Why Good Men FAIL With Women, And The SOLUTION To This

Today, I want to really help clear up and SOLVE

something that used to DRIVE ME CRAZY and

really hold me back from success with women.

I'm hoping this will help guys out.

So here we go:

On one hand, we all learn as children what

it means to be a GOOD PERSON.  

There’s even a saying that goes along the lines of,

“All I ever needed to know I learned in kindergarten”.

In many ways, it’s true.  Kindness. Sensitivity.

Honesty. Etc, etc.

All great things.

And if you’re like me all, you probably heard

a million times when growing up, that women

just want to meet a NICE GUY.

And then, when it came to REALITY, it really

seemed like that ALL WENT OUT THE WINDOW

when it came to attracting women.

I would see women go for ABSOLUTE JERKS.

I would see guys show what seemed like VERY

LITTLE TO NO SENSITIVITY to women,

even back in high school. 

The guys who got results with the most attractive

women would TEASE women, would NOT

be walking on eggshells around women, and

would be playful with women, and even go

so far as to ANNOY a lot of women in a way

where the women would first say things like,

“You’re such an ass!” and then end up

DATING THOSE GUYS AND SLEEPING

WITH THOSE GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I couldn’t figure it out.

For a while, I thought it was simply that these

guys were in some way “exceptions” to the norm.

I thought maybe these guys were exceptionally

rich, or good looking,  or just exceptionally lucky

that somehow a really attractive woman loved

them in SPITE of these guys’ INSENSITIVE

personalities!

I went on for YEARS trying to be a perfect

NICE GUY with women, showing ABSOLUTE

respect in EVERY WAY, including every

politically correct way as well, and what I mean

by politically correct is that I made sure that

the SEX stuff was the LAST thing I would

be hinting toward or seriously considering

in any near future, since after all, women

publicly seemed to be complaining that all

men just wanted the physical, and how

all men were psychos, and how women just

wanted to meet a man who could see them

in a NON-SEXUAL way.

That really got me NOWHERE WITH WOMEN.

So one day, after being treated like crap by

a particular woman for several YEARS,

the old beliefs I had about women DIED and

a NEW VERSION of me was born, with

NEW BELIEFS.

The NEW beliefs were that women actually

WANTED TO GET PHYSICAL WITH MEN

WHO DIDN’T BUY INTO ALL THAT PREVIOUS

BULLSHIT THAT I WAS TAUGHT ABOUT WOMEN.

So, after going for over 12 years in utter hell

with women, I suddenly found that I had more

attractive women at my fingertips than I could

EVER have time for.

AND JUST ABOUT ANY GUY WITH BASIC SOCIAL SKILLS

CAN DUPLICATE WHAT I DID.

And believe me, I do NOT say this with arrogance;

I say it because of the WAY that I turned things

around. It was simply by CUTTING OUT ALL THE BULL(*&^

I WAS DOING TO CONVINCE WOMEN THAT I WAS A GOOD GUY.

I was super simple with women: I would approach

them DIRECTLY, I wouldn’t SMILE, I wouldn’t

give COMPLIMENTS, I wouldn’t do ANYTHING

nice, I would instead actually do everything

in my POWER to HOLD BACK FROM DOING NICE

THINGS!!!!

And I really MEANT it.

I was not faking.

I really BELIEVED in what I was doing,

I really BELIEVED that women did not

enjoy all that "extra nice" treatment.

12 years of BAD results finally

got me to shed my previous beliefs!

I wasn’t ABUSIVE AT ALL, but I was NOT NICE.

I didn’t BUY anything for women.

I didn’t give compliments.

I really didn’t do ANYTHING, I would just

find some NON-COMPLIMENTARY excuse

to talk to a woman and after a few minutes,

suggest we chat some more and meet up again

IF I FOUND THEM WORTHY.

Often, I would find out something about a

woman in my first conversation with her,

and then tell her things would NOT work out,

and try to END IT THERE.  

I meant it honestly, I was not trying to play a game
or be manipulative.  I honestly felt that I was not
interested any longer in any woman who did not 
meet my standards of behavior, even if they were
VERY high standards that I insisted upon. 

The irony is that these women, would then

REFUSE TO BE REJECTED, and try to

CONVINCE ME WHY I SHOULD KEEP

GIVING THEM A CHANCE.

So, whereas for over 12 years, I kept

trying to CONVINCE WOMEN to treat me well,

to go out with me, to love me, by treating

women like GOLD, now I was getting women

fighting to be with me by me NOT TRYING

TO ATTRACT THEM, and in fact often women

would become even MORE attracted after I

had REJECTED THEM.

Again, I was not TRYING to impress women.

And when I rejected a woman, it was not

a "tactic" to attract her, it was the

way I genuinely felt.

So all this just made me very upset with women,

because it made me feel that they could not

appreciate love and kindness, that they could

not appreciate a good thing when they had it.

Now, I was actually WRONG in my assessment

of women, but you can’t blame me for not understanding

it at the time.

The reason I was WRONG was because most women

are NOT ACTUALLY ATTRACTED to abuse.

However, although women are not attracted to

abuse, the problem is that men were/are told an

EXAGGERATED CASE OF HOW BAD THE

SITUATION REALLY WAS/IS FOR WOMEN WHEN

IT COMES TO HOW THEY ARE TREATED BY MEN.

If you listen to all the women’s programs out there,

you would think that every friggen man is a PSYCHO,

A RAPIST, A MURDERER, A SICK IN THE HEAD

JERK.

If you happened to have gone to a liberal political science

program that covered women’s issues like I did, you would

have been BOMBARDED with messages about how men

are responsible for every single terrible thing on the planet

for all of history.   It’s as if women never experience any

emotion like hate, rage, jealousy; as if all women are just

and fair.

So, OF COURSE, growing up in THAT environment,

if a man BELIEVES all that stuff, he feels he has an

OBLIGATION to show his DEVOTION to a woman

at a level that in REALITY would actually just freak

a woman out and make a woman feel too much pressure.

The REALITY is that not only are women doing

WELL, but in many cases are doing BETTER THAN

MEN when it comes to EVERYTHING, from health,

to relationships, to career, to education.  Women live

longer, fare better with break-ups, and represent a higher

percentage of students enrolled in university.

And if a woman is ATTRACTIVE on top of being SMART,

she is TRULY kicking ASS. 

So, a woman like that is kind of like the SHE-HULK

in terms of POWER and CONFIDENCE.

She KNOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWS

she can get a man to LOVE her.  She KNOOOOWWS

she can get men to get physical with her. 

She KNOOOOOOOOOOOWS she can get it ALL,

contrary to the friggen B.S. told to ALL OF US MEN

as kids!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, what this means is

that if you REALLLLLLLLLLLY WANT TO BE NICE        

to a woman, you have to think about what actually

IS rare for her, what IS hard for her to find, to get

in a man.

And let me tell you what that thing is:

IT IS BEING A CHALLENGE FOR HER.

When I first realized this, it PISSED ME OFF.

I wanted women to APPRECIATE THE FACT

I WAS SUCH A DEVOTED GOOD GUY WHO

WOULD NOT CHEAT ON A WOMAN!

I WANTED WOMEN TO APPRECIATE

THAT I WAS NOT THE SCUM OF THE

EARTH WHO WOULD LIE TO WOMEN,

TELL THEM THAT I LOVED THEM,

AND THEN GO CHEAT ON THEM,

LIKE SO MANY MEN I KNEW.

Now, don’t get me wrong.

Women DON’T want guys to cheat on them,

but the FACT IS, most women do NOT have

this as the BIG PRIORITY ON THEIR MIND,

since they KNOW THEY CAN GET A FAITHFUL

MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Or at least, they think they can, because women

don’t understand just how polygamous men

are on a hard-wired level, and most men, unless

they feel loved, appreciated, and respected,

will not stay faithful unless their self-esteem
is in the toilet, or unless there is some other
special situation occurring. (For example,
the man simply abides by a code of faithfulness
no matter what, and that is very, very rare.)

So, when you see an attractive woman, you must

realize what is PRECIOUS TO HER is not the

same thing as what is precious to most men.

Attractive women really don’t care all that

much about you being faithful and not cheating.

They figure they FOR SURE ALREADY HAVE

THAT!!!!!!  That’s why they aren’t worried about it!

They care more about the fact that YOU are

someone who is SO FREAKING CONFIDENT

and so full of LIFE AND FUN, that EVERYONE

WANTS YOU, every WOMAN wants you and

every man wants to BE you.    

I’m slightly exaggerating to make my point clear,

but definitely the point that women want men who

are having such a great life WITHOUT THEM

that any woman would be NUTS to NOT TRY

TO GET IN WITH THAT MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I don’t even mean FINANCIALLY so much

at all. Although DEFINITELY women don’t

want men who are lazy, the fact is, it is a certain

STATE OF MIND that is attractive to women.

And that state of MIND is a combination of

INSANE CONFIDENCE in EVERYTHING,

including with women, but also in general

with everything. 

