The Secret Of "The Pick-Up That Wasn't There"

Many years ago, I introduced a revolutionary concept 

regarding how to approach and attract women.

At first, just about every single "pick up artist" on 

the PLANET thought it was a HORRIFYING idea,

but they never TESTED it, so they didn't know the

truth.

Ultimately, however, this concept that I had been 
using and teaching my clients was proven to be 
SO POWERFUL, that over the course of MANY
YEARS ultimately won over practically EVERY 
pick-up artist on the planet, so that by these days 
it has finally been proven as ONE HUNDRED 
PERCENT TRUE. 

So in case you haven't been following my work for years,

allow me to re-introduce this concept that I worked tooth

and nail for and fought an uphill battle for YEARS for

before finally it became clear to everyone that is was

indeed TRUE:

The BEST "pick up" happens in a way that feels NATURAL,

and SUBTLE. There is no feeling of "GAME" happening.

Which is where my years-old saying comes in: 

The best “pick-up” is actually the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

In other words, it is so NATURAL, it is really just a 

CONVERSATION between a MAN and a WOMAN,

that PRESERVES the natural underlying CHEMISTRY 

between man and woman, instead of repressing that chemistry.   

The whole problem stems from overcompensation, which

itself stems from insecurity. So the EXAGGERATION of 

any "game" strategy stems from feeling insecure, which leads

to the belief that "more is better" - which, as you probably 

know, is actually not true- it's not true for attracting women,

and it's not true for most things in life.  

So often, less is more. It's about being WISE in the 

APPROPRIATE use of "game" as opposed to just

pouring it on thick.  

So, with that in mind, let's begin the article:

***LETTER FROM A READER***     

Hey Mike,

You know, the biggest thing I've learned
from your articles is the maturity that
a real man must show, that is, if he
wants to get what you call "a great girl",
and how maturity, charisma, and humor
all must combine when attracting a
quality woman.

While I occasionally have women give
me "looks", that's about it- if I don't
approach them, they won't approach me.

About one month ago, I saw this
meltingly beautiful twenty-something
brunette with glasses at the Starbucks
inside the bookstore, (smart
looking beautiful brunettes are my
weakness!) she was working on her
laptop, and looked up when I walked by-
I knew I caught her attention, because
I could see it in her eyes, but I
still didn't say anything, and she
just went back to her laptop, as if
I didn't exist.

This was the story of my life,
and I would only go for the women
that chased me- which happened
less often than winning the lottery,
and usually this was with girls
who had plenty alcohol in them.

I never really had women who were
attractive strangers approach me,
so I never had the power of choice
with women. 

Women who are '10's never approach.
That would be like the bank giving
away money.

And so my confidence with women who
are strangers, like the girl at the
Starbucks inside the bookstore, isn't
that high. And yes, the bookstore
hottie, she was a 10, man.

I didn't want to let this particular
woman go, so after going through what
I would say to her for five minutes,
I finally said something, about her
laptop being good for the environment
because it had a green battery, but
all it got from her was a kind of
polite nod.

It's crazy man, because I could tell  
from her face, that the "look" was
gone, it was clear that after 5 minutes
of thinking and thinking and doing
nothing, I had shown the opposite
of confidence. 

Well, fast forward to last night-
I got on the subway train downtown and
saw a gorgeous brunette standing in
middle of the crowd, and I could
"hear" your message in my head,
about how the best women need the
combo of maturity, charisma, and
humor in the approach. 

I took immediate action, walking
right up to her, not knowing
what to say but the first thing
on my mind was something I read
in your materials about not starting
with "pick-up" vibes, I remember
reading an article you wrote about
the "pick up that wasn't there
is the ultimate pick-up".

So I started talking to her about
how all of us in this crowded train
are helping the environment, and that
we should get reimbursed by the government
for all this.

Just like you said- don't start the
conversation as a pick-up about her.

This was great Michael, as she opened
up wonderfully from this, she replied
with "Yeah, tell me about it, meanwhile
the government probably gets limos!"

Then I playfully teased her on being
hired by the city transportation to
attract men to take the train, which
I know was a compliment on her looks,
but like you said, I didn't start with
this, and I also made it funny and
emotionally relevant because I accused
her of pretending to be this innocent
passenger just like the rest of us
working stiffs, but that in reality
she was this devious actress who
actually pollutes a lot and that
I would reveal her secret.

I transitioned to building a connection,
when she told me she actually quit
a modelling job because she'd rather
actually work with real people, and
I found out she's a nurse- and we
ended up chatting about all the
real heroes in this world who are
regular people and who aren't
famous like actors or actresses.

I had to keep reminding myself that
this woman was for real, as in my
mind any woman this attractive
had to be either a stripper or
an actress. It always blows my
mind to meet a woman who is
attractive and has the character
as well, a "genuine gem" like
you say.

It grew into an organic, authentic
conversation, because I liked her
now as a personality (in addition
to her being smoking hot) as well,
and asking for her number before she
got off was easy, because I could
feel there was a connection, and
she smiled and not only wrote it
down but also told me to call her!

So I owe this all to you Mike, thanks
and I'll definitely be getting your
new set- I wish I had heard of you
ten years ago, I could have had a
great girl then with your help!

Peter T.

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks first of all for the kind words,
and for sharing your experience.

You're absolutely right regarding the
first woman you mentioned- the comment
you said to her was fine, but by WAITING
for five minutes around her before
actually SAYING anything, you went
from being THE MAN to being something
a lot less cool. 

Then, on top of that, there is the
issue of a woman not wanting to seem
EASY or 'cheap', so when she telegraphs
interest in you by even something as small
as looking at you, in a woman's world this
is all happening under a MAGNIFYING glass
because a woman's interest in a man gets
judged more than a man's interest in a
woman, because of the whole, "it's men
who actively pursue" stereotype in
our culture, so a woman, in order to
fit in to the culture, always tries
to be more subtle.

This is CRUCIAL to understand.

Being able to understand the subtleties in
communicating with women is a huge part of
that 'maturity' that you are referring to.

You have to understand that she must be
subtle, and she would appreciate it if
you are subtle as well, that's why
it's important that the approach is
not so OBVIOUSLY a 'pick-up', and this
is also why the ATMOSPHERE, or the "vibe"
of the interaction is more important
than the actual words.

This doesn't mean words don't count,
it means that words are just one part
of the attraction/the approach.

So if she's sending signals, and a guy
doesn't get them IMMEDIATELY, then she
will often shut down, PLUS if the guy
is not responding because he's not
confident, that will actually turn
her off as well.

It's especially meaningful to hear that
you LEARNED from this experience, and
applied what you learned on the train!

BRAVO on the way you approached her,
the subtleties were excellent:

1. Starting very neutral and indirect
yet still interesting and spontaneous
with the "situational" comment about
the crowded train and the environment.

2. Slowly transitioning to the next level,
giving her a clear indication of your
interest and having a bit of a sexual
undertone to it, with the comment about
her being hired to get guys to take
public transportation, yet you also
made sure that you were:

3. NOT kissing up, by keeping the comment
playful rather than worshiping her, by
saying she in fact is this devious actress.

4. You then built a more meaningful, deeper
connection, with the perspective you shared
on the "hidden heroes" of this world, that
not only was meaningful on its own, but also
served as a genuine compliment to her actual
character, and also showed what kind of
person you are as well.

5. I also like the fact you weren't afraid
to refer to yourself as a "working stiff"
because when COMBINED with the obvious
confidence and guts and charm you showed,
by then showing that you were NOT arrogant
it actually then shows in a subtle way that
you have MASSIVE worth and that you aren't
arrogant about it. 

This gets back to the opposite of being
the kind of guy who needs to overcompensate
for insecurities by saying how much of a
big shot he is. 

You IMPLIED GENUINE value by the whole
style of conversation, she already feels
there must be worth to you, and now because
you haven't actually said that MUCH about
yourself, you have also applied something
I speak about in my advanced materials,
known as using "minimum energy" by being
ultra-efficient and using exactly what
is required for the situation, and
nothing more.  

By not speaking more than you need to you,
and not talking too much about yourself,
(a little is important, but a lot is too much
of a good thing and works against you)
you then seem cooler and you also leave
some awesome MYSTERY about you.  
   
So that was an excellent job you did.

Today's newsletter gets into this and
many other important points too.

One of the great things about conducting
my Bootcamps is that I’m constantly seeing
the TRUTH of what works and what doesn’t
with attracting the women you want.

Allow me to share again how to actually
DEMONSTRATE to a woman that you have
a deep inner core confidence and comfort
in your own skin, as well as  compelling
personality, when you first APPROACH her:   

1. NEVER START A DAYTIME APPROACH
WITH GOING IN “DIRECT”

The fact of the matter is that women are
conditioned to NOT appear to be “easy”.

It’s the worst insult it seems, for them,
to be even remotely considered as trashy.
(In private, when she knows you already,
this can be fun of course for you both!)

SO, if you walk STRAIGHT UP TO A WOMAN
and begin to go into “pick up mode” during
the daytime, i.e. whether she is at a bookstore,
coffee shop, etc, you will usually get STRUCK
down.

It can make you think that women are mean
or something, but it’s all because in reality
most women are actually trying to show
you that they are classy!

This is because of CONDITIONING.

Going straight into “getting her” is
just “not something you do”.

There is a simple solution, however:
You must give a woman a PRETEXT for
the conversation, when you start out,
that has NOTHING TO DO WITH
“PICKING HER UP”.

This is why I say the best “pick-up” is actually
the pick-up that WASN’T THERE. 

From her point of view, it must seem like
the whole interaction was just so natural
and it just unfolded in a way that LED to
getting to know you and wanting to know
you more.

It was a “natural progress”, rather than forced.

This is what she must be able to tell herself,
and in fact, this DOES make a lot of sense,
because it means she wants to KNOW who
you are rather than just jump into bed with
you without knowing anything.

