The Secret Power Of Truth

Truth.  It's a powerful word.  So powerful,
in fact, that it gets thrown around a lot,
often for the very sake of distorting truth.

One of the most mind-blowing moments
for me was when I realized that most of
the things that people really want so badly
are actually not that hard to get, whether it
is in dating, relationships, business, etc.

They're not EASY to get, but also not really all
that hard, because the PROCESS of getting
most of these things is FUN in itself, even
though it takes EFFORT.

It's a bit like working out, in that a great workout
is INTENSE, but it also releases ADRENALINE
and is INVIGORATING and feels GREAT.

So what is the part that's the NOT EASY part?
It's finding out the path that is TRUE as opposed
to all the paths out there that are FALSE and
do not lead to success, be it in dating, in
fitness, in business, etc.

Once you KNOW the TRUTH about what
works and what doesn't, you just DO the
CORRECT thing and you start to notice
positive changes relatively quickly.

You would think in our current "information age"
where we can access libraries containing almost
ALL of human knowledge INSTANTLY, people
wouldn't have a PROBLEM with KNOWING
information, with knowing what to do, right?

However, that's not the case, and it will probably
NEVER be the case, for one important reason:
THE MIND WAS NOT DESIGNED FOR
OUR CURRENT REALITY, IT WAS
DESIGNED FOR LIFE A LONG TIME AGO.

The way our minds work, in general, is pretty
much EMOTIONALLY BASED, not LOGICALLY
BASED.

Yes, we have SOME logic, and we use logic to
some degree, but logic is NOT the DOMINATING
FORCE IN THE HUMAN MIND.
(Nor is it in animal minds, but let's stick with
humans for now).

Human history, for almost ALL of its existence,
was pretty much ALL about avoiding imminent threats
like being eaten by a tiger,  and about where to get food,
and about avoiding attack, and of course, mating.

So, for about 99% of human history, THAT WAS IT.
So, in THAT environment, getting SCARED and
FEELING RAGE and feeling LUST and HUNGER
and trying to get CALORIES and being brutish
was pretty useful.

You needed to feel lust and hunger and danger
because when those triggers were pressed,
it was usually a USEFUL reaction, because
there was NOT much time to THINK: If a tiger
was chasing you, you better run, escape, or turn
it into food.

If you felt no desire for calories or fats, you wouldn't
be motivated to get the calories that you needed in
a world where fats and other calories were RARE.

There was no BARRAGE of pictures and videos
of naked or semi-naked women EVERYWHERE,
at least not an abundance of it everywhere, so
when a woman really DID make herself available
for a man, or really WAS turning on a man, it was
a good idea for him to FEEL LUST to get him
motivated because that might be his only chance,
or one of his few chances, to reproduce.

Today, however, these IMPULSES need to be
MASTERED because otherwise we not only
become SLAVES to them, but we become
BRAINWASHED by them.

Yes, I said BRAINWASHED.
Emotions are SO powerful, that they BEND
the very PICTURE of reality we see, hear,
and experience.

This applies to ALL emotions.
Feeling ANGER?
Well then guess what, you're going to want
to look for a fight.

Feeling HOPELESS?
Well then guess what, you're going to take
actions that are CONSISTENT with that
emotion.

Feeling like you are not desirable?
Well then you are going to think that others
must feel the same way about you.

Feeling LUSTFUL?
Well then, suddenly, the WRONG woman
seems okay, or you tell yourself that you
can handle her, or you tell yourself that she
is actually not the wrong woman for you.

And MOST of the time, these emotions make
us take THE WRONG ACTIONS!!!!!!

This is why the most successful people
are usually NOT the people who are the
smartest academically, although that IS
a great and powerful start if you happen
be one of those people, that's for sure.

The people who are most successful are the people
who can simply see when they themselves are
DISTORTING TRUTH, by COMPARING THEIR
STRONG EMOTIONS to the actual  REALITY
of any event.