This is why women are attracted to men who

are NOT AVERAGE.  They want a man who

gives off vibes of BEING MORE THAN

NORMAL.

More CONFIDENCE than normal.

More HUMOR than normal.

More EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE than normal.

More FUN than normal.

Because THAT IS THE CHALLENGE.

For a woman to get a REGULAR GUY

is not a challenge, since most guys are

BRAINWASHED to kiss up to women.

THIS is the reason women respond to guys

that either are jerks or, more accurately,

SEEM to be jerks on the surface.

The TRUTH IS, that when I look back at

most of those guys even back in high school

that did well with women, they were NOT

jerks, not most of them anyway. 

They just KNEW the TRUTH, which is that

most women are not living in some NIGHTMARE

about men, in fact they ENJOY men, they enjoy

sex, they enjoy the attention, they enjoy it ALL.

So since these guys KNEW all that, they

didn’t “feel sorry” for all these women.

They didn’t treat women like VICTIMS.

Instead, they treated women, especially the

ATTRACTIVE WOMEN, as if these women

actually had it TOO EASY, and so these guys

TEASED women, they gave women a kind of

playful hard time.

And so BOOM- ATTRACTION IS BORN

IN WOMEN, because suddenly these women

feel ALIVE.  There is a guy they have to FIGHT

FOR.

Remember, a CHALLENGE is one of the

greatest of all motivators to the human

psyche.

It doesn’t matter where on Earth you live, or

WHAT the culture is, the fact of the matter

is there will be SOME CHALLENGE that

is viewed as a real WORTHY GOAL.

And it is the CHALLENGE itself that is

a big part of what makes the whole thing     

WORTHY.

I guarantee you, if EVERYONE could easily have

all their goals, there would be far less pleasure in

REACHING those goals.

People who endure the “Tough Mudder” events do it

not for money, but for the CHALLENGE of it all.

Being a challenge for a woman has nothing to

do with being a REAL jerk.  It means learning

all the ways to GENUINELY BECOME THE

KIND OF MAN WHO REALLY IS SO

CONFIDENT, SO POWERFUL, AND IN

SUCH A SUPREMELY EMPOWERED

STATE OF MIND that he really IS

a challenge for her.

It is only once you are THAT KIND OF MAN,

that doing things like giving a GENUINE

compliment THEN becomes SUPER POWERFUL.

I don’t like the idea of FAKING.

I personally feel the need to be MYSELF.

So, that is why I worked on changing my

CORE, rather than learning how to PRETEND

that I was someone else.

Also, women, especially attractive women, are

EXPERIENCED when it comes to detecting

whether a man is faking his confidence or not,

because over the course of their lives, women

have had many men approach them. 

Even if MOST men do NOT approach women,

and say, only one in a HUNDRED men approach

a woman, in a world of BILLIONS OF MEN, that’s

still a LOT of men over the course of a week, a month,

a year, a decade, etc., that a woman has had the chance

to practice her "detecting skills" on. 

Women can usually TELL if you are the real deal or not.

It all starts deep WITHIN yourself.

For that reason, I have developed my most advanced

program ever, called WARRIOR WITHIN.

If you want the MAXIMUM SUCCESS with women,

then this program is for you.

You can find out all about it and have it discreetly

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The JERK Factor (An Absolute MUST)

A long time ago, I used to think the reason
JERKS did well with women was because
women were crazy.

Then, I thought women were hardwired
to be attracted to jerks.

Then, I thought it was just that some of
these guys had everything ELSE going
for them, so that they could get AWAY
with being jerks and still have women
attracted.

Fast forward ten years of REAL WORLD
testing, and I can tell you the TRUTH:

The part of being a JERK that is attractive
actually has nothing to do with being a jerk.
It’s just that good guys tend to THINK that
a lot of behaviors that are attractive must
be “jerky” when they aren’t.

Let me give you some specific examples:

1. DATING ONLINE

Most guys, when creating a profile, will try
to “convince” a woman reading the profile
that they are good guys, who will be fun,
interesting, and who will treat a woman well.

The PROBLEM with all this, is that ninety-nine
percent of the time, women get the SAME kind
of message from ALL guys.

PLUS, when women read the messages and the
profile descriptions, women feel that the vast majority
of all these guys are so focused on trying to impress
the women, that it’s obvious to the women that the
guys probably will accept ANY behavior from
any attractive woman and be grateful for any attention.

All this is NOT flattering.
It just makes a woman feel SORRY/SYMPATHY,
not feel ATTRACTION, because the message
being sent on a primal unconscious level is
“I am not on the same level of value as you.”

The woman can ALREADY predict the future of
what will happen if she gives the SLIGHTEST
indication of interest to the guy:

The guy will write back a huge long email,
and offer to take her somewhere really nice,
and probably give her all kinds of compliments
even though he has no clue who she really is,
but the guy will READ INTO any little thing
about her description and see it through
ROSE-colored glasses, he will fall BIG TIME
for the HALO effect.

The halo effect, in this example, is the tendency
of a man to think that an attractive woman is
more intelligent, more noble, more admirable,
than another woman who is not as attractive.

Yes, the MIND is hardwired this way, and
most guys are SLAVES to their MIND, they
don’t learn to control their MIND, so their
MIND controls THEM. And when it comes
to the area of attraction and women, this
is TOTALLY true.

On the OTHER hand, let’s take the OPPOSITE
example, okay?

Imagine a guy creates a profile, where his first
line is “I’m a total JERK. I always treat myself
first and love myself more than anyone else.
Pretty much, I’m the guy you’re mother warned
you about. The problem is, even though you’ve
been warned, you’ll end up falling in love with
me, then hating me because all I’m good at is
sex. Then, you’ll keep coming back to me
because all I’m good at is sex and I’m horrible
at listening to your problems.

Which leads to more fights and even more intense
mind-blowing make up sex. Oh man, leave me alone
already, I can already feel you harassing me with
love-hate mail. The story of my life…”

Now, I know that a million guys are about to
cut and paste this since that’s the easiest thing
to do, and yup, they will get better results
than they have been getting all their life.

But as everyone copies this, it will wear a
little thin, so the key is to understand the
PRINCIPLE at work here AND create your own.

2. READING BETWEEN THE LINES

What is ACTUALLY happening in the above example
can only be seen through READING BETWEEN THE LINES.

To a guy who is UNAWARE of the reality
of his FULL POTENTIAL AND POWER, and to
a guy who is unaware of the REALITY of
an attractive woman, the above profile
sounds like that of a JERK.

But in REALITY, here's what it’s actually saying:

“Hey there, I’m not like those other needy
desperate guys who are going to ask you
to marry them the first second you reply
to them. I’m quite a catch myself, and
not in a hurry to get chained down to
the WRONG WOMAN, so you can feel
free to NOT be under any PRESSURE
to be with me.

If you decide to be with ME, it will be by 
your CHOICE, not by FORCE, pressure,
guilt, or any other pathetic attempt to 
get you.

I’m also a really FUN and PLAYFUL guy 
as you can tell from my sense of humor.

In addition, I’m not uncomfortable about
sex and about enjoying it in tons of creative
and passionate ways.

Plus, I already have experience with women,
and the truth is, they are so addicted to me,
the only reason they hate me is because they
can’t get ENOUGH of me, and enough
control of me, they wish they could totally
control me because they want me so badly.

PLUS, the fact is, that EVERY GUY you've
ever really loved was the SAME like me,
so you can already FEEL that I am going
to give you the SAME awesome emotions
except even BETTER since I'm even MORE
of all the things that made you WILD about
any man in the past!"

That is what the message is REALLY saying
"between the lines"!

And communication is always more powerful
when done INDIRECTLY rather than SAYING
it directly.

That's why you must learn to communicate
in a way where your message is in between
the lines.

"In between the lines" is INDIRECT.
When you just try to say important things
directly, it doesn't work because EVERYONE
TRIES the same direct thing, so the mind
gets DESENSITIZED to it.

It's too easy, everyone does the direct thing
about saying they are all great catches.

It doesn't make a woman FEEL anything,
other than that the guy might be just
telling a lie to impress her.

Anyone can SAY they are great, right?
It's much better to INFER it indirectly.

So, for example, you don’t SAY to a woman
that you are funny, if you are funny.

Instead, you GET her laughing.

You don’t SAY you are confident, you instead
SHOW it through your ACTIONS and through
your LANGUAGE.

NOTHING jerky going on actually, see?

Tons of OTHER cool and attractive things going
on here, but no “jerkiness”.

Now, guess what? Online dating can be great,
but it is just one route to success, because
as you will see:

3. REAL LIFE GIVES YOU MAXIMUM ATTRACTION POWER

ONLINE DATING is just barely scratching the
SURFACE of what you can do when you are
approaching women in REAL LIFE.

You are not limited to just using a KEYBOARD,
but rather you can access the power of your
FULL HUMAN POTENTIAL since all of your physical
self is actually there.

Your verbal skills, your body language, tonality,
sense of style and fashion, humor, wit, confidence,
all this comes together with GREATER impact
when approaching a woman in PERSON.