That’s why it’s important to start the interaction
with something that has nothing to do with
picking her up or demonstrating interest in
her, or in getting something from her, as
otherwise it’s putting the cart before the horse 
and triggers her alarms that this guy seems to be
only interested in one thing, and that also seems
desperate and a sign of being a low-value guy
as well, and definitely would make her low on
the totem pole of status in our society.

You can start the interaction with a million
things, as long as they are interesting so
that you even from the start are demonstrating
personality.  For example, you can start with
a comment about the situation, whether it
is about the book she is reading, the greeting
card she is choosing, or whether it’s the long
wait for the bus at the bus stop you are at,
or whether it’s the long line-up at the bank,
or a playful remark on the the contents of her
grocery cart. 

The first thing you say doesn’t have to be
AMAZING, (it’s great if it is, but it doesn’t
have to be) it just has to be INTERESTING
and not something that is too sexual
unless the environment is a wild party
atmosphere. 

All you are doing here is getting INTO the
conversation without getting shut DOWN.

Even the very WALK UP to her, should be
casual.  In fact, when you walk up to her,
let’s say in the bookstore or coffee shop, it
may be a good idea to let her sense your
presence for a moment or two, where
you can be checking out a book yourself
or sipping your beverage, and THEN
begin the interaction on the most casual
level, possibly with your body not even
facing her yet, just your face facing her.

The purpose of this is not to hide your approach,
but the opposite in fact, it's to actually give her
a moment to recognize that you are there, instead
of jolting her with a "surprise" out of nowhere.

2. STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
 
NOW, once you are IN the conversation, even
just a MINUTE into it, you are now “IN A
CONVERSATION” so NOW you can start to
INCREASE the intensity.

You should be facing her with your body now.

You can start to playfully tease her on what
she replied to your comment.  NOW is the time
to pull out your funniest, wittiest, most
intriguing comments.

All delivered in the right confident tonality.

As soon as she is emotionally engaged,
you are making IMPACT and she is
INSTINCTIVELY OPENING UP the
opportunity for you.

3. BUILD THE CONNECTION

After a few minutes of this, it’s time to get
DEEPER, and to learn more about her and for
her to learn more about you.  She will be
asking you questions and revealing things
about herself, and possibly she will be trying
to impress you to by qualifying herself a lot,
which is a great sign of her interest.

You should be truly listening to her, and
paying attention to her body language as
well.  Try to understand the core of what
she is really saying, because most people
actually communicate far more with their
body language than just with their words,
so her facial expressions and tonality will
tell you so much more about what she is
truly trying to communicate with you.

She could be telling you about her childhood,
but what she is really saying is that she likes
you, or what she is really saying is that she
values her family, etc, etc.

LISTENING in this deeper way is a virtually lost art,
and it’s one of the most important skills you can
have.

Great listeners make EVERY person feel totally
understood because they are genuinely listening
without bias.  They are truly open to learning
new things instead of just listening for things
that reinforce what they already feel/think.

They don't automatically reject everything
just because it requires trying to understand
something outside their "comfort zone".

4. AMPLIFY THE SEXUAL VIBE

At this point, you can amplify these "vibes"
by looking her over in a subtle way that still
shows class, by the tonality of your voice,
the subtle expression on your face, the
super confidence in your eye-contact as you
hold her hand for slightly longer than normal,
when saying “nice to meet you”, etc.

And you can now FLIRT big-time too.
i.e. If she says something like “what time
can I call you at night” you can say
“I’m an all night man” with a smirk.
Etc.

5. WHEN WORKING THE “CLUB” SCENE,
YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT INTO PLAYFUL.

In a club, the very CONTEXT itself is designed
for socializing, so you don’t need an excuse
to approach.  A woman doesn’t feel like a
“slut” or “easy” for chatting to you in a club,
because it’s DESIGNED for chatting, and it’s
socially approved, and there are standards
for “coolness” in clubs (which is why clubs
work so hard to RETAIN their status as cool).

So you can skip the first step of making it
clearly not a pick-up. In a club, it’s fine
to be meeting strangers, but you MUST
do it with FLAIR. The standard of fun and
energy and flair is higher in a club.  The
truth is, this is damn easy FUN, but the
hard part for beginners is learning to
GET RID OF FEELING SELF-CONSCIOUS
and to stop repressing themselves.

You have to let your FUN SIDE GO FREEEEE.

6. VOCAL TONALITY

The amazing thing is that your TONALITY is like
the DNA that indicates to a woman EVERYTHING 
about what you are feeling at the moment.

And if you don’t feel sure or secure or confident
or playful, it will SHOW in your tonality.

So, for example, right now, can you say
“TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR” with
TOTAL CONVICTION?????????

The answer is probably YES, right?

Because you BELIEVE it’s true, you are
able to SAY it with total conviction.

There are no doubts or fluctuations in your tonality
when you say that sentence.

Well, you must speak with SIMILAR conviction
when chatting up a woman you want to attract.

Notice, how when you’re talking to a woman
you are interested in, your voice may suddenly
LOSE this ‘TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, level of ZERO self-doubt.

PRACTICE, even in the mirror, as if you are
chatting to a woman, and notice how you
go OFF from the “TWO PLUS TWO EQUALS FOUR”
level of conviction, and then SLAP YOURSELF
every time you go OFF that level of conviction,
and get BACK to that level of total belief in
what you are saying.

Women, especially attractive women, have
NO INTEREST in men who are not sure of
themselves.  

This has sexual connotations, it has life skills
connotations, it has survival connotations, all
of them SUBCONSCIOUS and all of them
IMPORTANT if you want to attract a woman.

7. ALL ROADS LEAD TO FEELING GOOD

The cardinal rule of the interaction
is that it must feel good at all times.

Don't let anything destroy that vibe.

During your initial approach, you have to
expect that women will say and do all kinds
of what seems like strange stuff, and you
most not let this ruin the vibe.

Deep down, she is hoping you "GET" this.
She is hoping you UNDERSTAND this.

Usually, her remarks of this sort just boil
down to her trying to show you she is somehow
“cool” or that she is “not easy”

That’s fine, and you should understand that.

As long as she is not DISRESPECTING you,
it’s all good.  However, any sign of disrespect
and you should leave her to waste some other
guy’s time.

At the same time, when you are not feeling
secure, it’s easy to see lots of innocent things
as actually being an insult.

Let me give you an example:

Let’s say you approach a group of women at
a club with a playful opener, i.e. who would
make a better husband, Fred Flintstone or
Barney Rubble, etc, etc, and while most
women will totally get it and smile and
have fun with this, the occasional woman
might say something like this:

“This is good, do you ask this to all the women
you meet?”

Just realize she is not being mean, she is either
just being playful in her own way, or she is
trying to show you she is smart because she
knows what’s up, or whatever. 

It could also be that she is trying to see if
all you have is that one “line” and you are
a “one trick pony” with nothing ELSE to
offer personality-wise. 

It doesn’t matter, because ALL ROADS LEAD
TO HAVING A GOOD TIME, and ALL ROADS
LEAD TO YOU CONTINUING TO BE “THE MAN”
WHO IS UNSTOPPABLE.’

So what you should do to this kind of thing is
say, “That’s awesome you got that!” and then
CONTINUE to keep the fun conversation
going on, i.e. “Barney is the kind of guy that 
doesn’t show off, yet he masterminds 
EVERYTHING, and you know BETTY is
having the wild nights with him, that’s what 
they don’t show on camera!”

The number one principle is to go WITH the
flow, there is no real debate, you instead
interpret it everything as something GREAT,
and then CONTINUE the interaction and
go further into attracting her.

This actually shows superior social skills and
shows confidence and leadership, all at once.

8. STATUS

Women feeling you are a man of status is another thing
that will MASSIVELY help you with many women.

A woman feeling this about you has to do with
a great many variables, it is not just about
money or fame. It includes the way you carry
yourself, body language, confidence, your
ability to lead a group, etc.

So there is always a way to make IMPACT
in this department.  

I don’t believe you should ever LIE, what
you should do though is give yourself JUSTICE.

So if a woman asks what you do, and it’s early
in the convo, and let’s say you are a teacher,
you might say, “I BUILD THE FUTURE”.

And if she asks, “What you do you mean?”
you might reply with,“I shape the minds of
our future, the scientists, Nobel prize winners
of tomorrow, the men and women of tomorrow,
the artists, the workers, the politicians, the
doctors, everyone”.

Being INDIRECT and giving DETAILS like this
add emotional IMPACT and DRAMA and mean
so much more than just saying the word
“teacher”.

The whole “game” of attraction is about
CONTROLLING THE PSYCHOLOGICAL FRAME
while being 100% HONEST and true to
yourself. 

The truth is that most VALUE is arbitrary, it’s
all about who is better able to FRAME that
value.  Look at cigarettes, they have ZERO
value, in fact they are destructive, but they
succeeded in making people think they are
COOL to millions of people.

And if you are reading this right now, you
can probably see that I am all about giving
you the steps for taking action with women,
no matter where you meet them.

No hype, no gimmicks, just solid CONTENT.

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If you want to know how to how to meet and attract 
a fantastic woman, DEFINITELY go HERE:

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If you are looking for my LATEST proven strategies
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Prepare For Ultimate Success When Approaching Women

Today I want to share with you a super EASY and
yet super EFFECTIVE strategy for improving your
success when it comes to approaching women
ANYWHERE.

The key is to do what I am about to say LONG BEFORE
the moment of opportunity arises, so that you don’t have
to start THINKING and the strategy can then go into
effect almost instinctively since you put the work in
long before.  In other words, you will be prepared for
when that gorgeous beauty appears.

You can do this at night so that you are ready for
approaching women the next day.

What you should do is VISUALIZE in your mind a
situation where you may realistically find a woman
you’d like to chat to.  Choose one specific location
that has a high chance of you finding a woman there,
and that has some opportunity for conversation.

