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-Michael Marks

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Best,

Michael  

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Michael 

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Most POWERFUL Thing You Can Do To Attract Women

There are a ton of things I want to share with
you today, but due to a lack of time I’m going
to focus on one SUPER important thing today
regarding attracting women.

Without exaggerating, I honestly think this
is the absolute most important newsletter 
on this topic that I have ever written, even
though it’s going to be pretty quick.

Here it is:

If you want to get super-hot women to be
CRAZY attracted to you, if you want to have
that feeling of knowing that your super-hot
girlfriend can’t WAIT to get naked with you,
and if you want to be able to have TONS of
choices with attractive women, or if you want
to KNOW that these women are DESPERATELY
IN LOVE with you, then you must actually BLOW
APART YOUR NEED FOR LOVE, APPROVAL,
ASSURANCE, AND SECURITY.

And you must do this NOT from a place of ANGER,
or SADNESS, or BITTERNESS, but rather from
a place of DETERMINATION and WISDOM and
UNDERSTANDING.

You see, the problem is that a lot of men mistake
the word 'love' for 'unselfish love'.

The truth is that pretty much ALL love is selfish,
and that is not a bad thing, it just is what it is.

When a mother CARES for her child, and tries
to make the child feel good, on a subconscious
level, she knows this is GOOD for the child,
and will improve that child’s chance at survival.

The child will carry her DNA and hopefully
REPRODUCE to carry ON her DNA.

But when a woman is looking at the MAN
she will REPRODUCE WITH, she is hoping
that all that work this man’s mother did has
paid off into making him at THIS point in
his life a MAN who NO LONGER needs
“mothering”.

But a lot of men kind of are hoping that the
WOMAN in their romantic life will give them
the SAME TYPE of warmth, dedication, and
CARING that their mom did.

Now, here’s the crazy part: IF a woman senses
that you INDEED really ARE “THE MAN”
then this STRIKES the very CORE of her
sexuality, it truly makes her WEAK with
ATTRACTION for you.

And now that she is ATTRACTED, guess what?
NOW she wants to MOTHER you, she wants
to do ANYTHING to make sure you are
absolutely, totally, completely HAPPY with
her, satisfied with her, and THINKING about
her.

She’ll now do things that are almost IRRATIONAL
in terms of LOVE, of GIVING, of SACRIFICING
herself in order to make you HAPPY.

She might even make a lot of MOTHERS look like
NOTHING compared to the intensity of sacrifice
and effort she will make to MAKE SURE YOU
ARE HAPPY.       

However, unlike a typical mother, if you SCREW UP
on being a MAN, you are TOTALLY SCREWED
in the sense she will pull a 180, she will totally
LOSE attraction and do almost ANYTHING to
get AWAY.  All those words of LOVE and
commitment she may have said will be
VAPORIZED in a NANO-SECOND and she
will likely DENY she ever even SAID those
words, and it’s even POSSIBLE that she may
very well BELIEVE that there is no WAY
she could have EVER really fallen for you,
that somehow this just was a big mistake
where she got fooled or something.

So REMEMBER- if you WANT the love,
if you WANT the attraction, if you WANT
that hot woman to be CRAZY for you, then
you must beat the SH*! out of the part of yourself
that thinks it NEEDS this kind of ‘love’ from
a female that you plan on mating with.

ONLY then, ironically, will the love flow,
her sexy legs spread, and her devotion show.

I say this NOT to be crass, but to be HONEST
about a topic that is so important and yet so
ignored.

It is so vital to also realize that none of this
makes women crazy. It ACTUALLY makes
women very NORMAL because THIS way
they can feel a lot more secure that the
CHILDREN they produce with you are
likely to be SURVIVORS and WINNERS
in the sense of making it in the evolutionary
chain of generations, and of making it in
a form of “dna” genetic immortality that
can carry on and on.

So, what this means, is that women a woman
who is HOT is not giving you love, this is
the PERFECT TIME to show that you are
THE MAN even MORE.

But what do most men do?
They either crumble with their head between
their legs, or they try beg the woman to be
“nicer” as if their emotions depended on
the approval of these women.

And yet, doing this only FURTHER cements
women’s feeling that CLEARLY this guy  
is NOT the guy who they should be mating
with.

And again, this is not something that women
CONSCIOUSLY do.  I’m just telling you that
this is the EVOLUTIONARY HARD WIRING
for the REASON they feel this way, i.e. feeling
REPULSED even if the women don’t know
exactly WHY they feel repulsed by it.
And also, women don’t KNOW they are even
being repulsed by the specific BEHAVIOR,
they just feel an AVERSION to the MAN
that behaves this way. 

This all makes sense once you understand that
EMOTIONS were DESIGNED to ensure humans
(or animals) take the right ACTIONS immediately.

When a woman feels the EMOTIONS of being
REPULSED, she is sure to NOT waste any time
even THINKING about whether she should or
should not be with that guy. 

Her emotions just TOTALLY DRIVE HER TO
GET AWAY FROM THAT GUY IMMEDIATELY.

And, the opposite is ALSO true:
Show the RIGHT behaviors, and her EMOTIONS
kick in to WANT that man no matter what ELSE
is going on.

So the next time you see a hot, leggy, gorgeous-faced
woman in clothes that reveal just the right amount of
sexy, remember what ATTRACTS HER and what turns her
OFF. 

This isn’t about what you would LIKE.
You might LIKE for her to be really soft and nice
and treat you with kid-gloves and assure you that
everything is going to be great, and that she likes
you, etc, etc, etc.

But that is not the way it works.
And deep down, that is not really the
MAIN thing you want.

It’s about what you really WANT:
You really want her because she is a WOMAN,
and an attractive one at that.  In other words, this
is a PHYSICAL thing, it really is all about the
MATING, whether you are conscious of it at
that second or not.

And if you WANT that sexiness to be all YOURS,
then you better MAN UP instead of hoping to be
treated like a nice little boy is treated by his mom.

That means if you approach a woman, let's say
at a bookstore, and you open up a conversation
with her, and she's NOT showing lots of excitement
or doing cartwheels right off the bat, you should
NOT run away.

In fact, her brain may very well be GOING INTO
HIGH GEAR knowing that this might be a situation
leading to the most wild and satisfying and
wonderful experience of her life.

OR it might be another time she is meeting just
another scared little BOY.

You have to understand that this is what is going
on in her mind, but she is not going to tell you
all this.

Remember, as a woman, all she has to say is YES
and most men would LOVE to jump in the sack with
her IMMEDIATELY.

She is not an idiot. She knows what is going on.
She needs to see if you are THE MAN for her.

If you run for the hills before she has even
had a chance to see if you are up for the task,
then she thinks you are NOT the MAN.   

And if she does something like TEASE you for
CHATTING TO HER, this is FANTASTIC news,
because it means she is interested enough
to TEST your response to her, and your response
counts 'A PLENTY', as they say.

The way you respond to her SHOWS HER what kind
of man you are.  It almost does not even matter
what she says, what matters is what YOU say in
response to convey the STRENGTH of your CHARACTER.
   