This is one of the reasons I LOVE teaching guys
in REAL LIFE how to attract women through
“cold approaches” LIVE, in real time on actual
women whether the women are in coffee shops,
bookstores, lounges, anywhere!

4. “JERK FACTOR” IN DEALING WITH REAL JERKS

So let’s say you are chatting to a woman somewhere,
and some loser/jerk who has nothing better to do
tries to interfere in your chat, because he wants
to try to get this woman now that he sees YOU
doing it, because he didn’t have the guts to do it
before he saw YOU do it.

Most of these types of guys are guys who have
no girlfriends and couldn’t get one if they tried
because they are so negative minded, but they
just can’t stand to see someone ELSE get any
results with women, so THEN they suddenly
get motivated.

Well, a lot of guys would actually GIVE the
JERK way too much credit by even
ACKNOWLEDGING his presence.

So let’s say the jerk comes into your conversation
with the woman and makes a remark to her like:
“Hey, wanna have some REAL fun?”

A lot of guys would be thrown for a loop here.
They would say something to the guy like,
“What?”, or they might say, ‘Who are you?”,
or even, “Who the heck are you?”

The very ACT of RESPONDING at all is
a kind of CONDITIONED response, but
it doesn’t mean the jerk DESERVES that
response.

JUST IGNORE HIM COMPLETELY.

If you TOTALLY cut him out of your reality,
the woman you are with will VERY OFTEN
totally cut him out too, since it’s obvious
he had LESS guts than you, and is an energy
vampire that sucks off of other people.

NOTHING JERKY with totally IGNORING
him, but a lot of guys WOULD give him
SOME attention, because they feel that
they are SUPPOSED to say SOMETHING.

SAYS WHO?
The “nice guy” federation?

And if the jerk KEEPS on trying to chat
to her, or to try to talk to you to distract
you from her or to ruin your vibe with her,
just PULL THE GIRL AWAY with you,
take her by the hand and MOVE.

If the guy REALLY keeps up at it, then
HE is lowering his own value as he is
showing that he CLEARLY sees YOU
as having the ability to get what HE wants.

Meanwhile, he HASN’T got what he wants.
The woman SEES all this, and registers it
DEEP in her unconscious, as this jerk behaving
in a way that is clearly conveying he is of low
intrinsic value and thus UNATTRACTIVE.

And so often, these jerks will have ONE
thing going for them, be it bodybuilding,
or wealth, or high marks in academics, or
some fancy car or prestigious job, or some
kind of connection to someone, WHATEVER.

It doesn’t matter, what matters is that it is always
OBVIOUS that they are relying on that ONE
thing for their sense of ego and confidence.

And then, it ALWAYS COMES UP when
they chat to a woman.

So you will notice the guy trying to wear
an extra tight shirt to show his muscles,
or he will drop into the chat that he is
from some high university, or he will
mention some prestigious club he is
part of, etc.

AWESOME!
This sets him up for total destruction.

All you need to do is prick that BALLOON
of FALSE CONFIDENCE and he will quickly
leave with his tail between his legs.

How do you do this?
By EXAGGERATING whatever the heck
he is using to try to “qualify” himself.

If he’s trying to use his muscular SIZE, then
GUSH at this. Tell him to flex for you. Tell
him you think it’s so unfair that most bodybuilders
work so hard and don’t get paid enough.

By GIVING HIM SO MUCH of what he
WISHES he could get, i.e. VALIDATION,
it FLOODS his circuits and he isn’t sure
what the heck is going on.

It also makes him realize that maybe EVERYONE
is on to him, that he is actually MASSIVELY LACKING
CONFIDENCE if he doesn't have his one magic thing,
in this case, his muscles.

If a guy is using his academic intelligence to
try to show off to the girl, VALIDATE his
sense of academic intelligence, tell him you
SUCKED at school and wished you could be
like him.

Remember, the reason these guys ARE jerks
in the first place, is they still haven’t learned
that it’s their INSECURITY that is screwing
them up!

Provide them a HIT of validation on the
ONE THING they use to prop themselves
up, and they simultaneously get their circuits
FRIED with overload, but they ALSO then
wonder if maybe you’re screwing with them,
and it makes them REALIZE for a sec that
maybe EVERYONE is onto their insecurity.

Of course, the best thing is to just IGNORE
AND LEAVE with the girl, but if you have
to, you do the above.

Is that kind of response to a jerk somehow
jerky itself? Not really. It’s just you
TARGETING the issue DIRECTLY.

What you have read here is a glimpse into
the REAL WORLD of attracting women.

It’s NOT about being a jerk.
It’s about expanding your power in every way,
yet WITHOUT you being unfair to ANYONE.
It’s about learning the truth of how things work.

It’s about gaining insights into women.

And it’s about making your MIND SERVE
YOU, rather than YOU serving your MIND.

Becoming this kind of man is overwhelmingly
seductive to a woman, she can't HELP but
be attracted. It digs too deep into her
carnal sense of you being all MAN, all
"CAVE-MAN survival of the fittest",
all PRIMAL.

Her response to this kind of man is not
LOGICAL. She doesn't THINK about it.
She just FEELS it, and she feels it
DESPERATELY with ferocious intensity.

It's VISCERAL, she will feel a NEED,
not just a "want" to be with you,
but a deeply obsessive NEED.

And if you're reading this right now,
you can clearly see that attracting
women has so MUCH to do with where
you are coming from on a deep INTERNAL
level, from the way you are THINKING
to the way you are FEELING when it
comes to all these situations, from
approaching women to escalating things
to a physical level.

All this goes very, very, VERY deep.

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attracting women.

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comes to women.

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a guy who is just doing an "act" and
a man who is the "real thing".

This program is all about deep, real
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Again, it's at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The JERK Factor (An Absolute MUST)

A long time ago, I used to think the reason
JERKS did well with women was because
women were crazy.

Then, I thought women were hardwired
to be attracted to jerks.

Then, I thought it was just that some of
these guys had everything ELSE going
for them, so that they could get AWAY
with being jerks and still have women
attracted.

Fast forward ten years of REAL WORLD
testing, and I can tell you the TRUTH:

The part of being a JERK that is attractive
actually has nothing to do with being a jerk.
It’s just that good guys tend to THINK that
a lot of behaviors that are attractive must
be “jerky” when they aren’t.

Let me give you some specific examples:

1. DATING ONLINE

Most guys, when creating a profile, will try
to “convince” a woman reading the profile
that they are good guys, who will be fun,
interesting, and who will treat a woman well.

The PROBLEM with all this, is that ninety-nine
percent of the time, women get the SAME kind
of message from ALL guys.

PLUS, when women read the messages and the
profile descriptions, women feel that the vast majority
of all these guys are so focused on trying to impress
the women, that it’s obvious to the women that the
guys probably will accept ANY behavior from
any attractive woman and be grateful for any attention.

All this is NOT flattering.
It just makes a woman feel SORRY/SYMPATHY,
not feel ATTRACTION, because the message
being sent on a primal unconscious level is
“I am not on the same level of value as you.”

The woman can ALREADY predict the future of
what will happen if she gives the SLIGHTEST
indication of interest to the guy:

The guy will write back a huge long email,
and offer to take her somewhere really nice,
and probably give her all kinds of compliments
even though he has no clue who she really is,
but the guy will READ INTO any little thing
about her description and see it through
ROSE-colored glasses, he will fall BIG TIME
for the HALO effect.

The halo effect, in this example, is the tendency
of a man to think that an attractive woman is
more intelligent, more noble, more admirable,
than another woman who is not as attractive.

Yes, the MIND is hardwired this way, and
most guys are SLAVES to their MIND, they
don’t learn to control their MIND, so their
MIND controls THEM. And when it comes
to the area of attraction and women, this
is TOTALLY true.

On the OTHER hand, let’s take the OPPOSITE
example, okay?

Imagine a guy creates a profile, where his first
line is “I’m a total JERK. I always treat myself
first and love myself more than anyone else.
Pretty much, I’m the guy you’re mother warned
you about. The problem is, even though you’ve
been warned, you’ll end up falling in love with
me, then hating me because all I’m good at is
sex. Then, you’ll keep coming back to me
because all I’m good at is sex and I’m horrible
at listening to your problems.

Which leads to more fights and even more intense
mind-blowing make up sex. Oh man, leave me alone
already, I can already feel you harassing me with
love-hate mail. The story of my life…”

Now, I know that a million guys are about to
cut and paste this since that’s the easiest thing
to do, and yup, they will get better results
than they have been getting all their life.

But as everyone copies this, it will wear a
little thin, so the key is to understand the
PRINCIPLE at work here AND create your own.

2. READING BETWEEN THE LINES

What is ACTUALLY happening in the above example
can only be seen through READING BETWEEN THE LINES.

To a guy who is UNAWARE of the reality
of his FULL POTENTIAL AND POWER, and to
a guy who is unaware of the REALITY of
an attractive woman, the above profile
sounds like that of a JERK.