So it could be some kind of local market, it could be
a bookstore, it could be a coffee shop, it could be
some fun event, etc, etc. Choose one and make it
as specific as possible. 

Making it as specific as possible helps take 
out the UNKNOWN factors, so that you are 
as truly prepared psychologically as possible
for when the real event occurs, since none of 
it will be shocking because you already  
pictured it all.

Then, think about EVERYTHING you might say
to her as an opening to the conversation, whether
it’s a comment on something she is doing or on
the situation she is in, or even a comment that
is intriguing or playful about something UPBEAT
or fun that is in the news.

DECIDE on what it will be, make it SPECIFIC.

Now, visualize her REACTION, think about all
the different things she MIGHT say.  Remember
that most women are in fact VERY social and
are NOT mean-spirited, even if she does feel
the need to test whether you are serious or not.

And think about all the DETAILS now, including
how you are FEELING. Often, just PICTURING
all this is enough to get your heart racing, and
that’s OKAY.  The idea is to experience it all
BEFORE it happens, so that you will NOT be
overwhelmed when indeed the REAL approach happens.

Picture how you might react to what SHE says
back to you, and what you might say in return.

It doesn’t MATTER if what you PICTURE ends
up being DIFFERENT from what actually happens,
whether what you pictured is different from what
she says or from what you say. 

The more work you do beforehand, the less
work it will be later.  Again, this is
not just about "what to say" but rather
it also about going through all the
EMOTIONS you may experience.

The more vivid the picture you create in
your mind beforehand, the more you will
GENUINELY experience the emotions.

So remember to also picture what she might
LOOK like, what she might be WEARING,
and remember what the details of the
environment around you might be, and
what it might sound like.  For example,
there might be the sound of a crowded
bus or train or cafe humming with activity
and people chatting in the background.

Be READY for all this. 

The real key here is to both prepare yourself
psychologically  as well as technically in
terms of having SOMETHING in mind that you
can work with as the theme for your conversation
with her.

Also, THINK about how you might incorporate
some of the powerful things you learn from my
material.  For example, SLOWING down your
pace of delivering the words. Focusing on
LISTENING to the real meaning behind her
words, so you can give a powerful response.
Starting casually, and building to a deeper
connection. 

Remembering also that humor requires a bit
of risk-taking, but it should be INTELLIGENT
risk-taking.  LEADING the interaction and not
expecting the woman to be the one to ask for
your number, and not expecting the woman to
be the one to suggest you continue the conversation
over a coffee, remember it has to be YOU leading
the INITIAL "courtship" between you and a woman.

These are just SOME of the important things
that you might keep in MIND as you mentally
PREPARE long before the actual moment
of opportunity arises.

It’s also important, that if you are anxious that
things might somehow go "WRONG" (I put
wrong in quotes, because there is no wrong,
in the same way a sports athlete is not "wrong"
if he doesn’t score a goal, he is only "wrong" if
he doesn’t play his best) you should actually
EXPERIENCE the anxiety BEFOREHAND.

Picture it ALL. If you fear that you might panic,
get that panicky feeling NOW rather than later.
Soak in that feeling again and again and again,
picturing it all, till you burn up all the panic
energy you got inside of you and you start
to feel calm again.

The key to success with women is not to leave
it all up to LUCK.  Instead, you must be prepared
from long BEFOREHAND. 

What you have just read is POWERFUL advice,
and yet it barely scratches the SURFACE of
all the incredible strategies you will find in my
programs.

As you can see from this newsletter, the MIND
is the most POWERFUL resource you have for
skyrocketing your success with women.  Most
men NEVER learn how to best USE their mind,
so instead of using their mind, their mind instead
controls THEM and takes over, and often
SABOTAGES their results with women.

Become the master of your MIND in all the
ways that apply to attracting women, or your
mind will control YOU.

Unless a man understands that, he is destined
to suffer infinitely. If he does NOT understand
this, it doesn't even matter if he HAS a harem
of women, eventually he will LOSE them all, and
not only this, he will drop to the depths of the
abyss when it comes to loneliness, neediness, and
desperation.     

If you can fully appreciate the GRAVITY of
these words, I seriously suggest you get my
most powerful program on this topic of how
to ensure your MIND is programmed
for success with women.

The program is called WARRIOR WITHIN because
it's about developing your self WITHIN for
success with women.

This program is especially important for attracting
a woman long-term, because there is no way to
FAKE the right behaviors with a woman long-term.
Instead, you have to really BE "THE MAN" on
this deepest level. A quality woman is searching
out your personality for this from the first
instant she meets you. She’s going to be looking
for the things you will learn in this program.

It’s at:

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And if you haven't downloaded my latest program,
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Biggest Secret To Understanding And Succeeding With Women Today

If you are a man who has ever wondered
WHY things are the way they are when
it comes to dating and attracting women
today, then I believe this newsletter may
be the most important thing you have
ever read on the topic.

Knowing this “WHY” element is a HUGE
part of being able to do the “WHAT” element
in order to GET the kind of woman you want.

So here we go:

One of the BIGGEST shocks I had when I
started out approaching women for the purpose
of dating them is that almost EVERY SINGLE
WOMAN I would meet, would do at least
SOMETHING very early on that I found
downright DISRESPECTFUL.

I didn’t even know at the time that this is
something that just about EVERY MAN
goes through with women.

So let me give you some examples of things
I am talking about, because I want it to be
really clear. Also, all these women that
I am mentioning were not some kinds of
EXTREME CASES, these were typical
attractive women, with normal jobs
ranging from teachers to lawyers to
secretaries to entrepreneurs to computer
programmers to waitresses etc, etc, etc.

And  in GENERAL, these women were
NOT malicious, not mean-spirited, and
in fact in GENERAL were very warm,
sensitive, and giving people.

On one first date, a particular woman would
start talking about some male celebrity from
TV and ESPECIALLY TRY TO KEEP HINTING
TO ME that she found him very attractive.

This might sound like nothing, but this was
coming from a woman who was EXTREMELY
insecure and actually thought I was possibly
more interested (I wasn’t at all) in other women
crossing the street when we were in the car
stopped at a light at the intersection.

So I say this to make it clear that anyone who
was so insecure about those things would clearly
understand NOT to “press someone’s buttons”
by trying to stir a little jealousy.

Again, I want to make it CLEAR that OTHERWISE,
this woman actually was a VERY SENSITIVE
woman who was thoughtful and caring and
nurturing.

Another woman, early on the very first conversation,
tried to imply she was only interested in men with
certain Titanic-sized anatomical proportions. 

As crazy as this sounds, this woman also turned
out to be a very NON-SUPERFICIAL person
who was extremely WARM and GIVING.

Another two women, who kept on telling me how
IMPOSSIBLE it was to find a loyal guy, shared
a particular thing in common: Right after being
physically intimate (I try to speak with class here)
they started talking about how HOT certain
celebrities were, both MALE and FEMALE.

And both of these women would have been
SEVERELY HURT had I started speaking
about how hot I thought Megan Fox was
or something like that, especially RIGHT
AFTER DOING THE DEED WITH THEM!

I could go on and on with the REAL REPORTS
from OTHER guys who have told me their own
stories. One guy told me how a woman he was
out with, on a first date, everything was going
GREAT, and then she suddenly called him a
NEANDERTHAL, and not in a “cute” or “nice”
way, because he was TALL.

To me, that is really insane, because if
anything, being TALL is supposed to give
a guy an ADVANTAGE, not a DISADVANTAGE,
with women, right?

And no matter HOW PERFECT a guy was,
in terms of his job, his income, his looks,
his age, his background, NO MATTER
WHAT, I would hear from guys how women
would FIND SOMETHING TO TRY TO GET
UNDER THESE GUYS’ SKINS.

So what the F is going on, right?

We all know that as MEN, we do NOT
act this way toward WOMEN we WANT!

This is the kind of stuff that really makes
a lot of men REALLLLLY ANGRY.

So let me explain to you what is going on,
because it is ONE FREAKY, MASSIVE,
SOUL-SEARING REVELATION.

It’s because women want to PRESERVE
their sense of DIGNITY AND POWER
when they FEEL they are going to actually
be getting VERY VULNERABLE and
VERY NAKED and VERY PHYSICAL
with you VERY SOON.

You see, because we are living in an age
of INSANITY (more on this later below)
where LOVE, DEDICATION, FIDELITY,
LOYALTY, COMMITMENT, TEMPERANCE
IN SEXUALITY, and FAMILY VALUES are
often considered UNCOOL (for men and for women)
and a form of IMPRISONMENT, most women
FEEL they can’t be COOL and immediately also
show a high value for LOVE, LOYALTY, AND
OLD-SCHOOL TRADITIONAL VALUES.

They are afraid if they do that, then that is
the same as saying all they want is to be
barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen and
to never have the vote again.

So, because women feel like they are going
to be SURRENDERING everything they have
physically to you, this is their way to RECLAIM
some balance, some power, some dignity.

If a woman REALLY is not interested in you,
she would just GO AWAY, or ignore you,
she would not put in the EFFORT to
ENGAGE you on any level whatsoever.

When you really want to make someone go
away, you IGNORE them, right?

But it's precisely because a woman feels
she is going to get VERY INVOLVED with you
that she DOES this stuff!!!!!

Of course, there should be NO NEED to have to
do this between two people who GENUINELY
love and respect each other, right?

BUT THAT IS THE WHOLE PROBLEM.
LOVE AND RESPECT and BALANCE
AND TEMPERENCE are NOT COOL
ANYMORE.

Everything is on HIGH GEAR, ULTRA
MODE, ALL THE TIME.

It’s part of our culture.
FAST food.
FAST SERVICE.

LOTS OF SUGAR IN EVERYTHING.
LOTS OF FAT.
LOTS OF SALT.
LOTS OF NUDITY.

LOTS OF PROMISES FOR HOW TO
GET RICH QUICK.

LOTS OF NIGHTCLUBS AND ONLINE
DATING SITES WHERE WOMEN AND
MEN CAN FIND AN INSTANT ONE-NIGHT
STAND.

