter GOOD shows came out before insane third-wave feminism took over).

Also, of course, the song starts with her explaining how she is having her Slurpee drink, but that she mixed it with ALCOHOL. 

And that alcohol thing is a big thing, in my opinion. Alcohol, even though I don't drink, can be consumed RESPONSIBLY. 

But RESPONSIBILITY is the FARTHEST thing from third-wave feminists and clearly is the farthest thing from the mind of this singer in this video. She has to take the innocent SLURPEE drink and CORRUPT it as well.

This is all part of the general PROBLEM. This need to block out REALITY and block out RESPONSIBILITY by indulging in alcohol or some other escape at every possible moment.

And to her, everyday is a competition. WHY does everything have to be a freaking competition and status competition rather than just authentically loving someone? And notice how she says "she's ready to go"--ready to go for what? Sex? That's what she seems to indicate by her lewd gestures and body language throughout the entire song.

She also says "this is a free country we can do anything" but she forgets that FREEDOM goes hand in hand with RESPONSIBILITY. If you can't handle RESPONSIBILITY then you actually FORFEIT your right to FREEDOM. 

For many generations, men and women KNEW this. But now, it seems, women who are in the feminist-brainwashing zone seem to think that FREEDOM is this thing that you can just abuse. 

Also, notice little hints of the women acting bisexual, stroking each other, because that too is encouraged by many feminists-and sometimes I wonder if this is because the MEN don't even act like MEN anymore, so it's possible that the WOMEN are more MASCULINE than most MEN are today, especially the men who KISS UP TO THE THIRD WAVE FEMINISTS.

In any case, it all spells disaster to any traditional, stable, long-term relationship with a man.

ALSO, notice how the DUDE in the video at the store FALLS for her and her friends, he is SMITTEN by them, and gestures a kiss to them goodbye-- and this TOO to me symbolizes the problem, as MOST MEN are just as BRAINWASHED by all this feminism as the women are--the men actually think these women are a CATCH and that they are DESIRABLE!!!

So OF COURSE women will continue to be this way, as long as men KEEP REWARDING them!!!  This behavior of women could not exist without enough men FEEDING it.

So in other words, things don't HAVE to be screwed up, and they were NOT screwed up, not long ago. If enough men wake up, and enough women wake up, there CAN be a change. 

Also, I want to make it clear that NONE of this is me being anti-American at ALL. In fact, I believe that the products of third-wave feminism are DESTROYING all the BEST things about America and about any free society where third-wave feminism exists. America is supposed to be about freedom but also about RESPONSIBILITY and APPRECIATING that freedom, it's not about PISSING on the very sacrifices that so many made in order to GET that freedom. 

Also, unless it is stopped, third-wave feminism will continue to destroy the family unit, and will DESTROY the fabric of the country. It will destroy morale and create broken families with maladjusted children who grow up into problematic adults, and so on and so forth.

It MUST be STOPPED.

Get A GREAT WOMAN, a quality woman who will be your REAL partner.  And if you have any questions on how to do that, just contact me at michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Secret That Women Won't Tell You

There is a secret that the vast majority of attractive women won't tell you. I'm referring to attractive women in societies where things changed drastically since feminism became something very DIFFERENT than striving for justice and equality for women.

I also realize there are exceptions to every rule, and that there are indeed pockets of amazing and gorgeous women in society who belong to subcultures that stand apart from the dominant culture.

With that being said, there are five KEY POINTS regarding the secret that I think every man who is looking to meet, attract, and keep a woman needs to know.

The first one is the issue of PROMISCUITY.

If you’ve ever wondered how the heck it is possible to approach
gorgeous women and have them get physical all the way with you in the blink of an eye, the answer is SIMPLE.

More than at any other time in history, attractive women (not all, but far
more than you can possibly imagine if you are unaware of the truth)
change boyfriends with just a bit less frequency than most people
change underwear. 

THIS is just ONE of the reasons that attractive women actually
respond quite POSITIVELY to being approached.

The other reason is that they also have the confidence to know that
when a guy is approaching them, they could get just about any guy to
want to be in a relationship with them- so attractive women are very
calm, very relaxed, and very much feel a sense of control in these
situations.