But in REALITY, here's what it’s actually saying:

“Hey there, I’m not like those other needy
desperate guys who are going to ask you
to marry them the first second you reply
to them. I’m quite a catch myself, and
not in a hurry to get chained down to
the WRONG WOMAN, so you can feel
free to NOT be under any PRESSURE
to be with me.

If you decide to be with ME, it will be by 
your CHOICE, not by FORCE, pressure,
guilt, or any other pathetic attempt to 
get you.

I’m also a really FUN and PLAYFUL guy 
as you can tell from my sense of humor.

In addition, I’m not uncomfortable about
sex and about enjoying it in tons of creative
and passionate ways.

Plus, I already have experience with women,
and the truth is, they are so addicted to me,
the only reason they hate me is because they
can’t get ENOUGH of me, and enough
control of me, they wish they could totally
control me because they want me so badly.

PLUS, the fact is, that EVERY GUY you've
ever really loved was the SAME like me,
so you can already FEEL that I am going
to give you the SAME awesome emotions
except even BETTER since I'm even MORE
of all the things that made you WILD about
any man in the past!"

That is what the message is REALLY saying
"between the lines"!

And communication is always more powerful
when done INDIRECTLY rather than SAYING
it directly.

That's why you must learn to communicate
in a way where your message is in between
the lines.

"In between the lines" is INDIRECT.
When you just try to say important things
directly, it doesn't work because EVERYONE
TRIES the same direct thing, so the mind
gets DESENSITIZED to it.

It's too easy, everyone does the direct thing
about saying they are all great catches.

It doesn't make a woman FEEL anything,
other than that the guy might be just
telling a lie to impress her.

Anyone can SAY they are great, right?
It's much better to INFER it indirectly.

So, for example, you don’t SAY to a woman
that you are funny, if you are funny.

Instead, you GET her laughing.

You don’t SAY you are confident, you instead
SHOW it through your ACTIONS and through
your LANGUAGE.

NOTHING jerky going on actually, see?

Tons of OTHER cool and attractive things going
on here, but no “jerkiness”.

Now, guess what? Online dating can be great,
but it is just one route to success, because
as you will see:

3. REAL LIFE GIVES YOU MAXIMUM ATTRACTION POWER

ONLINE DATING is just barely scratching the
SURFACE of what you can do when you are
approaching women in REAL LIFE.

You are not limited to just using a KEYBOARD,
but rather you can access the power of your
FULL HUMAN POTENTIAL since all of your physical
self is actually there.

Your verbal skills, your body language, tonality,
sense of style and fashion, humor, wit, confidence,
all this comes together with GREATER impact
when approaching a woman in PERSON.

This is one of the reasons I LOVE teaching guys
in REAL LIFE how to attract women through
“cold approaches” LIVE, in real time on actual
women whether the women are in coffee shops,
bookstores, lounges, anywhere!

4. “JERK FACTOR” IN DEALING WITH REAL JERKS

So let’s say you are chatting to a woman somewhere,
and some loser/jerk who has nothing better to do
tries to interfere in your chat, because he wants
to try to get this woman now that he sees YOU
doing it, because he didn’t have the guts to do it
before he saw YOU do it.

Most of these types of guys are guys who have
no girlfriends and couldn’t get one if they tried
because they are so negative minded, but they
just can’t stand to see someone ELSE get any
results with women, so THEN they suddenly
get motivated.

Well, a lot of guys would actually GIVE the
JERK way too much credit by even
ACKNOWLEDGING his presence.

So let’s say the jerk comes into your conversation
with the woman and makes a remark to her like:
“Hey, wanna have some REAL fun?”

A lot of guys would be thrown for a loop here.
They would say something to the guy like,
“What?”, or they might say, ‘Who are you?”,
or even, “Who the heck are you?”

The very ACT of RESPONDING at all is
a kind of CONDITIONED response, but
it doesn’t mean the jerk DESERVES that
response.

JUST IGNORE HIM COMPLETELY.

If you TOTALLY cut him out of your reality,
the woman you are with will VERY OFTEN
totally cut him out too, since it’s obvious
he had LESS guts than you, and is an energy
vampire that sucks off of other people.

NOTHING JERKY with totally IGNORING
him, but a lot of guys WOULD give him
SOME attention, because they feel that
they are SUPPOSED to say SOMETHING.

SAYS WHO?
The “nice guy” federation?

And if the jerk KEEPS on trying to chat
to her, or to try to talk to you to distract
you from her or to ruin your vibe with her,
just PULL THE GIRL AWAY with you,
take her by the hand and MOVE.

If the guy REALLY keeps up at it, then
HE is lowering his own value as he is
showing that he CLEARLY sees YOU
as having the ability to get what HE wants.

Meanwhile, he HASN’T got what he wants.
The woman SEES all this, and registers it
DEEP in her unconscious, as this jerk behaving
in a way that is clearly conveying he is of low
intrinsic value and thus UNATTRACTIVE.

And so often, these jerks will have ONE
thing going for them, be it bodybuilding,
or wealth, or high marks in academics, or
some fancy car or prestigious job, or some
kind of connection to someone, WHATEVER.

It doesn’t matter, what matters is that it is always
OBVIOUS that they are relying on that ONE
thing for their sense of ego and confidence.

And then, it ALWAYS COMES UP when
they chat to a woman.

So you will notice the guy trying to wear
an extra tight shirt to show his muscles,
or he will drop into the chat that he is
from some high university, or he will
mention some prestigious club he is
part of, etc.

AWESOME!
This sets him up for total destruction.

All you need to do is prick that BALLOON
of FALSE CONFIDENCE and he will quickly
leave with his tail between his legs.

How do you do this?
By EXAGGERATING whatever the heck
he is using to try to “qualify” himself.

If he’s trying to use his muscular SIZE, then
GUSH at this. Tell him to flex for you. Tell
him you think it’s so unfair that most bodybuilders
work so hard and don’t get paid enough.

By GIVING HIM SO MUCH of what he
WISHES he could get, i.e. VALIDATION,
it FLOODS his circuits and he isn’t sure
what the heck is going on.

It also makes him realize that maybe EVERYONE
is on to him, that he is actually MASSIVELY LACKING
CONFIDENCE if he doesn't have his one magic thing,
in this case, his muscles.

If a guy is using his academic intelligence to
try to show off to the girl, VALIDATE his
sense of academic intelligence, tell him you
SUCKED at school and wished you could be
like him.

Remember, the reason these guys ARE jerks
in the first place, is they still haven’t learned
that it’s their INSECURITY that is screwing
them up!

Provide them a HIT of validation on the
ONE THING they use to prop themselves
up, and they simultaneously get their circuits
FRIED with overload, but they ALSO then
wonder if maybe you’re screwing with them,
and it makes them REALIZE for a sec that
maybe EVERYONE is onto their insecurity.

Of course, the best thing is to just IGNORE
AND LEAVE with the girl, but if you have
to, you do the above.

Is that kind of response to a jerk somehow
jerky itself? Not really. It’s just you
TARGETING the issue DIRECTLY.

What you have read here is a glimpse into
the REAL WORLD of attracting women.

It’s NOT about being a jerk.
It’s about expanding your power in every way,
yet WITHOUT you being unfair to ANYONE.
It’s about learning the truth of how things work.

It’s about gaining insights into women.

And it’s about making your MIND SERVE
YOU, rather than YOU serving your MIND.

Becoming this kind of man is overwhelmingly
seductive to a woman, she can't HELP but
be attracted. It digs too deep into her
carnal sense of you being all MAN, all
"CAVE-MAN survival of the fittest",
all PRIMAL.

Her response to this kind of man is not
LOGICAL. She doesn't THINK about it.
She just FEELS it, and she feels it
DESPERATELY with ferocious intensity.

It's VISCERAL, she will feel a NEED,
not just a "want" to be with you,
but a deeply obsessive NEED.

And if you're reading this right now,
you can clearly see that attracting
women has so MUCH to do with where
you are coming from on a deep INTERNAL
level, from the way you are THINKING
to the way you are FEELING when it
comes to all these situations, from
approaching women to escalating things
to a physical level.

All this goes very, very, VERY deep.

I have created an INFINITELY POWERFUL
program on DEEP LEVEL INTERNAL CHANGE
regarding all these essential areas for
attracting women.

Mastering this deep level of attraction
allows you to experience a whole other
UNIVERSE of unlimited CHOICE when it
comes to women.

The program is called "Warrior Within",
and I seriously suggest you get your
hands on it immediately.

It's at:

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Women can tell the difference between
a guy who is just doing an "act" and
a man who is the "real thing".

This program is all about deep, real
transformation, and it will SKYROCKET
your results with women.

Again, it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Be DOMINANT With Women

If you're a guy, maybe you've heard
that DOMINANCE is important for
attraction. But the problem is,
most guys tend to make one of
two mistakes with dominance-
either they think it's about being
controlling, or they think that
being dominance is the "wrong"
thing to be with a woman.