LOTS OF ADS IN YOUR FACE,
AND IN YOUR EARS, EVERYWHERE.

People have become lazy since they are
bombarded in our culture with messages
GLORIFYING PERSONAL INDULGENCE
WITHOUT ANY LIMITS WHATSOEVER.

Of course, in the same way that too much salt,
sugar, and fat are DESTROYERS, so too is
having an imbalance when it comes to sex,
love, and romance. It has to be a BALANCE
between them, it can’t be too much of one.

So, there are two things to TAKE from all this.

One thing is that, if a woman you’ve just met
or approached or recently started dating suddenly
starts to try to get on your nerves and under your SKIN,
to “push your buttons” so to speak, you should realize
that VERY OFTEN this means she actually is VERY
INTERESTED IN GETTING PHYSICAL WITH YOU.

Therefore, you should not be pissed off, or
angry, or upset in any way.  In fact, you
might even want to calmly look at her
lovingly and tell her the truth with
these words:

"You love me."  

At that point, when you say those words
in a calm, loving, confident way, she is
extremely likely to MELT before you.

The second thing to take from all this is that
JUST BECAUSE SHE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU,
DOES NOT MEAN YOU SHOULD GO FOR IT!!!

And THIS is where I take a VERY DIFFERENT
APPROACH than the pick up artist community.

You see, I am not interested in teaching guys
just how to get physical with women, as
that is like teaching people how to find
food in a BUFFET.  Our current society is
a BUFFET when it comes to that stuff.

There is no PROBLEM finding the physical.

The real goal is how to find a QUALITY
woman that is the TOTAL PACKAGE,
a woman that you are attracted to, a woman
that is kind, intelligent, and that will
ENRICH YOUR LIFE, and that will be a
great partner and possibly a great mother
as well.

And even though all these women who
DEEP DOWN don’t really mean to be
nasty when they try to get under your
skin before they get naked with you,
the fact is these kinds of women STILL
DON’T GET IT. 

The fact is, a woman should be STRONG
ENOUGH to RESIST the crazy culture
that we live in, and to VOICE her REAL
THOUGHTS and TO LIVE THE WAY
SHE REALLY BELIEVES.

So if a woman feels she WANTS genuine
love, if a woman WANTS deep respect,
if a woman wants a man who REALLY
cares for her, she should not be afraid to
VOICE THAT, to CHAT ABOUT THAT,
and to put in the work to SEE what you are
like, and BE CAREFUL about who she
dates.

If a woman is TOO WEAK to do the right
things, that the ONLY WAY she can live her
life is by jumping into bed with you before
she really knows you well, but also making
sure to INSULT you first, she is going to be
a woman who has a very big ISSUE in her life
with you whenever it comes to this particular
issue of TREATING YOU AS A MAN WITH
RESPECT.

She may treat you very WELL in just about
EVERY SINGLE AREA, but when it comes
to a very subtle but important area of you
being her MAN, in the greatest sense of
that word, she will falter.

This is why you must TRULY be "THE MAN"
and INSIST on 100% total and absolute RESPECT.
(I'm not saying to be a tyrant or ask for perfection,
but in the general sense of TOTAL RESPECT
for you as HER MAN, yes, you must NOT
compromise on this issue.)    

Because deep down, she has ISSUES
regarding being PROUD to LOVE and
RESPECT AND BE TOTALLY LOYAL
to her man, and what will then happen is
a NEVER-ENDING SERIES OF PROBLEMS
whenever this issue rears its head.

So, for example, because she is not
COMFORTABLE with TRADITIONAL VALUES,
she may very well feel it’s “okay” to flirt with
some other guy at work. She may feel it’s “okay”
to go for “drinks” with some guy who claims
he is just a friend, since, after all, as a “modern
INDEPENDENT WOMAN who is not barefoot
and pregnant” she can “DO WHATEVER SHE
LIKES, she can INDULGE TO NO LIMITS
on whatever she wants to do, since she is
the one in control”, right?

For the pick up artist community that just
wants to get physical, they don’t care about
these things.

But for the men who actually want women
as life-long partners, for the men who have
real love for women, for the men who want
to raise families, such women are going to be
DISASTERS.

The fact that these women may still be
sensitive, caring people in all the OTHER
respects does not help you when she is
off CHEATING with another guy.

But again, to the pick up artist community,
there is no such thing as cheating, there 
is only sex or no sex, that’s it.

This is why I created get a GREAT girl.
It’s about getting the RIGHT woman.

This is why, for example, in my program
WARRIOR WITHIN, I discuss, amongst
MANY, MANY, MANY VITAL THINGS,
I discuss how to DETECT a woman’s values
and her character IMMEDIATELY, so that
you can SCREEN OUT the wrong women
right away and so that you can detect the
RIGHT WOMEN as well.

By the way, it’s an interesting irony that
even the most DIE-HARD pick up artists
seem to “see the light” and eventually end
up not only giving up the whole pick up
artist thing but actually going in the opposite
direction to an EXTREME and talking about
TRUE LOVE and then having children, etc.

I don’t do that.
I don’t believe in TRUE LOVE in the
stereotypical sense.

I believe in a shared PROMISE and a shared
PASSION.

A man and woman who have PASSION
physically for each other, and who SHARE
DEEP CORE VALUES, including of course
the FAMILY VALUES, as nature really
brought men and women together to mate,
and to feel strongly enough about each other
to stick around together to raise the kids,
at least for a little while, and after that,
as human beings we can use our creativity
to maintain the passion. (I get into that
as well as many other important topics in
my book “Get A Great Girl” on my site.)

Now here is the thing:
Life is not perfect.
Human beings are not perfect.
There is no ABSOLUTE perfection.

So you have to use a bit of DISCRETION
in how much of a PURIST you want to be
when applying these principles.

This is also something I incorporate into
my programs and materials, which is
the reason I have so many different
materials, to cover ALL the possibilities
and ALL the strategies.  

So, for example, a woman might be
scoring a 90 percent with you and
just be engaging in a TOUCH of the
problems discussed, and she might
be a woman who can be REDEEMED
with a bit of an education from you.

But I can tell you that if you are finding
yourself having to TEACH A WOMAN all the
time how to behave, she is the WRONG WOMAN,
and also to be honest with you, if you ARE
going to try to show a woman how to behave,
that TOO is an art, because you can’t just
criticize someone, as it comes across as
mean and it also comes across as insecure,
which are both very counter-productive, so
you have to be very gentle, very humble,
very loving, and yet at the same time
you have to be CLEAR.

Now, get ready for THIS:

There ARE a FEW women around who DO
understand alllllllllllllllllllllllll
this stuff that I have written here.

They are RARE, damnnnnnnnnn rare, but
they are not so rare that you will not still
find them no matter where you are, IF
you look hard enough.

And the good news is this: Since there are
so FEW men who UNDERSTAND all this,
you will have NO COMPETITION AT ALL.

In fact, the MORE that the pick up artist
and sex-obsessed culture GROWS, the
MORE PRECIOUS you become to those
super-quality women that are around.

The REAL “underground society” today
is not that society comprised of the
sex-obsessed zombies, but rather is
comprised of those wise men and women
who see our culture for the insanity that
it has morphed into over the past few decades.

(The reasons for this are something I would
gladly discuss another time, but it has
a lot to do with the human tendency
to need more and more stimulation to
get the same emotional effect, so the
solution is to actually get LESS
of the “over-saturation” style stimulation,
which ultimately forces the emotions to
get more sensitive, stronger, and 
require LESS of a “hit” to get stimulated.)  

And if you are reading this right now and
you are serious about getting a QUALITY
woman, then I suggest you get my most
advanced program geared ESPECIALLY
for this goal. 

It’s called WARRIOR WITHIN, because
it’s all about what is INSIDE of you as
opposed to you putting on some ACT.

It contains 8 DVDs and is the LIVE FOOTAGE
of my SEMINAR on this topic where men came
from several different COUNTRIES to attend.
      
It’s at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

If you would like a private consultation
with me, it would be my pleasure to serve
you and give you the very best of all my
experience in this field.

For a consultation, please email me directly at
michaelmarks@getagreatgirl.com

Similarly, if you would like me to
speak with your organization, just
let me know. 

If you are new here, welcome aboard, and
you can find out about ALL my programs
by going here:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/catalogue.php

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why Good Men FAIL With Women, And The SOLUTION To This

Today, I want to really help clear up and SOLVE

something that used to DRIVE ME CRAZY and

really hold me back from success with women.

I'm hoping this will help guys out.

So here we go:

On one hand, we all learn as children what

it means to be a GOOD PERSON.  

There’s even a saying that goes along the lines of,

“All I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten”.

In many ways, it’s true.  Kindness. Sensitivity.

Honesty. Etc, etc.

All great things.

And if you’re like me all, you probably heard

a million times when growing up, that women

just want to meet a NICE GUY.

And then, when it came to REALITY, it really

seemed like that ALL WENT OUT THE WINDOW

when it came to attracting women.

I would see women go for ABSOLUTE JERKS.

I would see guys show what seemed like VERY

LITTLE TO NO SENSITIVITY to women,

even back in high school. 

The guys who got results with the most attractive

women would TEASE women, would NOT

be walking on eggshells around women, and

would be playful with women, and even go

so far as to ANNOY a lot of women in a way

where the women would first say things like,

“You’re such an ass!” and then end up

DATING THOSE GUYS AND SLEEPING

WITH THOSE GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I couldn’t figure it out.

For a while, I thought it was simply that these

guys were in some way “exceptions” to the norm.

I thought maybe these guys were exceptionally

rich, or good looking,  or just exceptionally lucky

that somehow a really attractive woman loved

them in SPITE of these guys’ INSENSITIVE

personalities!