THIS, my friends, is the NOT EASY part
of success.

And when I say success, I mean success in
ANY goal that  is IMPORTANT to you.

It all starts with learning to appreciate the power
of EMOTION and the DANGER of emotion as well.

Sure, emotion can be a GREAT thing.
I wouldn't want to IMAGINE a world without
emotions like excitement, love, joy, inspiration,
etc., but even THOSE emotions can EASILY
distort your perception of reality.

And it does NOT matter how smart you are.
EMOTIONS have NOTHING to do with LOGIC.

Some of the SMARTEST AND MOST LOGICAL
PEOPLE when dealing with NON-EMOTIONAL
things, can suddenly behave all-out BONKERS
and totally out of touch with reality once their
EMOTIONS kick in, especially if they are
unaware of the power of emotion in distorting
one's perception of reality.

And NO ONE is IMPERVIOUS to this threat.
This is because as human beings, we ALL
experience SOME EMOTIONS, ranging
from fear to love to hate to desperation to
joy to excitement to laziness to jealousy, etc.

And here's where emotions SCREW us up:

We EXPERIENCE an emotion, and THEN
we tend to look for SOME WAY TO JUSTIFY
THE EMOTION!

So, if I approach a woman, and I don't get the
reaction I was hoping for from her, and I
have an ANGRY emotion as a result, I
might be tempted to think SHE is evil,
or even worse, that all women are evil.

Now, is that emotion consistent with reality?
Nope, but I might want to FEEL like it is,
and guess what I won't do again?

I probably won't approach another woman!
And this lack of action will result in NO PROGRESS,
so this will then just FURTHER CEMENT my
destructive emotion and my destructive beliefs.

If a guy's emotional reaction is to feel DEJECTED,
then he might start to blame HIMSELF, he might
start to think no woman wants him, ever.

Is this belief consistent with reality?
No, but he may create a self-fulfilling prophecy
of feeling so bad around women, that he never
has a normal conversation with them, so he
never gets anywhere, which he takes as
'proof' that he can't get any woman, ever.

All this stuff applies TO EVERYTHING in life
regarding your picture of reality, whether it is
assessing the ACTUAL REALITY of your
business or business idea, your relationship,
your potential to achieve a particular goal, your
assessment of a particular woman, your perception
of who is right and wrong in an argument you may
have had, etc.

The trick to life is to learn how to harness
the POSITIVE power of emotions without
letting us get SCREWED OVER by our
emotions.

And there is only one way to START on
the road to seeing TRUTH, and that is by
acknowledging that ALL OF US are plagued
with the SAME basic challenge, and that
no matter how smart we are, we are NOT
above being screwed over by our own
emotions in such a subtle way that we
don't even REALIZE it.

And by the way, it usually STARTS SMALL.

A very wise man I know gave me the
PERFECT ANALOGY, and that is of the
FROG inside a pot of water that is SLOWLY
RISING IN TEMPERATURE.

The frog thinks nothing is wrong, all is good.
The water is FINE.
It's getting warmer so SLOWLY, it doesn't
notice a THING.

Each time it gets just a BIT warmer, so little
it does NOT notice the actual changes, because
they are soooooooooooooo tiny.

Do you know when it notices a problem?
That's right, when it's TOO LATE.

This is the story of both the HUMAN RACE
and also INDIVIDUAL HUMANS.

I'm not a perfect person, but I do try to learn
from others, and I always have.

So, for example, I remember being a kid
and overhearing adults saying that they
regret spending so much time at the office
or the job and not enough time with their
loved ones, especially their spouse and
children.

So I told myself I would not make that mistake.
I gave my ALL to women, but unfortunately
most women, just like most men, don't learn
this lesson till too late.  They hear the same
words, but they figure it doesn't apply to them.

And it always starts out SMALL, for example,
with just cancelling one "together time", or with
not putting in the full effort to appreciate the other.  