Both those ideas are misguided.
The following letter from a reader
represents the problem most
guys have, and also actually
shows the mistake most guys
are making:  

**LETTER**

Hey Michael,

I've been reading your articles and finding that
I can get a girl's number or email after chatting
a bit with her and using some humor, but I notice
that things fizzle out after a date or two.

Suddenly, they have other plans, or they tell me
they met someone, etc. I get the feeling that
I must be something wrong from the time of
getting a girl's number to the actual dates,
because this keeps happening to me over and
over again. I try to keep things going smoothly
on the dates, I try to keep the conversation going,
etc. I really don't give the women any reason to
not want to go out with me again. Any ideas to
help me out?

Terence,

Vancouver

****MY FEEDBACK****

I'm glad that you're putting the advice into action,
but there is something very, very important that
you are missing here: You mention how you
"try to keep things going smoothly", trying to
"keep the conversation going" and how "you
don't give the women any reason" to not want
to go out with you again.

Ironically, you have already actually
HIT THE NAIL ON THE PROVERBIAL HEAD.

You have just stated what you are doing WRONG.

What is this thing that you are doing to SABOTAGE
(albeit unknowingly) your success?
I'll tell you: You are trying to "FIT IN" with HER.
In other words, she gets the feeling SHE is leading
the show here. She feels SHE is dominant.

I'm not saying to try to start arguments, but
I get the sense you are trying TOO hard, as
if the paradigm was that she was the SUN
and you were the planets orbiting around.
As if SHE is the CENTRE.

Again, I want to prevent confusion:
It's not that you should act like some
big-shot, it's that you need to be
CENTRED, you need to develop
a stronger and more fleshed out
self-concept, so that you are not
internally feeling that you are
revolving around her or that you
NEED to revolve around her.   

Get ready for this: If there is one thing
that turns women OFF more than anything
else, it's a man with a lack of DOMINANCE.

And an attractive woman can smell a lack of
dominance like a shark smells blood.

This is one of those unspoken truths that
should be explained to all males on the planet
earth as part of their formal education.

Again, I want to prevent problems in being
misinterpreted here. Most guys totally misunderstand
what dominance really is. It's not about being a
tight-ass or an insecure control freak.

Dominance is about taking control because you
already feel COMFORTABLE making a decision.
Whether it's where to sit, where to go, etc.
You make DECISIONS rather than wait for
her to make them for you.

And the way to do this is from a POSITIVE standpoint,
not from a standpoint of "I am in charge" but rather
because you know she enjoys the fact that you are a
MAN and not afraid to LEAD the show.

Also, there is another dimension to this:
When you are ALREADY pretty damn happy
about your life, you are feeling so good, that
you aren't even WORRIED about "what if" she
doesn't "like" what you're doing. If she doesn't
like something, you can relax, she can always
TELL you! 

And you see, people are naturally attracted to
those who are already happy and content, because
everyone wants more of that in their own life.

This is why it's so important to have a REAL LIFE,
things BESIDES women.  In fact, they should be
even MORE important than women.

And, it's REALLY powerful if you are in an
ENVIROMENT of people who share your passions. 

Even though the wizardry is a major passion for me,
the reality is that I have other creative areas that I am
JUST as passionate about, and I wouldn't give up for
a BILLION dollars.  These things totally immerse
my mind and enhance me personally and actually help
me understand all human beings better. 

So when I walk away from these things, and I happen to
meet a woman, I actually am not coming from a place
of need.  I really AM coming from a place of curiosity,
and a place of wanting to GIVE awesome emotions to.
I feel an insane amount of awesome emotions in me,
and I want OTHERS to feel it too.
(I'm human of course, sometimes negative
emotions slip up on anyone, but I try to redirect
my focus on something more productive and
important and fun.)

When I chat up a woman, I really am NOT looking
for anything in return.  Sure, I am thinking it would
be FUN, but I am not NEEDY for it, or even
consciously thinking "how do I GET her".

SERIOUSLY!
The fact that people are INTERESTED in the
topic is ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME! 
So if woman is giving me good convo and vibes,
that's really the point, and everything else is
just a logical by-product.  After all, I'm a guy,
she's a girl, we like each other, so it just
makes sense to continue things.

See, I REALLY AM about VIBING.
I LIKE VIBING.
So from there, if there really is something that I feel
is a cool connection as well, then I will go for it
AUTHENTICALLY, and it will WORK.

Keep in mind, that I am a pretty damn curious guy,
so I can make almost ANY person, ANY woman,
an AUTHENTIC CONNECTION.

Please, if you don't believe me, come out
to a BOOTCAMP, and have proof before
your very eyes.

This stuff is not about controlling women at all.
DOMINANCE is about DOMINANCE over
your own life. 

Do you know what you CARE about?
Do you know what is IMPORTANT to you?
Are you getting PASSION out of your own life?
Are you giving into WEAKNESS AND NEEDINESS?
Every time you give in to a "needy" emotion, you
only make the neediness STRONGER.

When you get control over yourself this way,
you are able to be a lot more dominant with
women in a POSITIVE sense.  You can
make decisions quicker, because they are
GOOD decisions.  You can choose places
to go, because you have a sense of
TASTE, a taste for things that are
cool.

You've developed this side of yourself.

You have to have a PATH that MATTERS
to you.  And STICK to it.  And CARE
about it. THAT'S attractive. When you
have that, you can be a lot more dominant,
because you don't have time to WASTE
in life, since YOUR life is meaningful
to YOU.

And this NATURALLY shows "VALUE"
to her EMOTIONAL SENSORS, not just
her cerebral sensors, which are useless
for attraction.  EMOTION counts, logic
is USELESS when it comes to this stuff.
    
All this gets CONVEYED through SUBTLETIES
in your gestures, movements, voice tone, language,
and facial expressions. I state "subtleties" because
it's all in the DETAILS....

It's an ATTITUDE.

Being dominant with women isn't easy
when you grow up being told for most
of your life that women want a man who
is WEAK and overly "SENSITIVE",
who is so obsessed with being considerate
of her wants and desires that HE himself
gets ERASED in the process.

It ain't easy when you grow up being told
that women want "equality", as if you were
supposed to **NOT** BE AS COOL AND AS
POWERFUL AS POSSIBLE -- AND AS
COOL AS YOU REALLY WANTED TO
BE IN THE FIRST PLACE!!!!!!!!!!!! 

WHAT HOGWASH.
And it ain't easy when you're told that only
"jerks" disregard women's desire for total equality.
This is a huge topic, but let me give you some
examples of things you might see in a dominant
man: Men who are dominant tend to smile at a
woman at very DIFFERENT times and for very
DIFFERENT reasons than men who aren't dominant.

Men who are NOT dominant will smile in a way
that shows they are "trying to fit in" with a woman.

In other words, agreeing to everything she is
saying for the SOLE PURPOSE OF AGREEING.

Or nodding a lot, WITH A SMILE.
And laughing at all her jokes, even if they're
not funny.
And just smiling sometimes for NO REASON,
other than the fact the guy is SO HAPPY to be
with this beautiful woman in front of him.

I'm NOT saying that you shouldn't smile or
laugh with a woman, but only do it if you
would smile and laugh at the same things
she is doing even if she was also 300 POUNDS.

Because otherwise, you are really just
kissing her ass. A guy who is dominant might
smile at a woman in a SLY WAY if he just
busted on her big time. And even then, he
might not.

Because for him, he is so USED TO
getting the responses he wants, that it
takes a little more to make him react.
He's not angry, he's just not reacting,
because it's not such a big deal. In
fact, he's just chilled out, he's not
being MEAN to her.

It's like "Of course she is enjoying
being with me- what's the big deal."
A guy who is dominant makes decisions
with women. He does NOT say
"Honey, it doesn't matter to me, where
would YOU like to go?"

He does not get steered off course when
women test him on his commitment to
those decisions. I know many women who
have confidentially told me that when a guy
asks for their number, they will purposely
say they don't give out their number,
JUST TO SEE IF HE IS DOMINANT
ENOUGH TO NOT TAKE ONE "NO"
for an answer.

In other words, they want to see, "Is this
the kind of guy who means BUSINESS,
or is he wishy washy?" Women don't
mind giving out their numbers, emails,
etc, but they want a man WHO ISN'T
A PUSHOVER.

If he doesn't mean business about THEM,
he probably doesn't mean ANYTHING
with anyone, including his commitments
to HIMSELF.

Subconsciously, THAT'S what she's thinking.

Now, I think that some guys may have a
bit of a dilemma: They really are just
happy-go-lucky guys who smile a lot.
My advice for them is to hold back a bit
when they first meet a new woman or
the smiling behavior will be misinterpreted
as weakness.

Dominance also means NOT LISTENING
to every complaint that women give you,
since half the time, women are complaining
only to see if you will kiss their ass! If you
ever sense that a woman's complaint is
sounding like an attempt for control, you
better make sure to stick to your guns
(unless she points out a valid criticism, etc)
or you will find that she will start to nag you
even MORE....all to see if you are losing
your touch as THE MAN.