So if she says 'You know, this has happened twice
to me today', most guys will get freaked out, thinking
'Oh damn, this woman gets hit on so much and now she
is thinking I am just another one of those guys, there
is no WAY I am going to get her number and end up in
bed with her'.

And yet THIS FEAR AND THIS ATTITUDE is exactly what
SELF-DEFEATS MOST MEN!

So most men will reply with something like
'Really? Oh man, well I'm sorry, I just was
making conversation' if they even say anything
besides sorry.

Meanwhile, the MAN would say something like
'Really? Man, those guys must have been feeling
sorry for you'.  And the MAN would say this with
a SMIRK.

And if she said something back like:
'Excuse me, sorry for me?'

The MAN would respond with, 'You're excused, but
do not do it again'.

With every passing SECOND, the MAN is now
making this woman get WETTER AND WETTER,
and all she is hoping for is that this
guy is for REAL and not going to suddenly
turn out to be a little scared boy later
on.

When you behave this way, and show that you
are POWERFUL and FUN and NOT NEEDY, and
emotionally independent, she starts to
get overwhelmed in that way that only
be called the most glorious seduced
feeling in the world.

She can feel herself falling, she WANTS
this feeling, it is SO RARE for her to
MEET the man that GETS ALL OF THIS.

You are THE MAN, and it is ONLY the MAN
who will attract the SEXUAL element in a
WOMAN.

Do anything else, and it’s ‘JUST FRIENDS’ at best.
In fact, getting a woman attracted has almost
nothing to do with her being your FRIEND.

When a woman is ATTRACTED to you, she does good
things for you not because she wants your friendship,
it's because she wants to POSSESS YOU. 

And I say that in a GOOD way.  She wants you so bad,
that she can't WAIT to surrender her body to you
again and again and again.  She wants to rock your
world in the bedroom, she can't stop thinking
about you. And she wants YOU to be thinking about
HER.

She will go to the ends of the Earth to try to
get you to think about HER, to spend time with
HER.

That is not friendship, that is PRIMAL ATTRACTION.      
She couldn't really care less about Facebooking
your or sharing coffee or tea. She wants you
in a far more compelling way.

This is one of the reasons my first book,
The Dating Wizard, hammers home the
point on BEING THE MAN.

You must BE the man even when she insists she
doesn't WANT you to be the man, because it is
THE MAN that she wants!  As long as you are
the MAN, she is having wild fantasies that
keep her wet all the time, even if she is
arguing with you sometimes about wanting you
to be LESS of the man.

But when you are NOT being the man, and
becoming all soft and needy and insecure
and weak, suddenly she 'needs more space'
and more 'time to discover herself', etc,
etc, etc. 

Now, here’s the thing thing though:
It’s not as SIMPLE as ONLY being the MAN.

Being the man IS SUPER IMPORTANT.
It is the FOUNDATION.

But when picking up women, if you don’t ALSO
understand that female culture has evolved in
a way where women feel the need to show they
are NOT easy, you will also make no progress. 

Women have evolved this way because men
tend to NOT want promiscuous women to be
the mothers of their children.

So, one ON hand, being a MAN is the key
to attracting women.

On the other hand, if you are too overtly sexual
in your pick-up, if you are too aggressive, you
TRIGGER her ANTI-SLUT DEFENSE SHIELD.

This invisible shield is something she uses to
metaphorically BLOCK you from making
any progress with her in order for her to
PROVE to you that she is not a slut.

She wants to show that being AGGRESSIVE
is not very IMPRESSIVE to her, because LOTS
of guys suddenly get aggressive when they want
something, i.e. wanting HER. 

If she were to give sex to every guy who showed
a little bit of DESIRE to her, even if it is MANLY
desire expressed without apology, she would spend
her entire life on her back.

And THIS is just one area where having the right
COACH, having the right TRAINING, becomes
ESSENTIAL.

Picking up women, and KEEPING women attracted
long term, requires UNDERSTANDING and SKILL.

Let’s face it, if there’s ONE area that men have
competed against other men in since the beginning
of human history, it’s in the area of attracting
WOMEN.

There is no FINER or more WORTHY area of
getting the UTMOST skill and MASTERY in,
than the area of how to attract women.

It is for this reason, that I SERIOUSLY suggest
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This way, if you decide to enter into a relationship,
or marriage, or if you decide to spend more time
on a particular woman, it will ONLY be because
you actually KNOW she is THE BEST CHOICE,
and NOT because you felt insecure that you
couldn’t get anyone else.

Insecure relationships are usually DOOMED
because the insecurities ultimately SUFFOCATE
the other person and stir resentments as well
as a lack of appreciation in the other person.

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And if you haven’t yet downloaded my book,
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Making Her WANT To Be With You Out Of Attraction Rather Than Logic

Are you ready for the BIGGEST MISTAKE that most
men make when it comes to success with women?

Well here it is: Most men focus on doing things
that give women feelings of 'LOGICALLY SHOULD'
rather than 'MASSIVELY WANT'.

In other words, most guys focus on doing things
that make women feel like they OWE the guys
something, instead of making the women feel
they DESIRE the guys.

I'm not saying that men do this on purpose,
it is simply what most men do, because
they think it will ultimately work to
also attract women.

Most men seem to behave as if a woman's
attraction to a man could GROW out of logic
if there are just enough logical reasons for
a woman to be with a guy.  I used to think
the same way.

So, for example, putting in lots of WORK in
trying to set up a fancy date, being willing to
do favors for women, helping women out in all
kinds of ways, ranging from helping them with
their homework to offering to do just about
any other WORK for them.

OR, just buying these women nice gifts or
presents, etc., etc., etc.

OR being an extremely nice-guy to them by
flattering them or just being super-sensitive
to them, etc.

Now, none of those things are BAD, once
a woman has MASSIVELY EARNED them from
you by treating you like absolute GOLD.

However, doing those things for a woman BEFORE
she has treated you like GOLD not only does not HELP,
it actually REPELS her for one BIG reason:

It creates a feeling of BURDEN on her.

If you do all these nice things for a woman,
before she has earned them from you, she
feels she 'owes' you something now.

When a woman feels she owes you because you
were so nice to her, she simply wants to get RID
of that feeling of OWING you, and she wants
to get RID of that feeling as soon as possible.

So when a guy approaches her with the super
nice guy act, it immediately triggers feelings of
PAST memories of guys she 'OWED', who she possibly
forced herself to stay with (i.e. she reasoned
with herself and felt she should try to make it
work) but she was not feeling attracted toward
and she remembers the feelings of boredom or of
resentment that she had, etc., etc.

So she will either ignore the guy or give him the
polite, 'Thanks, but goodbye I have to go'.

It is NOT that women want to be abused or that
they do not appreciate good treatment.

If you work with women who treat you decently
or if have platonic female friends, then of
course treat them decently the same way you
would anyone else.

It is simply that these extra nice things are
NOT relevant from a SEXUAL ATTRACTION standpoint
before women actually feel attracted themselves.