Personally, I saw the beauty in giving one's
YOUTH to each other between a man and
a woman, devoted to each other to raise a
family, but most men and women feel that
it's better to screw around till there is no
choice left but to "settle down" as if raising
a family is the least worthy goal on earth,
and then people wonder why their relationships
don't work out when the relationship is looked
at as some kind of END of something good.
i.e. screwing around.

At the same time, it took me many years
to learn big lessons, as I myself got sucked
into the emotional vortex of brainwashing.
My emotions for one woman were so strong,
that I DISTORTED reality completely.

No matter what she did that was not
respectful or showing interest, I always thought
there was a solution.  I believed in the
concept of soul-mates, and my emotions
made it seem to me that "obviously" she
HAD to be my soul-mate or why on EARTH
would I feel such strong emotions for her?

There too, it started SUBTLE.
I would give a touch too much credit to her for
a good action she did, or for a trait I observed
in her. Things that all decent people should do,
or traits that all decent people have, would
somehow seem a little more virtuous when
she did them or displayed them.

It took me many years to untangle from
the web of distortions I had woven for myself.

ALL emotions, even the ones that feel good,
are DANGEROUS if left unexamined.

And the CRAZIEST part of it all, is that
a LOT of the INFORMATION we have today,
(and it is TRILLIONS of bits of data,
far too much for any human to digest
in a hundred lifetimes) is OFTEN
A DISTORTION OF TRUTH TO BEGIN WITH!

So, not only are emotions dangerous, but the
supposed FACTS that trigger our emotions
are often not even accurate reflections of
reality either!

So, on top of our EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITIES
we also have to contend with MISINFORMATION
that is designed to TRIGGER emotions that are not
helpful for us, but may be helpful for someone else,
i.e. the individual/person/company/etc. who is the
source of the info.

So people on one hand KNOW how to
get fit- it's called eating right, but they
are also BRAINWASHED to think that
they can start TOMORROW, and of course
tomorrow never comes, because the mind
wants to be LAZY and so we DISTORT
truth, until YEARS go by and the doctor
says TIME TO DO SURGERY, just like
the frog keeps staying in the water.

We tell ourselves, "sure, I know how to get
a woman", but then we PROCRASTINATE,
or we try to avoid negative emotions because
we don't want to experience ANY POSSIBLE
NEGATIVE EMOTION,  we want to totally
avoid all possible emotional pain or heartache,
so we DON'T TAKE ACTION.

Our emotions RATIONALIZE it all:
We tell ourselves that we are just waiting for the
right time, the right woman, the right situation.
Or we tell ourselves that all women are bad,
or that all women are not worth it.

Same thing with how emotions screw us over
in relationships, in business, in EVERYTHING.

I suggest you start MONITORING yourself for
all the times you feel ANY emotions, positive
or negative.  See how you feel, what you are
thinking and believing.  See if they truly
match REALITY.

MOST HUMAN BEINGS NEVER DO THIS
SUCCESSFULLY, AND THIS IS WHY THEY
FAIL AT MANY OF THE GOALS THAT MEAN
THE MOST TO THEM.

This is where I come in.  Since day ONE, in
all my work, even before I was a dating coach,
my obsession has been uncovering TRUTH.

I was the first guy in the dating advice for men
field that explained how it's not about pick-up
lines or cheesy tactics.

I explained how it's not about pushing the
buttons on others, it's about learning to
master the buttons that trigger your
OWN emotions, and now I am taking
it FURTHER- all success in life boils
down to figuring out what is the TRUTH
in the first place, and learning it BEFORE
the water is already boiling, unlike the
frog in the vat who only realizes the
problem too late.

In fact, many men go their ENTIRE LIVES
without EVER even realizing how far off
track they were their ENTIRE LIVES.

Don't let that happen to you.
You can change it all RIGHT NOW.

