Two VITAL Keys To Approaching Women

I’m going to share with you two of the

absolute most important PRACTICAL

tips on how to actually approach women.

The reason I’ve spent so much time in

previous newsletters discussing the issue

of finding the kind of women who are

honest, respectful, faithful, not promiscuous,

etc., is because in reality THAT is the

harder part, the part that takes more

persistence and effort.

However, I also realize that unless you know

HOW to meet women in the first place, none

of that will make any difference, since you

have to have the women in the first place

in order to choose from them.

So here we go:

NEVER QUALIFY YOURSELF

What this means is when you approach a

woman, don’t try to EXPLAIN yourself,

and don’t try to “prop yourself up” by

alluding to or referring to REASONS

why she should talk to you.

I’ll give some specific examples:

Let’s say you are not wearing your favorite

shirt, coat, jacket, boots, or whatever it is

that you think gives you “good luck” or or

somehow improves your chances with women.

Let’s say you are coming home from work and

you think your hair is not perfect, or that there

may be a stain on your coat, or maybe there in

fact is a stain, etc.

Or let’s say you are feeling tired, and you think

you look terrible because of it. Or you are rough

shaven since you didn’t have time to shave, and

you think you might look homeless.

In all the above cases, you may feel a NEED

to EXPLAIN yourself, so that the woman

should give you a CHANCE.

You may feel you need to say something like

“I don’t normally look like this”, or “This

drink spilled on me earlier”, or “Please excuse

the way I look, I haven’t had a chance to sleep

because I was working through the night”etc,

etc, etc.

 

ALL THAT STUFF IS QUALIFYING YOURSELF.

And it NEVER helps, and in fact often ends up

RUINING the whole thing when in fact there would

have been NO PROBLEM had you just not  gone

into the whole QUALIFYING yourself.

The reason QUALIFYING is so destructive is that

it REEKS of NOT BEING SURE OF YOUR VALUE.

Have you ever heard of the term “social proof”?

It means the fact that human beings are affected

by the perceptions of others regarding just about

anything.  So if a person finds out that millions

of people like some product, or some person, or

some service, there is a big chance that now that

person will IMMEDIATELY think “Well that

thing, person, or service MUST be great!”.

But guess what?

THE NUMBER ONE SOCIAL PROOF YOU

HAVE IS THE “PROOF” THAT YOU PROVIDE

ABOUT YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So if YOU seem to think that there is

SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU JUST

APPROACHING HER AS YOU ARE WITHOUT

SOME QUALIFYING/JUSTIFICATION/EXPLANATION,

then YOU are exerting a NEGATIVE SOCIAL PROOF

on YOURSELF.

After all, she will INSTINCTIVELY think, if

YOU don’t think you are CLEARLY AND OBVIOUSLY

THE RIGHT PERSON TO BE TALKING TO HER,

then why should SHE think you are the right person?   

This all happens SUBCONSCIOUSLY.

Just like people react subconsciously to other

forms of social proof.          

By the way, the OTHER reason qualifying yourself

is so bad is that so often the whole problem is only

an issue in your OWN mind, but now that you have  

drawn ATTENTION to the damn stain, or not perfectly

brushed/combed hair, or that you didn’t get a perfect

8 hours of beauty sleep, well NOW you’ve put THAT

under the MAGNIFYING glass, so of course that is

now going to be the FOCUS and she will NOW possibly

actually start to think that maybe there IS an issue.

So instead of drawing attention AWAY from that

thing you were concerned about, you have actually

drawn attention TOWARD it in a MASSIVE way,

so massive in fact that it is a DISTORTED and

OVERLY NEGATIVE portrayal of yourself.

Plus, HERE’S the final kicker:

By NOT qualifying yourself, and just TOTALLY

being “THE MAN” in all senses of the word, not

only do you come across as far more confident,

masculine, and far more as a WINNER, but even

in the TINY chance that she somehow DOES notice

whatever it was you were concerned about, she might

actually end up interpreting it in a POSITIVE SENSE!

This is because, since you didn’t feel the need to

bring it up, and since you came across as so confident,

she will now subconsciously interpret EVERYTHING

about you in a way that is CONSISTENT to her impression

of you being AWESOME.

So if it’s a scar, she might figure you are the kind of

man that hasn’t been overly sheltered and that isn’t

too DELICATE.

If you hair is not perfect, she might figure you are

TOO BUSY getting things DONE to keep every last

hair perfectly coiffed. 

This can go on and on, the main point is that once

you deliver the impression that you don’t doubt

yourself, she will then instinctively give all the

REST of you the very BEST interpretation as well.

The NEXT thing I want to let you know about

is the whole SMILE thing.       

DON'T SMILE IN THE INITIAL APPROACH

Yes, you heard me correctly.

I suggest you DON’T SMILE when you approach women.

This flies in the fact of all the typical advice

that tells men to SMILE when they approach

women to somehow show they are not threatening

or happy or something.

But REAL WORLD TESTING has shown me

that smiling initially in the approach never HELPS,

and sometimes HURTS your chances.

In a nutshell, it’s NOT attractive on a man to

START with the whole smiling thing, PLUS

it tends to give off the impression that you are

some kind of CLOWN who spends his whole

day goofing around trying to meet women,

and who clearly doesn’t know much about women

or why is he goofing around so much since women

don’t like goofy behavior in men.

Of course, if you read feminist advice,

(which does NOT represent most women)

the general advice from them would be for

you to give her a three-hour dissertation

explaining why you are not a psycho who

is bent on raping her.

In fact, the whole QUALIFYING thing and the

whole SMILING thing probably stem from growing

up in a society where you are made to feel as if

TALKING to a woman who is a stranger is EVIL,

or as if all women were TERRIFIED of a man

talking to them, when in REALITY women,

especially attractive women, are SUPER CONFIDENT

and SUPER COMFORTABLE since they KNOW

they have the POWER over most men when it comes

to these dynamics- in other words, the woman knows

SHE is the desired party in this equation, from the

GET GO.

So, if you want SUCCESS when you approach

women, do NOT qualify yourself, and do NOT

start off with a smile, and in fact try not to smile

too much in the whole interaction.

Think about it, how much do you need to SMILE

when around friends that you are COMFORTABLE

with?  Sure you may smile when something funny

is happening, but do you go around forcing a big

smile? Of course not. Because you don’t feel a

need to treat your friends like they are fragile little

CHILDREN.

Well guess what? Women aren’t fragile little

children either, and in fact adult women actually

want their men to be MEN.  There’s a reason

Bond, Dirty Harry, and Han Solo aren’t particularly

SMILING around women, unlike most men who

are doing it out of APPROVAL SEEKING and

SUBMISSIVE behavior.

Do you want to know more?

Then here’s what I suggest:

Take a BOOTCAMP with me.

Why is BOOTCAMP so effective?

It’s because SEEING is BELIEVING.

And BELIEF is such a huge part of success.

If you don’t BELIEVE you can do something,

if you believe that the whole thing is just not in

your reality, it can be pretty hard to pull it off.

In BOOTCAMP, you will see results right before

your EYES, all happening in real time. First, you

will see demonstrations of approaches on real women,

and then you will perform the approach yourself, and

you will SEE the results for yourself.

SEEING the results makes it easier for you to

INTERNALIZE your new beliefs, and then take

them with you forever for all the women you 

will ever encounter for the future.

I  have been doing this for over TWELVE YEARS.

I know my stuff inside out.

To learn more about bootcamp, you can email me

or go HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/bootcamp-sign-up.html

If you have a serious question about any matter related

to attracting women, dating, or relationships, then you can

arrange a private consultation with me by going here:

http://getagreatgirl.com/PrivateCoaching.html

I also SERIOUSLY suggest you get my

ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM

that gives you the ADVANCED insights

on approaching and attracting women

ANYWHERE. 

One of the great advantages of this program

is that it is a professionally recorded audio

program, which means you can also listen to

it while doing something like driving or when

working out. So as you get to your destination,

or finish a workout, or get other chores done,

you are also enhancing your mastery when it

comes to attracting women. 

Think of this program as your REFERENCE

resource on all aspects of attracting women.

It’s at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

The Proof Of "Social Proof" In Attracting Women

When it comes to women, all I care
about are two things and those are:

1. What WORKS to attract women.

2. How to apply all this on getting
the best QUALITY women.     

Today we are going to focus on the FIRST thing:
What WORKS to attract women.

And even though I have been teaching
this field for over ten years, and even
though I conduct REAL LIFE bootcamps
where men actually get to PROVE it
on women in front of their own eyes,
I STILL understand that if you’re new
to all this, it might STILL seem HARD
to believe.

So today, I am going to share with you
a MASSIVE proof of just ONE of the
techniques that I teach men to apply
on women in many different ways.

This technique is based on a proven
concept in psychology known as,
believe it or not, SOCIAL PROOF.

The word PROOF is actually part of the
NAME because that is how strong we FEEL
the power of social endorsement IS.

In a nutshell, SOCIAL PROOF means that
an individual will be INFLUENCED by
the opinions of OTHERS.

Those others can have power either through
being a LARGE group, or through simply
being even ONE other person, but a person
who is already RESPECTED by others.

So, for example, if a million OTHER people
say that person A is COOL, then it’s highly
likely that any random individual will be
highly INFLUENCED to FEEL that indeed
person A is COOL.

Similarly, if a person who is already well
RESPECTED endorses person A as being
cool, or if someone who is already considered
“cool” says that person A is also cool, then
most people will feel highly INFLUENCED
to GENUINELY feel that person A IS
indeed “cool”.

Now, I use this principle all the TIME in
bootcamps with guys as I teach them to
approach women in just about every
place you imagine.

Let me share with you a real-life example:
 
An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
situation.

He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened.

She seemed to be a bit less relaxed, as
English was not her first language, and
it can be a bit intimidating sometimes
when two guys are so close to one woman
depending on the time of day, the amount
of other people there, etc.

Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she
was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it
clear that I was not there to take advantage
of the situation that she was by herself and
I let her walk in the train as she was still
smiling, and I did not follow her.

As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive girl, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.

Now this girl was totally relaxed with it,
smiling and laughing and having a great time.

Well guess what happened next?

Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!

Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,
smiling and speaking loudly as if we had
never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
THE PROGRAM!

Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation
with us, competing playfully for our attention,
going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.

ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.

This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.

In the example above, by seeing another
woman feel comfortable and trusting us and
having a great time, the original woman felt
a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction
and trust.

And by the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
cafes, and don't even get me started about
the massive ease of what to do in a club!!!!

I also use social proof all the time when I
or a buddy of mine happen to be the first
one to approach a group of women.

So let’s say I approach the group of women
first, and I get things revved to high power,
and then my buddy rolls up, often all I have to
do is say  “this is my friend, he’s a great guy”
and that’s IT, he’s TOTALLY IN and he really
doesn’t have to do ANYTHING anymore
because I’ve already "socially proven" him.

All he has to do is not screw it up.

And vice versa, if he opens up the group and
does a great job attracting them, all he has to 
say if I roll up, is, "This is my friend”, and
by process of being SOCIALLY PROOFED
by him, I’m already in, I don’t have to DO
anything except not royally screw it up.

Here’s another element of social proof:
A lot of times, guys get insecure, and they
actually try to somehow put DOWN the
other guys they are with when they are
in front of women, because the guys
feel they are COMPETING with each
other.

This is really sad, because as far as the
women are concerned, on a subconscious
level all that is happening is they are feeling
you are getting NEGATIVE social proof
from these guys who you keep implying are
NOT cool, so then why are YOU in their
circle? If you say they are uncool, and they
are part of your circle, that must make you
uncool as well. 

So NEVER do that.

In fact, the smartest way to apply social proof,
if you are ever with your buddies, is to socially
proof EACH OTHER and say great things about
each other.

Here’s ANOTHER way to use social proof,
if you are ever at a massive party with tons
of women you don’t know.  Just approach
individual groups and have MINI chats
with them, and then say, “Hey, it was
nice meeting you, I’m going to say
hi to some friends!”

This way, you can not only approach the
ENTIRE place and chat with every woman
in the joint, but since the place is so busy
NO ONE will know that you didn’t
ALREADY know everyone!

Instead, they will feel you must be THE MAN
because every woman is chatting with you!

Plus, because you are keeping each chat
BRIEF at the beginning, you also show
that you are not needy and that you are
there to have FUN, which in itself is a
sign of a guy who is not NEEDY or
desperate, it’s a sign of a guy who
ALREADY HAS tons of women
at his fingertips.

Now, once you have ALREADY circulated
and met EVERYONE including EVERY
woman in the place,  you can then GO
BACK to whichever woman you wanted
to chat to in the first place, but now you
are ENRICHED with MASSIVE social
proof, which will make things go INSANELY
easy at this point!
 
And remember, that initial brief chat could
Have been as casual, as, “Hey, what’s up!
Isn’t this party awesome!!??”

When at a party, it’s THE VIBE that counts,
the fact that you are in a great FUN mood.

Let me share with you YET ANOTHER
massive proof of the power of social proof:

Just DAYS AGO, a dude in New York City
put this principle into PRACTICE for himself.

It’s important to remember, this was a REGULAR
DUDE and there is filmed proof of what happened
as well, and I will provide the link for you so you
can see it for yourself.

In a nutshell, all he did was WALK around Times
Square with two bodyguards, two assistants, and
photographers pretending to be paparazzi.

From the original source, I quote:
“While the assistants and photographers waited
for Brett to exit the 49th street marquee at NBC
Studios, they started a buzz that a "big star" was
about to walk out, thus making it worth their while
to wait and get a picture.”

They NEVER actually said he was ANYONE
in particular. He wasn’t pretending to be
Tom Cruise, Robert Pattinson, or anyone else.

All they said was that he was a BIG STAR.

In other words, all they said was that he was,
in essence, someone who was POPULAR and
SOCIALLY PROOFED.

What is AMAZING is how the crowds just
kept getting BIGGER and BIGGER.

How girls suddenly were so HAPPY to get
their picture with him.  Even totally STRAIGHT
GUYS were saying that he was a cool guy with
talent.

By the way, I don’t blame girls for being
ATTRACTED to him, and guys for thinking
he is a cool guy with talent, because this stuff
gets to the HARD WIRING of the human psyche.

If it wasn't for the fact that this just happens to be
an area that I have specialized in for over ten years,
I would probably have the SAME reactions as all
these other people.

In fact, social proof still works on me in many ways,
and I have to CONSCIOUSLY REMIND myself of
what is actually happening to stop it from taking over
my emotions.

And that's WITH already knowing about how social
proof works and with spending so many years in this
field, I STILL need to work hard to remind myself
to not let it take over!

This stuff is HARD-WIRED.
A woman can’t HELP but feel attraction
when the right switches are pushed.

It attracts women.
It wins the respect of men.

It’s UNIVERSALLY powerful.

Check out this video for PROOF of how SOCIAL PROOF works to get women MADLY attracted:



Make sure to check out the GROUP
of women surrounding him at 2:15,
including the woman who KEEPS
ON TRYING to kiss him!

And at 2:17, how the girls are so excited
about him, you’d think this guy was FOR
SURE the next SUPERSTAR that makes
women melt. 

Remember, this dude is a REGULAR DUDE,
he’s doesn’t actually HAVE anything that any
other dude doesn’t have. 

And of course, social proof ITSELF builds
even MORE social proof, as each time
people joined the CROWD, the crowd got
LARGER and created even MORE powerful
social proof, making the crowd even LARGER
and larger in a never ending cycle of growth,
until he HIMSELF decided to end the experiment.

Here’s one final point I want to add:
When you ATTRACT women, they don’t
ASK questions, they ALREADY are attracted
and they THEMSELVES fill in the answers
with whatever answer FEELS right to them
based on what they are FEELING about you.

So, for example, if a woman feels you must
be the most talented, confident guy who is
a great lover and who all women want, they
aren’t going to ASK you if you are these
things, they will just want to know how to
GET a chance to be with you.

Plus, when a woman is ATTRACTED, anything

YOU say to her about yourself gets FILTERED

through the most ATTRACTIVE prism.

What I mean by this is let’s say you tell her
that you are unemployed, that you are a jerk,
and that you are not interested in spending
money on women.

Well, now that she is ALREADY attracted,
she may just figure that you are either so
desirable that you are trying to GET RID
of her because you already have too many
women, so she will now just work even
HARDER to get you.

Or, she might figure you are some type of
genius who is too good for regular boring
jobs, or she might figure you are loaded
and just trying to test to see if she is
a gold-digger, or she might just figure
that she is so lucky to have a chance to
have met you when you are still POSSIBLE
to get before you become IMPOSSIBLE due
to you being too PERFECT and her feeling
too insecure and feeling that a perfect guy
like you would never truly love her.

BOTTOM LINE is that it doesn’t matter
what you SAY,  because she is ATTRACTED
and everything you do now gets interpreted
in some sort of POSITIVE way.

Now, what you have just read is just the
TIP OF THE ICEBERG of what you will learn
in my programs.

My ATTRACTION MASTERY program not only
goes into SOCIAL PROOF, but it also shows
you TONS of other PROVEN strategies for
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them.

And not only does it show you how to
approach women, but it even gives you
EXACT INSTRUCTIONS on how to take
things from the very first moment you walk 
up to her, all the way to a relationship.

This isn’t just hyperbole here.

This program is going to be one of the greatest
investments you’ve ever made in your LIFE.      

This program is absolutely vital if you want
to get the experience under your belt with
women before going on to settle down with
one fantastic amazing woman for life. 
  
Get the women you want by downloading this
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Attracting and Approaching Women: Stop Worrying About Being A "Psycho"

When it comes to success in approaching women 
who are total strangers, i.e. when it comes to "picking
up women" and attracting women who are total strangers,
there is ONE thing I need to make ABSOLUTELY CLEAR:

DON’T WORRY ABOUT COMING ACROSS AS PSYCHO
WHEN APPROACHING RANDOM GORGEOUS WOMEN.

I have a strong feeling that it is THIS fear, the fear of
seeming “weird” or possibly even seeming like a PSYCHO,
that STOPS most men from approaching a woman somewhere
who is a total stranger, whether it’s on public transportation,
or on the sidewalk, or in a mall, or in a café, or just
about ANYWHERE else.

And I desperately want anyone reading this to
know that I truly understand this fear, for it used
to be the number one thing that screwed me up
when it came to approaching random but gorgeous
women in public.

GOOD GUYS GET BRAINWASHED TO BE
"ANTI-SEPTIC" AND "NON-SEXUAL" WHEN
APPROACHING WOMEN.

One of the many reasons that it was so hard for me
to approach women the right way was because I had
been brainwashed not only by popular culture and
the general feminism and all the daytime talk shows
like Oprah that made it seem that all men were rapists,
women abusers, molesters, etc, etc, but I ALSO was
super-brainwashed by ANOTHER force:

This force was the effect of certain political
science courses I had taken in university, where
according to certain feminist professors, just
about EVERYthing in our society was ALL
aimed at subjugating women, including even
the very ACT of sex itself, was somehow
“anti-women” because somehow the woman
was made “passive” in this act, while the
man was the “active one” and the “aggressor”
in this act!

So, at the time, even though I was SURROUNDED
by gorgeous young women EVERYWHERE, I
was also kind of NEUTRALIZED by all this insane
brainwashing.

I became SUPER CONCERNED with making sure
that any approach I made with women was super
politically correct, I made sure NOT to escalate
unless at least one TRILLION green lights were
present, which means that basically unless the
WOMAN was being aggressive about wanting
to push things, I would NEVER escalate.

And in general, women don't START aggressively.
So unless a guy really is a rock star or famous
celebrity or athlete, if he waits for some woman
to just come up to him and aggressively pursue
him, he is going to have very few options.

It happens, but just not often.  It happens sometimes
when a woman just really likes a guy for some reason
even she might not be aware of, without even knowing him.

You DON'T want to rely on this, you want to be ACTIVE about
attracting women and have access to the pool of MILLIONS
of attractive women out there.

THIS is a big problem that GOOD GUYS have.
Good guys are so concerned with RESPECTING
women, with not hurting women, that they end
up being SO CAREFUL to the point that they
convey NO NAUGHTINESS, NO SEXUAL VIBE,
no “ROUGH AND TUMBLE”, no NOTHING!

And yet, if you, as a good guy, CONVEY the
sexual vibe, convey the masculinity, and you
convey the playfulness, then a woman will
be ECSTATIC about you, as you will  have
THE MAGIC COMBO of being a sexy
fun naughty guy who ALSO has the vibes
of warmth and caring as well.   

It took me YEARS to realize that just about every
attractive girl on campus did NOT want any man
to actually BELIEVE in the “all men are rapists”
stuff, and did NOT want any man to approach them
in the politically correct way where  basically
NOTHING happens unless the WOMAN does all
the escalating, which goes against just about
EVERYTHING that is actually hard-wired into
female sexuality and female fantasy.

The TRUTH about female fantasy is that they
actually want men to behave like men!

So my point is this: The next time you see a woman
ANYWHERE that you would like to approach,
if the thing stopping you from taking action is
that you think it is somehow WEIRD for men
to approach women who are strangers, then
DEFINITELY go approach her anyway.

It is NOT weird.

Women WANT men to approach them, and the
thing that screws up most approaches that men
do on women has NOTHING to do with coming
across as a PSYCHO for making the approach.

Often, in fact, the thing that screws men up is
coming across as so CAUTIOUS that there is
no ZEST, no FUN, no LIFE to the interaction.

Instead, throw caution to the wind and have
some FUN with the interaction.  Infuse the
interaction with some sexuality, some spice,
some warmth, some excitement.

Let me give you an example of something
that I learned from a cool friend of mine
named Barry, (some of you know him from
my interview with him on the power of
comedy and humor) who adapted it from
a game by Howard Stern.

Now, the following game is slightly more adapted
for a party environment, but you can use it anywhere
by toning it down a bit.

So let’s say I’m walking into a lounge on a Saturday
night,  and I see TONS of gorgeous women, all of
whom are total strangers to me.

I might walk up to a woman I like, and tell her
“Hey, have you ever played the game F**K,
MARRY, KILL?”

YES.
That is the point, the point is to NOT come across
as a boring, anti-septic, non-sexual person.

She will most likely ask:
“What is that???
I don’t know if that game is for me.”

Trust me, this game is WAY more for her
and she KNOWS it, this is just her way of   
showing she is not a tramp.

So I (or you, if you are playing the game with her)
explain to her:

“What happens is you point to a woman, and I
tell you whether I would want to F**K her, 
marry her, or kill her, and then, you point
out two more women where again I tell you
what I would do, at which point we then switch 
the game up,  and **I** point to three guys and 
you tell me if you’d rather F**k them, marry them, 
or kill them.”

Now, this game is a GAME.
It’s not meant to be REAL. 
But it can have some pretty DEEP impact
and do a lot of powerful things if you
play it right.

So, for example, if she points to a woman,
and I say IMMEDIATELY, “Oh her??? KILL, for sure.”

Now, you DON’T say this loud to offend anyone,
the point is that now the woman you are with will
probably say, “Why??? Why would you kill her so fast??”

And HERE is where it is FUNNY, and you show
that you have HIGH STANDARDS:

So I might reply that the reason is because I
can’t STAND her dress, or her purse, or her
choice of drink, or ANYTHING super trivial
that is really NOT a real reason for wanting
to kill ANYONE.

The point here is to show that of course this has
NOTHING to do with violence, but to show through
HUMOR that you have INSANELY HIGH STANDARDS,
WHICH IS FUNNY yet also shows CONFIDENCE.

In fact, the more trivial the reason for choosing “kill her”
the more this works.

On the other hand, if I genuinely see something
attractive about the PERSONALITY of one of the
three women she points out, then I might very well
say I would MARRY that woman, and when the
woman I’m playing the game with asks “why”,
(which she likely would ask, and if she doesn’t
ask, you can always volunteer the reason why
anyway) I (or you, if you are playing the game)
would EXPLAIN, that it’s because
you can see that the particular woman was
doing something you liked, for example:

-She was dressed tastefully not slutty.
-She was in middle of giving a compliment to her friend.
-She wasn’t rudely shoving through the crowd but instead was politely moving through.     
-Etc., etc., etc.

You could even LATER use this "marry" topic
as a way to sprinkle in a little more info
on the GOOD QUALITIES you seek in a woman,
all without getting TOO serious in the
conversation, as you can then playfully
go back to the more naughty elements of
the conversation, and then finally
just focus on chilling out together
without chatting much at all, which
is the final level before getting
all-out physical together.

The reasons you choose for your decisions in this game
are what create the humor and also what convey information
about YOUR cool character.   
 
Then, you flip the game, and YOU point out three guys,
and you can always learn more about her from HER
reasons for her decisions on whether to f, marry, or kill
the guy, PLUS you can tease her on her answers. 

This gives her a chance to express her OWN sexuality
and her own preferences for what is important to her
in relationships as well, you are getting a woman to
lower her guard and be EXTREMELY revealing
sexually with you in terms of what turns her on, 
and if you ask the right questions and lead her
properly, you are also learning what makes her feel
loved as well, all of which is PURE GOLD that
you can use to attract her, seduce her, and make
her crazy in love with you.

And you can MODIFY this game so you can play
it anywhere, by changing the “f**k” to “sleep with”,
and you can change the “kill” to “punch” or “slap”,
etc ,etc.  And you can CERTAINLY play this game
after breaking the ice with something a little more
neutral like a comment on the magazine she is
reading or something else she is doing or something
else that is going on in the environment.

But overall, compare playing THIS GAME with
a woman you just met, with the TYPICAL approach
that a guy will do, if he even approaches her at all,
with the all-too-common, “So, you come here often?”

How much CHARACTER and personality does
that reveal, by just asking a woman “So, come
here often?” 

It reveals NOTHING, plus it’s BORING.

The fact of the matter is, men and women ARE
sexual.  We DO have passions, we DO want to
laugh, we DO want to have fun, we also have
things we can’t STAND, and it FEELS good
to be able to CONNECT with the opposite
sex in a way that is IMMEDIATELY
relevant!  It feels good not only for YOU,
but it feels good also for HER!

For once, she can talk about sexual things,
she can talk about passionate things, she      
can LAUGH, she can tell you the things
about a guy she can’t STAND, she can
do all this within MOMENTS with YOU,
a total stranger, because you have MADE
IT EASY for her to do so.

Plus, by doing all this, you IMMEDIATELY
convey that you are a man who UNDERSTANDS
women, who understands the whole sexual
dynamic, and that you are a guy who is so
comfortable with all this that clearly you
must have an abundance of choice of
women in your life.

And that in itself is attractive as well, since
it implies you are already “chosen” by
women; it gives you the all powerful
“social proof”.

On the OTHER HAND, if you are so worried
about not coming across as a psycho, you will
NEVER do any of this!!  You might not even make
any APPROACH to any woman whatsoever!

Trust me, just because most men do not do the
random approaches, does NOT mean that it
doesn’t work.

Let me PROVE it to you:
If a total STRANGER came up to you on the
street, with a huge CHUNK of PURE GOLD,
and told you he is GIVING it to you, and then
he gave it to you, and then he left, would you
somehow THROW OUT that gold????????

Would you say to yourself, “This isn’t TYPICAL,
this MUST be fake gold, so I am going to
throw it OUT”????????????????????????????

You would NOT do that.
You MIGHT be a bit skeptical, you might even
be suspicious, but you would WANT the gold
in case it IS gold, right?

It’s the EXACT SAME THING with approaching
women, but even EASIER because it’s not so
out of the ordinary as most guys think.

The truth is, especially with attractive women,
over the course of their lives they HAVE
been approached many times, and their
attractive FRIENDS have been approached
many times, and between them and their
friends, they KNOW of several success stories
where the men and women ended up not only
hooking up, but often having great relationships
as well.

These women just don’t go AROUND telling
everyone that the men they met were total
strangers, but all their BEST friends know!

This is yet again another example of how some
guys are “inside” the circle of knowledge of
what REALLY goes on, and other guys are on
the “outside” and have no clue.  I used to be
on the outside, and it SUCKED.

And once you’re in, you realize how crazy it
is to be living on the outside in ignorance.   

However, just like the GOLD example, there
needs to be a certain amount of TRUST built
up in the interaction to OVERCOME the
perfectly normal CAUTIOUSNESS that
most women have regarding meeting men
who are total strangers.

THIS is a huge part of the ART of learning
how to successfully approach women, it’s
not just the act of approaching them, but also
the art of building up a connection, a sense
of trust as well.

But this is NOT that hard to learn, (stay tuned
to the end of this newsletter for more on how
to learn how to do this as well as learn the
ENTIRE "nitty gritty" of pick-up) and it CERTAINLY
is not a reason to let MILLIONS of gorgeous women
just slip through your fingers!

A woman having a bit of CAUTION is very
different from a woman not being OPEN to
the idea.

In fact, meeting the seductive mysterious stranger
is one of the BIGGEST FANTASIES  that women
have.

Do the approach right, and you are catering
to her biggest desire, and she is now rooting
for you and will do everything in HER power
to help you SUCCEED in picking her up!

For example, if she is around friends, she will
ask her friends for some privacy, or even
find a reason for you and her to move away
from her friends for more privacy.

So don’t let the fear of coming across as a
psycho stop you from making the approach,
and don’t let it stop you from making your
approach have a fun, sexual, intriguing
VIBE to it!

By incorporating some sexual vibe to your
conversation,  and by doing it playfully
as described in the example above, you are
allowing her to bridge into becoming sexual
with you in a very SMOOTH WAY.

It allows you to get closer to her without her
wondering what is going on.  She will KNOW
what is going on, she will KNOW the dynamic
is SEXUAL. 

It allows you to do things like graze your leg
against hers lightly if she is sitting across
from you in the next bar stool, it allows
you to touch her hair and compliment her
on how soft it is, without seeming creepy,
because you have already got her laughing
and having a good time and not feeling
like she needs to pretend that she is not
a sexual person with you.

Plus, another advantage of that game I
explained is that you can WALK AROUND
the location as you play and as you look
for people, and as you walk around, you
can ALSO find a great place for BOTH of
you to sit to then CONTINUE the chat
and continue to escalate the interaction
in a sexual way.

And that is just one fantastic example of a great
strategy applying the concept of being more sexual,
more playful, and leading the way in the pick-up.

So what you have just read, as you can tell,
comes from REAL WORLD experience.

This isn’t stuff I dreamed up that just sounds nice.
It’s what works to get men and women together
EFFECTIVELY, even if they were total strangers
when they met.  

This is the true NITTY GRITTY of “pick–up”.

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of pick-up, I SERIOUSLY suggest that you download
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And as powerful as today’s newsletter is, it
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in this program. 

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This program gives you the exact DETAILS
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This program is being used by men all over
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and I continue to receive testimonials from
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working for them.   

It works for them, and it will work for you too.

You have my word on it, and I take my word
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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Perfect Solution For How To Approach Women

I'm about to give you the PERFECT SOLUTION for
how to approach women in a way that attracts them. 

When you approach women, you need to first
WARM WOMEN UP with the RIGHT kind
of conversation that gets things going in the
proper direction.

When it comes to attracting a woman who is a
total stranger, especially when you are approaching
her in a place that is not a dance club where alcohol
and other factors are at play, you MUST FIRST
develop a powerful CONNECTION with her.

It’s ESSENTIAL that you don’t "put the cart before
the horse" so to speak. 

SKIPPING the first stage and trying to get physical
IMMEDIATELY (even just verbalizing your desire
to take things to a physical level) almost always fails,
especially when approaching women in everyday
places like coffee shops, bookstores, public transit,
or just about anywhere else.

So here’s what I mean by the RIGHT type of conversation:
The right kind of conversation taps on topics that are directly
MEANINGFUL to a woman, and are also INTRIGUING to
her, and are often ALSO FUNNY at the same time.  Overall,
the TONE should be UPBEAT, it should take her to a place
that is emotionally BETTER than where she was BEFORE
she met you.

And one of the BIG topics that you can incorporate into
almost ANY "approach women" situation is the topic of
HUMAN COMMUNICATION and CONNECTION.

Think about it: When you approach a woman who is a
total stranger, the ONLY way to bridge that gap is by
helping her "feel out your personality".  Otherwise,
you are letting her view you as a blank VOID, since
you are a stranger to her.

The way to help her ‘feel out your personality’ is to
CONNECT to her using the sharpest human communication
skills you have, and I have found that actually using the
TOPIC of human communication as a theme in your chat
with her, ends up SUBCONSCIOUSLY MOTIVATING
HER to use HER communication skills with YOU, so that
she can get to know YOU better! 

As human beings, we are ALL social creatures.  We may
not all be "party animals" but we all need some connection
to others.  No man, and no woman, is an island.  So chances
are STRONG that this topic will RESONATE with most
women you meet.

Keep in mind  that most women are even more social than men, and you then realize that this topic becomes even MORE effective with women.

Now, before I go further, let me give you two powerful
points regarding human communication that you might
use in a chat with a woman:

1. For all the technological communication tools we
have today, overall as a society we actually have
FEWER truly MEANINGFUL connections than
our parents’ generation, partially as a RESULT
of all these technological devices.  

2. Study after study keeps on showing us that
meaningful connections with others, i.e. our
relationships with others, are the single greatest
factor in determining our overall sense of happiness.

This is all VERY RELEVANT to "picking up women" and
I’ll get more into all of this in a second.   

I want to make it really clear that what I am about to describe
does NOT have to be a DIFFICULT task to accomplish, in
fact I will show you right now a PERFECT way to do this
EVERY time. 

The magic words to remember are these:

EVERY situation where you see a woman somewhere,
no matter WHERE, and no matter WHEN, always has
the PERFECT solution already BUILT IN to that situation,
so that you NEVER have to resort to cheesy pick-up lines
that sound to her like you use them on every woman, and
which would not make her feel special at all.

Pick-up lines actually cause women to put up their
GUARDS because women then feel you are not being real
with them, they feel you are just putting on an ACT.

They then wonder what you are HIDING if you have to
use some ACT.  This is what causes the negative reaction
of most women to pick up lines- it’s because they make
women SUSPICIOUS of what the guy REALLY is about,
since he is clearly putting on some act that hides his identity.   

So here’s an EXAMPLE of the "HOW-TO" on applying
this concept of "every situation has the solution built 
into it" while incorporating the TOPIC of "HUMAN CONNECTION".

Let’s say you are at a STARBUCKS and you see a woman
there you’d love to chat up.  You might notice a million
different things, from the book she is holding in her
hand, to the particular drink she orders, that you might
have an intriguing comment on, but let’s say you CAN’T
think of anything to say to her- here’s an example of
INCORPORATING THE ELEMENT OF HUMAN
CONNECTION:

You might speak about the very FACT that Starbucks
itself was really based on the PREMISE that going for
a coffee should NOT just be something you RUSH
but rather should something you savor and enjoy as
a great experience WITH OTHER PEOPLE around. 

It’s the HUMAN element, NOT the coffee, as
coffee has been around for a lot longer than
Starbucks has.  Even coffee shops used to
be something that didn’t really CELEBRATE
the coffee experience, it wasn’t supposed to
be some CLASSY social experience till
STARBUCKS came along.

And you can actually APPROACH a woman
in a Starbucks, or even ANYWHERE, any
woman having a coffee, but especially this
would work well in a Starbucks, by mentioning
something like this:

"Hi there, I just had this thought, and I’m curious
what you think.  Did you know that the whole idea
of Starbucks is that it was instead of people rushing
in and out of donut and coffee shops, the idea was
that people would really RELISH the coffee experience,
and that it would be a COMMUNITY type of place
where you actually take your time with it.

In fact, that’s why every Starbucks has the community
wall inside of it, with postings about events in the
community. The idea is to have people socializing
and being a GROUP, it’s the SOCIAL element.

But here’s the part that really makes me WONDER:
Have you EVER seen anyone at a Starbucks actually
CHAT to anyone they didn’t already KNOW?"

NOW THIS is a COOL conversation starter, and you’ve
actually shown how YOU are aware of the human
dynamics of communication, and how YOU are
actually DIFFERENT from others, and also if she
CHATS TO YOU RIGHT NOW, she is PROVING
herself to be DIFFERENT from most people as well,
in a POSITIVE way, which now gives you something
that you can REWARD her for with a GENUINE
compliment!

No matter WHAT SHE SAYS back to you, chances are
she’s going to provide you with a lot MORE to speak about
than if you just say "hi" to her, or just told her she was
beautiful, although that is also a lot better than doing
nothing.

She might respond with something like this:

"That’s fascinating, I never thought about that before!
But it makes sense. Usually I’m just thinking I need
my caffeine fix!"

And now, with that kind of playful humor that SHE
is giving you, you are off to the right kind of BANTER.

You can playfully tease her for being addicted to a drug
called caffeine, and then you can actually give her a
COMPLIMENT that she is one of the few human
beings that has social skills enough to actually use
Starbucks for what is was originally designed for!

Once you are on this topic, you can take it much FURTHER,
even if you, for example, CONSCIOUSLY bring up MORE
of the topic of human communication in a way that involves
HER.

You could tell her that one of the most important elements
to human communication is confirming feedback, meaning
validation,  this can be SIMPLE in the sense of someone
saying HELLO to you after you have said HELLO to them.

 And then you can PLAYFULLY say to her, "Hello!" and
she will GET THE JOKE, that it’s HER role to now
say HELLO back to you, and she will say, "Hello", and
now you can PLAYFULLY tell her that she is GOOD at
this communication stuff.

By being PLAYFUL about this, you are actually getting
away with PERFECT HUMAN COMMUNICATION
and CONFIRMING FEEDBACK, and setting up a
great foundation for her to get to KNOW you, all
the while she is ENJOYING this because it’s a bit
playful and not totally serious.

You can even take it a step FURTHER by letting her
know that receiving VALIDATION from others
through confirming feedback is really an essential
part of having a healthy psyche, and you can then
smile at her and give her a MEANINGFUL
compliment and even TELL her that you just
gave her a GENUINE confirming feedback,
and you can even playfully suggest that she
should give the same to you, and tell her that
means she should say something nice about you!

REMEMBER that what makes all this work is
the playful element MIXED with the fact that
this is ALSO true HUMAN COMMUNICATON
being done in the RIGHT WAY.

Now, human communication and validation
is a DEEP topic, that affects EVERYTHING
about our emotions, including the emotion
of SEX, but for now, I just want to mention
ONE more thing, which is that you can
even talk about how TRUST is the bedrock
of any real meaningful social connection,
to which she will surely AGREE.

At this point, going for her NUMBER is going
to be the EASIEST thing on Earth, because you
have conveyed TONS of cool things about yourself,
and you have gotten her smiling, you have intrigued
her, you have made her feel better about herself,
you have shown yourself to be different from
every other guy she’s met, it’s just CRAZY
how much good stuff you have going for yourself
at this point.

And by the way, this TOPIC is NOT limited
to STARBUCKS AT ALL!!!!! 

The concept of COMMUNICATION flows like
CRAZY into just about EVERYTHING TODAY.

So, for example, you can use a similar approach
for anytime you see a woman on a LAPTOP anywhere,
or using an iPhone or iPad anywhere, or using the
INTERNET anywhere.

Here’s the basics of this idea in a nutshell:

Today, there is MORE technology than ever, all
designed to make it EASIER for an individual to
COMMUNICATE with others.  Everyone has
some kind of cell-phone or I-Phone or I-Pad,
there is SKYPE, there is TWITTER, there was
MY SPACE, there is FACEBOOK, they are ALL
about socializing, they are even called "SOCIAL MEDIA"!

And yet, because of these things, people are LOCKED
into a very ARTIFICIAL form of COMMUNICATION.

The very idea of having a special and INTIMATE
and private identity that connects on a deep level
to someone else is WEAKENED by these things.

There is less privacy.
There is also so much time spent on tech forms
of communication, that many people don’t meet
in PERSON as much, they just communicate by
technology instead of face-to-face.

PLUS, a lot of people use Facebook in a way that does
NOT represent their REAL selves, because they are
afraid that their real selves are not cool, so they 
instead do all sorts of things to try to seem more
cool by creating an identity that is not really true
to themselves.

THIS is a topic that is NOT supposed to be said as
a rant, and I fully see the value in these technologies for OTHER purposes, I'm just try to make it clear here so you can get the "talking points" that you would bring up in the conversation opener. 

These topics are INTERESTING and RELEVANT
and they ESPECIALLY relate to HUMAN
COMMUNICATION- which is what you are
using when chatting to a woman who is a
total stranger.

So you can use these topics as a conversation
opener, asking her for HER thoughts on these      
ideas, and then later in the chat you can playfully
CONGRATULATE her for being so good at
REAL communication face-to-face with you!

You would open the conversation with the most
relevant item, i.e. if she was using an I-Phone,
Facebook, a laptop, etc, etc.

We are LIVING in a very UNIQUE time when it
comes to the very way most people even PERCEIVE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION, and it makes sense
to TAP this topic when talking to a woman who you
want to actually have INTIMATE communication with.

It’s something that is meaningful to her, and probably
she does NOT get enough of a MEANINGFUL connection
in her own life, even though she may very well spend
TONS of time on social media.  YOU will be the man
who stands out as the man who IS able to connect
with her on the most powerful level.

And THEN you can proceed to stage two, of getting
PHYSICAL, because then SHE WILL BE INTERESTED
in getting physical with YOU.

I’m sure that you can tell from reading this newsletter
that I’m only interested in giving you the ABSOLUTE
MOST POWERFUL INSIGHTS AND STRATEGIES
for approaching and attracting women ANYWHERE
you find them.

And yet, this newsletter is barely scratching the SURFACE
of what you will learn in my programs for approaching
and attracting the most gorgeous women ANYWHERE.

The greatest thing about what you will learn in my programs
is that almost every attraction strategy you will learn from me,
as powerful as it is ALONE, becomes even MORE POWERFUL
when combined TOGETHER with the other attraction strategies
that I show you.

What this means, for example, is that everything you have read
in this newsletter becomes EVEN MORE POWERFUL  when
you combine it with what you will learn in my programs. 

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

Women Are Attracted To Men With PRIDE, And REPULSED By Men Who SMILE Too Much

Since day one, the biggest thing to me has
been to stay AWAY from all gimmicks.

I ONLY CARE ABOUT EVIDENCE.
BOATLOADS of solid EVIDENCE.

And MAN, do I have a BIG one for you today. 

In fact, if you read my very first book,
The Dating Wizard, which was published
in 2003, you can see that I was against the
use of all sorts of gimmicks back then, and
that this book teaches how you can truly
BECOME the man that women want instead
of how to put on an "act".

One of the biggest things I have been teaching
throughout the years are things that fly in the
face of "accepted practice", and that’s because
"accepted practices" such as smiling at women
and showing them how NICE I could be got me
NOWHERE with women.

On the other hand, as I started to become far
LESS NICE, and did a LOT LESS SMILING, I
noticed way, way, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY 
better results.

This used to drive me nuts, and I couldn’t figure
it out, as I used to think women loved MEAN men.

Then, I finally realized that it was all about a
tiny SUBTLETY – it was about the SUBTLE
messages being given off by all that smiling
and niceness.

The message was:
"I HAVE LOW  VALUE AND STATUS AND WILL
KISS YOUR BUTT JUST FOR THE CHANCE
TO BE WITH YOU."

And women, across ALL cultures and geographic
regions of the PLANET, are not attracted to men
who behave with LOW confidence, men who
behave as if they have no POWER.

In other words, men with no PRIDE.
So, you COULD smile at a woman, but the fact
is, the way MOST men smile at women who
are hot is a SUBMISSIVE smile.

It is not the kind of smile that says YOU want ME.
It’s a smile that says the following:

"I want YOU but I don't have the value to be
WORTHY of you. Therefore, I am going to SHOW
you through this smile how much I will SERVE
you, be submissive to you, and do whatever
you want, because I feel that is a fair deal
since YOU have the value and I don't'."

And, ultimately, a woman feels far more DESIRABLE
when the desire is coming from a man who KNOWS
he is wanted and who ALSO wants HER.

After all, if a man feels he has no value, then his
desire for her is NOT as flattering as it would be
if he KNEW and FELT and BEHAVED like he
was the ULTIMATE man.

Yes, women DO want to be lusted after, but it has

to be by a man who isn't behaving as if HE has

no worth.

So, for example, you could even TELL a woman
a compliment IF that compliment is delivered
in a way that shows you BELIEVE she will be
FLATTERED by it, rather than if you believe
you NEED to do those kinds of things to
get her to "agree" to be with you. 

And I have received an important email from a cool guy
with yet even MORE RESEARCH that PROVES
every thing I have been saying.

In fact, not only is MALE PRIDE something that is
viewed by women as making men MORE attractive,
but FEMALE PRIDE is viewed by men as making
women seem LESS attractive, and also men SMILING
seems to HURT men's "attractiveness" while WOMEN
SMILING seems to IMPROVE women's attractiveness.

So much for the B.S. advice that boys have been brainwashed
to believe by politically correct forces of how women just
want a "SMILING NICE guy".     

This doesn't mean that you should never smile.
That would be insane advice for me to give.
What it means is that men should stop TRYING SO HARD
TO SMILE SO MUCH TO MAKE WOMEN HAPPY,
SINCE WOMEN DON'T EVEN LIKE IT ANYWAY!

There is a REASON that in all of CLINT EASTWOOD'S
MOVIES, he almost NEVER smiles, and it is not a
COINCIDENCE that he was (and probably still is by
many women) considered so absolutely DESIRABLE.

His characters were NOT the SMILEY types
His characters DID have TONS of pride.

Same thing with the BOND character.
He doesn't smile much, but he sure has LOADS of PRIDE.

THIS IS NOT JUST ABOUT MOVIE STAR LOOKS,
BECAUSE THERE ARE TONS OF OTHER MOVIE
STAR LOOKING MEN WHO WOMEN DON'T FEEL
NEARLY THE SAME LEVEL OF ATTRACTION FOR.

And also, when you think of the WOMEN that men have
been CRAZY ATTRACTED TO, the most COMMON
stereotype is a woman who SMILES GENUINELY
and who does NOT come across as having too much
pride or arrogance.

Think of, for example, MARILYN MONROE.

This is UNIVERSAL across cultures.

It is HOGWASH when SOME feminists say that
"it’s just a matter of "culture" and environment that
makes men prefer women who DO smile, who DO 
behave friendly." 

Men do NOT get turned on by the same behaviors
in women as women get turned on by in MEN.

It makes SENSE, that men, who have more TESTOSTERONE,
won't be SMILING as much as women.  It makes sense, that
a man with PRIDE in fact WOULD be more attractive to
a woman, because it would mean he is a man who is an
ACHIEVER/PROTECTOR/PROVIDER or all THREE.

It makes SENSE that a man would find a woman who seemed
GENUINELY FRIENDLY to be ATTRACTIVE, because
she would be WARM to him, she would be TRUSTWORTHY
to be the MOTHER of his children and to be a CARING
MOTHER and more than just a sexual companion but
rather a sexual companion that would be loyal.   

Men should exhibit PROUD expressions and
women should exhibit FRIENDLY expressions
IF they want to be at their "sexiest".

Here are some quotes from a recent study by
Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall from the
University of British Columbia concerning
"The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual
Attraction."
 
"Across two studies using different images
and samples ranging broadly in age (total N _ 1041),
a large gender difference emerged in the sexual
attractiveness of happy displays: happiness was
the most attractive female emotion expression,
and one of the least attractive in males.

In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern;
it was the most attractive male expression, and
one of the least attractive in women."

The study also goes on to say that while smiling
may be SOCIALLY the right thing to do for
both men and women, it HARMS men’s initial
attractiveness to women, but it INCREASES
women’s attractiveness.

This is why for MEN, not exactly trying to "fit in"
is often PART of what makes a man attractive, even
though it costs him some social points with the
rest of society.

So now you can understand why so many women
LOVE "bad boys" but why most men don't find
"bad girls" to be sexy.

But you don’t HAVE to be a "bad boy", you just
have to behave with DOMINANCE.

Going too far with being a "bad boy" will
DESTROY your relationships. Ultimately,
if your behavior makes her feel WORSE
rather than better, then you're going
too far.

And if you are reading this right now, I would
love to show you the RIGHT WAY on HOW to
incorporate this vital concept for attraction,
as well as TONS of other essentials for
attracting the women of your choice. 

In my ATTRACTION MASTERY PROGRAM, you
will learn TONS of pure GOLD for
attracting women ANYWHERE.

This program contains TONS of strategies and
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the women of your choice.

You can even check out a great free SAMPLE
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And by the way, if you haven't yet got my
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DEFINITELY do that as well. A lot of guys
out there take the "don't be a nice guy" advice
OUT OF CONTEXT and end up destroying
their relationships.

If you plan on actually getting a quality
girlfriend, and KEEPING her, you NEED to
read this book as well. 

It's at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

How To Approach Women: A Powerful Solution

As a guy, I just want to say that I UNDERSTAND
the desire to want to just get to the FUN stuff with
women, although personally to me, the "fun" stuff
becomes a trillion times more powerful when there
is a real CONNECTION with a woman.

The good news for any guys who may not realize it
yet, is that most women LOVE everything to do
with getting physical. HOWEVER, before you can
get to that part, you need to WARM WOMEN UP
first with the RIGHT kind of conversation that gets
things going in the proper direction.

In other words, before you can get physical with a woman,
you need to develop a powerful CONNECTION with her

Unless a woman is at a club and clearly LOOKING
to just get physical,  it’s ESSENTIAL that you don’t
"put the cart before the horse" so to speak. 

SKIPPING the first stage and trying to get physical
IMMEDIATELY (even just verbalizing your desire
to take things to a physical level) almost always fails,
especially when approaching women in everyday
places like coffee shops, bookstores, public transit,
or just about anywhere else.

So here’s what I mean by the RIGHT type of conversation:
The right kind of conversation taps on topics that are directly
MEANINGFUL to a woman, and are also INTRIGUING to
her, and are often ALSO FUNNY at the same time.  Overall,
the TONE should be UPBEAT, it should take her to a place
that is emotionally BETTER than where she was BEFORE
she met you.

And one of the BIG topics that you can incorporate into
almost ANY "approach women" situation is the topic of
HUMAN COMMUNICATION and CONNECTION.

Think about it: When you approach a woman who is a
total stranger, the ONLY way to bridge that gap is by
helping her "feel out your personality".  Otherwise,
you are letting her view you as a blank VOID, since
you are a stranger to her.

The way to help her ‘feel out your personality’ is to
CONNECT to her using the sharpest human communication
skills you have, and I have found that actually using the
TOPIC of human communication as a theme in your chat
with her, ends up SUBCONSCIOUSLY MOTIVATING
HER to use HER communication skills with YOU, so that
she can get to know YOU better! 

As human beings, we are ALL social creatures.  We may
not all be "party animals" but we all need some connection
to others.  No man, and no woman, is an island.  So chances
are STRONG that this topic will RESONATE with most
women you meet.

Keep in mind  that most women are even more social than men, and you then realize that this topic becomes even MORE effective with women.

Now, before I go further, let me give you two powerful
points regarding human communication that you might
use in a chat with a woman:

1. For all the technological communication tools we
have today, overall as a society we actually have
FEWER truly MEANINGFUL connections than
our parents’ generation, partially as a RESULT
of all these technological devices.  

2. Study after study keeps on showing us that
meaningful connections with others, i.e. our
relationships with others, are the single greatest
factor in determining our overall sense of happiness.

This is all VERY RELEVANT to "picking up women" and
I’ll get more into all of this in a second.   

I want to make it really clear that what I am about to describe
does NOT have to be a DIFFICULT task to accomplish, in
fact I will show you right now a PERFECT way to do this
EVERY time. 

The magic words to remember are these:

EVERY situation where you see a woman somewhere,
no matter WHERE, and no matter WHEN, always has
the PERFECT solution already BUILT IN to that situation,
so that you NEVER have to resort to cheesy pick-up lines
that sound to her like you use them on every woman, and
which would not make her feel special at all.

Pick-up lines actually cause women to put up their
GUARDS because women then feel you are not being real
with them, they feel you are just putting on an ACT.

They then wonder what you are HIDING if you have to
use some ACT.  This is what causes the negative reaction
of most women to pick up lines- it’s because they make
women SUSPICIOUS of what the guy REALLY is about,
since he is clearly putting on some act that hides his identity.   

So here’s an EXAMPLE of the "HOW-TO" on applying
this concept of "every situation has the solution built 
into it" while incorporating the TOPIC of "HUMAN CONNECTION".

Let’s say you are at a STARBUCKS and you see a woman
there you’d love to chat up.  You might notice a million
different things, from the book she is holding in her
hand, to the particular drink she orders, that you might
have an intriguing comment on, but let’s say you CAN’T
think of anything to say to her- here’s an example of
INCORPORATING THE ELEMENT OF HUMAN
CONNECTION:

You might speak about the very FACT that Starbucks
itself was really based on the PREMISE that going for
a coffee should NOT just be something you RUSH
but rather should something you savor and enjoy as
a great experience WITH OTHER PEOPLE around. 

It’s the HUMAN element, NOT the coffee, as
coffee has been around for a lot longer than
Starbucks has.  Even coffee shops used to
be something that didn’t really CELEBRATE
the coffee experience, it wasn’t supposed to
be some CLASSY social experience till
STARBUCKS came along.

And you can actually APPROACH a woman
in a Starbucks, or even ANYWHERE, any
woman having a coffee, but especially this
would work well in a Starbucks, by mentioning
something like this:

"Hi there, I just had this thought, and I’m curious
what you think.  Did you know that the whole idea
of Starbucks is that it was instead of people rushing
in and out of donut and coffee shops, the idea was
that people would really RELISH the coffee experience,
and that it would be a COMMUNITY type of place
where you actually take your time with it.

In fact, that’s why every Starbucks has the community
wall inside of it, with postings about events in the
community. The idea is to have people socializing
and being a GROUP, it’s the SOCIAL element.

But here’s the part that really makes me WONDER:
Have you EVER seen anyone at a Starbucks actually
CHAT to anyone they didn’t already KNOW?"

NOW THIS is a COOL conversation starter, and you’ve
actually shown how YOU are aware of the human
dynamics of communication, and how YOU are
actually DIFFERENT from others, and also if she
CHATS TO YOU RIGHT NOW, she is PROVING
herself to be DIFFERENT from most people as well,
in a POSITIVE way, which now gives you something
that you can REWARD her for with a GENUINE
compliment!

No matter WHAT SHE SAYS back to you, chances are
she’s going to provide you with a lot MORE to speak about
than if you just say "hi" to her, or just told her she was
beautiful, although that is also a lot better than doing
nothing.

She might respond with something like this:

"That’s fascinating, I never thought about that before!
But it makes sense. Usually I’m just thinking I need
my caffeine fix!"

And now, with that kind of playful humor that SHE
is giving you, you are off to the right kind of BANTER.

You can playfully tease her for being addicted to a drug
called caffeine, and then you can actually give her a
COMPLIMENT that she is one of the few human
beings that has social skills enough to actually use
Starbucks for what is was originally designed for!

Once you are on this topic, you can take it much FURTHER,
even if you, for example, CONSCIOUSLY bring up MORE
of the topic of human communication in a way that involves
HER.

You could tell her that one of the most important elements
to human communication is confirming feedback, meaning
validation,  this can be SIMPLE in the sense of someone
saying HELLO to you after you have said HELLO to them.

 And then you can PLAYFULLY say to her, "Hello!" and
she will GET THE JOKE, that it’s HER role to now
say HELLO back to you, and she will say, "Hello", and
now you can PLAYFULLY tell her that she is GOOD at
this communication stuff.

By being PLAYFUL about this, you are actually getting
away with PERFECT HUMAN COMMUNICATION
and CONFIRMING FEEDBACK, and setting up a
great foundation for her to get to KNOW you, all
the while she is ENJOYING this because it’s a bit
playful and not totally serious.

You can even take it a step FURTHER by letting her
know that receiving VALIDATION from others
through confirming feedback is really an essential
part of having a healthy psyche, and you can then
smile at her and give her a MEANINGFUL
compliment and even TELL her that you just
gave her a GENUINE confirming feedback,
and you can even playfully suggest that she
should give the same to you, and tell her that
means she should say something nice about you!

REMEMBER that what makes all this work is
the playful element MIXED with the fact that
this is ALSO true HUMAN COMMUNICATON
being done in the RIGHT WAY.

Now, human communication and validation
is a DEEP topic, that affects EVERYTHING
about our emotions, including the emotion
of SEX, but for now, I just want to mention
ONE more thing, which is that you can
even talk about how TRUST is the bedrock
of any real meaningful social connection,
to which she will surely AGREE.

At this point, going for her NUMBER is going
to be the EASIEST thing on Earth, because you
have conveyed TONS of cool things about yourself,
and you have gotten her smiling, you have intrigued
her, you have made her feel better about herself,
you have shown yourself to be different from
every other guy she’s met, it’s just CRAZY
how much good stuff you have going for yourself
at this point.

And by the way, this TOPIC is NOT limited
to STARBUCKS AT ALL!!!!! 

The concept of COMMUNICATION flows like
CRAZY into just about EVERYTHING TODAY.

So, for example, you can use a similar approach
for anytime you see a woman on a LAPTOP anywhere,
or using an iPhone or iPad anywhere, or using the
INTERNET anywhere.

Here’s the basics of this idea in a nutshell:

Today, there is MORE technology than ever, all
designed to make it EASIER for an individual to
COMMUNICATE with others.  Everyone has
some kind of cell-phone or I-Phone or I-Pad,
there is SKYPE, there is TWITTER, there was
MY SPACE, there is FACEBOOK, they are ALL
about socializing, they are even called "SOCIAL MEDIA"!

And yet, because of these things, people are LOCKED
into a very ARTIFICIAL form of COMMUNICATION.

The very idea of having a special and INTIMATE
and private identity that connects on a deep level
to someone else is WEAKENED by these things.

There is less privacy.
There is also so much time spent on tech forms
of communication, that many people don’t meet
in PERSON as much, they just communicate by
technology instead of face-to-face.

PLUS, a lot of people use Facebook in a way that does
NOT represent their REAL selves, because they are
afraid that their real selves are not cool, so they 
instead do all sorts of things to try to seem more
cool by creating an identity that is not really true
to themselves.

THIS is a topic that is NOT supposed to be said as
a rant, and I fully see the value in these technologies for OTHER purposes, I'm just try to make it clear here so you can get the "talking points" that you would bring up in the conversation opener. 

These topics are INTERESTING and RELEVANT
and they ESPECIALLY relate to HUMAN
COMMUNICATION- which is what you are
using when chatting to a woman who is a
total stranger.

So you can use these topics as a conversation
opener, asking her for HER thoughts on these      
ideas, and then later in the chat you can playfully
CONGRATULATE her for being so good at
REAL communication face-to-face with you!

You would open the conversation with the most
relevant item, i.e. if she was using an I-Phone,
Facebook, a laptop, etc, etc.

We are LIVING in a very UNIQUE time when it
comes to the very way most people even PERCEIVE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION, and it makes sense
to TAP this topic when talking to a woman who you
want to actually have INTIMATE communication with.

It’s something that is meaningful to her, and probably
she does NOT get enough of a MEANINGFUL connection
in her own life, even though she may very well spend
TONS of time on social media.  YOU will be the man
who stands out as the man who IS able to connect
with her on the most powerful level.

And THEN you can proceed to stage two, of getting
PHYSICAL, because then SHE WILL BE INTERESTED
in getting physical with YOU.

I’m sure that you can tell from reading this newsletter
that I’m only interested in giving you the ABSOLUTE
MOST POWERFUL INSIGHTS AND STRATEGIES
for approaching and attracting women ANYWHERE
you find them.

And yet, this newsletter is barely scratching the SURFACE
of what you will learn in my programs for approaching
and attracting the most gorgeous women ANYWHERE.

The greatest thing about what you will learn in my programs
is that almost every attraction strategy you will learn from me,
as powerful as it is ALONE, becomes even MORE POWERFUL
when combined TOGETHER with the other attraction strategies
that I show you.

What this means, for example, is that everything you have read
in this newsletter becomes EVEN MORE POWERFUL  when
you combine it with what you will learn in my programs. 

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Till next time,

Michael Marks