The Proof Of "Social Proof" In Attracting Women

When it comes to women, all I care
about are two things and those are:

1. What WORKS to attract women.

2. How to apply all this on getting
the best QUALITY women.     

Today we are going to focus on the FIRST thing:
What WORKS to attract women.

And even though I have been teaching
this field for over ten years, and even
though I conduct REAL LIFE bootcamps
where men actually get to PROVE it
on women in front of their own eyes,
I STILL understand that if you’re new
to all this, it might STILL seem HARD
to believe.

So today, I am going to share with you
a MASSIVE proof of just ONE of the
techniques that I teach men to apply
on women in many different ways.

This technique is based on a proven
concept in psychology known as,
believe it or not, SOCIAL PROOF.

The word PROOF is actually part of the
NAME because that is how strong we FEEL
the power of social endorsement IS.

In a nutshell, SOCIAL PROOF means that
an individual will be INFLUENCED by
the opinions of OTHERS.

Those others can have power either through
being a LARGE group, or through simply
being even ONE other person, but a person
who is already RESPECTED by others.

So, for example, if a million OTHER people
say that person A is COOL, then it’s highly
likely that any random individual will be
highly INFLUENCED to FEEL that indeed
person A is COOL.

Similarly, if a person who is already well
RESPECTED endorses person A as being
cool, or if someone who is already considered
“cool” says that person A is also cool, then
most people will feel highly INFLUENCED
to GENUINELY feel that person A IS
indeed “cool”.

Now, I use this principle all the TIME in
bootcamps with guys as I teach them to
approach women in just about every
place you imagine.

Let me share with you a real-life example:
 
An attractive young woman was waiting for
the train at the subway station and I
mentioned to my client that he might
want to apply what he had been learning
earlier in terms of approaches for this
situation.

He asked for me to demonstrate, so I
approached her using all the detailed
concepts I speak about, but my main point
here is not to focus on me or that but
rather to focus on what happened.

She seemed to be a bit less relaxed, as
English was not her first language, and
it can be a bit intimidating sometimes
when two guys are so close to one woman
depending on the time of day, the amount
of other people there, etc.

Anyway, she was slowly getting more into the
conversation, laughing, but I could tell she
was still a bit uncomfortable, so I made it
clear that I was not there to take advantage
of the situation that she was by herself and
I let her walk in the train as she was still
smiling, and I did not follow her.

As my client and I got in the train, I sat down
beside this other attractive girl, totally laid
back and began a conversation with her, again
using all the principles I speak about.

Now this girl was totally relaxed with it,
smiling and laughing and having a great time.

Well guess what happened next?

Suddenly, from HALFWAY ACROSS THE TRAIN,
the original woman from the subway platform
starts leaning in toward us from her seat
and joins in the conversation, giving her
opinion about something I had been talking
to her about five minutes earlier!

Normally that would have been a dead
conversation by now. But no, there she is,
smiling and speaking loudly as if we had
never stopped chatting, even though the
whole train could probably hear her. And
trust me, she was not some psycho. She
had just gone from being a shy slightly
nervous woman to wanting to GET WITH
THE PROGRAM!

Pretty soon, we had both women in conversation
with us, competing playfully for our attention,
going from complete strangers to discussing
things like who would be the better girl to
marry depending on which girl was a better
cook and had more money or ambition and was
better with kids had the better education
and who was just more fun to hang with. LOL.

ALL BECAUSE SHE SAW THAT WE
WERE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF
HER, THAT WE WERE NOT DESPERATE,
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, THAT
ANOTHER WOMAN THOUGHT WE
WERE COOL AND FUN TO BE WITH.

This is the power that comes from both
YOU knowing that you have choices, and
from WOMEN knowing that you have choices.

In the example above, by seeing another
woman feel comfortable and trusting us and
having a great time, the original woman felt
a SURGE in all those emotions of attraction
and trust.

And by the way, if getting two women who are
total strangers not only to you but to each
other, can all be having a great time with you
within 5 minutes, think about what can be done
in a longer time frame in malls, bookstores,
cafes, and don't even get me started about
the massive ease of what to do in a club!!!!

I also use social proof all the time when I
or a buddy of mine happen to be the first
one to approach a group of women.

So let’s say I approach the group of women
first, and I get things revved to high power,
and then my buddy rolls up, often all I have to
do is say  “this is my friend, he’s a great guy”
and that’s IT, he’s TOTALLY IN and he really
doesn’t have to do ANYTHING anymore
because I’ve already "socially proven" him.

All he has to do is not screw it up.

And vice versa, if he opens up the group and
does a great job attracting them, all he has to 
say if I roll up, is, "This is my friend”, and
by process of being SOCIALLY PROOFED
by him, I’m already in, I don’t have to DO
anything except not royally screw it up.

Here’s another element of social proof:
A lot of times, guys get insecure, and they
actually try to somehow put DOWN the
other guys they are with when they are
in front of women, because the guys
feel they are COMPETING with each
other.

This is really sad, because as far as the
women are concerned, on a subconscious
level all that is happening is they are feeling
you are getting NEGATIVE social proof
from these guys who you keep implying are
NOT cool, so then why are YOU in their
circle? If you say they are uncool, and they
are part of your circle, that must make you
uncool as well. 

So NEVER do that.

In fact, the smartest way to apply social proof,
if you are ever with your buddies, is to socially
proof EACH OTHER and say great things about
each other.

Here’s ANOTHER way to use social proof,
if you are ever at a massive party with tons
of women you don’t know.  Just approach
individual groups and have MINI chats
with them, and then say, “Hey, it was
nice meeting you, I’m going to say
hi to some friends!”

This way, you can not only approach the
ENTIRE place and chat with every woman
in the joint, but since the place is so busy
NO ONE will know that you didn’t
ALREADY know everyone!

Instead, they will feel you must be THE MAN
because every woman is chatting with you!

Plus, because you are keeping each chat
BRIEF at the beginning, you also show
that you are not needy and that you are
there to have FUN, which in itself is a
sign of a guy who is not NEEDY or
desperate, it’s a sign of a guy who
ALREADY HAS tons of women
at his fingertips.

Now, once you have ALREADY circulated
and met EVERYONE including EVERY
woman in the place,  you can then GO
BACK to whichever woman you wanted
to chat to in the first place, but now you
are ENRICHED with MASSIVE social
proof, which will make things go INSANELY
easy at this point!
 
And remember, that initial brief chat could
Have been as casual, as, “Hey, what’s up!
Isn’t this party awesome!!??”

When at a party, it’s THE VIBE that counts,
the fact that you are in a great FUN mood.

Let me share with you YET ANOTHER
massive proof of the power of social proof:

Just DAYS AGO, a dude in New York City
put this principle into PRACTICE for himself.

It’s important to remember, this was a REGULAR
DUDE and there is filmed proof of what happened
as well, and I will provide the link for you so you
can see it for yourself.

In a nutshell, all he did was WALK around Times
Square with two bodyguards, two assistants, and
photographers pretending to be paparazzi.

From the original source, I quote:
“While the assistants and photographers waited
for Brett to exit the 49th street marquee at NBC
Studios, they started a buzz that a "big star" was
about to walk out, thus making it worth their while
to wait and get a picture.”

They NEVER actually said he was ANYONE
in particular. He wasn’t pretending to be
Tom Cruise, Robert Pattinson, or anyone else.

All they said was that he was a BIG STAR.

In other words, all they said was that he was,
in essence, someone who was POPULAR and
SOCIALLY PROOFED.

What is AMAZING is how the crowds just
kept getting BIGGER and BIGGER.

How girls suddenly were so HAPPY to get
their picture with him.  Even totally STRAIGHT
GUYS were saying that he was a cool guy with
talent.

By the way, I don’t blame girls for being
ATTRACTED to him, and guys for thinking
he is a cool guy with talent, because this stuff
gets to the HARD WIRING of the human psyche.

If it wasn't for the fact that this just happens to be
an area that I have specialized in for over ten years,
I would probably have the SAME reactions as all
these other people.

In fact, social proof still works on me in many ways,
and I have to CONSCIOUSLY REMIND myself of
what is actually happening to stop it from taking over
my emotions.

And that's WITH already knowing about how social
proof works and with spending so many years in this
field, I STILL need to work hard to remind myself
to not let it take over!

This stuff is HARD-WIRED.
A woman can’t HELP but feel attraction
when the right switches are pushed.

It attracts women.
It wins the respect of men.

It’s UNIVERSALLY powerful.

Check out this video for PROOF of how SOCIAL PROOF works to get women MADLY attracted:



Make sure to check out the GROUP
of women surrounding him at 2:15,
including the woman who KEEPS
ON TRYING to kiss him!

And at 2:17, how the girls are so excited
about him, you’d think this guy was FOR
SURE the next SUPERSTAR that makes
women melt. 

Remember, this dude is a REGULAR DUDE,
he’s doesn’t actually HAVE anything that any
other dude doesn’t have. 

And of course, social proof ITSELF builds
even MORE social proof, as each time
people joined the CROWD, the crowd got
LARGER and created even MORE powerful
social proof, making the crowd even LARGER
and larger in a never ending cycle of growth,
until he HIMSELF decided to end the experiment.

Here’s one final point I want to add:
When you ATTRACT women, they don’t
ASK questions, they ALREADY are attracted
and they THEMSELVES fill in the answers
with whatever answer FEELS right to them
based on what they are FEELING about you.

So, for example, if a woman feels you must
be the most talented, confident guy who is
a great lover and who all women want, they
aren’t going to ASK you if you are these
things, they will just want to know how to
GET a chance to be with you.

Plus, when a woman is ATTRACTED, anything

YOU say to her about yourself gets FILTERED

through the most ATTRACTIVE prism.

What I mean by this is let’s say you tell her
that you are unemployed, that you are a jerk,
and that you are not interested in spending
money on women.

Well, now that she is ALREADY attracted,
she may just figure that you are either so
desirable that you are trying to GET RID
of her because you already have too many
women, so she will now just work even
HARDER to get you.

Or, she might figure you are some type of
genius who is too good for regular boring
jobs, or she might figure you are loaded
and just trying to test to see if she is
a gold-digger, or she might just figure
that she is so lucky to have a chance to
have met you when you are still POSSIBLE
to get before you become IMPOSSIBLE due
to you being too PERFECT and her feeling
too insecure and feeling that a perfect guy
like you would never truly love her.

BOTTOM LINE is that it doesn’t matter
what you SAY,  because she is ATTRACTED
and everything you do now gets interpreted
in some sort of POSITIVE way.

Now, what you have just read is just the
TIP OF THE ICEBERG of what you will learn
in my programs.

My ATTRACTION MASTERY program not only
goes into SOCIAL PROOF, but it also shows
you TONS of other PROVEN strategies for
attracting women ANYWHERE you see them.

And not only does it show you how to
approach women, but it even gives you
EXACT INSTRUCTIONS on how to take
things from the very first moment you walk 
up to her, all the way to a relationship.

This isn’t just hyperbole here.

This program is going to be one of the greatest
investments you’ve ever made in your LIFE.      

This program is absolutely vital if you want
to get the experience under your belt with
women before going on to settle down with
one fantastic amazing woman for life. 
  
Get the women you want by downloading this
important program NOW at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Mastery.html

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my very first
book, ‘The Dating Wizard’, then do that now at:

http://getagreatgirl.com/Wizard.html

Till next time,

Michael Marks

The ONE Thing A Woman Is Looking For In You

The most important thing in attracting
a woman who is truly the “total package”
of being not only beautiful, but also a
great person inside as well, is conveying
to her the following VIBE:

That with you, no matter how crazy life
gets, she can depend on you to be her
ROCK. That you will be calm, strong,
and steadfast in the storms of life.

In fact, if there was just ONE word you
could remember, when approaching women,
seeing women, trying to attract women,
etc., it would be this:

CALM.

It’s a universally powerful step toward
attracting women, for many reasons.

First of all, staying calm allows YOU yourself
to think straight, it allows you easier access
to your subconscious mind that has a ton of
humorous/intriguing/ interesting things to
say in whatever particular moment you find
yourself in with a woman.

So if she’s in the snacks aisle in the grocery
store with you, and you see her grabbing a
party-size bag of chips, and you are feeling
calm, you are more likely to instinctively
come up with something like, “I hope those
aren’t all for you!” or “That’s what I like,
a girl who isn’t afraid to enjoy life”, etc.

Plus, of course, the TONE of your voice when
calm will CONVEY that you are calm more
effectively than just about anything else, as
voice tonality says a BILLION things about
what you are feeling internally, and a woman
subconsciously registers all that in her mind
and will, in response to YOUR CALM, she
will ALSO feel calm, which is a great thing
when you want a woman talking to you.

You don’t want her to be getting more nervous,
when you as a stranger approach her, you want
her to be getting more calm. 

So that’s the second thing, not only does it
help YOU say and do the right things, it also
helps CALM DOWN A WOMAN in what might
be a slightly awkward moment, but is of course
WELL WORTH IT if you do it right.

Here’s another reason being calm is so
important: The more a woman is the kind
of woman who is looking for STABILITY
and a LONG TERM HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP,
the more she is the kind of person who values
CALM WATERS, PEACE, SERENITY, rather than
CHAOS AND INSTABILITY.

A lot of the “pick up artist” approaches a few
years ago when being a “pick up artist” was
trendy in many circles, the emphasis was on
getting women from night-clubs and trying to
get one night stands.  A lot of the women in
these places, and a lot of the women who are
more into promiscuity, tend to be ATTRACTED
to the CHAOS rather than the SERENITY.

This is why I said even years ago, when I created "Get A Great Girl", that if you want to attract a quality woman for a great relationship, you can't use typical pick up artist strategies, and that in fact those strategies will PUSH HER AWAY.

Like attracts like.  Chaos attracts Chaos. Calm attracts Calm. Personally, my passion was for the kind of woman who would make for a great long-term relationship.  

There are also, to be honest, SOME women who
are not good for long-term relationships who
ALSO seem to be attracted to men who are CALM
and who give off vibes of stability, because
these women are sometimes looking for SOMETHING
CALM to help balance off the chaotic feelings
in their mind.

But these women will quickly do EVERYTHING
in their power to destroy yours sense of calm.

Sometimes, they do this because they believe
that EVERYTHING is chaos, and they will
believe that you cannot be trusted to be the
good guy you say you are, so they TRY to
bring out the worst in you, so they can DEAL
with it now, at a time of THEIR choosing, rather
than WAIT for you to be mean to them later.
(This is what they FEEEEEL, it may have NOTHING
to do with reality.)   

Also, don’t try to be a THERAPIST to a woman
who you are pursuing romantically, because
you will be setting yourself up for disappointment.

If you genuinely just want to HELP a woman,
and you truly are not pursuing her romantically,
then fine, help her all you want, if you think you
can.

By the way, I am not judging anyone here, and
I myself have had to learn how to calm down,
but in different ways, and for very different reasons,
than most of the chaotic party chicks out there.

But even with the chaotic party chicks, I’m not
blaming them for being who they are, as human
beings are so complicated and most people never
understand themselves, never mind others.  This
is why I focus on SELF-DEVELOPMENT,
rather than trying to change anyone ELSE.

The REAL BUTTONS we must push are on
OURSELVES, not on WOMEN, because the
SMARTER and MORE empowered we are ourselves,
the greater positive effect we can have
on EVERYONE, including of course women,
and of course the more you can attract women,
but also the more you can quickly DETERMINE
about a woman to see if she is truly COMPATIBLE
with you on the most important levels.

Yes, physical attraction IS key, but so is
personality, and the more wise you become,
and the more you develop yourself in the ways
I teach, the more you can spot the RIGHT women,
and the more easily you can avoid the WRONG
women.

Anyway, my point is that if you are looking for
a quality woman for a great relationship without
HEAD-GAMES and endless conflict and endless
negative drama and chaos,  then giving off vibes
of CALM, and actually BEING CALM become
SUPER IMPORTANT. 

In general, this calm vibe tends to push AWAY the
women who will bring MISERY and DRAMA
into your life and will ATTRACT the kind of
women who will increase the genuine joy and
PEACE in your life.

A woman who is great for a long-term
relationship is investing a MASSIVE
amount of emotion and time if she
decides to pursue a life with you,
so there is a LOT at stake not
just for you, but for her as well.

She needs to know that with you,
no matter how crazy life gets, that
she can depend on you to be her
ROCK. That you will be calm, strong,
and steadfast in the storms of life.

CALM.

ACHIEVING this goal, and being able
to convey this in SECONDS to a woman
you just met, takes some insight into
psychology, culture, and evolution.

And not the “dime store psychology” or
“pseudo-science” or other gimmicks that
unfortunately are so prevalent in our society.

Please allow me to make one thing clear:
I never started out with the goal of TEACHING
any of the things I learned about getting a
quality woman who would be a fantastic
girlfriend.

I honestly did it all because I needed to
learn all this for MYSELF.

One of the most DISASTROUS steps I took
on my path to learning how to attract a truly
quality woman was that I tried to learn from
the “pick up artist” community.

I had to spend YEARS actually UNLEARNING
all the things they taught me, because those
things actually REPELLED the very BEST
kinds of women.

Those things ATTRACTED the women of CHAOS, and
REPELLED the women of SERENITY, ORDER, AND PEACE. 

In case you don’t know about the pick up
artist community, there is a book called
“The Game” that really captures the overall
spirit of the “seduction community” as it was
and in many circles still is.

In the book, it’s clear that the main strategies
for getting a woman involved just about
anything BESIDES being ethical, honest and
up-front, and it's also clear that it largely
revolves around getting women into bed as QUICKLY
as possible.  Women that aren't willing to
get into bed quickly are labelled as  having
"psychological issues".     

Regarding unethical strategies, is the
strategy of attacking a woman's self-esteem
in subtle ways so that she feels LESS about
herself and now supposedly she will feel the
guy has more value than her. These ‘experts’
vow that the solution to attracting a ‘hard to get’
woman is to ‘slam’ her self-esteem.

So this involves the use of thinly veiled
insults, the “nice” name for this is
“backhanded compliments” but really
it’s just an insult. i.e. Telling a woman
she looks just like some celebrity named
x.y, or z, but the thing is that the named
celebrity is clearly NOT the most attractive.

Now, as you may know from my programs,
since day ONE I have been against these
kinds of things for about a MILLION
reasons, including the fact that this kind
of strategy not only is not NECESSARY
but in fact will BACKFIRE because it
makes a man think lower of himself,
because it reinforces in a man the feeling
that he does NOT have the value to get the
woman so he must resort to these kinds of
sleazy tactics.

And when your “INNER GAME” i.e.
the way you feel about yourself, is this
weak, it always ends up showing in tiny
little subtleties through your tonality,
expression, body language, etc. So a
woman ends up detecting a weak inner
game, and the more a guy uses these
self-esteem destroying strategies, the more a guy
will weaken his inner game.

It ALSO backfires because a woman who
is truly the total package is both emotionally
strong enough, plus intelligent enough to
not only sense that this guy has a weak
inner game, but she will ALSO detect that
this guy is DOING THIS nasty stuff to
her INTENTIONALLY, that he is knowingly
trying to lower her self-esteem!!!!

So she will REJECT the guy before he can
even finish his attack on her self-esteem.

But, a woman who is unfortunately plagued
by the CHAOS mind-set may very well BE
attracted to such a guy, because she
IS SO INSECURE that this tactic DOES
work on her.

And THAT is truly sad, and it is truly the wrong thing to do, especially to a woman who already is so plagued with issues. 

But, I can see how many men are confused.
It's HARD to know, if you haven't spent
years learning this stuff, that NOT ALL
WOMEN ARE THE SAME, especially if you have
been hanging out in the SAME WRONG PLACES
all the time to meet women, so you keep
on meeting the same types of women from the
same pools of women.

It's easy to start to think that all women are the same, that all women are nasty, that all women are liars, etc.  And the truth is, we are living in a crazy society that confuses a lot of women, because women are told contradictory messages by our insane society:

Women are told that they should be kissing other women and how fun and hilarious that is thanks to Katy Perry, Madonna, and Miley Cyrus, (who have talent in varying degrees but sometimes abuse their power and talent ).

Then, on the other hand, women are told they should be loyal to one man.

Then are also told to be good mothers, but then they are told they should be career women.  They are told they should be "liberated" and promiscuous, but then they are told they should view sex as sacred, and to be faithful and loving, etc.

Tons of contradictory messages. 

So trust me, I realize how hard it is to
be a MAN in a world where men these days
are given a very hard time by a lot of
politically correct B.S. when they just
want to meet women!

At the same time, it is ABSOLUTELY VITAL to realize there are DIFFERENT TYPES OF WOMEN, there are still women out there who are NOT ATTRACTED TO THE CHAOS, women who DO want PEACE, women who are loyal and faithful.

Since I’ve been teaching my programs,
the entire FIELD of “dating strategies”
and “pick up artists” has been MASSIVELY
IMPACTED by what I teach.

These days, the pick up artists are using a lot less of the strategy of attacking a woman's self-esteem as a method of attracting her. 

These days, there is suddenly a lot more talk
about getting a “quality girlfriend”.

Now, I am going to venture forth here
and say it, because obviously none of
these guys will, that it was ME who
brought dating strategies for getting
a great girl into the MODERN AGE
and out of the STONE AGE of pick
up artist advice that they themselves
agree was just about ALL WRONG
before!

So what I’m saying is, I have ALWAYS
been about getting a QUALITY woman.

I have NEVER been about gimmicks.

In fact, when you finish my programs,
you actually can be very UPFRONT
AND HONEST with women, because
you have become such a strong person
that you convey to her all the right things
from your tonality, expression, warmth,
and inner strength so that EVERYTHING
you do with her becomes attractive.

There are no gimmicks to use, because it's
YOU who has now become attractive,
not some "gimmick" to use on her.
I have ALWAYS been against GIMMICKS
and immature trends that come and go.

I could have easily jumped on the bandwagon
of trends if all I cared about was money.

I could have easily been a part of the
book “The Game” as I was actually
contacted about it, but I wanted nothing
to do with it then, even when the pick
up artist industry was at its ZENITH of
popularity.

That should give you an idea of just how
important the TRUTH is to me, and how
important it is to me to give you TRUTH
on how to get a quality woman.

My concepts have literally changed the
entire FIELD of dating.

To me, getting a great girl who is the total
package isn’t just “nice”.

It’s the ULTIMATE.

It’s what I have DEVOTED myself to teaching since day ONE. And I do this because I know just how IMPORTANT it is to have a quality woman at your side, and how this improves your entire LIFE.

A great woman isn’t looking to see if
you are a look-a-like of George Clooney,
Brad Pitt, or any of the guys from
“Twilight”. And she isn’t looking for
GOLD or money from you either.

She’s looking to see if you have the
INNER strength.

The bottom line is this:

If you're interested in getting dates with
typical women, that's fine. It's not my
preference, but I don't judge others.

But if you're looking for the kind of
woman that ADDS to your life, doesn't
give you "drama", and makes life a
DREAM, then you need an EDGE over
other guys, you need the kind of
training from someone who SPECIALIZES
in getting the kinds of women who would
truly make for GREAT girlfriends.

One of the crazy things about attracting a woman
is that you probably already KNOW in your gut
what IS attractive- for examples, things like
CONFIDENCE, things like being more SEXUAL,
and things like being INTERESTING in general.

The REAL question is, how do you SHOW these
things to a woman? Sometimes a guy CAN be
confident in many OTHER areas of his life, but
not feel confident in approaching a woman who
is a total stranger. Sometimes a guy can be an
interesting person, but when he’s talking to
a woman, he doesn’t know how to show it.

And, how do you show more SEXUALITY to a
woman who is a total stranger???

So let me get into answering ALL this right
here, right now. Please keep in mind that I
swear to it that everything I write here is
based on REAL INTERACTIONS WITH
WOMEN FROM YEARS OF BOOTCAMPS
WITH CLIENTS AND MY OWN
EXPERIENCES AS WELL.

In other words, this is not just made up or
something I came up with off the top of
my head, it’s all based in REALITY, and
you can apply it all IMMEDIATELY and
see for yourself how quickly it works.

First off, I totally understand that most
guys are NOT Bill Gates, not models, and
not necessarily living an “Indiana Jones”
lifestyle.

And guess what? THAT’S NOT A PROBLEM.
Because the TRUTH is that, WHEREVER you
are in life, whatever your situation is, you can
STILL apply everything I’m talking about to
demonstrate all the cool things about yourself.

Let me give you an example: Let’s say you
have a really CRAPPY job, okay?

And you’re at that part of the conversation
where she’s talking about her stressful job or
whatever, and you know that if you don’t mention
what you do, it’s going to sound like you’re hiding
something.

The reality is, you’re FAR BETTER OFF
literally telling a woman “my job is crap”
than trying to DISGUISE it in any way.

I mean LITERALLY telling her those words.

The key though, is to say those words without
trying to be CUTE when you say it.

If you say it trying to be “cute” or smiling,
it almost seems as if you’re smiling out of
HOPE that she will “forgive” it.

But if you are totally OWNING it, and not
seeking to try to get her FORGIVENESS
for it, it makes a FREAKING HUMONGOUS
DIFFERENCE.

You can even be a bit PISSED OFF in your
tonality about the crappy job.

The reasons for all this are subconscious:

By NOT hiding it, you show the following
things, and I’ll explain why:

1. INTEGRITY

Most guys will sacrifice truth and anything else
if they think it will get them ahead, but here you
are clearly showing you are not affected by what
other people think, including HER.

You show that you stick to your principles.

2. CONFIDENCE

You are also demonstrating confidence because
you clearly think that you STILL have a chance
with this girl ANYWAY otherwise why would
you be talking to her, especially in this non-apologetic
and non-deceptive way?????

The other thing is that by OWNING up to your
reality, and not DENYING it, you are far more
likely to be the kind of guy who is going to
MAKE THE CHANGES IN HIS LIFE TO
IMPROVE HIS SITUATION.

So in a way you’re also showing AMBITION.
If you’re not SATISFIED with where you
are, and you want to move UP in the world.

And when a man of confidence puts his mind
to work and his body into action, he can achieve
a HECK of a lot, and he won’t be down in the
gutter for long.

Now, if you have INTEGRITY and you also
have CONFIDENCE, she realizes that you
probably ALSO have integrity in your other
connections with people, including relationships.

This translates into SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE
AND POWER WITH PEOPLE.

She also subconsciously realizes that if you
can handle THIS kind of awkward uncomfortable
situation, you can probably also handle the part
about you LEADING the interaction smoothly
to the SEXUAL with her.

After all, you don’t seem to be bogged down
by the OTHER things that most guys would be
bogged down by psychologically.

So that’s just ONE example of how you can
convey confidence as well as many other
attractive traits, even if your situation isn’t
that GREAT, and you might have previously
THOUGHT you don’t have anything to be
confident ABOUT.

And you can use this same principle to show
confidence in ANY situation where you think
you are LACKING or not doing so great compared
to other people.

In fact, that “lack” is your opportunity to show
that you WILL NOT BE CRUSHED by it,
that you will not lose integrity by it, and that
you will not lose confidence by it.

Remember, MOST of the guys she is going
to meet are going to do the OPPOSITE of
this, including even guys who you might think
on the surface HAVE SO MUCH GOING
FOR THEM!!

Yup, the vast majority of guys ALL end up
QUALIFYING themselves to a woman they
are attracted to. The guys, out of a desire to
impress the woman, quickly end up telling
her about their fancy job, their car, their
fancy trip, etc, etc, etc.

And the irony of all this is that this “impressive”
stuff, by being used as a crutch, shows INSECURITY
to a woman and is REPULSIVE.

So, now it’s almost as if the guy would be
better off NOT having the fancy stuff, since
he ends up just using it to convey insecurity.

A woman figures that such a guy actually
thinks that he should be with her because
of his CAR or JOB, and that’s not only
uncool, it’s the trademark of a real a-hole,
and trust me, THAT’S NOT the cool kind
of “jerk” at all.

So you can ALWAYS be showing confidence,
NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS.

CONVEYING SEXUALITY

How about something like sexuality?

Well, here too, you can ALWAYS be more
sexual with a woman, it doesn’t have to JUST
be at a nightclub, where it’s easy to do this
because the women are there to meet guys.

I prefer to meet women in places OTHER than nightclubs, simply because the most attractive women at nightclubs definitely DON’T need to go there to meet guys, so if they are there, chances are they feed off of the attention are not the kinds of women who would make for great long-term girlfriend.

Of course, there ARE great girls at nightclubs, but FINDING them is like finding a needle in a haystack, and the noise makes it hard to truly dig deeper into conversation to determine character. 

However, all women need to do the everyday
things like shopping, grocery shopping, going
to the bank, etc, and so these “regular” places
are far better for actually meeting women with
more “long term girlfriend” potential.

How can you show more sexuality with a woman you happen to see at the coffee shop or supermarket?

Simple: Through using TOUCH AND TONALITY.

Words have been around for only a smidgeon
of human evolution, while TOUCH has been
around since the very first days that
man and woman have walked the Earth.

Human communication has been using
TOUCH since day one.

And it’s STILL AROUND, we just tend to
REPRESS this primal force. (Another primal
chord is triggered through MUSIC, which
is another element you can incorporate later,
when lovemaking is in the air :) )........

So, stop worrying about being called a pervert and
look for PLAYFUL ways to make HUMAN CONTACT.

And I’m talking FAST.

The reality is that women are FAR more
comfortable with this than you think.

When I was in university the first time, I
got BRAINWASHED by all these political
science courses including on feminism, where
I was taught how just about EVERYTHING
was a form of male harassment against women.

So I did everything I could when interacting
with women to NOT touch them, and to
NOT show dominance, and to just wait
for THEM to take all the action and to
get sexual.

Of course, that all led to ZERO results with women.

Then, I finally found out the TRUTH of
what was going on, on campus, and how
RAMPANT the sexuality was, and how
there were TWO realities, the one that
existed in the lecture hall, to which of
course NO ONE WOULD ARGUE lest
they be labeled EVIL CAVE-MEN, and
then there was the reality of what ACTUALLY
HAPPENED on a regular basis within just
METERS of these lectures halls, things that
would make Sodom and Gomorrah BLUSH.

That made me FAR MORE COMFORTABLE
not only getting more “physical” with women,
but also being more PLAYFUL in general
with women, because I realized that women
were MOSTLY NOT like the stereotype
portrayed in my political science course
descriptions, in reality women LOVED TO
BE PLAYFUL AND ENJOYED GETTING
PHYSICAL, probably even MORE SO than men.

Have FUN with women, from the moment
you first see a woman you’d like to talk to.

Forget being serious, instead LIVE IT UP
and take “chances” with your sense of humor,
it’s BETTER than being too serious, FOR SURE.

It’s GOOD for a woman to think you
really want to get PHYSICAL with her
and that you have NO SHAME about it,
and that you LOVE the idea of physical
and you love having fun with women-
it’s just that socially, you can’t literally
SAY THIS as you’re first words to her,
but you CAN and SHOULD CONVEY
it through your MANNERISMS!

If you’re not having a good time doing this
with women, you’re doing it wrong.

I used to do it all WRONG, I was so pissed
off inside, that it was all coming from a
place of ANGER.  An anger that stemmed
from feeling that somehow, things should
not be this way.

I was pissed off that my preconceived notions
of how things ARE was totally OFF! I was
upset that things were NOT the way I had
previously thought they were my whole
life, as this meant I had to change my
very PICTURE of reality!

My old beliefs were that women wanted and
appreciated a really SERIOUS approach to
dating, sexuality, and relationships.

This does NOT mean that women think relationships
are a JOKE, it just means that you can't START out
with a woman if you are operating on a very serious
level, as that overly serious vibe DESTROYS the
sexual, flirty VIBES that are so important for
sparking SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

In fact, being playful actually delivers the message
that you are MORE of A MAN who is "the rock",
than a man who seems all serious right away when
talking to her, because that "SERIOUSNESS" is
interpreted by her as NEEDINESS or some other
negative issue, which is understandable once you
adopt the frame of ABUNDANCE and the perspective
of having many CHOICES of who to date---just like
these attractive women do! :)

Playfulness shows STRENGTH, that you find all
this stuff so easy, that it's FUN.

So, once I finally ACCEPTED the way things
really ARE, I came to peace with it, and
THAT'S when I could stop PRETENDING
to be playful and actually BE playful.

And the reality is, that this is healthier way
to go about the whole dating process anyway!!!

It allows you to enjoy the process, and to NOT
fall into the needy and insecure zone, which
is where all the problems start, both in terms
of destroying attraction and also in terms of
destroying your own confidence.

You are as you think and do, so if you switch
the way you think, and if you take the ACTIONS
of a secure, playful, flirty person, you BECOME
that incredible man who really IS her "rock".

And when I say a “good time” I don’t mean
to act “cutesy” with women – a lot of times
“cutesy” is this kind of toothy smile that
is really a form of seeking rapport.

Instead, your “having a good time” while
interacting and approaching women should
be coming from a place of STRENGTH
internally, the best example I can think of
that resembles the REAL LIFE way of
doing it, is “Captain Kirk”, it’s a pretty
accurate of what I mean by playful
but strong and not needing a woman’s
approval, while still liking her nonetheless.

So let me tell you, you should go for playful
hugs, high-fives, taps on the shoulder, etc,
and if a woman has a problem with this, you
are NOT harming your chances, you are only
finding out that she is a waste of your time.

Now, you should ALSO be conveying
sexuality, by speaking to a woman in
the same kind of tonality that you would
have right after making passionate love
to a woman. Your voice would be calm,
comfortable, no more pretenses of
sounding like CLARK KENT instead
of the real SUPERMAN inside of you.

There’s also nothing wrong with a dirty
joke or two if they are actually FUNNY
and not GROSS. This helps establish
the right mentality that this is a male
female interaction and not just some
cerebral conversation between two men.

Here’s ANOTHER important strategy:

GET HER TALKING ABOUT HERSELF

Most guys are so caught up in trying to
impress a woman, that this very act of
trying to impress ends up causing the
OPPOSITE and repels her.

Instead, what I do and have clients do is
to focus on learning more about HER.

After a playful comment or two to get the
conversation started, I get into wanting to
know what HER STORY IS.

In fact, I might even say these actual words:

“What’s YOUR Story?”

This has TONS of benefits for you:

It shows her that you aren’t all arrogant
and don’t need to talk all about YOURSELF.

It allows her a chance to actually BOND with
you by talking to you about herself.

It teaches you more about her, so that you can
have the right things to say to her that are
actually RELEVANT.

It’s easier anyway, because instead of having
to be this big talker, you can chill out and
listen.

The less you talk, the more cool you seem, as you might remember from my discussions on how less is more, and on how using less is the sign of a true master. A true master uses only what is required for each situation, and never more.

PLUS, after she has spoken to you about herself,
SHE HERSELF will ask you about yourself, so
NOW when you talk to her, even about yourself,
you will NOT seem like you are qualifying
yourself!!!! You really WILL impress her.

As you can see, without me being arrogant,
the reality is I know what the heck I’m
talking about.

And what you’ve just read is the TIP of the
ICEBERG of TONS of EASY-TO-APPLY
strategies for ATTRACTING A WOMAN
the moment you see her, all without being
hurtful or manipulative.

In my 'WARRIOR WITHIN' program, I show you
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from the MOMENT you SEE a woman anywhere,
including “normal” places like a supermarket or mall,
all the way to getting her back to your place, with her
eagerly anticipating getting physical with you.

And this is not just about how to get
some kind of promiscuous woman- NOPE,
I’m talking about the kind of woman
that is the full package, which means
that I also show you how to make a
powerful CONNECTION with her
as WELL as igniting sexual attraction
in her.

Here is just SOME of what you’ll learn
in this incredible program:

*The BEST ways of approaching women in
“regular” places like supermarkets.

*The FULL PICTURE on how to “OWN” any
“undesirable” part of your reality and transform
it into an ATTRACTIVE part of your identity.

*TEN powerful ways to SIMULTANEOUSLY
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This will ACCELERATE your results, which
is crucial especially in those situations where
you don’t have much TIME to speak to a woman!

*Powerful ways to increase the EROTIC nature
of your interaction with a woman so that you
can SMOOTHLY escalate to getting PHYSICAL later.

There’s nothing worse than having a series
of dates with a woman where NOTHING
physical happened, as this makes it even
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*I’ll show you the best ways to get a woman
talking about herself so that you can learn the
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*How to come across as far more INTERESTING,
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will hardly have to even SPEAK at all!

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any environment you meet a woman in,
to make her feel as if you two have known
each other a long time.

*And of course, as the name of the program
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strategies and tools for SKYROCKETING your
"Inner Game", so that your NATURAL confidence
with women rises to INFINITELY high levels.

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careful about who they date, can ALWAYS tell
if a guy is just FAKING confidence, or if he is
THE REAL DEAL- and this program will show
you how to BECOME the kind of man who can
be her "rock" for REAL.

*And much, MUCH more!

I can promise you one thing: These strategies
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I wish I knew the things that I now teach,
long ago. I could have been enjoying life
rather than being in misery and being
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I look forward to hearing your success story.

Till next time,

Michael Marks

What Most Men Don't Know About Attracting Women

There are a TON of super-important ALERTS
that I need to let you know about when it comes
to attracting women and also when it comes to
making the most of your life as a man.

It’s been a while, because I’ve been really busy,
and rather than giving advice, I’ve been busy
following my own advice and practicing what
I preach. 

So here we go.  The following points are ALL
equally vital, and are in no particular order:

ONE: THE TRUTH ABOUT INSECURITY

One of the greatest misunderstandings that men
have when it comes to attracting women is regarding
their ideas of confidence, and why confident men
attract women.

So let me focus on one of the big reasons that tends to
NEVER get publicity, but is in reality probably the
BIGGEST reason why confidence is important.

Insecurity is destructive because it actually makes a
guy come across as THREATENING.

In the same way a dog sniffs fear and starts BARKING,
so too human beings can sense (not with their noses,
but with all the other human senses, including the
ability to observe body language including tonality)
fear in others.

When someone around us is feeling NEGATIVE, it
makes the people around that person feel UNEASY,
and feel THREATENED.

Now, considering that a woman ALREADY is somewhat
cautious before allowing a man who is a TOTAL STRANGER
into her life, it sure doesn’t help when this total stranger is
DOING THINGS that make the woman actually FEEL MORE
UNEASY AND FEEL THREATENED.

So many guys think that they come across as a “nice guy”
and come across as “weak” if they don’t show confidence,
but the irony is that they may not EVEN being coming
across as “weak” or “nice” but rather as DOWNRIGHT
CREEPY.

And what hurts me most is that I know how some of the
NICEST and BEST guys end up doing this, giving off
the very OPPOSITE message of who they are, and thereby
letting the JERKS win with women, the jerks who don’t
SEEM like jerks initially to the untrained eye!!!!!!!!

Remember, my specialty is meeting women in completely
NORMAL places that are not associated with “pick-up”.
I like these kinds of places because the attractive women in
night clubs and other pick-up joints tend to not make for
good long-term girlfriends, as they are usually just seeking
adventure and partying and novelty, and not the long term
building of a relationship.

So, in these NORMAL places, such as bookstores, coffee shops,
supermarkets, and just about anywhere else that is not specially
designed for “picking up”, it REALLY COMES ACROSS AS
DESTRUCTIVE if you are not exuding confidence.

You don’t have to be a millionaire. You don’t have to be
male model. But when you approach a woman who is
in a regular place that is not a nightclub or some other
pick-up joint, it becomes VERY IMPORTANT that you
give off the right VIBE that says you are VERY CALM
and VERY RELAXED and NOT NEEDY FOR IMMEDIATE
SEX AT ALL.

It is of PARAMOUNT importance to understand a woman’s
perspective about all this “pick up” stuff.

There was a study done on a university campus where one
average looking young  woman (not super attractive, not ugly,
not dressed with revealing clothing, just dressed normal)
approached about 100 men, propositioning them for instant
sex right then and there in a room not far away on campus.

The VAST MAJORITY of the men ALL SAID YES.
In fact, the one man who said no, APOLOGIZED, saying
he was married, and one other man wanted to do it, but
he wanted to request it for later.

That’s the basic sum total of the study.

They then reversed the study, where a man on campus
went up to about 100 women, propositioning them for
sex on campus right then, right on campus in a room
not far away. 

And guess what?
NOT ONE WOMAN GAVE HIM A YES.

From alllllllll those women, he got ONE phone number.
That’s it.

This should go to PROVE to you that women and men
do NOT react the same to a proposition that CLEARLY
entails an immediate physical intimate element as part
of it.

In fact, to go even FURTHER, they REPEATED the study
with the man propositioning the women.  They thought
that maybe the man was “not good looking enough”, so
they went and got some “good looking guy” to do the
SAME experiment, and even THEN, STILL, the vast
majority of the women STILL rejected the guy!!!!!!

So, I am NOT saying that having GOOD LOOKS DOESN'T HELP.
GOOD LOOKS DO HELP, but they are FAR from the whole
picture when it comes to attracting women.

And, as indicated above, even a guy with MODEL
level looks STILL can't get a woman to sleep
with him if he point blank proposes such a
thing to a woman!

IT'S JUST NOT THE SAME THING FOR MEN AND WOMEN.

So let me save you from having to spend ten years
reading all the studies.  When a man sees a woman who
is HOT, that is ALL HE NEEDS TO KNOW to already
go into SUPER-PURSUIT mode on a genetic level.

I’m not saying he wants to MARRY her, but he is already
going FULL BLAST in terms of desire.

On the other hand, when it comes to what a WOMAN
thinks when a man approaches her, it actually is FAR
more complicated.  What a man who wants to succeed
with her should convey are the following things:

ONE. Convey SAFETY. 

This is one of the reasons I suggest that you do NOT
start the conversation with too much flirtation at all.

I prefer giving a voice that is DEAD SERIOUS.

Remember, a woman has been told since the day she
was born that men are not to be trusted, that men
only want to get physical, that men are the evil
of this earth.

Soooo, rather than playing it up all happy and fun,
in a place that is NOT A PARTY ZONE, (e.g.
that is NOT  a club or disco or popular social
hangout) you actually show that you are NOT
pushing for something that is not being offered.

You therefore ALLOW for her to NOT be perceived
as “cheap” or “low morals” or “low class” if she
talks to you, since OBVIOUSLY from your tonality
you are NOT flirting.

Getting too fast into the flirting actually triggers
her alarms.

This DEAD SERIOUS tonality for the first opening
part of the conversation also does something ELSE
very positive:

TWO: IT SHOWS STATUS

Now, it IS true that SOME women are far, FARRR
LESS into status than other women are.

Often,  the women who are LESS into a man's "status" are
MORE into having raw carnal pleasure with him, but
this is not always the case.  So, yes, it is true, there
are some women who don't care that much about
a man's STATUS.

But all women care about it to at least a SMALL degree.
And when you are starting with a woman who is a total
stranger, you want every honest advantage you can get.

Whether it’s being captain of the football team or
head of the music club, or even just manager
of the store, women LIKE men with status.

Women don’t want to be with a guy who seems to
be on the BOTTOM of the totem pole.  It reeks
of laziness, lack of work ethic, lack of ambition,
lack of zest for life, etc.

In HER mind, if a guy is getting flirty too fast, it
SEEMS to be the actions of a guy who CAN’T GET
WOMEN EASILY so he must RESORT to desperately
hitting on women he finds ANYWHERE.

And THAT reeks of LOW STATUS.

So you DON’T want to go flirty too fast.
And this means not showing such happy vibes in your
voice at the beginning of the conversation, because
chances are, you wouldn’t be that happy talking
about whatever it is, from the produce in the supermarket,
to the magazines at the rack at the bookstore, etc, etc,
if she was NOT a really major knockout to you.

It is HER who is giving you that energy and making
you flirty, and yet you should NOT show it, as it
will come across as desperate and of low status and of
creepiness and possibly danger.

THREE: CREATE A SENSE OF FAMILIARITY

The truth is, we all feel better when there is
something FAMILIAR to the NEW.

Yes, we all like something new if it is good,
but we don’t want it to be so new that it is
something we can’t CONNECT to or relate
to at all.

We like new flavors of ice cream, but
PICKLED ONION ICE CREAM is a little
TOO unfamiliar.

This is where your conversation must create
CONNECTION so you and her can RELATE
to each other on at least some things with which
she is FAMILIAR to.

To achieve this, I prefer to do a bit of   Sherlock
Holmes style detective work on a woman.  I
will notice something she is reading, doing,
or wearing, that may reflect deeply on her
personality, and then I will ask her about that
thing.

If she is reading a book on military history,
I know she is going to be unlike most women,
and I can ask her about that and definitely have
a great conversation. 

If she is in line buying a protein powder, I know
I can talk about working out and how important
nutrition is, and the emotional high you experience 
from a great workout.

There are always TONS of things to speak about
if you train your mind to see them.

THEN, when she speaks and talks about something
that I’ve prompted her to speak about, she then
reveals MORE about herself, allowing me to have
MORE to connect with to her.

And I do not lie, I use things from my own experiences
that in fact DO connect to what she is saying, and so
should you.  If you can’t find ANY connection, then
let her go and try again on another woman.

You MUST connect.  This way, she can establish
you in her mind with something POSITIVE and
FAMILIAR.

I’ve even had fun with women in the cereal section of
the supermarket and pretended what it would be like
to be a kid again and yet have the power to get ANY
CEREAL YOU LIKED.  So this connects familiar
pleasant childhood fantasies with you in real life.

OR, you can take it up a notch to a more adult level
by making an adult innuendo, but do this only after
the conversation has been going smoothly for at
least a few minutes, so that you aren’t starting
out with flirtation.  So for example, if she says
she really craves a certain cereal, you can wink
and say once you get to know me, you may crave
other things…  Use your judgment, it all depends
how well things are going at that point if you are
going to go the adult route.

But once again, if you think for one second that
CONNECTION is not important, you are wrong.

CONNECTION is so important on ALL human
levels. In fact, there was a recent big budget movie
featuring ROBOTS called PACIFIC RIM.

Great effects. But it didn’t do big box office.
Then, for all the haters out there who say they
dislike TRANSFORMERS, which is also about
robots, the fact is TRANSFORMERS has made
BILLIONS of dollars.

The difference between the two stories, is that
the ROBOTS have PERSONALITIES in
Transformers. Whether it’s kids or adults or
whether it’s men trying to get women, if you
DON’T SHOW PERSONALITY, there is
NO FEELING FOR A WOMAN TO LATCH
ONTO.

There has to be an emotional CONNECTION.

It is almost EVERYTHING, especially for getting
the wheels ROLLING in the right direction at the
outset of a conversation with a woman who is a
total stranger.  

FOUR: CONVEYING IT WILL BE PLEASURABLE

This is a strange one, because it doesn’t follow
male logic at all.

For a man, if a woman is attractive, he isn’t worried
about if she is not going to be good in bed.

At least not in the beginning. He is focused on
GETTING to that point, and he’ll worry later
if she was no good in bed.

But women are not the same.  Women are actually
subconsciously THINKING about whether you will
be GOOD in BED completely separate from all the
other things she is subconsciously thinking about
regarding whether or not she is attracted.

What’s also interesting here is that for women,
what makes a man good in bed can depend on many
things, and what may have turned on one woman like
wild may not work at all to turn on another woman,
and in fact if a woman knows you used a certain
move on another woman, that in itself might turn
her off.

So the best things you can do to convey that you
are good in bed is at some point in the conversation
having a PLAYFUL attitude about sex, and also
making it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that you don’t
judge a woman on her freaky side. 

Don’t be afraid to work in some humor that incorporates
sex into the conversation, just don’t START the conversation
with it.

So, if at one point in the chat, the woman says to you,
“It’s late, I can’t believe I’ve spent so long talking
to you”, you might reply with, “Just imagine how long
things will go for when we aren’t talking”, said with
a mischievous grin.

Or you might say something like, “Yeah, foreplay can
sometimes go on and on, but sometimes you really have
to just get down to business”, again with a mischievous
smile, or you can even say “Yeah, well I was going to
just get your number, but I like to get to know a woman
first, know what I mean?”, which of course she will
appreciate.

Okay, so those are HUGE things on the actual pick-up.

There are a few more things I want to share with you,
about making the most of your life in general, which
of course also makes you a more attractive man to
women as well.

STRATEGIC PLANNING

You can achieve some MASSIVE things if you like. 
And all it requires is STRATEGIC PLANNING.

You don’t have to spend 12 hours a day on it to begin with.
NO ONE is able to start out spending 12 hours a day on the
thing they love.

But you CAN start spending a few MINUTES each day.
And these MINUTES are the DIFFERENCE between
those who stay MEDIOCRE and those who attain
AWESOME goals.

This is because the minutes gain MOMENTUM, in terms
of the quality of the improvements you make, which then
motivates you with the confidence, accomplishments, and
the fuel to spend MORE time each day on those goals.

NEVER underestimate the power of a few MINUTES a day.

This is true, by the way, when it comes to APPROACHING
women as well.

When I started off, it was just a few MINUTES in the morning
and at lunch.  I did this and had A BLAST of FUN approaching
women anywhere I saw them.  My heart felt like it was going
to EXPLODE from the pressure, but I LOOOOOVED doing it.

MEETING WOMEN IS THE MOST AWESOME THING.

And so too, ACHIEVING GREAT GOALS is an AWESOME
THING, AND YOU CAN START WITH JUST MINUTES A DAY.

Then, you can increase the amount of time as you start to
fall in love with your progress, you will suddenly find the
time and energy to spend MORE time on your goals without
sacrificing your job or anything like that.  You may even
IMPROVE at your job because of your sense of self-esteem
and because of what you are learning about your own
potential to perform.

SLEEP

I have to put this in here, because it’s so under-rated.
SLEEP is a big thing.

There’s very little money in sleep aside from selling beds
and sleeping pills, (which could be addictive and dangerous),
so you don’t hear about it a lot.

But the truth is, sleep is crucial for your mind and your body.
You are not getting further ahead by getting less sleep.

Go to bed early, and get up early.

There’s a great movie out there called Rush, a true story
about two race-car drivers, and the guy who keeps on winning
is the guy who is less showy, less flashy.  He talks about
winning the race, going home early to get to sleep and training
to win for the next race. He goes through enormous hell
and punishment in the movie, and his determination keeps
him sharp.

So forget about the late-night partying or late-night anything.

PHYSICAL WORK-OUTS

There is so much INSANITY spread on the internet
about this.

Keep it SIMPLE.

GET TO THE GYM.
Now before starting any new exercise or diet
program, consult with your doctor. So do that
first.

Okay, here we go:

Do 5 sets of 10 reps of the following exercises.
Start with a light weight for your first set, then
work your way up with more weight each set,
until you reach your fifth and heaviest set where
you could barely complete the final rep.

If any of these exercises bother your
back or joints, then you may use another
similar exercise as a replacement.

DAY ONE
Flat Bench Barbell Presses
Incline Dumbbell Presses
Dips (body weight)
Pec-Deck Machine

DAY TWO
Full Squats
Leg Curls

DAY THREE
Military Presses (Dumbbells)
Wide-Grip Chin-Ups
Bent-Over Rows
Shrugs
Lateral raises

DAY FOUR
Barbell Curls
Standing French Presses (Triceps)    
Leg raises and incline sit-ups
(Use body weight for leg raises
and incline sit-ups, 3 sets each
for as many reps as possible)

Every day, do cardiovascular activity as well.
That means, use one of the cardiovascular machines
like treadmills or cycles for at least 20 minutes.

After working out with weights for four days, take
one to two days off, and begin the cycle again.

DIET

You will need to eat at least 5 small meals a day.
Stick to lean protein for your proteins at every meal.
Lean chicken, turkey, egg whites, skim milk, lean cheeses.
Carbs such as whole grains, whole pastas, sweet potatoes,
plenty of salads, moderate on the fruits.

Get plenty of water, at least 8 glasses a day.
If you can afford organic, get organic, but also learn
about the politics of organics, as not all organics are
equal.   

And one last MASSIVE thing:  You hear plenty about how
too much sugar and fat is not a good thing, right?

But you barely EVER hear about how DESTRUCTIVE
too much SALT or sodium is. 

Most packaged foods are INSANELY high in salt.
A lot of places and products that like to
portray themselves as HEALTHY alternatives
because they have choices that are low in
fat are actually ENORMOUSLY HIGH in sodium.

In fact, just ONE SERVING of many processed foods
contains MORE SODIUM than any human being on earth
should consume in an entire DAY.

TOO MUCH SODIUM IS DANGEROUS.

Ask questions, read labels, and be selective.

Okay, so I’ve given you some MASSIVE pointers
in the right direction to get you STARTED on the
path to GREAT SUCCESS with women. 

If you would like to get all the details figured out
regarding ANYTHING mentioned in this newsletter, in
a way that is perfectly CUSTOMIZED for your
situation, then it makes sense that you should get
a PRIVATE CONSULTATION with me, either in person
or via a phone call or via email.

Private coaching allows me to apply all my years
of experience toward helping you in the most
EFFICIENT WAY.  I will find out what your
exact challenge is, and I will give you the
absolute best solution as well as how to go
about carrying out the solution.

To learn more about this service go here:
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I need to mention something else at this point.
The RIGHT WOMAN changes EVERYTHING in your life.

Stephen Hawking has written that he was at a
very low point in his life, when he started
to realize the extent of his physical condition
as a young man.  But meeting the right woman
actually CHANGED his entire outlook, and according
to his own words, GAVE HIM A REASON TO LIVE.

You don't have to even LIKE Stephen Hawking
to realize the effect that one good woman
can have on one man, and by extent, on
all of HUMANITY itself.

Man was MEANT to be with woman, but not with the
WRONG woman.

The wrong woman will DESTROY a man, but the RIGHT
WOMAN will set a man to LIFE, he will be EXPLODING
with energy and creativity and a sense of calm as well.

I have focused my mission to helping men get GREAT
women.  

I do this, in a world where there are so many LIES out
there.  In fact, the BIGGER the lie, sometimes the MORE
likely that lie is going to be BELIEVED.

Whether it’s how to get in shape, or how to get women,
there are going to be some OUTLANDISH theories
out there that sound absolutely ridiculous, but because
of the very RIDICULOUS nature of them, SOME
folks are going to assume that it MUST be true,
because, they think, “How can someone make up
a lie that is THAT outrageous???”

And the answer is because it WORKS to SUCK SOME
PEOPLE IN.

I also am not criticizing the victims of these schemes,
as I myself may have been a target of these schemers
at one time myself.

The world has a lot of sleazebags in it, and that includes
salespeople, it includes people in all professions and jobs,
and include a lot of men and a lot of women.

Most people are okay, but there are still a  LOT of
sleazebags with ZERO remorse for the lies and
pain they cause in giving advice that does not
help.

Some of these people who spread lies can't even be called
"sleazebags" because they do not even KNOW they are
spreading lies.

Some of these people actually BELIEVE in the lies they
are spreading, because they refuse to use a scientific
approach requiring EVIDENCE to assess the value or
lack of value of their advice.  

And while all this is going on, there are also SOME 
people out there who are AMAZINGLY helpful and
ethical as well.

I saw a study where people were told they were involved
in an experiment where everyone volunteered, and where
the people were supposed to hit a button that administered
an electric shock to a person in another room, a person
who was also a volunteer and who supposedly signed up
for this experiment.

The experiment was designed to see if people will stand
up to authority.  In reality, no electric shocks were
administered, but the participants did not know this.

When told by a person in charge, they were to turn a
knob that would give an electric shock to a person
in the other room.  

Most of the participants had no problem giving
ELECTRIC SHOCKS to others, EVEN when the people
in the other room could be heard SCREAMING from
the pain (the ones receiving the “shocks” were
actors pretending, but the people in the experiment
who were administering the “shocks” did NOT
know that in fact there was no electricity. The
people turning the knobs indeed believed that
they WERE giving a faceless stranger in another
room a series of electric shocks).

But there were SOME people who DID resist
AUTHORITY and REFUSED to administer
more “shocks” until they could see that the
person was okay in the other room.

So my point is this:

Just like there are differences amongst men, there
are also differences amongst women; SOME
women are made of better moral fiber than others.
You CAN detect a woman’s personality with the
skills I teach as well, which is something I get into
in my program called “Warrior Within”, which you
can check out by going HERE:

http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html

This special program also goes into a TON of other
absolutely VITAL insights for getting and
keeping a woman of incredible quality.
 
Finally, I want to make it clear that there are
SOME things that women find UNIVERSALLY
attractive among men: These things include being
the kind of man who is a GO GETTER, who gets
things done, who is not afraid to calmly put a woman
in her place if she gets out of hand no matter how
beautiful she is, and it includes a man who knows
how to make things FUN and sensual when it comes
down to that side of things in the bedroom.

Also, women universally are attracted to men who know
how to handle themselves in any social environment,
and with my programs, your social skills will skyrocket
in ALL environments with ALL people, and of course,
you will also learn the best ways to approach and attract
women no matter WHERE you find them.

Many of my programs are less than 20 bucks!!!!
That is INSANE.  If cost is an issue, then definitely
start with those programs; you are going to get
ten times your investment in terms of results
with women from ANY of the programs that you
purchase from me.

Check out ALL my programs now at:

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You will notice one thing about my programs,
though.  And that is there is NO "get rich
quick" scheme or "how to get women without
actually putting in any effort."

In REAL LIFE, there are no short cuts.
There is no "great body" in 3 minutes of
workout a day with eating pizza and fries
and drinking lots of beer, NO MATTER WHAT
THE BIG MARKETING LIARS TELL YOU.
 
However, staying in IGNORANCE can lead
to NO RESULTS, EVER.

What I will show you is the KNOW-HOW.
THE ULTIMATE IN REAL-WORLD RESULTS.

When you come to my trainings, you are
NOT coming to some playground to just
pretend you are doing something.
  
You are coming to face reality and put
in the work that needs to be done to
CHANGE your reality.

And for the ultimate in training, I offer you
PERSONAL LIVE COACHING ONE ON ONE,
in person, or via phone or email.

Get the life you want, with the woman you want, NOW.

www.GetAGreatGirl.com

Till next time,

Michael Marks

Should You Smile When You Approach Women?

One of the biggest things when it comes
to approaching women and SUCCEEDING at it,
is something that is incredibly simple:

It has a lot to do with your smile, or rather,
the LACK of it.

This is something that can destroy your chances
before you even get out of the gate, because it
shows before you even say a word, so it’s important
to get this right.

This topic is one of those subtle yet vital
areas that can only come from REAL experience
approaching women in public.  Before you can
even GET into attraction, you have to make
sure the woman is not FREAKED OUT with fear
or somehow thinking that there is something
"sketchy" going on.

Imagine approaching a woman at night on the
sidewalk when no one is around, and how
going in with an immediate "PICK UP" vibe
will just trigger all her "BEWARE OF DANGER"
ALARMS.
 
Now, what I’m about to explain is referring to
situations that are NOT a “party” or a dance club 
situation, or anything like that, where the mood
is ALREADY all “party and happy times” etc.

In other words, I’m speaking about 99% of
real life situations where you see a woman 
who is a total stranger.

The truth is, that most guys will be better off
NOT smiling when they start the conversation.

Keep this in mind, next time you’re about to
chat to a woman you want to meet who is
a total stranger.

The problem with smiling is NOT that you are
in a good mood, the problem is that:

1. Usually the smile is actually showing that you
feel she has higher worth than you do.  So it’s
a form of submission.

2. Also, the reality is that most women are conditioned
to NOT talk to strangers in non “socially-endorsed”
environments. 

In other words, if it’s not a club, or a party,
or some other situations where you are
both somehow all part of some “group”, it’s
quite typical for a lot of women to feel that
it’s not “normal”.

And the more the environment is NOT considered
"normal" for approaching women, the MORE
important it is to do the approach RIGHT,
with PROPER technique.

So when you are SMILING on top of all this, it
REALLY seems like it’s “not normal.”

After all, WHY are you smiling at her?

It must be because you LIKE her, right?

And so now you are trying to basically get
into FLIRT mode in a NON-SOCIAL environment.

So the gate comes SLAMMING DOWN on
the potential pickup.

SLAM! THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY SHUT.

You can’t get into FLIRT mode before FIRST
establishing that in fact you ARE an “exception”
to the societal rule of, “Don’t get social in 
non-social environments!”

Now, we can argue till the cows come home
that these societal “rules” are stupid, but in
the meantime, if you IGNORE these rules,
you end up having to only go for the extremely
wild  women who, on one hand may be cool in
the sense they don’t follow a lot of social rules,
but they usually ALSO tend to be DRAMA cases
without end. It’s all part of the chaos
that they love.

So, if you are trying to actually increase your
chances when it comes to meeting women,
start your interaction without smiling, and
in fact whatever you do talk about, start by
speaking about whatever it is that you decided
to speak about, with total CONVICTION, don’t
turn it into a big joke- not in the first SECOND.

Treat it all very MATTER OF FACT, make
the conversation very very NOT “PICK UPPY”.

This is the best way to actually get INTO a
conversation where she is genuinely LISTENING. 

Otherwise, you will often get shut down in
her mind (i.e. even if she is letting you talk to her,
she’s may just be being polite and waiting for the
moment to say: “Thanks and goodbye.”)

Now, ONCE she is ENGAGED in the conversation,
THEN, it’s a GREAT idea if you can UNLEASH
HUMOR.

THEN, it’s NO PROBLEM if you smile some,
IF that smile is coming from a place of
confidence and not from feeling “MAN,
THIS IS AMAZING, I CAN’T BELIEVE IT!”

If it’s such a big deal to you, then that would
be a sign of LACK of confidence, right?

At this point, I’d like to take this entire newsletter
here to a HIGHER level.

The MORE important thing than asking whether
to smile or not, to compliment or not, to do anything
or not with a woman, is the EMOTIONS behind your
actions.

The question to ask yourself is:
“Which EMOTION triggered my action?”

If it was a WEAK emotion, then it’s the
WRONG action.

But since most people find it EXTREMELY
HARD to change their emotions, and to
be coming from the right emotional place,
so it seems “easier” to just adopt the superficial
things, i.e. the most RECOGNIZABLE
EXPRESSIONS OF CONFIDENCE.

By doing this, you are more likely to be giving
off the right messages from your body language,
facial expression, etc.

But it’s really a band-aid solution.
You want the DEEPER stuff, because it will
give you even better results, and it’s also the
only way to actually KEEP a woman attracted.

If you’re just an act, it will be a short-lived attraction.

So let’s take a LOOK at the EMOTIONS
behind the right expressions on your face, the
emotions that are really behind the right body
language, etc.

Here are some of the emotions that should be present:
*Absolute CONFIDENCE that you have tons of value.
*The feeling of truly not NEEDING her.
*Feeling very COMFORTABLE chatting to her.
*Feeling DOMINANT.

Now, if you are really FEELING those things,
why on earth WOULD you be smiling?

After all, you don’t even KNOW her.
Why are you so KEEN on flirting with this
TOTAL STRANGER? 

It’s not even a party going on.

Now, unless YOU just won the lottery or
something, and you’re doing this with
everyone, it just doesn’t really make sense.
 
Once she is truly engaged in the conversation with
you, well now you are SOCIALIZING, and so it
makes SENSE to enjoy the social interaction if
at all possible.  So NOW it makes sense to unleash
the humor skills, to smile if something funny is
said, or if she does something good to you, or
something to earn your interest or attention.

And, on an even DEEPER level, as you get
to know her even BETTER, and as you go
onto the first date, and the second, and ultimately
into a relationship, there will be ALL KINDS
OF ACTIONS that you will have to make
decisions on- when to kiss her, when to escalate
physically, when to be more giving, when to
stand up and if required put her in her place,
when to truly lower your guard, when to
go ALL OUT and truly give her your precious
time and energy. 

And that’s just a partial list of actions and
decisions you’ll have to make.

In the meantime, if you do absolutely
NOTHING ELSE, then at least remember
to NOT smile in the BEGINNING of the
interaction, as long as you're not
in a club type "party" situation
or a situation where you're all
part of some group already.
(i.e. For example, even if you
are all students at the same
university, this in itself is
enough to make you part of
a group).  

And if you're reading this right now,
and would like to become a MASTER when
it comes to the dating and relationships
part of your life, I suggest you get my
program called WARRIOR WITHIN.

This program goes DEEP, and is ROCKET FUEL
for your success with women.

It's at:

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And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
"The Dating Wizard", then definitely do that
now at:

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Till next time,

Michael Marks

To find out about ALL my programs for
skyrocketing your success with women,
go here:

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