Chances are, that right now, you are
NOT doing yourself justice when it
comes to achieving your goals- there
are emotions that are DISTORTING
your picture of reality, that are
SABOTAGING your success, and
that are holding you back from
being all that you can be.

I'm offering a ONE-WEEK-ONLY
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I will find out EXACTLY where you are
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The truth is the ULTIMATE power,
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attract A Woman FIRST, "Logic" Her SECOND

One of the most important things I can

tell you about attracting a woman is   

something that flies completely in

the face of commonly accepted advice

on how to attract women.

The common advice is to focus on

giving a woman all the LOGICAL

reasons for why she should be with you.

For example, pointing out to a woman

that you both have common interests

and passions.

Now, I’m not saying that there is NO

POINT in doing that at all, and in fact

doing a LITTLE bit of that may very

well be NECESSARY to sometimes

get the ball rolling.

But there is a TERRIBLE DANGER

present when you start to tell a woman

or convey to a woman why you two

SHOULD be together.  For example,

telling a woman that you both have

a similar interest in a certain hobby

or activity or topic.

The PROBLEM with doing too much of that

is that it not only has NOTHING to do with

PRIMAL ATTRACTION, it actually sends

a message to a woman’s subconscious that

actually the LOGICAL REASONS are the

ONLY reasons to be with you, and that there

is no REAL PRIMAL ATTRACTION going

on, and that these so called logical reasons

are a COMPENSATION PRIZE for being
willing to go out with a guy that she does
NOT feel intense attraction for.

In FACT, what you REALLY want to be doing is

actually looking to convey to her a powerful reason
for why she should "LOGICALLY" NOT BE WITH YOU,
(because there are so many obstacles/sacrifices/
inconveniences/efforts that have to be made to be
with you) but for ILLOGICAL reasons that are solely
to do with HER PASSION for you, she SHOULD be
with you.

This way, in her mind, it becomes VERY CLEAR THAT
HER INTEREST IN YOU IS SOLELY THE PRODUCT
OF "ANIMAL ATTRACTION", which is, of course, the
most powerful of all forms of attraction, and ultimately
is the ONLY "logical" strategy to pursue if you want to
attract a woman in the most powerful way.

Will this work on every woman? No, but this is the
ONLY method to go on, because any woman who will
ONLY be with you because of logical reasons is going
to be giving you a very WEAK love, a very WEAK
attraction, a very WEAK connection, a very WEAK
everything.

You WANT a woman who is CRAZY for you, who
doesn't CARE what it TAKES to be with you, who
will go through HELL and HIGH WATER to be
with you.

THAT, my friends, is the WAY IT SHOULD BE
AND THE WAY IT HAS TO BE IF YOU WANT
LONG-TERM PASSION WITH A WOMAN.
 
Any other kind of "love" is B.S. once you have
experienced a woman who is WILD for you. 

This is a HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE

LESSON for any man, especially a good man who

only has the best interests of a woman in mind.

What so often happens is that good men want to

make it clear to women that there is so much more

than just animal attraction going on; they want to

make it clear to these women that things will work

long term for all the logical reasons, but the PROBLEM

with this is that ANIMAL ATTRACTION will just

about ALWAYS trump BORING LOGIC when it

comes to a woman’s decision to be with a man.

Again, by "logical reasons", I mean reasons that
sound like good rational reasons for being with
someone but don't really have to do with INTENSE
ATTRACTION. 

This is the reason, of course, that the most successful

romantic stories of all time (think of Romeo and Juliet,

and the movies Titanic and The Notebook) always had
massive "logical" reasons for why the woman and man
in the story should NOT be with each other, and only
ONE reason for why they should: RAW, OVERWHELMING,
ANIMAL ATTRACTION.

Starting off with having too many "robot logic"
reasons on one’s mind (i.e. "we get along so well" or
"we both love literature" or "we both work out a lot"
or any other "logical" reason that is not about RAW
ATTRACTION) for why one should be with someone,
actually DISPLACES the RAW SEXUAL ATTRACTION
one feels for that person.