In fact, from a SEXUAL ATTRACTION standpoint,
these 'nice' things are WORSE than not relevant,
they actually stir feelings of PRESSURE, and of
resentment, or of burden, or guilt, or boredom -
when introduced too soon or used too often.

The human mind tends to focus on what it is LOSING.

So, if you make a woman feel PRESSURE to be with you
for LOGICAL reasons such as you being nice, but not
because she feels RAW ATTRACTION, her mind will
focus on how she is LOSING the ability to CHOOSE
and to be with whoever she WANTS.

So she obviously will then want to be FREE of you.

Also, since she knows she 'has' you, she is now
more likely to start wondering if there is something
'bad' in this deal, if there is something negative
about you, etc.

It is a bit of the 'grass looks greener on the
other side' effect. Since she feels she 'has' you,
she feels you are the grass on her side. 
(Once you ARE in a relationship, it is healthy if
you both know that you both obviously 'have' each other,
but even then, there is still a need to keep things
fun and to still be the right kind of challenge).  

However, when it comes to approaching a woman, if you
focus on ATTRACTION and you do NOT put ANY pressure
on her, and if you actually make it clear that you
are NOT easy to get, and if you in fact playfully
and figuratively push her AWAY, well THEN she will
focus on all the things she might lose by LOSING you,
and she will then focus on how to PREVENT losing you.
 
And she will be focused on how to GET you, not
because of LOGICAL reasons, but rather because she
will be feeling an emotion, an emotion called PAIN
OF LOSS. She is actually FEELING THE PAIN of
possibly losing you.

And this is not a bad thing.  When someone feels
ATTRACTION, then there is the possibility for both
pleasure and pain, for without the thought of the pain
of LOSING you, there would not be the same PLEASURE
from the thought of BEING with you.

So, yes, you are actually giving her MORE feelings
of ATTRACTION, of DESIRE, of ECSTASY, from
incorporating the PAIN of LOSS and from NOT being
such a NICE guy in the stereotypical sense.

THEN, once she feels ATTRACTION, well THEN
she will CHERISH the nice things you do and it
will be PLEASURABLE and APPRECIATED, as long
as you do not overdo it and as long as you
do not become too predictable.

So, the next time you see a woman you want to
chat with, focus on all the things that spark
EMOTION and STAY AWAY from all the things that
create that feeling of 'Damn, this guy is being
so nice I feel I SHOULD be with him.'

Instead of complimenting her, TEASE her
in a playful way.  For example, if she rubs
past you on the train or bus, you can tell her
that you expect her to buy you dinner first.

When she laughs or responds, keep the tease
going by saying, 'I am totally serious!' with
a smirk, telling her you are sick of women
treating you like a purely physical object for
lovemaking and that you want to be loved for
your genius as well.

Instead of offering to do her a favor, convey
POWER and AUTHORITY through your voice
tonality.  That will make her MORE LIKELY
to later OFFER to do favors for YOU, and
she will be a lot more likely to be THRILLED
to do a favor for you, rather than doing
a favor for you as a form of 'something
she owes you'.

When a woman is ATTRACTED to you, she
WANTS to do favors for you. Doing
favors for you makes her feel GOOD.

Instead of flattering her, help her look UP
to YOU by teaching her something quickly
that is useful. Whether it is about health,
about working out, about travel, or anything
else that may be important. 

Instead of asking her for a formal date, invite
her to something you are ALREADY doing, whether it
is a game of pool, a workout, a trip to the mall,
or heading to the coffee shop. KEEP IT CASUAL and
you remove all forms of that feeling of
pressure/burden/owing.

And do not MELT when you see that all this
is WORKING.

So many times, a guy will take my advice, and
GET the girl attracted and she becomes all giggly
and girly and feminine when just before she seemed
like an ice-queen. 

The guy will follow my advice, and he will see
the girl transform into this warm, loving creature
and now the guy feels that it is somehow WRONG
of him to not be SUPER NICE immediately, so he
MELTS and suddenly his voice loses the authority,
he starts packing on the compliments, and he
starts conveying all the ways he would be a
great, steady, trustworthy boyfriend, and that
in fact he wants to begin the relationship
as soon as possible.

He thinks that he is being 'indirect' by talking about
all his good qualities for being a great boyfriend in
what he thinks are subtle ways, but the woman
IMMEDIATELY recognizes this for what it is,
and what it is, is NEEDINESS and insecurity,
and it symbolizes everything that is NOT cool
or attractive.

Suddenly, the whole VIBE reverses and she now
LOSES that feeling of attraction and starts to feel
the owing/burden/resentment/boredom feeling.

She starts to close up, become less talkative,
her gaze starts to drift away.

When I say BE THE MAN, trust me, I MEAN IT.

I have seen the sweetest girly-girls who are all nice
and lovey-dovey and who cannot wait to get naked,
suddenly FLIP almost INSTANTLY when presented with the
'I owe you' burden/resentment/boredom feeling
triggered by the WRONG actions.

And I have seen the reverse as well, women who,
on the SURFACE, may have SEEMED like they were
TOTALLY COLD, totally oblivious to the world,
with headphones on, dressed super hot, who totally
KNEW how hot they were, and they MELTED and became
girly-girly submissive when presented with the RIGHT
actions and behaviors.

It is up to you: Choose the path that makes women want
to get AWAY from you, even though there are a million
logical reasons women 'SHOULD' be with you, OR choose
the path that actually gets women massively ATTRACTED
to you, even if there are a million reasons women
'should NOT' be with you.

The 'SHOULD' path NEVER works, it always ends up FAILING.
The only path that WORKS is the ATTRACTION path.

It is a new year now. Get it started RIGHT.

Sign up for my Real World Attraction Bootcamp NOW,
before this entire year is sold out. Bootcamps sell
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it that much, because there is no point in announcing
something that is sold out.

In bootcamp, you are learning LIVE, in the
real world, and you will be approaching women
and mastering the art of pick up as I teach you
EVERYTHING, one-to-one as your exclusive instructor.

Bootcamp is at: 

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And if you have not yet downloaded my very FIRST book,
The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then
do that NOW.

This E-Book is the FOUNDATION, where it all begins.

It is at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

If you already have this book, you know how
powerful it is, and you will LOVE my Attraction
Mastery Program, which is the NEXT LEVEL for
getting women attracted in a physical way, from
exactly what to do the moment you see them anywhere
all the way to the last step of getting women
into bed with you.

This program contains all vital and NEW strategies
and concepts for success with women- these
strategies and concepts are NOT found in my
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Why You Do NOT Want A Weak Woman

Here at "Get A Great Girl", the ultimate goal
is always getting a woman of superior quality,
and that means not only her looks, but also
her CHARACTER.

So allow me to share a super-important point
with you:

A lot of men are attracted to women who
they can feel "manly" around.

And that's understandable, I'm attracted
to feminine women, and the more feminine
a woman is, the more masculine the guy
who is with her will feel.

And vice versa, the more masculine you
behave, the more you make her feel
FEMININE.