Your BODY LANGUAGE also conveys
your dominance or lack of it. If you tell a
woman "I will not accept x behavior",
but you are at the same time looking down
at the floor, or are fidgeting your hands
it's like you've destroyed any impact your
words could have had. If you are speaking
with a woman, if you are nervous, your
facial muscles will often clench, your
forehead will wrinkle, your eyebrows
will be raised in alarm, etc.

Now, by consciously CHANGING your
PHYSIOLOGY, and by RELAXING those
facial muscles, you will ACTUALLY
CHANGE YOUR PSYCHOLOGY as well,
and truly start to feel more relaxed.

So watch your facial expressions and
consciously relax them, and soon you will
actually feel more calm and confident in
front of her.

Listen, if you think I am exaggerating,
think about this: The CIA has special
agents trained in lie detection. They
don't look only at a person's WORDS
to tell if he is lying. The behaviors that
give away someone as a liar may be as
simple as a person tapping his foot against
the floor. Such "evidence" is known as
a LEAK, since the truth is LEAKING...

These experts look at everything from
body language to body temperature to
heart rate.

Now, attractive women are SO
EXPERIENCED WITH DATING,
and have gone out with SO MANY
MEN, that these women have "seen it all"
and are pretty darn good at telling which
men are full of it and which men are the
real deal. These women can see the "leaks".

They KNOW when a man is confident
and when he is just acting, because they
have seen the "signs" a million times.
These women look at your body language,
your facial expressions, your nose and
forehead as they wrinkle in tension.
They hear your rising submissive tonality.

So pay very, very careful attention to being
TOTALLY CONGRUENT in your facial
expressions and body language.

Being dominant also means not willing to
compromise on your principles. One thing
I notice: The more compromises you make
regarding your own values in order to
"keep a woman happy", the GREATER are
the chances she will grow MORE irritated
and bored and not sexually interested.

On the other hand, the greater your standards,
the less you compromise, the more control
you take, the BETTER a woman will treat you,
appreciate you, and feel sexual desire for you.

Here's another thing about men who are
dominant: They don't feel the need to talk too
much, they don't need to become chatterboxes
to "sell" themselves. They don't need to qualify
themselves to a woman, these men behave as
if it's the woman who must qualify herself.

It's about being the type of man who is in control
of his own emotions and his own life.

He who conquers his own heart, who is in control
of his own emotions, is the real victor in life.
Women can't stand a man who is always
complaining and whining about his problems.
Not only is it a bore, but it's a sign of him being
UNABLE TO COPE, and the most important
sexual criteria for a man has been his ability to
survive and pass that ability on to his children.

I know a lot of guys who feel that part of being
with a woman is to be able to share your sorrows
and your triumphs with her- well, save the
sorrows till after you have already celebrated
your 1 year anniversary, because otherwise
you'll never get to that point. (and even then,
keep the whining to a bare minimum).

This goes back to forces beyond our conscious
control. It stems from what was from an
evolutionary point of view, the mark of a man
who could SURVIVE and provide SURVIVAL
for his family.

DOMINANCE was part of that sign of such
a man, and for a man, was far more sexy
(read: useful for survival and hence an
element of adaptation) than the notion of
"being considerate" or "sensitive".

And if you want to know more about this and how
ELSE to be TOTALLY successful with women, I suggest
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There's no hypnosis involved, no tricks, just solid
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This program is NEW content, the most evolved and
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Everything you need to know is clearly explained
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to understand.

This is the program for guys who are sick and tired of
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Make the decision to become more successful
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with women- it's up to you now to make that
choice.

Till next time...

Michael Marks

The JERK Factor (An Absolute MUST)

A long time ago, I used to think the reason
JERKS did well with women was because
women were crazy.

Then, I thought women were hardwired
to be attracted to jerks.

Then, I thought it was just that some of
these guys had everything ELSE going
for them, so that they could get AWAY
with being jerks and still have women
attracted.

Fast forward ten years of REAL WORLD
testing, and I can tell you the TRUTH:

The part of being a JERK that is attractive
actually has nothing to do with being a jerk.
It’s just that good guys tend to THINK that
a lot of behaviors that are attractive must
be “jerky” when they aren’t.

Let me give you some specific examples:

1. DATING ONLINE

Most guys, when creating a profile, will try
to “convince” a woman reading the profile
that they are good guys, who will be fun,
interesting, and who will treat a woman well.

The PROBLEM with all this, is that ninety-nine
percent of the time, women get the SAME kind
of message from ALL guys.

PLUS, when women read the messages and the
profile descriptions, women feel that the vast majority
of all these guys are so focused on trying to impress
the women, that it’s obvious to the women that the
guys probably will accept ANY behavior from
any attractive woman and be grateful for any attention.

All this is NOT flattering.
It just makes a woman feel SORRY/SYMPATHY,
not feel ATTRACTION, because the message
being sent on a primal unconscious level is
“I am not on the same level of value as you.”

The woman can ALREADY predict the future of
what will happen if she gives the SLIGHTEST
indication of interest to the guy:

The guy will write back a huge long email,
and offer to take her somewhere really nice,
and probably give her all kinds of compliments
even though he has no clue who she really is,
but the guy will READ INTO any little thing
about her description and see it through
ROSE-colored glasses, he will fall BIG TIME
for the HALO effect.

The halo effect, in this example, is the tendency
of a man to think that an attractive woman is
more intelligent, more noble, more admirable,
than another woman who is not as attractive.

Yes, the MIND is hardwired this way, and
most guys are SLAVES to their MIND, they
don’t learn to control their MIND, so their
MIND controls THEM. And when it comes
to the area of attraction and women, this
is TOTALLY true.

On the OTHER hand, let’s take the OPPOSITE
example, okay?

Imagine a guy creates a profile, where his first
line is “I’m a total JERK. I always treat myself
first and love myself more than anyone else.
Pretty much, I’m the guy you’re mother warned
you about. The problem is, even though you’ve
been warned, you’ll end up falling in love with
me, then hating me because all I’m good at is
sex. Then, you’ll keep coming back to me
because all I’m good at is sex and I’m horrible
at listening to your problems.

Which leads to more fights and even more intense
mind-blowing make up sex. Oh man, leave me alone
already, I can already feel you harassing me with
love-hate mail. The story of my life…”

Now, I know that a million guys are about to
cut and paste this since that’s the easiest thing
to do, and yup, they will get better results
than they have been getting all their life.

But as everyone copies this, it will wear a
little thin, so the key is to understand the
PRINCIPLE at work here AND create your own.

2. READING BETWEEN THE LINES

What is ACTUALLY happening in the above example
can only be seen through READING BETWEEN THE LINES.

To a guy who is UNAWARE of the reality
of his FULL POTENTIAL AND POWER, and to
a guy who is unaware of the REALITY of
an attractive woman, the above profile
sounds like that of a JERK.

But in REALITY, here's what it’s actually saying:

“Hey there, I’m not like those other needy
desperate guys who are going to ask you
to marry them the first second you reply
to them. I’m quite a catch myself, and
not in a hurry to get chained down to
the WRONG WOMAN, so you can feel
free to NOT be under any PRESSURE
to be with me.

If you decide to be with ME, it will be by 
your CHOICE, not by FORCE, pressure,
guilt, or any other pathetic attempt to 
get you.

I’m also a really FUN and PLAYFUL guy 
as you can tell from my sense of humor.

In addition, I’m not uncomfortable about
sex and about enjoying it in tons of creative
and passionate ways.

Plus, I already have experience with women,
and the truth is, they are so addicted to me,
the only reason they hate me is because they
can’t get ENOUGH of me, and enough
control of me, they wish they could totally
control me because they want me so badly.

PLUS, the fact is, that EVERY GUY you've
ever really loved was the SAME like me,
so you can already FEEL that I am going
to give you the SAME awesome emotions
except even BETTER since I'm even MORE
of all the things that made you WILD about
any man in the past!"

That is what the message is REALLY saying
"between the lines"!

And communication is always more powerful
when done INDIRECTLY rather than SAYING
it directly.

That's why you must learn to communicate
in a way where your message is in between
the lines.

"In between the lines" is INDIRECT.
When you just try to say important things
directly, it doesn't work because EVERYONE
TRIES the same direct thing, so the mind
gets DESENSITIZED to it.

It's too easy, everyone does the direct thing
about saying they are all great catches.

It doesn't make a woman FEEL anything,
other than that the guy might be just
telling a lie to impress her.

Anyone can SAY they are great, right?
It's much better to INFER it indirectly.

So, for example, you don’t SAY to a woman
that you are funny, if you are funny.

Instead, you GET her laughing.

You don’t SAY you are confident, you instead
SHOW it through your ACTIONS and through
your LANGUAGE.

NOTHING jerky going on actually, see?

Tons of OTHER cool and attractive things going
on here, but no “jerkiness”.

Now, guess what? Online dating can be great,
but it is just one route to success, because
as you will see:

3. REAL LIFE GIVES YOU MAXIMUM ATTRACTION POWER

ONLINE DATING is just barely scratching the
SURFACE of what you can do when you are
approaching women in REAL LIFE.

You are not limited to just using a KEYBOARD,
but rather you can access the power of your
FULL HUMAN POTENTIAL since all of your physical
self is actually there.

Your verbal skills, your body language, tonality,
sense of style and fashion, humor, wit, confidence,
all this comes together with GREATER impact
when approaching a woman in PERSON.

This is one of the reasons I LOVE teaching guys
in REAL LIFE how to attract women through
“cold approaches” LIVE, in real time on actual
women whether the women are in coffee shops,
bookstores, lounges, anywhere!

4. “JERK FACTOR” IN DEALING WITH REAL JERKS

So let’s say you are chatting to a woman somewhere,
and some loser/jerk who has nothing better to do
tries to interfere in your chat, because he wants
to try to get this woman now that he sees YOU
doing it, because he didn’t have the guts to do it
before he saw YOU do it.

Most of these types of guys are guys who have
no girlfriends and couldn’t get one if they tried
because they are so negative minded, but they
just can’t stand to see someone ELSE get any
results with women, so THEN they suddenly
get motivated.

Well, a lot of guys would actually GIVE the
JERK way too much credit by even
ACKNOWLEDGING his presence.

So let’s say the jerk comes into your conversation
with the woman and makes a remark to her like:
“Hey, wanna have some REAL fun?”

A lot of guys would be thrown for a loop here.
They would say something to the guy like,
“What?”, or they might say, ‘Who are you?”,
or even, “Who the heck are you?”

The very ACT of RESPONDING at all is
a kind of CONDITIONED response, but
it doesn’t mean the jerk DESERVES that
response.

JUST IGNORE HIM COMPLETELY.

If you TOTALLY cut him out of your reality,
the woman you are with will VERY OFTEN
totally cut him out too, since it’s obvious
he had LESS guts than you, and is an energy
vampire that sucks off of other people.

NOTHING JERKY with totally IGNORING
him, but a lot of guys WOULD give him
SOME attention, because they feel that
they are SUPPOSED to say SOMETHING.

SAYS WHO?
The “nice guy” federation?

And if the jerk KEEPS on trying to chat
to her, or to try to talk to you to distract
you from her or to ruin your vibe with her,
just PULL THE GIRL AWAY with you,
take her by the hand and MOVE.

If the guy REALLY keeps up at it, then
HE is lowering his own value as he is
showing that he CLEARLY sees YOU
as having the ability to get what HE wants.

Meanwhile, he HASN’T got what he wants.
The woman SEES all this, and registers it
DEEP in her unconscious, as this jerk behaving
in a way that is clearly conveying he is of low
intrinsic value and thus UNATTRACTIVE.

And so often, these jerks will have ONE
thing going for them, be it bodybuilding,
or wealth, or high marks in academics, or
some fancy car or prestigious job, or some
kind of connection to someone, WHATEVER.

It doesn’t matter, what matters is that it is always
OBVIOUS that they are relying on that ONE
thing for their sense of ego and confidence.

And then, it ALWAYS COMES UP when
they chat to a woman.

So you will notice the guy trying to wear
an extra tight shirt to show his muscles,
or he will drop into the chat that he is
from some high university, or he will
mention some prestigious club he is
part of, etc.

AWESOME!
This sets him up for total destruction.

All you need to do is prick that BALLOON
of FALSE CONFIDENCE and he will quickly
leave with his tail between his legs.

How do you do this?
By EXAGGERATING whatever the heck
he is using to try to “qualify” himself.

If he’s trying to use his muscular SIZE, then
GUSH at this. Tell him to flex for you. Tell
him you think it’s so unfair that most bodybuilders
work so hard and don’t get paid enough.

By GIVING HIM SO MUCH of what he
WISHES he could get, i.e. VALIDATION,
it FLOODS his circuits and he isn’t sure
what the heck is going on.

It also makes him realize that maybe EVERYONE
is on to him, that he is actually MASSIVELY LACKING
CONFIDENCE if he doesn't have his one magic thing,
in this case, his muscles.

If a guy is using his academic intelligence to
try to show off to the girl, VALIDATE his
sense of academic intelligence, tell him you
SUCKED at school and wished you could be
like him.

Remember, the reason these guys ARE jerks
in the first place, is they still haven’t learned
that it’s their INSECURITY that is screwing
them up!

Provide them a HIT of validation on the
ONE THING they use to prop themselves
up, and they simultaneously get their circuits
FRIED with overload, but they ALSO then
wonder if maybe you’re screwing with them,
and it makes them REALIZE for a sec that
maybe EVERYONE is onto their insecurity.

Of course, the best thing is to just IGNORE
AND LEAVE with the girl, but if you have
to, you do the above.

Is that kind of response to a jerk somehow
jerky itself? Not really. It’s just you
TARGETING the issue DIRECTLY.

What you have read here is a glimpse into
the REAL WORLD of attracting women.

It’s NOT about being a jerk.
It’s about expanding your power in every way,
yet WITHOUT you being unfair to ANYONE.
It’s about learning the truth of how things work.

It’s about gaining insights into women.

And it’s about making your MIND SERVE
YOU, rather than YOU serving your MIND.

Becoming this kind of man is overwhelmingly
seductive to a woman, she can't HELP but
be attracted. It digs too deep into her
carnal sense of you being all MAN, all
'CAVE-MAN survival of the fittest',
all PRIMAL.

Her response to this kind of man is not
LOGICAL. She doesn't THINK about it.
She just FEELS it, and she feels it
DESPERATELY with ferocious intensity.

It's VISCERAL, she will feel a NEED,
not just a "want" to be with you,
but a deeply obsessive NEED.

What you have read here is just a GLIMPSE
into a whole UNIVERSE where you have
INFINITE POWER and CHOICE when it comes
to women.

If you don’t already have my most in-depth
course on MASTERING this level of DEEP
INTERNAL CHANGE that is so deeply
attractive to women, the I seriously suggest
you get the following program NOW:

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a few MINUTES worth from this important
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I can’t possibly recommend this program enough,
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The HALO Effect And How This Relates To Why "Nice Guys Finish Last With Women"

You ever wonder if it's REALLY true that
nice guys finish last with women?

One of the most popular emails I get in terms
of questions from men, is:

"There's this ONE woman I know that
I really like and she doesn't seem
to be responding and-" etc., etc.

And the REAL truth is that there's
nothing in particular about this woman
that's so great, there's no real
reason to be focusing on her as
opposed to finding other women.

But that's not what it FEELS like, right?

It always seems that THIS one is
really different from all the other
situations where guys are saying
"there's this one woman" even though
there's ZERO evidence for why she
is so special.

Sometimes, even if you are amongst
MILLIONS of women, you get caught up
on ONE woman, and you pursue her no
matter what, even if she gives you
no reciprocation, etc, etc-

Hopefully this one newsletter will
take care of ALL of these types of
questions.

So here we go:

About a year ago I happened to see
this movie that REMINDED me just how
INSANELY tough it must be to be a
guy who is living without knowing
the full deal about attraction,
about women, and about the way
human emotions work.

Sitting in the theatre, this movie
pissed me off!

You see, the movie is called
"Forgetting Sarah Marshall".

And in this movie, is a dude who I
thought EVERYONE in the theatre
would NOT be able to relate to,
because to me, his behavior seemed
so EXTREMELY pathetic.

It was almost OFFENSIVE to me that
guys could be portrayed that way.
Even though this movie is a comedy,
the reality is that it would not
work if the audience felt this guy
was COMPLETELY CRAZY.

The movie works because the reality
is that THIS BASIC FEELING is very
PREVALENT among GOOD GUYS
when it comes to women.

I'll give you the basic story in a nutshell
in a sec, if you don't already know.

And then it hit me. You see, I USED
to think very SIMILARLY to this
character in the movie!

It's only because for years now,

I have been so immersed in a different
way of going about things that the
old behaviors NOW seems so absolutely
crazy to me.

And the fact that this character's type
of thinking in the movie does not seem
absolutely absurd and crazy- the fact
it seems identifiable as something
that could happen - is HORRIFYING to me!

It shows what massive confusion us guys
have been forced to suffer for so long...

I want to clear this whole topic up!

I want to make that type of behavior, that
type of thinking, EXTINCT!

So what was this behavior?

In the movie, this woman who is supposed
to be super hot, (reality check is that
even THIS is the result of scarcity style
thinking) and she suddenly dumps him after
four years.

He goes CRAZY desperate, he becomes a total
needy wreck, he tries to win her BACK, he
ABANDONS his whole life, loses passion
for his goals, self-esteem plummets, etc.

Now, the first thing that was glaringly
obvious to me, is that no woman on Earth
"suddenly" dumps a guy.

This is all part of the myth, the nightmare
myth used to scare guys, that a woman who
is this great person, suddenly DROPS a guy
out of the blue, she becomes this uncaring
unfeeling person, etc.