I went on for YEARS trying to be a perfect

NICE GUY with women, showing ABSOLUTE

respect in EVERY WAY, including every

politically correct way as well, and what I mean

by politically correct is that I made sure that

the SEX stuff was the LAST thing I would

be hinting toward or seriously considering

in any near future, since after all, women

publicly seemed to be complaining that all

men just wanted the physical, and how

all men were psychos, and how women just

wanted to meet a man who could see them

in a NON-SEXUAL way.

That really got me NOWHERE WITH WOMEN.

So one day, after being treated like crap by

a particular woman for several YEARS,

the old beliefs I had about women DIED and

a NEW VERSION of me was born, with

NEW BELIEFS.

The NEW beliefs were that women actually

WANTED TO GET PHYSICAL WITH MEN

WHO DIDN’T BUY INTO ALL THAT PREVIOUS

BULLSHIT THAT I WAS TAUGHT ABOUT WOMEN.

So, after going for over 12 years in utter hell

with women, I suddenly found that I had more

attractive women at my fingertips than I could

EVER have time for.

AND JUST ABOUT ANY GUY WITH BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS

CAN DUPLICATE WHAT I DID.

And believe me, I do NOT say this with arrogance;

I say it because of the WAY that I turned things

around. It was simply by CUTTING OUT ALL THE BULL(*&^

I WAS DOING TO CONVINCE WOMEN THAT I WAS A GOOD GUY.

I was super simple with women: I would approach

them DIRECTLY, I wouldn’t SMILE, I wouldn’t

give COMPLIMENTS, I wouldn’t do ANYTHING

nice, I would instead actually do everything

in my POWER to HOLD BACK FROM DOING NICE

THINGS!!!!

And I really MEANT it.

I was not faking.

I really BELIEVED in what I was doing,

I really BELIEVED that women did not

enjoy all that "extra nice" treatment.

12 years of BAD results finally

got me to shed my previous beliefs!

I wasn’t ABUSIVE AT ALL, but I was NOT NICE.

I didn’t BUY anything for women.

I didn’t give compliments.

I really didn’t do ANYTHING, I would just

find some NON-COMPLIMENTARY excuse

to talk to a woman and after a few minutes,

suggest we chat some more and meet up again

IF I FOUND THEM WORTHY.

Often, I would find out something about a

woman in my first conversation with her,

and then tell her things would NOT work out,

and try to END IT THERE.  

I meant it honestly, I was not trying to play a game
or be manipulative.  I honestly felt that I was not
interested any longer in any woman who did not 
meet my standards of behavior, even if they were
VERY high standards that I insisted upon. 

The irony is that these women, would then

REFUSE TO BE REJECTED, and try to

CONVINCE ME WHY I SHOULD KEEP

GIVING THEM A CHANCE.

So, whereas for over 12 years, I kept

trying to CONVINCE WOMEN to treat me well,

to go out with me, to love me, by treating

women like GOLD, now I was getting women

fighting to be with me by me NOT TRYING

TO ATTRACT THEM, and in fact often women

would become even MORE attracted after I

had REJECTED THEM.

Again, I was not TRYING to impress women.

And when I rejected a woman, it was not

a "tactic" to attract her, it was the

way I genuinely felt.

So all this just made me very upset with women,

because it made me feel that they could not

appreciate love and kindness, that they could

not appreciate a good thing when they had it.

Now, I was actually WRONG in my assessment

of women, but you can’t blame me for not understanding

it at the time.

The reason I was WRONG was because most women

are NOT ACTUALLY ATTRACTED to abuse.

However, although women are not attracted to

abuse, the problem is that men were/are told an

EXAGGERATED CASE OF HOW BAD THE

SITUATION REALLY WAS/IS FOR WOMEN WHEN

IT COMES TO HOW THEY ARE TREATED BY MEN.

If you listen to all the women’s programs out there,

you would think that every friggen man is a PSYCHO,

A RAPIST, A MURDERER, A SICK IN THE HEAD

JERK.

If you happened to have gone to a liberal political science

program that covered women’s issues like I did, you would

have been BOMBARDED with messages about how men

are responsible for every single terrible thing on the planet

for all of history.   It’s as if women never experience any

emotion like hate, rage, jealousy; as if all women are just

and fair.

So, OF COURSE, growing up in THAT environment,

if a man BELIEVES all that stuff, he feels he has an

OBLIGATION to show his DEVOTION to a woman

at a level that in REALITY would actually just freak

a woman out and make a woman feel too much pressure.

The REALITY is that not only are women doing

WELL, but in many cases are doing BETTER THAN

MEN when it comes to EVERYTHING, from health,

to relationships, to career, to education.  Women live

longer, fare better with break-ups, and represent a higher

percentage of students enrolled in university.

And if a woman is ATTRACTIVE on top of being SMART,

she is TRULY kicking ASS. 

So, a woman like that is kind of like the SHE-HULK

in terms of POWER and CONFIDENCE.

She KNOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWS

she can get a man to LOVE her.  She KNOOOOWWS

she can get men to get physical with her. 

She KNOOOOOOOOOOOWS she can get it ALL,

contrary to the friggen B.S. told to ALL OF US MEN

as kids!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, what this means is

that if you REALLLLLLLLLLLY WANT TO BE NICE        

to a woman, you have to think about what actually

IS rare for her, what IS hard for her to find, to get

in a man.

And let me tell you what that thing is:

IT IS BEING A CHALLENGE FOR HER.

When I first realized this, it PISSED ME OFF.

I wanted women to APPRECIATE THE FACT

I WAS SUCH A DEVOTED GOOD GUY WHO

WOULD NOT CHEAT ON A WOMAN!

I WANTED WOMEN TO APPRECIATE

THAT I WAS NOT THE SCUM OF THE

EARTH WHO WOULD LIE TO WOMEN,

TELL THEM THAT I LOVED THEM,

AND THEN GO CHEAT ON THEM,

LIKE SO MANY MEN I KNEW.

Now, don’t get me wrong.

Women DON’T want guys to cheat on them,

but the FACT IS, most women do NOT have

this as the BIG PRIORITY ON THEIR MIND,

since they KNOW THEY CAN GET A FAITHFUL

MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Or at least, they think they can, because women

don’t understand just how polygamous men

are on a hard-wired level, and most men, unless

they feel loved, appreciated, and respected,

will not stay faithful unless their self-esteem
is in the toilet, or unless there is some other
special situation occurring. (For example,
the man simply abides by a code of faithfulness
no matter what, and that is very, very rare.)

So, when you see an attractive woman, you must

realize what is PRECIOUS TO HER is not the

same thing as what is precious to most men.

Attractive women really don’t care all that

much about you being faithful and not cheating.

They figure they FOR SURE ALREADY HAVE

THAT!!!!!!  That’s why they aren’t worried about it!

They care more about the fact that YOU are

someone who is SO FREAKING CONFIDENT

and so full of LIFE AND FUN, that EVERYONE

WANTS YOU, every WOMAN wants you and

every man wants to BE you.    

I’m slightly exaggerating to make my point clear,

but definitely the point that women want men who

are having such a great life WITHOUT THEM

that any woman would be NUTS to NOT TRY

TO GET IN WITH THAT MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I don’t even mean FINANCIALLY so much

at all. Although DEFINITELY women don’t

want men who are lazy, the fact is, it is a certain

STATE OF MIND that is attractive to women.

And that state of MIND is a combination of

INSANE CONFIDENCE in EVERYTHING,

including with women, but also in general

with everything. 

This is why women are attracted to men who

are NOT AVERAGE.  They want a man who

gives off vibes of BEING MORE THAN

NORMAL.

More CONFIDENCE than normal.

More HUMOR than normal.

More EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE than normal.

More FUN than normal.

Because THAT IS THE CHALLENGE.

For a woman to get a REGULAR GUY

is not a challenge, since most guys are

BRAINWASHED to kiss up to women.

THIS is the reason women respond to guys

that either are jerks or, more accurately,

SEEM to be jerks on the surface.

The TRUTH IS, that when I look back at

most of those guys even back in high school

that did well with women, they were NOT

jerks, not most of them anyway. 

They just KNEW the TRUTH, which is that

most women are not living in some NIGHTMARE

about men, in fact they ENJOY men, they enjoy

sex, they enjoy the attention, they enjoy it ALL.

So since these guys KNEW all that, they

didn’t “feel sorry” for all these women.

They didn’t treat women like VICTIMS.

Instead, they treated women, especially the

ATTRACTIVE WOMEN, as if these women

actually had it TOO EASY, and so these guys

TEASED women, they gave women a kind of

playful hard time.

And so BOOM- ATTRACTION IS BORN

IN WOMEN, because suddenly these women

feel ALIVE.  There is a guy they have to FIGHT

FOR.

Remember, a CHALLENGE is one of the

greatest of all motivators to the human

psyche.

It doesn’t matter where on Earth you live, or

WHAT the culture is, the fact of the matter

is there will be SOME CHALLENGE that

is viewed as a real WORTHY GOAL.

And it is the CHALLENGE itself that is

a big part of what makes the whole thing     

WORTHY.

I guarantee you, if EVERYONE could easily have

all their goals, there would be far less pleasure in

REACHING those goals.

People who endure the “Tough Mudder” events do it

not for money, but for the CHALLENGE of it all.

Being a challenge for a woman has nothing to

do with being a REAL jerk.  It means learning

all the ways to GENUINELY BECOME THE

KIND OF MAN WHO REALLY IS SO

CONFIDENT, SO POWERFUL, AND IN

SUCH A SUPREMELY EMPOWERED

STATE OF MIND that he really IS

a challenge for her.

It is only once you are THAT KIND OF MAN,

that doing things like giving a GENUINE

compliment THEN becomes SUPER POWERFUL.

I don’t like the idea of FAKING.

I personally feel the need to be MYSELF.

So, that is why I worked on changing my

CORE, rather than learning how to PRETEND

that I was someone else.

Also, women, especially attractive women, are

EXPERIENCED when it comes to detecting

whether a man is faking his confidence or not,

because over the course of their lives, women

have had many men approach them. 

Even if MOST men do NOT approach women,

and say, only one in a HUNDRED men approach

a woman, in a world of BILLIONS OF MEN, that’s

still a LOT of men over the course of a week, a month,

a year, a decade, etc., that a woman has had the chance

to practice her "detecting skills" on. 

Women can usually TELL if you are the real deal or not.

It all starts deep WITHIN yourself.

For that reason, I have developed my most advanced

program ever, called WARRIOR WITHIN.

If you want the MAXIMUM SUCCESS with women,

then this program is for you.

You can find out all about it and have it discreetly

delivered to you by going here NOW:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Prepare For Ultimate Success When Approaching Women

Today I want to share with you a super EASY and
yet super EFFECTIVE strategy for improving your
success when it comes to approaching women
ANYWHERE.

The key is to do what I am about to say LONG BEFORE
the moment of opportunity arises, so that you don’t have
to start THINKING and the strategy can then go into
effect almost instinctively since you put the work in
long before.  In other words, you will be prepared for
when that gorgeous beauty appears.

You can do this at night so that you are ready for
approaching women the next day.

What you should do is VISUALIZE in your mind a
situation where you may realistically find a woman
you’d like to chat to.  Choose one specific location
that has a high chance of you finding a woman there,
and that has some opportunity for conversation.

So it could be some kind of local market, it could be
a bookstore, it could be a coffee shop, it could be
some fun event, etc, etc. Choose one and make it
as specific as possible. 

Making it as specific as possible helps take 
out the UNKNOWN factors, so that you are 
as truly prepared psychologically as possible
for when the real event occurs, since none of 
it will be shocking because you already  
pictured it all.

Then, think about EVERYTHING you might say
to her as an opening to the conversation, whether
it’s a comment on something she is doing or on
the situation she is in, or even a comment that
is intriguing or playful about something UPBEAT
or fun that is in the news.

DECIDE on what it will be, make it SPECIFIC.

Now, visualize her REACTION, think about all
the different things she MIGHT say.  Remember
that most women are in fact VERY social and
are NOT mean-spirited, even if she does feel
the need to test whether you are serious or not.

And think about all the DETAILS now, including
how you are FEELING. Often, just PICTURING
all this is enough to get your heart racing, and
that’s OKAY.  The idea is to experience it all
BEFORE it happens, so that you will NOT be
overwhelmed when indeed the REAL approach happens.

Picture how you might react to what SHE says
back to you, and what you might say in return.

It doesn’t MATTER if what you PICTURE ends
up being DIFFERENT from what actually happens,
whether what you pictured is different from what
she says or from what you say. 

The more work you do beforehand, the less
work it will be later.  Again, this is
not just about "what to say" but rather
it also about going through all the
EMOTIONS you may experience.

The more vivid the picture you create in
your mind beforehand, the more you will
GENUINELY experience the emotions.

So remember to also picture what she might
LOOK like, what she might be WEARING,
and remember what the details of the
environment around you might be, and
what it might sound like.  For example,
there might be the sound of a crowded
bus or train or cafe humming with activity
and people chatting in the background.

Be READY for all this. 

The real key here is to both prepare yourself
psychologically  as well as technically in
terms of having SOMETHING in mind that you
can work with as the theme for your conversation
with her.

Also, THINK about how you might incorporate
some of the powerful things you learn from my
material.  For example, SLOWING down your
pace of delivering the words. Focusing on
LISTENING to the real meaning behind her
words, so you can give a powerful response.
Starting casually, and building to a deeper
connection. 

Remembering also that humor requires a bit
of risk-taking, but it should be INTELLIGENT
risk-taking.  LEADING the interaction and not
expecting the woman to be the one to ask for
your number, and not expecting the woman to
be the one to suggest you continue the conversation
over a coffee, remember it has to be YOU leading
the INITIAL "courtship" between you and a woman.

These are just SOME of the important things
that you might keep in MIND as you mentally
PREPARE long before the actual moment
of opportunity arises.

It’s also important, that if you are anxious that
things might somehow go "WRONG" (I put
wrong in quotes, because there is no wrong,
in the same way a sports athlete is not "wrong"
if he doesn’t score a goal, he is only "wrong" if
he doesn’t play his best) you should actually
EXPERIENCE the anxiety BEFOREHAND.

Picture it ALL. If you fear that you might panic,
get that panicky feeling NOW rather than later.
Soak in that feeling again and again and again,
picturing it all, till you burn up all the panic
energy you got inside of you and you start
to feel calm again.

The key to success with women is not to leave
it all up to LUCK.  Instead, you must be prepared
from long BEFOREHAND. 

What you have just read is POWERFUL advice,
and yet it barely scratches the SURFACE of
all the incredible strategies you will find in my
programs.

As you can see from this newsletter, the MIND
is the most POWERFUL resource you have for
skyrocketing your success with women.  Most
men NEVER learn how to best USE their mind,
so instead of using their mind, their mind instead
controls THEM and takes over, and often
SABOTAGES their results with women.

Become the master of your MIND in all the
ways that apply to attracting women, or your
mind will control YOU.

Unless a man understands that, he is destined
to suffer infinitely. If he does NOT understand
this, it doesn't even matter if he HAS a harem
of women, eventually he will LOSE them all, and
not only this, he will drop to the depths of the
abyss when it comes to loneliness, neediness, and
desperation.     

If you can fully appreciate the GRAVITY of
these words, I seriously suggest you get my
most powerful program on this topic of how
to ensure your MIND is programmed
for success with women.

The program is called WARRIOR WITHIN because
it's about developing your self WITHIN for
success with women.

This program is especially important for attracting
a woman long-term, because there is no way to
FAKE the right behaviors with a woman long-term.
Instead, you have to really BE "THE MAN" on
this deepest level. A quality woman is searching
out your personality for this from the first
instant she meets you. She’s going to be looking
for the things you will learn in this program.

It’s at:

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If you would like to order this important
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Approach Women SUCCESSFULLY

Today, I'm going to share with you
some of the most powerful steps you
can take to attract a woman the moment
you see her, how to successfully get
into the conversation, and how to
detect the right women as well as
how to avoid the wrong women!

And, of course, how to avoid the
biggest mistakes that men tend
to make.

1. IT’S NOT ABOUT BEING A CLOWN

Rather, it’s about YOU enjoying a good
laugh, and bringing HER into this world
of fun. A world of fun that is YOUR
world.

When you go in trying to MAKE her laugh,
it always ends up with you showing inferior
status, as if you’re the court jester trying
to entertain the king.

And that is a total attraction-destroyer.

On the other hand, when YOU are having a blast,
then you not only are actually funnier anyway,
but the vibes being given off by you all say
that you are the kind of guy that has everything
in life under control, and that life will be FUN
with you.

You also convey that you are clearly so comfortable
in your own skin that you can be in this mode even
with a woman who is a knockout.

So if I’m in line at the store, and a hottie is in
front of me with a bottle of water and celery,
and I pick up a candy bar and wave it in her
face and PRETEND as if the chocolate bar
is hypnotically saying “You want MEEEE,
I know you dooo- give into meeeeeeeeee”
the key is that it’s coming from a place where
I think it’s funny, not because I need to get her
to laugh.

And that makes it FUNNIER, because it
makes the DELIVERY of the words far
more CONFIDENT.

And that makes the delivery far more
BELIEVABLE.

If you are going to say something, you
have to go TOTALLY INTO IT, you
have to be consistent, congruent to
whatever it is you’re saying.

If you sound like you don’t really MEAN
what you are saying, it never works well.

This is why you can give the greatest
joke to someone to say and it will be
useless because he doesn't seem to
believe in the words he's saying.

2. RISK ASSESSMENT OF HUMOR

All humor requires RISK.
Without SOME risk, humor is IMPOSSIBLE.

So by risk, I mean the risk that SOMEONE
will get offended.

The KEY however, is to have the emotional
and other forms of intelligence to see if the
risk is worth the PAYOFF.

So the key is to keep the risk SMALL, and
the payoff HIGH.

If you are going to tease a woman, only tease
her on things you know she has a high chance
of being CONFIDENT about.

So if she’s tall, you can tease her about being short.
If she’s a knockout, you can tease her about being
undesirable, etc.

If she’s witty, you can tease her about being dumb.

3. THE FACEBOOK INVERSE RELATIONSHIP

What this means, is that if you’re looking for a
QUALITY type of woman, a girlfriend that is
not all focused on only HERSELF, a woman
who is NOT a narcissist, then you want to
ABSOLUTELY AVOID the women who
have TONS of “FRIENDS” ON FACEBOOK.

The reason for this, is that in general, there is
an inverse relationship between the amount
of friends a woman has on Facebook and the
degree of her genuine friendliness.

It’s ironic, isn’t it? After all, the whole point
of Facebook is to get official “friends”, right?

And that’s EXACTLY the reason narcissists
gravitate toward it, because if they can get
lots of FRIENDS on FACEBOOK, they
can then APPEAR as POPULAR.

These types of women will go through
MASSIVE WORK just to engineer their
entire Facebook image, from the amount
of "friends" they have (whom will be
promptly dropped as soon as they have
been used by the narcissist woman),
to the particular quotes they use,
to the photos put on display, etc,
etc.) ALL so that they SEEM highly
"wanted".

Facebook allows people to create an artificial
FRONT, a MASK if you will. It’s kind of
similar having memorized pick up lines or
memorized routines that aren’t a real reflection
of one’s identity, but that are SUPPOSED to
show how “cool” or “funny” one is, etc, etc.

And we all know how pick up lines don’t
work on the best women.

4. SEEK WOMEN WHO DON'T SEEK INFINITE ATTENTION

As illustrated above, narcissists FEED
off of infinite attention and worship,
while QUALITY women tend to be less
obsessed about make-up, dressing to
the nines, and wearing clothing that
might be EXTREMELY uncomfortable but
they feel is worth it to get the
attention.