When you combine these factors with the sky-high levels of
promiscuity of so many attractive women, it becomes very easy to see
how it all works. You see, as far as these women are concerned, there
is almost NO downside to a guy approaching them- since the women know they are in the driver’s seat, and they also know they don’t have to offer any kind of actual commitment or long-term thinking.

Now the thing is though, and this is where a lot of men who are
interested in these women go wrong, that doesn’t mean that female
sexuality is the same as male sexuality.  Female sexuality, whether
it is a result of culture or just nature, usually requires a bit of a
warm-up before going into full intensity, which is very different
from male sexuality which is either on or off and very little
in-between and usually very little warm-up.

So, even though they are very promiscuous, that doesn’t mean they
want to be approached immediately directly with the proposition of
getting physical.  Women tend to want to feel out your personality a
bit more, especially the aspect of you being positive, leading the
way, etc., etc.

A little bit of a positive attitude and a little persistence in the
initial approach and conversation goes a LONG LONG WAY since the bar is set so LOW because these women really aren’t investing anything into the interaction- the guy is doing all the work, the attractive women know they are the ones in demand, they can make the decisions---EXCEPT FOR ONE DECISION- they can’t make a guy NOT be attracted to them!!!

And this is not a joke- the reason it’s so important to understand is
because since so many attractive women are promiscuous and DO NOT WANT TO COMMIT SERIOUSLY TO A GUY, one of the few things they ARE looking for in a man is a guy, who, ironically, is NOT looking to get serious!

A guy who will be COOL with keeping things very CASUAL, and THIS is one of the reasons SO MANY WOMEN say they want to have a friendship that blossoms into a romance- part of this is also their own social conditioning to make them feel that they are not promiscuous, and part of it is also female psychology that tends to mix many things emotionally together, so friendship and romance all becomes this theoretical and attractive concept in their minds even though it rarely ever works that way in reality.

The point is, one of the few things that IS important for a guy to
remember if he IS interested in these women, is to NEVER EVER EVER mention the idea of serious relationships, raising children, fidelity, or anything like that to the vast majority of attractive women- UNLESS you are raising the issue because you WANT to find out if she is the RIGHT kind of woman- and her negative reaction will tell you your answer right away. 

Those topics are DEATH TO SUCCESS with these women because they involve THINKING LONG TERM, USING LOGIC, AND EXERCISING SELF-DISCIPLINE IN THE HARDEST AREA TO DO THAT- the hardest area to do that is in the most tempting area- sex. 

Think about it: When people get corrupted, it’s usually by power and
by too much luxury and pleasure- and sex is the biggest pleasure of
all.  Now imagine an attractive woman who is being BOMBARDED BY MEN OFFERING HER SEX at all times.

It’s TOO MUCH EMOTION for her to resist- and things like LOGIC and THINKING about her future with men and her family and possible potential children are A MILLION MILES AWAY IN HER MIND- FAR OFF IN THAT FOGGY PLACE CALLED THE FUTURE.

And even FURTHER away are any wise thoughts regarding preventing STIs and STDs.

All forms of logic go out the window when enough emotion is stirred.
And sex is the most powerful emotion of all.

If you seriously try to talk about this with these women, it will destroy any possible chemistry. 

Remember, emotions are stronger than logic, so she will NOT understand a word you say regarding this topic. She won't understand because emotions have a way of warping one's perspective.    

By the way, ANY PICK UP ARTIST WHO IS HONEST WILL TELL YOU AND ADMIT THAT WHAT I AM SAYING IS TRUE.

I like to give the SUPERMAN example. Superman’s powers don’t come
from WORKING OUT, they come from the YELLOW sun of the EARTH.

Back on Krypton before it exploded, Kryptonians  couldn’t fly or have special powers.

Yes, I know Superman is science-fiction or fantasy, but my point is
that getting the typical attractive woman to get physical with you is
less a matter of a guy doing hard things, and more a matter of
simply living near a YELLOW SUN- that yellow sun is PROMISCUOUS
WOMEN.

If you are looking for girlfriend who is not going to be flirting
with other guys, who is not going to cheat on you, who is going to be
loyal and supportive and stick with you through good and bad times,
then I can assure you that the vast, vast, vaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaast majority of attractive women you meet are NOT going to meet your standards.

But if you ONLY want to get physical with some attractive woman or
women, then you really don’t need to learn ANYTHING except the
following:

1. That most attractive women are promiscuous.

2. That therefore what they want in a man is just fun, sex, and no serious talk about the future.

3. That even though they are promiscuous, they still don’t want to be LABELLED as promiscuous, so you must NEVER bring this issue up, and you should pretend that they aren’t promiscuous at ALL.

This won’t be easy if you stick around for long enough, because it’s
human biology for a man to have a negative reaction when he sees a
woman he is sleeping with behaving in ways with men that will lead to
her sleeping with another guy.

4. Because of number 3 above, this is why long-term relationships almost never work out with these women.
     
That is really all you need to know if that is all you want when it
comes to a woman or women.

Once you know that, the rest is pretty self-explanatory. See a woman
you want to approach? Then just do it. Yes, just do it. If you are
concerned about how to keep a conversation going, the main thing is
to realize the bar is LOW.

So there we go, let’s add one more to the roster:

5. THE BAR IS LOW

They aren’t looking for you to be a NOBEL PRIZE winner or some kind
of doctor trying to save the world or ANYTHING like that.

They really are just looking for a good time, honestly, I know it
sounds crazy, but if they were looking for more serious things, they
wouldn’t live the way they do.

You can fumble the ball, you can do so much WRONG, as long as you keep it POSITIVE and you TOTALLY DON’T BRING UP THE PROMISCUITY ISSUE.

Now, don’t get me wrong, because if you flash a lot of money around,
then of COURSE they will want THAT too, and that might even make them suddenly want to ESCALATE the relationship into SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP territory, and I don’t think that is the kind of serious relationship that men really want.

But if you are looking for MORE than that, for a woman who
understands that the idea is for a man and woman to be PARTNERS in
life, to grow together, and if you are looking for a woman who still
understands the importance of the BIG PICTURE, of loyalty, of
fidelity, and of how easy it is for the years to slip BY and for her
to find herself with NO OPTIONS, well then you need to really have a
HIGHER level of skill.

You need to TRULY become effective at starting MEANINGFUL
conversations, and you need to become highly skilled at SCREENING out the wrong women QUICKLY so you can focus your time and energy on the right women.

You need to know what you SHOULD be looking for in a woman.

You also need to learn how to banish the internal demons and
weaknesses that plague all human beings, such as the desire to have
EVERYTHING- human greed is a weakness, it must be harnessed PROPERLY.

So, for example, being with the same woman, even if she is a GREAT
WOMAN, requires some work if you are going to KEEP UP THE CHEMISTRY over time. But it is WORTH THE INVESTMENT, because of what that MEANS IN THE BIG PICTURE.

A life with total chaos and no order is NOT going to be productive
or rewarding- regardless of what the promiscuous crowd likes to say.

They tend to only say that while they are in their 20s,
but somehow that argument NEVER MAKES IT into their
maturing years- which speaks volumes about how misguided
the thinking of youth often is- especially when it exists in a
culture bombarding it with false promises of endless pleasure-
when in reality the higher level of pleasure comes from
MEANING and ACCOMPLISHMENT.

And you won’t be able to get ANY sense of meaning and you won’t be
able to get any ACCOMPLISHMENT when you are a WRECK BECAUSE of a woman.

And if you are reading this right now and you would like to know
ANYTHING about meeting and keeping women, the most powerful step you can take is LIVE coaching with me.

If you want to learn the HOW TO of the actual APPROACH, I’d be
thrilled to show you all this in person on real women.  You can learn
how to do this in my exclusive bootcamp program at

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

And if you would like to consult with me on ANY matter regarding
women, whether you want coaching on how to improve your state of
mind, what to do regarding a dating situation you are currently in,
how to know if a woman is being honest with you or not, or ANY other
matter, you can book a private consultation with me by going here:

 http://www.getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

Before ending this newsletter, I would like to salute those courageous women who continue to uphold and champion the virtues of honor, fidelity, and loyalty. Not only in action, but in spirit as well.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Beginner’s Mindset and The Happy Attractor

AN ABSOLUTELY VITAL, SUPER-IMPORTANT message
today regarding the truth about attracting women.