Instead, you want to establish yourself in HER mind as

the man she feels RAW, ANIMAL, INTENSE,and
UNCONTROLLABLE ATTRACTION for.

However, you will PREVENT this if you try to make things
TOO SMOOTH on the "LOGICAL FRONT"!

I know it sounds crazy, but it is true.  Think about

it for your OWN attraction to various women over

the years.  Have you ever noticed women that you

felt MASSIVE attraction for, at least initially, and

also noticed that there were many PROBLEMS

or CHALLENGES that would be involved in actually

BEING with her?

In other words, plenty of logical reasons to NOT
be with her?

Whether it was family or friends who would not

approve, whether it was barriers put up by physical

long distances, or whether it was any of a trillion

other reasons, these things only ENHANCED your

attraction to these women.

The reason for this is because all this only made it

CLEARER to you that in fact your ANIMAL

ATTRACTION was so strong that all these things

that were barriers were STILL not enough to stop

your attraction for these women.

(There are also other reasons for this that go beyond
the scope of this newsletter, that have to do with
how to allow her to fully and deeply experience you
as the perfect fantasy man in her mind, so that even
when she meets the reality, the fantasy concept will
 work to your advantage to cast everything about you
in the best possible light.)   
 

In fact, sometimes, this phenomenon is SO powerful,

that the very ELEMENT of CHALLENGES AND

OBSTACLES and all the other logical reasons for

NOT being with someone END UP BEING THE

VERY FORCES THAT ATTRACT ONE TO THE

OTHER!

Now, I’m not saying that you should MAKE UP

false problems or false reasons for why she
should not be with you, but you SHOULD

playfully push women AWAY so that they can

experience the JOY of REALIZING THAT

WHAT THEY FEEL FOR YOU IS ACTUALLY

ATTRACTION and is not just some kind of

boring logical reason to be with you.   

Playfully push women AWAY by telling them

things like  you are a very hard to get guy,

that it takes a lot to impress you, that you

hate breaking women’s hearts, but that you

might end up breaking hers, etc, etc, etc.

PLAYFULLY, not MALICIOUSLY.

Give a woman a chance to have to FIGHT for you,
so she can FULLY EXPERIENCE her OWN desire
for her to get you, as opposed to her seeing this
as just being about YOUR desire to get HER.

The more confident a woman is about herself,

the MORE you can push this in a way where

she will ENJOY IT in terms of feeling MORE

attraction.

By pushing a woman "away" in this sense, by making
her NOT have the easiest time in getting to be with you,
her mind is FORCED to focus on the following thoughts:

"WHY AM I PURSUING THIS GUY? IT'S NOT LIKE
IT IS GOING TO BE EASY TO GET HIM."

"WHY AM I PURSUING THIS GUY IF THERE ARE SO FEW 
LOGICAL REASONS TO BE WITH HIM, AND IF IT'S SO 
INCONVENIENT FOR ME TO BE WITH HIM?" 

"IT MUST BE BECAUSE MY ATTRACTION TO HIM IS SO STRONG!"

Also, if there are INDEED REAL CHALLENGES

involved in her being with you, rather than getting

DISCOURAGED from attracting her, this should

actually encourage you.

Now, by the way, this does not mean that similarities
don't attract.  Often, similarities DO attract, but
you should let those similarities NATURALLY
show themselves and work their magic, as opposed
to you trying to ACTIVELY USE THEM AS
"SELLING POINTS".

Trying to "sell yourself" always does the OPPOSITE
when it comes to attracting women, because it conveys
that there is not already the most important ingredient
present: RAW ATTRACTION.    

It's so crazy, that you can take a woman who WAS
attracted naturally, and actually DIMINISH that
attraction by trying to "sell yourself" and by trying
to convince her of all the "logical reasons" she
should be with you!