HOWEVER, it is so FRIGGEN absolutely IMPORTANT
that your DOMINANCE and your MASCULINITY is
NOT the product of her LACK of confidence,
her LACK of self-esteem, or her LACK of
intelligence, etc, etc.

Instead, you should be SO MASSIVELY empowered,
confident, playful, flirty, and MASCULINE,
that even a woman who is the most ULTRA confident,
who is SUPER gorgeous and knows she can get any
guy, and who may also even be a CEO of the biggest
company on EARTH, she would feel TOTALLY FEMININE
and girly in YOUR presence.

As you might guess, I have a thing for women
who are not just sexy, but who are also
MASSIVELY strong in their INTEGRITY and
self-esteem and confidence.

Let me tell you WHY:

A woman who just MELTS at your feet too EASILY
before even really KNOWING who you are, a woman
who just gives you compliments because she is
afraid you will leave her, etc, etc, is ALSO
a woman who will be TOO WEAK to do THE RIGHT
THING when confronted by all sorts of OTHER
situations that come up in life and in
relationships.

And let me cut to the chase here, which is
regarding CHEATING.

Most of the time, cheating does NOT just
happen out of the blue, it is NOT like
a woman is OVERWHELMED in a moment of
lust for some guy.

The REAL truth is that things like cheating
and disloyalty are the product of WEAKNESS.

A woman who is STRONG and who has CONFIDENCE
won't CHEAT on a guy.  She will rather break
up with him if it's not working, or she will
try to DO something to MEND the relationship
if it makes sense to do so instead of breaking up.

Don't be fooled into thinking a woman is great
just because she is SO FAST in wanting to get
into a relationship with you. Don't be fooled
into thinking a woman looks up to you so much
just because she seems to treat you like a
God before you have even EARNED it from her.

The same quickness to worship you before she
has truly gotten to know you, is the SAME
quickness she can be manipulated into giving
the SAME attention to some pathetic guy who
PREYS on weak women or who can ONLY deal
with weak women because his OWN confidence
is so low. 

A STRONG woman will POINT out problems BEFORE
they become OVERWHELMING, she is not afraid
to be ASSERTIVE to do the right things, such
as ASKING you what you mean by something rather
than feeling too afraid to ASK because she is
afraid of how the question might be received
by you.

This is yet ANOTHER reason why I LOVE it when
women do certain types of TESTS. 

Women sometimes test men in a POSITIVE way,
to determine how much you really are serious
about pursuing them, or to determine what
YOUR character is like.

As long as a woman is not ABUSIVE in these
tests, I LOVE the tests, because it shows
me that the woman may also be strong enough to
handle the REALITIES of relationships, PLUS
any test a woman throws at me is actually
an opportunity for ME to TEST her by the
way SHE responds to MY response.

So if a woman asks me, "Do you approach all
the girls in the bookstore?" I might tell her
congratulations for having STANDARDS and not
just going for any guy who throws an opening
comment to her to start a conversation.

Then I might tell her something like,"Now
that we have that established, let's raise
the standards even HIGHER. What are YOU
about? What's your story? I want to make
sure I'm talking to the right person as
well."

If she GETS this and smiles, it means she
UNDERSTANDS and appreciates the point about
having STANDARDS of character.

If she gets all uppity, it means SHE has
no sense of humor or worse that she actually
DOESN'T understand the whole point of having
high standards of character.

So next time you're out approaching women,
EMBRACE whatever they send your way, and
use it as a PRIME opportunity to show
YOUR true colors and to test THEM to
find out what THEY are all about.

Strong virtuous men, with strong virtuous,
sexy women, is what it's ALL about. And
then LATER when she treats you like a God,
and you are her MAN, you can know that it's
for REAL.

And if you want to learn MORE about getting
a truly GREAT girlfriend, I suggest you
get my program devoted to this topic, and
it's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

If you haven't yet downloaded my ATTRACTION MASTERY
program, then do that FIRST, at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html
    
And if you are new here, then definitely go
HERE immediately:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Craziest Secret Of All About Attracting Women

99% of guys think that if they don't look
like male models or if they aren't rich,
then the hottest of women are somehow
"off limits". And I can't BLAME most
guys for thinking this, as I used to
think it myself in the biggest way,
because it SEEMS that why on earth would
such a woman be INTERESTED, right?

But here is SECRET: The emotion of feeling
SEXUAL, and of feeling ATTRACTION is nothing
but an emotional state that is ALWAYS there
in a woman, it's just sometimes sleeping
and it's up to YOU to BRING IT OUT.

You and no guy is ever CREATING
that sexual emotion in her, it's just
that some guys are able to WAKE
IT UP in her and others can't.
In fact, 99 percent of guys CAN'T.

Most guys will NEVER learn how to
do this, because they are focused on
how to memorize ridiculous tactics
that are supposed to get a certain
RESPONSE from a woman.

But, trying to GET something from
a woman will ALWAYS destroy your
charisma, because the very act of
NEEDING TO TAKE is in itself UNCOOL.

And besides, if you feel ROBOTIC doing
something, you will COME across as robotic
and you will lack any ounce of charisma.

By the way, if you look around, you
will notice that most of the men with
the super female hotties seem like
average guys- but the personality that
attracts these women is so much MORE
than average, it's CHARISMATIC.

And that is something that a woman
EXPERIENCES from INTERACTING with
a charismatic man, not from looking
at his picture or from looking at
his wallet. 

They key is to get women into an EMOTIONAL STATE that FEELS SO DAMN GOOD that the woman could not give a RAT'S ASS about anything ELSE about the guy.

In order to get women into
an emotional state where logic
gets thrown out the window and
all they want is to be with you
and to get naughty with you,
you have to BECOME A WIZARD
OF ALL THE MOST FANTASTIC
EMOTIONS WITHIN YOURSELF.

This sounds deceptively simple,
but it's not.

Let me tell you a bit of the way
you have to be thinking if you
want to actually get somewhere
with the most incredible of the
female gender: 

ONE:
"I LOVE ALL TYPES OF WOMEN SO
MUCH THAT I AM WILLING TO ABANDON
ALL MY FEARS AND INSTEAD EMBRACE
EVERY "SCARY" CHANCE TO INTERACT
WITH THE WOMEN I AM ATTRACTED TO
AND MAKE THEM FEEL AMAZING."

TWO:
"I do this because I love
how sexy and beautiful they
are and it's worth it to me
and I feel zero guilt about
it."

THREE:
"When I interact with women,
I will let my joy of women,
my sexuality as a man, my
vibe, totally come through
and I will not be APOLOGETIC
for it, and I also will not
be so serious as seriousness
comes from FEAR."

FOUR:
"I will behave with the expectation
that a woman loves me."

Notice how these thought patterns have
nothing at all to  do with how you are
going to CONTROL a woman, or how
you are going to "TAKE THE POWER"
- all that stuff comes from FEAR, and
fear will rob your most S-E-X-Y emotions
of their intensity.

Notice this has nothing to do with
showing off, it has nothing to do
with "out-alpha-ing" any guy.