The irony is that real beauty is hard
to hide anyway, to the trained eye.

So if you're looking for the right
kind of woman, start screening OUT
the attention grabbers, and start
focusing more on the women who are
just as gorgeous but don't need to
ADVERTISE it as if it's going out
of style.

This behavior that is the OPPOSITE
OF SEEKING ATTENTION, is why, by the way,
a woman who is the kind of woman that
is looking for a GOOD MAN, for something
REAL, gets turned off IMMEDIATELY when she
senses the FAKE vibe, the cheesy lines,
etc.

Which leads me to the next point:

5. WHEN ABOUT TO APPROACH A WOMAN
AND SAY SOMETHING TO HER, MAKE
SURE YOU OBLITERATE EVERYTHING
IN YOUR MIND BESIDES THE IDEA OF
“HI”.

Yes, the VIBE when you START the conversation
or chat should be EXTREMELY LOW KEY.

It’s different in 30 seconds from that point, where
you can raise the energy level, you can do all
sorts of fun stuff.

But in general, in that FIRST MOMENT, if
you are about to talk to a woman in any
place besides a high energy location like
a music dance club, etc, you should keep
it LOW KEY, and UNASSUMING.

So you are putting ZERO pressure on her.

She should feel that she has the TOTAL
CHOICE AND EASE TO LEAVE THE
SITUATION IF SHE WANTS TO.

The TONE of your voice should be LOW KEY.

I didn’t say QUIET, but LOW KEY, NOT INTENSE.

Most guys when they approach a woman,
they go in feeling that there is this HUGE
thing at stake, and it SHOWS in their
facial expression and tonality.

But if you REALLY go in there to begin
with by GENUINELY not EXPECTING
OR FEELING THAT SHE MUST DO
ANYTHING, but at the SAME TIME
showing that you are RELAXED and
showing WARMTH in your voice,
THAT is the way to show that you
are comfortable in your own skin,
and it also TAKES AWAY THE
PRESSURE on her.

And the BEST way to PREVENT
RESISTANCE is to REMOVE
PRESSURE!

So the HIGHEST chances of her NOT
resisting your approach come from
REMOVING all pressure to begin with!

Once she is not RESISTANT to your
approach, now SHE can go into the mode
of focusing on how to get CLOSER to you
instead of how to get away.

Remember, all this happens within a few
seconds, and AFTER these few seconds,
you can THEN turn up the energy and
the vibe and the fun, because she now
is RECEPTIVE to it.

TIMING is critical here, just like it is in
so many other aspects of life.

6. THE IRONY OF ATTRACTION
Attraction is a bit of a paradox.
On one hand, when you do it right,
it sounds so simple.

But that's because so many things
have been internalized, that it's
kind of like learning to walk.

It really takes a lot of little
steps put together, but when done
right, it looks very easy.

Recently, I received a letter from a
man who has put a lot of the steps for
one particular "attraction situation"
together, and I've commented on his
letter to make the steps even clearer.

LETTER FROM A READER:

Dear Michael,

The past six months has been the most torturous
experience of my life. Last November, my
girlfriend broke up with me, and although we
were not getting along, I always expected that
we would work things out and never give up-
that’s the attitude that I thought we both had.

Michael, I felt like my world was ending-
there were moments that I could not physically
breathe, moments where I felt I was going to die
from sheer weakness. It’s like I was drained
of all zest, energy and desire for life.

Throughout this time, I had a sense of disbelief,
that “How on earth could she do this to me, how
could she give up on us”?

Then, about six weeks ago, late on another sleepless
night, I found your site on the internet, and read
every single article you have. It was painful
to read a lot of it, to be honest, as it was so
clear that I was doing everything wrong,
and if you were right, it meant I had to
start over again- the very way I understood
my reality and how to go about getting
and attracting the kind of woman I wanted.

I suppose that’s the only good thing about
hitting rock bottom, you’re more willing
to try anything.

So I went all out and decided to get your
Warrior Within DVDs. I went through half
the entire series in one night. For the
first time, so many painful memories
started to become beautiful to me, because
your breakdown of how attraction is created
and destroyed showed me what was really
happening all along, and the reasons why
as well.

More on that later, but I want to get to
the most important part of this letter,
which is how I applied your strategies for
breaking through my inner barriers on taking
action with women, and taking the kind of
action you suggest as well.

I currently work as a dishwasher in a restaurant,
that’s right a dishwasher, as I lost my previous
job that required my engineering degree as
well as years of experience, from not showing
up to work. Like I said before, the breakup
really destroyed me. So until I find another
job that uses my skills, I need to pay my
bills with whatever helps.

Anyway, there is a smoking hot waitress
who works at the restaurant, and until
I got your Warrior program, all I could
do was wish about her. Her name is
****, and she’s a mixed breed of
Mediterranean, French, and some other
stuff I can’t remember, except that she
is certainly one of the most exquisite
exotic creatures I have ever seen.

Guys are ogling her all the time, and
I see customers trying to flirt with her,
but now that I have your program, I
can see all the mistakes they’re making,
from trying to take advantage of the
fact they are “customers” and knowing
she won’t tell them off, to copying the
silly teases you hear about all the time
designed to lower her confidence.

Well, after another lonely night of having
nobody knocking at the door, nobody
calling on the phone, and getting pissed
off at looking at the same four walls,
I went through the section on your
DVDs called “Naming The Voices”.

That did it for me, it got me so angry
at those parts of my self, that I made
that brutal disconnection between my
better self and those internal voices,
and I just knew that no matter what,
the next day I would follow your advice.

Before I left the house in the morning,
I practiced the voice tonality as you
show until I got into 'state' as you
would call it.

I walked in for work as usual, and as I
entered, I saw **** serving a table, and
I sauntered over to her, and in my head
pops your voice reminding me not to be
nasty but to be childlike fun, and to
fully go along with whatever I decide to
do, to have full conviction in it and
not take off if she doesn't 'bite' right
away like you say most guys do.

So, I pointed alarmingly, to a button on the
top of her blouse, and made this gross face,
saying “Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!
What Isssssss That???”

She laughs and says to me “This is a joke, right?”

I remember your words again: To treat the
joke with full conviction.

So I don’t stop.

I go: “Ewwwwwwwwwwww!
What Issss That?”

So this time, she looks down to her button,
and I do the silliest thing since I was 6
years old, just as you say about being
a kid with women, to allow them to
regress to that childhood playfulness-
and what I do is, I take my finger that
was right beside her top button and
flick her nose!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You have to understand Michael, that
this girl is so intensely gorgeous, that
I see men come in everyday and easily
tip her way more than they would anyone
else, just in the hopes that this might
seriously get them some attention.

I see other guys just ogling her for
an entire hour as they eat, and not
say a word to her.

I hear other customers try to get all serious
with her about their serious accomplishments
and careers, from politicians to doctors.

And here I go, flicking this seriously hot babe’s
cute perfect nose in my Grade 2 style juvenile
behavior!

My heartbeat was racing, as I figured I was
either about to get the biggest slap in the
face, berated, or fired (again!).

Her eyes widened and she looked like she
was going to kill me, and then said to me:

“Thank you for brightening up my day”-
and I wasn’t sure if she was being sarcastic
or not.

She then grabbed my shirt by the collar
and said to me, “You think you can mess
with me?”

I’m telling you Michael, I still wasn’t
sure if the police were gonna be beating
my ass shortly. But I decided to follow
your words to the letter, and stayed in
full conviction of this joke.

So I continued with: “No way, I want to
keep it clean! I hardly even know you!
You’d have to wine and dine me before
even thinking of getting there with me!”

And that’s when she cracked, man, that’s
when she totally cracked.

She starts laughing in disbelief, shaking
her head in disapproval, but it’s the kind
where you know she is enjoying every
bit of it.

So I told her that I had to get to work in
the back, and I also warned her to keep
a clean mind and clean thoughts and
not to think about getting dirty with me!
(This was brilliant of you by the way,
your work on obsessive thoughts and
how the worst way to get a thought
out of your mind is to tell the mind
to not think about it- and how this
creates the opposite effect! So by
telling her to make sure not to think
about it, she probably thought about
it the whole shift!)

Well what do you know, she ends up
in the back fifteen minutes later, telling
me that she’s never had a guy tell her
to be clean with him before, so I just
told her “There’s a first time for everything,
it looks like I’m going to be your first,
I hope it won’t hurt!”

She then starts asking me when my shift
is over, and at that point, thanks to your
materials, I realized the time for joking
was over, because she was clearly into
me, and you warned how guys lose women
by taking the jokes into the “clown zone”
where the guy seems to be a clown and
not serious about taking the interaction
to a real man-woman connection level.

So before I could even finish saying “at close –
“11 o-clock” she tells me that she is here till
then also and that she’d appreciate a nice
clean guy to walk her home.

Man, Michael, this girl knew when I finished,
she was just asking to as you say, set it up
as if she didn’t to make it look more like
“well since we both finish the same time
anyway he might as well walk me home”

What really makes me love this girl is that
she has no idea that in fact I have two degrees-
she sees me as the dishwasher dude who has
no qualms about it!

All I can tell you man, as a gentleman, is
that we had the greatest connection that
night and I’m still seeing her today.
I have no idea if this woman is “the one”
but she certainly is making my life better
and not giving me any headaches.

Maybe it’s because of her experiences
with men that she already knows that
not all that glitters is gold, or maybe
she just digs a guy who makes life
fun, even the small things.

And I owe it all to you, right down even
to the choice of humor, and of not being
nasty in my humor but instead just childlike
and playful, with a touch of naughty, allowing
her to regress to being a fun girl, which ironically
allows her to be a woman instead of a robot.

There’s one more thing I need to tell you
before ending this letter, which I wasn’t
planning on being so long!