And it's not like women are CONSCIOUSLY making
the decision to be attracted or to not feel attraction
when you do these things.  Rather, it's all happening
on a subconscious level.    
   

Now, ONCE a woman is showing you MASSIVE

ATTRACTION, guess what?  THEN you can

let her know some "LOGICAL" reasons for her to

be with you, (do not overdo it), because THEN

she will ONLY interpret these logical reasons

in a POSITIVE way, i.e. that it is FATE or

DESTINY, or she will interpret those positive

logical reasons for being with you as FURTHER

JUSTIFICATION FOR BEING WITH YOU,

in terms of making her feel good that she is not

ONLY with you because of ANIMAL attraction,

she can feel PERFECT about being with you

since she feels you are the one she has ANIMAL

attraction for, AND the one she can also see

a long-term future with.

Now, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, do NOT

abuse what I am teaching you, and also remember
that this "gift" works for yourself as well, because
if you get a woman that you feel is super easy to get,
you will probably NOT feel the same chemistry
for her as you would for a woman that you felt you
had to overcome obstacles for in order to get.

The only thing is that we are living in a world where
for the most part, it already IS hard for most men,
because men are not taught these important things
on how to attract women, but women are taught
EVERYTHING on how to attract men. (It's part of
the subculture of men and women, that men don't
talk much with each other about how to attract
women, but women talk with each other like
crazy on how to attract men).

Also, a long time ago, men had so much power in any
relationship with women, compared to the power
that women had in relationships with men, that men
were ALREADY considered "hard to get" in general
by women, and therefore women APPRECIATED
men more and felt more attraction as well.

But nowadays, it's almost reversed, when it comes to most
of the attractive women anyway, so that women really don't
need to focus on showing that they are hard to get.

There is also absolutely no need to OVERDO things.

The idea here is to SPICE UP THE CHEMISTRY

so that a woman is having a FANTASTIC TIME   

being with you, and of course so that you are having

the time of your life being with a woman who is

all over you and totally into you and totally treating

you with the FULL LOVE AND RESPECT YOU

DESERVE.

And believe me, there is NOTHING ON EARTH

like the feeling of a woman really being NUTS

about you and treating you AMAZINGLY.

The WHOLE REASON I created Get A Great Girl

is because I could not STAND the way MOST WOMEN

treat good guys.  I was (and I think I still am) a VERY

decent person, I am the kind of person who will never

hurt someone, who will not abuse people, etc.  And

meanwhile, all this got for me and for the good men

I knew, when it came to women, was MASSIVE

ABUSE by any woman who seemed attractive.

I thought, for a long while, that women were

CRAZY.

Now, I don’t think that women are crazy anymore,

but I do think that there is something VERY WRONG

with the way most women are being taught on how

to TREAT a good man.

And LOGICAL DISCUSSIONS won’t work to

change anything.    

There is only ONE solution, which is a combination

of being VERY SELECTIVE with women so that

you immediately SCREEN OUT the wrong women

and don’t waste time on the wrong women, which

allows you to spend your time only on the RIGHT

women, and the OTHER thing you must learn is

how to ATTRACT women.

In my DVD program Warrior Within, I go into

FULL DETAIL on BOTH, I teach you how to

DETECT the right women (and how to know

if a woman is the WRONG woman, IMMEDIATELY)

and of course I also teach you how to ATTRACT

that right woman as well.

It’s not just about DETECTING the right woman,

as important as that is.  It’s also about ATTRACTING

that woman.  I teach you BOTH.

To get this important program, go here IMMEDIATELY.

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Making Her WANT To Be With You Out Of Attraction Rather Than Logic

Are you ready for the BIGGEST MISTAKE that most
men make when it comes to success with women?

Well here it is: Most men focus on doing things
that give women feelings of 'LOGICALLY SHOULD'
rather than 'MASSIVELY WANT'.