It has far more to do with you taking
back the only TRUE power you have-
and that is the power of your OWN
emotions. THIS is the secret to
unleashing the dam to a woman's
INFINITE ATTRACTION TO YOU.

By PROVING that your own emotions
are on super-charge no matter what,
you now are showing her the way to
do the same for herself, and
that simply feels too incredible
for a woman to ignore.

There is so much crap and negativity
in our society, and it brings everyone
down, including the women you think
have it made. They want to feel
amazing just as much as anyone
else, and you are giving them
that gift with this ability.

And now, you can learn how to do
this IN PERSON- I will PROVE
it to you, in a TWO DAY BOOTCAMP
where you will get to see it before
your eyes, again and again.

You are going to learn TONS
of secrets that no one else
on earth has a CLUE about.

What I teach is NOT a game.
It's the REAL THING.

It's your choice- the women you want,
or a life of just hoping and wondering.

And it's all at:

http://www.getagreatgirl.com/realworld.html

And if you haven't yet got my Attraction MASTERY
program, then definitely get this IMMEDIATELY-
this program is your 24/7 link to the most
advanced insights on attracting women and
dating, and it can be downloaded INSTANTLY
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Think about it, this program will save you
YEARS of time, and it will save you INFINITE
heartache, and over a year, it comes out to
about 81 cents a DAY. So is 81 cents a DAY,
which is less than the cost of a cup of COFFEE,
worth it to you to get the women that make most
guys MELT?
  
It's at:

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I promise you that this program is the absolute
best of its kind ANYWHERE on the topic of dating,
attraction, and getting intimate with women.

This program is designed for guys who
are interested in meeting MANY women
before settling down after finding the
RIGHT woman.

This program is not focused on relationships, it's
focused on getting from FIRST seeing a woman anywhere
to getting her WILD about you and in bed with you.

It's at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

If you are just getting "back in the scene" of dating
again after being "out of the game" for a while, then
start with my book, "The Dating Wizard", at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time

Michael Marks

The HALO Effect And How This Relates To Why "Nice Guys Finish Last With Women"

You ever wonder if it's REALLY true that
nice guys finish last with women?

One of the most popular emails I get in terms
of questions from men, is:

"There's this ONE woman I know that
I really like and she doesn't seem
to be responding and-" etc., etc.

And the REAL truth is that there's
nothing in particular about this woman
that's so great, there's no real
reason to be focusing on her as
opposed to finding other women.

But that's not what it FEELS like, right?

It always seems that THIS one is
really different from all the other
situations where guys are saying
"there's this one woman" even though
there's ZERO evidence for why she
is so special.

Sometimes, even if you are amongst
MILLIONS of women, you get caught up
on ONE woman, and you pursue her no
matter what, even if she gives you
no reciprocation, etc, etc-

Hopefully this one newsletter will
take care of ALL of these types of
questions.

So here we go:

About a year ago I happened to see
this movie that REMINDED me just how
INSANELY tough it must be to be a
guy who is living without knowing
the full deal about attraction,
about women, and about the way
human emotions work.

Sitting in the theatre, this movie
pissed me off!

You see, the movie is called
"Forgetting Sarah Marshall".

And in this movie, is a dude who I
thought EVERYONE in the theatre
would NOT be able to relate to,
because to me, his behavior seemed
so EXTREMELY pathetic.

It was almost OFFENSIVE to me that
guys could be portrayed that way.
Even though this movie is a comedy,
the reality is that it would not
work if the audience felt this guy
was COMPLETELY CRAZY.

The movie works because the reality
is that THIS BASIC FEELING is very
PREVALENT among GOOD GUYS
when it comes to women.

I'll give you the basic story in a nutshell
in a sec, if you don't already know.

And then it hit me. You see, I USED
to think very SIMILARLY to this
character in the movie!

It's only because for years now,

I have been so immersed in a different
way of going about things that the
old behaviors NOW seems so absolutely
crazy to me.

And the fact that this character's type
of thinking in the movie does not seem
absolutely absurd and crazy- the fact
it seems identifiable as something
that could happen - is HORRIFYING to me!

It shows what massive confusion us guys
have been forced to suffer for so long...

I want to clear this whole topic up!

I want to make that type of behavior, that
type of thinking, EXTINCT!

So what was this behavior?

In the movie, this woman who is supposed
to be super hot, (reality check is that
even THIS is the result of scarcity style
thinking) and she suddenly dumps him after
four years.

He goes CRAZY desperate, he becomes a total
needy wreck, he tries to win her BACK, he
ABANDONS his whole life, loses passion
for his goals, self-esteem plummets, etc.

Now, the first thing that was glaringly
obvious to me, is that no woman on Earth
"suddenly" dumps a guy.

This is all part of the myth, the nightmare
myth used to scare guys, that a woman who
is this great person, suddenly DROPS a guy
out of the blue, she becomes this uncaring
unfeeling person, etc.

What ACTUALLY happens is that a guy ends up
falling victim to what is known as the
HALO EFFECT.


The halo effect is when humans see people
who are attractive or celebrities or both,
they tend to think these people are BETTER
than other people - more NOBLE, more honest,
more intelligent, etc.

It's total emotional HOGWASH, but it happens
so often and even today with all this knowledge
even educated people often FALL for it.

So much so that you may notice whenever you
see criminals in court, they dress as well
as they can to try to influence the judge
or jury to come to a verdict that says he
or she is innocent.

Well, at least this disturbing movie SHOWS
this, it shows it in a pretty intelligent way,
although I wonder if every man truly got
the lesson from this flick, as opposed to
just walking out thinking "yup, the good
guy got the good girl in the end and it
was all happy endings' because that's
definitely NOT the point of the film.

The point is that WEAKNESS will
REPEL all women, and that weakness
is not "nice" at all.

What the movie shows at first, are his
MEMORIES of this woman. He keeps on
TORTURING HIMSELF by remembering the
"fun times" they had together.

He keeps seeing her smile in his mind,
he keeps remembering when they got
physical, etc.

And of course, this makes him more and
more sad, depressed, and frustrated!

Then, his best friend tries to help him out,
tries to set him straight, and then TELLS
him something STRAIGHT UP:

"Hey man, whenever she was around us,
and I saw her with you, she was pretty
much a bitch."

I'm paraphrasing, but that's what he said,
in a heartfelt way. His friend is trying
to HELP him, but his friend is also truly
being HONEST.

So what does the guy respond with? He gets
angry at his friend for him saying this.

"How dare his friend say this about his
"great" woman!"

So he tells off his FRIEND, he tells his friend
that this girl was better than his friend's girlfriend!

Does this make any sense? The girl that
dumped him, was better?!

Well, the truth is that unless you are
trained and developed in the ways of
the "force" when it comes to attraction
and inner game, this kind of thing is
very realistic, because what happens
is that our minds play TRICKS on us.

It's the halo effect, in full effect!

Also, good guys are NOTORIOUS for falling
for the "halo effect" because since THEY are
so nice and good themselves, they think that
everyone ELSE is, as well, including these
women, so when you COMBINE that with
the fact these women are GORGEOUS, the
HALO effect becomes OVERWHELMINGLY
powerful.  