I finally remembered something about
my ex, and it clicked in my head after
I was watching your Warrior Within
program yet again:

To make a long story short, this woman
unintentionally gave me plenty of clues
about her nature, as far back as the very first
date I ever had with her. But I decided
to disregard them, because verbally, she
assured me that she was “good old
fashioned faithful”.

I made the terrible error of believing words
as opposed to actions and subtle but ever
so meaningful body language cues, and on
top of that I believed “all women are messed
up so I might as well accept this one who
seems better than the others.”

If I had your Warrior Within program back
then, I would have never, ever gone on a
second date with that woman, and would
have spared myself the monstrous pain that
I created for myself by growing attached to
her.

Your Warrior Within program did more than
just help me get this new woman, who knows
exactly who I really am and loves me for it,
and who, by the way, gives me no drama or
headaches, and treats me like I’m a king.

Your Warrior Within program has made
me grow as a man, because I am not
angry anymore toward my ex, as I can
now see the whole picture, including
the fact that in the future, I can take
responsibility for things because I
now know what to look for in a woman’s
behavior and how to see the signals
up front and fast.

I can’t blame my situation on women anymore.
It’s up to me to keep a woman, break up with
a woman, or go meet and attract a woman-
Warrior Within put the power back in my
hands, I am no longer a victim and never
will be again.

So all I can say is thanks, man, and I hope
other men in my situation realize that no
matter how much pain they may be in
over a woman, there is light at the end
of the tunnel if they are willing to learn
and take the responsibility of that learning
on themselves.

Jack H.
San Diego, CA

P.S. I just got a phone call for an interview
for something that uses my background a little
more! Maybe this woman sensed all this lol!

MY COMMENTS:

Thank you first of all for the kind words
and for sharing some of the ways you
are applying the material in Warrior Within.
Normally I don’t print such long letters,
but in your case I made an exception because
you gave us meaningful specific details of
your situation and what you did to attract
the new woman, all the way from changing
your ‘inner game’ and learning how all this
works and why it works, to the actual
‘external game’ of the words you said!

A few comments I’d like to make:

TURNING YOUR WEAKNESS INTO A STRENGTH

1. You probably aren’t even aware of this,
but the dishwasher job was not only NOT
holding you back, but because of the
attitude you displayed while SIMULTANEOUSLY
being the “dishwasher dude”, you came
across as, to be a bit blunt, a guy with
MONSTROUS SIZED B*LLS.

It’s no big deal to have some confidence
when you already ARE a supermodel and
a guy with lot of money who is famous and
socially proofed by a big crowd of girls
around him, and who is not feeling the
pain of a breakup.

And I have a feeling the 'emotional state'
exercises you did with tonality helped you
here as well, so that you came across with
full congruency on all levels, from body
language  to voice to all other mannerisms.

In particular, the section of the DVDs on
“NAME THE VOICE” that you mentioned
is especially important in OBLITERATING
the internal obstacles holding you back from
taking the right ACTIONS.  By actually
giving the EXCUSES in your head a NAME
and externalizing them from yourself, you
can become objective and realize how these
things are NOT you, these excuses are NOT
your friends, and these excuses are NOT
helping you.

Until we do this exercise, we can often believe
that our excuses for not taking action are good
excuses, since, after all, WE are the ones creating
the excuses and WE are the ones feeling the
emotional pull of those excuses—which is why
it’s so utterly important to realize that just because
our BRAIN is creating the excuse, doesn’t mean
it’s really in our best interest to give IN to those
excuses. So we have to externalize those excuses,
those voices, and realize that our excuses are NOT
who we REALLY are, even if it’s us who came up
with those excuses.  Those excuses are the WEAKEST
element of ourselves, not the BEST elements, and
we want to get RID of those excuses.

Learning how to get rid of those excuses as demonstrated
in the DVDs is CRUCIAL.

2. YOU USED THE RIGHT STYLE OF HUMOR

The STYLE of humor you used- it was NOT
arrogant, it was NOT a “clever put-down”
to "lower her confidence", it was innocent,
CHILD-LIKE and therefore LEADING THE WAY
TO REGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR!

And regressing to CHILDHOOD is a
GREAT thing to do in a world that is
WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY too serious and
especially regarding the whole sexual
connection between men and women,
where you have to consult a lawyer
before you are assured of sounding
politically correct to a woman!

The childhood regression allows her to
have FUN with you.

Another little subtlety by the way,
to the childlike behavior was the
INNOCENT form of PHYSICAL CONTACT
that this achieved for you, and
thus "broke the ice" for both of
you this way, allowing her to
feel free to now playfully
get "angry" and get a little
physical with you as well.

3. You ADDED THE NAUGHTY DIMENSION

You did this to just the RIGHT degree,
with the whole “messy but you want to
keep it CLEAN” comment which raised
the whole dynamic to a fun spicy
interaction between a man and a woman.

Notice how FIRST comes the playful,
the child-like behavior, and THEN
comes the splash of adult NAUGHTY.

4. You WENT FULL CONVICTION

Yes, man, this is SO important.
Especially for a woman who gets hit on
a lot, it just makes sense that she is
experienced enough and confident
enough to not just ‘bite the bait’
at first glance.

Most guys, upon FIRST BEING CHALLENGED,
in any way, will MELT.

You FELT the temptation, the desire, to MELT.

Because of that state of mind, you start
to get distorted thoughts, like of the
POLICE coming to whup your butt
just because you liked a girl enough
to take some action!

But I know what you mean, I’ve been there!

Here’s something else about going ‘full conviction’
on your joke or playful approach:

It gives the woman, retroactively, something
cool to reflect on about you: So when you
left to get back to work, and she was there
by herself or with the customers, she was
probably reflecting in her mind “That
smart-alec knew ALL ALONG there
was nothing on my shirt, but he KEPT
ON GOING!! What a- what a-what a
damn bastardly and SEXY GUY!”

This is the kind of playful sexy 'bastard'
that is totally what women eat up and what
actually feels most LIBERATING for us
as men anyway!!!!

5. YOU KNEW WHEN TO STOP

Yes, once she started to ask when you
finished work, and you knew she already
knew the answer anyway, it was super
clear what was going down, and you
not only RECOGNIZED THAT but
you appreciated how it was important
to NOT CONTINUE THE PLAYFUL
STUFF at that point, at least not for
that moment.

She was basically putting HERSELF out
there, and speaking in “woman code”
to you that she is up for taking this to
a higher level.

A lot of guys think that because they
are getting somewhere with the childlike
stuff and the naughty stuff, that they should
keep on doing it!

But that’s wrong, as it makes the woman
think that this guy doesn’t REALLY
“get it”, and that he is socially clueless
AND worst of all, that he might be a
some strange dude who actually JUST
ENJOYS DOING THIS ‘STUFF’ TO
WOMEN BUT HAS NO REAL
INTEREST IN WOMEN!

Keeping up the childlike stuff or the playful
naughty stuff past the point of her showing
interest ends up making a guy look like
the Pee Wee Herman character, who is
funny but not a man.

This is also why I offer many avenues to spark
the dynamic besides using humor, such as using
the emotion of INTRIGUE, just to give a guy
more options to make things even easier.

6. THE USE OF ECHOING THOUGHT IN HER MIND

I also loved the way you used the strategy of
keeping her thinking about you by telling her
to NOT think dirty thoughts of you!

It’s an awesome tool, because you’re in effect
acting “according to politically correct culture”
but actually achieving a very “politically incorrect”
goal, the kind that is reserved for an adult man
and woman who want to jump each other’s bones!

The more you say NOT to do it, the more
you are getting what you want, and also
allowing her to enjoy it without having to
appear as “politically incorrect.”

So by doing this you take the pressure off of her
and just allow her to enjoy thoughts of you.

7. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

By taking responsibility for your future
relationships and even partially for your
past, you actually EMPOWER yourself
because you are not a prisoner to someone
ELSE, to no woman, to no ex, to no one.

This is yet another trait that you probably
are CONVEYING in subtle ways to the
new woman you met from your attitudes
toward your future, your job, and your
relationships. It shows maturity and
these days, maturity is harder than ever
to find because of the fact that a lot of
people don’t end up taking on responsibilities
till later in life.

So by showing RESPONSIBILITY, you
are showing maturity.

My last comment to you, is that as awesome
as things are, I want them to STAY AWESOME
for you.

And to KEEP IT THAT WAY, you must REMAIN
the way you are, because the BIGGEST MISTAKE
that the guys who get results make, is they end up
thinking that they got the results because this
woman really just loves them.

And that’s ego screwing us up.
We forget that it’s our BEHAVIORS that got us there.

And what makes it REALLY easy to fall into the trap,
is that time makes us GROW ATTACHED to a woman,
and that BONDING can sometimes become so powerful,
that you get scared of losing it.

For example, she might say she is going out with
her friends, and you might get a slight tinge of
insecurity, i.e.“ Who are these friends?”

You must never give into that FEAR
as that fear will not get weaker with
each time you give into your fear,
it will only get stronger.

So for example, if you feel jealousy
and you try to control her, she will
not only become less loving and
less interested in you, but your
jealousy will only grow stronger
to the point it distorts everything.

I remember a great comic book story
with the character Daredevil, a super
hero who is blind but whose other
senses are all super-heightened.
One day, this being from another
world gives him back his site, as
a gift.

Daredevil grows SO ATTACHED to his
new found sight, to the point he knows
he may fall more in love with it than
with his dedicated mission to protect people.

So he makes the being from another
world take the “gift” back.

I know this sounds a bit extreme, but
you must CHERISH these BEHAVIORS
that keep you STRONG more than you
even cherish the affection and physical
rewards that any woman can give you.

The irony is that THIS is what women
fantasize about you, it’s what makes them
say “I miss hearing your voice, I can’t
stop thinking of you”.

And if you’re reading this right now, and
would like to get the kind of success with
women where women don’t just “agree”
to go out with you, but actually give
everything they’ve got and will FIGHT
against plenty of OTHER female competition
in order to be with you, then I suggest you
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Till next time,

Michael Marks