In other words, most guys focus on doing things
that make women feel like they OWE the guys
something, instead of making the women feel
they DESIRE the guys.

I'm not saying that men do this on purpose,
it is simply what most men do, because
they think it will ultimately work to
also attract women.

Most men seem to behave as if a woman's
attraction to a man could GROW out of logic
if there are just enough logical reasons for
a woman to be with a guy.  I used to think
the same way.

So, for example, putting in lots of WORK in
trying to set up a fancy date, being willing to
do favors for women, helping women out in all
kinds of ways, ranging from helping them with
their homework to offering to do just about
any other WORK for them.

OR, just buying these women nice gifts or
presents, etc., etc., etc.

OR being an extremely nice-guy to them by
flattering them or just being super-sensitive
to them, etc.

Now, none of those things are BAD, once
a woman has MASSIVELY EARNED them from
you by treating you like absolute GOLD.

However, doing those things for a woman BEFORE
she has treated you like GOLD not only does not HELP,
it actually REPELS her for one BIG reason:

It creates a feeling of BURDEN on her.

If you do all these nice things for a woman,
before she has earned them from you, she
feels she 'owes' you something now.

When a woman feels she owes you because you
were so nice to her, she simply wants to get RID
of that feeling of OWING you, and she wants
to get RID of that feeling as soon as possible.

So when a guy approaches her with the super
nice guy act, it immediately triggers feelings of
PAST memories of guys she 'OWED', who she possibly
forced herself to stay with (i.e. she reasoned
with herself and felt she should try to make it
work) but she was not feeling attracted toward
and she remembers the feelings of boredom or of
resentment that she had, etc., etc.

So she will either ignore the guy or give him the
polite, 'Thanks, but goodbye I have to go'.

It is NOT that women want to be abused or that
they do not appreciate good treatment.

If you work with women who treat you decently
or if have platonic female friends, then of
course treat them decently the same way you
would anyone else.

It is simply that these extra nice things are
NOT relevant from a SEXUAL ATTRACTION standpoint
before women actually feel attracted themselves.

In fact, from a SEXUAL ATTRACTION standpoint,
these 'nice' things are WORSE than not relevant,
they actually stir feelings of PRESSURE, and of
resentment, or of burden, or guilt, or boredom -
when introduced too soon or used too often.

The human mind tends to focus on what it is LOSING.

So, if you make a woman feel PRESSURE to be with you
for LOGICAL reasons such as you being nice, but not
because she feels RAW ATTRACTION, her mind will
focus on how she is LOSING the ability to CHOOSE
and to be with whoever she WANTS.

So she obviously will then want to be FREE of you.

Also, since she knows she 'has' you, she is now
more likely to start wondering if there is something
'bad' in this deal, if there is something negative
about you, etc.

It is a bit of the 'grass looks greener on the
other side' effect. Since she feels she 'has' you,
she feels you are the grass on her side. 
(Once you ARE in a relationship, it is healthy if
you both know that you both obviously 'have' each other,
but even then, there is still a need to keep things
fun and to still be the right kind of challenge).  

However, when it comes to approaching a woman, if you
focus on ATTRACTION and you do NOT put ANY pressure
on her, and if you actually make it clear that you
are NOT easy to get, and if you in fact playfully
and figuratively push her AWAY, well THEN she will
focus on all the things she might lose by LOSING you,
and she will then focus on how to PREVENT losing you.
 
And she will be focused on how to GET you, not
because of LOGICAL reasons, but rather because she
will be feeling an emotion, an emotion called PAIN
OF LOSS. She is actually FEELING THE PAIN of
possibly losing you.

And this is not a bad thing.  When someone feels
ATTRACTION, then there is the possibility for both
pleasure and pain, for without the thought of the pain
of LOSING you, there would not be the same PLEASURE
from the thought of BEING with you.