In the film, we see how it's not just that this guy
felt his girlfriend was beautiful, he also felt
she was somehow great, a great person,
a wonderful person, someone he was going
to miss!

He didn't say that his girlfriend was
hotter, he actually said she was "better"!

And yet, this is exactly how many guys
might feel in real life in similar
situations.

All because of the HALO EFFECT.

If the guy truly honestly felt that it
was just a woman's looks that were superior
to those of other women, he would not stand
for the abuse.

The problem is that the halo effect makes
a person feel that the beautiful person
is somehow not only superior in looks,
but also in personality and intelligence,
etc., etc.

And this is what millions of guys
experience all the time.

In fact, the memories we trigger when
we are under the halo effect are often
FALSE MEMORIES!

Emotions are insanely powerful things.

We tend to feel first, and then we
rationalize those feelings as being
appropriate feelings. We give reasons
for those feelings, reasons that feel
right!

In reality though, the feelings usually
have nothing to do with the reasons we
give for them! In fact, very often, the
reasons we give for the feelings are not
only wrong, they are horrifyingly wrong,
they are the farthest thing from the truth!

So, for example, because the guy feels
attraction and feels she is good (all
due to the halo effect), he then has
selective memory, to only remember the
good things, no matter how tiny they
were.

Is a smile such a big deal?
Who does not smile ever?
And what the heck is valuable
in a smile, it could be she
is smiling for totally selfish
reasons!

Not only that, if a guy feels strong
enough about a woman, he may even
create memories that never existed,
he will WARP the past into it being
something more special than it was!

Our brains do this because we think
there is no way that we can feel so
good about something or someone that
was actually NOT good!

Eventually in the movie, he slowly
starts to regain some accuracy in
his memories, and it's no coincidence
that these memories are triggered
only once he regains his self-esteem!

Suddenly then, he starts to remember
all the sick and twisted things she
did to him!

And this brings me to a massive point:

The whole problem in the first place
started because he himself was not
feeling the kind of self-esteem that
every man deserves to experience.

He was doing work that he hated, he
had vague dreams of creating a rock opera
with puppets that he was not putting
into action, and his whole attitude
toward his own life sucked.

The ONLY thing he had going on that
seemed cool was this chick who was an
actress, decently attractive, etc.

And so she became his only source of self-esteem.

Again, not just because of her attractiveness,
but because the HALO effect ALSO made him
view her as smart, noble, good, virtuous,
special, etc. And so having her in his
life made him feel that he was special
by association.

He needed a self-esteem prop so badly
(because he was ignoring his true inner
self which is where self esteem should
really come from) that he was oblivious
to the reality that indeed she was a shallow,
selfish, emotionally and intellectually void
beeee-yotch!

He needed her so badly, only because
his own reservoir of self-esteem was
running on EMPTY.

He had nothing INTERNAL to base his
own self-esteem ON.

And even when his friend was telling
him to get to work on that rock opera,
all he did was say he couldn't because
he was heartbroken.

Yet, by ignoring his self, his own
identity, his own self-esteem plummeted
FURTHER, leaving him even MORE vulnerable
to the halo effect and selective memory
and being desperate for her.

And even when he slept with many women,
it didn't help, because he still felt
empty about himself inside. He still
felt she was the special one, because
for years and years, he had unwittingly
brainwashed himself into believing this!

This is true to life as well, as the
"pick up artist" advice of "just go
sleep with tons of women to forget
the previous woman" doesn't work
any better than a woman who tries
to use the same strategy to forget
a guy.

It's only when he meets another woman
who is emotionally more intelligent
than he is, and understands what is
going on internally with him, that
things begin to slowly change.

This new woman, well her self-esteem
is INTERNALLY driven.

She is not all about having "celebrity
pet care centers" or about being famous
and glitzy, she does not need to have
validation from everyone around her to
be happy, and she doesn't need to be
rewarded for being a good and happy person,
she does it because she FEELS GOOD doing it.

Her own self esteem is SKYROCKETING.

This is an example of what I mean by
a "Great Girl" as opposed to just getting
girls.

And she encourages HIM to grow this way
as well. She even devises a sly but loving
method of getting him to FORCE HIMSELF
to take action on his dreams and goals.

All this stuff helps him REALIZE that
what he was REALLY SEARCHING for all
this time was not his ex-girlfriend,
but HIMSELF.

He had LOST HIMSELF before he even MET
the abusive woman, so he was a perfect
target for total destruction for the
abuser.

And yet all those years he was HAPPY to
be with her, he felt she was the GREATEST
thing that happened to him.

And yet, the new woman, who he is attracted
to massively as well, cannot do MAGIC.

She can only lead the way...

So a certain amount of emotional growing has
to come from HIM and him only. This is his
real mission.

Yet, he at first fails this mission,
because when the ex who dumped
him comes running back to him after her
new boyfriend cheats on her (and after
her new boyfriend can't take her selfish
behavior because it gets in the way of
his own selfish behavior) and after her
TV show gets cancelled, he actually
becomes weak and fools around with her
a bit even though he stops half way
and regrets it horribly.

However, it's still enough damage to cause
the new awesome woman he's met to lose
respect for him.

Which makes sense, because really what
he has done has shown her that his
self-esteem is SO WEAK, that HE IS WEAK.

This is why I HATE it when "nice guys"
get associated with characters like
the guy in the movie.

This guy doesn't lose the initial girl
because he's NICE.

He loses her because he's WEAK internally.

He's too weak to see that he shouldn't
have been with the abusive woman in the
first place and he's too weak to see
that he needs to develop himself INSIDE
first!

This isn't nice.

This isn't good.

It's pathetic.

When a woman says "Are you strong enough
to be my man?", she doesn't mean,
"Are you a bad boy???"

She means, "Are you a good guy and
STRONG about it, are you a good man
who is STRONG about his goodness, or
will he need validation and will he
need to pretend to be a pimp or playa
or over-compensating 'alpha' idiot
who is so scared inside that he can't
even tell the difference between an
amazing woman who treats him well and
a woman that treats him like garbage.

It's only when he FULLY REALIZES and
FULLY GROWS inside, when he become
strong enough to have NO DOUBTS about
what really is important, is he able
to truly win the girl who is beautiful
and a fantastic person as well.

So, this movie was actually a WAKE-UP
call that reminded me that I was lucky
enough to LEARN all this stuff so that
this movie's main character NOW seemed
ABSURD to me.

Don't let yourself be like the guy in
the movie who is so IMMERSED in the
ILLUSIONS that are destroying him, that
FIVE YEARS go by and even his BEST FRIEND
cannot help him when he is pleading and
trying so hard to wake him UP from the insanity.

If YOU want to get the FASTEST PATH
to REDEEMING your PRESENT and to
redeeming your FUTURE with women,so
that you waste NO TIME at all, then
you OWE it to yourself to get my
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is operating on an entirely different level than
most men when it comes to women and so that
you never make the mistakes that most men
make with women again and again.