Before I get into the nitty-gritty, though,

there is something I need to tell you.

ACCURACY is important to me.

Not screwing guys up is important to me.

It is for this reason, that when I started out

in this field, I didn’t call myself the best

in the world.

After all, had I actually MET every guy in the

world, and truly compared myself to him?

That would be impossible, and so it would

be impossible to verify whether I was for

sure the best on the planet earth at this stuff.

It’s interesting, there have been studies showing

that the more QUALIFIED someone TRULY IS,

the less they actually tend to overestimate

their ability, and in fact they UNDERESTIMATE

their true value, their true ability, their true

proficiency.

On the other hand, those who actually are the

farthest from competent tend to OVERESTIMATE

their value, their proficiency at their skill, etc.

Allow me to explain to you one of the most

important guiding points of my life- it is called

KEEPING THE BEGINNER’S MINDSET.

At first glance, this might sound bad.

Beginner’s mindset?

Isn’t that a sign of low-self esteem?

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

What it means, is that when you have the

“Beginner’s Mindset”, you NEVER stop learning.

You never take the attitude that you are already

so great, so perfect, that you don’t need to learn

as MUCH as possible.

And the truth is, all the best experts at anything

tend to LIVE by this attitude.

Speak to the greatest champion weightlifters or

bodybuilders, and they will usually tell you that

they are STILL learning things about the bench-press

or squat or some other exercise.

Speak to the greatest martial artist, and they will

usually display an attitude of humility regarding

their own skill, and be hungry to learn MORE.

In one of the greatest Rocky films, Rocky III,

we are introduced to the concept of the

EYE OF THE TIGER, the concept to “stay

hungry” to keep on DEVELOPING, to keep

wanting to get BETTER.

In the film, Apollo takes Rocky away from his

rich environment that he acquired from success,

and takes him back to a far more ROUGH training

area, far more close to his EARLY DAYS, where

all the other guys ALSO have the EYE OF THE TIGER.

NONE OF THEM feel they are already so perfect

that they don’t need to TRAIN HARD, TO LEARN,

TO PUSH THEMSELVES TO THE MAX.

 

Similarly, if you are learning how to play music,

but you start to feel you are so perfect, and you

start to feel so much like an expert, you then

LOSE the HUNGER, the desire, to KEEP ON

IMPROVING.

A bit of INSECURITY keeps you pushing yourself

to be your BEST.

I remember hearing some of the most famous and successful
film directors, including James Cameron (AVATAR) and
Steven Spielberg (JURASSIC PARK), and they mentioned
that they STILL feel some fear when they step on the set
of a new film they are making.

They also take on projects that challenge them in

new ways they haven’t been challenged by before.

SUCCESS IS ACTUALLY FUELED BY THE BEGINNER’S MINDSET.

And the thing is, I wasn’t TRYING to have the

beginner’s mindset as a path to excellence, it

was the GENUINE way I always felt. I NEVER

felt satisfied with what I learned, I always

wanted more, I never felt I knew as much as

these guys who kept saying they were the

best in the world and that they were a hundred

times better than anybody else- in fact, when

I heard that stuff from them, I figured I must

REALLY NEED TO WORK A HUNDRED TIMES

HARDER TO EVEN COME CLOSE TO THEM!!!!

This attitude of obsession in trying to learn, in

trying to improve, in trying to be accurate, is

why my work never ends, and never stops

developing, and why I never stop learning from

others.

It is also why it is a good idea to get personal

live coaching from me, because you are then

getting the absolute, most up-to-date developments

from my work, whether it is in how to approach

and attract women, or how to solve relationship issues

or how to detect a quality woman.

And make no mistake about it- my work is still

developing.  Although from day ONE, I have known

that the crucial issue is how men have been taught

to go against their own masculine instincts due to

the things they have been learning from a culture

that attacks masculinity and attacks men for being

men, in recent months thanks to the help of an

incredible friend of mine, it has become clear to

me that there is a very clear SOURCE of this problem.

Knowing the source, means knowing how to

avoid the problem.