So, yes, you are actually giving her MORE feelings
of ATTRACTION, of DESIRE, of ECSTASY, from
incorporating the PAIN of LOSS and from NOT being
such a NICE guy in the stereotypical sense.

THEN, once she feels ATTRACTION, well THEN
she will CHERISH the nice things you do and it
will be PLEASURABLE and APPRECIATED, as long
as you do not overdo it and as long as you
do not become too predictable.

So, the next time you see a woman you want to
chat with, focus on all the things that spark
EMOTION and STAY AWAY from all the things that
create that feeling of 'Damn, this guy is being
so nice I feel I SHOULD be with him.'

Instead of complimenting her, TEASE her
in a playful way.  For example, if she rubs
past you on the train or bus, you can tell her
that you expect her to buy you dinner first.

When she laughs or responds, keep the tease
going by saying, 'I am totally serious!' with
a smirk, telling her you are sick of women
treating you like a purely physical object for
lovemaking and that you want to be loved for
your genius as well.

Instead of offering to do her a favor, convey
POWER and AUTHORITY through your voice
tonality.  That will make her MORE LIKELY
to later OFFER to do favors for YOU, and
she will be a lot more likely to be THRILLED
to do a favor for you, rather than doing
a favor for you as a form of 'something
she owes you'.

When a woman is ATTRACTED to you, she
WANTS to do favors for you. Doing
favors for you makes her feel GOOD.

Instead of flattering her, help her look UP
to YOU by teaching her something quickly
that is useful. Whether it is about health,
about working out, about travel, or anything
else that may be important. 

Instead of asking her for a formal date, invite
her to something you are ALREADY doing, whether it
is a game of pool, a workout, a trip to the mall,
or heading to the coffee shop. KEEP IT CASUAL and
you remove all forms of that feeling of
pressure/burden/owing.

And do not MELT when you see that all this
is WORKING.

So many times, a guy will take my advice, and
GET the girl attracted and she becomes all giggly
and girly and feminine when just before she seemed
like an ice-queen. 

The guy will follow my advice, and he will see
the girl transform into this warm, loving creature
and now the guy feels that it is somehow WRONG
of him to not be SUPER NICE immediately, so he
MELTS and suddenly his voice loses the authority,
he starts packing on the compliments, and he
starts conveying all the ways he would be a
great, steady, trustworthy boyfriend, and that
in fact he wants to begin the relationship
as soon as possible.

He thinks that he is being 'indirect' by talking about
all his good qualities for being a great boyfriend in
what he thinks are subtle ways, but the woman
IMMEDIATELY recognizes this for what it is,
and what it is, is NEEDINESS and insecurity,
and it symbolizes everything that is NOT cool
or attractive.

Suddenly, the whole VIBE reverses and she now
LOSES that feeling of attraction and starts to feel
the owing/burden/resentment/boredom feeling.

She starts to close up, become less talkative,
her gaze starts to drift away.

When I say BE THE MAN, trust me, I MEAN IT.

I have seen the sweetest girly-girls who are all nice
and lovey-dovey and who cannot wait to get naked,
suddenly FLIP almost INSTANTLY when presented with the
'I owe you' burden/resentment/boredom feeling
triggered by the WRONG actions.

And I have seen the reverse as well, women who,
on the SURFACE, may have SEEMED like they were
TOTALLY COLD, totally oblivious to the world,
with headphones on, dressed super hot, who totally
KNEW how hot they were, and they MELTED and became
girly-girly submissive when presented with the RIGHT
actions and behaviors.

It is up to you: Choose the path that makes women want
to get AWAY from you, even though there are a million
logical reasons women 'SHOULD' be with you, OR choose
the path that actually gets women massively ATTRACTED
to you, even if there are a million reasons women
'should NOT' be with you.

The 'SHOULD' path NEVER works, it always ends up FAILING.
The only path that WORKS is the ATTRACTION path.

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Till next time,

Michael Marks