If will change your life with women, FROM THE
MOMENT YOU SEE A WOMAN ANYWHERE,
to the moment you get physical, to the moment you
get into a serious relationship, and beyond.

Again, it's at:

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To check out ALL my programs for success
in getting the most fantastic quality women,
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Till next time,

Michael

How To Attract A Woman Without Playing The Game

Years ago, back in 2003, when just like now, I was too

busy actually doing this stuff for real rather than worrying

about the marketing craziness that was going on around

me by supposed dating gurus, author Neil Strauss then

wrote something to me on an internet dating forum a little

before the release of his bestselling book on pick-up artists,

called "The Game".

He said that he agreed with 95% of what I wrote on the

forum but that he disagreed with one thing- my statements

on how you can trigger attraction in a woman using strictly

wisdom and insights into human emotion, into women, and

into using your developed identity, so that you can come up

with fresh things to say on the SPOT to a woman.

I believe that this way, you can be ready for ANYTHING

with any woman, rather than relying too much on pre-rehearsed

lines or routines, which was the all the rage with the pick-up

artists and this memorizing routines stuff is clearly promoted

heavily in his book.

He said:
"And, fact is, of all the people I've met (and I've met

lots of guys),  the ones who are the most successful

are the ones who say the EXACT same things all the

time. Why? Because they work."

Well, time has proven that in fact the TRUTH IS

QUITE THE OPPOSITE.

I honestly don't think Neil meant any harm to anyone,

he's probably a cool guy who wrote what he honestly

thought based on his experiences at the time.

The reality though is that the guys who are the best
with women, the TRUE naturals, NEVER use the
exact same thing all the time with women.

IN fact, this would seem ABSURD to them.

Never mind the fact it would make them feel FAKE.

This is a big thing to realize, because you see so much

of success has to do with what you are FEELING inside.

How the heck can you be feeling charismatic, masculine,

secure, witty, when you know that you are relying on

LINES?????

How can you feel like you are THE MAN when you

REALLY feel like you are relying on memorized

routines, on what is basically an ACT???

The reality is that if you feel a certain way, it will

show through your body language and expression

and tonality anyway.  So the lines will be of very

little help and in fact may be counter-productive

because they prevent you from learning how to

have a real conversation based on real social

interaction skills.

I teach guys to FISH for themselves, based on developing

the best parts of their own identities rather than memorizing

anything trivial.

This not only gives you a FRIGGEN' TOTALLY KICK-ASS

edge in terms of your feelings about your self, it also allows

you to build long term with a woman, because if you built

everything on being fake, you feel very weird about ever

revealing your true identity to a woman since you are not

sure if she would find that cool.

I promise you that the guys who are most successful

with women, not only don't NEED to use and say the

same things all the time, they wouldn't even WANT to!

It would be too boring! And the very fact they enjoy

having FUN is part of what MAKES them attractive

to women!!! Because states are catchy and being in a

great fun and relaxed state is SOMETHING THAT

WOMEN WANT TO FEEL FOR THEMSELVES

AS WELL!!!

In fact, even the pick-up artists who used to say otherwise,

well they all now agree with me. If you don't believe me, ask

them yourself. I'm not afraid of the competition, in fact I

suggest you check them out yourself and I'll see you back

here very soon. Read between the lines of their hype.

You'll also notice how many of them try to imitate me as

well, which is quite flattering. Some of these guys don't

realize that I'm already reaching their audience and

their attempts at imitation only make them lose all

credibility for ever being authorities on their own.

Then there are the guys who oversimplify the

process, who claim all you need to do

is just tell a woman you like her and that's it.

If you think saying "I like you" is enough to get a

non-drunk, and psychologically healthy woman to

want to jump into bed with you, just try it.

A woman needs to know more than the fact you

have the confidence to state your desire for her and

your intention. It's a good start, but not enough.

The belief in saying the exact same things to every woman

you meet, referred to the idea of you MEMORIZING

routines and lines to say to women, was clearly emphasized

and promoted in the book called "The Game" where these

ideas were glamorized as having insane success rates..

TONS of guys around the world started adopting this

robotic memorized approach to approaching women.

I even had a few clients in several cities where I did

bootcamps who believed in this and didn't want to take

my advice, only to have their fantasy come crashing down

on them when the girls started saying they HAD HEARD

 these lines before from tons of other guys. Only then

were my clients fully convinced of the insanity of trying

to get a woman without actually having developed

your REAL self first.

Not only this, but also when a guy hears this from a girl,

when he has been "caught", his self esteem plummets,

ruining his charisma.

Plus, he also feels, even he is lucky enough to happen to

meet a girl who hasn't heard the lines before, he feels that

he is not cool, it's only his LINE that was cool so he feels

like a fake, like he is not desirable, it's only his FAKE stolen

ACT that was desirable, and this in itself ruins his vibe and

charisma and his tonality and his body language, and his

sense of humor loses all hope.

And the great thing is that there is in the END no faking it.

Sure you can fake it for a bit, and you'll get some results,

but for the GREATEST success, you must ACTUALLY

GIVE VALUE, and not just fake it.

So the key is to first get into a specific combination of

STATES, that slightly depend and vary from situation

to situation, but definitely include playfulness, upbeatnes,

sexuality, security, and other states as well.

Then on top of that it's important to ALSO know a lot of

important insights into female psychology and culture so

that you understand a bit about what's going on internally

with the woman you are chatting to.

I explain all of this in my materials and programs, but I'd

like to shed some insight into how this idea of  EMOTIONAL

STATES are so important at EVERY point of the "game"

from the first moment you meet a woman till FOREVER.

There is no way that a robotic approach could possibly

handle the complexities of the way human emotions work.

Here's a fresh letter that has a situation that I can use to

help show the point:

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael, your eBook and Dating Spells emails are amazing!

I'm looking to buy the Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship CD Set

in the next few weeks too. You have uncovered something special

here!!

I know this email is slightly long but even a brief answer would

be much appreciated!!!

Here's the deal, I've been reading all your material over and

over and although I've still got a lot to learn, I think you would

be proud of my progress. I now no longer experience feelings

of jealousy or insecurity, or if I do, not to the extent that it

becomes visible or effects my actions.

You've helped me realize that such feelings only exist in people

who do not have enough self-worth in the first place.

I now am SURE of everything about me, and any negative

comment that comes from a girl doesn't get to me at all, and

you're right, girls experience even more attraction when they

see you're not affected by their attempt to put you down!

Now I know you're not going to like reading this, but Michael,

my question is regarding my ex. We went out for 17months,

have now been apart for 4, I've experienced many other girls,

started reading your materials, and have developed significantly

since we broke up (her reason for ending was "i no longer feel

attraction for you").

Last night we caught up and went to the movies (now normally,

i know the movies aren't the best but i asked her, as I really

wanted to see the film and was actually considering going with

or without her anyway), the movies went really well, we laughed,

and connected again, not once bringing up the relationship or

our current sex lives or anything like that.