So, not only is it important to CHERISH AND

CONVEY your masculinity, in all the ways you

will find in my materials and programs, but it

is also important to AVOID the women who

have been CONFUSED by feminism – confused

because on one hand, they are indeed attracted

to the men who convey masculinity, but they

STILL are also confused how to respect a

RELATIONSHIP, because feminism has taught

them perverted values- including arrogance,

promiscuity, and that career is more important

than family- in essence, it explains the destruction

of the family unit in our times.

Most men may very well have the desire for

infinite women, but they have an even stronger

desire for a good woman, and are willing to make

the trade-off.

Most men are looking for something more than

a woman who is willing to have sex with them,

but who is already off to the next dude before

she has even finished giving the guy her number.

One of the reasons the pick-up artist movement

has taken off is because they have discovered how

easy it is to get women to get physical- but this has

nothing to do with getting a woman to be the right

one for a relationship.  It has to do with the simple

fact that there are more promiscuous women than

ever, and since women tend to be the gate-keepers

on this, if women are promiscuous, then OF COURSE

most men will just line up for it.

Most people are weak.

They don’t want to accept the reality that maybe

finding the right person might require some CHANGES

in their lives, like having to be far more careful when

screening a woman for her values, and like having to

possibly do more searching, or having the strength

to TURN DOWN some women, even if they are

attractive, if they are not right for your values.

But you need to remember one thing:

The wrong woman will RUIN you faster

than any other force on earth, and the

short-term excitement she offers you

will not be worth the CYCLONE of

emotional destruction you face if you

end up thinking you can “make her”

see the light.

So, if you want advice from someone who

is NEVER satisfied with the progress he has

made, with someone who KEEPS ON STRIVING

to improve and to be as ACCURATE as possible,

then I do suggest you contact me.

I don’t guarantee you perfection, but I do

guarantee you that I will give you my absolute

best, that is based on over ten YEARS of relentless

obsession in this field.

Okay, onto the ADVICE part of this newsletter:

Have you ever wondered why a guy will
suddenly do better with ALL women
once he GETS a woman interested in him?

Maybe you thought that this is because
he suddenly now has CONFIDENCE.

This is true, but it actually goes DEEPER
than this.

What has happened is that he is also
HAPPIER (and confidence is PART of
being happy), and it is THAT EMOTION
that is a BIG part of what I am talking
about when I talk about the COMBINATION
of emotions that form the “magic mix”
to attract women.

One of the craziest ironies is that we are
living in a time that emphasizes the
INDIVIDUAL’S happiness.  So each
person is really busy focusing on themselves,
their career, their personal lives, etc.

As opposed to a long time ago when it
was all about getting married young,      
and focusing on love of family, country,
religion, etc.

And yet, people are no happier now that
they get to focus on themselves so much.

The reason is because HAPPINESS is
all about the EFFORT one puts into
doing the DEEP INNER WORK on
himself or herself.  And unfortunately,
people THINK that a good life is a life
where they don’t have to expend EFFORT,
and unfortunately people simply DON’T
BELIEVE the truth which is that a huge
portion of happiness comes from working
on one’s attitude.

The happier you are, the more POSITIVE

an experience a woman is going to have

when around you.

The following quote comes from:

http://family-psychology.com/ratios-predicting-divorce-and-marital-dissatisfaction/

“Psychologists have carried out substantial research over the past several decades trying to understand the secrets of why some couples are able to stay together and others are not.

For instance, John Gottman, Ph.D., at the University of Washington, has studied over 2,000  couples, and he has had remarkable success in predicting which couples will make it and which  will not. Contrary to popular wisdom, one of his findings is that increased sex does not necessarily improve a relationship. 

He also found that financial problems do not always imply trouble for a couple. 

One of Gottman’s major findings is that couples who fight are not necessarily on the road to a breakup. In fact, frequency and intensity of fights do not correlate with marriage (dis)satisfaction.

Gottman makes the point that arguments may be constructive in building a long-term relationship because they help us to clarify our needs and increase mutual respect between partners. But whether the arguments will lead to a breakup or not depends on how the couple resolves conflicts.

Couples counseling or marital counseling is not necessary to learn these but it is helpful in avoiding common pitfalls while developing and practicing new skills.

Ratios Predicting Successful Marriages/Relationships – 5:1 during conflict, 20:1 otherwise.

One finding to emerge from the research is that couples are likely to succeed if they have a healthy balance between positive and negative interactions.

In fact, strong relationships have a five to one ratio– five parts positive interaction to one part negative while discussing a conflict. Couples who break up, on the other hand, tend to have more negative than positive interactions.

For successful, contented couples, the ratio of positive to negative interactions when not in a conflict discussion averages 20:1.

Our ability to draw on the good will and positive experiences during a conflict maintains respect, trust, and connection during conflict, seeing us through to a resolution or at least to an agreement to carry us through until the issue comes up again.”

So, that’s a 5 to 1 ratio when IN CONFLICT,

so that even when in conflict, the ratio of

positive to negative massively must be on

the side of the positive.

And when NOT in conflict, the ratio of

positive to negative is TWENTY to ONE!!!!

There is no way on EARTH that a guy can

do this if he is not ALREADY in a GOOD MOOD.

If you are constantly in a negative frame of mind,

it will DISTORT your perception of everything,

and it will lead to ENDLESS conflict with the

woman you meet, no matter how good she is.  

There is a great book, called The How
of Happiness, that I suggest everyone
read. It is one of the ONLY books on this
topic that is not full of gimmicks but rather
has taken the SCIENTIFIC METHOD to
its approach. 

I was delighted to find out how INSANELY

MUCH it has in common with some of my

own content, because for example,  
I explain how you don’t have to be a
JERK to show you are tough, or to attract
women,  and you don’t have to manipulate
women to get them interested in you, and
that in fact the better you are able to
experience POSITIVE EMOTIONS,
the easier it will be to attract women.

The reason why this is, is because people
want to feel RELAXED around others,
they want to feel GOOD.

A lot of guys mistake this with KISSING
UP to a woman, but KISSING UP TO
A WOMAN is actually doing the opposite
because it reeks of DESPERATION.

The fact is, when a guy is really worshiping
a woman out of a scarcity mentality, out of
desperation, out of fear of not being able
to find another woman, out of fear of thinking
that SHE is the sole provider of his self-esteem
and happiness, he is ACTUALLY giving off
a horrifyingly REPULSIVE “vibe” where
a woman can FEEL all those negative emotions
in him- those emotions can be DETECTED,
and they don’t feel good to be around.

On the OTHER HAND, when a man can
STILL be good to a woman, but it’s all
coming from a sense of HIS OWN HAPPINESS,
his own calm, and NOT his DESPERATION
for her, or his need for her, THEN a woman
LIGHTS UP around him.

Now, the thing is, when FIRST approaching
a woman, in a non party environment, you CAN’T
just go up to her in TOTAL EXTREME HAPPY
mode on the surface, or she will think you are nuts.

And this is where a lot of guys get mixed up
and confused.

You can’t just go up to a woman in the
bookstore and be fully REVEALING that
you are EXPLODING WITH HAPPINESS.

The reason is that people like that are SO RARE,
that a woman will just think something is wrong
with you.

So, in that FIRST MOMENT, just be DEAD
SERIOUS in your expression on your face.

Not angry.  Just stoic.  Showing no emotion.

Say whatever it is that you are going to say,
as your conversation opener, in that super
stoic-style tonality.

BUT THEN, once she is starting to TALK
to you, you should THEN reveal and unleash
the FULL INTERNAL POWER of your
EXPLODING SUNSHINE.

Take the conversation to the most inspiring
place, the funniest place, the most meaningful
place, the kindest place, the most interesting
place, MAKE THE CONVERSATION
DAMN POSITIVE, AND MAKE SURE
YOU MEAN IT WITH EVERY MORSEL
OF YOUR SOUL.

Man, you do this, and you are going to
have so many women at your fingertips,
you are going to need a new program from
me called HOW TO STOP WOMEN FROM
CONTACTING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE
TOO MANY CONSTANTLY BEGGING YOU
FOR YOUR ATTENTION ALL THE TIME.

We are brainwashed to think that acting mean,
tough, negative, etc, is somehow “cool”, that
being depressed is stylish, while being happy
is cheesy and for idiots.

NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM
THE TRUTH.

It’s EASY to get depressed, to be negative,
to be pessimistic. THAT is why so many
people frame it as COOL, because they
HAVE BEEN DUPED by their own
negative emotions to think that negativity
IS the right emotion.

But it ain’t.
In fact, if you ever see a knockout of a woman
who is constantly single, it just might be because
she is a really negative person, so she drives away
any normal guy, and she herself is repulsed by the
negative desperate guys.

Negativity IS REALLY A REPULSOR, even
if a woman is gorgeous on the outside, and
even if a guy has EVERYTHING ELSE
going on for him on the outside. 

Also, it is VITAL to realize, and this
is pointed out in The How of Happiness,
that one's EXTERNAL circumstances ONLY
account for 10 percent of one's sense
of happiness.

Yup, 10 percent.
This is why it is so important, if you
want to KEEP a woman attracted to you,
that you learn how to STAY happy in
general, otherwise when the initial
excitement you felt from getting her
wears off, your happiness will go away.

If your entire sense of happiness
depends on her and if you think
that without her, life will be
pointless, you won't be happy,
and THAT will definitely push
her away.      

On the other hand, if you learn how
to be deeply positive in your own way,
and feel a deep sense of meaning in
your life, then you will actually
enjoy her more, because you are
not expecting her to be the source
of all your positive emotions,
and of course this superior state
of mind that you are in will
also ATTRACT HER MORE TO YOU.

So, let me give you some tips for CHANGING
your INTERNAL STATE:

ONE: REFRAME

What I mean by this, is FIND A NEW
perspective on things that you think
are NEGATIVES or WEAKNESSES
about yourself or your life.

So, if you think you are too old for
a woman, just remember that most
women complain that the guys they
meet are emotionally immature, and
that tons of women CRAVE older men.

If you think you are too young for a woman,
just remember how IMPRESSIVE it will
be if you show that you actually HAVE
the maturity of an older man WHILE ALSO
being super young.

If you think you are too short, just
think about how the vast majority of
heart throbs in Hollywood are actually
shorter than average.

If you think you are too tall, just remember
that plenty of women will find themselves
feeling very feminine in your presence
and crave that masculine polar opposite
feeling that you will give her.

If you think that you are not rich enough,
remember that money does not PHYSICALLY
attract a woman, so you can easier know if a
woman that is with you is genuinely attracted
to you or not.    

There is ALWAYS another perspective,
but it is up to YOU to put the ENERGY
into FEELING that perspective.

I can tell you that most people simply
DO NOT PUT ANY EFFORT IN
to actually doing ANY reframing
in their mind.

It is INSANE.

It is like going to the gym and expecting
to get BIG MUSCLES by SITTING
on the bench press machine or STANDING
with the squat bar on you, and the author
of that book gives a similar analogy.

TWO:  BE AWARE OF THE NEGATIVITY BIAS

Rick Hanson, Ph.D., psychologist and Senior

Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley,

has done great work on this important topic.

In a nutshell, it is crucial to remember that our

minds play a TRICK on us:  The human mind

tends to be more PESSIMISTIC than the reality

of most people actually warrants.

The reason for this is because a LONG TIME

AGO, when humanity was out on the Serengeti,

it actually DID make sense to have this attitude,

there really WERE that many immediate dangers,

so it WAS helpful to instinctively be that pessimistic.

But this hard-wiring no longer helps us.

So, be being AWARE that the human mind automatically   

latches onto the NEGATIVE perspective very easily,

you can help CATCH yourself when this happens to you.

This leads to step THREE:

THREE: SAVOR THE GOOD STUFF

Hanson also explains how we as humans tend to

DISMISS good things that happen to us, rather than

SAVOR them.

By SAVORING the good things that happen to us,

no matter how small, we actually INCREASE

our ENJOYMENT of ALL the good things that

happen to us, so we start to really be able to

SOAK IN THE MAXIMUM JOY, AND THUS THE

MAXIMUM OPTIMISM.

And all this not only feels good, and not only

makes women want to be around you a whole

lot more, and not only makes you far more

resourceful in turning any negative into a

positive, but you also are actually far more

CONSISTENT with reality- the hard-wiring

towards negativity is the REAL distortion.

FOUR: HAPPINESS DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN

BURSTING WITH ECSTASY

Happiness can take many forms. Having a

sense of MEANING, for example, from something

or from some work that you do, from having

a hobby or a friendship – it can be different things

for different people -  the bottom line is that a

sense of meaning often gives people a very deep

and peaceful feeling even if that thing requires

a lot of work.

A sense of meaning also often gives you far more

energy for life as well.

FIVE: EXERCISE

As a former personal trainer, I can tell you that

EXERCISE is inextricably bound with your sense

of happiness and inner peace in a most PRIMAL

way.

The human body and mind are connected.

The body and mind were meant to work hard.

So, you MUST have exercise built into every day.

The biggest reason most people don’t exercise

is because they are too tired or they don’t have

time.

So here is what you should do if you are not

exercising and if those are the reasons why:

First of all, part of the reason you are tired is,

IRONICALLY, because you are not exercising.

Now, I am absolutely not saying that you should

go for some HARD-CORE workout if you are not  

getting enough sleep- which by the way, is also

important- get enough sleep- but my point is

that even a LITTLE exercise is A TRILLION TIMES

BETTER than no exercise.

Take a brisk walk around the block.

Go on a stationary bike.

Do some pushups, some standing squats.

Do SOMETHING- you will QUICKLY see how

MASSIVE of an effect this has on your sense

of inner peace, happiness, and you will see

how this improves your energy levels.

SIX: DO KIND THINGS FOR NO REASON
FOR TOTAL STRANGERS

The very ACT of doing this sends a
DIRECT SIGNAL to your brain that
YOU are living in ABUNDANCE,
that you are ABLE to do GOOD
for others.

It makes you feel POWERFUL and it
makes you feel GOOD.

It is a GREAT thing to do for your own
MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL STATE.

This is why I don’t like it when guys
say nasty things about women who
aren’t physically attractive, or who
will be rude or give the cold shoulder
to them.

It suggests a very DESPERATE state
of mind to one’s SELF, never mind that
is is kind of cruel.

Your MIND follows your ACTIONS.
Take the ACTIONS of a man who believes
he’s got it all, and the EMOTIONS of a man
that “has it all” then come as well.

This gets me to number seven:

SEVEN: PHYSICALLY CHANGE
YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

It sounds SOOOOOOOO CHEESY, but
doing things like SMILING actually DO
change your OWN emotions.

Now, like I said before, don’t START
your approach to a woman with a big
smile, but for your OWN self, in general,
DEFINITELY SMILE.  Do it for
YOURSELF, and then, of course, what
will happen is that your smile even when
around women will be the smile that
is from feeling good and not from
kissing up.

Don’t be like the masses who say and
think that this stuff is CHEESY.  

The very fact they think it is CHEESY
is why so FEW people MASTER these
skills even though they ARE THE VERY
SECRETS for MASSIVE SUCCESS.

Now, these are just SEVEN tips, and yet

they are just the tip of the iceberg of

what I can show you, ESPECIALLY as they
relate to approaching women, attracting
women, getting over fears, creating a
deep connection with women, and much,
much more.

Remember, when a woman experiences
what life is like with you in just a few
MINUTES of her first interaction with you,
she will then KEEP ON THINKING OF YOU
as she goes back to her regular life and her
regular social circle and keeps comparing
how much better she felt around YOU than
around ANYONE else.

And she will want you then more than EVER.

It all boils down to what is going on INSIDE
of you; it is about being the MASTER of
the internal emotions, especially as they
relate to interacting and attracting women.

And if you are reading this right now, and

want advice from someone who is not interested

in giving you the marketing slogans and the

b.s. but rather someone who has a BURNING

PASSION for the truth and for helping men

meet and attract a quality girlfriend for the

long term, send me an email letting me know

what it is you want:

Is it coaching on your inner game?

Is it advice on where to meet women?

Is it a question on how to approach women?

Do you want live coaching in a bootcamp?

Just let me know what it is you need, and I will

do my best to get back to you within 24 hours.  

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Till next time,

Michael Marks