What ACTUALLY happens is that a guy ends up
falling victim to what is known as the
HALO EFFECT.


The halo effect is when humans see people
who are attractive or celebrities or both,
they tend to think these people are BETTER
than other people - more NOBLE, more honest,
more intelligent, etc.

It's total emotional HOGWASH, but it happens
so often and even today with all this knowledge
even educated people often FALL for it.

So much so that you may notice whenever you
see criminals in court, they dress as well
as they can to try to influence the judge
or jury to come to a verdict that says he
or she is innocent.

Well, at least this disturbing movie SHOWS
this, it shows it in a pretty intelligent way,
although I wonder if every man truly got
the lesson from this flick, as opposed to
just walking out thinking "yup, the good
guy got the good girl in the end and it
was all happy endings' because that's
definitely NOT the point of the film.

The point is that WEAKNESS will
REPEL all women, and that weakness
is not "nice" at all.

What the movie shows at first, are his
MEMORIES of this woman. He keeps on
TORTURING HIMSELF by remembering the
"fun times" they had together.

He keeps seeing her smile in his mind,
he keeps remembering when they got
physical, etc.

And of course, this makes him more and
more sad, depressed, and frustrated!

Then, his best friend tries to help him out,
tries to set him straight, and then TELLS
him something STRAIGHT UP:

"Hey man, whenever she was around us,
and I saw her with you, she was pretty
much a bitch."

I'm paraphrasing, but that's what he said,
in a heartfelt way. His friend is trying
to HELP him, but his friend is also truly
being HONEST.

So what does the guy respond with? He gets
angry at his friend for him saying this.

"How dare his friend say this about his
"great" woman!"

So he tells off his FRIEND, he tells his friend
that this girl was better than his friend's girlfriend!

Does this make any sense? The girl that
dumped him, was better?!

Well, the truth is that unless you are
trained and developed in the ways of
the "force" when it comes to attraction
and inner game, this kind of thing is
very realistic, because what happens
is that our minds play TRICKS on us.

It's the halo effect, in full effect!

Also, good guys are NOTORIOUS for falling
for the "halo effect" because since THEY are
so nice and good themselves, they think that
everyone ELSE is, as well, including these
women, so when you COMBINE that with
the fact these women are GORGEOUS, the
HALO effect becomes OVERWHELMINGLY
powerful.  

In the film, we see how it's not just that this guy
felt his girlfriend was beautiful, he also felt
she was somehow great, a great person,
a wonderful person, someone he was going
to miss!

He didn't say that his girlfriend was
hotter, he actually said she was "better"!

And yet, this is exactly how many guys
might feel in real life in similar
situations.

All because of the HALO EFFECT.

If the guy truly honestly felt that it
was just a woman's looks that were superior
to those of other women, he would not stand
for the abuse.

The problem is that the halo effect makes
a person feel that the beautiful person
is somehow not only superior in looks,
but also in personality and intelligence,
etc., etc.

And this is what millions of guys
experience all the time.

In fact, the memories we trigger when
we are under the halo effect are often
FALSE MEMORIES!

Emotions are insanely powerful things.

We tend to feel first, and then we
rationalize those feelings as being
appropriate feelings. We give reasons
for those feelings, reasons that feel
right!

In reality though, the feelings usually
have nothing to do with the reasons we
give for them! In fact, very often, the
reasons we give for the feelings are not
only wrong, they are horrifyingly wrong,
they are the farthest thing from the truth!

So, for example, because the guy feels
attraction and feels she is good (all
due to the halo effect), he then has
selective memory, to only remember the
good things, no matter how tiny they
were.

Is a smile such a big deal?
Who does not smile ever?
And what the heck is valuable
in a smile, it could be she
is smiling for totally selfish
reasons!

Not only that, if a guy feels strong
enough about a woman, he may even
create memories that never existed,
he will WARP the past into it being
something more special than it was!

Our brains do this because we think
there is no way that we can feel so
good about something or someone that
was actually NOT good!

Eventually in the movie, he slowly
starts to regain some accuracy in
his memories, and it's no coincidence
that these memories are triggered
only once he regains his self-esteem!

Suddenly then, he starts to remember
all the sick and twisted things she
did to him!

And this brings me to a massive point:

The whole problem in the first place
started because he himself was not
feeling the kind of self-esteem that
every man deserves to experience.

He was doing work that he hated, he
had vague dreams of creating a rock opera
with puppets that he was not putting
into action, and his whole attitude
toward his own life sucked.

The ONLY thing he had going on that
seemed cool was this chick who was an
actress, decently attractive, etc.

And so she became his only source of self-esteem.

Again, not just because of her attractiveness,
but because the HALO effect ALSO made him
view her as smart, noble, good, virtuous,
special, etc. And so having her in his
life made him feel that he was special
by association.

He needed a self-esteem prop so badly
(because he was ignoring his true inner
self which is where self esteem should
really come from) that he was oblivious
to the reality that indeed she was a shallow,
selfish, emotionally and intellectually void
beeee-yotch!

He needed her so badly, only because
his own reservoir of self-esteem was
running on EMPTY.

He had nothing INTERNAL to base his
own self-esteem ON.

And even when his friend was telling
him to get to work on that rock opera,
all he did was say he couldn't because
he was heartbroken.

Yet, by ignoring his self, his own
identity, his own self-esteem plummeted
FURTHER, leaving him even MORE vulnerable
to the halo effect and selective memory
and being desperate for her.

And even when he slept with many women,
it didn't help, because he still felt
empty about himself inside. He still
felt she was the special one, because
for years and years, he had unwittingly
brainwashed himself into believing this!

This is true to life as well, as the
"pick up artist" advice of "just go
sleep with tons of women to forget
the previous woman" doesn't work
any better than a woman who tries
to use the same strategy to forget
a guy.

It's only when he meets another woman
who is emotionally more intelligent
than he is, and understands what is
going on internally with him, that
things begin to slowly change.

This new woman, well her self-esteem
is INTERNALLY driven.

She is not all about having "celebrity
pet care centers" or about being famous
and glitzy, she does not need to have
validation from everyone around her to
be happy, and she doesn't need to be
rewarded for being a good and happy person,
she does it because she FEELS GOOD doing it.

Her own self esteem is SKYROCKETING.

This is an example of what I mean by
a "Great Girl" as opposed to just getting
girls.

And she encourages HIM to grow this way
as well. She even devises a sly but loving
method of getting him to FORCE HIMSELF
to take action on his dreams and goals.

All this stuff helps him REALIZE that
what he was REALLY SEARCHING for all
this time was not his ex-girlfriend,
but HIMSELF.

He had LOST HIMSELF before he even MET
the abusive woman, so he was a perfect
target for total destruction for the
abuser.

And yet all those years he was HAPPY to
be with her, he felt she was the GREATEST
thing that happened to him.

And yet, the new woman, who he is attracted
to massively as well, cannot do MAGIC.

She can only lead the way...

So a certain amount of emotional growing has
to come from HIM and him only. This is his
real mission.

Yet, he at first fails this mission,
because when the ex who dumped
him comes running back to him after her
new boyfriend cheats on her (and after
her new boyfriend can't take her selfish
behavior because it gets in the way of
his own selfish behavior) and after her
TV show gets cancelled, he actually
becomes weak and fools around with her
a bit even though he stops half way
and regrets it horribly.

However, it's still enough damage to cause
the new awesome woman he's met to lose
respect for him.

Which makes sense, because really what
he has done has shown her that his
self-esteem is SO WEAK, that HE IS WEAK.

This is why I HATE it when "nice guys"
get associated with characters like
the guy in the movie.

This guy doesn't lose the initial girl
because he's NICE.

He loses her because he's WEAK internally.

He's too weak to see that he shouldn't
have been with the abusive woman in the
first place and he's too weak to see
that he needs to develop himself INSIDE
first!

This isn't nice.

This isn't good.

It's pathetic.

When a woman says "Are you strong enough
to be my man?", she doesn't mean,
"Are you a bad boy???"

She means, "Are you a good guy and
STRONG about it, are you a good man
who is STRONG about his goodness, or
will he need validation and will he
need to pretend to be a pimp or playa
or over-compensating 'alpha' idiot
who is so scared inside that he can't
even tell the difference between an
amazing woman who treats him well and
a woman that treats him like garbage.

It's only when he FULLY REALIZES and
FULLY GROWS inside, when he become
strong enough to have NO DOUBTS about
what really is important, is he able
to truly win the girl who is beautiful
and a fantastic person as well.

So, this movie was actually a WAKE-UP
call that reminded me that I was lucky
enough to LEARN all this stuff so that
this movie's main character NOW seemed
ABSURD to me.

Don't let yourself be like the guy in
the movie who is so IMMERSED in the
ILLUSIONS that are destroying him, that
FIVE YEARS go by and even his BEST FRIEND
cannot help him when he is pleading and
trying so hard to wake him UP from the insanity.

If YOU want to get the FASTEST PATH
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redeeming your FUTURE with women,so
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