The entire night I was confident, in control, and just enjoying

the interaction, and not once kissing up to her.

The thing is, i no longer need this girl Michael, all the neediness,

clinginess, jealousy I used to show her while we were going out

is GONE and I want to be with this girl again because of how

much I enjoy being around her.

So i went and bought a subway from next to where she works

today (she works at a butcher), and I came and visited her. I

made sure not to be needy, I really wanted that subway, it was

lunchtime, and again, I just wasn't dependent on the outcome,

I know there's plenty of good girls around, and so I was in

exactly the right state.

When i approached her, she was surprised, and asked why

i was there, and I teased her, holding up my subway while

saying she had really good food shops near her. She laughed,

and i then told her, "besides, don't pretend like me visiting

hasn't made your day", and again she smiled.

Then the other butchers (young guys) out the back, saw us

and began teasing her too about us talking and she went

immediately red, and couldn't keep the smile off her face.

My problem is... I know we can have so much fun together,

I just feel she's reluctant to catch up and give me that chance

cos of what's happened to us in the past.

Michael believe me, I wouldn't waste my time or yours,

this girl is incredibly smart, gorgeous, fun to be with, she's

the real deal, and as my friends are all of her friends too,

we're always going to be seeing each other... what is my

plan of attack??

I know how to be the man... its almost happening instinctively

now, but how do I get to catch up with my ex and just have

fun with her more and more, w/out her being cautious and

reluctant?!?

Regards,
Matthew H.
USA

>>>>MY RESPONSE<<<<

I hate to call this entire field a game, because the fact is,

whenever you are dealing with any emotions, it's never

a game, especially in a relationship situation which you

had with this girl.

So I'm just using the word "game" since it might actually

HELP you realize that you are getting SO CAUGHT up

in this situation that you don't realize your EMOTIONS

are actually playing a GAME with you.

This entire "game" when it comes to success with

a woman  is about EMOTIONS.

The reality is that you were doing DAMN WELL that first

night you reconnected with her at the movies, BECAUSE

you WERE BEING IN A GREAT STATE, "not once

bringing up the relationship or our current sex lives or

anything like that. The entire night I was confident, in control,

and just enjoying the interaction, and not once kissing up to her."

And since she already KNOWS you obviously STILL care

about her, (or why would you be back with her) you ALSO

took care of her desire to feel VALUED.

But, and here's the big BUT- you SANK BACK into

the OCEAN of TURMOILED EMOTIONS, you started

getting SWEPT UP IN THE TWISTER OF EMOTIONS

THAT ARE YOUR LOVE FOR HER CONTRASTED

WITH HOW SHE HURT YOUR EMOTIONS SO

BADLY BEFORE.

And this made you feel EXTREMELY NEEDY.

So you did the MASSIVE MISTAKE of ACTING

UPON THAT NEEDINESS.

This is NOT your fault for FEELING these emotions,

because when you have a relationship with someone,

the feelings can become so strong that they become

ANCHORED DEEP INTO OUR SUBCONSCIOUS

and so just SEEING HER again and BEING with her

again totally screwed your internal wiring.

The only thing that you DO have to take responsibility

for is not following my advice in the book about this,

about not going back to exes, no matter what unless

YOU screwed it up by being a jerk and you totally

have changed now.

But I can already see that you were not a jerk.
So why did you go back to her?

And you know this, as you said in your own letter, that

you knew I was not going to like that move- you're right,

I don't like it, because I CARE ABOUT YOU and

about ALL GOOD GUYS who go through HELL with

women. I wanted to spare you the pain.

So I don't say any of this with anger, I say it with

the desire to spare you one more ounce of pain.

Emotions make us feel that the emotion is more true

than any fact. So even though you know the fact is

that going back to her the next day was a bad move,

your neediness for her made you feel that it was the

RIGHT MOVE, and you rationalized it as being the

right move.

This entire game is about giving women awesome

emotions. So how can you give her awesome emotions

when just SEEING her and being with her triggers all

those ANCHORED needy feelings in you?

I want to make it clear that I am totally not into GAME

or tricks or gimmicks.

The problem is NOT that you are interested in her.

The problem is that you are behaving in a way that

stems from not feeling the value in yourself.

That's why the movie thing with her was still okay.

(Although I still think you should not have gone

back to an ex.) At the beginning, you were still

feeling all the rights states INSIDE of you, but they

were being PRESSURED like a submarine under

a billion tons of water, by the NEGATIVE

ANCHORING of your relationship history by her.

You see, there is no faking with women.

You simply end up showing who you really are by

virtue of your body language and tonality, and there is

no body language trick in the book that can solve it.

Your end goal should always be how to improve your

state, and going to a woman who ripped your state to

shreds is ultimately a self-defeating move no matter what.

Why are you doing this?

If you feel the NEED to prove it to yourself, then

you are actually proving to YOURSELF that you

are still inferior to her.

And this very action is a form of "body language"

that works against your OWN psychology and

ruins your own state and thus ruins your body

language and shows her that you are inferior.

It's OKAY and GOOD for a woman to know you

like her, as long as it's coming from a totally positive

and secure place.

BUT it's almost impossible to feel this when you

crawl back to a woman who mistreated you -

the very act of crawling back is sending a

message to YOUR brain that makes you feel

inferior and thus ruins your ability to FEEL

charismatic and worthy and thus you end up

not being able to attract that woman.

So the problem is not with showing a woman

you like her.

I mean, if showing a woman you are interested in

her ruins things, how do you explain the success of

clients at my Bootcamps who are having their arms

around and kissing girls within minutes of meeting

them?

Are these girls thinking that this is a sign of being NOT

interested in them??????????

If you REALLY felt your own value, you would

have chilled out a bit for a few days after enjoying

the movie with her. (And at this point, you WERE

still in state, which is why it was all going well.

You were still resisting all the opposite emotions

that were CRUSHING into you, including not only

the anchored emotions, but also the very fact you

were going back to her was having a slight negative

effect on your vibe and your self-concept ---

you NEED to get my CD set man to get this stuff

sorted out, it will make a MASSIVE difference)

You should have chilled out about her for a few days,

and not gone back the next day. If you felt massive

value about yourself, you would have wanted to let

her chill out and come to a decision on her own.

But since you felt so needy for her, (again, not your fault,

because you have these feelings anchored in you about

her as a result of the way the relationship ended) you felt

UNWORTHY and subconsciously felt that left to her own

devices, she would NOT WANT to be with you, so you

felt the need to PUSH it.

And the irony of course is that this is what actually

pushed her farther away.

So the way to be the MAN now, is to LET go for at least

a while and definitely to go for other girls so you can get

total emotional perspective. That will make her less

"cautious and reluctant".

And definitely get that CD Set, it will help you get the

deeper picture of what is going on here, not only on an

academic level, but on a level that actually HITS YOUR

EMOTIONS, so that you NEVER make this mistake again.

And if you are reading this right now and feeling finally

AWOKEN to CRUCIAL insights for your success with women,

I assure you that this is just the BEGINNING.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks